Why Do We Blame Victims of Sexual Violence? 

And you shouldn't regret it. You were right

@@shinchannohara2102 thank you 💞😊

@@diyasingh7365 wow so brave 🔥 What punishment those morons were given?

That's good, more power to you

@@sanchitachaudhary4196 don't let it slide next time, people tend to take us for granted, shove that in their face

This👏👏👏👏👏

So true🙌🙌🙌

speaking faxx sis !

I don't understand ppl who say it's nature of that's how men in nature behaves I would wanna be a bird next time except for roosters

@@cristinewithnoh840 me too!!

@@jonron3805 There are so many actually ...the recent case of Hathras ...read about it ..it was just unfair man ...so unfair ....at the end they destroyed all the evidences and said rape never happened they even killed that girl ..I believe they killed her and then burned her body without her family's consent and any rituals...it was horrible but nothing happened to those rapists ...

@@jonron3805 I myself was assaulted by one of my male friend but I was the one ended up being blamed for everything ..I was only seventeen at that time and was so clueless and he was 21..they questioned my character and what not ..It was really hard for me to prove that I was molested by him ... till this day no one asks him anything but they have no hesitation when asking me about it ... It wasn't first time I was assaulted ..I was first assaulted when I was 9 years old my brother was there too and we were in temple and that guy just came to us and started asking some random questions and then just pulled me and kissed me in front of my brother who is younger than me ..we both were clueless and after that he again tried it many times but I just ran away from him ... And once I was in 9th grade. I was 13 at that time and one of my classmates came to my house when I was alone and tried to break the lock and broke so many things outside my house ...I called my mother and she asked our neighbours for help .. when this incident spreaded in school ..my teachers called me and scolded me for flirting and seducing him ...I cried whole day that day ...I was so ashamed to talk to anyone so I kept quiet ...no one asked that guy anything ..there are many more incidents which I can't write here ...

@@jonron3805 when we think about assault.. What generally comes to mind is brutally raped and killed. But sexual assault by definition an act in which one intentionally sexually touches another person without that person's consent, physically forces a person to engage in a sexual act against their will.' If we take the more un noticed instances like a male family member of a girl assaulting her and the girl reaches out to someone, i kid you not 9 out of 10 times people fail to believe the girl or think that she must have done something provocative. This is just one of the many instances.. If a women in assaulted in the workplace or catcalled in the streets and talks about it, she often gets blamed for dressing or behaving inappropriately. I hope i gave you a practical case where the assaulter was NOT shunned.

@@jonron3805 and yes people do condemn the assaulter and openly sympathize with the victim.. But mostly when its too late. Like the victim had been brutally murdered. Often these same people will go and defend assaulters they think are nice men who would never abuse anyone, and even worse blame the women who have been abused. This is just a result of rape culture which is unfortunately too rooted in our society that we fail to even notice its harms. So my point is you cannot go around pretending that victim blaming does not exist. It does and its problematic on so many levels.

@@iampigoinkoink5185 i am so sorry you had to go through all that. Ik u know this by now. But it aint ur fault. ❤

Its thought provoking....makes you question the kind of world you are living in??

@@esharoychoudhury4119 indeed

Why can't we say no one has right on anyone? Don't you think identification is the source of differentiation? "Its a humble question"

Truly

@@vishalpujar8632 It's because it's mostly men who are violating boundaries of women and other men.

Exactly .

I completely agree with you

Periodt! Rapists rape people not cloth and the society still victim blaming

@@abbasmalaika2880 exactly. Society needs to know better

ur absolutely right.👍

Well that’s a very very generic statement. Without some context it seems meaningless.

Yes instead of victim blaming, raise better sons who don't harass, violate consent

@Dr strange ठीक है डाक्टर जी। जैसी आपकी आज्ञा। 😬

go and open any meme page on instagram....it's filled with this comment "men will be men"....and they are proud of this.....

Which earth you're living on?

Queen always says the right thing👑 ❤

@@theswiftie6654 Yes they do❤

@@factshouse3690 kya 🤣😂.... matlab kuch bhi

Boys will be boys, girls will be women ~dua lipa

@@phenomenalphysics3548 👑

Oh just imagine Our parents gonna watch it People gonna watch it And LEARN I wish this happens someday

even in that case! at any moment does anyone (and especially some disgusting men) owe, or have rights on others bodys? our bodys are to anybody but ourselves!!! even if a woman is half or fully naked you don't have the right to sexualize her, no it's not normal to ask her for sex just because she is naked and if you can't see any woman without considering her as a sex object, then you are the problem, not her

zyada ni ho gaya didi?

@@rachatmokrani3248 oh come on. Did you actually say “even if a woman is half or fully naked you don’t have the right to sexualise her”? I can understand and fully support a statement like “even if a woman is half or fully naked you don’t have the right to rape her”. But if you are naked on the street then it’s is definitely going to draw attention and there will be sexualisation obviously. It’s just human nature. Men and women are attracted to each other. And it’s not like men can look at a naked woman and then decide whether to get attracted or not. It’s happens naturally at a subconscious level. The further action definitely can be and should be controlled. But the subconscious attraction simply cannot be controlled.

A women walking naked on street is like putting deer infront of hungry lion. Definitely it is going to attack it

@@sadiqahmed1648 Creatures who attack are not humans and they should be locked away.

@Red Carpet they used to since just a few years ago

@Red Carpet i don't think it was long ago when kabir singh was released and pati patni aur woh was released. bollywood movies make teens think stalking, saying 'i'll kill myself if you don't love me back' 'i'll harm myself for you' ' you need to do whatever i say' is ok when its not. the 'i'll break your seal' and constant jokes about women's body is disgusting, homophobic, trans-phobic and dehumanizing women jokes are not okay. and its teens who say these things and they think it makes them "cool"

@@shobharani8397 i am a student myself and I've heard alot of 'ill break your seal' comments ABOUT ME and all the other guys just laugh it off? They're just threatening to rape me nd it's a joke??? Even I told the teachers but they didn't do anything except slapping them but they continue to do it again and again. I stopped going to morning assemblies and be near guys because of how scared I felt.

@@shobharani8397 ^-^ I'm happy you found your comfort in them. I too decided to stand up for myself after I came to know about them. I always blamed myself since I was 5 for all the sexual harrasment and abuse I faced. I decided to stand up for myself and feel powerful because I have a voice which should be heard, as they said. My parents did not do anything when I told them. Whenever I see the harraser he gave a creepy smile, but after I felt worthy, I screamed at his face in public to make him embarrassed and it worked. he doesn't do that anymore. I still haven't recovered from what has happened to me for years and still happens but due to pandemic we don't even go out so I'm okay but now I know how to believe in myself I'd never blame me for what had happened. I've learned to accept myself, still on the path to love myself. let's all learn to accept ourself so it wouldn't be hard to stand up for yourself without wanting other people to do it for you ♡

@@shobharani8397 omg you're so sweet T^T borahae! i hope you're doing good too and you're comfortable. wanna be friends though? do you have insta?

@@Rahul-ho8dx Pehli baat, humlog (mai aur mere dost) unlog ko jaante tak nahi the. Aur agar koi hume roadside chhapri ki tarah Hi bolega ya wave karega, to wo *bilkul* galat hai. Aur shayad aap ye nahi padhe ki wo log comments bhi pass kar rhe the. So definitely their actions were not comfortable to us

@@Rahul-ho8dx you're a very cheap person how could u even defend such behaviour by saying that kya pata ussko kids psnd honge? Wtf Shameful

@Akansha Paul true

@Akansha Paul No. I'm not going to provide any sort of clarification to people like @Alone rider . I just hope nobody from his family has to face catcalling in the name of someone being *"Sweet or Friendly"*

@@Rahul-ho8dx shut up dude. Everyone is seeing your mentality

Your height is very good.

Tumhare parents toh khatarnak h

Every gender should be taught about it.

@@shinchannohara2102 girls are alrdy taught wearing skirts below knee length, wear covered clothes etc I remember when we were 14 we girls always wanted to do a different hairstyle other than 2 braids so we decided on school destival practice day we all of our section will do 1 single ponytail. We did that not only all the girls of my section got punished for trying ponytail but the ma'am said we are trying to attract guys with it. This MORAL POLICING is INTENSE yet Boys are not taught that EVE TEASING is NEITHER A FORM OF COURTSHIP NOR ITS SOMETHING EQUIVALENT TO COMPLIMENTS

@@mimis.5139 I didn't mean that every gender should be morally policed. What I meant that there should be awareness about this .

Don't be too fake ... In our school Bois' head were Banged to wall for even talking unnecessary absurd things to a gal

@@villain2617 if the things they said weren't problematic then your school was kinda abusive

I totally agree with you

Add one more point in our list, that women are also sexual beings. They also love sex as much as men i.e women should have a knowledge of sex education.Most of the Indian women even don't know what is clitoris is.

Add one more point 9) *The Guy must be handsome as* _Zayn Malik and Hrithik Roshan_ .... *Otherwise a female would never marry or even talk to him*

@@villain2617 or maybe he should have self respect (that is too have dignity in themselves and put forth their needs reather then giving their self respect to the girls they are chasing) and should have a equality mind that "We both are needed in this world and all the genders too, no gender is superior and no gender is inferior" and maybe should know what is toxic masculinity and what is them, and to be able to fight for him and in return he just needs just a lil bit of support from us(the women)

@@geetkahar nothing matters just the boi needs to be Handsome ... A woman always chooses a Handsome Abusive boi over A Decent Cooperative and Respectful Boi ... I see this everywhere ..... Those who smoke, drink, Stalk and cat call gals r always in relationship - notice this around you

Tf? Its defenetly not your fault! You should've spoken gurlll... Its quiet disturbing that your father said that 💔

@@jinhitofficial6881 well I am now a spoken person but at that time I wasn't that great to deal with such situations. I grew up in such circumstances where I grew up believing that if someone molest u then u should run away instead of fighting. Maybe it's not there internation because they grew up with mentality too. No one make them understand it's wrong from another person end not our fault.

@@stutikhanna987 💔Hope you're doing good now...

chappel kholke lagana tha dono ko hi

Indeed,we have evolved,but unfortunately in backward direction

Unfortunately the more world i see, and i hate to admit ...the more disappointed I get.

Exactly.

so true

It does matter in terms of putting you in danger. Yeah, he is committing the crime but the victims is being foolish too.

@@CaptainBones222 typical victim blaming. Most rapes are done by people the victim knows and trusts like a family member, friend, family friend, not strangers.

@@therealgrimreaper68 Most car crashes happen between sober drivers. Should we stop telling people not to drive drunk? The reason why most rapes happen between people that know eacy other is becuase people spend most of their time with people they know. Not because the people you know are more likely to rape you. It is still foolish to be out alone at night even if most rapes are not recorded in those situations. It is foolish to be out during a thunderstorm even if being struck by lightning is rare.

So many people are like this. There are many other sick mentalities. Like once I was talking to a stranger online on domestic violence. In the flow of words, when I asked him what is his thought on rape, he said, when men can't get sex legally, they try to have it by force. Then I asked what is this legal sex, he said a wife. If he marries a woman, it is perfectly fine to use her body according to his needs.

I agree man. The answer is to sexual assault isn't more sexual assault.

Disgusting. How could a person do that and feel No guilt or humanity whatsoever?

The answer is can girl rape a boy ?

@@mrtriyja7800 Respected sir, even boys do face sexual harassment. These lectures imp for them also..

@@sakshijadhav5554 Technically no . It's very rare . That's the difference between male and female. They r not equally vulnerable . Don't believe what bs PROSTITUTE MEDIA feeds you . About women power blah blah ....

@@mrtriyja7800 you really are living in the other dimension aren't you?

@@rashishree721 I just tell the harsh reality without flip flop . Point me where I am wrong . Maam

Yes I agree. Even news papers and channels cannot reveal the victims identity as ordered by the supreme court.

Yeah but there's still a big problem of revealing the alleged rapists face before judgement. I' don't know when that will be corrected

So ture

We will learn to defend ourselves, they must learn to respect everyone

First women should learn to respect men , love his soul not his money, he is a human being not a Bank , If she treat him as King then he will treat her as Queen ...it comes both the way

@@moMdaD-fm3ng what does that have to do with rape? 💀

@@sampriyasingh5600 so did I said anything related to rape? ☠️

I think this line is true.

@@surbhikumari870 how? any example

@@ToT109 In my society one girl was wearing shorts and there were two aunties who started talking about her they said that how shamelessly she is wearing shorts the ways they looked her made me her so uncomfortable there many examples.

Kuch galat nahi h uss statement me

sadly but this line is true .. :)

Ram tested sita to see if she was virgin. He made her walk on fire path to prove that after he saved her from raavan. Sita walked without getting a single scratch then killed her own self since her husband didnt trust her thats the story ive heard

but men ko bachane ki liye koi nhi hai. not a single law for men.

@@八ルシュ-z6v Ram did trust Sita it was the people of his kingdom that didn't trust Sita!! So Sita performed the Agni pariksha He never ever distrusted Sita. He just wanted to regain the respect society has given to Sita before. Its just to clear the doubts in the mind of people. It is clear that it was "Raj Dharma

@@八ルシュ-z6v your story you have heard is wrong agni pariksha was done to replace fake Sita with real one.

@@redpilled4872 Thats also true... government has not taken any action ya u are also right 👍

When I was sexually harassed, people told me I should have just enjoyed it because she was a woman.

@@Nimish204 this society is so messed ypu know it makes where a man is stereotyped has s hyper sexual creature where he should enjoy sex even when it's against his consent. 1.) if man gets raped by woman he supposed to enjoy. 2.) if woman gets raped by a Man then she attracted him he was unable to control. So in both cases society only blames the victim not the preparater not one who has invaded the personal space of someone.

Well said it’s all in the mentality

Let me help u Don't spread ur legs before commitment of marriage to any men Otherwise he will use u as biych . Don't complain it later

@@mrtriyja7800 That statement doesn't make ANY sense lmfaoo

@@legallyillegal2314 It makes sense only if u have that on the top .😂😂

@@mrtriyja7800 how high are you

@@demigodsunite185 probably on some good meth

Yeah, u r right It is the problem of whole india ... But what the f is BIMARU state ? ... According to NCRB report 2020 Bihar is much safer for Women than ur So called Most literate state Kerala ... What's point of Bimaru state? .... Harassing a girl is a cake walk in most part of India....

I know I have seen some harassment when I was a kid .... But haven't encountered one As a Grown -up 17 yrs old .... If a guy Harasses u, then u just need to initiate and stand against him rest will be managed by crowd .... Bhai Mere gali me ek ladke ko pakad ke mara tha ladki ke baap ne bahut log ekkatha ho haye the usko peetne ke liye.... Ladka lafua tha lekin peetayi khane ke baad kabhi nhi nzaar aya wo idhar

@@villain2617 Are you active on Twitter? Most of the crime videos of any sort come from these states. NCRB data of 2021 shows UP as a safest place for women. Big LOL. You can expect basic decency from the mass where people are more literate although individual behavior can't be predicted.

@@villain2617 Yeah a girl should take stand against harassment and rest would be managed by the crowd as you said, this happens. But many a times it is neglected/ignored or even people laugh on it. Sometimes victim couldn't raise voice bc they political goons.

Even if they do people arent willing to change except few 😵

The sad reality is that people DO.

You should really check out the interviews of some of the victims relatives. You'll get the idea.

It's pretty crazy if you're saying that even if the person is your bf or husband he cannot see you like that or touch you. like the touch part I get it if you don't wanna be touched say so but the looking part is pure bs who are they gonna look at sexually your friends. But if you say to the person that they should not even look. They should probably start looking for someone else who doesn't mind being looked at sexually which is the basis of any sexual relationship

@@JashanpreetSingh-mw5hr another person who don't understand consent. How many of you are there ?

@@demigodsunite185 how many people without brain like you God has sent to the earth first read my full comment and spew bs

@@JashanpreetSingh-mw5hr kid I'm an atheist...so stop playing your god logic with me lol.

@@demigodsunite185 I don't give a crap if you are an atheist(pretty crazy though you are using God's word in your name) or whatever I believe what I believe,the person who wrote this comment wrote everything right except the looking part why did you even marry someone or have a bf if you didn't want to be looked at. And uncle writing lol at the end of your comment won't make you funny trust me I've seen uncles like you try.

U Mean Burkha ?

Yes, your prime minister made it very clear.

Leave this country and settle down in another country. I will also do the same if mentality is not changed in Indian society.

@@Rahul-ho8dx count me in also!!

@@Rahul-ho8dx With attitude like that, you should feel blessed that India is not under Sharia Law.

You mean after Breakups?

Wait what? Is that sarcasm or are you serious?

True

The people involved in sex should be aware of the circumstances for which they are consenting to have sex

@@therealgrimreaper68 Who are you make this rule? Consent is unnatural. In primates, males don't take consent of females before sex.

you should tell your dad or brother. tell someone that can help you.

Sadly the truth.

But thappad ek hi hath se bajta hai bro .

U write this after finishing xxx ... Isn't it

How?

Because the reason why women are blamed for sexual violence doesn't make sense and the laws that used to back this up are even more senseless. Like if the woman is sexually active or drinks...she brings it upon herself? Are you even serious? What about kids and so many other people who get raped???? And as they said, it is mostly people we know....then??? It is still the victims fault? Like we aren't supposed to trust anyone also, we are supposed to live freely...then what are we supposed to do???

@@ronicadey3897 Ohh in that way! :) I agree!

This is just a feminazi cave. 😂 only karen females here. Do you expect equality from such a channel?

@@giornogiovanna4117 raid bois 😂

How the hell accused is guilty until proven innocent?? Ideal ka ulta🙃

The law might favour women, but it's always a misandrist judge who gives the final verdict against the victim.

@@kirtanavottery7446 not true .

Gender neutral laws are the need of the hour

@@carrey664 coz we believe in equality .

What? They don't have anything in their body it is just a normal body same as men. Normal human beings. They just don't wish to get raped.

Her story is the definition of hell

string ki video dekh kr aye ho na??? notty boi but understand that in every religion there are some texts which are bullshit and have to be edited out for the well being of the society as every book in this world is written by a human being only... sadhguru himself told once... Hindus arent as dumb as abrahamic religion people who make their whole life revolve around a book.... its actually true that in manusmriti and bhrihaspati smriti, there are some dumb things and outrageous things... its better if we accept the shortcomings of our ancients coz thats what they alwasy stood for rather than blind following and forced justification of texts