Why Men Aren't Going to Church? 

People go to church for many different reasons and a lot of people will be surprised as to how many go for reasons that have NOTHING to do with GOD.

It's not about us or our egos. We're to be worshipers, not consumers.

I notice a lot of women in the comments invalidating men and thinking they know more about men’s needs and experiences. Don’t we hate when men do that to us? Do we want men to speak for us and our experiences as if they know more about our ways, and make us bad for how we are wired? I for one don’t. Think about what you’re saying when you’re putting them down for how they were made. Treat them how you would want to be treated. Shame never changed anyone-not long term anyway. It’s when we fully accept someone that they feel loved and are set up for change, and it’s the long term change that occurs because the desire comes from within.

Why aren't we talking about the modern day church is heavily feminise? I mean our church isn't having this issue. When you speak more on how something makes you feel and less challenge

Man I remember when I was younger I remember going to Eddie long church.. he was telling the women if a man can’t put 5 carat vvs ring on your finger he’s not the man god has for them.. after that I was done.. Men are not that easily fooled and can see through the hustle..

Church has the prayer of David but doesn’t have the true warrior spirit of David. Men are drawn to the warrior side of David , there must be a balance between the two

What draws men to Islam is that it makes men think they can be good without God. They would rather believe a lie that makes them feel better than the truth, which will challenge them. And many of them don’t want Christ because of unbelief, and they love their sins. May God grant them repentance.

This conversation lacks analysis. Start by separating the ideal of why men are drawn to church and why women are drawn to church. Start the conversation with the first brother acknowledged the prescence and reverence of the pastor over service and community.

Being a single guy in your 30s in church is just a depressing place to be - that's why I've been watching sermons online for the last several years

The primary reason to go to church is to worship God in the way He instructs through His word. I attend church to hear from God through the teaching and to learn. I went very often when I didn't want to go (for some particular reasons). I think the question is why do men moreso not feel obligated to show up? It's sounds like an obedience and submission issue.

I'll just be blunt. unconsciously, many men will NOT submit to another man that is constantly being uplifted and revered by THEIR woman. Before you jump and yell. Ask yourself has your man EVER said something to you that you casually heard but somewhat dismissed. However, you heard that same or similar thing from the pastor and YOU mention it back to your man and he doesn't receive it as well as you thought or he even said "I said that last week"? We as men want to fellowship with other men in christ and have good role models, NOT the skinny jean, Louis vuitton wearing man that pulled up in his second Rolls Royce paid by ME and other congregation members. show need and unity, respect for each other in Christ and you will see men coming back to the churches.

This is a really interesting subject. What I’ve noticed in the comments is how men’s needs are being invalidated,misinterpreted and misunderstood. You cant ask men to be open and then dismiss them when they don’t say what you want them to say. From what I’ve read men DO want mentorship and discipleship, but even more importantly a sense of purpose and mission.

It’s true what the guys stated. But other reasons why men don’t go to church:

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This is great! I love this conversation and totally agree that men need connection. So many are broken and don't or can't express this brokenness!

What you said at the end about men wanting more connection and discipleship is so true. I think one of the bigger reasons why is because of the way the services are typically structured as a program type of setting where you come, sit, watch and consume what's happening on stage. And to your point of the church not cultivating the type of community environment, this is true. Depending on what church it is, there may or may not be much opportunity to have any participation during service from the congregation, and you barely get any discipleship out of it.

Maybe they just want more honest and direct people. My dad was talking about the drama behind the scenes in ministry. Its just the hurt and the lack of accountability that men step back. No man likes unnecessary drama and i think we forget thet. Women can maneuver rhat but the men are tired of it

I think part of it has to do with the men feeling outnumbered/ a minority. Imagine going to a church with majority men. You may feel like the odd ball. Unless the single man has family or some type of ties to that church, he is not as likely to join majority women churches.

I’ve read most of the comments here and I think one basic foundational point was missed in this video.

Great question