Why I Don't Go Home for the Holidays

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If you’re new to my channel, my name is Alex Hormozi. I’m the founder and managing partner of Acquisition.com. It’s a family office, which is just a formal way of saying we invest our own money into companies. Our 10 portfolio companies bring in over $200,000,000+ per year. Our ownership stake varies between 20% and 100% of them. Given this is a YT channel, and anyone can claim anything, I’ll give you some stuff you can google to verify below.
How I got here…
21: Graduated Vanderbilt in 3 years Magna Cum Laude, and took a fancy consulting job.
23 yrs old: Left my fancy consulting job to start a business (a gym).
24 yrs old: Opened 5 gym locations.
26 yrs old: Closed down 6th gym. Lost everything.
26 yrs old: Got back to launching gyms (launched 33). Then, lost everything for a 2nd time.
26 yrs old: In desperation, started licensing model as a hail mary. It worked.
27 yrs old: "Gym Launch" does $3M profit the next 6 months. Then $17M profit next 12 months.
28 yrs old: Started Prestige Labs. $20M the first year.
29 yrs old: Launched ALAN, a software company for agencies to work leads for customers. Scaled to $1.7mmo within 6 months.
31 yrs old: Sold 75% of UseAlan to a strategic buyer in an all stock deal.
31 yrs old: Sold 66% of Gym Launch & Prestige Labs at $46.2M valuation in all-cash deal to American Pacific Group. (you can google it)
31 yrs old: Started our family office Acquisition.com. We invest and scale companies using the $42M in distributions we had taken + the cash from the $46.2M exit.
32 yrs old: Started making free content showing how we grow companies to make real business education accessible to everyone (and) to attract business owners to invest or scale their businesses.
34 yrs old: I became co-owner of Skool.com to help the many people who want to start a business online do so.
Today: Our portfolio now does $200M/yr between 10 companies. The largest doing $100M/yr the smallest doing $5M per year. Our ownership varies between 20% and 100% ownership of the companies. Many of them we invested in early and helped grow (which is how we make our money - not youtube videos).
To all the gladiators in the arena, we’re all in the middle of writing our own stories. The worse the monsters, the more epic the story.
You either get an epic outcome or an epic story. Both mean you win.
Keep crushing. May your desires be greater than your obstacles.
Never quit,
Alex
FULL DISCLOSURE
I make content to make money - just - on a longer time horizon than most. I want to build trust with business owners so we can find the best ones and help them scale. And if they’re awesome, write them a check and go all the way as partners.

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@theevolutionoftina2397 9 месяцев назад

The only people who get upset when you start setting boundaries are the ones who benefited from you not having them.

@DaVideoz 8 месяцев назад

I had to read this multiple times it was so good

@WhiteRabbitProphecies 8 месяцев назад

I'm 64 and writing a charity movie ....or a play........ for the SPCA. Can I steal those words of yours ?? YOU must !! ...be an artist.

@theevolutionoftina2397 8 месяцев назад

@@WhiteRabbitProphecies You sure can! Good luck on your SPCA project!

@saadk8905 8 месяцев назад

Im gonna set a boundary by blocking you and reporting your channel.

@WhiteRabbitProphecies 8 месяцев назад

@@saadk8905 Say no to drugs. lol

@ivaldisako 9 месяцев назад

I love this kind of editing, simple no music, calm and feeling more personal

@JakeStewart1343 9 месяцев назад

Do you like the different angles and zooming in and out, too? 🤔

@4nxy 9 месяцев назад

Way too many cuts though

@Darko1.0 8 месяцев назад

Yessss! I noticed but not conciously. The biggest problem in his videos was the editing.

@user-245er4ud 9 месяцев назад

You've basically described my life. Most people don't understand what a toxic family environment is like. They just say family is important and hold this stigma of you not wanting to be with your family. It is of course important, but it should never be so important that it ruins your growth and who you are.

@EnglishEvolution 9 месяцев назад

1000%

@chrismacdonald9361 9 месяцев назад

Truth!

@stellium10 9 месяцев назад

At least we are not alone in being aware of our toxic families, and can make the better choice for ourselves 🩵✨

@vinayallavarapu 9 месяцев назад

💯

@United_Wings 9 месяцев назад

Facts

@unknown-q2p7r 8 месяцев назад

Never in my life have I found a video I can relate more to. I am 100% the black sheep in my family and it’s so refreshing to know I’m not the only one that goes through this. Thank you Alex. This video really hits home.

@knowledgejosh654 8 месяцев назад

For real man. This hit me deeply. Really need this!

@kodevicious 9 месяцев назад

I fucking feel this ... tired of the snarky comments at family get togethers "are you a millionaire yet" .... i want to surround myself with other people trying to achieve things ... tired of all the people that settled. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

@planeguy95 9 месяцев назад

Completely agree with you. Family are the worst at this unfortunately. It’s the crab mentality. Strangers are usually (unfortunately) your biggest supporters

@Paredinho1 9 месяцев назад

@@planeguy95 Truth.

@jordanhouton1686 9 месяцев назад

Love it compleytly agreee

@Nikki..... 9 месяцев назад

I've learned it's best not to share everything and goals and even achievement with everyone even if they are close to us. it's just easier to do your own thing in silent without people watching you and holding a popcorn.

@willia_mbrown 9 месяцев назад

No better feeling than saying "yep, i am"

@logankerr727 9 месяцев назад

I’m 21, I left home for the same reason, you just put into words the way I’ve felt for 2 years, thank you.

@ericcajada2750 9 месяцев назад

We're the same age and I life home 3 years ago, growth has been exponential since then

@haske_ 9 месяцев назад

He’s not referring to all families , he’s referring to ‚toxic‘ and unsupportive families.

@HighValueMan24 9 месяцев назад

He's referring to his own clearly and right or wrong, he made this out of spite 😂

@Pyrrhonian 9 месяцев назад

@@HighValueMan24 plenty of folks feel incredible guilt about having to visit family during holidays, having a voice they at least somewhat respect telling them it's okay can be meaningful to a lot of people

@United_Wings 9 месяцев назад

💯

@adiiancu891 9 месяцев назад

this@@Pyrrhonian

@stonedassassin187 9 месяцев назад

They actually need the most love and care. They dont know they a mess, its you who knows that needs to grow some balls and challenge the family.

@arbitragebakery6330 9 месяцев назад

I love how Alex’s confidence comes from competence. Stuff seems contrarian or incorrect because he’s right. Most ppl aren’t right

@STELLASCUTENESS 9 месяцев назад

He’s not right.

@Christopher-je8to 9 месяцев назад

@@STELLASCUTENESS he's right.

@liquidsnakex 9 месяцев назад

@@STELLASCUTENESS Enjoy being treated like sh!t then, you deserve it

@planeguy95 9 месяцев назад

@@STELLASCUTENESSkeep telling yourself that

@andrewrogerson8834 9 месяцев назад

I admire his work ethic and resolve, and take what lessons I can from it. But ultimately I see an angry, insecure man speaking from a place not of confidence but of unresolved trauma. There's no question that fear and pain can drive people to do great things, and he often speaks about this. I can relate to the fear of an old identity that he refers to in this video. But I also believe that a complete, healed human being doesn't need to run from that because it's been integrated and he's comfortable looking at the old self in the eye, with full knowledge that he has become something better. I also believe that no amount of success can replace family and friends. Furthermore, healthy relationships with family are regularly updated, so the metamorphosis is witnessed as it happens and annual gatherings don't carry the risks of meeting an old self like this. With all that said, I acknowledge that every situation is different, families are complicated, and his advice will be quite relevant for a minority of people (as he says in the video). But it would be a sad, cold world if everyone was so obsessed with their own journey that they become estranged from their family

@kayleebaginski 9 месяцев назад

Alex just spoke directly to me. Not necessarily about going home for the holidays part, but the part that I’d be returning to my old self and my old ways that I’ve tried so hard to breakaway from

@JiceJohnson 9 месяцев назад

This doesn’t just apply to families. This applies to outgrowing any space. It’s okay to grow and not revisit spaces that have triggering expectations or that knock you off your square.

@brianmeen2158 8 месяцев назад

Yeah my family is fine but my old friends are just not a good fit anymore. We are such different people now and they mostly just want a drinking buddy. The only thing we have in common now is our shared memories

@xaviermelendez9506 9 месяцев назад

Thank you Alex. You should know watching your videos the past few weeks have been slowly helping me battle depression and the wrong thinking. I would say more but your free service like these videos probably saved me from a dark place I was just heading. Thank you

@joshuatrott193 9 месяцев назад

Keep pushing through brother. You got this

@lisar.2549 9 месяцев назад

Keep the faith!

@grow-your-mindset-now 9 месяцев назад

Stay strong!

@meh3083 9 месяцев назад

Darkest nights, brightest mornings

@creamnchery 8 месяцев назад

Never loos hope, everything passes in life. Tommorow you can win the lottory, find a new friend, get married or learn something new. You never know what good is coming your way. Keep strong, take good care of your self, ask for help. Things will be good ❤❤❤

@jennacallahan1 9 месяцев назад

I used to be a major people pleaser but I moved across the country this summer and put myself and my goals first. I stopped going to family functions around 5 years ago, I realized I never felt good when I was around them. You have to give yourself permission first because no one else will.

@michaelcarswell895 9 месяцев назад

Thanks for posting this one. This is something I've struggled with a lot. For some reason, you (some internet guy I don't know) giving me permission to not go home makes it easier to decide not to go home.

@MrCards42 9 месяцев назад

Alex is so good at deconstructing scenarios into actionable task. The one aspect that I would add to this conversation is that it is important to let others see the life you are living. Much like the access Hormozi gives us to his life through these videos. The best way for others to see the changes they need to make is not by telling them but by the display of your life against theirs. For example, to see how crooked a stick is put a straight stick next to it. Ultimately, it is imperative to continually grow as a person. But it is also part of life to bring others along with.

@kirkwesterveltoutdoors 7 месяцев назад

People don't change. Don't waste your life trying to help them. If they want help, they will be standing before when you turn around

@Schaar22 9 месяцев назад

I couldn’t relate more. I even left the whole continent 2 years ago at 19 years old to start fresh and can never fathom the thought of ever going back to the same environment. It’s hard to accept this idea and it takes lots of guts especially at a young age. But the progress I‘ve made since then is remarkable and that‘s what gives me validation to never look back no matter how lonely it feels at the meantime. One day it will all pay off.

@heysimmone 9 месяцев назад

I respect your honesty.

@Schaar22 9 месяцев назад

@@heysimmone Thank you!

@stairwaystogrowth 9 месяцев назад

The way I can relate to all Alex said in this video is rather terrifying to me especially as someone who values family and friendships a lot, has issues with abandonment, and loves too deeply even when they keep hurting you. Thank you for this Alex. It’s a boost to my resolve.

@christopherburns5170 9 месяцев назад

As an older mozi, I also needed this. I've been avoiding family gatherings for over 10 years but it hasn't stopped the guilt. I always felt a little weird and didn't understand why I wanted to stay away. This was helpful for me because I feel better knowing I'm not the only one. Thank you.

@alicebishop8962 9 месяцев назад

Alex, Thank you for sharing this. My grown children have this same problem with their Dad. He is toxic and makes them feel like crap when they don’t want to go to family get togethers or holidays, so they go to avoid the arguments and pain they would endure if they didn’t go. I sent them this video, and I hope that they can see that it’s ok do just do “you” and not feel bad about saying no, to stand up for themselves and the direction they want to go in. I Love your advice and videos, congratulations on all of your success and more to come!

@FatihsWelt 9 месяцев назад

Wtf i just searched for a video 2 hours ago from Alex about family and saw the old clip why he didn’t go home for holidays Now he makes a remake 😂 that’s a sign because i wanna left my complete environment and family

@1geko818 9 месяцев назад

Respectfully, leaving your family for such childish content is insane. There are way more important things in this world then money and family is certainly one of them. Matthew 16:26 For what is a man profited, if he shall gain the whole world and lose his own soul? Or what shall a man give in exchange for his soul?

@RyanSaplanPT 9 месяцев назад

I agree with this. But there is a but there is a balance to manage.

@casonlamothe312 9 месяцев назад

@1geko818 dont go pulling a generic bible verse to solve a specific problem. Yes, family is so important. ... but not everyone has that.

@Pappy1991 9 месяцев назад

@@casonlamothe312even more reason to cherish it.

@user-245er4ud 9 месяцев назад

If family was so important they wouldn't be treating you like shit and driving you away. I will warn you, that it is as painful and difficult as it is scary. Though, it is very effective especially if you need it to grow and get better. First off, treat them like crap back and like Alex says in the video, do not tolerate them even with little things, belittling you with words or whatever. Stop responding to them for everything, and just make sure to get them out of your life the LEAST stressful way possible, because it will be stressful. In the end, you will be SO MUCH better for it. Even forgiveness may present itself down the road, sometimes not though.

@BlazeIsBOSS 4 месяца назад

Tons of people in the comments don't understand this video and its ok, it's not for them. For those going thru this, keep going! You got this.

@kiranzenkner2997 9 месяцев назад

This!!! I 100% agree. It took many years for me to realise that being with my large, and in many ways toxic family broke me down so much. A few years ago I made the decision not to do it and it's what feels best FOR ME!

@Sunny-ye9sd 9 месяцев назад

WOW!!! This exactly sums up why I don’t go back home to visit friends and family as well… I don’t think I even realized why I never felt comfortable going back, but as you explained your personal situation I literally felt my whole body get tight because I know the familiar feeling of my self esteem and confidence being shattered by old people, places, and things😢.

@Bello9848 9 месяцев назад

I can tell this video came from a really deep place. Thank you for sharing, Alex.

@firsthelix6726 8 месяцев назад

I think you overthink the issue. You go back to see your family you never know how long you will have them. it doesn't mean you need to compromise your life principles or whatever. You spend a couple of days with them compared to hundreds of days without them, so if you are on your way with discipline and character, Î see absolutely no issue with going back to see your family. You'll change your mind when you grow older and realize we don't live forever and our time with each other is limited.

@anti7hero 7 месяцев назад

This is a great point. I had a very difficult relationship with my father but he recently passed away and I miss him so much.

@rdherps4247 2 месяца назад

I dont think you can tell someone why they do something. Alex has very unique perspectives on things and he says that. If he doesn't care about spending time with his family, why go back?

@firsthelix6726 2 месяца назад

@@rdherps4247 I explained why in my comment… And no, his perspective is not unique, but short-sighted, I don‘t care if he‘s famous or not. He will change his opinion once he gets older.

@mrswagout 2 месяца назад

This is a nice thought and probably true for most people but how worth it is it really when the time that you do spend with them is ultimately negative and degrading? You will be hurt by their passing regardless, you are just choosing to suffer more as FOMO on them when they are gone, but are you really missing out if your time spent there is just maneuvering around people who don't respect you? I'd actually argue it's still better to not put yourself through that since it probably only makes you resent them more and it's better to just exit on as good of terms as possible.

@firsthelix6726 2 месяца назад

@@mrswagout I strongly believe you gotta find peace with your family, best as long as the members are alive, or you will suffer or struggle anywhere else in life. You can try to ignore the importance of your family tree, but the invisible energies will eventually influence the quality of your life and your relationships with others.

@MásAlláDeSara 9 месяцев назад

This is so relatable, it's difficult to explain to people that I still love Puerto Rico but can't live there. Going back is like being stuck in the past. They don't accept I won't conform to the expectations of me. Thank you for posting Alex, happy holidays ❤

@demondrucker3514 9 месяцев назад

It’s not the same.

@mrgame97 9 месяцев назад

So you left your loved ones to go overseas and be a career driven hedonist got it

@leejinsan906 8 месяцев назад

Hit me hard. I’ve changed myself since I left my home, not because of the toxic family, but I had made lots of mistakes. Friends over there treat me like a cheap loser, but I’ve gotten respected from my workplace and they ain’t know. I can relate.

@Tony-gh8gg 8 месяцев назад

As someone who grew up with a very toxic family through and through. Man this hits home. Thanks Alex.

@HaphazardHospitality 9 месяцев назад

Needed this like 4 years ago! This is amazing advice for young and older people afraid to go against the grain of tradition and family norms.

@mariembuenaventura1278 9 месяцев назад

The tradition is beneficial, the problem is the people hehe

@BrokenBicyclesProductions 9 месяцев назад

Let not this distract you from the fact that the Christmas tree decoration is slaying 🤩

@ianyapxw 9 месяцев назад

While I don't have similar experiences I really appreciate Alex's honesty and sharing what he did here. One of my favourite of his videos so far!

@Rsiatat 9 месяцев назад

I've been in your shoes and all I see is a really smart guy suffering. It sucks to come from a toxic familly, but going lone wolf and overworking is not the solution. This comes from a deep rooted pain that is hard to face, but facing it, and working on yourself to not be triggered or affected by any actions or words from your familly will make you so peaceful. You would become truly zen, and there will be no more pain,all while being imune to all the toxic traits and past triggers. This is what true healing feels like. You become a whole new person, all the disciplined and dedicated work comes from another emotional place and will feel 100x better, and you will be capable of a lot love towards yourself and others again.😊

@rugvedshinde5418 9 месяцев назад

Alex is the Big brother we all need and HAVE ! thankyou

@DayneRego 9 месяцев назад

I really was skeptical about one of your videos for once. I look up to Alex like a mentor and thought I might disagree with something he says for once. I was totally wrong. Recently I've been in a slump of slumber and laziness, I'm an 18 yr old who took your advice and didn't go to college and instead decided to get real hands on experience. It was going well and I never felt this productive and driven in my life. But I recently started hanging out with some old buddies and now I became back to a lazy undriven person. THIS VIDEO IS EXACTLY WHAT I NEEDED. Thank you Alex.

@garethellison01 8 месяцев назад

Love this! I can completely relate. If you're striving to be the best version of yourself most people won't understand you, nor should they. I used to think there was something wrong with me for years. I never quite belonged. I grew frustrated, and depressed. There's nothing wrong with me. It's simply that I outgrew my environment. The hardest thing is to identify this very fact. Harder still, to accept that you must, and should, move on if you want to continue to grow. Even if it's lonewolf for a while. Have faith. New people will enter your life, just like you. I'm learning this right now. 🙏🏼 Thanks Alex. ❤

@alexjoh13 9 месяцев назад

This is so, so important, Alex. Thank you for sharing this, a lot of people need this and need "permission". To all the people who want to go home and actually have a great family - do it. Love your people, we´re only here for a limited time.

@Jack_Ody 9 месяцев назад

Thank you Alex for letting me feel and think the same way as you, without feeling the pressure of social norms from people I don't want to be like, to feel that this is wrong and I'm not being nice.❤

@willie_du2180 9 месяцев назад

100% get this. I am 20 and I have always been more of a goofy guy that likes to have fun but has always had big dreams. My family just treats me as just a playful guy that will just be average. It hard for them to understand that you can be ambitious and still likes to do crazy random things, like climbing random building and such

@sevensages5279 9 месяцев назад

They will change their tune once you have a seven figure bank account! 😂

@lisar.2549 9 месяцев назад

Oh yeah, totally!

@pandconfid 9 месяцев назад

What do you want them to treat you like, Elon Musk? You are average. Do you think having dreams divides you from all other people of the world and nobody else has one?

@Christopher-je8to 9 месяцев назад

@@sevensages5279 No they won't change, Alex has way over 7 figures in his bank & his family still acts the same. Kobe Bryant had a similar situation to this with his family as well. Gaining money actually makes them resent you even more sometimes. It's the hard truth

@stockscrypto1593 9 месяцев назад

how bout you just have a good time with your family and then go work on your goals after like a normal person. nobody cares about your dreams, i doubt you even care about your family members' dreams. But its all about you isnt it

@thmrsmpl 9 месяцев назад

F*kin finally. Real Alex. Real talk. No crazy subtitles, effects, graphics!

@PodcastPapi1 9 месяцев назад

"It's very tough for people to see poeple grow because when we change we remind them of the changes they've been incapable of making"

@lisabrocadello6470 3 месяца назад

I would love to have a community filled with people who can relate to this video. Hugs to us, black sheep of the family. 🎉

@TimRandall810 9 месяцев назад

holy shit man I needed to hear this. I am 14 months sober and I associate spending time with my brother with drinking and I am starting to seperate my identify from it. thank you, the outside permission from my social network is really helping me go through with taking the space I need spending the holidays away from my family.

@emiliolopez4721 9 месяцев назад

I have an amazing family. But this video is a great lesson on how to set limits. Thanks Alex.

@Marc-td7nn 9 месяцев назад

GM, Everything you said was 200% spot on. The crazy thing is I went home first time in 10 years and found out that everyone looked at me as the I am to good foreveryone. Very disappointing. I guess I will check back in with the family 10 years :)

@IanNoone-y1p 9 месяцев назад

Dude I can't express how much I needed this I have been fearing the holiday there's very complicated issues and I am trying to change n I really needed to hear this thank you

@jags1008 9 месяцев назад

Hell yes. Thank you so much. So many people don't understand what its like when your family has been destroyed or don't understand you at all.

@jtg1465 9 месяцев назад

This is now my FAVORITE Hormozi video! You NAILED it, Alex! Pure 🔥🔥🔥💯👍🙏!!!

@indiangigachad777 9 месяцев назад

Really grateful for this video...I haven't gone back for Holidays since 2020 an don't plan to. The old frameworks of the past just don't fit me now and in an Indian household the need for authority and control is too strong so there will be an inevitable clash of ideals.

@TotallySafeAir 9 месяцев назад

I completely understand- I’m Italian and it’s the same thing for me . I’m 63 yrs old and my dad still speaks to me like a child - it’s sad really .

@AbroadInThailand 9 месяцев назад

Thanks for sharing your wisdom! I left home moved to Thailand and haven't been back for over 4 years. I'm not in a big rush to revisit since it's no longer in alignment with the person I'm becoming. My family has an open invitation to visit me anytime and they still haven't made it a priority yet.

@darkflamethrower 9 месяцев назад

Thank you for putting this out, man. You aren't gonna see this, but it doesn't matter. You know how valuable this is which is why you shared it. I appreciated it.

@paulydltvideos 9 месяцев назад

Me rn. Met you in person bro! That moment was literally life changing. Appreciate you. I needed to hear this.

@jamessilveria5148 8 месяцев назад

This hits home. I did not want to go home for Christmas but my family guilted me into it with generic you can’t not come home for Christmas we’re paying for your flight no excuse…not happening ever again!

@pinkpeoniesandbumblebees 8 месяцев назад

Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!! Opting out of this holiday is the toughest decision ever, and it feels scary and AMAZING to actually be authentic and truthful to myself.

@ineedmorestuff 9 месяцев назад

Thanks for the great content, Alex! It is super easy to fall back into old habits with people from the "good ol days." Time to put the boundaries to keep you from sliding back (not easy!). Reflect back on the good moments and the tough ones that shaped you, but always keep moving forward.

@bradtrades 9 месяцев назад

As we've all heard a hundred times, you can pick your friends but not your family. In this case, for me, I am with Alex completely. No interest in spending time with family, people I would NEVER pick to be friends.

@maxgulli9399 9 месяцев назад

This video made me realize how smart Alex is besides his business mind. So well spoken and articulate. You can tell this man put a lot of work into himself.

@kenzakassabi7780 9 месяцев назад

The funny part is that it's the same wether you made it or not! If you're still at their level, the tease, if you level up they hate. It's a matter of choosing a fight. Or better yet as you said, just block'em. I honestly just did that this exact morning. I want to live a peaceful, clean, pure, honest life and it starts with cleaning my network from ANY being that brings negativity. Regardless of the relationship I have with them. Also because I'm still "tender" launching my business, my skin is getting thicker but I can't guarantee the part x in me won't listen to their comments about my business or my font or what I wore. THANK YOU for being authentic Alex! Cheers

@TotallySafeAir 9 месяцев назад

Wow, this was exactly what I needed to hear right now. I left years ago because if I didn't, I probably would not be alive today. I should not feel guilty for taking care of myself and my family. Thank you 💌

@ThePowerMoves 9 месяцев назад

2:15 talking about power moves and how to handle them :). Great comeback by the way!

@EdwardVarner 9 месяцев назад

Feel like a Bro who needed to talk it out. Glad I could be here for you, and thank you for everything you do.

@aylanelson1012 8 месяцев назад

This is so helpful! Having negative people in your life can do so much damage & takes so long to undo. Best to move forwards & build better!

@DazzerrPlays 9 месяцев назад

I have zero issues with my family and try to spend as much time with them as possible, but this really applies to me for old friendships. Examples of friends in town after not talking for multiple years and they just expect you to drop everything and make them the main priority. Can apply this advice to many different circumstances and I feel refreshed after watching this video because I had to play the cold shoulder to some old high school "friends" who I hadn't talked to in many years and then they are back in town and expected me to just do whatever they wanted.

@TonyaPenelope 9 месяцев назад

You also model for other family members that they can set boundaries too. My brother has been addicted to drugs for 30 years. I feel zero guilt about not seeing him.

@JBuckenmeyer 9 месяцев назад

My family is awesome. Very loving, very little drama, very supportive. Sounds like it may be time to start your own family, Alex.

@kamshaft_tv4914 9 месяцев назад

Alex, I would like to say I truly appreciate everything you do. You have helped me change my mindset and my life and given me a very good set of tools. Currently I am still at the point in my life where I lost everything and I am trying to rebuild, and your videos give me hope. Thank you so much sir. I really hope you see this 🙏🏽

@danielrennie8945 8 месяцев назад

Wow. This is exactly where I'm at with my family. 2023 involved ending almost every old friendship I had. And spending time with family this Xmas has involved constantly telling them to speak to me with more respect. I'm told how judgemental I am. But no, its just been the result of massive personal growth.

@Sakoytt 9 месяцев назад

Is it me or does Alex look huge in this video? It could be the lighting, but damn he looks like he could compete in a bodybuilding comp rn. Alex if you see this, keep killin it in the gym ur looking shredded.

@Dank_Lulu 9 месяцев назад

I needed to hear this. It's mostly because of my friends. I acted in ways I dislike that invited bad behaviour and I relapse when I meet old friends, it's a bit horrible. But getting away from that feels like I'm running away from my problems and I'm being an entitled human-being while doing so and it absolutely sucks. So I *do* need outside permission from someone who has their life together because right now I don't. I also don't know if I'm gonna achieve great shit but I do want to excell at the things I love, do them my way and share them with the right folk. So I hope you have a great time during your holidays, Mr. Hormozi because I think you just made mine a bit better. ^^

@lisar.2549 9 месяцев назад

You can make the changes. One step at a time!

@Dank_Lulu 9 месяцев назад

@@lisar.2549 Yeah, I believe so too. I've just wavered and taken 10 steps back a lot of times. Getting back on track amidst that despair and doubt is hard but it seems to be getting easier. It's a good time to be alive, not having to feel alone in this. Take care, m80! o7

@PersonPersons-kh3bg Месяц назад

Maybe quit league

@aardizzone 9 месяцев назад

I’ve noticed that all these ultra successful guys have broken families (i.e Goggins, Tate, etc.). It forced me to look inward and realize my own ambition was partly rooted in insecurity from my own broken family life. I wish everyone finds love so they don’t have to feel depressed and “not enough”.

@TylerSinden 9 месяцев назад

It's pretty crazy how much I've changed in 5 years. I went away for school and became a completely different person. A lot of the people where I grew up stayed the same and still do the same behaviors. A lot of my friends/family still know and think of me as the previous version of myself. They treat me the same way and don't understand why I do stuff now because I "never used to do that".

@lloydmcleod629 9 месяцев назад

You're doing good.

@brianmeen2158 8 месяцев назад

Same here. I’ve changed a lot over the years and my old friends expect me to be the same guy but nope - I’m not going to go out of my way to please other people.. I’m not going to listen to friends complain .. I have no time for that anymore and regret wasting time in it in the past

@angelynfatimaarellano-gard5108 8 месяцев назад

Thank you for validating what I’m doing, Alex. I thought I’m a bad sheep for not going home during the holidays. I kept doing it anyway because it felt peaceful.

@cucinaenergetica 9 месяцев назад

Dude is a business beast, really knowledgeable... Yet the more I watch his content, the more I feel his repressed emotions, trauma and sadness. Be careful on what you listen to him about. Being a pro in one area of life doesn't mean he's a good role model in all of the others.

@maxverdi4007 9 месяцев назад

Facts! Also, if you are a real man, don’t let family or friends scare you from coming home to visit people you want to see. It’s called life.

@TheBossOkay 9 месяцев назад

There's nothing "real man" about that. You don't get to define what a "real man" is lil bud@@maxverdi4007

@marcusjones1110 9 месяцев назад

Are there any other videos where you notice this? I haven't watched a lot of his content, but I like what I have seen. This is the first video where I have seen where he talks about life. I do feel what he is saying in this video though.

@Dust4Vomit 9 месяцев назад

@@marcusjones1110I watched a video of his last year where the thumbnail said “f*** happiness,” I think the title was “therapy failed me” or something, I can’t remember exactly. It’s an interesting take on mental health and therapy, and addressing your own state of mind instead of believing that you have to share the same goals and values for yourself that other people claim you should have. I like listening to his opinion because it gives me a different perspective, even if I don’t have this specific problem (with my family / holidays, for example) I can still understand why someone else may not feel comfortable coming home for the holidays. He has a contrarian view and I find it rewarding to hold up my beliefs and values to scrutiny and look at them from different angles.

@SigmaDG 9 месяцев назад

@@marcusjones1110in his interview with iced coffee hour podcast, has a lot of repressed shit he puts into his theories. Has some great business points, but personal / philosophy to me is pretty screwed up and jaded.

@emersonkistler 9 месяцев назад

Love when you said that family has never told you "You are not happy" lol. That's exactly what my family tells me when they explain that money doesn't buy happiness after I begrudgingly share my recent success with them.

@nortongreeen 9 месяцев назад

Your video is pure gold brother. Also had the same thoughts about not seeing family for the holiday but was reluctant. Thanks for the input

@joshtavernier 8 месяцев назад

This chrismas, ill be spending my time pretty much by myself. My 11 year old son will be coming over halfway throughout the day to spend time with me. I am super nervous as I have never spent Chrismas by myself I want a different life for my son, myself and my future family. This video couldn't have come at a better time. Thank you Alex for taking the time to make this video!

@erichristian11 8 месяцев назад

Enjoy your peace brother. Merry Christmas.

@joshtavernier 8 месяцев назад

@@erichristian11 Appriciate it, Merry Christmas to you also.

@beeweezee71888 9 месяцев назад

OMG this is just the perfect video I needed to watch. I literally just went through a similar scenario with my sibling trying to label me of something I am not. I have change and my reality reflect that now. My sibling instead of being happy uses the phase "Hey Brad you will turn back to your old self that just how we are we always have bad luck and was meant to suffer" I didn't agree with that statement at all and correct him. I realize he stuck on the old program I am not.. For that reason I will not attend X-mas diner to avoid any drama. I love them but from a distance!

@Holmesharryd Месяц назад

I agree with most of this. Depending on the family/friends in a home town. I believe it’s good to go into anxiety ridden situations so you are not being ‘controlled’ by the anxiety. I also believe in knowing yourself so well that you don’t have to go into those situations. I believe learning from every situation you’re in but I also understand the frustrations of family.

@Ali.Qurbani 9 месяцев назад

I'm thousands of miles away from my family and I have been since I was 15 years old. I Went thru hell, but it was worth every second of it. I cannot hangout with them. They are so negetive and so limited when it comes to their mindset.

@nessmess500 2 месяца назад

I was recently pulled aside by my family, who were telling me that I wasn't considering how they were feeling when I would go outside of my comfort zone and do things like saying hi to strangers and meditating in public. They would shame me for dancing in public, and would say that I would be pushing people away by being "weird". That I was being selfish for not considering how my actions were embarrassing them. Yet, I tried telling them that what I was doing was not only true to who I am as a person, but is actively helping challenge my own fears and self-doubts. When I tried to say this while still acknowledging what they were saying, they said that I was being stubborn and not listening to them... So good bye to them then! Thank you Alex for sharing your perspective on this! It's helping me out a lot right now in becoming the person that I want to be.

@berkan54 9 месяцев назад

Alex, you sharing all these with us is really great and just wanted to say for what it's worth thank you for doing so, appreciate it a lot.

@muzk8887 9 месяцев назад

I also wanted to say that I came from gangs and mafia and I don't talk to any of those ppl anymore because they involved in some dark shit or are negative. They don't get to talk to me. I have outgrown them and moved on to positive things and better consciousness. I always was positive and very technical and smart but I was around the wrong ppl and bullies. I do what want now. I stay around positive helpfulness and kind ppl that align with what I'm doing. Quality not quantity.

@TheMagicLemur 9 месяцев назад

Thanks for sharing your perspective. However my mother nearly died of cancer so I know the other side that Alex alludes to. Life from 0-30 is a struggle for independence, and it's easy to think it always will be. However: at a point the tables flip. It shocked me how suddenly and unexpectedly. I know Alex feels rage towards his Dad. However forgiveness is not for your parents: it's for you. Best thing I ever did was forgive them - it frees so much energy. 😊 Alex does apply nuance to this in that he doesn't rule out going home. What he forgets is: those frames from youth dissipate, and you become the family leader. You can run away from the family and having to lead it, but aged 30-50(ish) is your time to lead. And feeling 'A Prophet is without honour in his hometown' is true, but not a reason to abandon your duty to your blood.

@human-ft3wk 9 месяцев назад

Thanks for sharing your perspective. However don't thrust ideas into Alex's mind. Does he feel rage towards his dad? How would you know that. Has he not forgiven his Dad? How would you know that. I came fairly toxic home environment myself and one of the hardest parts to leaving and staying left is the judgment you get from everyone. People that don't understand your situation, because how could they, they didn't live your home life. No one has any duty to their blood. There are many horrible people out there with families. Even hardcore criminals make babies. What're you to say to those children when they grow up? That they have a duty to their blood?

@kayinclaytor 9 месяцев назад

“if you want to be exceptional, then you will be an exception” cant be expressed any better

@drewfavre 9 месяцев назад

Alex looking EXTRA jacked in this video🤣

@thetoughgroup 9 месяцев назад

EXTRA 💪🏾

@f3it330 9 месяцев назад

Does anyone else like these rather thank the super edited up vids with music in the back and such, this just feel more personal and i like that

@napeleondynamito4456 9 месяцев назад

Basically we need to learn relationship communication and set boundaries with your family

@Mightycarloss 9 месяцев назад

I have watched this video twice and I love it. I have returned to my home town after living 15 years abroad and agree reframing relationships is tough but necessary.

@FixingmyADHD 9 месяцев назад

There are people that simply cannot comprehend that you hold the power to change yourself, and who you are. They are slaves to the person they were in high-school, unchanging till the day they die.

@robmcguckin7605 9 месяцев назад

Many are referred to as sheep, posers, lemmings, grifters or Libtards. I just spent Thanksgiving with them and the highlight of the after dinner "superficial" conversation was all of them abandoning the dining room table to watch Dolly Parton in a 1/2 shirt dance and sing on TV. I can't repeat this for Christmas even though I don't have any particular place to go at the moment. My choice used to be Iceland but this year I was thinking Montenegro even though that'll consume time that I don't want to afford right now. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year everyone.

@jimmymoon5879 9 месяцев назад

holidays are hard. reminders of bad memories and spent with people who don't even like me. looking forward to the day i will not have to be around those people and that i can have my own family who actually loves me for me.

@JustSage-b2y 9 месяцев назад

Biceps go crazy in this one

@marselisscott6702 9 месяцев назад

I feel you alex on the toxic family. They bring up my ex girlfriend that i dated 6 years ago. They be little my height and tease me for losing muscle. They make jokes that i wear dress shoes, collared shirts, and i expected them to ask me how ive been since my dad passed away. All they want to do is get drunk, high, crack jokes on each other. Its literally a waste of time at family gatherings for me. Everyone is focused on them and their immediate family. Its always a competition with my family. My sister is the type to shit talk any family member that doesnt come. My aunts always in a bad mood. Sometimes my family fights and my uncles never give me any type of advice. Im spending christmas in Medellin Colombia doing what i want to do. Thank you for this video i thought I was the only one that felt like this.

@FamilyReunionPhotography 9 месяцев назад

As a Family Reunion Photographer, I’m blessed that I get to document large extended families who love and can tolerate each other that they vacation together. Working with these families feels like it’s good therapy as I do not have this kind of family. I don’t wish to be around them so I don’t. I’ve always been the black sheep… and I’ve always not cared.

@Miss_an100 5 месяцев назад

Most of the time they do this for the parents and/or the image. I known a very prominent family in the community that still does these family reunion/vacations and the shit I hear from certain honest family members is laughable. What is the chance that all the in-laws and even sibling dynamics will be that of chosen friends or dare I say “chosen family”. Too much energy and even monetary resources have been wasted on keeping an image. So many more things you could do with money or time that would have otherwise been spent on YOU. But we are manipulated and told we are selfish for wanting things for ourselves. Isn’t that what they are doing themselves with all their familial expectations? Set your loved ones free. And don’t interfere in their chosen life because I truly believe a lot more marriages would last if it wasn’t for nosey family or obligations we are scared to just say no to, even for life.

@FamilyReunionPhotography 5 месяцев назад

@@Miss_an100 well said. My husband and I are both estranged from our widowed mothers simply because they wouldn’t let us live our lives without constantly being “corrected”. Whatever. We’re so much happier now without their noses constantly up our business.

@jumpman858 8 месяцев назад

Alex. Much respect for putting yourself out there. I get it. I avoided home for YEARS for family issues. In my case though, what really cured me was making peace with home and coming back (not to live but to sit in the pain until it felt comfortable. I invite you to do the same because once you make peace with a "toxic" past, it opens a lot of doors to allow new things into your life. Just a thought.

@Arman-sr2gu 9 месяцев назад

People in this comment section are hating Alex, but the thought process is very simple would you accept a type of behavior from a friend or Stranger? If not you should not make exceptions for the family

@thepanafricantv 9 месяцев назад

But he seems to assume that all families have this type of behavior... I'm sorry but my family is amazing and I get energized and motivated spending time with them. I happen to love people in my family and enjoy their presence. I'm sorry that Mozi (and many others) don't have the same blessings,or if they do, they don't recognize them as blessings.

@realheckertrustmebro 9 месяцев назад

@@thepanafricantv My family doesn't behave the way I want them to or which makes me grow. Does that mean they don't love me truly? No. That just means they did not learn the things I learned. The question is just about would you take the time to teach the things you learned to the people who love you? if you don't value them then just don't, but if you do love them too, then please sit with a therapist, they know how to teach someone better that you do.

@MrBopper2888 Месяц назад

Damn bro this hit hard. This is literally the basis of most of the fights me and my mom get into these days. Btw goddamn this dude’s back is huge. Looking saucy.

@patricksquires77 9 месяцев назад

Alex week spot - his anxiety over his past 😂

@kirkwesterveltoutdoors 7 месяцев назад

I was in business with my mom and dad for over 40 years. Around 10 years into it, my parents began disrespecting my wife. I did not ask why, I quickly cut them off from holidays, birthdays, and kept mt wife away from them. My mom was a ruling female that I know was not going to stop. My honor is to my wife.

@LanaiintheSky 9 месяцев назад

HURRAY FOR ALEX NOT GOING HOME FOR THE HOLIDAYS BY CHOICE Intolerance of unacceptable behavior is pretty fucking awesome in my opinion I love my family and the majority of my friends, yet if that every changes I'm going to play a recording of Alex saying things like, "No, I'm not going to tolerate that from you anymore...sayonara" HAVE A BEAUTIFUL DECEMBER ALL Y'ALL❣❣

@malcj252 9 месяцев назад

Been in the military 16 years. Nobody EVER comes to visit us. If they do, they are welcome to free lodging at our home and use of my extra car while they are here. All they’d have to pay for is their meals when I’m not treating and their flight. (From NC, stationed in Cali.) They literally still never come visit. Learned early in my career ppl make time for what and who they find important. Now with 4 kids and one being a newborn we aren’t going to visit ANY BODY. For any reason besides a close family member passing away, god forbid. I felt this video in the depths of my soul and I wish the best for everyone on “their path” who this resonated with. Thanks Alex as usual for the wonderful content

@miaranee 9 месяцев назад

Alex will regret this mindset. I used to work all the time, my favorite sister in the world died from cancer, and my priorities were other things. I still work a lot but I ALWAYS GO HOME FOR THE HOLIDAYS AND MAKE TIME FOR FAMILY NOW. You only get one, and if they're not bad, force yourself to be with them once in a while. You won't die because they say annoying statements or comments about who they think you are. It's for a week lol people you are much stronger than that.Not always about doing what feels the best to you in the moment, sometimes think about what your future self might regret and people usually regret not spending enough time with family

@rnambala 9 месяцев назад

I think you had a good family, he didn’t Not all of us are so lucky

@ddfelder2 9 месяцев назад

He clearly says if that makes you happy, DO IT. You don’t and haven’t lived his life. Everyone doesn’t want to tolerate bs no matter how insignificant it may seem to someone on the outside. Furthermore, maybe that difference is the reason why Alex is worth $100M+ and you are not. As he said, you create your reality. Family isn’t always blood related. You can create your own family.

@miaranee 9 месяцев назад

@@ddfelder2 You're not worth $100 million and you have a shitty mindset about family on top of it. Also, some wisdom for you, just because someone is hyper successful in one area of their life, does not mean they are in every area of their life. Advice Alex gives about money should be taken seriously because he is hyper successful in that area. It does not mean his advice about family should be taken as seriously or seriously at all

@human-ft3wk 9 месяцев назад

From what I heard in this video I don't think he has a favourite sister in the world. I just heard my family was in a car accident. Their car exploded. They could've well died last week. Still not going home for the holidays. You don't understand what it's like to have a toxic familly and that's ok, but don't pretend like you do and judge him for his choice.

@realheckertrustmebro 9 месяцев назад

@@ddfelder2 you can't buy love with $100m kid. Although I understand Alex