WHY I QUIT NURSING?! GRWM & CAREER UPDATE | Andy and Michelle 

Girl I applaud you for having the guts to go on a new path! Don’t give up your RN license though because nursing is much more than bedside nursing. I am and RN who got into IT and I can tell you there are so much you can do. I’m now in bioinformatics and I love it! My RN background is equally important as my CS skills. RNs rock in bioinformatics, clinical research, pharmaceutical IT, medical IT, the insurance industry and much much more. You are not just any IT professional, you are an IT professional with a specialty. And that’s so powerful in the IT field! I used to think my 4 years of undergraduate nursing education went to waste but no, it’s the foundation of my bioinformatics career!

Can’t express how true this is all is. I Just changed my career path to real estate after 20+ years of nursing and my family thinks I’m having a midlife crises. It’s just not for me any more. I did nursing for money, the passion I once had is gone after dealing with what comes with nursing. The stress, the disrespect, the work overload, the hours. Just not worth it to me. Good for you❤❤❤

Being an Asian, I totally agree with what you mentioned. People including our parents always tell us to be a doctor, engineer, scientist and so on.

My story is SO SIMILAR to yours! And I know you made this almost 2 years ago, but I want you, it means SO MUCH to me that you had SUCH a similar experience to me, and that I’m truly NOT ALONE. I am not the only person (despite my googling and youtubing) to not get their license, or use their nursing degree right after graduating. I graduated in 2019, and long story short, a lot happened leading up to getting into nursing school and during those first few months that set me up to have a hard time, and it was definitely a huge challenge. I loved parts of it, but hated a lot of it. I almost quit the summer between my first and last year of nursing school, but a peer tried to convince me, and I tried to convince myself, “nursing school is the hard part, it gets easier after this”, I watched youtube videos of people pushing through, and just convinced myself tonstick it out, get to graduation because I spent so much time and energy just trying to GET IN, its what I had been working towards my whole college career. I was worried I would regret quitting when I had already come so far. So I tried to push through and stuck it out. But like you, I had crappy experiences, and I think it just weighed me down. There were parts I loved, and I worked with TONS of great nurses, and honestly if not for them I probably would’ve dropped out. But I also worked with some not so great ones, some of my clinical professors were so harsh (I could see how it worked for some, but it just didnt for me), I HATED most of my hospital clinicals (My local university only had 1 hospital on that side of the island and it is not large, so some clinicals we had to make do in other ways, like PEDS or mental health. though I was lucky enough to get to experience one of the other Hospitals on the island that was SO MUCH kinder),I absolutely DREADED them. I had SO MUCH anxiety, and I was exhausted and depressed, and I just didn’t love it anymore. But I did it. I finished (miraculously! I literally wasn’t sure I was going to graduate til the DAY BEFORE PINNING). I took my sweet ass time getting around to doing my NCLEX and failed the first time. 2020 rolls around, I just moved back home to the otherside of the island and BOOM covid. Made doing my NCLEX SO MUCH harder. It didnt help that I STILL was not motivated for it anymore, but I promised myself I’d at least try, and see what I could do that wasn’t in the hospital. I liked aspects of my schooling, and wanted to do something either outpatient, maybe school nursing, or something to do with health education. I got a job as an RBT (registered behavior therapist/technician, I work with kids with ASD, its not perfect, and not my permanent place but I like it much more). I tried my NCLEX 2 more times. I failed both. In Hawaii (my home state, and where I had intended to work), you can fail 3 times, but after that, if you want to retest, you HAVE to take a remediation course, including clinical hours. I had a full on panic/anxiety attack in my car the second I read that. And that’s when I knew I had been deceiving myself. I finally was SURE that I ABSOLUTELY did not want to be a nurse anymore. It was both liberating and disheartening. I felt (sometimes still do) feel like a failure, like a loser. I have avoided using/posting on my social media for the past couple years because I didn’t want to deal with the questions I might get, or having to see my classmates post about their flourishing careers (don’t get me wrong, I’m immensely proud of them, and so happy for many of them, but I just couldn’t help but compare). My family tried to be supportive, but they were also kinda pushy in a way, questioning why I didn’t pursue it, “at least put it to good use”. It didnt help that at the time I really couldn’t answer the “why” questions, and I absolutely had no idea what I was gonna do (still don’t btw, currently just making due). It’s gotten better since then, and I’m slowly but surely learning to accept that this journey is mine, and its not supposed to look like anyone else’s. It’s ok that I’m almost 30 with no plan or career prospects, and I’m still single living with my parents (thankful however that I have a family that doesn’t judge that). It’s ok hat plan A didn’t work out. I’m right where I need to be for now. I regret not listening to my gut sooner, but I also don’t regret going through with it all at all, I’m where I am because of it, and one day it’ll all make sense why. This was my ling winded way of saying thank you so much for sharing your story, and allowing me to also share mine and have someone to connect to about it. To anyone who might be going through a similar experience, know that you’re not alone, and there are other people who understand. Just do what’s right for you.

This is how I felt when I didn’t want to become a nurse. My mom is an ICU nurse since she was 18 and she’s very passionate about it. She was very disappointed to hear and watch me pursue a different path, but I’m glad I did. Always do what feels right and is best for you! ❤ Good luck. 😊

As a student nurse and a PCT. I will be forever thankful to the nurses and supportive staffs on my unit. It honestly feel good to go into work knowing that as an aid I am viewed as part of the team. But I do see what other units are like when I transfer my patients onto the floor and it is just so sad. Honestly, by the time I graduate i will be in nursing school for 5 years and i really hope this new generation of nurses graduating will make nursing a much more tolerable field in a prespective where no one will feel alone and have anxiety before coming to work

freshman nursing major here. it’s scary to know the horrors i might face in a clinical setting, and i hope that i still have a medical passion after my 4 years. but it’s good to know that there were others that went on a different path than me, even though we started off on the same beginning. Sometimes things do happen for a reason

It's so refreshing to hear you talk more about yourself as I've always watched those short clips of you and Andy, so I feel that I got to know more about you from this video. My sister is a nurse and I hear all about the stress involved with the profession. I'm not a nurse, but I also work in healthcare and although I love my job, the hospital setting is not fun. I'm lucky to work with good colleagues in my clinic, but admin and mgt is a pain. I left my day job early this year and opened my own practice which was super scary because I grew up in an Asian household where there's a lot of emphasis on having a secured, stable job. No mention of being a business owner. But I'm glad I made that decision because it's so liberating to have my freedom while continuing to do what I love without all the stress from a hospital system. I'm glad you made a choice that makes you happy because if you wake up feeling dreadful to go to work....that's definitely going to affect the quality of your life. Also glad Andy is your great source of support! Thanks for sharing!

This is so legit. I've been working as a registered nurse for almost 7 years now and her experience is really true. It's sad but that's the reality.

Thank you for posting this, I went through a nearly identical experience with becoming an educator and I am currently trying to find my new path. Your words were very validating and comforting. I’d love to hear more about why you chose tech, what that’s like and how you got to where you are now with career!

Michelle, great work. I definitely will say it takes a lot of will and courage to accept that things need to change. So really well done. I too am going through a career change with me doing almost 8 years in banking and now I too am studying IT all over again as an undergraduate. One thing I will say is when I look back from when I first got a degree I had no passion for now a degree I have an immense passion for, is that the work is so much more easier. The time you want to provide to study and learning more when you are passionate is not seen as something being given away begrudgingly but rather I now take it as a lot of fun. Kudos to you mate. Also g'day from down under! Hope you and Andy come down to Australia one day!

Yes, I totally agree with what you said about nursing because I'm going through those bad experiences myself, and it is very discouraging. I have bad charged nurses, lazy cnas, and administrators who don't care about anything but money. No matter how hard you work, they do not see your values or appreciate your hard work and that's what I see and feel everyday going into work and I hate it. I hate being there, I hate their fake attitudes and I hate how they treat their patients there too. So then i decided to quit and applied to work with children instead while still in school. Thanks Michelle for sharing your experience :) I'm glad I'm not the only one that felt this way about nursing.

Michelle you are gorgeous😊 Also my mom tried to pressure me into law. She actually tried to site my “negative traits” as reasons why I should be a lawyer. She wasn’t the best mom tbh. But I fell into IT because I took a job at the Apple Store at 19. I’m now 34 and I am an IT analyst at one of the best universities in the world and I live quite comfortably. The funny thing is I am studying East Asian studies an working to get my PhD. No degree is required for this stuff. Just experience and/or certifications.

I'm currently in nursing having multiple jobs prior. Honestly, there is no perfect job out there. You'll always find co-workers and management that make life hell. Hopefully, IT and youtube work out for you.

Aweeee so inspiring, brought me to tears! I’m happy you realized what’s good for your mental health ❤❤❤ good luck in all your future endeavors Michelle!

I have had very similar experience, where I was so passionate when i began nursing school but after i graduate I just felt like it wasn’t for me. And just like you I was worried about my mental health. the stress that came with my decision to not pursue my nursing career. I am currently just exploring other option and seeing you make similar decision gives me hope.

I am also a Nurse. This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my RU-vid channel 7 months ago about self development. Now I have 702 subs and > 200 hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I could haven’t learned without getting started in the 1st place. This channel also inspired me to upload my recent videos to share my opinions about the main things that truly impacted the way I live. They're a couple of my most vulnerable videos that I've been hesitant to post for many months because of the fear of being misunderstood but I finally decided to overcome that fear so others can learn from my experience so we can all grow together. They're packed with valuable information about the relationship between a job and happiness.

Proud of you, Michelle!! Hope you find something you enjoy within IT! You're also right about nursing not being for the weak. My boyfriend is a nurse and he tells me all the stuff he goes through, and it's honestly really sad that they're not appreciated and compensated enough for what they do.

Girl, same. By the time i got my degree (graduated with honors) i was already in programming bootcamp. I worked in hospital while studying During covid for 2 years. I can identify with all the things you said. And i also always loved computers and gaming so i started learning how to code on my own. Got accepted to a great bootcamp program and quit my job. I am so happy i did that. Good on you for facing this hard choice and staying true to yourself! Its awesome to fing someone with similar experience to mine :)

Hi Michelle, I am a physician who works in a hospital with many nurses everyday. What you have said is sadly very true, and I sympathize with your struggles during nursing training. I see nurses as indispensable allies in health care with skillsets that complements physicians'. A good nurse is easily worth his/her weight in gold. I always stand up for my nurses when I feel that a patient is being rude or abusive. Kudos to nurses, especially ones working in hospital.

Thank you so much for this. I also come from an Asian household and share similar reasons why I wanted to become a nurse. Starting nursing school in a week, and I know in my gut I’m dreading it. There are so many doubts that I have and I feel like I am one of the weak ones. Not sure what to do because I literally have no passions for what else I want to do. Tried other things but I feel like I’m not good enough or would get bored of it later on.

I pursued nursing and had got to junior year before i realized it wasn't something I wanted to do. I realized it when I started clinicals. The staff were awful. Some were borderline abusive. I did however remained a nurse's assistant (as I never graduated) at a hospital that was okay. I did that for awhile but realized that the pay was so bad. I could never save up as my entire paycheck basically went to groceries--that's it. I somehow ended up as a supervisor in a bakery.

Thank you for sharing your life with us! Unfortunately, i have had bad experiences on my job too. Very hard to deal with. But you are strong! Keep going!😊

Girl I'm on the same boat. I'm 25 now, graduated 2 years ago with my B.S. in Psych but realizing that I want a career change and now I'm pursuing ultrasound. I resonate with you that it's soo hard not to compare :( All my younger friends already out there making good money, loving what they do, while I'm here having a crisis that I'm going back to school to do something completely different. It feels like I wasted my time but like you said, I try to remind myself that we all have different paces and we went through all this for a reason. In the end, it's never too late to chase your dreams. I'm so thankful for my boyfriend too for supporting me with this major life decision, I would've been so miserable without him because I most likely would have never committed to this career change. (also, youre so right about the toxic nursing work environment. I've been working at a nursing facility for a year, it's honestly so disheartening.) Good luck to you on your journey! I'd love to see more content like this

Happy for you Michelle!!! Definitely felt the same way coming from an Asian household. But you gotta just do you

The way you reasoned why you quit nursing, is the same reason I quit being a MA. I have similar experiences like you too and it gives me trauma. I went into MA just to make my parents happy, even though I liked it, I just know that I wasn’t happy and it’s not for me anymore. Til this day, I’m still trying to figure out what I want to do and is taking my time. I’m so glad that I’m not the only one with similar problems?/things? like you. You made me feel better by watching this video! ❤

I’ve spent hoursss of my life on RU-vid, but my girlfriend and I love your tiktoks! Looking forward to seeing what you post here. But yea my girlfriend is finishing up her clinicals as PA. She has definitely shared stories of bad co-workers, but also some really good ones. Anyways I’m a product manager at a tech startup and have a few friends who switched from other roles to UX design or software engineer. Happy to answer any questions you may have in breaking into tech!

I graduated in December. 3 months into nursing work life I totally understand. You need a stronger mindset and alotttttt of patience for coworkers or CNA or patients and family members. A daughter of my patient reported me when I was doing a bladder scan and I was pressing down and I got reported for that… it’s just crazy out there.

I remember when I graduated college and passed my NCLEX in 1990 I was so excited to finally be a registered nurse. Then I started walking down the many paths nursing can take you and like you started to dislike my job because of others I worked with daily. Nursing is hard enough without having to deal with the attitudes from your co-workers and peers. Anyway I stopped working in 2002 when I had a baby and I now it’s 2023 and my youngest child just graduated HS, I’ve been a stay at home mom for 21yrs and want to go back to work, but not in nursing, especially since Covid. I’m glad your career change worked out for you.

You learn something new everyday and this was really educational. Thanks for sharing your story.

I love your authenticity , your honesty . Thank you . Thank you for confirming what I already knew

Always follow your dreams! I came from a household that wanted me to be in business management, Lawyers, Doctor, Nurse. Due to being the oldest. But I followed my heart and went into the criminal Justices field. I never regretted my decisions, but my family think otherwise. It is all about the image.

Hello Michelle! I have seen your videos of you and Andy on Instagram mostly, discovered this one here. Thank you so much for sharing your story. It’s so relatable. I studied nursing back in 2017, first did Medical Assistant, then LPN to RN. I had a bad professor that discouraged me and kicked me out of nursing, instead of teaching/helping it was like X factor where they kick you out of the show and you’re done. In 2021 graduated from GMU with a degree in Health Administration concentration in management. It’s ironic because I also work in IT. For two years now, I work as an office manager for an IT company. When I was a kid I wanted to be a nurse, my reason at the time was to take care of people. After experiencing what it’s like, studying to become a nurse it’s daunting, intense and stressful. IT was not my initial career path but I am loving what I do now. Life has a funny way of throwing curve balls but however the moments occurred it has let to the moment where I am today. Best of luck to you~ Btw, you are so pretty! 💖☺️

Omg yess same thing girly! My mom wanted me to become a doctor so it can look good for the family but when I did clinicals it was terrible. I'm glad you were able to pursue what you loved to do. I personally like studying nutrition so i'm thinking about becoming a nutritionist.

Thank you for making this video. I'm surrounded by people and family who are in healthcare & they love it and are successful in it, and I left like I was alone in my resentment and negative feelings towards nursing. I didn't want to disappoint my family; I felt like I had to make it work because of all the time and money I've spent in school. I've been a nurse for 4 years now, and every year I hope and pray that it will get better and it never did. I took a short break to try out a coding bootcamp and realized it wasn't for me either, so I have to return to nursing for financial reasons :( I would love to hear more about your journey into IT! Maybe it would be a good fit for me too. Feeling very lost, but this video made me feel less alone.

Wow thank you for sharing. I wanted to go to nursing but as I did the classes I realize it’s not for me. And I pursue becoming an educator substitute teacher. It work out till I got injured by a student and I became physically disable and things weren’t the same. My husband saw the love I had for teaching slowly die and become fear. Till now I’m still trying to find my path and my husband had shown support something I wouldn’t be able to do without him. I’m thinking of pursuing IT but I’m not sure yet. Good luck in your future path and may you continue to pursue something you love with your husband. Also I love your videos they always make me smile even when I’m feeling down.

I'm thinking to swift my carreer as well. Your video inspired me. I've been really wanted to be a psychologist but my dad didn't want me to do so. I'm 27 now, hopefully i could be brave enough to chase my dream 😊

Michelle, I respect you so much for being so honest about why you don't want to go into nursing because I'm a Filipina-Am mom of 2. There's just way too much pressure for Asian-Am young people, especially, women to pursue nursing. I had wanted to be one but realized it wasn't a good fit for me. My dad just thought I should go into nursing because of the money. I'm a divorced mom of 2 (My oldest is 17 and my youngest is 12). I plan on focusing on raising them, heal from my divorce, help them do well in school (They're homeschooled), and go back to school hopefully in 3 years (2026). My ultimate dream is to be a UX Designer and possibly a UX Researcher even though I'm in my early 50s. You give folks like me hope that you should pursue what you want and not what your family wants.

I really felt this hard. I spent my entire life thinking and prepping to become a doctor. I got to college, finished my degree in medical lab technology with the next step to go to med school, but by the time I graduated I realized I didn't want to keep going. I tried to push through and went to work in a medical office for a year as a lab tech, observing nurses and doctors and was treated horribly like you were. My friends that I graduated with had the same experience. I ended up switching out entirely and going into marketing at a chemical company. I didn't waste 4.5 years in university because I don't think I would have made these decisions if I had went about it any other way. So life has a way, its different for everyone and who we are today is a sum of all the different decisions and paths we took to get here. proud of you girl and get it! I do apologize though, I thought you were going to say I went viral on tiktok so I quit my nursing job, which is still fine, but this definitely turned out differently than I imagined. proud of you. also nothing wrongwith quitting your job after going viral, all the tiktokers and RU-vidrs do it. hopefully one day you do get to do tiktok or youtube for your job, as it could be quite lucrative.

I feel the same way about nursing. I can't do it my whole life. I have never met so many mean people until I entered the nursing field. I never imagined it to be like this. I don't even feel like I am helping people in this field to be honest. I want to do a career change but I am so confused about what direction to take.

Bravo to you for following your heart! May the next career choice be wonderful and everything you want it to be. 🧡🧡🧡🧡

I can completely relate to this having worked with seniors for many years, and as a caregiver for almost 13 years. I lo e the 1:1 so much more, but I have worked in care homes, and saw what you are talking about regarding trying to fill beds in t least one place. They were accepting people that were obviously not right for the type of facility. It was heartbreaking, and I had to advocate for myself regarding staffing as well. Political s is real, and being short staffed is real. Seeing even csregi ers that do not care or even family members who do. It care is real. Granted I have been fortunate since doing 1:1 to see that most families do care. Also, when nurses come In or other healthcare staff, and the ones that look down on us because we are on a lower rung. We are Ll here to provide for thebcliant or patient, and justajebitbthrough thebday or nightbon those longer shifts. It shouldn't be this way.

wow Michelle, as a graduated nurse I felt the same hardships you did and also repositioned myself as an IT student. Thankfullly my family was so supportive and everyone told me it was not too late to go and try to make my life the way I dreamed. Now I got my first job in IT and am so looking forward to things again. Many times I told myself that I should have done this 5 years ago, exatcly like you said, but you know, part of it is forgiving your "mistakes", cause they made the person you are today. Have a great one, I hope you find happiness in this job, but if you don't, it's also fine i guess, we are not our jobs, lol PS: just remind myself of this: sometimes before I went into my shift I would cry a little, then I would take deep breaths, just to get in the ward, cause the nurse that was responsable for me made me her bitch, yelled at me in front of all the staff, I felt like I was going into prison every time I steped into the ER (my chosen place and I loved it before all that). That was when things we're over for me. Bad nurses are the worse experience that a student can have when being introduced to the job... that's how stressfull and depressive she made the enviroment, and then I got into big depression...

I was having a big question on my head when I was watching the shorts. I knew that you're a nurse but your personality doesnt sounds like a nurse, in my 'database.' I wondered if you might be one of those special ones who can still be so real and happy. I have a bunch of relatives who are a nurse, and I never get along with them. The reality is they showed me that some nurses are somehow quite different from what the public imagined. So I am glad that you're out of that field. So good luck for you and Andy's career in youtube!

This is a fantastic video and I really enjoy the conversations in the comments. It’s disheartening to see very few people praising the nursing or healthcare fields, or celebrating their own careers. I hope there are some who love their job. A lot of it boils down to the respect and determination you and your coworkers have for yourselves, your coworkers, and your patients if you work with patients. Work is stressful enough so it’s best to try to be as positive as possible and be a guiding light in a difficult field of work.

Seriously it healed me...I totally agree with Michelle❤😊...because I went through so much with my career as a teacher in teaching profession....she said its a real struggle when u know ur not valued at working place and I felt that💯 anybody can force u, but u have to believe in your gut health....its true girl❤😊

Nursing is not really for everyone. I know a lot of people who graduated with a degree in BSNursing but wouldn't want to work as a nurse because of the level of stress of working as a nurse. I've been working as an ICU nurse for how many years now, and I've had the best and worst experiences but I always go to work with passion and smile in my face because I love what I'm doing. You are still young. Pursue what you love and what makes you happy. Good luck on your career. 😀 Always watching you guys from 🇬🇧🇵🇭

Healthcare IT is a seriously needed career choice. Being a nurse is a challenging environment especially with the heirachy in side a hospital. The patient side is challenging but dealing with the people in healthcare is really a pain. I'm a National Telemedicine Director so I have to train the doctors and nurses and I absolutely understand your outlook.

This was your best video on your channel!! So informative, thank you 🙏

I really do love you and your husband Andy and think you both are such a wonderful couple. I also was pushed into the medical field... I decided it wasn't for me. Long story.. but. All the best. Thanks Michelle.

I did the opposite. I finished my Technical Management and went straight into nursing. Now working as a nurse, i intend on going back to IT and actually pursue that

IT is a really good field to be in because it’s such a diverse field and if you have some interest in computers, gaming, networking, security, coding, customer service, and just etc and etc and etc, you can get into IT. Technology is great and widespread. It’s a growing field and if you have a specialty, all the better. I like to get into coding eventually, but I’m more focused on system administration, server deployment, networking administration. It can be fun figuring things out and it’s very rewarding. Especially when you put a smile on the end users face knowing that you help fix a huge problem. I have so many examples but it is a rewarding field. I was on a similar path as Michelle. Except mine was worse. I lasted too long without any guidance on what I wanted to do. I worked 25 years in a dead end job and unrelated to what I’m doing it now. The pay was good and great benefits, but the job suck!!!! I disliked the work environment and some of the guys I work around are a little too much. I worked with some great people at the same time but majority of the guys are not my cup of tea to hang out with. I took a stand and flat out quit. I didn’t think. Just do it!!!!!! I didn’t know what I was doing lol. I was jobless for awhile and finally, opportunity knocked. I was hired into the IT field as an systems analyst and support. Finally a job or career path I was more into. I have so much fun playing with the latest products before it gets pushed out to the staff lol. Some days are tougher than others but what job doesn’t do that? You know? The reward is much greater and if you enjoy what you’re doing, it’s all good! I’m loving it and no regrets. I often asked some of my former coworkers they need to branch out and do something they like. Their mindset is stuck and don’t want to leave. So when I saw this video, she reminded me of, well, me. To Michelle, I know what you went through and from one IT professional to another, I’m very proud of you for doing what you did! And Andy would approve as well.

Hi Michelle, I am a new subscriber. You and Andy are so funny... Love you guys! Thank you for sharing your personal story. I admire your courage in making that career switch. You are so naturally pretty and do not need much make up at all. I have zero experience with make up and was wondering if you could tell me which make up products you used in this video. I love the natural minimal make up look you created...so beautiful!!

I actually feel the same too. I graduated from ME and thought that I have to follow my peers path to jump in the maanufacturing things. After 3 years, it turned out that I got depressed as I moved to more technical job. I really loath it. I even fainted on my way to my workspace because of uncontained emotions. Then, I decided to leave the job and try to start what I've been wondering : secret. I hope you'll be happy for what you are doing❤

I love that you brought up pace… definitely easy to compare yourself to your peers but it’s your journey!! If you’re happy with where you are and the direction you’re going in 🖕🏽🖕🏽 the social media feeds.

As a mom of 4 that grew up in a strict home I have always encouraged my kids to do what makes them happy. I never really had a choice in my life growing up and decided I didn’t want my kids to go through what I did. I have always told them that if they change their mind in what they want to do we will always support them. I always told them that if you do something you love them it doesn’t feel like work. My oldest just finished her first year of college my middles are in high school and my youngest is still in elementary. The middles still don’t know what they want to do but they do know they want to continue to college/university at least my daughter does my son is thinking of going into the trades. Whatever happens I’ll continue to support them and their decisions. I hope my daughters end up with someone like Andy because he is a sweetheart and he cracks me up 😂the chemistry with you both is so amazing and I love all your videos. I don’t have TikTok so I watch on RU-vid but you crack me up every time 😂keep doing what you’re doing but most importantly be happy ❤💜

Now have Andy talk about his career, it’s good nice to know more about you guys on a personal level like this besides the skits.

I was the same way. Science was never my strong suit so I pushed myself extra hard when studying just to get a B or a passing grade on an exam. Even though I had a high teas score, completed all my prerequisites and had all my immunization requirements, I was just so burnt out that it affected my grades in the final months of my prereqs. That pretty much impacted my gpa and prevented me from getting into nursing school. Now my college career is completely different now although I’m still focused on healthcare and because I burnt myself out so many times im still trying to bring back my passion for learning. I guess the good thing is now im studying something that isn’t as time consuming and straining on my physical and mental health so im able to relax and focus on other hobbies to keep myself sane.

I just found your video and I really needed this. I'm south asian / Indian and I also grew up with that same lesson of "doctor/engineer/lawyer" and even nursing was not up there but they would accept it if it came down to it. So.. I went to med school because I genuinely felt like I had no other options or choices. Sure I like painting and gardening and reading books, but what sort of "respectable career" will you get with those? In my 3rd year now.. going into my 4th and really regretting it. Just... I feel like I gave up so much of my life to do this, only for a chance that MAYBE I'll get residency and the specialty I want... MAYBE. The amount of money, time, stress.. my health, my time with family... all that I've sacrificed really made me think I was in a gambling den and just giving more and more, all to make back everything I've given with a little icing. I have ended up in ERs while studying because the stress made me physically sick. I've had to move around for rotations and going back and forth between Canada and the States for the past 2 years (cause I'm Canadian, trying to get licensed in the US). Last month, my husband caved. He said he couldn't deal with the instability of our relationship and it was making him lonely and unhappy. He and I are taking a break and we might actually divorce because he did some questionable things to block out those feelings (another long story). It's really hitting me in the "Why am I really doing this? Do I even want this? Is it worth this much sacrifice?". I want to thank you for your perspective on this. I am really glad you had Andy at the time and you guys stuck together through such a time in your life. Lots of love and wish you the best with your youtube channel.

I'm glad you followed your dreams. My mom did choose my career, and just like you, I despised clinicals because of the toxic relationship among seniors and new nurses. I only liked nursing when I moved in New Zealand because people are genuinely nice and they care for the staff's health. Before that, it was hell on earth. It's like, they were miserable and wanted to share the misery. Moving to NZ saved my career.

We're all are a team player on my unit. When we oriented a new nurse, we welcome and teach them to be helpful to everyone.

I just graduated in the last December in 2022 in bsc nursing. Let me tell you, i really felt good while doing my job but always i had known that this is not what I wanted to be. So in 3 year of clg I told my mom that i don't wanna choose this as a profession, i wanna do something different like 9-5 job it ok for me but not this. So i am currently preparing for banking exams and yes I am gonna do that in near future. But nursing literally shaped me and my life. ❤

Thanks for having the courage to share this.

I switched from Banking financial industry to study nursing, i love the studying bit but not as a bedside nurse. It is a very demanding job and i cannot see myself doing this for the long run. I hated Clinical postings too! especially with the shift works.. it is super tiring. i feel sad too because you speak exactly what I felt after being 3 years in nursing... :)

I feel her on what she's saying. I've spent my entire career doing IT even though I don't necessarily love it especially with the almost cutthroat office politics of lower-to-mid level IT work/jobs and relatively not-great pay. But being from south Asia, I too "had to" pick a career in a STEM field even though I've never been great at math and was better with arts and languages. But growing up dirt poor I didn't have a fallback so that I could choose a career that was difficult to immediately be hired out of school and/or didn't pay enough to support myself and my family. It took a long time for me to get enough confidence and motivation (and getting fired/laid off twice along the way) to work my way up to a more lucrative senior IT position with good pay and better flexibility. But I still don't think I'd ever be brave enough to buck cultural inertia and break away from a safe, "respectable" career.

I can relate with career update thing but not the makeup part but yeah I get you... no matter what your family may say even if they have good intentions for you. Overall it is still your life in the end and you get the final say on what you want to do for yourself or your life... thanks

I appreciate you speaking on this topic Michelle. I work in the health care field doing IT. Some of the health staff shouldn't be in the health care field.

I knew it!! For someone to be this funny, there has to be balance. You are so smart and so genuine and you give yourself permission and I can see that is why you only accept a person that loves you for the real you.

Damn. I feel like I dodged a bullet. I was close to choosing nursing as a career. This vid def helped me make a decision for myself

I use the same eye brow pencil! I love that pencil by benefit!

Same situation here! I can't imagine being a nurse forever.

God bless you. I have a friend that went though trauma being a Nurse. You're not alone. Do what makes you happy. Your smart.

Thank you for sharing your experience.

me tearing up at this video a whole year late… i needed this. thank you michelle, i’ll always be rooting for you always 🥺

Love this video! Super relatable!

That's just so precious that you have this maturity and being able to be yourself at such a young age while most of the adults out there can only act like adults but no emotional intelligence/maturity at all😮 love you guys and your authenticity ❤❤❤

There are some amazing things nurses do outside of hospitals that you can still do if you wanted to. Like case management and home care needs or hospice. You don't need to work in a clinic setting to achieve success. In my county we have a program looking for nurses that go into homes and do a mommy baby visit 6 weeks after birth and that would be so much fun. You would be great at anything but consider a lateral movement rather than a complete change.

I think you just have to find a non toxic environment. I quit on my previous employer where co worker are just complete trash and toxic. Then just found the right one, nice and understanding workmates, a nurse job is always gonna be stressful, but if you're sorrounded with people who empower and help you, you'll going to survive in your nursing carrer.

I needed this. Had a whole career change after 4 years of grad school and hated the field after I was done with my internships. My field was not in nursing but in counseling. Parents were not happy about this. Thank you for talking about your experience.

You're very inspiring! Thank you!

I pray the best of blessings to you both

Thank you Michelle for your sharing.

That’s too bad! I never respond to your channel but I always like it! I am sad that you are quitting now after all the work the tears and the time put in…! If you don’t like the crappy nursing stuff you might can be the one who can help the patient and the one can advocate the patient! You are right…! Being a nurse is not fantasy but helping others who in need!

Nice video. Thanks for the honesty.

I commend those who go through struggles like that especially nurses that’s why there’s a high demand. Be careful of IT at the moment due to layoffs happening as we speak. If getting into software engineering or coding is your goal, then go for it, but just keep at it and consider the state of economy. IT is my bread and butter, let me know if you need anything Michelle 😊

Am glad you shared your experience because i was thinking about nursing

I'm glad you are pursuing what makes you happy. Good for you girl ❤ i wish you the best! Also, yes, everyone has their own timeline.

Hi Michelle! Just wanted to say that You and Andy are the cutest couple, and You two compliment one another so very much! Always make me laugh, and I look forward to watching Your videos on RU-vid. Anyway, I can TOTALLY relate to Your career change. After working in the ED for over 20 years, I burned out. I don't like people too much anymore, except for my Loved Ones. I work in the Lab now, and specimens don't talk back. 😉 Anyway, I am very happy that You acknowledged Your need for a change so early on, and pursue what will make You happy in the long run. Looking forward to Your upcoming videos, and God Bless. ❤ 💐 🥰

Im a freshman this year in college and i got into the nursing program. For years all I wanted to do was nursing. I loved the idea of a crazy environment where my help is always needed. My last year of high school and getting my certificate to be a medical assistant, i began getting cold feet. I began realizing that I didnt like the environment. I dont want to see people suffering from sickness, i dont want to deal with coworkers that may not appreciate teamwork, i dont want to wear scrubs all day, and I dont want to become desensitized to life and death. Im upset because my family always pushed me to be in nursing and here i am going to college and got into the pre nursing program. It may be too late to change majors, but I just know Ill be depressed being a nurse. But im happy that i took that CTE medical class at my school. It gave me a look into what ill be doing. And i wasnt happy. I was unhappy with the mindset and reasons my classmates had for being a nurse, i just lost love. Im really scared. Im terrified. I wish i can see myself 10 years from now and see what makes me happy. Its wild to me that i have to pick a career that will effect my entire life. Its a life decision and leaving the major means alot. Im terrified but im grateful for watching your video. I resonated with it. Take care.

respect and honor to you Michelle

Hi I've been watching you for a while now and are very funny and also I hope you have a good life

That's the reality, you get weaved out and if your passion is just not into it, its better to just take a different path. Sometimes its hard to do that since youve sacrificed a lot of time and placed plenty of effort into doing something that you want. Best of luck to your next journey, theres always going to be people that are lazy in every industry, just dont ever let that get to you, just be you.

You and Andy are funny together. The perfect blend

I am literally going through the same thing, not with nursing but had a job for the last 7 years where now I hate it and I am thinking of a career change to IT. Could you please share more about what classes are you taking if any? Thank you and you are not alone!

Never watched any of your videos. But coming from watching your shorts, this the most calm I've ever seen you. That being said, I'm going through a career break myself and decided to take up retail since I can afford to not get paid more after trying to pursue animation. It feels nice to have this video recommended to me and made me feel less alone since my family is a "work in office or nothing" kind of people. Animation was nice but it never worked out for me but maybe it works more as a hobby.

It’s so true I have been doing this for 20 years now and the sad part is I noticed that my heart is not there anymore the saddest part is I don’t know what I even want to do anymore. I’ve been so burnt out from all this for me it’s not my patients but my coworkers

I get it with giving up for nursing. I used to strive and think it was what I wanted to do but now I realized after 3 years, it's not the same passion I onced had for it. I do understand that it's not for anyone and there will always be nurses or health care professionals that do it more for the money. Good luck with IT and trust it's never too late to give up on the right career. I'm turning 24 and I realized comparing myself with other people isn't the way to do things. I have to focus on my career path first

Thank you I literally need this atm. I have failed 4th quarter and idk if I want to go back❤❤

Sis… I have been there.. I am feeling lost after working for about 13 years. .. I wish I have the courage to quit like you do. .. wish I could be able to do it sooner or soonest..

Soooo many people WISH they could be this brave ❤