@@BusiswaGI get your point but at the end of the day it's mostly single mothers out here . The prettiest and thickest of women are single mothers. So the strategy of most will be to date and sleep with single moms but never settle or marry them. We will definitely slide our tip in but no commitment. Childless women over 21 are the minority trust me.
@@davionwalters4877that’s why GOOD single mothers don’t date men who are p0rnwashed and only want to be with them to sleep with them and not to have an actual relationship. That’s why they have standards- was that not the point???
I’m married (no kids/no pregnancies) but back when I was dating I was in a first (and last) date with a black man. A conversation on Dealbreakers came up and he mentioned he didn’t date women with kids. I said “I can understand that, I don’t date men who didn’t grow up in two parent homes” and his whole attitude changed and he started (poorly) repressing his yelling. I just left
It’s giving ‘I’m extremely insecure so I’ll look down on single mothers because those I the only women I can get with, yet even their standards are too high for me but instead of me to reflect on my own inadequacies, I take it out on all single mothers because that’s how useless I am’
My mom has been a single mother for as long as i can remember. She dated guys here and there, but she was the one who always left them because they couldn't handle her success. Fastforward to now, my mom works overseas making 6 figures and is enjoying her time despite the difficulties. She told me she wants to marry some day, but she will never settle for a man who devalues her or doesn't put in work. I look up to my mom a lot and im happy to say shes my hero, men who look down on single women with kids are the worst because they're generalizing a woman's reasoning because theyre too insecure to handle rejection of any kind.
It goes both ways.... women don't date men with kids because of the time factor and the money. Whoever dates them will always come second because of the kids, and you have to be okay with that for the relationship to work.
The point is men are trying to warn y'all that you end up single and alone if you keep living in this fantasy world that you are highly desired by men. We only use single mother for practice. We want you pussy we don't want you. The man that want you for you and want to step up y'all females don't want you cry "where are the good man at" and they just don't want you. Humble yourself and realize you are the only person that thinks that you are that worthy or that special NO OTHER MAN THINKS THAT BECAUSE IF IT WAS TRUE YOU WOULDN'T BE SINGLE or stay single those are your two options.
I can't stand kids. I never dated a guy with kids. Never. I would not even consider. They love to talk about the kids, the ex is always visiting.... just too much trouble. If i ever have a kid of my own, and become single i will stay single because 1° i dont trust men near a child, even the father in question. 2° i will not have time for relationship 3° i prefer live my life alone, if i had to take care of a kid without a husband so be it.
Hey blondi hopefully no man is dumb enough to marry you. You definitely are not anything more than a one night stand. All women hit the wall and your time will be up soon enough lol.
Your attitude is disgusting. It's fine if you don't want to date and have children but to pretty much say that all men are predators is disgusting. My brother is madly in love with this lady who has 4 kids herself but he doesn't care because he loves them as if they were his own! They are great together and he does NOT have a SINGLE nasty bone in his body! And if my mom had those views as well, I never would have been born, nor would my other siblings aside from the oldest. You're a very disgusting person to accuse an entire sex of being predators. Sounds like you're just upset that no guy wants to be with someone who's such a freaking WITCH!
@@amandak.4246 You all might not but it shows how disgusting you all are for picking on innocent children. I hated adults like you because you all were my bullies. I didn't get bullied by anyone else but idiots like you who hate children for no fucking reason. Guess what? You were a child once! Shocking I know!
@@amandak.4246 I mean once you do have kids the same thing can happen to you. Why would you want someone who talks bad about woman in general. That’s not healthy
The thing is, parents must always put their kids first, the person who dates them will always come second. So, these parents can't demand from their partners to put them first either. Other than that, obviously everyone absolutely must have standards, single parents can totally demand to be respected as women/men and if you don't like it, don't date them.
Actually I agree with her. There is a difference between having a preference and putting someone else down. For this man to say that he is better than single mothers is aside eye for me and I would be turned off as well. Asking someone about their standards is not an invitation for a man to shit of women he doesn’t want to date. That’s weirdo behavior. Also what kind of man compares himself to any woman. I could maybe understand if he said that he is better than deadbeat fathers or that he is better than single fathers but instead of comparing himself to other men he is comparing himself to women. I don’t care that I don’t have kids I wouldn’t wanna be with a guy like that because that tells me he is of the mindsets that a woman’s value in life is lowered once she has kids.
@@BusiswaGthe issue is your delusional of self worth and your standards will cause you to be single and alone. If single mothers were a "prize" or worth marriage you won't be a single mother. If you were the best athlete, you would have won. It's very simple logic. Again men use foresight.........like look at Britney and Madonna beautiful successful women with kids millions of males fantasy. Single and alone. Females rather live in their delusions, deny reality, then blame everyone then the person that made all their own life decisions when they are single and alone.
@@BusiswaGeventually you will become invisible to most men. Because the older a man gets the higher is value becomes. The older a woman gets the less value she has. Look at celebrity Jennifer Lawerance was the top paid actress during the hunger games franchise. Name any movie that she is in. Anne Hathaway, Julia Robert, and etc. All once the highest paid actress are all now ghost in the industry. Look at Leonardo DiCaprio still getting movies. The same thing happens in dating, television, music, movies, and etc. Men will continue to frame while females get replaces by a newer younger talent. When is Nicki Minaj coming out with a new album. Drake just made an album last year. You see my point! Females are so delusional they think they have all the time in the world and they will always will be able to find some guy. In reality, in the real world statistics and facts goes against what women think.
I was just about to comment this as well. Cause establishing a preference is fine. I wouldn’t date someone with children either. But I also do not consider men or women with children less than me or others for having kids. But the guy implied that single moms are beneath him, and while being raised by a single mom as well feels like a slap in the face.
The only reason they say this is to get single mothers to lower their standards and settle for their bs. The beverly halls and kweenofkings are two channels with men of means who married single mothers. A good man sees value in good women, kids and community. When a man tells me he hates other peoples kids, it means he would hate his own too realistically.
I don’t think it’s the fact that he doesn’t know he doesn’t have to date a single mom. I think it’s the fact there are single moms that shame men that avoid single moms and this is just the clap back for it.
So he stoops down to their level and calls them lucky to have lower than the bare minimum? I do understand where you're coming from, but that isn't the mature response.
The first guy wasn't really that eloquent with his words. He didn't really elaborate on his argument at all. It should be pretty obvious that no one is obligated to date someone who's not their preference. But let's acknowledge reality. Most men don't prefer single mothers because it's an instant family that they neither created nor nurture. So it'll come with expectations that are not based on where that single childless man is at. I will also say that single parents should think carefully about trying to acquire a childless significant other. If a potential partner wants a legacy with you, and it's not mutually desired, that should be where the relationship ends. I've learned this from a unfortunate prior marriage. Men need to understand the reality that comes with a single mother; and vice versa. This would save a lot of heartaches and broken homes. A single father cannot replace a mothers impact on a child's development; and the same goes for a single mother. But I digress. I'm glad I watched the whole video, because it's easy to get triggered by this topic and other's opinion. I will say our people need less single parent homes and more complete households.
6:30 she is hitting the nail on the head. It’s always the guy who has at least one baby momma, a mediocre apartment, a crazy car payment, and a middle of the ladder job. These are the men raised by single moms or in broken homes who grow up to get a small taste of success (nice car or living in a better area from where they were raised) who will refuse to date and almost to a point of harassing women for the same things they have going on in their own lives.
Probably because he knows he's in no position to be providing for a woman who expects him to provide financially for both her and her offspring, and for which he will have zero respect and zero control and zero rights, but lots and lots of expectations.
@@El_Opheliaso how does he think he is good enough for us child free young women? We have many options so why would we pick a barely making rent single dad?
@@curlyqween34 Because together, you make a couple and together you can make rent. Not making much money when one is young is normal. But women want men with 6 figures in their 20s. Crazy.
Exactly, not because of shaming for sex before marriage but if things are not stable enough or serious enough to want to get married tomorrow, you have no business bringing a child into that mess.
@@akshakur3962 And my point being, most of these cases aren’t due to the scenario you brought up. Most single parents are due to ex boyfriends/girlfriends or one night stands.
Because men know other men and men know how women lives end alone and bitter with all her degrees, materials things, and money. Look at all these Single Independent female with money. Madonna, Kim Kardashian, Britney Spears, Wendy Williams, Oprah, and etc Y'all are delusional type of man you want is like 20% of all guys. But you have 50% of women with no kids competing for the top 20% and none of them want a single mom expect for fun. 90% of the men "want" you it's just for sex, and that other 10% that actually want to commit women don't like. Men are made if they get rejected, at the end of the you are still a single mother and the odds against you
The America population is 340 millions. 170 millions are males and about 63% of men are single. About 107.1 million men are single in America. I'm black lets take the black population. 107.1*14(7%)=7.5 million single black men.....14% of black people in America divide by 2(male and females)......7%(male population). Let say out of the black men, 10% would want to date a single mother out of 7.5 million single black men in this country. 7.5million *10%=750,000 Let's say only the top 20% of that met your dating requirements.......150,000 black men to choose from but, those 150,000 black men have access to a large and wider pool of people that you are a ghost in his pool of options
That's why most single mothers will stay single. Something got to give either you have to lower your standards are stay single. Again the average man doesn't care y'all are just for recreational use anyways and he give back by paying a bill or two then leave lmao lol.
Has a daughter of a single mother, I find it very funny that these out of touch boys think mothers cannot be attractive. My mom was a MILF and she still can find a man interested in her with no problem (although, she won’t, she’s married now).
In my culture it's important to marry someone before having kids, however one of my cousin been through a divorce, then she got in a new relationship with a single dad. I think at her place I would do the same, if I was a single mom I would go for the single dad because I think we are both going through similar path in life, we can function better together and understand each others better. I think it's important to date someone close to you in life in age and sitation.
I mean if you don't have kids then it's probably a good idea, but the reality is that single dads do have more women willing to date them than single moms have guys willing to date them.
I just know that I don't have fatherhood in me 😂 I'm selfish and irresponsible, I shouldn't be in charge of a kid. I'm also very cynical, I'd very likely depress a child by talking to one
…It’s just that these types of single moms that don’t want a single dad are saying that they don’t want to have to parent someone else’s kid(s), but they want this no kid guy to parent your kid(s). These moms can have their own preferences of course, but they shouldn’t be wondering why they can’t find anyone, find anyone good, or that there’s hardly anyone to date. They’ve made their options very small. I think that’s also what this guy is saying. Me, I have my own preference on what I want when dating and it’s nothing outrageous. It’s just that most guys aren’t the way I’d want or they’re not honest with themself and they’re actually the kind of person I’d want to be with, but they’re never gonna be that way which is who they really are. So I know that my options are small. I’m not gonna complain about that. That’s what these single moms with the no dating a single dad and only dating a guy with no kids so that guy can parent her kid(s) preference not seem to understand that their preference in a guy is making the dating options very small.
This makes no sense and has no statistical evidence behind it, on average women especially younger women date men with kids more than men date women with kids
I find it so funny that they'll call out random women on the internet especially single moms but let you call out his raggedy most-likely single mom who spoiled him all his life and all of a sudden it's a "how dare you call out my mother?" A word of advice you reap what you sow and you should take accountability for your idiotic actions.
I hope your channel blows up! These conversations need to be had but there are too many content creators creating division which helps no one. As a single woman with no kids it would be a burden to date someone with kids and I would be the one with the most to loose. I’m going to treat your kid like they are mine bc I think that’s the way it should be but as a step parent I know I would have little to no say in the discipline of that child, I have no say in how that child will be raised, I can’t make that child respect me, and I may even be left out of important conversations about that child (parent teacher meetings etc). Just doesn’t make sense bc I’m still going to be heavily invested financially, emotionally, and time wise with no say over nothing. Not a position I want to put myself in but at the same time I would never bash a single parent.
I mean, the man didn't lie. He just had a little attitude about it cuz he's probably talking about somebody he knows. It is lucky for a woman with multiple children/fathers to get another chance at a relationship. HOWEVER, they choose men like the one in the video. Don't take offense to things that don't affect you. The women who are taking offense are the one's longing for relationships from men that are out of their caliber. What I'm hearing is "You should want us anyway, Yo mama was single". Maybe that's how men know it's not a good idea lol. Both men said the same thing, but OUR FEELINGS wont let us hear the first man because of how he said it. We need to stop it.
Men hopped on this bandwagon because of their low self esteem and needing to feel better than someone. 7-8 years ago, nobody gave a shit about dating single moms. And they be lying, cuz I got 3 kids and I only don't have a man cuz I don't want one. They be LYING
People like this is why I often say I'll never remarry or date again. You spend a lifetime with someome, try to raise a family, it doesn't work out. So you leave and yry to put yourself back together, while trying to rebuild your life and raise your children as well, most of the times, all alone. It's difficult. And then you get losers like that who want you to feel lucky to be with them when they have nothing to offer but lame sex and maybe some more babies you'll raise alone. No thanks. I'll get a teddy bear and cuddle it when i feel lonely.
I've dated single moms. They were alright, for the most part. But I had more of a bond with the kids than with the women due to how little time they could "spare" for me. And that was too much risk for me to end up in a relationship solely because I'm having fun raising some other bloke's kid for a woman that struggles to be a partner for me.
24:52 I have to agree with this mom especially because I spoke the same to my son when he was of age as well as the woman he dated that he felt he could bring home to meet mom. 😊❤Don't base a bad experience with 1 bird on an the entire flock we all fly our own v.
Part of the problem is that there are some women who will have kids with a regular guy and then going forward they only want someone that can give them a fairy tale life, like the regular guy wont do anymore. i say that as a single mother. so it;s not the case 100% of the time but there are women who are looking for the grass that appears to be greener on the other side and it just doesn't exist.
“A single dad can hook up with a single mom”. That’s good advice (not really) for the guy that was making a point that a lot of these single moms will not date a single dad, but these single moms are wondering why they can’t find anyone to date. This guy also mentioned after that, that these single moms want only guys that don’t have kids since they’ll not date a single dad. Like he said, he doesn’t want to have to take on a dad’s job. Which is another thing that this guy said that a lot of the single moms that don’t want to date a single dad want a guy with no kids to be a dad to their kid(s). It might have been better to try out the single dad ‘cause he might want to be a dad to your kids…
The problem from my perspective was not a man having a preference of not dating single mothers. ... its what it comes off as a personal dig at a woman for having standards and him not meeting them,,, that hey you have a kid so you should have no standards and just accept what ever bone you are thrown...you get the same thing when you are over weight. they feel entitled to have you spread your legs and you should be so lucky and praise them for them coming down from on high to even grace you with their presence. that is what women have the problem with... but it they admit that the there goes 90% of their poor me pity party podcasts
11:20 I'm sorry but she sounds well I'm sure y'all heard it ?. I dated, I'm a single mom and the only man that I felt earned the worthiness to be introduced to my son is the one I'm still with and we are going on 25 yrs together . Women please do not bring just any old date grubbing man near your children until they have earned it .
What’s funny is he’s a DMV comedian I live in the DMV and he posts his inbox a lot women are actually chasing him down. He’s not chasing women. He turns down women every day in his inbox. I don’t think he was rejected by a single Mom. I think he rejected many of single moms he’s 23 years old and he doesn’t have any kids, he’s actually very popular in this area and he’s building a brand off of his fitness routines and his comedy
Not every single mother is broke and miserable. My now boyfriend and I broke up for 6 months and him and his family saw my son almost daily still. They will most likely have a relationship forever because he’s been in my son’s life since he was 3 and is now 8. He treats my son like a guardian, he loves my son like his own. As the parent I still have the final say, he never cross that line. But my son has an extra guardian and one day step father and an extra family.
Nah the past polyamor dude is a possessive control freak. 'change her mood' yeah so can a dog, her kid. Men getting insecure about the baby daddy is ridiculous.
Well I do agree that childless women should date childless men tbh. One of my requirements is that the man doesn’t have kids (my partner and I have none but that was one of the requirements we had for long term partnership).
As a mom myself i completely understand and i was one of them never could get over my bad daddy but after having time working on myself and praying i was sent a man, he has no kids and he knew i had one before we dated and he did not care he wanted to be there for us and i wanted to be a better person for him now for the first time in my life im in a healthy, happy, loving relationship change starts with you
A single mom yourself with a kid. So glad you clarified that! I NEVER would have thought you had a kid unless you told me! What the hell is a mom anyway?! UGH! No, seriously, what is a mom? Obviously, it doesn't mean parent to you or else you wouldn't feel the need to say "a single mom with a kid" because the MOM part gives it away. So, I'm assuming that you didn't mean mom, as in mother, but mom as in a code for something else?
They have a video where a man is clearly staying about being involved with a single mother and molesting her child which was a boy and he went into death about how he sexually molested her son when she wasn't around it was so hard but this man has spoke upon this child he choked him While he was unconscious and raped him while he was unconscious then choked him with a bag and put semen in his mouth while he was unconscious it was horrible
So how can a man that was raised by a single mother emulate what a present father figure in the house is if he’s never witnessed it? By logic of rhetoric, no one raised by single mother should be dating. and the next question would be so when you do find that woman that has no children you absolutely will never divorce that woman no matter what after you all have children or else you would therefore be continuing this cycle of single mothers at your own convenience
I never had issues dating being a mother...those guys sounds insecure..I turned down many guys that wanted to date me and none of them have kids..so he is talking lies..those guys dated and was hurt and turned on women with kids
I will say this, women who have kids with more than 2 men does bring down their value - period. Two is pushing it, but if the 2nd was a marriage, then that is more understandable.
My mom decided that my father shouldnt be in my life. I respected that. That doesn’t mean my mom was a good mom. The insanity to shame people that experience trauma due to having a single mom. And the irony of her weaponizing the father. Lmfaooo my SINGLE TEENAGER mother did the same thing. Meanwhile i dont even know my dad because….again…it was HER decision for me to not have a father 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 like THIS is why people drag single moms. Way too many people ignore the girls that grow into women that truly dislike their mothers
so are deadbeat dads. at least single moms more than not are in their kids lives. there be single deadbeat bums out here with 5 different baby mothers in their 40's trying to talk to 18 year olds. Sorry that one single mother you dated was terrible to you. This is coming from an engaged 20 year old with no kids.
