Why I decided to give up on being a good person 

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Imperfection is part of being humans and we all make mistakes. The difference lies in being aware of one's mistakes and correcting our behavior.

True. In the certain scriptures it says that none of us are good. We all fall short. There's only One who is good.

This video made me go into a very deep reflection about what's actually behind the need of being a good person. I my case I believe is the necessity to feel loved and important to the people that surrounds me. I want to assure my space in their lives. But that is, in fact impossible. I find this advise very powerful and I belive it's important to digg deeper to understand what's behind the decisions and attitudes we have in life. Being honest with ourselves is the fist step to gain more freedom. Thanks for your videos Justin. I enjoy them a lot.

Listen, people in society are becoming entirely too selfish and narcissistic as it is. Don't make people begin to think that it's wrong to behave, respect others, and have order out of chaos. I understand what the author in the video is saying or trying to say. But, many people are going to misinterpret what he's talking about and start living selfishly. I just had a conversation with two people who misunderstood as it is. It's really simple, just be yourself, try to respect others as there is such a thing as karma, and do not kiss ass

Thanks Justin, very insightful and relatable video! It’s such a freeing realisation when you understand that being ‘good’ is an illusion - a person can easily appear good but we all have negative, destructive, critical thought patterns. The irony is that negative thinking is often ingrained in us by the same influences that ask us to be perfect, good people so we find ourselves constantly conflicted. That inner struggle then metastasises into overthinking and seeds depression, anxiety, identity crises etc. The key to self-love is to acknowledge and accept ALL of yourself, both good and bad, beautiful and ugly. That’s where the feeling of completion should come from, not from finding some elusive ‘soulmate’ or proving to everyone how ‘good’ you are. Content like this is so important so thank you again and look forward to seeing more!

As Aristotle said, "we are what we do". This is also an Existentialist tenet. No one has a good or a bad essence. People become who they are through their actions and that is also how they should be judged (but always with compassion because we are all capable of bad actions, as well as good ones). As you and Rude Lande said, some of the worst crimes in human history have been committed in the name of 'goodness' and often by people who saw themselves as 'good' people.

I was in a spiritual group surrounded by so called good and angelic people,these same people were capable of doing the most heinous and evil things,from that moment on I have never trusted good people.

I wouldn't say I am or am not a good person. It's so subjective and everyone has their own opinion. I would say, I do for others what I'd like others do for me, without second thought. I don't care about labels, I am much more than words.

For me it is not a question of being a good or bad person just be who You are rather it's good or bad just live life one day at a time. Remember life is a classroom everyday you are learning.

I try to live my life according to what is best for me. I've made life decisions that benefitted me. Is that regarded as selfish? I'm OK with that. It took over 5 decades to learn to do this, and there are still times that I slip up and disregard my needs to benefit others. I've been told my view of myself is badder than what others think of me. I learned to accept myself as I am. Good or bad in the eyes of others doesn't matter to me. Living my life for me has brought me serenity and peace.

Surely , I think of being a good person and it immensely affected me. The more I tried to impress others, deep down within me it hurts.

This was GREAT - What you said is exactly what I have been dealing with in my own self. This was GOD sent to me. Thank you so very much

Thanks Justin - really important words in these mad and polarising times we are living through. I wish there were many many many more voices speaking this truth about not dividing people into camps of goodies and baddies and us and them. There is no 'them'. It's only ever us. I have also grown to stop seeing myself as a 'good person' (which I did have that view in the past), and this has led me to really be able to almost completely (not quite!) let go of my inner critic. Sometimes I still need to tell her to fuck off but in general that's not necessary.... :)

Great video, it really surprised me that I answered I am a “good” person, but as you said that put others as “bad”. As I am trying to learn to observe but not judge

Thanks Justin! I always saw that I get really judgmental! and being "Good" is what fueled that! Thank you!

Thank you for this great video. And I subscribed 😊👌 looking forward to more 🙏

Ok, the question is what IS a GOOD person? It comes down to intent, I believe. Also is there an in between between "good" and "bad"? Who made these labels? Yes, I can be judgey. I judge myself and others. constantly. We are humans. I'm not a saint, but the key is embracing the variables in all humans. In my book, the definition of "goodness" is not wishing ill will upon others, no matter who they are or what they believe. I may (and do most of the time) judge people, this doesn't make me good or bad, this makes me human. I understand your point about letting go of the definition, in order to free yourself of certain constraints, but for me the truth of liberation is letting go of ALL judgement, myself included. There is no good or bad, there just is. To be continued....

Maybe another way of looking at this is adhering to values over mental conceptions of shoulds and go by behaviours as you said

This is really deep. I’d probably say yes just because I don’t set out to hurt anyone or cheat or steal. Like I’m good in that way, but obviously I’m not perfect. But I’m really hard on myself normally. I don’t want other people to know how hard on myself I am.

Well said Justin. This video really opened my eyes. “No one is truly good except God alone”. Heck, even Jesus said it too and I’m not Christian. Most self proclaimed “good” people carry holier than thou attitudes or make excuses for poor behavior because they “don’t see anything wrong with it.” because they’re too good for anyone to dislike them. 🙄 heck even Trump thinks he’s a good person. I like to describe people as “goodish” rather than “good” because no one is black and white but rather we are shades of grey. A “good” guy can choose to do evil just as an “evil” guy can choose to be “good”. Even evil people don’t do evil all the time and good people don’t do good all the time. Even Lucifer was once an angel loll. But you’re video is so insightful and non bias. It’s like you share my philosophy too. Don’t get me wrong no one should ever do evil to anyone ever. If we see ourselves as “goodish” rather than a label, we can aim to better ourselves. That why a growth mindset overpowers a fixed mindset.

Perhaps what you may or may not be trying to express here is that rather than 'giving up on being good' we should endeavor to Stop being so Self Righteous of others and what may be perceived as 'being a bad person'. To also stop 'Shaming' others on social media because of what is the 'popular' viewpoint of the day. I have been shamed by others simply because I didn't 'talk the positive' talky talk and told what was the actual facts, however negative they may of been at the time. If you are standing in a pile of shit it's hard not to ignore the stink and pretend it smells like flowers just so that you are still being positive around others. Just my thought to add to your point of view here...very interesting thoughts indeed.

FANTASTIC!! Relate 100%, lol! Inner critic, judge, on steroids. Got Byron Katie to not believe my thoughts and Ekhart to help mind stop in its tracks for instant well-being even bliss. So true about tolerance of other's dislike of me - I understand! see what they see, or not, either way it's okay. More space left for important stuff. Your thought process around all this is so clear and true. Truth is my guide, Thank You for providing.

I almost didn't listen because of the title. I thought there was something wrong with being a good person, but after watching, realized it is a much deeper subject and made me reflect on my focus and why I try to be a good person. It is not about being a bad person, is understanding how my "good" behavior affects my mind and life. But I don't agree that we should not judge bad behavior. There is good and bad behavior..there is good and evil and always will be. I agree we do need a path back to kindness, and we need to show love and kindness..but common ground with so many cultures and people will never happen in humans unfortunately, but is a lofty goal...Thank you for this video!

I’m not a good Person but I try to do good as often as I can. I answered yes because i would normally answer no from insecurities 🤷‍♂️

I'm not a good person and I know I'm not. I've made peace as best as I can with my darkness and do all that I can to use those negatives to try and help those around me. In my experience, the "good people" are at best naive to the world around them.

So refreshing and liberating. Thank you. Sharing

I don't know why, and maybe I am over thinking it, but your view kind of bothered me. LOL So I am trying to figure out what this means. I think I am a good person and I know that I am not perfect. I identify as a good person that can behave badly. So because I know this I am working on growing, improving, and changing any negative, destructive, or habits not serving me or others. I don't think by feeling that I am a good person, I am calling people around me bad. It is not that simple. Below, A Maxximized Life wrote a definition of "goodness" "as not wishing ill will upon others, no matter who they are or what they believe." I agree with this. Even though I try not to, I am guilty of judging my own behaviors and those of others. I equate being kind, humble, gentle, etc as good and include looking at my intentions. I do try and ask about intent when I am deciding if something is "bad' or "good". So I still want to say that I am a good person but I am not thinking that other people around me are bad. Even when someone does something to hurt me, I rarely think that this makes them bad. Now I felt if perhaps you were talking about labels like "right" and "wrong", I would have 100% agreed. Though out history there are people who did "bad" things like killing and destruction because they thought they were right and good. If you think you are "right", then that might mean that others are "wrong". So clearly I need to work on somethings. Thank you for your view.

"Good person" and "being perfect" aren't the same. I am a good person. I'm also a bad person. It all depends on the context and who's asking. My thoughts have nothing to do with who I am; I judge myself based on my behavior alone, just as I judge others. But all of this is an issue of semantics. We don't define "good" or "bad" the same way, but I think the core of what you're saying is pretty great.

I especially love the ending .

I feel there is nothing good or bad , only positive and negative . What works for me is positive and what doesn’t is negative . So I can easily identify and let go of the latter .

i arrived in a place where i realize only me is going to make things happen for myself and don’t hold anyone responsible - i have faith in God and ask him for all my needs, everyone is going through their own journey

Wow for years I have always told myself how can I be a good person and it's been damaging to me honestly. I've never thought this way before thank you for this.

My first reaction to whether I'm a good person was "I like to think so, but that doesn't really mean much."

Man this is huge for me, thanks

Wow! Such a great video! Thanks

I am part of the process,, I am seeing a transformation within me

Great video!!!! Thanks

Well, I think you're a good person!

Hi Justin, This is refreshingly honest and beneficial. Denying my duality is denying my true purpose of authentic contribution. I don't want to shit on myself but rathee fine tune so I can play in the grand orchestra of life in harmony, flow and rhythm. Great video, thank you 🙏

That's very good of you to give it up!

great stuff Justin thank you, and who knew we shouldn't be stepping on purslane, such wanton bad behavior ;)

Another thing too is people looking for philosophical excuses to pursue their deeply animalistic desires i.e. greed hoarding of wealth power etc

Is it better to be born good or become it through immense effort?

This relates so well to these current times! :)

I wonder if there's a difference between being a "good person" and an "ethical person", just as there's a difference between "nice" and "kind"?

Thank You for the educative video I really want to read the Book Laughing in face of chaos, I don't know how I can access it.

*sigh* Well put. Thank you!

If you can bear dying alone, then you can stop being nice.

trying to be a"good " person is usually people pleasing. fuck shit up be good and a rebel

I used to follow you and enjoy your videos. I think lately your content is based on self-centeredness and little on community building and connecting with other people ♥ I hope you'll be able to engage with society again.

Most honest and educational video on RU-vid, period.

yes I am a good person sir Tony Robbins he know me for since 2019 until now

You need to create a t shirt " I gave up being a good person"

I love point no.4

wow beautiful place I love it

Very good video.

About all rights...this I thought, this I'm ,and not like to be, and tried to rethink all it.... especially for who have ocd

hello yes I am born again yes sometime I am a mistake but I admit I promise I can stop and I want to have a good life ad have someonels and good behavior I am always hurt over and over again it's hurting me always

Fantastic 😊💜🙏

Darth Vader is one fine human being!

yeah, the way you describe ‘good’ doesn’t actually sound good, and that’s how i’ve observed other people who label themselves as ‘good people’. Of lot of those people tend to be judgmental without observing their own flaws. some of them are even christian folks who excuse their crappy behavior by saying they’ll just ‘pray about it’, but never actually change. bottom line is i want solid people around me who have my back and we build each other and embrace our flaws, not a ‘good person’ who’s always stroking their self in front of me rubbing in my face all the ‘good things’ they’ve done while talking mess about other peoples flaws. i’ll take the solid person any day

Wonderful video

I m from india sie i love your video i request you to add english subtitles to easy ❤️ understand

Good one i liked it and watched in fully ❤ gonna check your videos later on as you seem to have an interesting, to me, point of view that could be useful to expand my own 😊

i asked myself if i'm a good person, and nothing came up. no answer. i suppose i'm in a grey area. bladee - oh well

So u belive in good?

Just be authentic. Good/Bad. They are judgements. Leave that behind. This video is jumbled keep it simple

Like so much advice, the vague use of words like good and bad is confusing to me. You end the video talking about how this neutral attitude will end up making us more tolerant. If you're talking to someone who thinks queer folks are bad, or unmarried cohabitation is wrong, or kids should only be raised by biological parents, etc, than yeah we need more tolerance. If you're talking about basically anything corporate America does, it is objectively wrong and the damage is out there to be seen. They get rich off exploiting thousands of their own employees. They capture regulators and avoid doing the things that avoid measurable harm. Politicians just fucking lie constantly: about what's actually going on, what they plan to do to you, empty promises to help, ways they will reign in damage in society. But it's all bullshit and you can see it is because they've been saying the same shit for years while they take bribes and look the other way. So, I'm supposed to be more tolerant of the people destroying our planet, cost of living, and your individual rights to be left alone to pursue your own happiness without harming others?

Click-baitey straw-man. Being good doesn't mean being a push-over and "convenient" for others. Airplane safety pamphlet rings pertinent here, Help yourself first, then you can help others.

Can't say I find any of this to be particularly insightful.. seems to be common sense wrapped in a layer of self-help psychobabble. basically just stop being a bunch of anxious wusses, don't be a dick and have self respect. One thing I notice is that many folks who are trying to be "good" these days who assume empathy and kindness are always only good, inadvertently just end up helping enable terrible destructive behaviours and highly unconstructive sense of victimhood and helplessness... Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind.

No not one is good the Bible says. We all have sinned and fallen short, this is why Jesus died for our sins. God became man to give us the Word of God, then He laid down His life to pay the penalty of our sins with His own blood . Now is the time for all to repent of theirs sins and make Jesus Christ their Lord and Savior so your Spirit goes to its eternal home. Read the Bible its our eternal love letter and contains the mystery of Jesus Christ throughout . Blessings.

How do you know what other people think who truly believe they are good people?? You are assuming things mentally that you have never even experienced. You are spreading misinformation because you do not think like that. A lot of the peace you have found seems to be from the accumulation of wealth and money rather than inner peace and integrity. If you do not have a relationship with the Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, then I suggest you do and find one quick. God can save you before it is too late. Jesus died so that we could not only be "good," but also sinless. He rose up from the tomb perfect and powerful, strengthened with all power in His hands. He is mighty to overcome every evil thought and every evil thing. I ask that you trust in Him. That you at least give Him a chance.

reminds me of trump lol

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