Why Japanese Wives Hate Foreign Husbands

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These are examples of why a Japanese Wife may start hating their foreign husband. As many of you know, I’ve been married to my Japanese wife Maiko, for over 3.5 years now in Japan. During this time I’ve learned first hand quite a bit about what Japanese women culturally expect when living with a Foreign Husband, like me from the United States, so I wanted to share some hopefully useful points. And to be fair, today’s examples of cultural issues are not just from Maiko and I, some points I learned from my married foreign male friends with Japanese wives or my Japanese wife friends with their foreign husbands over many years living in Japan. This is a list of cultural relationship issues, that without compromise, have created many fights, ongoing arguments, resentment, and even hate leading some married couples into divorce. Like many lists like this though, these are generalizations and not every single Japanese woman or foreign man is like this but if you are planning to get married here in Japan these are some things to be aware of so you don’t end up hating your partner. Also, this list can be applied if you’re foreign female with a Japanese husband. Finally, if you’re already married in Japan, let me know how these ones sit with you and if there are any things that I missed.
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@PaolofromTOKYO Год назад

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@ropro9817 Год назад

I literally LMFAOd after Paolo's intro: This is why Japanese wives hate their foreign husbands 🤣🤣🤣

@SpammytheHedgehog Год назад

*The title of the video* Me: My Japanese wife disagrees.

@itzwindows Год назад

HERE BEFORE MAX REPLIES

@ropro9817 Год назад

lol, Japanese people are so anal. And I say this as a Japanese person myself! 🤣

@josermaiz Год назад

So rice bowl can be use for cereals or soup

@lezivanerrol3697 Год назад

I've been married to a Chinese lady for 45 years. Nearly all of these same cultural practices apply to Chinese as well. However, my wife refuses to freeze any food or buy frozen food. Shops every day. Clothes dryer, dish washer - never been used. Oven - never been used for cooking. Ovens are for storing bananas.

@themechanicalgirl6669 Год назад

Banana fridge! I like it!

@awegahn Год назад

Same here

@lezivanerrol3697 Год назад

We live in a near older near CBD suburb. Wifey doesn't drive at all. She walks. Fortunately supermarkets and shopping malls are walking distance - less than 1 Km (half a mile). Asian food shops are close by. She doesn't know how to cook Western food and I never bothered to show her how. She cooks Nyonya food (for those who know). She enjoys western food but we need to eat out for her to eat it. She's ethnic Chinese from another Asian country - I met her there - I worked there for 10 years. We speak a melange of her language and English.

@jinz0 Год назад

your fucked up

@youraveragepasser-by7367 Год назад

@@lezivanerrol3697 I'm assuming Malaysian Chinese? Because of Nyonya

@Leightr Год назад

When I worked in Hokkaido as a JET the other JETS who had been there awhile gave us a orientation guide to help navigate the culture. Food, driving, shopping, dealing with your Japanese boss, lots of useful information. There was a section on dating. The part for foreign women wanting to date Japanese men was several pages long detailing how not to scare them off and act "cute". Bits on how to talk, how to dress, how to drink, what to expect if you got him back to your place, etc, etc. The part for foreign men wanting to date a Japanese woman I will quote here in it's entirety: "Go into a bar. Sit down. Wait for them to come."

@finless82 Год назад

I laughed the longest on this one 🤣 😂

@stonetrouble5053 Год назад

JET? Jury-rigged, Explosive Toupee?

@pandaman1331 Год назад

The legendary gaijin hunters. I personally wouldn't recommend them though.

@mikeviscusi5681 Год назад

Former Akkeshi JET in East Hokkaido. Do not go near the Gaijin Hunters. I had plenty come on to me over there, and like the old saying goes “Never Look a Gift Horse in the Mouth”… I did, and am I glad I did

@julioalvarado7548 11 месяцев назад

Is this true Bro? Lmao

@3DPrintingGuy411 8 месяцев назад

i agree with the bath/shower before bed. i like to feel refreshed before going to bed.

@thehornguild 10 месяцев назад

I'm married to a Japanese woman, and although we live in the U.S., I must say you were "spot-on" in every issue you brought up. Good work.

@andreapassante5653 10 месяцев назад

Funnily enough none apply to my wife (also Japanese). Maybe living in Italy makes the difference?

@CommanderBunbun-fx5xu 8 месяцев назад

Bruv I understand showering before going to bed and in the morning but no AC during summer and no heating during winter. It's my second year in Canada, that won't cut it. I'll freeze to death. Put your foot down.

@CommanderBunbun-fx5xu 8 месяцев назад

You probably made her understand who wears the pants.

@Reeks-bi1mr 5 месяцев назад

How is your sex life? Many foreign men are saying that sex stops after children? Is that true?

@michi4056 3 месяца назад

same my wife is japanese ( married in 2010) and i'm not ok with this video@@andreapassante5653

@Auroramuffintops Год назад

Speaking as an African American from Texas, I grew up taking baths at night before bed. The logic behind why we take baths at night are exactly the same as what you explained in the video. The bed is for clean bodies and clothes. But anyway, I am a huge fan of your content! You have an unique production style to your videos! I love them and I can’t wait to watch your next one! 💙💙

@bobdonda Год назад

from a northern state, I'd definitely take a shower if it was a hot day and I had been outside and sweating... but on most days it feels like (or I was raised to believe) I'm clean enough, because we've never been hot and sweaty. obviously it's still less clean than a shower or bath before bed, but it seems like it's good enough. plus I just prefer to shower in the morning, it wakes you up and helps you look your best before you go out for the day

@cyandeoidre2375 Год назад

I do that too

@cb142 Год назад

I'm white,southern, and my mom had us take a bath at night. I've taught my biracial kids bath at night and shower in the morning. Louisiana is either muggy or hot. I like the sheets to stay clean alittle while. Secondly I have always fixed a dish after someone spoons some out. It redistribute the heat in the food.

@rockyshocks101 Год назад

Yes, same. I don't like going to be sweaty and dirty from the day. It makes sense

@tellallyourfriends27 Год назад

I do the same. It's also a way to decompress for the day and relax enough to get a good sleep.

@edan8457 Год назад

Paolo is a genius for monetizing him admitting all the arguments he lost to maiko 😅

@mr.wescottx7129 Год назад

😂for real.

@grizzlyaddams3606 Год назад

What's weird is the fact that he still stands up to shit and she doesn't mind that one bit.

@alextapovski9305 Год назад

@@grizzlyaddams3606 read my comment above, these woman are born to play games with their spouses as its in their culture …she does mind dude but she will probably spill it all out like a organised list she kept in her little dark mental diary three years later when they get into a deeper argument for example…. She will also do it in a very cowardly way most likely a text message, as they avoid confrontation like vampires the sun and if he is as lucky as my good Aussie friend she will disappear with his three kids and never let him see them again as a punishment for speaking to her that way for all those years… then he will be lucky if he can keep living in Japan because he is on a spouse visa and spend every last ¥ on child support and a reasonably good lawyer who will be powerless to even get him visitation rights as the Japanese don’t follow up on the Hague treaty rules they signed I think as late as 2014 and they wont give a fuck about his gaijin ass…I speak from experience… 17 yrs in Japan and over 10 Japanese GF in Australia and two failed marriages. They are very good at making you feel like they are fine with you gaijin big mouth … Japanese men know this and must keep quiet as they see and grow up with these awkward mentally taxing on men wonderful parts of Japanese culture… PURE Brutal Truth ! Happens very often there !!!

@erwintan4746 Год назад

thanks for sharing, i thought my wife is the only one

@yogo1578 Год назад

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@FarmerKen355 7 месяцев назад

Wow.. my wife is Hong Kong Chinese and this list is exactly the points in our 20+ year marriage deals with. I am American living in Australia with her and these are the things that have created conflict in our marriage, or I should say could have created conflict as we have sorted these things out. Since living in rural Queensland where we shop only when we go to town the fresh food situation has been one where she had to learn that we buy in larger quantities and keep in storage. It took a bit of time for her to change from where she once lived and everything you want is just outside your door in a large cosmopolitan city to being a farm girl.. well almost a farm girl. Compromise is the key.

@feral_shade 2 месяца назад

I think there's an additional key I was once told that compromise was defined as 2 parties losing equally This seems fair in small amounts ...but I can't help but suspect that if both parties each lose too much...then both would be equally miserable ...which would be horrible for any relationship I think...though compromise is vital...it should coupled with acceptance (like, actual open-hearted acceptance, not bitter tolerance) Both measures have their limits...but I think having 2 options would but less strain on a relationship. 😊 (I'm just speaking theoretically and not judging...you've been married for 20+ years and I'm still single...so very obviously, you know what works 😅)

@Ryan-ju4pn 7 месяцев назад

So many things are true here for my Vietnamese wife. The sitting down to pee felt overbearing at first but after realizing that as much as I tried, I couldn't avoid all the splashing, I had to give in. It was either that or wipe the toilet down each time I used it. One thing I didn't realize would be so impactful was the lack of a shared pop culture we have with her growing up in Vietnam. It affects comedic movies primarily, which I love, and so many of the jokes go right over her head.

@horatiohuffnagel7978 6 месяцев назад

Bro how bad is your aim. Lol and of course you should always clean up your piss driblets. 😂

@aaronpatterson2369 5 месяцев назад

...only a woman and children sits to pee. She took your 🥜. Way to go...your WIFE is the head of your house.

@dDoodle788 5 месяцев назад

As a very much white and Western person (italian living in europe) I'm honestly quite shocked at the amount of people in this comment section that think that peeing while standing in your own home is normal, like, in Italy it's a thing reserved for particularly nasty public bathrooms. Is this just an American thing?

@paulpiasano9251 4 месяца назад

Yes, I experienced the same pop culture differences with my former Japanese wife. She never really laughed at most comedies, but found things extremely funny in Japanese movies or videos that might just be something repeated several times. We had little in common in this regard.

@JaapTedros 4 месяца назад

@@dDoodle788 West European now living in East Europe and I've never heard of that. Every guy I know pees standing up. Sitting down is for when you need to do a number 2. Or if you have some kind of physical problem preventing you from standing. I guess what must also matter a lot is the toilet size and shape, and how tall you are yourself.

@Alvy74 11 месяцев назад

After 20 years of relationship and 15 years of marriage, I can easily say that the number one source of misunderstandings and arguments is the direct (western) vs indirect (asian) communication style. Period.

@Ned-Ryerson 10 месяцев назад

That applies to us (German husband, English wife), too. Direct and indirect can have many nuances.

@GeraltofRiviaa88 10 месяцев назад

Don't know about East vs West. Brits can be equally dodgy if not worse. And I do mean dodgy.

@erickluviano981 10 месяцев назад

Women are already indirect , add being Asian on top of that and it’s a struggle (coming from someone who’s dated a Filipina) I could never tell wtf she wanted😂

@curbantula 10 месяцев назад

I think the problem is just women... has nothing to do with race

@christopherharvey5693 10 месяцев назад

What you're speaking of, sir, is not a western/eastern difference in communication culture, it's a world wide male/female phenomenon.

@shawnm2597 Год назад

I lived in Japan for over 15 years and were married for probably 10 of them before moving to the US, and we ran into some of the same issues. We never ran into the AC problem. But probably because we lived in Aomori-ken, so running A/C was not really an issue. Flat/fluffy rice... yes ran into this issue, but not enough to divorce. I still leave it flat, and she will make it fluffy after she takes her portion. But she doesn't get mad about it. Bath before sleep...yes had to deal with this one. However, she ALWAYS insisted I take a bath/shower first. So not really an issue. Frozen meat in the freezer...yes. Ran across this issue many times. I still keep frozen meats longer than 2 weeks. But most of the time we eat most of our meats before we get to the 2 week time frame. So again, not too much of an issue. When in Japan we always hung our clothes. When me moved to Hawaii I introduced her to the clothes dryer. At first she would still hang our clothes but then she saw she could get all the laundry done within a couple hours and no clothes left to hang-dry. She adapted just fine to a dryer because its way faster than an overnight hang. Getting the bowls right... I still mess them up. But as Maiko does, my wife doesn't get angry anymore as she knows I am far from perfect. If we go to her mom's house though, I better get it right or I will hear about it. As you say, its all about compromise. I have been compromising with my Japanese wife for over 25 years, and I'm hoping to continue well into the future. Take care... and forgive each other to stay together.

@MarcDufresneosorusrex 10 месяцев назад

I have found a real difference between Basmati and the short grain rice.. so adding some Basmate will provide some of that fluff

@JohnMiller-zr8pl 10 месяцев назад

"Probably" 10 😄

@Lilinhati5678 10 месяцев назад

10 of them 🤨?

@anu1776 10 месяцев назад

@@MarcDufresneosorusrexbasmati most based rice

@GigaNiga483 10 месяцев назад

@@anu1776 Yup

@OLDMANTEA 7 месяцев назад

Married to an Asian woman, I’ve retrained my brain to respond “of course, you’re right” to my wife concealing my eye roll. This was not an easy skill to master.

@Nundevwizer 5 месяцев назад

Bud, you learn that for ANY woman, not just Asian ones

@mahee96 5 месяцев назад

@@Nundevwizer😂😂 truth being told

@evanmccue736 4 месяца назад

Ah yes, the infamous simp mentality.

@casr01 4 месяца назад

I'll never understand how people consider that a healthy marriage.

@OLDMANTEA 4 месяца назад

@@casr01 it’s been healthy for over thirty years now. It’s called not sweating the small stuff.

@OldVikingSchool 8 месяцев назад

The dryer will reduce clothes life span, yes. But I'll highly recommend to use it without heat for like 15 minutes after hanger drying clothes just to catch dust and loose cotton particles.

@silver965 Год назад

The only one I would militantly stand my ground on is the AC. I absolutely cannot sleep while hot. It is a miserable experience, and as it is I tend to be a hot sleeper even with AC. The rest of it struck me as things I could learn to live with, and none of them struck me as hills worth dying on.

@Acarr224 Год назад

Currently having these talks with my Japanese partner haha Sitting to pee was annoying but I understand it. Like you, I have not relented on the AC issue. Im double her size and simply can't handle sleeping hot.

@Buonarotti10 Год назад

wall mounted ACs are practically silent and do not produce any noise.

@SubieNinja Год назад

growing up in AZ means you could actually die without AC so yeah I grew up very well accustomed to AC 24/7.

@paulmiyagi505 Год назад

@@Buonarotti10 Depends upon the size and type.

@giulyanoviniciussanssilva2947 Год назад

You even have to be a lot of gourd to keep pissing standing up the throne was made to sit down he demands it.

@kyleeeeeee_ Год назад

The classic air conditioner war. Never gets old lol. Just became a member and I have been watching your content since last year! Been watching your food videos and to-do's in Japan cuz I am planning to visit there once they open the borders! Keep it up kuya paolo!

@TheBaldr Год назад

It gets even better/worse in Japan because it almost always a mini-split(s) and not cental air.

@shenyuejia6997 Год назад

I believe the global warming and more frequent extreme hot weather may change that mindset😅

@lauriepenner350 Год назад

I once shared a hotel room with a girl from Vegas for a week. Turns out that a Canadian and a desert dweller have VERY different opinions about comfortable sleeping temperatures.😆

@MaddCB Год назад

I’m from the south… if I’m hot I turning that AC on

@redthechaotic1187 Год назад

I like to keep my room at 58F-65F

@jchopat2099 6 месяцев назад

The shower and bath one has been a frequent battle in the household for last couple of years. Paola, I genuinely had no idea it was a specifically Japanese thing, I just thought my wife was nuts about it. Thank you!

@ottopartz1 2 месяца назад

I really like hanging my clothes out to dry, but I live near Chicago and with the winter weather I do resort to using the dryer. However I have an electric dryer and a really trick filtering setup that vents the hot moist air into the house, it really makes the house so nice having that scent and extra moisture during the brutal cold snaps.

@sarahmcbryde6914 Год назад

As an Aussie, I totally agree with the drying clothes outside ethos. The clothes dryer is reserved for the towels and those days where it's just too rainy. Otherwise, they're out on the Hills Hoist in the sun. We were actually told about the antibacterial qualities of sunlight during antenatal classes and the fact the sun can help reduce stains.

@jpkg1017 Год назад

Totally agree with you. Sweaty smell goes away quickly after washing and hanging sweaty clothes in the sun!

@ign_Kage Год назад

When I lived in Australia, the sun bleaching was something that was unpleasant for me.

@butterpecanrican_ Год назад

@@ign_Kage I was gonna say doesn't the sun bleach the clothes? I wear a lot of brightly colored clothes, that would suck lol

@ign_Kage Год назад

@@butterpecanrican_ yeah dude any dark clothing of mine would start to turn orange, it was kind of wild, plus I can’t count how many spiders we found on out hang dryer hahahaha

@butterpecanrican_ Год назад

@@ign_Kage OH GOD 😭😭😭😭

@Scott-J Год назад

The bed as a clean space is kind of a compelling argument.

@tainadeoliveira 8 месяцев назад

Making rice fluffy, leaving shoes out, and bathing before going to bed at all basic rules to follow in Brazil too. As for dryer machines, I've never seen anyone have one but I'm pretty sure it's because most people can't afford it... or don't really need it. everything dries quickly from spring to autumn unless it rains or you live in a cold town

@tovarishcheleonora8542 3 месяца назад

To be honest, drying machines not really worth it to begin with. Because it will dry for free and natural drying actually gives an amazing smell to the things, especially if it's done outdoors. Also people should have enough clothes at home to not need the freshly washed ones instantly, or should not wait until they run out of clean clothes. And here in europe if you have a drying machine then people will think that you're got americanized (and never in positive way).

@VDA19 Месяц назад

@@tovarishcheleonora8542 A drying machine dries way faster than the air, it's a no contest. These people are just stuck in the past and refuse to modernise. Japan is incredibly stubborn in changing its old ways.

@macnof 5 месяцев назад

The more I learn about Japanese culture, the more similar to my native Scandinavian culture I find it. It's kinda wild that going halfway around the globe, across cultures that increasingly becomes different from my own, and then suddenly, it becomes similar again.

@SvengelskaBlondie 5 месяцев назад

It's quite similar cause for the longest time, both regions have been quite isolated from the world. While Scandinavia wasn't "as" isolated as Japan, it was still not that easy to travel to it until commercialized flights became cheap. Scandinavia has also been quite "off the beaten path", the vast majority of at least Swedish history has been population booms followed by a good chunk migrating to other places (The Danes had their period of migration to England and northern France, creating Normandy). Funny enough, at least the tribes of Sweden had some basic contact with Rome at one point where they traded animal pelts with the romans. Caesar might have written something about that in his commentarii, I remember he was quite fascinated by moose.

@dydx_ Месяц назад

@@SvengelskaBlondie "Scandinavia was still not that easy to travel to it until commercialized flights became cheap"? What the fuck are you talking about? The world doesn't revolve around America weirdo. Also most of the similarities are similar to Germany as well. Like seriously, what the fuck has commercialized flights to do with living in isolation. Where is your brain?

@mikeat2637 Год назад

I'm an American, but I don't have an Asian wife. Regarding the rice fluffing, I learned from my Mom, who was Italian, that you ALWAYS fluff the rice once it's cooked, and the best way to do it is with a wooden fork, NOT a metal one, with wide tines to evenly fluff the rice. And I tell you, it works like a charm. Try it on your wife and see how she likes it.

@inisipisTV Год назад

In the Philippines (Paolo’s mom and dad are from the Philippines) we don’t fluff our rice. It’s more on the Tropical weather here and the more you fluff or spoon the cooked rice, the humidity here spoils the rice very quickly. So it’s a rule once the rice is cooked, don’t touch it until you’re about to eat. Don’t even open the lid to see it cooking.

@mikeat2637 Год назад

@@inisipisTV Thanks for the info, it definitely makes sense. No matter how old you are, you learn something new every day. Mabuhay !!!!!

@ErickVargas-qt5sk Год назад

I dony understand u point

@mannyb7949 Год назад

Here in Peru we also fluff the rice after it's been cooked, you have to, it gives rice a nice texture.

@mikeat2637 Год назад

@@mannyb7949 Especially when you are looking to mix it with other foods to give it a perfect consistency.

@kellielow385 Год назад

About the bathtub: I had an aunt marry a Japanese man and moved there. One thing she shared about bath customs was that Japanese people tend to shower using the shower outside of the tub, but a tub of water is drawn anyway to just soak in after washing their bodies, which explains the cleaning needed before using it. She also mentioned that the whole family would take turns soaking based on seniority, so by the time it was her turn, the water was already cold lol

@rsac43 Год назад

These days the baths are very automated. They will fill themselves to the perfect level and temperature and sound a chime when done. They will also maintain the temperature and water level. Of course in older baths, cold water would definitely be an issue.

@dorist7280 Год назад

Kellie is right about how the Japanese take a shower and bath. One thing I did not like, and I still do not like, is how they take baths in Japan. I learned in Japan that they use the same hot water in the tub for everyone in the family. Naturally, water gets dirty one person after another, even though they washed their body outside the tub. I took the bathtub first. If not, I drained it and refilled brand new hot clean water. After years of marriage, my Japanese husband liked my way.

@rpmstudios Год назад

@@rsac43 Dang, those exist? I live in the USA and all the average priced homes have normal baths that you just fill and adjust the temperature with a knob or handle.

@gogohmatui Год назад

@@dorist7280 Japanese people know that if you change the water in the bathtub one by one, it will be clean. However, for two people, the water and gas charges are double. Four times if you have two children. The Japanese do not waste resources.

@gd131 Год назад

its true.

@rikkic7000 9 месяцев назад

Appreciate the cultural insights. Japan is on my bucket list it’s a fascinating country

@NY_Mountain_Man 4 месяца назад

I had no idea. This video is very fun. Thank you.

@mckenziet1021 Год назад

American wife with Japanese husband here! He and his family have taught me all of these over the years and are very particular about them! They make sense to me though so I have accommodated pretty much all of these; we run a very Japanese household (and raise our kids in a more Japanese way) even though we live in the US :)

@markdavidson1049 Год назад

The AC issue is a big deal for me but I live in Texas. I am willing to tolerate as high as 74 degrees Fahrenheit but it needs to be augmented by desk or floor fans.

@meb5205 Год назад

That's just dumb. You should find more of a balance. Your heritage counts too.

@terencesdurag2823 Год назад

@@meb5205 What the American heritage? There isnt one for that. Plus based off of her comment shes fine that way

@momelendez9691 Год назад

@@terencesdurag2823 Mix of different heritages since America is a melting pot of cultures

@Scooty_Scooty Год назад

@@terencesdurag2823 American heritage as in illegally invading other nations and being disgusting warmongers?

@fannyagustina2033 Год назад

Hi Paolo, thanks for the interesting video. I’m Indonesian and totally agree about the fluffy rice. I also hate it when kids are too lazy to fluff the rice when happen to be the first one taking it from the rice cooker. One reason to fluff the rice is becoz usually the top part is drier while the bottom part is more moist, so fluff the rice when it is still hot even out the softness, and eventually, makes it taste better.

@peapod1217 Год назад

Totally agree. I'm Malaysian Chinese and we always fluff our rice

@amandas7659 Год назад

I’m half Indonesian/Australian. I grew up with my Australian parent and learned to fluff rice as a teenager from my host mother while on a school exchange in Japan. I can confirm that most Balinese people that I know do not fluff rice. They get annoyed and ask me why I’m bothering to fiddle around with the rice cooker, just eat it or move out of the way😅 Like, “ngapain aduk2 nasinya gitu, ambil makan dah!”

@julesverneinoz Год назад

Agreed on fluffing the rice. Also, just to clarify, you don't necessarily fluff the rice every time. You fluff the rice when rice is just cooked and scoop the bottom rice to the top. When you take a portion of rice and the bottom of the rice cooker is exposed though, you want to redistribute the rice to cover that exposed area. This is because with some models of rice cookers, that exposed area will introduce more heat in the rice cooker and dries the top layer of rice quicker.

@TeeBoyd88 Год назад

Oh I never thought of the top of the cooked rice being drier than the rest. This will definitely be a new habit for me. Thank you for the explanation :)

@aussietaipan8700 7 месяцев назад

This was interesting, thanks for presenting

@MJ-cz5gx 8 месяцев назад

Im Australian and a lot of these things resonate with me. Bath before bed, no shoes in the house, fluff the rice. I only use a dryer on the coldest / wettest days when the clothes just aren't drying. I didn't grow up with air con so even though i have air con now, i rarely use it and prefer to keep the windows and doors open.

@tovarishcheleonora8542 3 месяца назад

Why not keep an indoors drying rack or whatever is it called? For those days.

@miyukisenpai4309 Год назад

Very interesting take on relationships in Japan especially within couples that have different culturally backgrounds. KEEP THE VIDS COMING!

@PaolofromTOKYO Год назад

Thank you! Will do!

@maegalroammis6020 Год назад

it's just tyrannical

@monikakubalova1516 Год назад

So we have a similar situation in the Czech Republic. We also shower in the evening to go to bed clean. After arriving at the house, we take off our shoes and change into comfortable home clothes. And in our family, we also sleep with an open window even in winter. Unless it's extremely cold or stormy. And so we prefer to dry our clothes in the fresh air. It saves a lot of energy.

@Angelsh1ne Год назад

Exactly. While watching the video, I thought to myself that I must be a Japanese woman.

@oo8962 Год назад

How about mosquitoes? In my country, if I open the window even for like 10 minutes only, mosquitoes would all rush in like a starved little vampires. I need to choose between can't sleep because of heat or can't sleep because of mosquito bites.

@Angelsh1ne Год назад

@@oo8962 We use a net for the window frame, the air can flow and the mosquitoes won't get through.

@paulmason806 7 месяцев назад

Thanks, this explains a lot. My wife is Vietnamese but we have many similar issues. Ovens for banana storage etc. was spot on for example.

@ranhat2 4 месяца назад

Really great, smart, educated video + talk.

@GailStandiford Год назад

Many of these same issues apply in cross-cultural relationships with women from other Asian countries. Being married for 50 years to a Malaysian, much of this sounded familiar. Compromise and understanding is key to make relationships last, particularly when East meets West!

@gillianfisher752 Год назад

I've watched a lot of vlogs over the years by foreigners living in Japan. While I don't gravitate towards them anymore, I always spare time for your videos. I love the natural and positive vibes you bring. It's like we're really there, getting a sense of what life is like for you and everyone else. Well done. ^.^

@CamilleShione 4 месяца назад

LOVE how you threw Biggie a shout out!!! Great video! Entertaining and informative. I also LOOOOOVE the cleanliness of Japanese culture. I always take my shoes off (Genkan) at the door and take a shower before bed. So cozy. 💖💖💖💖

@HillHomeGaming 5 месяцев назад

That was a very interesting video and definitely not something everyone has to think about to that extent but even marrying someone from the same country, just a different part of it, will have different expectations and traditions and it is a good idea to talk through all those things and figure out how you will deal with them as a couple!

@Mercurychick Год назад

I am filipino chinese and I was raised to always change my outside clothes to inside clothes when I get home. Good to know other cultures do this too.

@satoruzeieru183 Год назад

I am half fil japanese and i think this is common jn asian countries as we emphasize cleanliness

@1792dt Год назад

Filipino in California we do this to, once we get home we change.

@gwot Год назад

my condolences

@retsubrooklyn Год назад

Maiko-san, can you do a similar presentation; but from the perspective of what compromises Japanese spouses make for their foreign-born/raised partners? 🤔

@tannhauser5399 Год назад

@Retsu Takahashi - That would be interesting to see in a way. But also I'm sometimes wonder if people didn't (or haven't) live with each other before they got married, as some of the simple problems could have been solved at that stage. So it is reading about other culture (sometimes necessary if your partner is from a different one), and simply talking and asking questions. Way before the marriage, or even way before even talking about the marraige. As in this case "Why Japanese Wives Hate Foreign Husbands" may as well be "Why Japanese Husbands Hate Foreign Wifes"... My point is, that people should talk to each other more, be honest, and also read more in some cases (different cultures) - before going for the marriage and then discover all of that way too late in some cases.

@richardsmith7104 Год назад

While I was in the US Air Force, I had a Japanese G-F. I should have married her, as she was so good to me.

@kibakillz6399 Год назад

Japanese compromise to a foreigner? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

@p8786 Год назад

That will be a 0 second video, because there won't be any compromise

@roenhoogland2350 10 месяцев назад

Great vid. I spent the past year living in Korea and can see a lot of similarities. Wish i was aware of some of these things earlier

@aldoorn 3 месяца назад

great video. very entertaining and a nice look at subtle cultural differences

@Mrfrontrow Год назад

Hey Paolo! I'm a 70 year old American. Never been to Japan and most of these make perfect sense to me. Particularly taking a shower(or bath) before going to bed. I was raised to always shower before going to bed. My parents made me. I raised my children (4)to do the same. Until I watched your older video that explained that I didn't know anybody would go to bed without bathing.

@carefree-life Год назад

I'm a Taiwanese and 25% mixed with Japanese. I have no problems with my foreign husband except number 4. It did bug me when he uses the bed without taking a shower. The bed sheet will become stinky 🤣 and I hated it especially when I just changed the sheet, but when he's sick I let him do whatever he wanted with the bed, I'd change the bed sheet often. 😁 My husband is for me to love and treasure, I want him to enjoy a good time with me. We seldom argue or conflict.

@keepitsharp7231 Год назад

You are so sweet. 😊

@OK-ws7ti Год назад

What a woman

@Dodong0 Год назад

Such an understanding wife… I wish I could say the same about mine😅

@gwot Год назад

why should you compromise for him though?

@tlohbor2690 Год назад

@@gwot to keep him! duh! lol!

@lemhanback9595 5 месяцев назад

Very informative and funny at times. Of course some things were surprising but made sense (except the bath thing, cleaning after use so it's ready for next person to me makes more sense) Good video, all happy marriages involve compromise and communication. 😉👍

@Fire-Manz 6 месяцев назад

I learned so much about the home life style. I didn't know there were different kinds of bowls! How can you tell? Also, I agree with everything except the dryer issue ... Look, I love that warm feeling of my clothes coming out the dryer

@andreamacleod1127 Год назад

I would suspect that the freezer deadline is because of space of Japanese living quarters. You can't have a huge chest freezer anywhere to store half a cow. Plus, as he said, the culture of eating as fresh as possible. Though honestly, I would cry if my partner would throw out meat after 2 weeks. It's so darn expensive.

@kyle18934 Год назад

yeah, if there's to much meat, it always goes into the freezer. its not like freezing veggies you are eating raw. i cant taste the difference from a frozen steak to a fresh steak

@fourleafclover2377 Год назад

I agree with bathing before bed and also removing “ outside clothes “ I do this I don’t want the pants I used to maybe sit down outside on my bedding I also see how this can be annoying for certain people but it’s a habit for me I agree with cleaning with the bathtub after each person ! I cannot believe you have to throw away meat like that ! The meat can stay well for a very very long time

@twinklefire7241 Год назад

Imagine sitting on a public bench where people urinate, defecate, and all sorts of other things, then sitting down on your couch. Yuck.

@jase276 Год назад

Precisely. Even pre-covid I always made it a point to change out of my outside clothes and sometimes even go the extra mile to wash some of them the same day. Now that I think on it, all of my family does as well. I will never understand people who actually wear their jeans AND shoes on their bed. Psychopathic behavior, lol

@user-hx8cf8tp4z Год назад

You guys all have OCD, lol. I wonder if you guys get sick a lot because your immune systems are so low

@DavidCruickshank Год назад

@@twinklefire7241 Where do you live where people are doing all that on benchs??!!

@moscaonthewall Год назад

@@twinklefire7241 Fun Fact: The sun's UV rays actually destroy bacteria, fungi, and algae from surfaces in 30 minutes. So those benches aren't as dirty as you think (even cleaner if it's rained recently beforehand).

@mirezelderon4992 5 месяцев назад

I did not know about some of these, this is nice to know

@zpetar 4 месяца назад

4:55 This makes perfect sense to me. I'm doing it like this and I'm not from Japan.

@kanagawa2008 Год назад

Paolo is spot on with all the points he brought up in this video. My wife is Japanese and has called me on several of these issues, even though we've lived in the U.S. for 20 years!

@sulblazer Год назад

As an American Asian, I married a first gen Vietnamese gal and a lot of these also applies. The fluffing the rice thing...totally been there. I've since converted. I do think it does tastes better if for no other reason than because the fluffing evens out the texture differences between the lower and upper layers. The showering before bed...that didn't take much convincing because in hindsight, I wonder why I didn't do it to begin with! Showering before bed to avoid getting the bed contaminated with your day makes total sense. The frozen meat thing...I hadn't heard of before. I like to cut my own steaks and do quite a bit of vaccum sealing. She hadn't complained about the taste of the old frozen meats before. The wife does sun dry a few things...like bedsheets and blankets, but otherwise, she's content to use the dryer. As for the bowls, I did get some of that. I love eating a lot of rice so I typically use larger bowls. I've since reduce my rice intake due to doctor's orders and I now use the smaller rice bowls. I guess I already knew about the bowls, I just didn't adhere to their "intended" use. Lastly, yeah...my wife is rather forgiving. She tells me moreso to make sure I don't come off as impolite when we visit her parents than as a household rule. For some reason, because I'm Asian, I'm not given the same pass as white person would when it comes to etiquette with her parents. As with any relationship, if there's consideration, thoughfulness, and seeking to understand...then it's less likely these small things will become an issue. No relationship is perfect and fights are bound to occur (even amongst folks from similar cultural background), but it's how come to an agreement is what's important. Many agreements are talked about, and some are just tacitly understood. I guess the hardest part of being married was to let go of my ego for certain (many) things. I guess that's how I knew I found someone great; I didn't feel like a fool for letting go of that ego.

@TheKnizzine 9 месяцев назад

The bathing/cleaning tub/shoes ones makes sense just kinda how Ive always done it

@PedroMelendez 9 месяцев назад

A great dive into Japanese culture. AGAIN! Thank you posting your vids. I'm always learning something new.

@NoMoorXP Год назад

“Like my man Biggie once said…if you don’t know, now you know.” I busted out laughing after that. Great content as always and thanks for sharing all things Japan. Hope to travel there one day for about a week.

@rachidvanheyningen Год назад

My co-workers looking at me strange after I suddenly yell out *NGGAAAA*

@NoMoorXP Год назад

@@rachidvanheyningen 😂😭😭

@brownpunk1794 Год назад

@@rachidvanheyningen HR will be calling you in a few days!!!lol

@xtuffman Год назад

I can relate with the cleaning part here in Brazil, specially after the whole pandemic thing we had recently. One behaviour we acquired is to change our clothes and take a shower before entering our house when we arrive from anything we had to do outside our property (we have an extra external bathroom in our back porch) like going to the movies, buying groceries, visiting someone and so on.

@sanglish18 Год назад

Brazil mentioned

@Mudkip971 9 месяцев назад

I'm Canadian and I completely agree on every single aspect here. Except for the frozen meat. The moment meat is frozen it looses all value of "freshness" whether it be a month or a year so it makes no difference. This is literally a Gordon Ramsey meme.

@ryanclouse299 8 месяцев назад

Fun video! Interestingly enough I knew about 2, 3, 4, and 8. Though the different sized bowls were interesting. And thought 7 was mostly due to expense and space, but other reasons do make sense. Just to add: My Aunt is not so happy with my uncle who is from Japan as he carries a strong commitment to his job, but does not help out too much with their kid. My aunt also took the role of handling most of their families finance. Not sure if this is the case with you and Maiko though.

@jrsidebo Год назад

Hearing about the clothes dryer made me laugh. The people who lived in the house we bought were an elderly couple, and the wife also didn't believe in drying clothes in the clothes dryer because of the expense. Why do that when you can hang the on the line outside for free? The family told us she used her clothes dryer to store her Tupperware in!

@naturalLin Год назад

My wife hang dry in the summer. Natural drying plus kill bacteria with uv light.

@PuffOfSmoke Год назад

@@naturalLin but detergents and hot water in washing machine already kills bacteria.

@naturalLin Год назад

@@PuffOfSmoke well back than people can’t afford those things and people are generally frugal decades ago in China. It’s widely practiced habit

@southcoastinventors6583 Год назад

@@naturalLin People couldn't afford soap any detergents kills bacteria. I suppose if you just wash clothes with water then dry them but how would you remove the dirt. I guess you could use just fly ash and water pretty harsh though. Of course now in China fewer people have money due to the collapse in the economy due the housing bubble, so I can see it.

@naturalLin Год назад

@@southcoastinventors6583 people used to use rocks or washboards to clean by the river or a bucket of water. This is really old school but they use wood sticks to beat the clothes.

@sandyseibelhager7131 Год назад

OMG, I was floored about the frozen meat being thrown out. To each their own, but that would never work for me because I stock up on meat when it is on sale or clearance and we eat it for months after its bought.

@lainiwakura1776 Год назад

Yeah, I learned if it's not freezer burned, the taste will still be there.

@joshuabermudez2372 Год назад

Was thinking the same thing! I imagine that a Japanese wife might not be a good match for a doomsday prepper, lol.

@radolfkalis4041 Год назад

Yeah, it does seem like a colossal waste

@LeCatte Год назад

@@radolfkalis4041 its one of the reasons Japan has a LOT of food waste.

@v8beamer Год назад

I re-wrap and or re-portion before long term freezing, short term (1-2 weeks) usually not a problem. I do it because I remember my mom used to freeze packages, straight from the market, and they'd freezer burn. But two weeks is a bit extreme, kind of like throwing out expired shelf food on the sell by date.

@fumeokid 10 месяцев назад

What a great video! This is why you have so many subs! I'm Japanese American and I use the soy sauce bowls sometimes for salsa!

@mar_man813 Год назад

As someone who's dated several Japanese women, almost all of these resonate. The hardest to get used to was the bath and air conditioner one. I completely understand the logic of being clean before crawling into bed, but I always think it's important to be clean in the morning before wearing clothes and going to work. The difference is, Japanese don't believe that sleeping at night and sweating is dirty -- only leaving the home makes your body dirty. Perhaps it's because I'm a physician, but I'd rather deal with grass/dirt than sweat/bacteria. In reality, it's just a different priority as to when you want to be clean, but the best compromise is showering 2x a day!! Haha. And the A/C... ugh. As you said, they're more used to sleeping well while it's hot and humid -- I'm not. There are also some who believe that cold air will make them sick (pro tip - it doesn't... not washing your hands and touching your nose/eyes does).

@mookiestewart3776 Год назад

lol my body runs extremely hot lol the ac would be non negotiable for me. i dont care about winter but in summer my =house is going to be a cool 70 period

@robgoodsight6216 Год назад

I naturally produce heat...but I am accustomed to no AC. Showers in the evening ease the sleep...and of course a quick shower before new clean clothes is also ok...

@plue5068 Год назад

I might be terrible uninformed by saying this but as an asian lass myself I think it's generally okay for us to just shower only at night because we have less apocrine sweat glands lol crawl into clean sheets clean and exit just as clean I guess

@Blackadder75 Год назад

@@plue5068 married couples sometimes do others things in bed but only sleep........ things that make you need a shower in the morning.

@Blackadder75 Год назад

2x a day is bad for your skin, that's what my doctor tells me anyway. I have no fixed habit, sometimes I shower in the morning, sometimes in the evening

@judybesse4058 Год назад

I lived in Japan for 3 years and that is where I met my husband. I am American and he is Japanese. He moved from Japan to Ca and we have been married for almost 23 yrs. We follow none of these but probably because he just adapted to my ways of living LOL

@ritx2775 Год назад

That's a Very good Husband Ur really lucky ^^

@southcoastinventors6583 Год назад

Yeah but he a dude so you already looking at lower standards.

@MochiiNikuu Год назад

My Japanese from Japan husband I also feel has done the same! You never realize these little adjustments

@lainiwakura1776 Год назад

It seems that guys are more willing to adapt in certain instances.

@aquil3scach088 Год назад

The video is about wives not husbands! Don't care your opinion Rebecca!

@selohcin 4 месяца назад

First-time viewer here. Great video!

@ManuelGarcia-ww7gj 7 месяцев назад

I deeply appreciate the heads up.

@DeathWishProject Год назад

Interesting list. I think a lot of this probably depends on how exposed your wife has been to western/other culture as well. My wife is Japanese and we lived in Japan, but she also had spent a couple years in America. She loved AC, took showers in the morning and used the dryer like every day. but at the same time she always fluffed her rice, no shoes in the house, and wanted me to sit down while I pee'd lol.

@mr.wescottx7129 Год назад

So depending on the environment of your upbringing I guess.

@Heyangel95 Год назад

bro being from a country is not a character. you cant take one person to generalize ALL people.

@mr.wescottx7129 Год назад

@@Heyangel95 technically it does because the environment the people that are around you to make the person that you are now.

@Heyangel95 Год назад

@@mr.wescottx7129 then you must be raised in a very ignorant, uneducated, closed mindset, inexperienced and racist environment.

@Heyangel95 Год назад

@@mr.wescottx7129 people like you foster the idea that skincolor is character. this is absolutely bs. You stop thinking about people as people, but as your fantasy filled with superficialities, countries and their politics. it grosses me out. You probably never even talked with a real Japanese before, or after your mindset every person in China must be a manipulated robot. People are somewhat influenced by their people around them to some point(parents), but this normally stops when your enter puberty. Except if you are low IQ, just like you dude. My cousin for instance is a tattoo artists who makes good money, and who smokes a lot of weed in mainland china. He is not part of any gang, but just a cool dude, who thinks exactly the same like any other person who enjoys life. He cant speak English & never left the country. after your logic, people like him should not exist. After your logic, east asian woman must be docile, weak and submissive beings, but I know none who are like that. No matter if they are Japanese, Chinese, Korean, or Vietnamese. Even if they are from those countries and never left. Theyd probably beat the shit out of you for expecting that from them.

@davidparkhurst2833 Год назад

I can definitely relate to a lot of this, having been adopted (@ birth) by an American father and Japanese mother. Growing up on a farm/ranch in Wyoming, my mom was in a perpetual battle to keep things clean, but there was only so much she could do. Nighttime baths were definitely a thing, but I think that was more common in American culture back in the day, especially in rural areas. Hanging clothes outside (also more common in America historically) was a no-brainer in the hot, dry and windy Wyoming summers, but she’d use the dryer in the winter. Specific bowls weren’t an issue, as we only ate Asian dishes a quarter of the time. I would be curious to see a comparison of these norms between older and newer Japanese. When my mother (1932-2019) came back from her father’s funeral in 1989, she said she barely recognized the younger generations of Japanese, and thought that they were as lazy and degenerate as us Americans. Accounting for the natural prejudices older people have for younger ones, it would still make for an interesting comparison.

@diegosotomiranda4107 Год назад

Old japanese people are just as hypocrites like any older generación looking the younger ones, they Will always Bitter about their own life so they have to paint some of the awful bs they lived like it was better than now, "degenerates" says the culture of sexualizing childs and most of those degenerates are not young, are old/tradicional people that make the most disgusting things You could imagine while mantaining a facade of seriousness, discipline and prestige

@sirissac234 Год назад

My condolences regarding your mother.

@BlueA Год назад

I think this is the first time in my life that someone uses @ for its actual meaning "at"

@jasonswift7098 Год назад

American culture of hanging clothes outside? yeah bullshit, you will never see a modern clothes line in a house in USA they are heavily reliant on electricity and clothes dryers, my parents friends from Arizona still use a dryer in summer to dry clothes! it's crazy.

@sirissac234 Год назад

@@jasonswift7098 Many rural people still hang their clothes outside in the US. My cousins and Aunt still do. Their neighbors do.

@TheMule71 5 месяцев назад

About frozen food. A lot depends on the freezing temperature. At home we have 2 freezers even. One is -18°C, the other -25°C. Technically they are both 4 stars, but we use the -25°C one for long term freezing. -18°C is the bare minimum. Anyway, ** freezers exist, in that case, about 15 days is the recommented amount of time. IDK about Japan, but if the most common type there is **, it makes a lot of sense to throw aways food after 15 days. Well, no, I mean consume it before that, throwing food away is always bad. :) But if you happen to have a **** freezer at home, you can preserve food for months. For all the rest, it makes all sense to me. I'm Italian, it looks like we have a lot in common with Japanese people. We can be quite picky about the right tools to use in the kitchen, and food preparation in general, so even if we might not be as specific with bowls or fluffing rice, I totally get the mindset. We're civilized people not Gordon Ramsey. :) The only thing I find wierd is sitting when peeing but - for splash control - I can't argue with the logic of it.

@anonymousmouse237 9 месяцев назад

It saves a lot of grief in the end when both partners have a shared set of expectations. So it's best to discuss cultural issues and bridge the gap before marriage.

@DelorienAz Год назад

I think drying clothes outside makes sense in the dry season but so impractical when it's humid or rainy. And the amount of planning you need to do to make sure your outfits are dry when you need them etc. We struggled with this when we visited the UK, makes even less sense over there because it rains all the dang time! I love my dryer!

@mookiestewart3776 Год назад

@jernejj5 idk about that lol a lot of eu appliances are too small in general. I want that american power and speed, ill pay the extra energy cost gladly lmao

@vamosnippon Год назад

This is super accurate Paolo! When you go to Japanese restaurant in the US and the rice is packed right or scooped with an ice cream scoop, you know it’s not authentic because we love it fluffed! Make a part 2! I’m sure there’s more!

@schroeder4930 Год назад

Why do Japanese seem to almost exclusively prefer white rice when so many other types and varieties are available?

@stephen129 Год назад

@@schroeder4930 It tastes the best and has the best texture.

@claudioklaus2642 Год назад

Most of the Japanese restaurants in the US are run by Koreans. LOL. Korean people don't fluff the rice in general (only a few households do it) That's why.

@MyMelody5 Год назад

@@schroeder4930 Japanese people eat a specific type of white rice called hakumai.

@rrocketman 2 месяца назад

Very interesting! 😁

@RH_-_ 2 месяца назад

Totally agree on the bath/shower before bed, most people I know are that way.

@christoney2491 Год назад

I'm American married to a Dutch woman. I'm surprised at how many cultural differences we've experienced. It's been a "thrill ride" for sure. You're very correct - compromise is the key to happiness in marriage. Loved the video - Thank You!

@mth469 Год назад

How are dutch women?

@christoney2491 Год назад

@@mth469 In general? Tall. ha (They are the tallest people on average.) They are very direct, and independent. I found it very refreshing, when I didn't find it frustrating. lol All in all, the cultural similarities lull you in, and the differences surprise you. I wouldn't trade the experience.

@amh9494 Год назад

By independent you mean she didn't expect you to buy her love like is the strange norm in the USA?

@Spaniard022 11 месяцев назад

Compromise is the key even if both are from the same street, not talking of opposite sides of the planet :)

@canata377 Год назад

This was super helpful to understand differences and what to expect with the culture. Communication and compromise is such a great thing to point out

@canata377 Год назад

Is that a washer and dryer all in one machine? Do they have any separate dryer machines?

@kesayo 7 месяцев назад

My Japanese wife and I lived in Japan for several years before moving to the US, and the things she loves about the US that we didn’t have in Japan: garbage disposals, dishwashers, dryers, indoor insulated garage, central air, trash pickup at your house, school bus pickup/drop off at your house K to 12. Granted, you can probably get most of these things in Japan now if you don’t mind paying for them, but I think they’re still uncommon.

@pitbak5129 2 месяца назад

Try to place a garbage disposals, dishwasher, dryer etc in a box house 😂. That's why

@johnathanmorlock 6 месяцев назад

The rice thing made me chuckle. Not married to anyone foreign here in the US, but was curious.

@apushman Год назад

I've always been someone who showers at night for the specific reason of wanting to feel clean before going to bed. For me I wash away "the stress of the day" and feel more relaxed afterwards. Depending on the season a cold shower in the summer or a warm one in the winter can help put you to sleep as you'll feel more comfortable with your body temp.

@johnbockman5296 Год назад

In pre-Covid days, I used to get together with some Japanese buddies at the local sento, and after the bath we'd each pop a beer open and spend some time talking about this and that. One of them asked how old my wife was, which is something I normally don't like talking about because common sense here says that a wife should be a few years younger or the same age as the husband. In my case, she was born in Dec. 1950, and I was born in Aug. 1953. We were married here in 1981 and are still together here. My friend's eyes lit up, and he said, "なるほど！金のわらじをみつけた！" ("Naruhodo! Kin no waraji wo mitsuketa!" Really! So you've found the golden waraji!") Then he asked if I knew what that meant, and I answered I hope it's good or he's in some trouble. He answered it's VERY good! 金のわらじ are tie-on sandals made of woven rushes but in this case made of gold. In other words, "彼女の目には、間違いはありません。" ("Kanojo no me niha, machigai ha arimasen." In her eyes, you can do no wrong.) I asked if he too found the golden sandals, and he answered he wasn't so lucky. He said he's constantly in the dog house on weekends for all sorts of infractions, mostly drinking. He was actually a year older than me, but he said he was terrified of having to retire and gave his mortgage as the main reason why, but I think it also comes down to not having found the golden sandals.

@samalaimukhametova7290 7 месяцев назад

Это не здравый смысл

@Capzlk 7 месяцев назад

i'm just here because you have the same rice cooker as me and my japanese wife. she was very persistent we needed that brand cause its the tastiest

@Salaundre 10 месяцев назад

This was very fascinating. As for the bathing before bed I can get behind that I would still need to bathe in the morning .

@lukebradshaw1231 Год назад

The rice fluffing is a must for my wife. Everything else she is pretty cool with. But as we live in Australia, I think that's why she puts up more than I probably realise. I think if we lived in Japan, it might be a bit of a different story. Interesting video though Paolo, thanks for sharing.

@jamestk656 Год назад

I had really bad seasonal allergies as a kid so bringing all those allergens with me to sleep makes no sense. Funny enough, with work from home policies, I found out my Japanese wife has started skipping showers lol. As for hanging your clothes vs the dryer, I actually installed clotheslines in the garage because it just saves so much on electricity, especially now. Hanging works so well on those giant comforters instead of running the dryer for 3 hours.

@CaliSaint Год назад

Hanging clothes makes allergies worse. You’d be better off getting solar panels or energy saving appliances.

@jamestk656 Год назад

@@CaliSaint You're probably right. I actually do have both solar panels and energy efficient appliances and I hang my clothes indoors (garage) but it's something to keep in mind regardless and not everyone might have the same access to these things either.

@coyotech55 3 дня назад

Interesting. I'm in the US, not Japanese and don't have any plans either to marry or move to Japan. But this kind of information gives you a lot of insight into the culture, which I enjoy learning about.

@Ardalan01 10 месяцев назад

great video ❤

@Scarpez_ 10 месяцев назад

i’m amazed as none of these bother me: - i already pee seated when at home - i hate the AC unless i’m dying on the floor - i already take showers before going to bed - i rarely freeze food - it sounds right to use every dish for what it as meant for - i prefer to hang my clothes instead of using a dryer

@christopherdsuza7531 9 месяцев назад

- personally I don't pee seated I think its weird if your a dude. Just lift the toilet seat no one will know what business you do in the washroom. perhaps they just hate a dirty toilet seat. - I luv the AC and would keep it on all the time if not for the cost of electricity. As such I only turn on when needed. - I also like to take showers a lot once a day though people only recommend like 3 days a week or something. I do find it calming to take one before bed but I'm not picky when I take it. I typically take it upon waking because I like to be fresh going to work and it also helps to wake me up. - I don't mind freezing food if you live a busy life and have choose to cook a big batch the prior night to save time. I try not to keep the fridge cluttered though and I prefer food fresh but sometimes life doesn't work out that way - I'm flexible I will use dishes as they are intended provided I have enough dishes. In the army I used whatever will hold my food. - I don't have a strong preference with regards to hanging clothes or using a drying. In my neighborhood though my clothes might get stolen though so I choose to use a dryer, also its faster typically. I like to be efficient with my time.

@Scarpez_ 9 месяцев назад

@@christopherdsuza7531 yea i believe they don’t like to have a dirty toilet seat and surroundings, neither do i, i’ve grown up and seen that peeing while standing gets the seat and the floor surrounding dirty so to save time and don’t have to clean, just sit, but this is when i’m at home. Everyone is different and they do as they please.

@rougeegamer98 9 месяцев назад

I've only peed sitting down when I'm taking a turd.

@kudosjp1 9 месяцев назад

@@christopherdsuza7531 > no one will know what business you do in the washroom So it shouldn't matter which lol Pros: - Almost eliminates cleaning toilet seat/floor entirely - Don't have to aim or deal with middle of the night occasional misses - Don't have to lower the seat after Cons: - Takes an extra few seconds, which you gain back anyways whenever you have to lower the seat for #2/politeness Obviously above doesn't apply if in a public restroom with a urinal

@juliuschan9036 9 месяцев назад

@@christopherdsuza7531 Not weird peeing seated if one has penis piercing. LOL

@heartlessxworthless Год назад

I didn’t even realize that I had these things embedded into my life. As a half Japanese woman in America with my Dominican fiancé I definitely pushed a lot of these things onto him.

@erwintan4746 Год назад

good for you

@SucculentDoorbell Год назад

No. You are now only Dominican. Sincerely, Tokugawa.

@DownHillgamer Год назад

Poor fellow

@johnmishell234 Год назад

La creatura

@martlettoo Год назад

Wow, all these responses are from racist pigs

@sc29607 4 месяца назад

I’ve been married to an Asian woman for over 16 years (unfortunately cancer took her away) and I know some of these issues. But to be fair, with the dryer situation I was spot on with her. We always had a garden and a rotary dryer and I prefer still the rotary dryer (in winter cloth horse) over a dryer, the cloth just smells much nicer when hung in fresh sea air (living in a fisher village near the beach).

@OzyWazza 8 месяцев назад

1:30 we're getting into the stream of things... nice pun :D

@BooLee01 Год назад

I am a foreign husband to a Japanese wife and I do the "change into house clothes" thing myself. She never asked me to. But I have a couple of sets of very comfortable clothes, including trainers, shorts and T-shirts. As soon as I get home, I get out of my street clothes and into my house clothes. It's cleaner and more comfortable.

@r3dpuma Год назад

I do that as well. And I'm in Eastern Europe

@mth469 Год назад

@@r3dpuma c.c.c.p ?

@pavelstaravoitau7106 Год назад

It makes sense. I never sit down anywhere in my house while wearing jeans. I sit in the bus and all the other places in them, and I am not bringing this onto the furniture.

@mth469 Год назад

@@pavelstaravoitau7106 Billy Jeans

@agtrst Год назад

Great video. We're a Filipino couple but some of these apply to us as well. No shower = no bed. No shoes past the doorway, we use house slippers and have spares for guests. We also peel off street clothes as soon as we get home. Fluffy rice for sure. The sit-down #1 thing is new but makes sense. I may start doing that. I might get points for it :))

@daviddicks35 Год назад

Well some Philippines are mixed with Japan and on top of that you’re from Asia even know a lot of Philippines Consider them selves which pretty much they are Hispanic lol mix with other things ethnicity

@romanr.301 Год назад

@@daviddicks35 (sigh) Please learn to write cohesively. Rice is the staple crop of most of Asia, and removal of outdoor wear prior to entry into the home is common across cultures. It doesn't always have to be something introduced. Furthermore, Filipinos are not Hispanic. Hardly any Hispanic person regards them as such. I would know. I'm Hispanic. They are Asian. Plain and simple. People like you exaggerate the mixed nature of the Philippines, pointing out every single foreign influence on Philippine society, and then completely ignoring the culture that is already indigenous to the country. It's incredibly reductive of a very complex and rich cultural identity. The Philippines has a very rich culture if you look at it holistically and not just "haha, there's Spanish here, American here, Japanese here."

@m.s.9744 Год назад

@@romanr.301 (sigh) please stop being a know-it-all bully. Have a nice day 🙂

@manilenyochannel Год назад

Paolo is a Filipino

@mybitmix Год назад

@@romanr.301 You need to research the meaning of Hispanic first.

@Mikej1592 6 месяцев назад

as an Irish/Polish american married to a Japanese wife I can confirm 100%. cleaning the bath before use when it is visually clean to me already never really made sense but I do it anyway. The toilet issues is also another weird one, I mean, it's a toilet, I grew up knowing that was the dirty spot in the house, splashes, stains, looking nasty all the time was just how it was. Now you could visit me to use the toilet and without a doubt you would find a clean enough to eat off Toto toilet with the built in bidet.

@hinoron6528 9 месяцев назад

[Air Conditioning] I do recall (although that was 25 years ago) most Japanese homes don't seem to have a central forced-air circulation system. Air conditioners are single-room units mounted high on a wall. The advantage of the former system, of course, is that it has a target temperature and does its best to maintain the entire house (or apartment) at the desired temperature at all times. For the wall mounted units though... I'm surprised that in the last 25 years they haven't been upgraded to include features like a target temperature control, turning themselves off if it drops below the chosen temperature, or even simpler, just timers, such that you could set it to run for an hour, go to sleep, and it would shut itself off before the room becomes uncomfortably frigid, perhaps even program it to turn itself back on three hours after that, and so on to maintain a fairly comfortable average temperature. This tech is WELL within Japan's ability to program into such devices. I can only assume they haven't bothered because they are so acclimated to their extreme seasons that they don't see any need.

@Noeruto Год назад

My favorite part "I make this mistake all the time, so she just lives with it.". I guess Miko's compromise was to live with it. lol. Thanks for another great video!

@Bpaynee Год назад

I mean, where's he going to find a salsa bowl... What is a salsa bowl? Haha

@10lauset Год назад

Wonderful hints to be aware of when going to Japan especially for home stays. Please keep them coming. .. Cheers to you. ..

@House6409 10 месяцев назад

Man, I really dig how clean they are and they’re preference to fresh food. I do however, like the convenience of a dryer for some clothing.

@Cantetinza17 5 месяцев назад

I'm not Japanese, but I like Fluffy rice too. I was taught to wash the bathtub after every use and then to rinse it down to clear any dust that might have collect over the period of use. I buy meat only for the week. I love the all in one machines too. It's less space taken up.

@SoSme Год назад

Going about my day "Japanese women hate you" Understandable, have a nice day.

@Jordan-inJapan Год назад

Well, I’ve been living in Japan and married to a Japanese woman for nearly 20 years now, and I have to say that Paolo really nailed this. Every point has been either experienced by one of my foreign friends or myself. I think I’ve had it easier than most since my wife also has the experience of living in Canada (where I’m from) so she understands ‘where I’m coming from’. (Literally). One thing that wasn’t on the list was anything regarding child-raising. For my wife and I, probably the biggest friction in our marriage was in this area. Example: my wife was always furious with me when I let our kids go outside without a jacket in winter or an umbrella on a rainy day. From my cultural perspective, this is how children learn. If they get cold or wet, they remember for next time, and prepare accordingly. My wife felt that it was parents’ responsibility to chase your child down the street and force them to take an umbrella - whether they wanted to or not. The message, for me, being that our behavior is guided by familial or social expectations, rather than from individual understanding or will. Anyway, I don’t think we ever did reach a compromise on this point…but now our kids are older so it’s not as much of an issue. 😅

@kajerlou Год назад

As a teacher, I've observed kids will learn these things no matter how you teach them, just as long as you are making some sort of effort they will get there. With this in mind, I figure why not just adhere to cultural norms so your child isn't the odd one out, making them a prime target for being laughed at.

@Jordan-inJapan Год назад

@@kajerlou Sounds like a reasonable approach. In my case though, I drew the line at forcing my kids to put on a jacket, etc if they really didn’t want to. I would suggest it, and then be like, “well, you’re the one who’s going to be uncomfortable, not me…”. Enter Mom. “PUT ON YOUR JACKET RIGHT NOW OR ELSE.” 😂

@darthlaurel Год назад

Totally.

@southcoastinventors6583 Год назад

@@kajerlou Its more complicated than that because they are constantly learning from observed behavior that they see their parents do as well other people that they interact with directly or indirectly (media), plus base instinct. If they observe you always using a umbrella or vice versa they will be more prone to emulate. Problem with the Japanese mentality and others people in general is appeal to authority or seniority above all else instead of emulating habits of perceived successfully people regardless of age/origin/position.

@melzerzvlogz6027 Год назад

I feel like that's a dad thing. I get mad at my husband because he never dresses our toddler for the weather correctly. He does t think that far ahead

@jf4872 20 дней назад

Been married to my wife (Japanese) for 24 years and don't have an issue with any of the things you mention. We go back and forth between USA and Japan several times each year. Have a home in Fujieda-Shizuoka.

@ruthwelborn1881 9 месяцев назад

Could you point out what is different between rice and miso bowls? Which one is on a little pedestal and which is more area at the base of the bowl part?