Pastor Sarah Jakes Roberts and Bishop TD Jakes have a candid father-daughter talk about family, relationships, and legacy at the 2019 Woman Evolve Conference. Catch the full session titled "Daddy Issues" on Woman Evolve TV.
My Father left i was 4 yrs old...And i never said the word daddy again....I waited for him to come through the 🚪 but no trace of him.And when i turned 27 my cousin called me and told me he passed away.His sister told her not to tell my mom and her kids...We weren't invited to the funeral nor mentioned in the obituary...My mom was married to him with 7 children but we were forgotten by him and that side of the family....If Jesus didn't save me and help me to forgive i don't know where I'd be...Only grace and mercy💚
😘 My dad was abusive. At about thirteen I started calling him father and not daddy as a way to avidly protect my heart. I have not called him daddy ever again.
I just did. And this man is a teacher of false doctrine, and I have no emotion about it other than to do with the Bible says: 2 Timothy 4:2 “Preach the word; be instant in season, out of season; reprove, rebuke, exhort with all longsuffering and doctrine. This man contradicts what the holy Bible says a man should do in relation to his wife in relation to God. Instead of preaching the Bible, this man makes excuses for the sinful husband rather than reprove him of his sins and preach the Bible.
Bottom line, every man wants peace in their home. A woman wants peace too. But she needs to feel secure to have the peace in her heart that she can give to her man. The relationship will not last if there is no peace for the man or security for the woman.
Dog I swear kevin samuels has caused a good uproar in our community I have never heard these subjects abroad like this and holding our women accountable
This is the only comment I appreciate bc it seems to be the only one that doesn’t put full onus on the woman to do the work. Both parties have to be aware and accountable for themselves
In today's modern women ferminism its very hard not to leave its just hard and the kids suffer most men for the most part can be not worth millions but they never allow toxic friendships with their buddies to be invasive as women, women will tell their girlfriends how big your D is or what is your favorite position men are a little conservative
I agree with Sarah , I feel attack when someone I love corrects me. I feel like I failed in every area. I get defensive. Also Bishop is right there’s a time for everything and I have to work on that. Lord help me not push people away because my defensiveness. Also help me listen and not talk all the time.
So basically, don't tell you all what you're doing to hurt us cuz you'll just end up going where you're being pacified and getting your ego stroked.. Right!
ONE thing I Truly Miss about my Dad ( 7 years pass) is how proud he would tell me he was of me. 😢 There is multitudes of Blessings to see a father’s tears of their child’s well-being ❤️
7-29-22 Are you kidding me. You must be a boy child. Your dad saying he was proud of you is not any better or more than all your mother did. Did your mother forget to tell you she was proud of you? Did you enjoy your mother giving birth to you, bathing, hugging, getting you ready for school, cooking, cleaning your diapers, changing your bed clothes, washing and ironing, sweeping, protecting, providing, smiling, touching, food,when she fed you, and cared for you? Or did only your dad give to you?
That's beautiful that you has that with your dad. Sounds like a wonderful man😌. Some of us never or rarely receive that from our fathers and grieve most times unknowingly, via that void that lasts a lifetime.
Bishop TD Jakes, the devil wanted to humiliate you with Sarah's teen pregnancy but God turned it around to humiliate the devil to his face. Sarah you are blessed. You really have shamed the devil. What God cannot do doesn't exist. We have hope. God bless!
Congrats!! To you two 🙌🏼🙏🏼 I just celebrated 19 years, our children are grown . Now it feels so much lighter more fun then ever before. I have learned a tremendous amount of information over the years , and today now with this video. We make things soo hard sometimes it’s really not even worth it.. Let go & let god is my continuous message to myself.
@Joyful n Blessed Men know what y'all go through, we do. But some women have a good man. In a good man's mind his goal is to never leave like their father did, but sometimes we have to choose our peace...especially if and after we've tried and our wife or queen does not want to get better.
@Joyful n Blessed I hear what you're saying but it's common knowledge that eating healthy is best. Women expect men to wait some number of years for them to start eating healthy and heal from years and years of trauma and it becomes draining. The only time I've ever seen a black woman loose weight is because a man left her. So basically we have to leave for yall to become better which is sad.
“What gave your compliment so much validity is your criticism that proceeded it. The fact that you had the courage to tell me when I was wrong, makes me believe you when you tell me I am right.” This is so deep! Thank you for sharing.
Man i just heard pastor TD jakes first sentence of this sermon.....he ain't kidding don't ever give up on a man or woman who doesn't quit.....instead hit em with a assist because little do you know people that have been through a lot in life it gives them so much passion beyond what you ever thought.... that causes there breakthrough for change/growth/success.100%
Meaning it shows you really care for them and that means transformation is around the corner....don't kick people down because what you kick might spring up that you didn't realize what you were kicking
I'm trying to hold on until his transformation but the accusations are pushing me away daily. He doesn't talk to understand, he talks to hear himself and hurt me. Nothing has been accomplished in any of our conversations of the last month or so
This message is damaging and setting women up for failure and possibly abuse. Adults are responsible for their own mental health, attitude and how we treat people. It's not someone else's job to coddle anyone else and accept poor treatment.
My parents divorced when I was four. I saw my Dad on the weekends and he instilled a lot of values. Going back and forth I promised myself that I would make sure my children didn't grow up separated from either one of us. It happened anyway. My children are going through the same way. I feel so sorry for them. Father's are the protectors and Mother's are the nuturers.
In this month, I prophesy into your life today, as you knock, doors of opportunities shall be opened unto you. As you seek, you shall find favour before men and God. As you ask, all your prayers shall be answered. May God bless you with what you prayed for, reward you with what you worked for, grant you with what you hope for and surprise you with what you have not asked for. So shall it be in the mighty name of Jesus..... God almighty bless you abundantly
🙏🏽🧡 .I am praying for everyone who needs a Miracle. Only God can do the impossible, He can make a way when there seems to be no way. Today I pray God touches your health, your home, your family, your faith, and your finances. God bless you Amen! If you are reading this, I hope you know that you are unique and capable of creating amazing things in your life. Wish you lots of happiness, peace and success
I miss my father. 😞. I met my dad when I was 33. He passed away 6 months later from small cell lung cancer. I had been looking for my father for years and come to find out he was living down the street from where I worked. I worked at the hospital for 5 years. Lately, he has been heavily on my mind. I looked out my kitchen window and saw a beautiful cardinal. He wouldn’t leave. He stayed playing in the yard. It made me feel so happy inside. The last time I seen a cardinal was with my dad the first day I met with him. I believe that was my father. ❤️❤️🌹
As I listen to this, trying my best to hold on to this relationship for the sake of my daughters to grow up im a 2 parent household this message hits so deeply. I have to understand me leaving this relationship is not me leaving my daughters or giving up on fatherhood. There is no benefit in a 2 parent household if that household produces more toxicity than love.
So my parents stayed together because of “the kids” . The environment was so toxic that I wish they would’ve separated and been happy individually. I keep them both at a distance. I would just say focus on your relationship with your daughter and find yourself a partner that you value and appreciate and values/appreciates you. Don’t stay and suffer.
It’s not your daughters you’re leaving first, you’re leaving God. You saw these things before you married, but you ignored them. Now man up and get counseling and stay in your marriage
Some men you can give them the world on a silver platter, treat them with kindness and compassion, wait for the right time to talk, put them first, love them unconditionally, give them encouragement and support, give them freedom / space, raise the kids well, cook, clean, keep the home warm but they will still leave you, have a wondering eye etc. So this defiantly doesn't go for all men, men leave for countless reasons, they can't all be boxed to one reason, unfortunately.
There are always clowns 🤡 like you in the comments who will do anything to discredit things said about men that don’t make them look like monsters. Not one time did he mention all men. Neither did he imply that this is the situation with all men. Everything you just said proves that you make bad decisions and don’t know how to pick men. Go to therapy, take accountability for your bad decisions and quit being bitter.
@@tansiobi You are very very entitled to YOUR opinion, just like I am to mine. I do not discredit you at all, I do not discredit them either because this was their perspective on the topic - Did I strike a nerve perhaps ?!
@@NsikeSibisi Nope. You didn’t. Just calling out your BS. But of course, the typical female response; did I strike a nerve, who hurt you, insecure….. LOL
If you haven’t already, please listen to Bishop R.C. Blake’s Jr. Now his teaching will bless your life!! Always great to get a perspective from someone truly called, anointed and appointed. And your statement is true! Have a blessed day.
Then you’re the problem, because it’s all about you. Peace comes from God that’s the ultimate peace you can have. And respect is earned, so what you truly want is a woman allowing all of your insanity to take place in ya’lls home and not say anything. So when you’re confronted you get defensive because most men feel , I’m a man I can do what I want. When you get married it’s a 3 person relationship God you and your wife. And that’s why most relationships don’t work because they don’t have God in them.
I really needed to hear this because my other half aways take my words the wrong way,I love him very much and I only want what's best for him,however I gotta understand that men talk and listen differently from woman...I gotta start praying before I speak because I don't wanna hurt him or push him away,I also have to fully understand that , it's not what I say, it's how I say it
The father daughter relationship between these two is everything. Very loving, caring, and passionate. I love it! Daddy Jakes got me over here crying! Continue to be blessed! ❤️
In this month, I prophesy into your life today, as you knock, doors of opportunities shall be opened unto you. As you seek, you shall find favour before men and God. As you ask, all your prayers shall be answered. May God bless you with what you prayed for, reward you with what you worked for, grant you with what you hope for and surprise you with what you have not asked for. So shall it be in the mighty name of Jesus...... God almighty bless you abundantly
Since the year 2000 watching TBN I saw TD Jakes for the fist time in my life. I had just given my life to Christ. I new I need to hear him daily and I did. 22 years later HE IS STILL MY #1. I even fell inlove with Serita Jakes his wife and her support, her voice and the start of how his program started and I knew that was a tight marriage. When he came to preach at the University of Miami in Miami at the stadium there, I went to see him and my sister took me and today she is inlove with your preaching Sarah. Mind you she was not a believer herself til recently in the Christian Faith. God is amazing. I never had my dad. I never saw a Real man at my home. My mother's taste of man were all married winppy and flaky. This message is powerful and specially cause it's coming from someone I believed his preaching and character since I saw him on tv, YOUR DAD.
I know what you mean. It's beautiful! I miss mine too. His birthday would have been 2 weeks from now. A whole year in Feb. That he's been gone. God bless you!
Is it Valentine Day. What is the occasion, all the red Girl, you are definitely, still in love with, your husband. Go and get that, man, if you love him.
Tone and Timing is Everything and a pure willingness to understand even if speaking two different languages and passing down bad communication habits. That's why it's important to get God's wisdom and discernment for marriage and humble ourselves emotions Pride and Ego drives us to want to be right or always filling some kind of way it isn't earth by any means. Even when we get it wrong long as willingness and Respect are being served. We can get there I'm often convinced many don't want peace like drama nothing wrong with saying I don't quite understand please let's help each other always prayerful always reconcilitory and forgiving
Wow! 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 “if you have something critical to say, pick a time when your emotions are not in it” 🙌🏾🙌🏾 It’s all about interpretation. “The fact that you had the courage to tell me when I was wrong, makes me believe you when you say I am right.”
THANKS FOR SAYING THIS! You are 100% on target and stated so much more succinctly than I was about to comment. When do we stop blame shifting, harboring and making space for mens' blatant ADULT choices and give them room to take responsibility for themselves?
The ending make me cry 😢 "what gave your compliments so much volitity is the criticism that proceeded it, the fact that you had the courage to tell me when I was wrong makes me believe you when you tell me I am right" that's how we grow and align ourselves with God's purpose.
I don’t have time to waste 30 years to go through trying to get to know anyone other than myself. I’m learning to fully love myself with all my heart, soul and strength and it is good and very good!!
The FIRST 3 minutes hit me so hard! So many unspoken truths that I wish I could convey! I'm at work, and I'm barely keeping myself together! I pray to have a deep relationship with all of my family like this!
I agree with bishop and I as a Army combat veteran who has had to endure some of the most rigorous training in the world and been deployed to a foreign country will say this in short it s not that men don t want to stay but many women in America understand that I as a man have a spirit which means I'm alive and well and they also understand that I have a body which provides protection, procreation,problem solving and provision, but somewhere along the way women have forgotten that we men also have a SOUL, which means I want to be respected and appreciated for my efforts. We are not just bell boys for the world. We also have emotions. Women understand this about their sons but do you realize that your husband is someone else's son. God bless.
A man should not blame a woman or the child when he decides to be an absentee father. Children need alot of guidance, structure, love, ideas, acceptance, examples, family support. If you yourself never had that we owe ourselves to treat ourselves in our highest self-esteem. I know who I am and what I've been through but even God See's me greater than All my flaw's.
I don't believe most men blame either. Some simply don't have what it takes to endure the relationship and all that's required. In some situations the woman aid in him leaving. The hardest thing I did was to leave because my marriage was toxic. I didn't want my kids to see their parents emotionally apart and arguing all the time. My kids live with me because it was to much for her. We coparent together but she can't handle the pressure all alone. My ex lives in my house. I pay the mortgage. My kids and I live in another city. I left her and our kids came with me. I had more peace at work than at home. I'm happily remarried now. My kids love their mom and they respect their stepmother.
SOME men run away because of all of those things. However the nature of a man is to protect and provide. What you missed was the fact that some of us aren't able to deal with the pressures, because we ourselves are broken. Now there's no excuse to leave your kids, save for the many advantage plays a women employ against men, in my opinion... However My father did it and he still hasn't really made it right. I know he's broken somewhere in his heart, but his true failure is that he has passed on the same brokeness. The beauty in all this, is that he has caused me to make a decision to always be around my children. No matter what. I'll deny myself to make them happy! Breaking the generational curse!🙏🏾
As a man when someone sends attack its often lost of peace its a place at home that a man shall find peace ....being misunderstood about a situation is often a unread book its a rittle life is based on the book of life and as a man im often misunderstood about things that a simple conversation can get a great understanding about ...like a lot of men go on a journey to find peace after being in situations that peace was absent ....love was there but the peace is absent so its hard to its a journey of digging and finding self ....this is a good sermon .....
@ Roland Brown - Agreed!! Others have mentioned the factual issue of specifically, black families and absentee fathers etc and one of the KEY things, we all MUST keep in mind is that, there ARE many men and women who grew up in broken homes and without a father or father figure, YET they HAVE gone on to be successful and that IS by choice. But men, who have never learned or are trying to learn that they DO NOT have to be a product of their environment, have a much more difficult time finding themselves and knowing who they truly are and what they CAN become. A lot of people cosign to the illusion that men are always strong, not supposed to show emotions and they're not supposed to cry. Fact is, if we take gender out of the equation one will see that, all human beings possess Emotions, regardless of how they are displayed and NO ONE should be judged, for how they handle "life" because everyone was NOT awarded the same tools to do so!
I’m interested in hearing the flip side of a convo like this. women have been doing the work( fitness, therapy, being feminine) & trying to learn, but all we’re learning is how to treat a bunch of (entitled, undeserving) men well -just to have relationships.
Hi. You're on the right track. Just tell God to allow you to want the right type of men. 54% of BM are single and childless. 61% are in the middle class. The stats show they are the ones you friend zone.
@@kingg7457 Thanks for sharing..that's an interesting approach I haven't heard of before at least not in that way, but think I see what you're saying... it's like asking for and using discernment in those spaces. What's your take on the flip side? Any thoughts or advice to share for men on fostering & maintaining positive relationships?
@ThePriam3 Most certainly. As a young man myself, I encourage all men who are marriage minded to "Become" in order to lead a healthy traditional household as a unit. The number one trait men want is cooperation. In order to get it, he must become.
I wish this conversation between you two would carry on... I think there's wisdom you can impart here... And it gives us women hope that there are men who want to become.. God bless🙏🏾
@@KG-bliss Hi. Actually there are plenty. The stats show there are plenty of BM who can provide for a stable household and 43% out of 54% of BM surveyed have a desire for marriage or long-erm relationships. It's just that there's a need for the Black Modern day church to champion traditional relationships. We've become way too liberal and independent of one another which challenges the success of finding suitable mates.
Omg!!!! I just discovered why I tend to misunderstand my mom. She circles around the issue and I always try to tell her to stop and get straight to the point. And I'm a woman that spends alot of time around male friends. Their qualities dwelled in me.
I don't mean to bring up KS but when women call his show and he asks a question 10 times before they actually answer I be ready to throw my phone. It also helps me to remember to just answer the dang question and stop being so vague
This man is UNBELIEVABLE!!!!! And people that don’t see through this man , need to step back and pray for God to open their eyes and heart . So they can see .
I’ve shown the full dialogue to several friends, always resonates. The healing conversations that follow are eye opening. Many thanks for y’all’s family ministry.
We need to stop making excuses for men leaving and start telling men to stay or at least tell them no matter what the issue is with the mom they still need to be there for the child. Courts can take care of the mom "not letting them" so that's not an excuse either. Men flee freely but the mom is stuck with all the responsibility, in most cases. Moms are tired and would like a few minutes of peace when they get home from work too but they don't get it because Dad is gone! There are no breaks for the parent who stayed with the responsibility.
I’m going through this right now! Like how can I be happy and smile when you get home after I took the child to school worked myself then get the child from school. My husband come texting me about what’s for dinner to me waiting til he comes home about 7 or 8 and he goes and smoke weed instead of getting the child giving me a break to him saying how can he come home to me having a attitude, then to him saying well maybe I should leave and stay away from you then you’ll be happy.
I was thinking the same thing….I tired of hearing these weak excuses as into why men don’t take care of their kids because if they love they kids like they do nothing will keep them from being there for them.
@@ashleypretty80 someone who understands. It's like they're telling women be far from human put men's needs first be small and make sure they don't leave make sure it's not ur fault even when it's theirs . Sorry but I'm calling a bluff.
Real talk, real man tells the naked truth as truth should be. No man run away from his seeds, but only to be at peace when being unappreciated in the current world's mischievous dynamics.
This is really good! When you pick and choose a time to wait until your emotions are not in it, jt also allows you to communicate clearly and precisely. Many times if we communicate when our emotions are on a roller coaster ride, we can easily slip into sin. The scripture even tells us it’s ok to be angry but we should be careful we don’t sin when becoming angry. Many people will often speak words in a heated moment and what they speak out of their mouth isn’t loving, caring or of characteristics of the Holy Spirit. EVEN WHEN WE ARE RIGHT… it should always come from a place of love and understanding.
@@Nikaplustwo Ephesians 4:26-27 - “In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold.
I love this moment! Used the same words before, thanks to you. Second time am seeing this, and it still blessed me. Thank you Jake's family for being such an inspiration. God bless you all.
In this month, I prophesy into your life today, as you knock, doors of opportunities shall be opened unto you. As you seek, you shall find favour before men and God. As you ask, all your prayers shall be answered. May God bless you with what you prayed for, reward you with what you worked for, grant you with what you hope for and surprise you with what you have not asked for. So shall it be in the mighty name of Jesus...... God almighty bless you abundantly
Everyone needs to watch this in the world !!! So profound. We are separating on race, gender, class, health etc and all we need to do is listen to understand each other and get a different perspective! In this we will understand each other and with understanding comes unity!!
Oh but these two💕💕💕 I miss my Dad, it's going to be two years since he passed on. Having someone who can read you and reprimand and correct with love.... Man, I had an amazing dad. 😭😭😭
I cried watching this! This is EXACTLY what I'm going through. EVERYTHING he said is spot on and speaks to men like myself. We dont run from our children. NEVER! We run from the toxic relationship with the mother! Now it's a challenge just to be ALLOWED to see our kids. It's been a year and my kids are STILL being kept from me. It's amazing how many women can both "play the victim" and the "kids game" using them as pawns and leverage against their own father.
Men have to realize they to have options courts aren’t just for mother’s if you really want to see your children you should take it to court it’s as simple as that but know it’s comes with stipulations on both ends you must be willing to put in the time and to pay child support
Keep fighting. Even though my child’s father was absent from his children (1 from me... 3 in total) I’d get the kids together and try to be sure he saw them... driving hours at time to try to foster a relationship. He did not support the children but I didn’t want to be the reason they didn’t have a relationship with them. It hurts me immensely to see mother’s doing this and I know they do. Even though I tried, even with kids that weren’t mine he still turned his back on them just as his father had done. I also think generational curses have to spoken upon because he became a mirror of his father spreading his seeds all about and abandoning them. I’m glad they are all grown now and doing quite well. I’m sorry you are dealing with this too. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 God will work everything out. You must believe it! ❤️
@@singlebyforce3320 who tells a man to just settle for child support ? That’s what is wrong with y’all ! Another reason relationships don’t work .. y’all don’t think . He shouldn’t even have to do that to begin with , now he has another problem to deal with . Unbelievable
I must say thank you so much for this, also thanks to a good friend who had let me listen to this today. I could've been so thankful, it has let me understand men a bit more.
yes so true I had the courage to tell my dad he was wrong and he had to courage tell me thanks for letting him know the truth that was a bond money could never buy thanks thanks
That was an awesome moment for us so I know that was an awesome moment for you, sweet Sarah!! Thanks for sharing your relationship with your dad with us!! Love!!
You can pray for a man, marry him, build a beautiful life together, travel, have great relationships with in-laws, keep his house clean, have snacks and dinner ready when he walks in, give him peace, do his laundry, give him your body whenever he wants it, honor his every request with a servant's heart, love him, treat him with kindness, dignity, and respect and that man will STILL CHEAT ON YOU AND WALK OUT YOUR LIFE. Some men leave no matter what you do. Your first love must always be God❤️
This sounds like a very personal statement. That said, if it is, I understand your reasoning for posting it. However, when you have a man explaining the situation (not excusing the behavior), it could be beneficial for you to listen. I mean this with no disrespect. If there’s a woman explaining to me how you all think and the reasoning behind certain behaviors, I’m going to pay special attention to her because she knows what it’s like to be a woman. I don’t.
Thank you for sharing your father with us women who could never get this kind of wisdom. I miss my father. God bless your whole family, from your father to your mother and from you, to your husband and your kids 🙏
Whoo help me Jesus!!! This piece of knowledge fell right in my lap!! It was a little hard to swallow, but I thank God, for inspiring you and your dad to share this wonderful snippet of wisdom with us all!!! More insights like this, I'm quite sure, will be appreciated, I know I will. I learned a new thing Again today, Thank You!!!
