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Why Kids Are Confronting Their Parents About 'Sharenting' | NYT Opinion 

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While we often hear parents caution their children about safety, this time the tables are turned. In the video op-ed above, three children confront their mothers about “sharenting.” They are members of the first generation whose entire life could be documented on social media. It’s a generation that’s digitally savvy and concerned about what parents post online.
The U.S. law meant to protect kids online (COPPA) “places parents in control over what information is collected from their young children online.” But innocent posts from parents can carry unintended consequences. Studies estimate that by 2030, “sharenting” will play a role in two-thirds of identity fraud cases facing the young generation. Parents also risk unwittingly exposing their children to data broker profiling, hacking, facial recognition tracking, pedophilia and other threats to privacy and security.
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@chelsealivingston1302
@chelsealivingston1302 4 года назад
When a child has to teach parents about consent we have issues.
@sirenthomas4595
@sirenthomas4595 4 года назад
We been having to teach parents this
@ayanna2infinity
@ayanna2infinity 4 года назад
THANK YOU
@ccddle
@ccddle 4 года назад
@@sirenthomas4595 for like... all of human history.
@teainkorea7482
@teainkorea7482 4 года назад
That’s true but... according to the law children cannot consent to anything, so the parents do that for them so... they aren’t in the right but they aren’t in the wrong either...
@totalrandomness4543
@totalrandomness4543 4 года назад
Tea in Korea sure, they might not be in the _legal_ wrong, but the law doesn't define our morals.
@beckjeezy
@beckjeezy 4 года назад
“You didn’t ask” what else needs to be said?
@hussainalkatheri7427
@hussainalkatheri7427 4 года назад
Rebecca T. Children can’t provide consent to anything under the law.
@princess19964evr
@princess19964evr 4 года назад
@@hussainalkatheri7427 this noooooot about law. Law does not ever dictate morals-WE ALL HAVE THE RIGHT TO CONSENT. The point... It flew over your head.
@miltain
@miltain 4 года назад
Adja Ndiaye The state determines our rights tho. Our morals are irrelevant in society.
@lloyla9530
@lloyla9530 4 года назад
...how do you think laws get written then? do you think legislators just roll a magic 8-ball and go “oh I guess murder is wrong now. time to go home guys.” no, laws are always playing catch-up to morals. if there’s a gap in the legal system you fix it, you don’t go, “well it’s not a law so I guess that’s alright.”
@hussainalkatheri7427
@hussainalkatheri7427 4 года назад
Adja Ndiaye so your the person to say that I need to ask my baby for consent to change its diaper? I’m just being realistic... like do you not think that after all the caring your parents gave you they don’t deserve any right? Just the financial cost of raising a child is expensive I’d atleast say your trading some rights so that you can have food and a roof over your head. I also don’t agree with what they said about it causing credit card numbers to be stolen there is a difference between being stupid and sharing your children’s lives online.
@kriscrossender4525
@kriscrossender4525 9 месяцев назад
I grew up with my mom posting pictures of me and my brother without permission. We started telling her to stop when we were 12, our wishes were never respected. Instead, she would lie to us, and we had to stop allowing her to take pictures of us altogether. She still takes pictures of us behind our back. It's disgusting how parents treat their kids like they aren't human beings with their own wants and boundaries.
@advocacynaccountablity
@advocacynaccountablity 9 месяцев назад
Your mom was wrong for doing that. I just wanted to validate that from someone out here shocked to hear these parents defending themselves. Um, take all the photos and vids you want of yourself (I mean, maybe wake up and spend more time with your therapist too), but don't put underage humans out there for anyone to see. So gross, using their children for their own need for attention.
@mishynaofficial
@mishynaofficial 9 месяцев назад
You're right.
@FireLordJD
@FireLordJD 9 месяцев назад
Veto power for kids AND special accounts where parents have to deposit money made from revenue sharing content that includes them.
@vegetablesoupfortheteenage1167
@vegetablesoupfortheteenage1167 8 месяцев назад
Omg same
@strawberribubbletea
@strawberribubbletea 8 месяцев назад
Parents can be so stupid. With ai and deep fakes this is going to be a whole other issue when sick people make ai pornography out of these kids photos.
@affentat8723
@affentat8723 3 года назад
When I was 12, I asked my mom if I could share a picture of my face online, and she was against it because she didn't know much about the internet and was afraid of the dangers. Kinda weird to see that nowadays it's more the other way round.
@lw1824
@lw1824 8 месяцев назад
my mom was the same. growing up, i was always frustrated with her that she kept me away from the internet. she would post about me on facebook, but very rarely, if ever, with pictures. just storytelling, really. but i would get frustrated bc i wasn't allowed on youtube or anything like that, and it was hard to make friends at school. while i still think there could've been a happy medium, i'm glad she wasn't like these toxic moms, and i'm goad she restricted my internet instead of setting me free on there. the internet is a dangerous place, especially if you don't know that
@mothsfavlamp
@mothsfavlamp 8 месяцев назад
My mom freaked out about me sending photos (not even of myself, just of a place we were visiting) with an online friend and then posts photos of me on her public fb account...
@XxNekoMoonxX
@XxNekoMoonxX 6 месяцев назад
my mom did both lol. i wasn’t allowed to have fandom accounts on instagram but would post me without my knowledge for strangers to see. make it make sense lol
@dziugasdj
@dziugasdj 4 года назад
"If it's not on insta - it didn't happen" yikes.
@ceegee3354
@ceegee3354 4 года назад
Exactly. I couldn't believe she actually said that SMH
@Jemima1377
@Jemima1377 4 года назад
How did the daughter turn out so well with teachings like this?! Ouch.
@justanotherutuber3
@justanotherutuber3 4 года назад
what does that even mean
@TheMetrored
@TheMetrored 4 года назад
Indeed! I would like to add, for all the folks who complain about Millennials on social media, that woman looks like a GenXer.
@kimcheezy3433
@kimcheezy3433 4 года назад
@@TheMetrored Oh for sure. My parents and aunts who are all baby boomers spend their entire day on social media. They post all their personal information and have no privacy settings on their pages, its all just public. 🤦🏽‍♂️
@sourgreendolly7685
@sourgreendolly7685 3 года назад
“If it’s not on insta, it didn’t even happen” How immature can a grown adult be?
@gem6105
@gem6105 3 года назад
It’s because there millennials. (Ages 20-40) welcome to the new parenting age.
@lailafiola7728
@lailafiola7728 3 года назад
1st gen of parents who are dealing with this, and i think alot over do it, some try too hard to keep up. I have kids and nobody had to tell me to minimize their social media presence till they are old enough to consent. Alot of parents brag about their 6 yr old having instagram and facebook profiles and when i look at them.like why a 6yr old need that they look at me like im crazy...
@MuR1017
@MuR1017 3 года назад
@@gem6105 She's actually 44 and she's a lawyer-turned-comedian with this sort of blunt humour so I think half of what she was saying was trying to give that dead pan humour but clearly it didn't come through well in this setting which was supposed to be a serious video on a real issue and she should've chosen other words lol.
@Amanda-vi3di
@Amanda-vi3di 3 года назад
I gasped when the mom said that.
@gem6105
@gem6105 3 года назад
@@MuR1017 well then I guess it’s just the media being typical prying off of questionable comments 👀
@mjojo25
@mjojo25 9 месяцев назад
I posted pictures of my daughter until I heard my friends talking about getting permission from their kids to post. I can’t believe it didn’t occur to me before! I asked my 5 year old that day and she said she didn’t want me to post pictures. The emotional pull to post and get “likes” was hard to give up but I’m glad I did. She needs to know I respect her and will protect her, not exploit her.
@boombuffoon4514
@boombuffoon4514 9 месяцев назад
good on you mama. there are so many predators on the internet- by NOT posting her, you are doing her a huge favor!
@NotSoTypikal
@NotSoTypikal 8 месяцев назад
👏👏👏
@surlespasdondine
@surlespasdondine 8 месяцев назад
She is too young to know what she is consenting to.
@TheAnticarnist
@TheAnticarnist 8 месяцев назад
@@surlespasdondine and yet she still didn't give consent
@RememberYourSafeword
@RememberYourSafeword 3 года назад
My mother posted a picture of me grieving over my now-dead dog. In the photo, I was crying because it was the day we had to put her down. She did NOT ask for my consent at all, and I did NOT look great in the picture, and I honestly did not want such an emotional picture online. Also: one time on ANOTHER picture she posted of me, one of her friends said “Can’t wait till they’re on the pole” (the picture was of me and my younger sister, who is eight.) She played it off as a joke, but it was sickening
@4knewt505
@4knewt505 10 месяцев назад
That's so disturbing. I took a long break from social media, almost 10 years because of personal issues I didn't want to act out on social media and get validation for my pain. During that time I still have pics of my kidsbut I only shared them through text and email. It sounds primitive but I figured if the people important to me wanted to talk to me they wouldn't mind text or email. I wonder what would've happened if I didn't take that break.
@lakshmikrithika2521
@lakshmikrithika2521 9 месяцев назад
What does pole mean here? I don’t understand😅
@giovannaputhumana8460
@giovannaputhumana8460 9 месяцев назад
That's disgusting 🤢
@advocacynaccountablity
@advocacynaccountablity 9 месяцев назад
Your mom needs better friends. Utterly disrespectful.
@blanchebau8807
@blanchebau8807 9 месяцев назад
​@lakshmikrithika2521 I'm unsure but it could mean a stripper pole?
@rockmonst3r
@rockmonst3r 4 года назад
The Indian mom is like a parody of Indian moms. Saying this as an Indian child.
@arohikhurana4818
@arohikhurana4818 4 года назад
Really. It's sad
@rosiebaby0
@rosiebaby0 4 года назад
I just can’t believe she actually listened. I would’ve been crucified lmao
@DeadInside-ct6dl
@DeadInside-ct6dl 4 года назад
I would have been gaslighted to the point of tears. Luckily, my parents are definitely not active on social media.
@retardpillprovider492
@retardpillprovider492 4 года назад
My parents think they are gonna get hacked and murdered if they post online Hack means both way btw
@ishuika
@ishuika 4 года назад
Yup
@ls-rk6hw
@ls-rk6hw 4 года назад
thank god my mom doesnt understand how to even use a computer
@ansh0133
@ansh0133 4 года назад
😂😂
@Celisar1
@Celisar1 4 года назад
l s or in less wealthy countries.
@tinateews9494
@tinateews9494 4 года назад
l s Your mom is smart and maybe just pretended she doesn't understand.
@gnranger
@gnranger 4 года назад
You're a lucky one. I can ask my mom not to put pictures on any social media an i check 3 days later and there it is.
@doodoofungus8206
@doodoofungus8206 4 года назад
Yo same my parents from immigrants from india SKSKSKKDKDKD my dad was just asking me how to make a email
@selmore94
@selmore94 2 года назад
“It’s because of how aware I am of the implications of the digital footprint…” Good for her! This girl is going places in life and has more sense than the majority of adults, apparently 🙄
@lw1824
@lw1824 8 месяцев назад
especially her mom
@strawberribubbletea
@strawberribubbletea 8 месяцев назад
Parents can be so stupid. With ai and deep fakes this is going to be a whole other issue when sick people make ai pornography out of these kids photos.
@purplealchemistofficial
@purplealchemistofficial 9 месяцев назад
Celebrities need to be held accountable for this too. I hate it when I see a celebrity parent talking about something embarrassing their kid did on a talk show.
@Zuzzamma
@Zuzzamma 9 месяцев назад
You are absolutely right....
@lw1824
@lw1824 8 месяцев назад
i'm following this couple, and they're having a baby soon. every time they talk about the pregnancy, the comments are like "can't wait to see the baby!" and all. but sometimes they talk about how they will never post their kids until they're old enough to give educated consent, and when i heard that i was so happy. they're setting a beautiful precedent!
@lawrencetchen
@lawrencetchen 4 года назад
The youngest in this series has such a wise presence about her.
@birez6625
@birez6625 4 года назад
Lawrence Chen I feel like her and her mom have at least set a healthy line of communication and she’ll be more considerate of social media in regards to her daughter. Sometimes we do need someone to sit us down to let us know we’ve been bothered by something when it didn’t seem so harmful before.
@teresa4645
@teresa4645 4 года назад
She's smart
@bernardfarquharson3275
@bernardfarquharson3275 4 года назад
Her mom is a professor in NYC
@SOI-wl2lo
@SOI-wl2lo 4 года назад
The little lady is SO smart and astute!
@l.p.4617
@l.p.4617 4 года назад
people take young kids as if they were stupid but they can understand (sometimes even better than their own parents) most things.
@se7enupmustang
@se7enupmustang 4 года назад
the insta lady needs to reevaluate how she makes memories.
@SMB-yx1wi
@SMB-yx1wi 4 года назад
Why? I don't see any problems with it.
@RNCHFND
@RNCHFND 4 года назад
Social media doesn't last forever. Remember Myspace?
@abouttogiveyasomefacts5574
@abouttogiveyasomefacts5574 4 года назад
RanchoFundo but the internet does
@somemorre
@somemorre 4 года назад
@RanchoFundo...Myspace pictures and profiles are literally still online.
@je777y
@je777y 4 года назад
@@somemorre over the last few years MySpace has been deleting old profiles as they're gradually taking down their servers, about half the accounts made before 2008 have been stripped
@miawallace2306
@miawallace2306 3 года назад
I called this stuff 10 years ago when I saw a bunch of new parents around my same age doing this to their kids. I said “Just wait until these kids are old enough to realize they are essentially being exploited for likes. The lawsuits are going to be astronomical.” It’s finally happening. Hopefully society will figure out a nice compromise when it comes to over sharing their defenseless children.
@sarahjames5176
@sarahjames5176 9 месяцев назад
Telling my mother in law that letting our kids decide and have control about how many and what pictures of them end up online literally ended our relationship with her. She hasn't spoken to us in 6+ years because "if it's not of FB did it even happen? What's the point of spending time with family if you can't share?"
@Bubblegumswitch
@Bubblegumswitch 9 месяцев назад
😳🤦🏾‍♀️ wow! So sorry that it got to that point. Glad you stood up for your children though. Bravo! 👏🏽 Don’t think adults really think about the consequences for children enough. Hope your MIL will see it from a different perspective before it’s too late 🙏🏾.
@TheINFP_Diary
@TheINFP_Diary 4 года назад
“If it’s not on insta, it didn’t even happen”. That’s honestly sickening
@weird3912
@weird3912 4 года назад
Philleen S yea she crazy
@inspirice9844
@inspirice9844 4 года назад
Life through social media, steals life itself.
@taalatchouf5427
@taalatchouf5427 4 года назад
Narcissist
@carolegyptienne
@carolegyptienne 4 года назад
Philleen S cringe worthy
@CC-si3cr
@CC-si3cr 4 года назад
I was really surprised the mom said that. That really sounded like something a 14 y/o would say.
@Kirsten_is_cursed10
@Kirsten_is_cursed10 3 года назад
Parents blaming their kids for having social media addictions. Meanwhile...
@Lauren-uv8nc
@Lauren-uv8nc 3 года назад
right like where y’all think we got it from😭
@tutorialsforyou3981
@tutorialsforyou3981 3 года назад
Fr
@GamesForTheWlN
@GamesForTheWlN 3 года назад
In this generation there is a huge issue of social media addiction so calling that out is justified. Not that the older generation is any better. Just don't make it a blame game ;p
@welikelethabo
@welikelethabo 3 года назад
Factss
@harris3dgamer
@harris3dgamer 3 года назад
Lol
@kaylynn6571
@kaylynn6571 3 года назад
Parents: “ugh kids these days are so obsessed with social media” Also parents: “if I can’t document it on Instagram at may as well have not happened”
@gamstabri8923
@gamstabri8923 3 года назад
I can so relate to this. My dad left when I was little. He comes back now and posts all of my recent achievements and gets praise for being a “good dad”.
@Ad-Lo
@Ad-Lo 8 месяцев назад
🤦‍♀️
@zakeernalir2871
@zakeernalir2871 8 месяцев назад
Don’t let him do that. He doesn’t deserve that
@celialovett5880
@celialovett5880 4 года назад
Wow. Intelligent and mature kids with parents who are neither. Poor kids.
@Carmella0002
@Carmella0002 4 года назад
Celia Lovett it’s crazy considering parents are always so paranoid about what their kids do online they don’t even stop to look at themselves.
@miameow4833
@miameow4833 4 года назад
I'm sure it was scripted. No normal kid talks like that...and with print outs of statistics...not even our journalists back up their claims like that.
@alaaye5237
@alaaye5237 4 года назад
Mia Meow Of course to you it has to be scripted. But in reality teenagers are smart, children are smart. Why is it a surprise when we are well spoken? Don’t forget Gen Z is the most literate generation to ever exist so far.
@milascave2
@milascave2 4 года назад
@@tomatotortilla Well, the teens may well be that smart. But the five-year-old? Hm.
@aestheticastro1180
@aestheticastro1180 4 года назад
Celia Lovett One thousandth like
@batgirl_brunette3873
@batgirl_brunette3873 4 года назад
That Indian mom is seriously getting on my nerves
@rikymartinstephen3356
@rikymartinstephen3356 4 года назад
All Indian mom's get on their kid's nerves!!!!😂😂
@atabeyrivera1702
@atabeyrivera1702 4 года назад
batgirl_brunette yea I don’t know if she knows family albums still a thing lol
@SonjaS222
@SonjaS222 4 года назад
Very sad. Her daughter should have a choice of what pictures of her that are shared. Especially bikini pics. 🤦🏾‍♀️
@svc6550
@svc6550 Год назад
Some of the parents not acknowledging their children’s feelings is part of our problem.
@darhi_yis9175
@darhi_yis9175 3 года назад
My mother has been very guilty of this ever since Facebook existed. It was very stressful as a socially anxious, low self-esteem kid/teen to have my photos posted online for everyone to see. She cared more about getting attention than she did my feelings and continued to force pictures and post anyways. It's very obvious what the intentions are of these parents, if they just wanted it for private mementos it would be different.
@ebonyrenna
@ebonyrenna 9 месяцев назад
I’m so sorry. I bet it is. I’m 34 and I’ve always had social anxiety, as a result Im very private online. I would be so upset if my parents did that. Sending hugs!!
@tsunderechild2777
@tsunderechild2777 4 года назад
Yikes the mom who thinks if it wasn’t on Instagram it didn’t happen.
@gretaweiss6802
@gretaweiss6802 4 года назад
Ugh. So gross. I can’t believe she wasn’t embarrassed to say that!
@kimcheezy3433
@kimcheezy3433 4 года назад
I feel like there are too many people who feel like this these days. If it is not promoted on their social media then it didn't really happen. So sad.
@Carmella0002
@Carmella0002 4 года назад
i would be heartbroken if my mum felt that memories we share didn’t mean anything unless they were up on social media. it would genuinely feel hurtful.
@asdfghjkl-oo7lv
@asdfghjkl-oo7lv 4 года назад
@@kimcheezy3433 smh. That's all I can say.
@bolognivm
@bolognivm 4 года назад
Mother of the year! Smh
@reggaejunkie1303
@reggaejunkie1303 3 года назад
Even the youngest kid was like “you didn’t ask” 😢
@StarLight-sl9ok
@StarLight-sl9ok 3 года назад
She makes a good point about sharing with grandparents but she should create an online album that’s for family members only.
@perperperpen
@perperperpen 3 года назад
I wonder how old she is, because she sounds more articulate than she looks.
@miippi
@miippi 3 года назад
@@StarLight-sl9ok yeah, totally. And if you can facetime the granparents, why can't you sent the pictures privately? And how ever did we share pictures and stories about our kids 20-30 years ago, when social media wasn't a thing... I guess ill never know...
@harshitakaur8896
@harshitakaur8896 3 года назад
Kids can share whatever they want but parents can't. Weird. They'll know When they have Kids of their own!
@miippi
@miippi 3 года назад
@@harshitakaur8896 we'll, the kids who share pictures about themselves have the choise to do so. These kids were not asked if they want their photos shared. About you, you can share what ever you wish. But would you like it if someone shared publicly photos of you on the toilet or took photos of you without your consent at the beach and then shared them online? The entire point is about CONSENT. These kids didn't give their consent to their photos being shared. If these mom's would have asked "is it okay, I put this picture of you on my Facebook?" and the kids would have agreed it would have been fine. But these kids were not given the option to say "no".
@m0nnii
@m0nnii 3 года назад
If I ever have a child I definitely do NOT wanna be posting them at all. That is so selfish and arrogant. I hate that parents act like the children are possessions that they're entitled to do anything they find "ok" with. This mentality of "I made you, you're mine, I'm always right, I make decisions for you" is so toxic. So many people have children literally just for show, like it's some social requirement. Edit: also don't these people know they can take photos and save them in albums and simply not post them if they just want the memories?
@zahraahmed7999
@zahraahmed7999 3 года назад
Subhanallah. I can relate to this. I'm a Muslim girl, and I started wearing the hijab more than a year ago. Even after that, my mother would keep on posting pictures of me without my hijab. When I confronted her about it, she'd brush it off like it's not such a big deal. Some parents really don't want to admit their mistakes, or don't even see their mistakes because their child's opinion hold such little value to them cuz we're 'just kids'.
@Zuzzamma
@Zuzzamma 9 месяцев назад
I am so sorry for you having a mom that doesn't value you and respect you enough to hear you out..
@Ad-Lo
@Ad-Lo 8 месяцев назад
😮
@mundaneamazing
@mundaneamazing 3 года назад
Is Zoya the parent?? Her mom is being EXTREMELY immature.
@Its_Me_Ashi_
@Its_Me_Ashi_ 3 года назад
That is an asian parent for you
@MetalShowgirl
@MetalShowgirl 3 года назад
It sincerely shook me when her mom said, "If I can't post it for Insta it's like it didn't even happen." I refuse to believe she doesn't know how ridiculous and immature she sounds. Hopefully seeing herself in this video serves as a wake up call.
@aditiyadav5833
@aditiyadav5833 3 года назад
Lol Some parents can't accept that what they were doing is wrong or is making their kid uncomfortable....
@priyankagovender2682
@priyankagovender2682 3 года назад
Asian culture dictates that the elder is right, you are wrong. Shut up!......that's unfortunately how it is. Any comment or ideology that conflicts with a person older than you is disrespect. I could like tea instead of coffee...tell my parents and because they don't agree on my likes and dislikes I'm being disrespectful 🤷🏽‍♀️
@mrclean5101
@mrclean5101 3 года назад
@@Its_Me_Ashi_ nahh she's just an idiotic parent
@frauleinmarlenschka6891
@frauleinmarlenschka6891 4 года назад
Just create a public account and start putting weird pictures of your parent on it. their opinion will change sooo fast
@nematoaddd
@nematoaddd 4 года назад
Excellent
@maggie198333
@maggie198333 4 года назад
That’s a good one.
@lolo-gp7gl
@lolo-gp7gl 4 года назад
They will rebuttal with “I’m the parent, you are the child” these people see as though they own their children and have the right to do as they please.
@JulianneHannes
@JulianneHannes 4 года назад
Make sure they are pictures where they look fat and have no makeup on
@nicolefalvey533
@nicolefalvey533 4 года назад
Omg yes!!!! Lol
@dianadiaz5876
@dianadiaz5876 3 года назад
The mom's KNOW they're being recorded and posted online somewhere. The parents aren't showing even half of who they are. Wait for what the kids get after the interviews :/
@grassgeese3916
@grassgeese3916 3 года назад
i feel so bad for Zoya. I hope she had a friend pick her up after this cuz her mom is definitely the type to scream at u in private.
@selmore94
@selmore94 2 года назад
I used to get so mad when my friends would lazily post an entire camera roll instead of deleting unflattering or downright inappropriate photos in middle and high school. I can’t imagine having to argue with my own parent about this! I feel for these kids, but at least they are showing they can stand their ground.
@TorquemadaTwist
@TorquemadaTwist 4 года назад
Someone should ask these moms how they'd feel if their kids took photos of them and posted them without permission. No makeup, wearing something unflattering, making a weird face? Too bad, mom. But it's cool, it's just my closest friends judging you.
@Chronicler92
@Chronicler92 4 года назад
That's probably the way to make them understand. Us kids just being indignant about the control parents exert on us wouldn't really work
@summerscoming123
@summerscoming123 4 года назад
Nice! Yes! Good point
@irrelevance3859
@irrelevance3859 4 года назад
Agreed. There's kids should out it it the test. Make a private account with fake followers or something and do exactly the same thing they're doing. See how they feel about it.
@ninanickel3103
@ninanickel3103 4 года назад
Bruce Dunn I’ve had my son do my makeup, who cares?!
@ferr.4106
@ferr.4106 4 года назад
my mom put a picture of my butt on facebook on christmas before
@leorising8074
@leorising8074 4 года назад
A bunch of narcissistic parents avoiding their children’s feelings 🙄
@violethaye6987
@violethaye6987 4 года назад
I thought the 7 year old girl (Lucy)'s mom was more willing to compromise. I know narcissists who wouldn't address the issue if you brought it up to them, or even bother listening to the other point of view, let alone go on a video.
@Super_BeastGirl
@Super_BeastGirl 4 года назад
Agreed. Total narcissistic behavior.
@blankeyed67
@blankeyed67 4 года назад
||A bunch of narcissistic parents That’s a pretty heavy word to throw around. They aren’t narcissist. You wouldn’t call them that if you knew one. It’s just they’re humans who refuse to give respect to the child. Simple as that.
@chinwenduchinwe586
@chinwenduchinwe586 4 года назад
I would tend to agree, it's narcissistic. There is no reason why these parents have to post their children pictures online; they can post them on the walls in the privacy of their home. It really CAN put them at risk.
@ShaiMyst
@ShaiMyst 4 года назад
@@chinwenduchinwe586 I agree to an extent that they can put pictures up at home. But I think that many older parents who didn't come into the internet and technology in an organic way, just honestly don't know the long lasting effects of anything online.
@RebeccaEvans
@RebeccaEvans 9 месяцев назад
It's wild how invalidating these adults are about the child's objections to the adult's commodification of their body in front of third parties and strangers for social currency
@agiegovender5666
@agiegovender5666 9 месяцев назад
When the young girl said you did not ask that's it. No more questions asked.
@gracemerritt5316
@gracemerritt5316 4 года назад
I report my moms photos of me when i dont like them
@xocreme
@xocreme 4 года назад
Big power move
@Mae-nw6cv
@Mae-nw6cv 4 года назад
Grace Merritt lol this is a smart idea tho
@galaxylucia1898
@galaxylucia1898 4 года назад
GOOD!!! Someone has to hold her accountable since she clearly won't do it herself.
@KikiKanKakleTooHun
@KikiKanKakleTooHun 4 года назад
LMAO ME TOO
@scepidilionz8861
@scepidilionz8861 4 года назад
Does it really get taken down? I would love this
@findlay7699
@findlay7699 4 года назад
this isn’t an argument about oversharing: it’s an argument about respecting people’s boundries and respecting your children as PEOPLE.
@stxrrynxght319
@stxrrynxght319 4 года назад
Findlay M Walker apparently children aren’t “people” to a lot of adults we seem to forget that a lot sure, children are children. but children are also people with rights. not dolls.
@beedebawng2556
@beedebawng2556 4 года назад
Except that YOUR children are being manipulated by forces outside of your home pretty much 24/7. While, I agree about not posting photos of one's self or other people online for privacy and safety reasons, I completely disagree with the corrupt media posing as arbitrator of familial affairs. The media through feminism has pretty much destroyed the male/female relationship. We certainly don't want them to destroy the mother/child relationship.
@piratesswoop725
@piratesswoop725 4 года назад
Beede Bawng The attitudes of these parents are what will destroy the parent/child relationship.
@dontmindme.imjustafraidofe9327
@dontmindme.imjustafraidofe9327 4 года назад
Yup. So true.
@economicist2011
@economicist2011 3 года назад
"You're mine. I own you." - Mom, on more occasions than I can count
@AmenJenn
@AmenJenn 9 месяцев назад
This video changed my point of view forever. I watched this when it first aired, and my son was 2 at the time. I immediately stopped posting him. I now have 4 children and I do not post them online. This is so eye opening and these parents are DELUSIONAL.
@thelittleoctopus2353
@thelittleoctopus2353 3 года назад
3:35 the mum asking if kids should have veto power over things being taken down ... I thought that was the law?
@SS-yv4ro
@SS-yv4ro 4 года назад
This just shows how so many parents think that their children are just extensions of themselves, and therefore do not treat them as individuals with individual rights and wants.
@melodramatic7904
@melodramatic7904 4 года назад
Because you know they would NEVER post a friend's pictures without their permission. Or if a friend asked them to take a picture down, they would do it without hesitation.
@lc4751
@lc4751 4 года назад
I've always disliked how parents think they're so entitled to their kid's autonomy and agency. Especially of their kid's image. Hated all the clothes my mom chose for me.
@MsPeabody1231
@MsPeabody1231 4 года назад
We have a social media blackout on my child.
@SS-yv4ro
@SS-yv4ro 4 года назад
L C I agree, and it sort of reminds me of My Sister’s Keeper, even though it’s an extreme example. But it’s similar to me in the sense that the parent(s) don’t consider what’s best for their child, but more so what they want.
@hindsightpov4218
@hindsightpov4218 4 года назад
S S 5 That’s the definition of a narcissistic parent.
@Olivia-vp1xj
@Olivia-vp1xj 4 года назад
Th little girl’s mom was the best, she was very open to listening to her child and acknowledged that she should’ve asked and agreed to do so in the future
@BernadetteTeachesMusic
@BernadetteTeachesMusic 4 года назад
Olivia I think that’s why the little girl is so eloquent. She probably has a very nurturing environment.
@Kailiria
@Kailiria 4 года назад
That little girl is so cute💖😭
@catiecho5145
@catiecho5145 4 года назад
Yeah. I think it’s amazing that a seven year old can have a conversation with their mom as shown by the video.
@LeannaCherner
@LeannaCherner 4 года назад
She’s the best! She’s actually my teacher and she’s by far the most open and understanding person
@ariebirb
@ariebirb 4 года назад
I love how her mom treated her as an equal but then we have the 18 year old who’s mom wouldn’t even consider his privacy and I’m like
@livcurnow1674
@livcurnow1674 8 месяцев назад
The little girl looked on the verge of tears especially at the start and its both good, and really depressing that she is aware of this kind of this at such a young age.
@unoki99
@unoki99 8 месяцев назад
My sister and I went through this with our mom back in 2012 because we felt our mom posted too much about us online all the time, not photos only, but posts of what we have done during the day and so on. She got very frustrated at first but when we explained we don’t feel like we get a chance to consent to her posting things about us we feel like our privacy is ignored. She listened and stopped since At that time I was 13
@miadifferent7306
@miadifferent7306 3 года назад
The parent’s behaviour is triggering for me. Young people shouldn’t have to fight for their right to privacy with their own parents.
@JamButter123
@JamButter123 3 года назад
That’s why I left my mom.
@allwhatilove914
@allwhatilove914 3 года назад
True, young people shouldn't have to fight for their PrIvACy with their own parents, as a latino mom that I am, as long as they live under my roof and eat from my food I'm the boss here. Unless the parents are putting them at REAL risk by sharing inappropriate pictures or very private information I don't think they have the right to complain. My husband is Belgian and we live in both countries: Belgium and France and here is also up to us to decided what to share or not, it's not about a kid not wanting pictures, is about being inappropriate or embarrassing pictures of ANYONE, but minors will have a huge work to try to prove their parents have no right to do so. Good luck to them. But them again, we have teachers beheaded while giving a class on Freedom of Speech, which shows how much the country knows how to deal with it's issues. My son is 4 years old and I only have 3 pictures of him on my instagram (one per year on his birthday, one year I didn't post), I dont use much social media and I dont like to share, but that is me. This things are only for white middle class brats or kids brain washed by whites. We would tell our latino/black moms what to do or not to do and we would lose a tooth. Meanwhile those are the moms that are actually well cared and beloved until they die and we take all good care of them when they are old. White parents that do all by the books are VERY OFTEN left to die in asylums forgotten by their families. Here in Europe almost all white parents die alone despise giving all PrIvACy to their kids. I'm not raising a white Brat, here is latino and my family will work as a latino family does.
@elliecole6487
@elliecole6487 3 года назад
I agree I was genuinely triggered as well, it’s an extremely horrific feeling to know that you have no control when parents feel they own you
@malcolmcarter5222
@malcolmcarter5222 3 года назад
@@allwhatilove914 It really isn't a matter of race. It causes conflict and that is undeniable. You say your children have no right to complain and that and as long as they live under your roof you are the boss. That proves that you don't see them as people but as things you control. Imagine being put in that position yourself if you even can. I'm sure if you were a victim of this you wouldn't draw the conclusions that you did. Your opinion is clearly one made without though or contemplation as shown by your racist undertones, over possessiveness and inability to make sense of information given to you. You also latch on to tradition blindly believing that just because your mother might have drawn the conclusions that you draw now that they are valid. Honestly it's people like you who shouldn't be afforded the right to control what they believe is personal to them.
@ntmn8444
@ntmn8444 3 года назад
I agree. This is child abuse.
@chanah-danaejames6337
@chanah-danaejames6337 4 года назад
The mom said “if it’s not on insta it didn’t even happen” I have no words
@carolegyptienne
@carolegyptienne 4 года назад
Chanah-Danae James cringe
@fairyxe5693
@fairyxe5693 4 года назад
I read this comment as she was saying it😂
@mytoesarecold5555
@mytoesarecold5555 4 года назад
The mom seemed like she was trying to guilt trip her.
@garig9790
@garig9790 4 года назад
Many parents say that nowadays. It's sickening, to be honest. It's plainly unbelievable how social media was just introduced less than 15 years ago (I'm not exactly sure how accurate this is), yet so many parents are obsessed with forcing memories into the public world.
@andrewcarter968
@andrewcarter968 4 года назад
that sounds like a teenager. sad
@flynnmorrow6945
@flynnmorrow6945 9 месяцев назад
I quit social media when my third child was born. I wish I hadn't spent anytime time on social media at all.
@sugasahoge1720
@sugasahoge1720 9 месяцев назад
It's scary to see how some parents are so deep in social media that they put sharing photos online over their own child's safety. I feel so bad for the kids, hope their parents get a wake up call before anything bad happens.
@nayerie24
@nayerie24 4 года назад
The Indian mom is something else. Her attitude towards her daughter on camera is disgusting and I can’t imagine what it must be like out of the public eye
@purple00k
@purple00k 4 года назад
queen_ nayerie at 18 I would be outa there
@zahraaesmael342
@zahraaesmael342 4 года назад
@@purple00k not something that's usually possible in our culture.
@cassieang1601
@cassieang1601 4 года назад
Zahra Ismail but possible by law
@zahraaesmael342
@zahraaesmael342 4 года назад
@@cassieang1601 what you fail to understand is the severe brainwashing. what you fail to understand is the manipulation. this and worse happens to most of us and we never go to the police. police also have way "bigger" issues than this. Watching them take this seriously would be fun. We belong to our families and they take away all of our agency.
@peppermintmocha8545
@peppermintmocha8545 4 года назад
@@cherriesvu same
@varun009
@varun009 3 года назад
This is insane. The Indian mom is such a womanchild.
@KendraGraceT
@KendraGraceT 3 года назад
A definite Auntie!
@roromerigulgapa1246
@roromerigulgapa1246 3 года назад
It’s like people can violate your privacy so do I I am like 🤨🧐what’s wrong with that woman
@biggusy25
@biggusy25 3 года назад
That comment about 'if I can't post it on Insta then it never even happened' almost made me throw up in my mouth. She really is so shallow and vapid that she gets ZERO enjoyment out of spending time with her family and creating memories with them. She lives her whole life trying to absorb as much attention and approval from strangers online as she can that she is even willing to post non consensual pictures of her own UNDERAGE daughter in a bikini if it gets her more likes... She is sick in the head and this video is not cute or funny. It's disgusting.
@varun009
@varun009 3 года назад
@@biggusy25 agreed. Then again, poor thing can't exactly post pictures of herself in a bikini, or, God forbid, her husband in a speedo.
@biggusy25
@biggusy25 3 года назад
@@varun009 Exactly. Feels like she is stealing her daughter's body in a way and getting some satisfaction from it that she can't get from her own. That's the creepy part to me. If it really is about sharing a memory, why not post a picture of her daughter posing next to a cool landmark or sculpture or something? Why a generic bikini pic from a beach?
@rachelturner9162
@rachelturner9162 3 года назад
Oh my goodness. So impressed with that young girl's ability to set boundaries.
@EB-wh1rn
@EB-wh1rn 8 месяцев назад
I remember the time when my parents used to warn me against posting my pictures online, when I was a kid. Nowadays it’s the kids telling the parents to not post their pictures online…
@TheGreekxicans
@TheGreekxicans 3 года назад
The Indian daughter is one of the most mature teenagers I’ve ever seen, and her mom is one of the MOST immature adults I’ve ever seen.
@citrus7745
@citrus7745 3 года назад
its sad but a lot of mature kids are only that way because of immature parents. the kids have to raise and teach themselves.
@Denturess
@Denturess 3 года назад
@@citrus7745 and the polar opposite too. People with immature parents can also end up bring extreme versions of their own parents. It’s sad
@backintimealwyn5736
@backintimealwyn5736 3 года назад
you get it's all staged right?
@rymanshroomzorz
@rymanshroomzorz 3 года назад
Yeah basically when you have to raise your own parents because they're used to an older more immature narcissistic world without smartphones that hold the entire world's information, it tends to be a very sad state of affairs.
@minimalistdanse
@minimalistdanse 3 года назад
@@backintimealwyn5736 💯
@ntmn8444
@ntmn8444 3 года назад
Little girl: “you shared pictures of me without asking”. Mom: “oh honey, it’s called connecting! I’m just sharing pictures of you so family and friends can see you.” Little girl: “They can call or FaceTime for that.” It’s a sad day when little kids born into this world of social media have more common sense than the adults in their lives. Wow.
@maad1827
@maad1827 3 года назад
I’m glad young people/kids are able to critique these habits still!!! I was worried it would become an irreversible societal norm... a little alarmist on my part but back in 2010 when I saw my relatives and friends handing iPads to their TODDLERS, and recording every minute of their children’s lives, it was definitely a little concerning and weird. Anyways here we are
@onizukasorimachi9755
@onizukasorimachi9755 3 года назад
Screw this kid, obviously being brainwashed by other adults
@michellemarie9526
@michellemarie9526 3 года назад
Exactly. It’s so sad.
@fairholmka
@fairholmka 3 года назад
But it was really nice that her mom seemed like she was listening and understood what her child was saying about consent.
@istoleallyourducktape5630
@istoleallyourducktape5630 3 года назад
ikr!! or they could just send the pictures in a private group chat instead of plastering them all over the internet
@elenaacosta482
@elenaacosta482 9 месяцев назад
I have just about the best parents anyone could ask for but I had to have this conversation with them many times as a kid. I’m in college now and I’ve stopped caring as much about my online footprint but I definitely see this as an increasing problem in the world today. It’s crazy that kids have to be the voice of reason!
@crittertails7536
@crittertails7536 3 года назад
When I first saw the term "Sharenting", I thought it meant sharing rent with parents lol
@TheApplianceDirect
@TheApplianceDirect 3 года назад
I'm feeling really grateful right now that my parents aren't interested enough in social media to give me this kinda grief
@stariehearts2366
@stariehearts2366 3 года назад
My immigrant parents can barely use a computer, so grateful for that fact 😂
@aceo_o2295
@aceo_o2295 3 года назад
Same
@sphere6258
@sphere6258 3 года назад
As a millennial parent I fully understand the repercussions of blasting my child all over social media, I actively guard my child's right to autonomy and anonymity. Friends and family know not to post my child online, some have learned it the hard way. Now that my child is old enough to understand the consequences they often tell people not to post them on social media as well. It's f-ed up how many kids will have issues with employment, security, anonymity, etc... because mom and dad were addicted to likes...smh
@angelicasysnila5476
@angelicasysnila5476 3 года назад
@@sphere6258 you are a great parent !!
@sphere6258
@sphere6258 3 года назад
@@angelicasysnila5476 Thanks, just looking out for my kiddo.
@saturdayradionova1734
@saturdayradionova1734 4 года назад
When Lucy’s mom said “oh so it’s more about the asking for permission than the actual picture” that was nice to see she understood
@bellrose2659
@bellrose2659 4 года назад
Alanya Sloane I KNOW I loved that part. So sweet
@NameName-yj7lp
@NameName-yj7lp 4 года назад
She’s doing the right thing She brings her points respectfully and tires to understand her child and her points
@megan1950
@megan1950 3 года назад
She was my favorite mom because of that! I don't know what else to call it--a "diagnostic" question. She put effort in to figure out how her daughter was feeling.
@saturdayradionova1734
@saturdayradionova1734 3 года назад
Oh woah I hadn’t checked this comment in a while I had no idea it had this many likes also YEAH it was so kind..... I was rlly happy one of the parents seemed to get it 🥺🥺
@Franzifii
@Franzifii 3 года назад
Sometines, it is about the picture though.
@ItsNadiaMathew
@ItsNadiaMathew 10 месяцев назад
I have been working in social media marketing for over 7 years and one thing I swear by in never posting anything personal. My boyfriend also doesn’t want me posting anything of him. You have to respect their privacy.
@alondrita02
@alondrita02 9 месяцев назад
I’m so grateful to have parents that dislike social media. I’m a new mom and never have uploaded baby pictures on Facebook or instagram. In fact I deleted all my apps this year and it’s been so great.
@gcil8214
@gcil8214 4 года назад
Parents: you can get kidnapped and lost so easily, don’t leave the house, and don’t talk to people online, all those online friends are proly predators. Also parents: this.
@bruhdabones
@bruhdabones 4 года назад
Henry Mueller no comments, this is uncontroversial
@TheBuildingFreak
@TheBuildingFreak 4 года назад
But also most parents accounts are private and are only followed by family and close family friends
@bruhdabones
@bruhdabones 4 года назад
TheBuildingFreak Watch the whole video. If the post something truly interesting/weird/bad, anyone can screenshot it and re-share it. And private accounts aren’t that much better, because why would you want your mother’s college roommate to see random pictures of you?
@lemon-pop2923
@lemon-pop2923 4 года назад
TheBuildingFreak Y’know most crimes are usually done by someone you know in your life . . . People could do anything with those photos . . .
@acezaaczetaas2759
@acezaaczetaas2759 9 месяцев назад
​@@TheBuildingFreakif the child had a private account and posted a photo of their mother in a bikini in an unflattering angle for all of their friends from school to see, would there be the same energy? (It.s okaay, right? Just friends from school, the kid knows them) Also. The account of the parents has people that THEY are "close" with , not the child (tbh, it.s mostly about bragging, not about sharing info with close ones). Also many predators or people with ill intent are usually friends any family of the parent. I remember, that when I was a minor, I was ok with kids my age knowing my deepest darkest secrets, but not toxic family "friends".
@ashleya3731
@ashleya3731 3 года назад
Parents: consent is necessary Parents: your my child. I can do what I want
@safarullahabdulraheem380
@safarullahabdulraheem380 3 года назад
This attitude of some people I know kills me.and I can't argue with those adults because they are older than me.🙄🙄
@lemoncinn4084
@lemoncinn4084 3 года назад
And then when you tell them that consent is necessary they just go “bUt iM thE pArEnT”
@Bobthrbuilder111
@Bobthrbuilder111 3 года назад
Yes. Very true. Children has the same rights. They are human
@432hzcentral9
@432hzcentral9 3 года назад
That's the problem. Seeing their children as property or extensions of themselves, and not unique individuals who happen to be at an earlier stage of life. Kids should have the freedom to make their own choices and to experience life instead of being treated like objects.
@horsewings3561
@horsewings3561 3 года назад
Exactly, it called being the authority figure in your life like a parent is supposed to be.
@meliavar
@meliavar 8 месяцев назад
This, here is so important. I have a kid and I have never shared a single picture. My hubby and I decided early on that privacy is the most important.
@Eljazec
@Eljazec 3 года назад
As a parent of young children who cannot yet advocate for themselves in this way, I have struggled to figure out what is and isn't appropriate to post about them. Not only do I want to protect them, I want to make sure they aren't embarrassed or upset about it when they are older. What little I've posted so far can't really be taken back, but this video has helped me think through the issue more clearly.
@montycantsin8861
@montycantsin8861 4 года назад
If the Indian girl's mom were my mom, I'd go crazy. She said "ok, I'll stop", but her choice of words just sounds so martyr-ey to me. That drives me crazy.
@bessyxyz
@bessyxyz 4 года назад
The mental gymnastics on that one was cringe AF
@user-m418
@user-m418 4 года назад
i feel bad for these types of parents because they don’t realize how ridiculous they sound
@SkullCrusher-xk5wp
@SkullCrusher-xk5wp 4 года назад
All indian mums are like that
@angelia497
@angelia497 4 года назад
like most south Asian parents lol
@illegalhunter7
@illegalhunter7 4 года назад
Indian moms. Indian parents in general. They see kids as property.
@topher25151
@topher25151 3 года назад
Imagine being a parent who tells her child that spending time together might as well have not happened if it wasn’t documented on Instagram. WOW. That is wrong on so many levels.
@petsnake
@petsnake 3 года назад
@Jocelyn Anderson even in your memory should be enough for it to be of worth!
@eyesofthecervino3366
@eyesofthecervino3366 3 года назад
@Jocelyn Anderson Or . . . why wasn't it enough to spend that time with, to connect with, _me?_ Why do you have to use it for validation from strangers before it means something to you?
@victorym744
@victorym744 3 года назад
If my mom told me that, I'd fully cry.
@Litcott
@Litcott 3 года назад
And she literally said she'd only consider not posting content of her daughter if they "stop taking vacations together and stop having good times together." Holding family time over her daughter's head as a bargaining tool. So incredibly manipulative. If she can't have her way then she wants to find a way to punish her daughter for it. What an ugly heart she has.
@prlegal411
@prlegal411 3 года назад
A sad byproduct of “pics or it didn’t happen”.
@maxmccann5323
@maxmccann5323 3 года назад
"you didn't ask" *Parent.exe does not recognize this command, please try again*
@maiianthe3280
@maiianthe3280 9 месяцев назад
I hope Zoya is and feels safe. You, and the other kids, deserve to have your boundaries respected regardless of your age. I hope you know your presence and time is valuable, even without it being shared online. You are a human being not an accessory or something to show off. There is something about this that I can relate to and, if you see this, know that you are not alone. And you are enough. And you deserve better. I hope you get it soon.
@Kira-tu3xp
@Kira-tu3xp 4 года назад
*When the younger generations gets bashed for social media but adult are was worse*
@bananabread1448
@bananabread1448 4 года назад
We are on it a lot but don’t post much they post 24/7 sometimes
@krystencobriana6924
@krystencobriana6924 4 года назад
Same goes for cellphone use, specifically using it while driving. It's a problem for both kids and adults, but adults like top pretend like they aren't a part of the problem.
@serenesista
@serenesista 4 года назад
Kira ʔ•̫͡•ʕ it’s classic projection. They blame us for things they are doing.
@rocklesson86
@rocklesson86 4 года назад
Truth.
@LTMotions
@LTMotions 3 года назад
“If it’s not on insta, it didn’t even happen” that is exactly the kind of thing that adults paint teenagers saying, yet look where we are now.
@NameName-yj7lp
@NameName-yj7lp 3 года назад
Online you can take a screenshot of things So it very much happens
@mollylevitt1474
@mollylevitt1474 3 года назад
Parents tend to project onto their kids a lot, unfortunately :(
@aisera1986
@aisera1986 3 года назад
I have no Insta ..I guess, I don't exist :)
@sianifairy9070
@sianifairy9070 3 года назад
yup.
@headquarters5337
@headquarters5337 Год назад
Dude this 3 parents out of millions chill. It's more parents not worrying about social media photos
@nita182
@nita182 9 месяцев назад
This is SO important. I'm so happy to see some children grow up with a critical mind even if they didn't have such a role model at home.
@dare2512
@dare2512 9 месяцев назад
I’m glad we are talking about this. Not everyone on the internet needs to know my personal business. I don’t even know what all my mom has posted about me and what random people know about my life!!!
@broodjekaas820
@broodjekaas820 3 года назад
When a 7 year-old has to teach her mom about privacy..
@giuliab8484
@giuliab8484 3 года назад
At least her mom got the message
@LL-wu5ui
@LL-wu5ui 3 года назад
You know it was scripted.
@ROGOrphan
@ROGOrphan 3 года назад
@@LL-wu5ui yeah I feel the 7 yr old girls part was super scripted lol but still gives us something to think about
@Porguss
@Porguss 3 года назад
The 7 yo did not bring her mom into this 🤣
@mirandaa6551
@mirandaa6551 4 года назад
“Yeah, that’s true. That’s a really good point.” wow imagine your parent actually taking your opinion into account... crazy
@marchforth3515
@marchforth3515 4 года назад
that happened to me once about my mom understanding that fake nose rings are not actual piercings and she still forgot to get me some for Christmas :( but I was glad she came to her senses cause she can be a bit of a brick wall sometimes
@Zeverinsen
@Zeverinsen 4 года назад
Would've been nice.
@haketyu7891
@haketyu7891 3 года назад
@Linety 27 they could be.
@sailormonet19941
@sailormonet19941 3 года назад
And NOT being accused of disrespecting them!!! For those of us with foreign parents that is a BIG deal!
@ioanaclau86
@ioanaclau86 3 года назад
That's something that i appreciate most about my parents, they are open to debates on certain subjects and they have admitted a lot of times that my perspective as a young individual is important and relevant to them, because we grew up in different times and the world is changing so fast... :)
@DaisyPusher
@DaisyPusher 3 года назад
I’m SO glad I grew up right before social media hit it so big. I remember a few creeps hitting me up on AIM as a teenager and back then everyone was SO cautious, scared even, of online interactions.
@niamhharikasen7848
@niamhharikasen7848 2 года назад
my mom does it too and doesn't want to delete the pictures. i'm hella embarrassed and started crying but she's too immature to understand that
@fronkentine
@fronkentine 3 года назад
Notice how every single one of these parents is ignoring their child's wishes and completely denying they're in the wrong. So disappointing
@victoryvishmasterblader5020
@victoryvishmasterblader5020 3 года назад
ok, completely denying is a stretch and a half
@happyllama1160
@happyllama1160 3 года назад
The mum of the wee girl seemed to understand whenever they talked about it, but the other two oof
@miippi
@miippi 3 года назад
I guess it might be hard to hear. You think you're not doing anything ever to hurt your child, and then to hear that what you saw as you being proud of your child and sharing those photos is actually hurting them. Since it happened with all the parents they might be just shocked during the interview and don't know how to react to it. I am not saying that the parents are right on here. All the children has a right to their privacy.
@pippijane20
@pippijane20 3 года назад
I agree. Defensive af it's vile
@bipo819
@bipo819 3 года назад
Well one it’s parents being ignorant and two parents thinking their kid is ignorant and thinking they know better
@ruthsteiner1589
@ruthsteiner1589 3 года назад
The indian mother has no understanding at all. She is clearly using her daughter for attention online. It's sad that those mothers have to be taught about the risk of mindlessly posting things online. Especially if it's pictures of other people.
@l0rilei
@l0rilei 3 года назад
and the fact that she said "strangers could take pictures of you at the beach and do whatever they want with them" just doesn't really sit right with me because yes it is true but why would she say it like that as if she doesn't care...
@arjunm6484
@arjunm6484 3 года назад
And when she said " if it isn't on insta , it didn't happen" 👁️👄👁️
@ahanasadhu1655
@ahanasadhu1655 3 года назад
I am from India and I can tell you most parents like to show off or boast a ridiculous amount, even at the expense of the feelings of their children. I feel blessed that my parents respect my privacy as I do theirs.
@metaphoricalkarensworstnig1018
@metaphoricalkarensworstnig1018 3 года назад
This video made realise that i should be grateful that i have indian parents who do document precious moments but don't over share it and literally ask for consent before sharing. Before i saw this vid, i thought every parent does what my parents do but this video gave me a different perspective to the situation :-)
@aashiakataria4465
@aashiakataria4465 3 года назад
for real! the culture is always about what others think :(
@yuqqi432
@yuqqi432 3 года назад
I have GAD and I debated whether or not to send this to my mom. I'm not confident with my looks, and I have really low self-esteem, scared of how people might look at me. When I was on a trip with her, and she posted pictures of me (which I was reluctant to do), without my consent, she just told me "What? Do I have no right as your mom? For me to still ask for your permission?" to which I countered, "Do I have no right as your child and as a person? You already know about how I feel about this, and you don't respect me and my feelings." After that, she just started to victimize herself, making me feel guilty and gaslighting me, because "And? Have you ever had respect to me even once?" And there's also the point where there are many predators in the internet, who we might not know and just save pictures of us children. I can't even trust my own friends when they have a hold and look of my own pictures. Even though parents are the elder ones and "the ones who got the hold of their children" (not true), they still need to be educated with things like this because they're being selfishly ignorant.
@feebee5557
@feebee5557 3 года назад
I used to do this, until one day I realized how upset I'd be if everything cute I said and did was posted by my mom. I apologized to my son, removed all content he didn't approve of, and going forward I ask his permission before I quote him or share photos. He was 8 at the time, now he's 12 and I'm off Facebook forever. Sharing so much about our personal lives on a public forum, even set to private, is so weird. Yes I fully understand the irony of that sentence.
@oceanai1924
@oceanai1924 3 года назад
Zoya's mom is a sad little narcissist, acting like the victim and shaming her daughter for WANTING TO PROTECT HERSELF. This is what happens when people procreate for purely selfish reasons!!!
@tylerbrown3135
@tylerbrown3135 3 года назад
Everyone with children had them for selfish reasons. That is just inherent when you bring someone into existence without their consent. So is it really surprising that parents treat children like their property?
@judigemini178
@judigemini178 3 года назад
@@tylerbrown3135 yes parents are incredibly selfish and at the same time they wont hesitate to talk about how 'selfless' they think they are
@fahim2638
@fahim2638 3 года назад
When know the truth about brown parents
@schroeder666
@schroeder666 3 года назад
I don't know if you watched the whole video or not, and saw that she expresses understanding at the end, but some of y'all have really lost your minds calling everyone a "narcissist". Really inappropriate and not something either of them would likely find constructive.
@zeynepozcelebi8462
@zeynepozcelebi8462 3 года назад
Biological procreating is selfish in and of itself. There is no holly motive about it.
@seraphina2293
@seraphina2293 4 года назад
“If it’s not on insta, it didn’t even happen” Lady, how old are you???
@jbre7233
@jbre7233 4 года назад
Seraphina Ange du six ailes - I’m seeing a lonely mom whose only social life/way of connecting to others is social media (specifically instagram) and i can understand where she’s coming from. I don’t relate, but i understand why her feelings could be so strong about sharing.
@rhythmicelegance4670
@rhythmicelegance4670 4 года назад
Someone who behaves like that is no “lady.”
@see9968
@see9968 4 года назад
Rhythmic Elegance huh? ik her statement was odd but how does it make her less of a ”lady"
@rhythmicelegance4670
@rhythmicelegance4670 4 года назад
Sumaya 99 Aside from the statement being blatantly illogical and shallow (as things and people do actually happen and exist despite many of them not being recorded or posted), she said it in utter disregard to her daughter’s distress and human need for privacy, which added insult to injury as the mother attempted to defend her act of exploitation.
@iwua37
@iwua37 3 года назад
@NillyC the question about her age is in place as this kind of opinion really should be held by people in their teens at most.. certainly it is very questionable when something like that is said by a woman who is raising a child
@clairebeaumont8540
@clairebeaumont8540 2 года назад
My mom has a public Instagram account, and most of her followers live in other countries, have never met her before, or both. She often posts pictures (and sometimes videos) of me, and while none of them are inappropriate or particularly embarrassing, it still feels violating, especially in the circumstances when I *wasn't even aware* that she took certain photos. In fact, I saw that she had captioned one of them "posted with permission", which really peeved me since... she never asked for said permission. So not only was she documenting my life for stranger's entertainment, she was lying to me.
@shannon3315
@shannon3315 9 месяцев назад
This is so frustrating to watch, because I’m 50. I’m probably older than these parents, and with every single one of these kids from the youngest to the oldest, all I could think is “your child understands consent and you do not.” So because of my age I don’t think this is a matter of age or generational differences, I think it’s just not stopping to consider that social media is very different from sticking a photo in an album or hanging it up in your home. My therapist once joked with me that all this modern children’s media that teaches emotional processing is going to put her out of business, and I retorted “the parents on social media who don’t understand that kids’ need for safety extends to online privacy are going to put you right back into business.”
@LadyA728
@LadyA728 4 года назад
My husband and I decided that we weren’t going to post our kids. That if we wanted to share pictures with family and friends we would do it through group text.
@nematoaddd
@nematoaddd 4 года назад
Thats awesome. Thats what I might do too.
@chrischross4116
@chrischross4116 4 года назад
amazing
@likeabottleofwine
@likeabottleofwine 4 года назад
LadyA728 Exactly!!! I don’t know how the world is so dumbfounded on how else to share photos if not on social media. There’s private messaging for a reason.
@AbsFabbs
@AbsFabbs 4 года назад
My husband and I are the same. If someone is interested in our daughter than they can reach out and ask. A bunch of people I used to know don’t need updates on my child.
@nicholasbullock5894
@nicholasbullock5894 4 года назад
Actually? That’s great!
@rm709
@rm709 4 года назад
The Indian mom... well glad the kid turned out well....
@BombshElle_7
@BombshElle_7 3 года назад
You know the expression "With age comes wisdom" is a lie when parents say crap like this: "If it's not on Insta it didn't even happen." SMH
@ChihiroOgino
@ChihiroOgino 3 года назад
Jaiby 👇
@mgA757
@mgA757 3 года назад
🙋‍♀️
@ChihiroOgino
@ChihiroOgino 3 года назад
@@mgA757 ✌️
@gerinjoseph6564
@gerinjoseph6564 3 года назад
👍
@MonkeChugz
@MonkeChugz 4 года назад
5 minutes of parents pretending there's no such thing as "consent"
@AN-bo5ej
@AN-bo5ej 4 года назад
Only when it involves their children (which makes it creepier...)
@kmgonzales6958
@kmgonzales6958 4 года назад
"But strangers can take photos of you (on the beach) ..." yes they can, but they shouldn't.
@mdc47
@mdc47 4 года назад
"somebody else could do things you don't like therefore I can knowingly do things you don't like" That's some logic for ya. 🙃
@jocelyn9744
@jocelyn9744 4 года назад
@@mdc47 Omg you just explain so well how mess up and oof
@Eli-op6iz
@Eli-op6iz 4 года назад
Ken Gonzales and if they do, it'll most definitely end with me confronting them; and chances are it'll end violent
@SLCtica
@SLCtica 4 года назад
In some states (like California) it's actually illegal
@denisenova7494
@denisenova7494 4 года назад
It's illegal to take pictures of a person without consent.
@n.m.8728
@n.m.8728 3 года назад
My mom used to share childhood photos of me on Facebook, but when she read more about the potential privacy issues she took that seriously and took down the images. There's an important element here of being able to admit to mistakes and learn from them.
@sahorigo4487
@sahorigo4487 Год назад
I realized that I shared my son’s photos and his growth without asking him … that is horrible. Thank you for reminding me of that parents have no right to share their kids in public.
@NoName-zi9st
@NoName-zi9st 4 года назад
The Indian mum is living vicariously through her child.
@unclewazza777
@unclewazza777 4 года назад
like 90% of modern feminist mothers.
@user-vu2yb1gy4l
@user-vu2yb1gy4l 4 года назад
@@unclewazza777 what does feminism has to do with this, at all? or do you just like to use it as a Boogeyman?
@unclewazza777
@unclewazza777 4 года назад
@@user-vu2yb1gy4l Wow.You don't see the connection.?? Or you just don't want to.?? SELF ENTITLEMENT. Women trying to live viciously through there daughters. Dance Mons a prime example.
@tolualabi5965
@tolualabi5965 4 года назад
wazza davies but how does that link with feminism?😭😭
@dr_lubaba
@dr_lubaba 3 года назад
@@unclewazza777 every Indian mum does that. I don't think Indian mums are anywhere near being feminists.
@Helloimapup
@Helloimapup 4 года назад
Parents in denial asf 😅
@ESolis-ky2gu
@ESolis-ky2gu 4 года назад
💯💯💯🤣🤣🤣
@CutieMillion
@CutieMillion 4 года назад
ikr, imagine not respecting your children's wishes to not be put online. My sister will never post any pictures of her son online unless he wants her to.
@kimsakamoto
@kimsakamoto 9 месяцев назад
I'm so glad to see this!! Too many parents are clueless about respecting their child's boundaries. This social media phenomenon is just one example and a good one. It's called enmeshment. It's called emotionally immature adults who have kids. Just because lots of parents don't understand or respect their childrens' boundaries doesn't make it right or okay.
@edwardb4730
@edwardb4730 8 месяцев назад
I'm so thankful my wife and I made a conscious decision to limit photos of our son online. I think in his 10 years of existence there are 5 on Facebook and 3 of them are him as an infant. It has however caused strain between me and my mother who is habitually on Facebook and took a long time before she respected our wishes.
@scrambldrabbit
@scrambldrabbit 4 года назад
it physically made me cringe when that mom said “if it’s not on insta, i didn’t happen.” and i thought we were the ones obsessed with ours phones...
@scrambldrabbit
@scrambldrabbit 4 года назад
Vishal Jindal very true
@belle369
@belle369 3 года назад
It’s always my dad saying we’re on our phones too much when he’s on his constantly
@madeonearth6506
@madeonearth6506 3 года назад
Yea that’s where it got me too..
@hollym1751
@hollym1751 3 года назад
“If it’s not on insta, it didn’t happen.” Are you 12? 🙁
@mac9733
@mac9733 3 года назад
🤣🤣🤣
@jnewcomb
@jnewcomb 3 года назад
She certainly wasn't older than her daughter which is VERy confusing.
@taiyabazaheer9492
@taiyabazaheer9492 3 года назад
Lmfao but so true.
@sydney2257
@sydney2257 3 года назад
Make that 6.
@Dre-st3lf
@Dre-st3lf 3 года назад
The actually words i said right after she said that
@storage2562
@storage2562 8 месяцев назад
This is the most raw and unscripted confronting i've come across, especially @ 0:37 where this little child actually contacts the New York Times to invite her mom.
@kimit91
@kimit91 3 года назад
I sent this to my mom and thanked her for never doing this. There's only 3 kid photos of me online and I posted them all myself. I never even thought about the possibility of not getting to make that call. I'm glad my parents didn't get much use out of social media when it started to get big.
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