The Malay Muslim believed so much of giving to others, whether in wedding ceremony, house warming, thanksgiving day, they will never withhold by giving the best to the visitors, guests, inpite of any races, I really enjoyed makan as much as I can when I attended all this function, Malaysian Malay likes to bless others, Kaz, don't feel obligated just eat as much as you can, pls enjoy with them😇😇😇
Thanks to dayah & harith as well as their family for allowing me to extend the invitation to kaz. Selamat Pengantin Baru 🥰 Aside from some explanations in video, of course we had a lengthy discussion off the video. Well i am not an expert, its merely an impromptu sharing of my limited knowledge. I believe many kind-hearted subscribers will describe it better in the comments section. 🤗🙏 As much as this is a new experience for Kaz, I believe I am learning something too. Thanks to Kaz for joining me. Dont stop exploring since each of them gonna give you different kind of experience. Keep in touch ya! 🤗
Traditionally Malay wedding is mainly to announce to the whole village and relatives that the bride & groom are married. Which is why there's so many people invited. It's time for relatives to meet and catch up. You can come and go at any time, even before the actual wedding ceremony. The cake cutting is more of a modern day integration from western culture, and people are so used to the usual way of coming, meeting the hosts, eat, and go back, regardless of what's happening in front.
During wedding season ( normally on school holidays), it's pretty common to be invited at least 2, 3 or more wedding on the same date. We tried to go all weddings to honor them. That's one of the reasons typical malay weddings were casual. People usually meet the bride /grooms and their parents to congratulate them . After eating,then rushing to next wedding venue. Probably next time you should experience nikah ( solemnization) ceremony. Only family and close friends invited. So it's more intimate.
I don't know about other countries but in Malaysia, a wedding, typically the Malay wedding is a community affair instead of being confined to family and friends only. That's why in the past it was customary for the whole village to work together to prepare for the big day.
In japan most people invited close friends and relatives only right? But in malaysia, some parents even invited their friends to come to the wedding of their child. In other words, the parents' friends dont even know their child but came because they were invited. So cutting cake for malay wedding arent really a big deal, usually only the close family will focus on that. 1000 people or even more than that can come and go anytime, so, thats the reason why the situation was chaotic and got people standing there. But thats not really a big deal unless you go to a high-class wedding where you got an emcee who asked you to sit down etc. But as someone who grew up and has experienced attending malay wedding, the one you went to is pretty common for a regular citizen. Besides for malay muslim traditional wedding, akad nikah is more important than this ceremony. Akad nikah is where you will see everyone focusing on the bride and the groom :) Wedding ceremony was being held to announce people that they are married and to celebrate guests. Hence why people just enjoy eating at the wedding, greet them and give some money.
Kaz, the black porridge is actually black sticky rice cooked into porridge, and sweetened with sugar. Some pour coconut milk, but some use milk to top up before eating it. You can eat it warm or chilled. It's called Bubur Pulut Hitam.
Konnichiwa Kaz San. Cake cutting is a new thing that is incorporated in Malay weddings. Culturally, it is never practiced. The intent of inviting friends etc is to acknowledge as many people of of the happy union n hoping those who attended the wedding will bless the couple w many happiness on their special RAJA SEHARI .... 😊
culturally, I think we have something similar. back then in the 70s, they used to cut pulut kuning. cake cutting isn't relatively new. my parents were wedded in late 70s and they had both pulut & cake cutting, and they're just simple orang kampung. but of course, the cake was a simple malay kampung cake (kek kukus), nothing fancy.
By the looks of things, I won't be surprised if we see Kaz's Malay wedding in the near future... 😂 and at 7:00, what you are eating is not red bean, it's black glutinous rice cooked with santan. It's a very popular dessert in Malaysia.
Kaz,it is not rude in Malaysia to eat first before the event start as in Malaysia,wedding event is huge inviting hundreds and some even 1k of people. If we were to eat at one time,it will be very havoc/busy as compared to Japanese wedding which is more smaller and intimate.Plus usually the wedding event place is not that huge so as people come and go,other people who come in later will have space to sit etc. Same reason why cake cutting event is not highlighted as cake cutting is more for pictures etc and incorporated in wedding events during the modern days, unless you went for high end wedding in hotels etc..Every culture in every country is different so embrace it. 👍👍👍
That acar buah is some kind of pickled dish contain few type of fruits Kaz. Common fruits that are put in the pickled mixture are lime, asam, cherry, Ambra and many more
Kaz this is another great observation; welcome to our buffet casual style wedding. There is no sense of decorum, its about makan, salam, and gifts. That is it.
The important moment in Malay and Muslim wedding is the time when the groom take an oath (akad nikah) as he sign the wedding agreement. The event usually happened earlier maybe one day before "bersanding". The second moment is "bersanding". Others such cutting cake is adoption from other cultures.
Untuk pengetahuan Kazz, acara potong kek bukan acara penting dlm majlis kawin melayu. Itu optional saja. Mostly acara tu tak dibuat pun hanya sekadar suka2 utk bergambar saja. Acara yg paling penting ialah majlis akad nikah hanya keluarga terdekat sahaja invited. Majlis kenduri dibuat sebagai pengumunan kepada orang awam supaya tidak berlaku fitnah kepada mempelai.
The porridge is called "bubur pulut hitam". u can find it at pasar if you crave it. Or cook it yourself, its a simple desert. Some wedding just have a simple decoration or no decoration at all, they just make it neat and clean. Usualy malay wedding they pay attention to food, to make sure everyone can enjoy the food. Make sure no one is hungry.
In Malaysia it's not rude to come and eat anytime as you like during the wedding ceremony because the concept is to celebrate the guests for coming. Even sometimes you dunno the bride oso you can come and eat. Cutting cake oso not important lah. We just do it for fun oni. No need to pay attention.
@@Priceless77 Ya ya oni family member or close frens pay attention. Others can come, eat and go. That's the Malay wedding concept lor. They oni want people to come and finish food. Very generous one.
cutting the cake is not an important part of Malay weddings, Kaz. it is just a borrowed ritual originating from Western cultures. it might be important to the bride and her groom, but not so for the guests. Malays are grateful enough when guests do come to their ceremonies and eat the food that were prepared for them.
@Apple Isaac William share.. it just when the cutting ceremony mostly just for bride and groom.. mostly for taking the moment of cutting cake ceremony.. after that.. they will distribute all the cake for the guest and family members. 😁
In Japan, the invited guests are very close people to the wedding couple, normally small ceremony with limited numbers. In Malaysia, invitation is openly done by the couple, parents, siblings. Even uncles and aunties of the couples normally invite their friends. So not all attendees know the couple personally. When I was in Japan, 30k yen (RM1000) is the minimum you should bring as the wedding gift if you get invited. In Malaysia, you can give money (RM30 onward) or any other presents like electrical /kitchenware/ household appliances.
Hahah I personally will consider the cost for food & goodies per head (which usttotalled up to more than RM10 nowadays). So I usually will give the amount that suit the cost per head because I know how some brides and grooms had to save up just for the reception. But the amount doesn’t matter actually. It’s the thoughts that count I guess. Idk if you guys knew this but in Javanese weddings, those who gave money write their names on the envelope. I was shocked at first because letting yourself known is contrary to the act of sedekah but my mom explained that it’s a normal thing in the Javanese culture. When you know who gives you how much, you’ll know how much you’re expected to give back if that person invites you to their children’s wedding later. Some families even list out who gives how much and keep it for future reference haha. Just wanna share because I find it interesting ✌🏻
@@Ruriko.Y previously I also gave RM10. Then during the last Ramadan, I found out the cheapest buffet (not hotel) is around RM40 - RM60 and that was quite similar to the food we normally eat at wedding events. So only after that, I think it is not appropriate to give RM10 anymore.
@@atiqahrahim4273 wow nice sharing. That's an effective way to determine our priority. Previously I also gave around RM10 per head. But then during the last Ramadan, I found out the cheapest iftar buffet (not hotel) is around RM40 - RM60 and that was quite similar to the food we normally eat at wedding event. So only after that, I think it is not appropriate to give RM10 anymore. So if the person getting married is very close to us, I'll give more.
Yes i agree that malay wedding is more casual.. everyone want to go to wedding because we want to show love and support to a newly wed. Everyone can go to the wedding even if u not invited officially (of course u need to be someone known by bride n groom or the family) and the pax for wedding is from 500 to 2000 people.. That is why people need to be hurry to eat and say hello to couple then go.. coz they want to give a space to other people to use the table.. Different with japan.. it is more formal and closed. Basicly less than 100 people. (Family and office/schoolmate only) And to show some respect basicly they need to give atleast 30000yen(rm1200) per pax.. this is equivalent to the food and also for door gift. Maybe bcoz of this some japanese dont like to get invited.
Before pandemic,most of malay wedding ceremony will invite almost 500 to 1000 people....we believe that the more people are coming,the more blessing we got...and of course we hope the invited guest will pray for the bride...
Sabahan wedding style maybe a bit same with Japan. But we also can eat anytime we want. When groom and bride want to cut the cake, we will take picture and video also. Very excited to see that moment.
We pay attention to the nikah ceremony, bersanding is just for families to know the bridal couple, and to let the two families get to know each other so that if they accidentally met somewhere else they will greet each other and won't be strangers
Malay wedding reception lasts from morning till late afternoon and sometimes, 1000 guests are invited. Hence, you may come any time and eat when you come and leave to make way for other guests. Then, you can continue to attend other weddings as well.
We used to be like that in my kampung, super strict about eating time. No one will start eating until invited to. Nowadays not anymore, ever since the buffet style was introduced.
@@kazinkl for me i prefer the buffet style nowdays because catering contractor will take care of the rest, unlike traditional kenduri wedding it all arrange by villagersin the spirit of cooperative. It tooks time and messy. Still got in the village.
Dulu2 di kampung mmg org tak dpt nak bagi sapa dtg dulu boleh makan dulu sbb hidangan pun limited mengikut kiraan tetamu. Tak mampu org nak sediakan lebih. Kang yg dtg kemudian tak merasa makan nasik kenduri. Sekarang ni ada rezeki lebih, komuniti pun ramai yg kerja jd kita sub kan majlis dgn memberikan upah pd katerar utk uruskan makan minum tetamu. Dan of course bila buffet Malaysia style mmg kena sediakan lebih sbb kdg2 org kita ni suka ambik byk, pastu tak habis makan.
just to share my personal experience, in my kampung, we still “merewang” to cook the food for the guests in buffet style. So no particular eating time as well.
When i was single. I just go to any wedding i see.. not knowing any body there. Just go and sit and start conversations with young and old. Just said you are the friend with the groom's , and every thing will be ok. I was very hungry when i was young. Btw. I meet my wife at some random wedding some body i dont know. Now im with their families now.
Cake cutting is not part of original culture/tradition in malay wedding. There are many wedding ceremony especially in rural dont have cake cutting event. The main objective of malay wedding to let guest know that the couple is just newly wedd, and feed the guest. As a guest, attending the wedding and juts taste the food a little bit (if u already full) is already sufficient to show respect.
In Malaysia malays actually we have 2 types of wedding celebrations, this kind that you attend is quite semi formal and does not have specific ritual like merenjis, silat pengantin, singing band etc usually done with big budget and formal. the formal wedding like in Japan the guest has to wait to bride and groom arrived and follow the sequel of event conduct by a MC. concept of "raja sehari" or king and queen for a day applied with both types.
The wedding looks fun! Great to see you having experience in Malay wedding. Idk about others but my family from Johor has that little tradition of dance time between the family members after all guests went back home. 😊
That is bubur pulut hitam. Pulut hitam is another type of rice, it is glutinous and purplish black in color. Usually no artificial coloring used in making that bubur.
Attendance and enjoying the meal are the most important part in Malay wedding. Fulfilling the invitation and meeting the house owner, father and mother of the bride and groom.
a malay wedding reception is all about giving & sharing food and to celebrate the bride & groom. that's why back then when people used to hold weddings at their homes, people even invited complete strangers to their kenduri.
Muslim is strongly encourage, if not a must, to announce their marriage to the whole village or community, at least to avoid misunderstanding once the couple are together!
Usually, we have two wedding session, in the day we do it in traditional way, the whole village will help in cooking and stuff. In the night (can be in the next day or a week later) the western way adopted from British, the groom and guests will wear western clothing, there's cutting cake ceremony and sometime dancing. But today, because of economy issue and other related issues, most people just combine it all to save budget. My parents and my sister have two wedding sessions, my late brother just one for some reasons
Wedding cake is not part of Malay culture actually...wedding ceremony aka kenduri kahwin is actually invitation to community to let them know the married couple, getting together, makan2..even families n community getting together preparing n cooking all the food for kenduri kahwin are part of Malay culture which is called 'rewang' but nowadays many uses catering service instead
for commoners, wedding reception is just a casual celebration where people come and go without much protocols. it will be different for royals or rich people where set protocols and itineraries, sometimes even set color theme for guest .. often at hotels.. but all in all.. wedding reception for commoners are like this one.. casual, light and easy with happy vibes...
For your information Kaz what the important thing for our Muslim is ( akad nikah) cutting cake 🍰 only for one of the part of the seremony only for fun too 👍👍👍
Kaz, can you share the recipe for red bean soup with mochi for us..I'm very interested in watching it in the anime one piece😄..they like to eat red bean soup..red bean porridge is my favorite..so I really want to taste Japanese red bean soup ..thank you
The only important time and quiet during Malay wedding is during the "Nikah" ceremony which we do it in a mosque or at the wedding hall. It is an Islamic moment. Other time is not important
In our Malay culture, we only have closed events during the Solemnization which is usually open to close family from both sides as the focus for Bride & Groom. But for the wedding ceremony, it's basically an open invitation to all unless it's the RSVP kind of wedding
The concept of malay wedding is to (1) introduce new family member to the big family and friends (2) feed the guests. Guests come, see the new member (bride or groom) eat and say congrats to the parents and leave. If you go to a wedding, you just help yourself to the buffet and be happy, that is all that the hosts expect from you. Thats why sometimes its not weird for us to attend three to four weddings in one day 🤣
The most important ceremony is the nikah ceremony which is attended by close family and friends in their house or masjid. Meanwhile this kenduri is to invite everyone to celebrate together casually.
Why not giving attention to groom & bride from dining table is common thing that aren’t impolite? Because traditionally.. • Bride & groom always indoors. Whoever wanna pay respects need to enter house and sprinkle aromatic mixed/handshake/say some wishes/offer gifts. • Dining setup traditionally outdoors. So people who are invited aren’t facing groom & bride while eating until a moment groom & bride walk outside to greet people table by table/canopy by canopy. This culture shape common sense among society that whoever wanna pay respects need to face nearly bride & groom. Offered meals just a charity without aiming anything in return from guests like paying attention while eating etc.
there is actually 2 part of a wedding ceremony. the solemnization or nikah ceremony (wedding ceremony) is usually done with close family and thats the formal part where every part of the ceremony is truly observed. the one here is the wedding reception where its more on food...thats why you are quite surprise. its not rude, just the formal part of the wedding is not at this occasion... its meant for food and talking ...not the ceremony.
Typical malay wedding ceremony usually we attend to mkn2 🤣🤣🤣 also give some present to start their marriage life or some angpow, take some pictures and go home. Kaz try attend chinese and indian weddings, we'll see some cultural difference. But i think they should have like a table full of luxury food specially for the bride and groom to have their food called "makan ber...." Beradab? Berhidang? Ugh i forget those word help me please 🤣🤣🤣
malay wedding usually invite alot of people....if everybody come at same time wont have enough table....usually they come,eat,greeting and go back people can come anytime no set specific time usually open house for 6 hours or so even unknown ppl are being invited eventhough the couple didnt know them
in quran there is amal makroof. means give people courtesy or their freedom. and nahi mungkar means forbid atrocities. so in events like this you can see muslim usually give freedom to guest. Eat and be joyous on the day that they also have joy.
You can safely say, the host normally didn't know more than 50% of the guest personally. They may be friends of friends, or neighbour they never met, or kids of your friends.
There are also the formal wedding funtion here where we waited for the bride and groom to arrive before we can start eating . But nowadays due to limited space ,buffet style much being adopted so that more guests can be invited . At the same time those invited at the reserved table have to wait for the bride and groom before they can start eating 😊
I think you should explain to him that for malay muslim the akad nikah( solemization) are the most important. It is the main event. Everybody give full focus on it because it's the religious matter. Wedding celebration like bersanding, cake cutting and all the partieing are not that important. * sorry to say that from what i see most japanese and korean don't understand it because they don't have religion. Many malays also don't understand and give them the wrong info.
Dont worry Kaz, incase im going to marry, ill invite you and you just roaming around finding food casually 🤣🤣🤣, im much more happier 😂 its like hari raya 🤣
KAZ cutting cake ceremony in malaysia weading is not common , in kampung there is no cake cutting ceremony usually done after weading during the bride open their gift that why ususally done with relative and close fren.
My mom malayu...father Indian Tamil Muslim...iam only living Tamil nadu. My 2 brothers, 3 sisters living in alor star. Yearly one time visit Malaysia see my mom and BRS, sis..that people all Malay culture. Iam only Tamil Muslim culture. Happy family's
Panjang lebar nak komen tentang video ni terutamanya isu potong kek, isu makan terlebih dahulu sebelum ketibaan pengantin, isu tak peduli dan tidak sopan. Harap ada viewer yang boleh komen dalam bahasa inggeris untuk bagitahu Kaz dengan tepat tentang apa yang wajib, apa yang sunat, apa budaya luar yang jadi ikutan dalam majlis perkahwinan masyarakat melayu. Penting supaya dia tak salah faham dan ada persepsi buruk terhadap budaya kita. Kalau saya mampu bagitahu dia dalam bahasa inggeris dengan baik, pasti saya dah komen 😅
Tulis sahaja dalam bahasa melayu, kalau dia punya RU-vid sentiasa updates, akan ada translate bahagian bawah tulisan tu... Tak lari banyak pun struktur ayat bahasa jepun dan melayu. Apatah lagi dia belajar bahasa melayu...
Malays wedding is makan, makan, makan. You can start and stop at anytime you like if you only have one invitation, normally on the weekend we have many many wedding invitations, so we don't eat too much at one wedding. It's not nice if you don't attend the wedding invitation if you invited.
This is wedding reception, not the 'nikah' ceremony (the real wedding vow). During nikah@vow, people do not eat and pay attention to the nikah@vow process. Nikah@vow ceremony, only closest family and friends are invited. Close ceremony. What u attended in this video is wedding reception, like after wedding party.
cutting the cake is not the malay culture maybe that is the reason we are not focus the moment..we came to the wedding feast just to fulfill the invitation..normally we just enjoy the food, taking pictures and chatting.
