Why Living At Home With Your Parents Can Be A Bad Idea

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Why Living At Home With Your Parents Can Be A Bad Idea - In this video I'll explain to you why living with your parents can be a bad idea. If you want to know why living with your parents can be counterproductive if you want to grow keep watching this video.
Before we get deep into this conversation, it must be said that there are a great many circumstances that can crop up across the various parts of the world or in a specific person’s life that make an adult perceive that their only option is to live with their parents. There are many cultures around the globe where living with one’s parents and grandparents and relatives, beyond childhood, is standard practice and even expected. And it also must be said that not all parents are the same. Though it is rare, it is possible for a parent to defy the more common and painful dynamics that occur between themselves and their adult children (the points I’m going to cover in this episode) thus rendering them capable of creating a positive co-habitation experience. Because of this, I can’t make the statement that living with your parents in your adulthood is always a bad idea in all situations.
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@taaliyah6065 3 года назад

For those of us that can’t leave, just keep doing our inner work and make an effort to be conscious of our own patterns and those around us. Thats the best we can do with what we have.

@pawan21981 3 года назад

Yes, I'm stuck at home due to pandemic I was visiting my parents and now hopefully in next 2 years .

@ayomibh 3 года назад

🤧

@quakk47 3 года назад

Yes, I'm living with them and when I change patterns within me they first might resist me but at the end they always adapt and also thrive from it.

@SwanTheQueen 3 года назад

You always can, just do it

@tristanbhampton444 3 года назад

I beat myself up for not trying hard enough then I feel so awful I convince myself to stop blaming myself. In my heart of hearts, I know I need to leave to benefit all of us, but currently, financially, I haven't figured out a way. I'm praying, I'm doing affirmations, and breathing exercises. I fight everyday to maintain my sanity and continue my spiritual work.

@1HeartCell 3 года назад

Living with my parents was a bad idea since I was born.

@SaminSays 3 года назад

lol

@RoseMarieJamesJr 3 года назад

Nice once 🤣

@YourSoulsJourney 3 года назад

😂🤣😂🤣 Lol

@christinahutton9983 3 года назад

For real,same!✌️♥️😊

@SaloniSingh19 2 года назад

lmaooooooooooooooooooooooooooo

@the1betterpodcast84 3 года назад

My heart goes out to all who are longing to be set free...

@Marwa-fu6kg 3 года назад

Get help to help yourself getting yourself free. You are here so you're trying, even if it's not everyday, as long as you're trying one day you will succeed. I'm not even worried.

@momoso143 3 года назад

Thank you

@ugehriddimmaster 3 года назад

@Jay Jay 41 wow! I am 23 and I can't stand this sense of imprisonment so I wonder how have you coped/survived for so long

@violetvisions 3 года назад

@TheAlixir 2 года назад

Thank you 🙏

@veninrouge3211 3 года назад

Many people live with their parents because rent is so high, it's so hard to make a home for yourself, it's hard to find a job, make money ... That's the real problem for so many people. No one would live with their parents if getting a job was enough to become independent. Money is the main reason why people don't move away.

@shaheedcassim2752 3 года назад

True

@sanitary103 3 года назад

true, I live in the bay area in Calfornia and many struggle since it's so damn expensive.

@sanitary103 3 года назад

@@veninrouge3211 what’s the average for 1 bedroom roughly?

@veninrouge3211 3 года назад

@@sanitary103 That's not the point and you can not look at it like that. You have to give from 50% up to 75% of your salary to pay rent. What's left is not enough for you to live in most cases. If you work for minimal wedge it's impossible.

3 года назад

In Brazil, minimum wage doesn't pay even 75% of the rent.

@basicbase749 3 года назад

Indian household parenting perfectly explained! I internalized and blamed myself for the longest time, for all the unmet emotional needs. Thankfully moving out soon with a new job

@sahilingale3280 3 года назад

Sameeee, I hope the same for both of us

@Violet._.PhoeniX 3 года назад

Not an Indian household but same experiences.. love my parents dearly but they are unconscious

@kriscrystaline9793 3 года назад

Soooo truueee Indian parents lol

@pawan21981 3 года назад

well ,although teal refers to India a lot. I think it's all cultures.

@basicbase749 3 года назад

@@pawan21981 no it’s not. It’s the most common in Indian culture.

@lolalina_ 3 года назад

When I ran away from home at 16, I changed completely Everything changed completely the funny thing is that my parents and I started changing the moment we "gave up" or rather chose distance So when I ran away (I got a new home and help from outside) I suddenly had no aggressions anymore like I just wouldn't get aggressive anymore I was relaxed.. Stopped self harming.. Felt relived and finally authentic My parents also got more chilled and less conservative and more open And now years later I have a really good bond to them 🌸

@milkandspice1074 3 года назад

Sailor Moon!💕 Your story is very interesting. And I believe that we must take responsibility for our actions, but I do think others provoke people into acting badly.

@anotherperspective3609 3 года назад

Really ? I just started to move out from my parents a year ago.. i did realize that the aggression disappear and i kind of found my inner peace back, but i am still somehow triggered whenever i receive a message from my mother (like asking me to send her things or to buy her things). It kind of reminds me of all the pain and heartache that i went through when i was still living with her.. I am happy that you could come into good terms with your parents ❤ because my good terms with my mom only happens when i block her number from my phone 😂 or else i will see a whatsapp text that is 25cm long, that always end up with her asking for me to get/buy her something. Somehow she thinks it's ok to just use her daughters money to buy things that she herself wouldn't want to spend her money on 😅👏👏👏 the mind of fantastic parents

@terrytrees61 3 года назад

@Melody Anne mine won't stop pressuring or triggering me even if I get off their backs (been there, done that)..! 😢 another level of narcissists! It makes me feel like it's all vain..

@chewy1203 3 года назад

Yes I'm really aggressive sometimes when my mom is home but tend to be calm and relaxed when shes at work. How did you find the money to just run away? I'm assuming you were still in schoon with no graduation so it would be hard to find a job that can get you enough money for your own apartment

@bassmanoper6659 3 года назад

You did it right

@ashleym1358 3 года назад

I feel like Teal is watching me at this point. Lol. She knows always what i needed to hear. However, if we can't move out yet what can we do to keep our authenticity untill we move out? Thanks for the video Teal! 💖✨✨❤️

@AceEquality 3 года назад

Always keep your guard up, make an invisible shield, internally. Pray, meditate and work out/walk-run in nature. And, if you're someone who likes to be alone. Don't be afraid to talk to yourself by uplifting yourself to remind yourself who you are giving you the self belief of your own authentic self.

@TheLovelyLife 3 года назад

You are not alone 🤗

@anotherperspective3609 3 года назад

I was in this situation (trap living with my parents) before, this might sound cheesy but in my case i got out because the universe was helping me out.. i think when we are like 100% commited into wanting one thing (like moving out), the opportunity to move out will come to you.. Your job is to ask yourself how bad do you want to move out from your parents house ? Is there any part of you that stills want to stay or can't leave your parents ? And if there is (parts of you that still wants to stay) how could you make peace with it to go align with the part of you that wants to move out ? Example: a part of me that loves my parents disagree with me leaving my parents because its afraid that something will happen to them when i leave.. which means this part of me is still going againts my will to move out.. if you happen to have these kind of internal struggle, you need to find resolution with those part of yourself first.. For me after i was able to make all parts of me to want to move out, the opportunity just came.. and you know what, my parents are actually fine, and both me n my parents live more happy 😂 they realize they didn't need me after all

@anotherperspective3609 3 года назад

In regards if it is financial issue that becomes the matter, hmm i think i had to come to the point where that part of me that was afraid to move out because it didn't know how i could survive out there (the part of me that is afraid of struggling), i kind of needed to reach the point where even that part of me also come to a term that is better to struggle in the early stage of moving out from my parents house and it's better to do it NOW (while i'm still young), rather than waiting for God knows how many years to come.. in my mind n heart i was ready to face anything, i was ready to struggle as long as i am struggling for my own life.. Then somehow a few months later, i met someone who also wanted to start living on her own too, but she was financially stable and actually already had her own apartment that she just left unoccupied.. so she offered me to stay in that apartment as she also wants to start to live on her own.. she needed company that is not her family yet a friend who she feels safe to live with.. so that is how i started, i didn't expect my initial moving out process would be that comfy, but i guess this is how the universe works 😅

@juanfernando2217 3 года назад

Teal rocks

@MandyJRoss 3 года назад

If you're reading this I'm praying something amazing happens for you today. 🙏🏻❤

@dukistyles 3 года назад

Let's date

@ReflectingonReflection 3 года назад

Thank you

@alex-ander-13 3 месяца назад

Thank you and for you too!

@periperi966 3 года назад

Healthy parents should encourage there children to become independent, starting while they are living at home.

@andreperry3301 3 года назад

Perhaps, but in many cases this can be dysfunctional too, because the parent tries to kick the child out too soon, with no idea how to function in the world. It can be like throwing a person overboard a cruise ship in the middle of the ocean, and hoping they figure out how to swim and don't drown. Many people DO drown, and it's their parents fault for throwing them overboard.

@mysticaltyger2009 3 года назад

*their

@bassmanoper6659 3 года назад

@@andreperry3301 thats how you learn, i used to think like you too. I needed to get thrown out there to see it.

@lRedBaronl 3 года назад

I moved out of my parents’ house 2 times and came back until I finally left for good when I was 30 years old. The first time I left with roommates and the second time with a partner (I’m a man) but the last time I left I did so alone. I must point out that I was always afraid of not being able to pay my rent or survive by myself alone so I kept postponing moving out. However, this was a big mistake because like Teal says, every time I moved back I always fell back into old patterns and habits, back into that role I had with the family not matter what I did to try to change it. Some days while living with my parents I felt like my room was a dead end, one that I couldn’t get out of and couldn’t let me evolve. I always felt like I couldn’t fully be myself either because I was always judged if I didn’t act exactly how my parents wanted me to act. It was bad, I enjoyed every little moment I had alone at my parent’s house and when I heard the door open signaling their return I could literally feel the peace leave the house and I was at the mercy of their mood at the moment, sometimes ok, sometimes pretty bad and stressful. Very conflictive and toxic at worst times. I definitely didn’t feel in control of anything. I remember one time I asked a friend to read the tarot for me just for fun. He told me to ask the cards a question. My question was “how can I achieve happiness?” To my surprise and shock the answer was “move out”. Maybe that was a coincidence since I don’t really believed in tarot readings and those things but that always stuck with me. Going back to feeling insecure and not sure if I was good enough to survive on my own, all I can say is don’t be afraid. As long as your have a job you will survive by yourself! The universe will move with you and evolve with you as you change. Also, most importantly for me, you will feel free!! and will definitely be happier than living with your parents. It feels amazing to finally be able to fully be yourself. Honestly, it was the best decision I’ve made in perhaps my whole life.

@TheGreyx3 3 года назад

Thank you for your input!

@lRedBaronl 3 года назад

@@TheGreyx3 no problem 😉

@tsue1664 3 года назад

Thanks for this.

@artisticagi 3 года назад

I just waited till I got a good job but it was hell damn I’m still not out but I never want to move back in ew.

@lRedBaronl 3 года назад

@@tsue1664 no problem :)

@ElissaPancoe 3 года назад

7:13 SO TRUE! Sometimes the best thing you can do is get out of the environment you're in because it's holding you back. It's not all 100% inner work. It's got to be a combo of inner work and environments that support you, not staying somewhere toxic where you do inner work all the time and never see any benefit from it because, well, you're living somewhere toxic!

@renapappas4140 3 года назад

Yeah, it's not all "spiritual fuzz" btw... you still have to put your socks in the morning & you feel pain if someone kicks you... Realizing your environment is bad for you = waking from the matrix, that simple...

@baldwinangel1218 3 года назад

I cut myself off from my toxic parent. Did a few years of getting to know what I like. Got happy with just hanging in my own energy. I m not so bad after all. This is opposite how I grew up. The daily message delivered was you were never wanted. Slapped daily for speaking up. Once out of that I was able Truely feel my energy and liked it. Now its been 20 years and I was asked to do small stuff for her while she went thru a hip replacement. I had to call my spiritual teacher to say thank you for helping me. I owe him big! ❤ I realized here I am staying with her swimming in that nasty energy and it is NOT affecting me! 😯😯😯 I just needed a break from swimming in it, to gain new skills! Hang in there everybody!

@renapappas4140 3 года назад

@@baldwinangel1218 proud of you dear ! Be well and take care of yourself, cause your precious ❤😘

@QuietRaine 3 года назад

It really is a bad idea for me but my finances don't allow for anything else right now.

@petehotton4740 3 года назад

That's why young adults can't move out

@cailax11 3 года назад

it's a good thing to remind ourselves our dictatorial government created inflation and devalued OUR money

@SaminSays 3 года назад

@@cailax11 100% all of this, meanwhile they can be 80 and running government

@carl8568 3 года назад

@@SaminSays Presidents don't actually run government, they are simply puppets for the industries (eg. war & pharmaceutical) and hidden elite that control government.

@ReflectingonReflection 3 года назад

@@cailax11 frrr

@paulastutina 3 года назад

Couldn't watch this all the way, stopped in the first half. Listening to this makes me angry because of my situation. I know that living with my parents is not the best thing to do, but there are many things that keep me here - from practical to emotional. So now I'm angry at myself for not being good or successful enough to get a full time good-money job, to even make moving out a possibilitty. Sad. Angry. Frustrated. Maybe someday I will be able to watch this video 'till the end..

@hagiedh6349 3 года назад

There is no shame with living with your parents. Anyone who unironically wants you to feel bad about you is toxic as hell.

@SIIKAP1 3 года назад

I understand you 100%

@dudesama2748 3 года назад

I get you, I'm feeling angry and frustrated the last couple of days too. But we have the right to feel this way, I don't want to suppress this anymore. Still, I believe both you and me are divinely supported so we'll figure it out eventually Much love to you💫

@bionicbastard 3 года назад

I feel you. I do. My situation I have no choice. Not sure if that makes it easier or harder. Feels like both. Like playing tug of war with with the rope tied to a tree.

@dukistyles 3 года назад

Been there

@TealSwanOfficial 3 года назад

Incase You'd Rather Read About It Instead: tealswan.com/resources/articles/livingwparents/

@TecOneself 3 года назад

Thank you for this video Teal Swan, I'm alone but this video makes so much sense for people who need to humble up, take responsibility and work for their space. Values. You're the best.

@grrrl420 3 года назад

The next video should be "Why working for a minimum wage job is a bad idea." Because it seems like you move out of your bad home environment to spending most of your time at a job that feels terrible to be at just so you can afford to live away from your parents. Capitalism sort of sucks. Handsome rich men hmu.

@leo.nordmann 3 года назад

Good point.

@adamprotz 3 года назад

Hahahahaha this comment! 🙌🏻

@TheSapphireLeo 3 года назад

Thank you!

@janbalaban5268 3 года назад

3rd video: "Why to be homeless is a bad idea." ... 4th video: "How to get back to your parents home." .... Circle is closed.

@DeMafiaGirl 3 года назад

literally. You run away from your toxic family only to have to spend all your time at a toxic job

@frankchukwumah9477 3 года назад

Family members will hold you back from your true self.

@iuliasima3599 3 года назад

It's not a good idea to live with anyone from family if the relationship is and it was disfunctional.

@christinahutton9983 3 года назад

So true

@mysticaltyger2009 3 года назад

*dysfunctional

@renapappas4140 3 года назад

Realizing your environment is bad for you = waking up from the Matrix

@Story_Fuel Год назад

i am screwed, I came back to help a sibling who was going off the rails, then lost my own mind and now i am 40 and stuck with my mom. PLEASE YOU MUST LEAVE HOME AND ONLY COME BACK TO VISIT. YOU WILL NEVER GROW IF YOU STAY AT HOME. ESPECIALLY IN THE WEST. EASTERN CULTURES ARE A LITTLE DIFFERENT

@yvonneshanson1525 3 года назад

In a Teal video she has said to a girl that living with your parents & expecting to heal, is like having been a nazzi camp prisoner & expecting to heal while living with the nazzies!..

@ashleym1358 3 года назад

Which video was that? Can you please give me the title? I think I watched it some time ago but I can't find it anywhere.

@yvonneshanson1525 3 года назад

@@ashleym1358 I think it was in th Vancouver sync workshop, when Teal talks with a brown long haired woman who is a singer & wants to know her neg imprint, but I 'm not sure how far into the conversation she mentions that quote, & I can't find part 2, so it' s either somewhere in part 1, or in part 2, which may have been erased.. Sorry I can't remember much, cuz it's been a long time since I've watched :)

@TheSapphireLeo 3 года назад

@@yvonneshanson1525 Relate to this!

@yvonneshanson1525 3 года назад

@@TheSapphireLeo ❤️❤️

@kaze_graal 3 года назад

I'm currently living with a parent, and it sucks. Somehow, I'm still dependent and I'm trying to use my time here to heal from my trauma by using them as triggers. Can't wait to move out soon when I can.

@anotherperspective3609 3 года назад

Well my spiritual therapist also told me to do this, to use it as triggers.. but honestly, i feel that living away from my parents feels such a relief.. and i just focus on healing the emotional wounds that comes from my social interaction with my friends now 😊

@spiritcactus9429 3 года назад

Same for me. If only I was financially independent, but still have to wait several more years.

@celineypie 3 года назад

same. we’re going to succeed!!

@char94 3 года назад

Same, only I would come to realize in this dynamic it prevents my healing. It took everything blowing up for me to fully wake up and see how I was playing back into the patterns. Now I’m working to get myself figured out. Just initiated distance and some necessary separation. I’m setting a solid boundary. I’m trusting that opportunities will open up and allowing myself to feel it all. It’s time for me to get out, and stay out.

@kaishabruyere7829 2 года назад

Same actually, your not alone 🤍

@hannag6546 3 года назад

Moved out at 16. It’s seemed like the end back then but when I look back now in my 20s, the best decision I ever made. I’m very assertive, for clear boundaries and over all self control.

@bassmanoper6659 3 года назад

100 percent, shoulda done it earlier.

@bassmanoper6659 3 года назад

@@user-fq5wq6bs6u foreal? You just do it lol

@Rebekahsue12 3 года назад

Is this video intended to be a mind trick? People who live with their parents are largely already FULL of resistance and shame about this. Maybe the sting that is felt in this is exactly the thing to trigger a response of looking at why it actually has been expansive or how it can start to be. Or a trigger to look deeper at the fear and self-doubt that paralyzes and prevents moving on. This is a painful and complex subject, and I wish everyone the best on this, both for your personal power and interpersonal connection.

@angelflower176 3 года назад

This is a very painful subject for me as my mother still lives with me and I’m age 35:( read my comment above and my story

@desckUgah000 3 года назад

yep, totally not spiritual, helpful or inspiring. Its just a judgment and some psychological dynamic observations for SOME.

@desckUgah000 3 года назад

@Laura Hackstein maybe you should ask yourself why you would not and you might find your answer if suffering or empathy is difficult for you.

@jrain4219 3 года назад

I felt that same sentiment as well. I felt it was deliberately triggering to get people to question the shame associated with this topic

@cosmoflower77 3 года назад

@Laura Hackstein loaded question my dear. Shameful mainly because of the expectations I have of myself being the age that I am and in the current life circumstances that I am in. Also the programming of society that teaches at such and such an age one needs to have their life figured out to a certain extent; ie. Own place, partner and or family, career, vehicle. Etc. And if you don't have all or one of the above at the age Society deems approptiate, there is something very wrong with you. See, society teaches us to be ashamed. And its up to us to undo all of that programming, unlearn those things that do not serve us and cultivate healing from within.

@dumbgirl8 3 года назад

I live with my mom and I consider moving out to live in my car sometimes lol

@NickRyanBayon 3 года назад

I had to move back in with my mother 7 months ago it's horrible. Sadly I feel stuck because I want to save up enough as to never return before I leave. The environment has led to a deep depression. Omg that explains the feelings of powerlessness j feel and I couldn't figure out whoa.

@demonicaxeman7264 3 года назад

And to make things worse, people who are fortunate to have money to move out of their parent's house typically find a girlfriend/boyfriend that creates the same problems just like they did living with their parents. Living alone is the greatest thing i ever had. I live my life with the goal of never having to have another person be bound to it.

@Violet._.PhoeniX 3 года назад

Preach

@steve19811 3 года назад

We create similar patterns but not every issue your parents conditioned you with is going to manifest in your next relationship/friendships. Some will, but not every damn one of them (like if you were living at home)

@DonTwanX 3 года назад

That’s me

@briellehunter7233 3 года назад

I proudly got kicked out at 14 and now am 38, having never looked back!

@mh0mz 3 года назад

How have you survived?!

@bassmanoper6659 3 года назад

@@mh0mz you figure it out

@bassmanoper6659 3 года назад

Best thing that happened to you

@sonyvalencia 10 месяцев назад

14, teach me your ways?

@crookedmirage9645 3 года назад

Your timing is amazing as always, Teal. I was literally just in the bathroom thinking about my situation and whether it's really such a good idea to continue living with my mom.

@dukistyles 3 года назад

Hey if not lets make a move together !

@christinahutton9983 3 года назад

On the OTHER hand,I think it's pretty awesome if/when someone "needs"/"should" go back home and live with their parents for whatever reason,CAN actually do that at no significant harm to their mental, emotional, psychological,spiritual and /or physical well being. ✌️♥️😊

@novelaego2404 Год назад

nope

@angiebotes9358 7 месяцев назад

@@novelaego2404so you wouldn't move back ho.e to help a critically ill parent who had no one else?

@User-uw7uw 3 года назад

I recently moved out on my household. I'm 21 and I didn't plan on doing it so early, but things got extremely bad and emotionally abusive at home. But now I have depression and no sense of direction because I was used to my parents controlling me all the time

@Jiah11133 3 года назад

i did that a while ago and ended up again at home but you are finally free!!! Focus on that

@butterflytiffany 3 года назад

It makes complete sense why your body and mind would want to just rest now, without being controlled or pushed to do something 💗💗💗 she addresses this in one of her workshops where they talk about chronic fatigue. I’m so happy you were able to get out. How you feel now makes completely sense

@pawan21981 3 года назад

Good....I wish I had the resources to move out as early as 14 or 15.🤔🤔

@mitalikambli5592 3 года назад

That's awesome @User I'm 23 and still stuck in this horrible jail I cry everyday because of this mental torture I just hope I can move out soon or I'm gonna go insane soon enough i just can't take it anymore I'm so desperate to move out I wish I had help

@moonagaineternal 3 года назад

If people could move out of their parents' home they would. Just saying. Consider that a lot of us left and had to come back due to unforseen circumstances. Makes living with your parents feel very different and definitely not in a good way.

@yoshitamaurya5623 3 года назад

True... Let's not make it a big issue agh.

@stitches318 3 года назад

It's a bigger issue now than ever before it seems. My uncle lived my grandmother after he got married for a year to save money...then they bought a house. The problem is now millennials could never save up that kind of money in a year. Maybe 10 years. lol

@moonagaineternal 3 года назад

@@yoshitamaurya5623 On the contrary. I think it's good when a video triggers people. Means there's hurt they have to work on. It just sort of feels like this didn't have a target audience in mind. A good number of people who watch Teal are adults who are way past this is what I'm trying to get at.

@moonagaineternal 3 года назад

@@stitches318 That's true. And that's if it's a couple. A single person trying to make it on their own like that has to be very bright with numbers. I'm not saying it can't be done but it's a walk in the woods for sure.

@domanimo4028 3 года назад

A lot of people have limiting beliefs and delusions about thinking they can't move out, when they actually can, if they looked for a way.

@tigerbokken6922 3 года назад

Each person who suffers from this situation has only one question in mind: how to get out of it? The will is not lacking, but the contemporary world has become a very hostile place to rebuild one's life.

@eaglescout70 3 года назад

I have the same question. I want to start my life but financially and society issues keep me staying with them.

@tigerbokken6922 3 года назад

@@eaglescout70 Teal Swan just made an interesting live where she talks about stuckness, it will give answers! For your financial struggle, I will advise you to find a way to feel empowered about it, at least to be able to cover your own need ( food, clothing etc) and to dedicate your time on it, to work on it. At least you will use your time to progress, and make use of your situation to build something. Do things you enjoy, and master it. I bless you

@tigerbokken6922 3 года назад

@Phoenix Mystery it's another path, another struggle, not better, nor worse. In both case it's a deal with a feeling of stuckness. But it's a good option indeed to experiment it also. Whatever we choose, why suffering? why struggling? Just enjoy the hell if we are in

@jordynbabywoods 3 года назад

I feel that living with my parents as an adult has made me a better person. I was abused and neglected at times as a child (I was also very loved and taken care of at times), but as an adult I was able to work through these difficulties little by little. Now my parent and I are on peaceful terms and respect each other’s space. I will move out eventually, but I don’t feel so rushed like I did as a child. If I had left as soon as I turned 18, I would be estranged from my family right now due to all of the pent up anger I had over how I perceived my childhood. But living with my parents as an adult allowed me to see them as people and not just the adults who raised me. I can have compassion and empathy for my parents now, and when I do leave I will remember this time we spent settling our differences and instead of estranging myself, I will keep in contact with them and visit from time to time. You only get one biological family and you can learn a lot about yourself by spending time with the people who birthed you; subconscious things and generational curses. By spending time with my parents, I was able to see what I had in common with them AND what I would like to do differently.

@lutfchehne1 3 года назад

thank you for sharing this, I see how it really allows you to be more aware of yourself of what you'd rather let go, by seeing generational patterns. important point So if someone wants to move out and is not able to do it right now you can somehow use it to your advantage until you can move out

@Ladycarlyjan 3 года назад

I second this!! We are lucky. I think a lot of healing can happen in these cases, especially karmically ❤️

@tomatoskin6247 3 года назад

Yeah I’m in a similar space with my mum and my step dad, we are in a much better healthier place now. My relationship with my Dad though and my best friends with her mum will almost always just keep hurting us and stopping our personal growth. I wish it was different and I could be in a good place with all my parents but you can’t change people, they change themselves.

@stephanie3848 2 года назад

That is awesome 😎 I am so happy for your healing and forgiveness. You sound like a very emotionally healthy person yourself. Peace. I feel the same way.

@danielokeeffe5848 3 года назад

I love living with my parents. 3 - 6 months a year, then off traveling the globe again! After that I need a refresh to broaden horizons. But I guess there's a huge difference between being forced to live with parents and coming back of your own volition. I'd never live in an inhospitable environment - I would literally get a cabin in the woods.

@lRedBaronl 3 года назад

How do you manage to travel the world? What do you do for a living? If you don’t mind me asking. I’ve always wanted to do that.

@bassmanoper6659 3 года назад

3-6 months i couldnt do it. A week tops lol

@danielokeeffe5848 3 года назад

@@bassmanoper6659 Well, I have the house free for the next 3 months, they are on holiday. It all depends on how much physical, emotional, and mental space you're allowed to have while living there. If they infringe on any of these, it's time to leave, pronto!

@bassmanoper6659 3 года назад

@@danielokeeffe5848 I feel that✌✌🙏

@danielokeeffe5848 3 года назад

@@lRedBaronl Sorry, RU-vid won't let me reply to you with meaningful content. It's automatically taken down. I had no idea that the sen sor shi_p was this far fetched. No links allowed or no mention of the 'crisis' that we are going through that is resulting in new airlines and travel opportunities. But I can say that travel is easy. Just go. It will become a paradigm and LOA will do the rest. I'm a freelancer on Upwork that writes for a living, and currently setting up my own website so I can write for myself. Best of luck with your travels!

@DiamondsInTheDark 3 года назад

I had to move back in 2020 and finally getting the hell out . It was hell on earth , but I did a lot of childhood healing and I’m a better person lol

@ZombieMannequinRobotStatue 3 года назад

Reading the comments, it seems like a lot of people are offended and think that Teal is telling them what to do and ignoring the fact that some people have no other option. I don't think that's the case. This video isn't for everyone that's living with their parents...it's for those that are in this situation, experiencing problems and unsure of the reasons why. As with most of Teal's videos, this one is to put the experience into words and explain how situations might become what they are. If you're taking this video as a personal insult and feeling commanded by it, she's made her point.

@dustysparkle2429 3 года назад

I was going to say the same thing. Seems like some people didn't even watch the video or came in with preconceived notions.

@inthenebula92 3 года назад

I agree. I get the reaction, I think it's coming from a place of feeling trapped and I used to be defensive like that too, before I realized I didn't have to justify my feelings. Moreover, I didn't want to admit I was using this belief of victimization and helplessness to avoid my own responsibility, to avoid facing my fears, to feel important, and to maintain my denial that the strategies I was using in life were working when they were terrible. I accepted I deserved to get what I wanted to it was okay to abandon those strategies, because they're not me, they're something I'm doing. It was a deeply painful realization and I can see why people are getting reactive--not everyone is ready to face the immense grief of knowing they may have contributed to past or present circumstances. This doesn't mean it's your fault, it just means it is possible you could have done different things to a different end, you can't always in the moment and that's normal--what is true is you can always look back after and say, "What have I learned from this? How can I improve?" The great thing is, once you realize your contribution, it gives you the power to do different and therefore leave those patterns, and actually get a sense of competency, control, and worth. But most people can't admit it so they insist they are victims instead, not knowing they are ensuring they will never be free of this "curse" by refusing to learn lessons from what has happened to them.

@ZombieMannequinRobotStatue 3 года назад

@@inthenebula92 precisely! I didn't put near as much effort into my comment but my point was that being triggered by the video proves Teal's point

@elizabethhigginsphotograph1830 3 года назад

@@inthenebula92 I feel this!! If I would have seen this video a few months ago I would have been filled with rage. But since I have already realized these things and started to take initiative, I found it to be more of a validation of these truths I have been feeling. It is horrible to feel trapped. But we are not trapped! As long as we have ownership of our minds we can find a way to freedom. (In most circumstances) I will not be controlled or manipulated. As soon as I started to set boundaries and take care of myself my mom wanted me to be on psychiatric medication. And I did use it as a tool but that was my choice. Now I finally have found a house to move to that will be my own! And it was only when I realized I deserved it and felt worthy of it and used all of my anger as fuel to move me forward that everything aligned with this new opportunity. I don't blame my mom for these patterns- like teal said I feel like it is just as detrimental to her growth for us to regress into old patterns.

@jahdy07 3 года назад

As a 31 y/o adult, I've been moving in & out of my parent's house for the last 10 yrs since I started working. Whenever I experience failure, I would move back home to "heal my wounds" and start over again. Sometimes it took months to a year. I didn't realize that it has become a pattern already. At first I thought it's okay bec. they're no longer living in that house (they're already based in the province) & I pay all the bills except for the rent. However, now I realize that I should be really on my own. That I could fully trust myself & that I can achieve whatever it is I want.

@terrytrees61 3 года назад

Don't be hard on yourself, living has gotten really difficult in our time : )

@rozaSkroza 3 года назад

living with my mother for a year now, and we went through huge shift. i have grown a lot. I'll be moving out in a year also 😍 thanks Tealie 💜

@JoJo-mm8sn 3 года назад

Do not live with your parents. It is a TERRIBLE idea. My life has been such regression and I have made terrible life choices in my life and internalized such self hatred that I will never be free off. Mid life now and a complete failure. Don't ever live with your parents.

@KeyboardFan326 3 года назад

It’s one of the number one things I hate about my life right now. My situation keeps me right here with never enough money to move out today but if I did I’d be living alone, all day every day. Sure I’d be independent and be able to freely do what I want but I’d surely be all alone too as I don’t actually have friends except for maybe my brother who I haven’t seen since April. I think there’s a reason it hasn’t worked out for me the way it did for my siblings

@Dawn-bl8ze 3 года назад

I am literally exactly the same in this. Meaning my situation. Praying for us… 🤍🥺🙏🏻

@Laviesestbelle 3 года назад

Hang in there bud I feel ya

@queengoblin 3 года назад

Thanks Teal I was considering moving back in this is veryyyy timely. I definitely don't need to move back in. I have been considering moving back in bc I was feeling incapable of making it in my own. I realized today that I never got the encouragement I needed that I could have and follow my dreams. So I am reparenting my inner child; letting her show she is capable and worthy.

@emileeconstance1626 3 года назад

I’m moving out this week. How timely Teal ;)

@jessicaelizabeth8603 3 года назад

I'm 33 & my dad lives with me. Since I was 16 I was paying to help my parents. I was the parentified child, & I'm still in that dynamic, but I feel an obligation to take care of my father, as I did before my mom died when I was 26.

@stephaniemthoma 3 года назад

This was my experience moving back home for a bit after college. My personal growth was challenged and stunted and it skyrocketed once I left. Saving $ is no excuse because of how much more you can earn when in an environment in which you thrive.

@bassmanoper6659 3 года назад

Luckily for me im not responsible so the saving money thing doesnt relate to me. No need to live at home.

@jaguarandi2 Год назад

You mean no one becomes poor splitting an apartment with others in a big city?

@alex-ander-13 3 месяца назад

Amen.

@bababoo3303 3 года назад

Damm yes I went abroad for studying and when I’m back and couldn’t get a job for a while and when I got a job it was through their connections so….. I’m still this powerless child? anyways workplace so toxic and resemble relationships at home actually so I just left the job and had a major reflection and this is what I needed to hear and take actins toward. It was kinda beneficial for me to be back with parents because now I understand my triggers and my own toxic behavior more and work through my own traumas and inner child. Now i just hope to get the hell out of here !!!!!! Environment does play a major impact. God/universe bless

@leslie7801 3 года назад

I didn’t have a choice but to move me and my son back with my parents. It was either my parents or homeless..I went thru a nasty Divorce after 20 years of marriage but my ex husband was abusive and Narcisstic and took my house away from me. I lost everything and had no where to go, I can’t afford to live in my own due to not making enough money to support me and my son. I need my privacy but I need to recover financially first and save money first . I promised and swore to my son I would enroll back in college, graduate from college, etc. for me I had nowhere to go. It was either my parents or homeless. So I made a sacrifice and asked my parents if I could stay with them. Once I get back on feet then I’m moving out for good.🙏

@danielokeeffe5848 3 года назад

Not to tell you your business, but I would really advise against enrolling in college (severe debt) to earn money. It's been a poor idea for the past 20 years and now is even more dangerous than ever. Hope you get out soon! You'll do it.

@butterflytiffany 3 года назад

Same 💖 May God bless us with the abundance and Prosperity needed to move as soon as possible and provide for our little ones 🏡

@summersalix 3 года назад

@@danielokeeffe5848 what are some things you recommend instead?

@camez2345 3 года назад

It's good that you had the option to live with your parents after such an exhausting ordeal. It's giving you a chance to breathe and regroup and reprogram your mind again. And your parents get to see their grandson every day. As long as the parental relationship isn't off the charts unhealthy, I think it can be a good and even mutually beneficial situation. You get to heal and also practice setting boundaries again in a safe environment, which is so important after a relationship that leaves you questioning your own sanity and personhood. Best of luck to you. I hope you love school and can make a new lovely life for yourself 😘

@danielokeeffe5848 3 года назад

@@summersalix Well, I work as a freelancer on UpWork (primarily ). But there are thousands of ways to make money and all different kinds of jobs. Really, I recommend Resonance and the Law of Attraction. It's the Golden Ticket. If you focus on enough money, you will have enough money. If you focus on moving house, you will move house. If you focus on travel. You will travel. It's a universal law. Making money though University is so 20th century and slow. 8 years minimum to break even? Why not make money immediately? Peace! ✌️

@yahushaismyshepherd1179 3 года назад

My parents came to live with my 4 children and myself and I helped my Dad look after my Mom(heart) So over 15 years before they passed. My children and I are so thankful we did this. It gave us a very strong bond with them. They taught us many skills and knowledge. Know it is opposite of what you are discussing. They came to live with me.

@SaminSays 3 года назад

thats because youre a lucky exception

@yahushaismyshepherd1179 3 года назад

@@SaminSays No read what I said again. My parents came to live with me. Totally different mindset vs kids going to or staying with parents. And yes I was truly blessed to have my parents live with my children and I. The dynamics were adult-adult vs parent-child

@MsTuliplady 3 года назад

You know what's worse than living with your parents? When your parents live with you! 🤣

@TRafael82 3 года назад

How is that different🤔🥸

@moonlightgator541 3 года назад

@@TRafael82 It is different because now you are taking care of your parents.

@cailax11 3 года назад

LOL

@samanthakeates5861 3 года назад

Yup was going to say the same

@yoshitamaurya5623 3 года назад

@@moonlightgator541 i do not find anything wrong with taking care of your parents.

@stitches318 3 года назад

Something about living with the current older generation seems more triggering than ever before. They are all huge control freaks. When I finally moved out of my mom's house, I got an upstairs neighbor (a boomer) who basically took my mom's place. she complains about everything, monitors every little thing I do, from putting out bird feeders, to not taking in my packages quick enough, to yelling at my kid when he is playing quietly in the yard (he was pulling on a tree branch. she looked out the window and didn't like that). Now I have to move to get away from my neighbor!

@aena5995 3 года назад

Omg yes thts how my.grandma is would wash and go thru my stuff when.i m at their house for a short while

@ST-mt4bj 3 года назад

My grandmother is the same! She even passes comments about waking up early and doing things their way, its annoying honestly

@kristenstewart1250 3 года назад

So true. Honestly the older generations, boomers and some Gen Xers, are just such narcissists. It's crazy.

@shannon2748 2 года назад

@@kristenstewart1250 No, it's boomers, not the gen xers. Many boomers, especially the older Appalachian/country ones are quite negative and nosey, always talking trash about others and wondering why the neighbors haven't gone to work today, etc.

@frankchukwumah9477 3 года назад

In general family will always see you as a child no matter how old you are, and that's not a good thing.

@Hello-iz9hl 2 года назад

Isn't it crazy!! I mean I can never understand this they still you as though you have a diaper on

@MrLeroyJacob 2 года назад

Thank you for this. Im going to watch this again with my parents... moving back home was the worst idea!

@gingerredshoes 3 года назад

Check. Your. Privilege. If you aren't going to pay rent for everyone in the entire US who cannot afford the outrageous cost of living on their own (which a few billionaires could actually do, but they won't), don't shame people for enduring what they must (to keep shelter over their heads) in the way of uncomfortable family dynamics. Obviously (!) people who live with their parents as adults don't have better options. Or maybe they are the ones helping their parents (ex. health concerns, pandemic lockdown reasons, etc.), no matter how awkward it might be.

@maviiiie 3 года назад

And for some people outside the US it's even worse. I live in a muslim country as a woman and not only it is outrageous to live alone, it is also unsafe.

@strugglingmillennial1298 3 года назад

I lost my job during the pandemic and being in California is insanely expensive. I’m saving up to leave, but sadly will have to endure the unhealthy dynamic for a year or two. This video made some logical points, but seems a little tone deaf IMO.

@isaibamusic 3 года назад

I understand your point. For the people that can find a solution, it is important they use it though. And also that one is aware about how bad it can be for them psychologically and even physically. Her main dedication in life is to reduse suffering. And one important way is through raising awareness. From awareness it might be possible to understand one's situation better and make big or small shifts for the better. That's some thoughts on it. Hope it makes sense and I wish you a great day ❤️

@malhunt7 3 года назад

I agree!!! Does she honestly think the majority of ppl living with their parents actually WANTS to. I'm making the best out of a less than ideal situation.

@RoseMarieJamesJr 3 года назад

I see this video triggered you. When you’re able, consider this statement: Money is loaded with shadow.

@DrJayashreeRamana 3 года назад

I am from India and I can attest that these things are cent per cent correct. The degree may vary in different households but it does happen and we are taught to accept them as normal. That's why we need healing. I healed from this pain and I am in love with my life.

@StephanieTips 3 года назад

I was literally thinking about this and this video popped up! Divine timing. I'm moving out on Monday, I've decided!

@SaminSays 3 года назад

with all kindness, respect, and curiosity because im in the same boat, how did you do it? like affording it financially? please, any advice would be appreciated!!

@jessicabarlow7412 3 года назад

Omg same for me too!

@steve19811 3 года назад

I generally can't afford financially, but I feel other opportunities will emerge as I have older friends who are willing to put me up for a while.....

@StephanieTips 3 года назад

@@SaminSays a room with other roommates is like 250 euros. I can do it with a part-time job

@mkphomm8579 3 года назад

I love my parents but I can't live with them. Lol.

@jjtiojohn12 3 года назад

Teal forgets that no one has the power now because of inflation! And the fact a studio apartment costs 2000 dollars! You try living in America with a job that only pays you 11.50 an hour! You'd have to pawn your stuff to make ends meet! Privileged people 🙄 😒 shouldn't be telling other people how to leave home unless they gonna give them a place to stay. Some people don't have the luxury to leave.

@carolinalozano9569 3 года назад

you could flatshare?

@cm-yu6gu 3 года назад

She did say right at the beginning of the video that it might not be possible due to financial reasons

@jjtiojohn12 3 года назад

@@carolinalozano9569 flat sharing comes with its own set of problems because you only exchange one type of slavery for another. Better the enemy you know than the one you don't know! 💯 😏 😌

@dustysparkle2429 3 года назад

Watch the beginning of the video again.

@chuppa1chups 3 года назад

Our parents thrust us into this vile world for the sole purpose of ego satisfaction. Living with them should be minimized as much as possible in spite of the ever dwindling economic opportunity we have in the wonderful society that we're forced to depend upon. Sleeping in a truck (in the sleeper) is infinitely better than living at home.

@queengoblin 3 года назад

Yeah if you're a man or Masculine woman 😂

@bassmanoper6659 3 года назад

I agree cept for your anger be graterful they brought youn into this hell😎

@nicholeashley6715 3 года назад

Yep, yep and yep. Thankfully I was able to move out. 1 month was long enough and I started falling back into habits I grew out of. Thankful for the experience. I learned a lot about the patterns I adopted. Now it's time to move two steps forward! Thanks for the clarity Teal🙂🙏

@NicholasTranscends 3 года назад

Create something new and nuture self respect and build up your relationships or get rid of toxic relationships because personal accountability is the key to personal power. Not our parents or where we live. Our personal human self is where our personal power is. You can live with your parents easily if you have self respect and think before speaking only try to say things that will help you get your core needs met. Always respect your parents dead or living asshole or amazing. Respect is the answer always...but it starts with self...respect... we will only let people treat us as badly as we treat ourselves. If someone crosses that line most people have no problems leaving at that point or trying to justify irrational behaviors by blaming others. Best Wishes anyone reading this, nick.

@danielokeeffe5848 3 года назад

Brilliant thoughts.

@aboutnol 11 месяцев назад

I cut out all my family members recently. And a lot of friends. They don't get boundaries. I'm finally putting boundaries and they don't like it. But in my defense they wanted me to change first, they did not respect my boundaries and my voice. They say I love you and I care about you but they don't listen to anything that I say. How can you love someone if you don't want to know them? They never loved me they loved the idea of what I am to them without my personal truth. Universe do your thing.. I do my homework finally. So now you can give me some real people? Thanks.

@myperspective772 3 года назад

6:45 oh teal you hit the nail on the head with the codependent helper and the dishes😂😂😂😂😂👌lovely mate

@au9parsec 3 месяца назад

What Teal Swan doesn't understand is that most people who are living with their parents would NOT have wanted to live with their parents in the first place, and that the only reason why they are still living with their parents in the first place is because rent and other expenses are too high and it's really difficult to find a job, and that if the economy was a lot better then most people would NOT have chosen to live with their parents in the first place. Therefore the only reason why they're still living with their parents is because they have no other choice, NOT because they want to.

@EM-mc8pd 2 года назад

Can we get a follow up video for the adults that are struggling to get out in the first place? I’ve been trying for years and I think at this point it boils down to something I’m not working through…. I don’t know what it is.

@EM-mc8pd 2 года назад

Can you do a video on the flip side. For the adult children that are struggling to move out of the house

@kristengilot6781 3 года назад

I just moved back in with them about 2 weeks ago. So far it's going good but I'm afraid of it turning like this. Thankfully I have a plan of moving out in a couple of months once I stack up enough cash.

@D-A-N- 11 месяцев назад

You should only move when when u get married . Societies work better like that

@dr.krieger6563 2 года назад

My parents are disabled, I live with and support them, also I dont make much. I can't stand it. I resent them, and I feel terrible for feeling that way.

@akshatakamath7074 3 года назад

Stepping into war zone was so on point I almost threw out my chai out of my mouth

@mihaelaclaudiap..2 3 года назад

My mum manages to get into huge fights with us kids if we live with her for more than one month! I guess she still things we are kids and tries to always tell us what to do, so she can become heavy! I promised myself to never live with her again, we can meet and have fun together but enough with sharing the same house, I guess after a certain age, it's better to take some distance from our parents if we want to maintain a healthy relationship with them! They are amazing, but let's be realistic, certain dynamics they won't ever be capable of understanding (only a minority will eventually understand).

@moonlightgator541 3 года назад

I feel the same, my mum drives me crazy, she is a nice lady from the distance. )

@sanitary103 3 года назад

my mom wanted me to live at home till I got married. it's cultural but I couldn't do it.

@mywyatribe8486 3 года назад

Very timely! I just had my mom move up with me. So far it’s been pretty good. I haven’t lived with her in over 10 years so she’s going to have to get to know me as an adult now. And I want her to live her best life

@eahannan 2 года назад

5:15 the dissolving salt effect - dissolving you slowly

@danielbarrera8391 3 года назад

I actually find this empowering and helpful. Part of me also feels a lot of resentment towards society and my own home where this crap is normalized. I just find myself remaining silent with all this heavy info weighing on me more seriously after hearing my mom utter these words that just strike me so negatively internally, "Just don't worry about it.". I dont know where to begin with that statement but that mentality she has just made me want to scream. "Hi doctor my internal organs are bleeding and I'm in excruciating pain." "Just don't worry about it :)" Let's see how that works... Oh right it doesn't! Edit: Forgot to mention and that was the kicker that really had me thinking, "Must. Get. away. And. Stay. Away.". So... Now I gotta make a commitment to getting what little I have together and limiting contact and actually healing.

@camez2345 3 года назад

This was good, but please also do a video about Why Living at Home with Your Parents Might not be the Worst Thing in the World. Those of us who are in circumstances that we can't change in the short-term -- and yes, there are such circumstances, it's not always a matter of sheer will or stunted growth or dreadfully unhealthy family relationships -- have a lot of conflict over the issue and get messages from all around that it's completely abnormal to live with your parents again as an adult, no matter how temporary or special the circumstances or how much prior independent adult growth you've had. There is something to be said about being in that situation and actually re-formulating your relationship with your parents in the sense of using boundaries and being your true self in a way that you never were before. You did mention here and there that it could be ok but it's rare, but please make an episode of how it can be not so bad, and/or tips while you're in the situation. Thank you.

@krownofficial6246 2 года назад

Always use this environment to lunch your own life. Whether good or bad. A POSITIVE video will only reinforce patterns for people to not take responsibility and accountability of experiencing their own journey whether they come from healthy or unhealthy circumstances. Bless UP

@krownofficial6246 2 года назад

Launch****

@camez2345 2 года назад

@@krownofficial6246 I see your point but don't think it's always true. A positive message about something can serve to validate a person's often-invalidated experience and inform others about it. For example: Up until about 15 or so years ago, no one was talking about the ok-ness let alone the merits of being an introvert. Before then, you were considered shy, socially inept, and kind of a weirdo. And so those first early articles and videos and books and TED talks about it were sending a positive message -- to the public and to introverts themselves -- that the gold standard for a well-adjusted person should not have extroversion as the only option, because many, many people are not extroverts, and that's not only perfectly ok and the way it should be, it's the way society should *want* it to be. So that's a positive message in support of people with a certain type of behavior or characteristic that in the moment might not have seemed positive to a lot of people. Imagine an introverted teenager whose parents are always criticising them, telling them they need to change their ways if they want people to like them and if they want to be successful in life. Now imagine the parents seeing Susan Cain's 2012 TED talk, "The power of introverts." The parents would probably think it was bs and reinforcing a negative behavior, and that it was encouraging their kid to not change what was in their eyes a terrible way of being. Fast-forward 10 years, and the talk has now been viewed 32 million times and translated into dozens of languages, and MS. Cain's books are consistently best sellers. Introversion was clearly a conversation waiting to happen, and scores of people have benefited by its having been finally cast in a positive light. There are many, many examples of this, where drawing positive attention to what's been typically thought of as a negative thing has shown that very few things in this world are black and white, and that it's important to try to understand other people's experiences, and important for people to know that their own experiences aren't necessarily wrong, even if they're considered as such by the general public.

@krownofficial6246 2 года назад

@@camez2345 peace and BLESSINGS. much LOVE

@preciousnunique 3 года назад

I'm 35 and still living with my parents. All of this is true

@okmega22 3 года назад

You should redo this as clickbait for Boomers who want to rag on lazy Millennials for living at home with their parents, but then turn the tables and force Boomers to confront their wounds and begin their much-needed journey of healing.

@johnnyutah6056 3 года назад

🤣!

@rik-keymusic160 3 года назад

Maybe i'm in denial but what's beter ? living with an abusive parent or living with an abusive boss at a 9/5? ... I don't fit in this cultural system nighter but where do i need to go? so i stay...

@jjsc3334 3 года назад

My dad is stubborn, fussy, negative, depressing, I can't live with him.

@lj7169 3 года назад

I've had to distance myself from the house now because my father is an alcoholic but I do try to stay and help out when I can. It's painful because they are now getting quite old and I would love to stay more but if I spend any amount of time under that roof it gets claustrophobic. I now stay at my flat and travel back to chill with them for a bit and then come back sooner to keep myself safe. But I'm lucky that I have that luxury. I'm so glad I have a flat that I can go to. For people who don't have a place to go and are struggling, I know how it feels! Things will work out in the end 💙

@terrytrees61 3 года назад

Hang in there hon! Mine r getting old too & it causes a lot of sadness & guilt, but I try to remember they chose their own misery, which ruined my life too, so.. but it is truly a tough situation.. :)

@yoshitamaurya5623 3 года назад

Healing your relationship with your parents.

@anotherperspective3609 3 года назад

Hey, how did you work on getting your own flat ? I just moved out from my parents around a year ago 😊

@johnyklebitz3983 2 года назад

If you pay parents for room - its not all. Its parents control also. So be tough - live by your own

@stephanietapia9665 3 года назад

Thank you Teal. I moved back home to help other family members and myself. However I see that I have gone back into my old servant caretaking role. Thank you for your clarity💜🙏

@dustysparkle2429 3 года назад

Based on some of the comments posted under this video, it seems like some of you didn't watch the beginning of this video. What some of you have said is what she states within the first minute of this video....

@anotherperspective3609 3 года назад

I think they are just triggered from some points that Teal mention, and they are unconsciously upset with themselves but project it on Teal 😂

@tristanbhampton444 3 года назад

So weird you posted this video now because a huge chunk of my depression comes from still living with my parents. I’m only here because financially I can’t afford to live on my own. I’m grateful to have a roof over my head but healing childhood trauma and having the dynamics I do with my parents is soul crushing. I just don’t know what to it to be able to afford my own space. I really need a miracle soon because I’m breaking.

@_Trakman 3 года назад

I won't be able to be "my authentic self" until both my parents die.

@Hello-iz9hl 2 года назад

😥😥😥

@Hello-iz9hl 2 года назад

How old are you?

@show_me_your_kitties 7 месяцев назад

Jeez...yikes man

@morzansreddragon 3 года назад

I lived with my folks for almost throughout my entire 20s, I'm now 30 and it was only just last year during the Covid Lockdown(s) I was still unemployed and could barely get a job to thrive or even accumulate enough money to be able to move out. Luckily my folks did help me move into my own apartment where I now lead a life of independance and I have a job where I can make a decent amount of money to get by. I finally feel like an adult, without any of the limitations of having "extended adolesence" had on me, especially when doing the chores and letting them know when I'll be out or back in time. I still get to visit them every now and then, but it's not like I miss living with them (maybe part of me does), I still maintain a great relationship with my family, I'm just glad to be my own person now, since I knew change had to happen. Even if I do move back, I can only hope it'll be temporary and I'll be able to support myself for the rest of my life.

@felicityw5163 Месяц назад

Best decision ever! It's such a relief to know that you don't owe them explanation for your whereabouts and when to go back home. Besides, you always make decisions on what to have for lunch or dinner and such.

@Yonah_144 3 года назад

If you are reading this, you are at a point in your story where the antagonist now fears you. 0000, 1111, 2222, 3333, 4444, 5555, 6666, 7777, 8888, 9999.

@BitterSweetCoffee3 3 года назад

I resisted watching this video right away because it is my painful reality. I tried everything in my power to never go back, but I could not find stable job. I also had to heal physically from terrible fall. Covid made things worst because most of use are back living with our abusive parent. It is extremely toxic, and I am feeling powerless and defeated more and more everyday. I do not know what to do at this point except applying for jobs and doing shadow work.

@sanitary103 3 года назад

sorry to hear that. stay strong and never give up. easier said than done but you have to keep trying. good luck.

@BitterSweetCoffee3 3 года назад

@@sanitary103 Thank you for your kind words and encouragement

@didib3403 2 года назад

Take your power back

@taniyaturner6718 Год назад

I have two weeks till I move out living at home strangles my social life and gives me anxiety even when not at home I am so excited to be self sufficient and live my own life

@Godisfirst21 3 года назад

Teal, you have helped me since my daughter was a little girl and now she is 20 and today she watched this video and sent it to me. It was GREAT for her to hear your perspective on why it's time for us NOT to live together anymore. It would be the BEST things for BOTH of us. She told me to watch until the end of the video because she wanted me to know that she is going to do this for me. I am a parent who wants us to live apart now and the guilt about this has been tearing me apart, when it didn't have too. After watching your video, I know that it can be LOVING to want to live apart.

@michaelshannon9169 2 месяца назад

The home vs the world. If U can't find your way in the world U end up back home. The world has its rules, values, expectations and traumas. For many ppl the world is a bad fit, the facade that it is. To expand in the world U must be of the world. To be worldly is not necessarily a good thing, most ppl I know are mindlessly worldly.

@luticia 3 года назад

This whole knowledge isn‘t useful if there‘s is financially just no other option besides living with them for free and getting (emotionally) abused as a service in return.

@shaheedcassim2752 3 года назад

Find a guy with a house💍

@RoseMarieJamesJr 3 года назад

What lie are you telling yourself that makes you think you deserve that lifestyle?

@bambilove1897 3 года назад

I wanted to be a teacher until you existed and then I said, I'd rather not make people feel that terrible....

@RFWalsh81 3 года назад

Yup bad idea indeed. Birds gotta spread there wings eventually by leaving the nest!

@betterculture7652 3 года назад

The future is TRAVEL part of what we should be doing as a global society is making travel easy, inviting, cheap, enriching and a mode of living where people can continually learn, self care, stay intimate with nature, do their work m, get their therapy all while switching up locations every few months... I’m not vouching for the company “Selina hostel” because I just learned of them and I don’t know if their owners are colonizers/occupiers or not.... but this concept is the future. So if any young people want ideas of things to do that would be of service... making cheap communal housing available might be a thing to consider.

@serese-lenox 2 года назад

I live with my parents, am building a new home so my parents can move in with me. I wouldn’t have it any other way. It may not be for everyone but it’s my choice and I’m so happy with my decision. I love my parents.

@novelaego2404 Год назад

nope

@SwanTheQueen 3 года назад

For commenters saying it’s just not possible, c’mon there are kids emancipating from their parents, my cousin left and started working at 16. Unless you have a limiting disability you have no excuses, you should try harder. Even people with disabilities have achieved this, they go to the olympics, have their own places, another cousin has Down syndrome and is living by his own, even autistic people work hard for it. If you really want it, you can do it. How hard you want it? I’m still living with my parents yes it sucks the economy and blah blah blah but I know is N.oT because I can’t. I am lazy, I don’t feel like doing the effort right now, I am in my comfort zone. I am moving in 6 month, I have found a place now. But in the last years I know I made excuses to not go above and beyond and tried everything literally everything to get out. I know it’s up to me and I live in a 3rd world country… Be honest with yourself, are you really trying everything to get out? I bet you are barely “trying”.

@AmiyaD1611 3 года назад

I personally wanted to move out as soon as possible, but now I‘m 23 and still live with my mother and brother. I have a great relationship with them, my mom nor my brother feel like inhibitors. My mom never forced things upon me but that‘s maybe bc my parents both lived a spiritual path and are very aware of patterns and cycle and all these related to family karma. I feel like rn it‘s actually very helpful to stay in my situation, but I do understand that sooner than later the day will come where we will all move out and live seperatly and we all trust this day will happen in divine timing. Here in Switzerland moving out and living on your own as soon as possible is praised. But I think that living in community is equally as powerful too. Anyhow my family system ofc has it‘s flaws but I never felt like it was an inhibition but much rather than expansion. But I attribute it to everyone being like super aware and wanting to break all the family karma haha. It‘s possible to have a spiritually aware functional family system people (:

@anotherperspective3609 3 года назад

OMG ❤ i didn't have the privilege to be born in a healthy happy family like yours, but after i moved out i did find a good friend to build a healthy happy relationship that is like family 😊 Hope you will too after you decide to move out

@AmiyaD1611 3 года назад

@@anotherperspective3609 Yeah I hated it for the longest time tbh. I was very ashamed of my growing up but now I know it‘s an absolute blessing. But yeah I had more troubles in maintaining healthy friendships. I guess it‘s just hard finding people who do the work, and even if I do, they are usually the first ones in the family line to do so, and I still feel like I can‘t quite relate to people bc I‘m just to different in the way I was brought up, so who knows, maybe my family is my tribe for now. Let‘s see what the future brings

@pawan21981 3 года назад

I dont know if India was dysfunctional from very beginning or was the 200 years of colonization . I strongly believe it was not as dysfunctional but liberating before.people forget the 200 years of colonization.? Much before that it was also under influence of arabs. The question is if the countries like European union who I strongly believe were and is the center of racism, abuse, and dysfunctionality. Just like wuhan for covid. That's where most of your events are organized .isnt it .? Thanks.🙏

@redefiningsk8ing 3 года назад

All points are valid. A counterpoint I would add is that context is important & not every adult who lives with their parents are preventing their success/growth by doing so. In situations where an adult isn't mentally/emotionally stable enough to live on their own, living with their parents can actually save their life. I speak from personal experience. If my mother were to kick me out about a year or two ago at the height of my suicidal period I promise you I'd be dead by now. Ofc my relationship with my mother comes with trauma as does ANY & every relationship but for that time it truly caused more good than harm.

@Rick__C-137 3 года назад

She gave that caveat at the beginning of the video 🙄

@prettymermaid2117 3 года назад

HOW DO YOU GET OUT AND STAY OUT, HAPPILY??? I think all of us in the comments already feel shamed, judged + trapped. It would be very helpful to have a video on how to disentangle from these energetic chains keeping us w/our parents. Especially with more “subtle” abuse involved. I did appreciate this video though. Very timely.