Why gender equality is not just about women | Caroline Strachan | TEDxFolkestone 

I liked it: “Women don’t just become mothers - people become parents” . Indeed, “dad confidence” and “dad guilt” also do exist.

This needs more views! She explains the problems of both sides and does without any bias. Absolutely love her speech!

Like it or not, she is spitting straight facts

Finally a person that knows what equality is. It’s being equal, not tipping the scales in the opposite direction

This makes so much sense. I look forward to seeing more discussion around addressing the needs of everyone in the workplace instead of being separated into different groups.

This issue is extremely important, since the reality of things is like that, the value of women and men are mutual, and in the workplace they are both of vital importance. We discuss this topic in class for this day

So important that this is on the agenda. I've seen the tension in action in some of my clients. and you're right; people become parents. Thought provoking and well delivered.

Lost for words Caroline. Dee and I watched this together and this definitely touched a raw nerve. You're raising so many important issues in this, equal parental leave is something I wish every company would consider. Kudos on an amazing, inspiring talk.

Brilliant talk Caroline and one that I hope will be shared widely by company founders, board members, HR directors, L&D consultants, etc and used as an opportunity to discuss the situation with everyone (men and women together) in their own business.

This talk touches on really important points of gender equality. It is crucial to say it out loud that as human beings we face the same struggles in life. But it is society that tells us how we should react and feel. As Caroline said there's no difference in women's and men's confidence, mum's and dad's guilt. As members of the society we should acknowledge the issue and move forward.

What a really fresh perspective on what could be a sensitive topic. I really enjoyed this talk. Thanks for sharing.

Probably my favorite video on the topic right now. Thank you Caroline (and TEDx)!

Love it, Caroline. Confidence, Childcare and Capability are essential for all of us. Your delivery is brilliant as ever. Thank you for taking the time to research and respect the importance of both men and women in our collective efforts toward gender equality.

I think it is very important that men and women have the same opportunities regardless of their different abilities and skills, it is difficult to achieve but it all depends on people changing their perspectives on the opposite gender

I agree when she talked about "women dont just become mothers but people become parents" and that she said the every society needs both points of view to have bigger progress Itz for my english class

Entertaining, thought provoking and amusing. Also love them shoes x

This is beautiful, thank you Caroline

Brilliant, impactful and timely talk... this is definitely something that should be discussed more!

Applaudable talk!

I think it has several points in favor, since it thinks in an equality way and that brings benefits for both mens and womens.

Amazing talk

Yes ! Exactly my view!

Great talk, excellent and thought provoking content, beautifully delivered :-)

An excellent talk!

This is what I needed. I needed someone to argue my point! I've been trying to tell the people that I know for so long and now I can show them this!

I love this speech is really eye opening

I Think that This is a great video because we can find several points, in conclusion a woman can find the same oportunities as a men they have their diferent abilities that makes them diferent and unique

this video was very informative, and gave me a difference perspective on how not only do women have to deal with gender inequality, but so do men. it all goes back to the way society has brain washed us on how we should all live our lives.

She is truly genius. Great personality.

This intrigues me and I appreciate it. I am a Auto Body Tech and everything in this talk is completely true. The women in the trades band wagon is seen as the easiest promotion gimmick and even I'm getting sick of it. Show off the skill, not the gender. Thank you for giving this Talk!

Women's don't just become Mother's, People become Parent's ....More powers to you Beautiful lady with a beautiful Heart and Mind🥰🥰

Glad to hear a balanced conversation!

To the point loved it

This is such a good video and another point to add would be that often times women do not get promoted to higher positions because people think that they will not be able to be 100% reliable because they are a mom but if both men and women got the same paid time leave then there would not be that big of a bias against "working moms" which as she said shouldn't be a term necessarily when working dads isn't a term.

There are two types of people in our world. People who are old fashioned and People with modern values. Some of the old fashion people pretend to be into gender equality because they want more than they already get. For example women who demand that the men be providers while not having to do anything for the man (because equality). Closet old fashioned people confuse the issue. Then you have people who think they are for equality but then still have some old fashioned values. Equality just means you do unto others as they do unto you. It is all about individuality rather then basing who someone is on gender.

The part I most agree with is the parental leave. It is discriminating against men, and yet it is reinforcing gender stereotypes. It is so ingrained into people's mind that the mother is the primary caretaker of the children that we forget that there are men who want to be present in their children's life and mothers who want to share child raising with their husbands and don't want to fully give up their careers. In some countries mothers are expected to do 99% of the work of raising children and the men are supposed to work so much they barely see their family. One of the first steps to give parents more freedom of choice regardless of their gender would be allowing the same amount of paid parental leave for both parents, and make some of this paid parental leave mandatory so that companies can't pressure men into not taking the parental leave they have the right to take.

Men and women are different. I don't know why some people struggle to understand that.

I agree, truly agree by all of the statements and how we should move on on this focused women gender equality but I think we do need to take in to point the many countries that struggle with just being a woman simply because of the religion of that country. But if we're only thinking about modern society life, yes I agree with everything.

It is of utmost importance what caroline mentions in this video, the point of view she has about male power in certain labor camps. But we must bear in mind that there are people, not simply men, who are better at some things that another person could not handle. Comment for English class

So, good! ❤

This is an amazing TedTalk...

#1 They aren't required to register for the draft... Why, if they're equal?

It is important to understand that the word "equal" is misused in the society in general. "Equal" does not mean "identical". Originally, "equality" meant that women should have the same legal rights than man has in the society, that is, women are equal in front of the law. These days people are so confused, they think that "equal" means "identical". These are two different words with two different meanings. Man and woman are not IDENTICAL and they should be EQUAL in front of law. Unfortunately, in modern society woman now have legal rights that men do not have, so equality in front of law does not take place in modern society. In the legal system men are now oppressed. Indeed, they are. Another important thing, men and woman ARE NOT enemies nor are they supposed to be enemies. They are supposed to fulfill each others lives and form families (I do not say to form a marriage, but to form a family, be careful there) and both are needed in order to rise healthy sane kids. This does not take place anymore in our society. A healthy society regenerates itself by giving birth to new babies, an unhealthy society stops breeding. So, who is doing this to us?

The perspective that certain tasks can only be done better by men and women only need to change. The mindset that women are week also need to change.

There's this social stigma that men are just confident in themselves and don't deal with that nagging self doubt because "oh men have it easy" let me just say, I am a man, and I recently bid on a job to move up in my company. Not even a big leap. It was literally to the next step, the first true full time position in the company ladder. And the entire 2 weeks it took for them to pick a person for that position. I was extremely stressed "oh I should have also put in for the afternoon shift because what if they don't pick me because they had one other person and then The afternoon shift gets a new hire to fill it." And "they won't pick me because I'm young and there's this female worker who probably also wants full time and is pretty good too" I was beyond stressed and nervous and not at all confident in whether or not I'd be picked. But feminists would have you believe that I was completely cool headed and knew I was getting that position because I am a man. I did get the position and even still I start to think every so often "did I get it because they wanted me? Or did I get it because I was the only in house bid on it?" And every day since I feel like I have to put in 200% because I am not confident. I'm probably fine but, I lack self confidence and am constantly stressing. Like this woman here said, confidence doesn't see gender.

I agree with with her specially when she said she went to go have dinner with his colleague when she said that every society needs the point of view of all genders so they could have a bigger progress. It's for my English class

This entire Ted talk could've just been the title and you could've ended it with a "thanks for coming to my Ted talk"

Being has a tendency to 'return' to clusters ='the nature of solidarity' -a desire for empathy -(Wave)-(yin) and also, Being has a tendency to 'exist' as individuals ='the nature of self-expension' -a desire for breed-(Particle)-(Yang) Likewise, humans have two elements. We must realize that we all have both left and right elements =Solidarity and Self reliance No one has only one element. so 'Sum' derived from 'two poles' , (thesis, antithesis, synthesis) To develop intellect and ethics by harmonizing the two, It is good to realize it and balance it properly But A few people polarized the crowd(political partisanship) without balancing themselves. And They stole only the sum, only the synthesis from the triangle composition. Now We all have to get out of this deceptive situation. This is not the time for us to hate each other. We have to track down those who have been manipulating us.

a truely intelligent person

I'm a 25 girl, unmarried, and was very happy about this until I realized the down side. It's like living far from your family - yes, you feel independent, unrestricted, and able to live for yourself. But with age, you realize that living for yourself is entertaining, but not fulfilling. You don't need to rush into marriage, and when you're married don't rush out of the marriage. But the journey of life spent with another gives you something precious that can't be bought. That companionship, even if it ends badly, is better than ending alone. When I was younger, I looked at all the divorce out there and misery and hatred between exes, and I thought “I'm not going to make some one miserable, I'm not going to spend my life with someone I hate” …well, that's like saying “I'm not going to drive a car because of all the accidents.” Thats not the answer - the answer should be to wear seatbelts, take precautions. My resolution SHOULD have been “I'm going to love my spouse, for whoever he is, and I'm going to give him my best.” Instead, I chose to live for me, and that's who I got …just me. Find someone to love, and give them your best. Like an ocean voyage, it may not last forever but at least you gave it your best shot. And there may be many perils and storms, but atleast you survived them with someone. The relationships that I've had were very special to me and I wish I had gotten married. Instead, I married my “independence”. The people that get divorced and hate each other, they didn't know how to love, they were selfish - it wasn't “marriage” that created the misery, it was their unwillingness to love each other. Love is willing to accommodate (not a reluctant willingness, but an eager willingness), even when you don't really want to. Even when there's no gain from it. Even when the other person is annoying, or stinky, or exhausting. And when you can love your spouse like that, chances are your spouse will, too. And yes, it's POSSIBLE that you might love a person who doesn't, or can't, love their spouse …and that is sad. It really is. But I'd rather go to the Olympics and fail, than never go at all. Love is patient, love is kind. Love does not envy, is not boastful and is not conceited. Love is not rude or self-seeking. I'm waiting for the right one. If you agree with what I said, then contact my whatsapp: +447901380061 I travel around the world, and my love won't be limited by district. Never Ever Part As Lovers.

I, as a man, can only dream of a day when I have the same and equal reproductive and parental rights as a woman.

What are the three things confidence, opportunity and??

Love this video no bias towards either gender

I am wondering why this video have only this much of views. Every other tedx talks have millions of views. The idea she brought up in this video should be known by everyone.

Time to move on......Amen!

very nice

women arent objects;men arent wallets

RU-vid speaks more about my reality than email

Finally!! Gender inequality talk that takes into consideration men too

Yes! Equality not equity!

According to the Duluth model, women and children cannot commit acts of violence in and of themselves, they only act violent in reaction to the violence of men. This is why the only solution, for the state, in any domestic dispute, is to remove the man from the home. For 3-5 years.

exactly is about women

Women being paid less then men for working the same job. Men get sentenced to jail for defending themselves when a women is first to hit the man. There certainly is gender inequality for both sides just different aspects.

OMG a rational talk on gender! It's probably a bit much to hope that someone will look into the law courts next and see the disparities there!

She's talking about gender equality in the workplace among the top 1% of people She doesn't talk about problems such as the suicide rate, life expectancy gap, victims of crime, homicide, workplace death, divorce court bias, education bias, army recruitment bias, fatherlessness, homelessness, domestic violence victims, alcoholism, disposability and much more other issues that disadvantage men more than anything else. Move on guys, none of the real issues addressed in the video, gender equality is about women, will always be and always has, we don't matter, they do.

Gender equality is not a thing, and will neve be. Men are women have equal rights but we are not the same.

Equality is good. More Brick layers,Carpet layers,Plumber,Roofers,Road Worker. How many are in this Industry.

Great - no men bashing. I've got 2 lovely sensitive sons and I worry about their future because of inequality and men bashing

When are we going to see equal.opportunities for men? What do we mean by equal opportunities? The usual interpretation is men and women having equal access to the opportunities that exist. But that is not all there is to it, is it? If we examine an opportunity two things are needed. One person to create the opportunity and another to take it on. We are all familiar with the demands for equality in the second part - quotas for women on boards, more female film directors, jobs for women, women's sports etc. When are we going to see equality in creating opportunities? When are we going to see women creating opportunities on the same scale as men do? Can you name an industry created and developed by women? Can you name an institution created and developed by women? Can you name a major company created and developed by women? Can you name a major technology created and developed by women? Can you name a sport created and developed by women? When are going to see equal opportunities being offered to men?

Woman and man are not equal did you see ever that in Olympic games a woman appoint against A man as a challenges ? But a woman have power to give birth a child but a man didn't . Both are different qualities

Common sense is so seldom observed that at first blush it appears to be genius

I don’t want gender equality I’m ok with men being in charge it’s a better deal for me

If I gave a dollar to my sister each time I disrespect her, she'd have U$0,65.

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When women gain the right to choose their own reproduction, will they extend that same right to men? Does a man have the same and equal right to choose as a woman? At what point does any man have the right to choose to be a parent?

The type of gender equality that the UN and the EU are advocating sounds like numerical equality. Do they really mean this? Forced equality will be a disaster. The people are very different. We need to encourage the difference between the people so that society can develop. Just look at Soviet socialism. Also, who and what decide equality. When are things equal? This is a puzzle even mathematics cannot solve theoretically.

You make perfect points for both but they would come from your environment. And I agree what are you talking. But do you realise there are many countries around the world where eduction decide on gender even the birth.

True feminists is pro men pro woman pro everyone

Boomers are getting smarter in politics

Gender equality means giving women more than men in anything they want.

Parental leave for women????? *gasps in American*

Sorry... I fell asleep some minutes after it started. What was the point of the speech?

I think both genders have a lot going against them.

Long paid paternity leaves are much needed for men. However, men need to be very wary of feminists who are pro-paternity leaves. Whenever feminists present themselves as pro-men, their hidden agenda is to further women's cause. She has given sound reasoning in favour of paternity leaves and all of it is valid. But her real agenda is to make men take long paternity leaves so that maternity leaves can be shortened and women can go back to workplace earlier and grow her career. Feminists would pose as if they care for men when they say they are with men wanting to be present father. But they are actually for it only because it would allow them to be an absent mother. It's the same when they say we are pro-men and want to take pressue off men to be the provider. Looks 'oh so compassionate' towards men but what they really want is men not to strive as hard as they today so women can gradually gain more financial powers.

It’s like saying I can get pregnant and u can’t so it’s your fault that I got pregnant and now are unable to do some things. I as a man wouldn’t mind being able to produce another human but rn it’s not scientifically possible so you can’t just take the top spot because you are capable of doing something a man can’t. So as a male I want to see the Daly the men have the same parental rights as a women.

Interesting talk. However, parenting is seen from the predominantly female perspective. We talk about men having parental leave typically in the first years of the child’s life. If men’s parental skills and interest kick’s in when the child have to get out in the world and explore and build skills, under parental guidance, how does the society of today make room for that? Parenting is seen almost entirely through a female lens. Men are stuck at work and we leave the socialisation to “professionals”. Typically female professionals.

Mmmmh….you wouldn’t really …like REALLY know if you haven’t experienced it first hand. No? Ok.

Well I mean who calls thier daughter david?

80-85% of the world's population will not make it to the rapture. Screaming and nashing of teeth. Continue on living the way you guys want. I would highly recommend all of you buying the candy bar payday. This way, you guys are ready for it.

Self AWARNES-Some timesTo much-Ower-confedance😮‍💨😮‍💨😮‍💨😩🥸🥸🥸🥸🥸???????????

So if a girl hits a guy a guy can hit her back

“It’s not a female issue, it’s an every person issue.” Then say the only difference is when women have babies. Presume to speak about a whole field of knowledge from your limited and personal anecdotal experiences.

Pogi po ba ako? ;'(

It's not just women that are mothers that are expected to be super women. All women are expected to be super women.

Equality and feminism exists until you need to haul the fridge up the 7th floor and the elevator is broken. "CHANGE MY MIND" 😘😘

Women choose to be mothers - her body, her choice. Does he get a say? If she says no and he says yes - no baby. If she says yes and he says no - baby is born. So no real choice for him. her body, her choice. Her choice, her responsibility!

GEE YOU DONT SAY

Sadly India still doesn't have Gender neutral law

Let’s start with the facts. There is no gender inequality.

I wish in this world there is a single gender either only men or only women