A lot of dudes in these RP comments be paying for shit on only fans. There's a reason those hoes that use to go on FnF got more subs after appearing. A lot of these bums don't practice what they preach
I know our first instinct is to shame and yell BEYTAA... Because lets be honest, that shit is BEEYYTAA. But jokes aside, there is a very serious theme underlying some of this compulsive behavior, so give em a chance, try to understand where they are coming from! Then after youve done that, then call them BEEYTAA.
I spend a ton of hours on gaming. It is not real. It is an illusion. Still, I do not see it as something negative. If people want to pay for sexual content, no skin off my nose. What riles me up though is people looking down on other people for the "odd" things they take pleasure in.
As a legit porn addict, the moment I caught myself paying for the onlyfans was a slap in the face, and it was me slapping myself in the face. It was like damn, as if this shit wasn’t destructive enough, I’m paying for this shit now? I’m grateful that that was a place where I could be optimistic that I shouldn’t get any lower than that
Bruh its not that bad to pay a few dollars for what you like.. as long as you're not spending more than you should, or creating unrealistic expectations of a relationship with that person, its not that big of a deal.
@@deeznauts6543 He has a porn addiction bro. He shouldn't be paying for it. He realized the self harm and helped himself and hopefully he ain't busting gallons of nuts on himself everyday. A man do gotta rub one off sometime but when it comes to addiction that's a whole new story.
@@deeznauts6543 Paying for porn is a slap in the face no matter what you think. There are hundreds of millions of videos and images on the internet. At the end of the day porn goes against a mans purpose, it’s a surge of dopamine with no real connection or interaction whether ur paying or not. It’s a surrender to desires a man is supposed to have control over. It’s different if your having sex with the gf or wife everyday, but instead these bitches get millions a month from men like this.
@@deeznauts6543 I’d even argue that masturbation alone is just as bad for men, especially for lonely men. There’ve been studies that show chemicals released in the brain and semen during sex and masturbation are very different. I mean is it not obvious, men who have sex are more confident and outgoing, men who masturbate are typically more lonely and struggle socially.
I'm a lyft driver... and often working late nights, I pick up sex workers...usually strippers....telling me how dudes will pay them more just to TALK to them rather than see them get naked....and most times they're married or single and looking to date. It's funny because most of us who work in hospitality and public services hear the real thoughts of people, but they won't ever express it outside of us due to social pressures.
@@josephpotter7776 I'm an Uber driver, I say that all the time 😂😂😂. Really had ppl open up to me about issues they can't tell no one. So yeah I'm a Therapist. Just the Walmart version
Loneliness is no joke, and I can see why someone would find only fans appealing for exactly what y'all said, I'm not someone who would partake either as loneliness isn't something I struggle with; my youth helped me deal with that, but I know what it can make you do, even think... And your brain can be a cruel organ...
I want more of this content, I find it relieving because when people are honest about issues like this I can instantly relate or empathize with many of the emotions they are displaying
definitely. talking loneliness is great topic. Same can be applied to guy who are paying for girls to hangout with them and getting used up. I don’t want to call them names no matter how cringe it is.
Empathy has limits as some people will use it not to realise where they are going wrong but remain victim. Shaming Simps doesn't help either, Simps will eventually realise they are lying to themselves being there to guide not goad them into that realisation
People don't believe me when I tell them that I don't watch porn. All it does is raise your sexual desires and contribute to you losing control of yourself.
@@KyleAlexanderkneeGrowPlz I’ve seen the talk about that, it would be interesting to see it from a statistical standpoint and if it’s truly making a difference
@@ChialukaGold some people advocate for it, I used to watch it, but I got bored and knew what was happening before the next scene. The main essential reason why I stopped watching it was because I just didn't want to lose too much testosterone and something real. There's some people who watch it and they don't feel the effects of it. And there's the vast majority of few who are messed up for years upon it based upon previous experiences that happened in their lifetime. I don't mind looking at it every once in a while, but never everyday anymore. People need to learn how to control their urges and every single way, shape, or form.
Coming from someone who used to be in this industry they may say it's for fun but they are lonely. 98% of my clients were very lonely. Onlyfans is a cheaper way to fill that hole. Ask the girls their perspective.
Because they are s*mps! and BEEEEEEEEEEYTAAAAAAA!! Imagine having to pay to have the illusion for companionship. When you do know, that many others pay the same woman, for the same thing. BEEEEEEEEEEYTAAAAAAAA!
@@vipr1142 that thought is too complicated. I mean - one already pretends it's his gf, why not pretend she's exclusively his. Can't get any worse. Right?
Imo it’s far more sinister, because it often drives porn addicted individuals deeper into addiction. Likely to the detriment of their face to face interactions & overall views of women. What makes it worse is that women co-sign this ish so a lot of men may genuinely struggle to see women as more than sex objects. Society man
From all i've seen, most young men use only fans purely for the interaction with women. Its not even about sex or getting off they're just so so fucking lonely they would pay $100 for a month of interacting with a girl, even if the way she talks to them or pretends to see them & acknowledge their desires or wants is fake.
I broke my feet today because I kicked my computer because someone commented that my videos are bad! I hate unjustified criticism. Please wish me a speedy recovery, dear jav
Just sad... really.. its more truckers and older men who just got a cellphone finally... Because they just learned cellphones, and they are creepy lazy older men, lol... lets be real, nobody our age or younger uses onlyfans.
Please talk about Cynthia Lynn green. She hates black men. She's talking about huge jinnings and not having blood anymore. She is trying to coarse a lot of black women to stop dating black men. Cynthia Lynn green is CYN G Cynthia Lynn green hates black man. She would most certainly talk about preach and his white wife because she hates black men. She thinks all black men are dusty's and men of no value.
Broke up with a guy when I found his onlyfans. The chats i found with other women hurt more than the porn. Aside from looking at myself and my body like it was less desirable, the companionship I was robbed off hurt more.
My brother ruined a relationship with a really great girl for the same reason. She was attractive, college educated, Christian and really easy going. Lasted about 2 years and when they broke up my brother didn't tell us why for months and then he told us finally it was cause he was still watching a lot of porn despite being with her. My bro after the break up blamed himself so hard he considered suicide but didn't follow through with it thank God.
@@traewilliams1747 Him and his wife shooting videos with an onlyfans girl and not getting money from the content is tricking. The only fans girl get the husband and wife content for free, then turn around to monetize the content. Even guys in the LS do the same thing. They allow the recording just for sex with the girl. That is a level lower then buying psleeve.
There’s a loneliness epidemic amongst men in the western world, popularity of OnlyFans and online porn is a result of that issue. The rise of these platforms feed off of lonely men and is a contributing factor to in-celibacy and weak willed men. Porn of any kind takes us away from our purpose and it weakens us immensely, and if you’re at the point where you’re paying for it, you need help.
@@themosthighvaluemaninthega9048 "Hilariously rainbow unicorn puke colored dildos and stuff." Man, I don't think I've ever heard such a specific description in my life. Thanks for that, I laughed.
@MT82 Man Pedal this is a shit way of thinking. First off, shoes do not compare to the consumption of porn. If someone likes the way something looks they should be allowed to wear it and you keep your negative opinion to yourself. Now I will admit some dudes are using the x rated content sites in the wrong way, thinking it's somehow a connection to the person on the other end. Some dudes, like me, are tired of dating women and getting absolutely nowhere, but still wanna see some tna. That shouldn't e shamed at all. Now thinking subbing to a girl means there's a relationship or some kind of connection is extremely dumb and should be talked about, but shame does nothing but make people feel like shit. And you're advocating for making a man that is already down and out feel more down. Trash mindset.
These same dudes saying shame is dumb will whole heartedly shame thots for their behavior. Shame serves a purpose in society to stop doing certain behaviors. But mofos over here triggered
@@2davivadiva of you think I'm one of those dudes you mentioned you're far from wrong. I will admit there are certain things in our society we should not allow, but shame for simple things as looking at a woman is shit behavior. I just can't get behind it.
@MT82 Man Pedal to be honest, a man has to pay for a woman's attention anyway. Some men don't wanna go through the bs of dating if they just trying to see a titty.
I agree with the idea of wanting to connect with other people. I’m super introverted and my “people meter” is very short and runs out quickly. Now I love metal, to the point that I’ll listen to a song multiple times in a row to hear the individual instruments to have a greater appreciation for the entirety of the song. Now the people that I’m around don’t have as high as an interest in metal as my own, so I got to RU-vid to watch reactors, react to the music I like. My gf thinks it’s totally weird but it’s the only way I found effective to connect to people from afar. The think that I found myself doing which was very interesting is I prefer to watch reactors that usually don’t listen to metal because when I see them start jammin to parts of the song, I jam with them, creating a false connection I guess.
"Maybe if we give people better, balanced, lives they wouldn't need to engage in behavior they find shameful." Bars. I dunno about Canada but I feel that work/life balance in the US is going down the shitter. More and more people don't have time to find partners and its starting to show...
It all starts with how school works in the country now. Kids do so much homework they're stuck inside then have to be all friendly online. The demic last year made this worse. Hell, in my day over 10 years now I felt it. Since due to all the homework I didn't want to hangout no more. I was tired. When I was broke without a job I was able to be social which is somewhat an irony yet it makes sense as well.
No one can "give" someone a better, balanced life. That's something we all have to choose for ourselves. That being said, you're spot on about not having time to find a partner. Everyone is busy with barely any time left over to make any sort of meaningful connection. It's weird and annoying, but I'm also in that boat, so I guess I can't complain.
BINGO! After work, you just head straight to home... and we aren't even including those of us that have medical complications that make it even more difficult. I have hypothyroidism and I have days that I'm so tired, I spent it at home. I'm talking about being so tired that it's difficult to even walk because I'm too dizzy. I cry because I want to be able to do more in life (I've always been that can do and will do person), but I simply can't. I feel that there are many people like this in the US. I blame the system though... more jobs want more of your time, but not the pay to match it, so you overwork just for the basics. Your whole life is just work just to keep the basics. It is a stupid system. One can disconnect from it but then you disconnect from a massive society and you are left all alone with nothing to show for it.
The problem with only fans and material of this type of nature is that it’s destructive to actual sex and intimacy. The person used to novel acts that they pay for will have a harder time engaging a normal person who doesn’t share those kinks and achieving the same level of intimacy. This is how you have men who get married and suddenly have ED because they are used to getting off on bizarre and degrading acts.
Most people don't think this way because its nonsense it basically thinking in a femininity way. Bro i don't support onlyfans or simps who think like u. 🤔 😆 🤣
Then maybe marriages just aren't for them? 🤷♂️ I've seen some dude's sex lives get destroyed just because their partners one day decided that they don't enjoy the same fetishes as their husbands (especially once they get kids). Honestly they're better off just getting divorced and hiring escorts instead. A marriage based on lies is not worthing pursuing and there's nothing admirable about a guy sacrificing his sex life just so can have a family. It's just gonna affect mentally and probably lead him to becoming depressed.
You'll mad strange...these reasoning for perversion, then blaming A wife/partner for not lowering their standards just for her mates pleasures is the reasons you'll life revolve around artificial women,convo,intimacy and partnership...no wonder you'll gender in a sunken place and will most like die alone...smh....Lost civilization on fleek...
I don't believe it's necessarily bad until it gets to the point of neglecting important things. Like neglecting your personal life or neglecting their partners, that's when it becomes a problem. I remember a story where a guy wouldn't spend a dime on his wife but he spent over $1000 on only fans and twitch girls.
@@alexgear959 What is wrong with paying for a service and getting the service? I am a woman that has never paid for any sexual content from women. Idk why you have to try to use an ad hominem.
OF Is like walking into a strip club with a glass barrier, you see but you can’t touch. If you ran a strip club like that, you’d run out of business fast because simps don’t have enough confidence to be in public throwing bands at a glass. They’d rather do it in private.
This was really enlightening. I agree that people need more balanced lives, but no one can "give" that to them. They have to establish it for themselves. Love you guys! XO, NYN
@@williecatch9 Yes, depressed people need therapy, and lonely people need to find their tribe and not look at porn (only fans is soft porn) because that is destroying them spiritually and it's a reason why they are empty inside. However I can see why some men do turn to only fans etc. because they are empty, want to escape reality and are dead inside (empty of real connection, feelings repressed, lack of love) because they have no solid PURPOSE in life, also chasing after money is a soul killer too.. I can write more but I will end up writing an essay. All the best x
@@justnara it’s not pRon that’s destroying people. It’s society. Being overworked, underpaid, with terrible eating habits and trying to live by outdated “society norms” is making people (in the U.S) miserable, lonely and desperate. No wonder Americans are one of the leading nations in anxiety.
@Me Me you wouldn't have known them as that if they didn't explain themselves... They're comfortable being them and they're not hurting anybody so who cares.
@@bgtheone2903 They're hurting themselves. And the women they fund. Which affects wider society. The opposite of nobody. If she's a single mom, they're only enforcing the "men ain't shit so take em for what you can" attitude which she'll project into her child.
get activities!!! men need something they can invest in physically, emotionally, and mentally. Just having a job and hanging with friends isn't enough. Do something that will challenge you!
In regards to parasocial relationships, I personally believe a lot of people (men/women) are very lonely and so they watch their favorite youtube creators because the platform enables the viewer to directly communicate with the creators through the comments. I think a large reason why this channel is successful is because you guys are naturally entertaining, but you also create an atmosphere where the viewer feels like they are hanging with the boys, cracking jokes and shooting the shit. That’s why the average comment count on your videos breaks a couple thousand on average. It’s because you’re good at being entertainers but also creating a conversation.
I would say some of them use it because they are addicts. Porn addiction is a problem that affects many young men nowadays but nobody takes it seriously. It's also another reason we should not be glorifying sex work.
I agree a lot of grown ass women know they're pulling a lot more 15+ than 25+ year old males. Since a lot of it is right there no filter and kids now have access to their parent's card(s) or have their own card. So they can do whatever
sex workers and porn addiction is not the same thing. Hell, The first is a job, and the second is an addiction. If you want to have sex and nobody is around who is willing to do so with you, you go to a sex worker. Same with food. You don't want to cook, so you order. Porn addiction is a damn addiction. Porn is not bad. People who don' teach young men about sex is bad. Find the root of the problem. Stop shaming people.
Personally I follow RU-vidrs that are like minded that I would be friends with. I think not everyone has friends that they really connect with and relate to. And alot of those men don't have women in their lives that they connect with or talk to. And to be able to pick from a large selection of women based on both looks and personality that is willing to give you the time of day and get to know you is probably intriguing.
Definately liking the origional content even more than the reaction vids. Don't get me wrong, you guys are killing it in those aswell - I just think this is a step up from even that.
I get that porn is something that people enjoy but why doesn’t anyone talk about the tons of negative effects that it brings about? It’s a shame that it’s normalised so much. It’s all fun to call these guys simps and betas but no one puts any blame to industry that is feeding these peoples destructive habits.
I love you guys more with every video I watch. You have such a compassionate spirit Abba and Preach is super funny. It hit me when you said a lot of people are lonely and need a connection. I called up my 2 single sons and reminded them that I love them. They have been priced out of dating too. But they are working on getting their life together. I even convinced one to put his music videos on his you tube channel. I felt this one. stay blessed!
I have a friend that pays for OF because he's socially awkward. He has a hard time meeting women, so by paying he gets to meet beautiful women and interact in a way that he is comfortable.
I know it hard I am socially awkward ass well but thats when you have to push out of his comfort zone. I am doing it currently and just going out and talking to other people and I have grown bc of it
If you’re a true friend stop encouraging his behavior and tell him the cold truth: the interactions he’s having with these women are not real. They don’t give a shit about him. He’s basically being a low level sponsor without getting any meaningful return from it. Personally I’d rather get rejected or ignored by a woman then have fake ass interactions like that
@@Thaulin I am a true friend. As a true friend you accept your friend the way they are. You can't force them. They have to make the decision themselves. For some strange reason people force their will upon others and say that its right. Its not. By forcing them they shut down and then you really can't help. When he is ready we will take the necessary steps, but until then he's going to do what he wants, and I will be here as support. He knows the truth he knows its not real he's not delusional. He is well aware that he is paying for the attention. Not everybody that pays for these types are service are delusional. Its just easier for him to interact. Save your self righteous give a shit about him BS. You don't know me or our friendship. Or anything about his life. So you don't know why he is the way he is. Or do you? Why don't you tell me why he is the way he is? If you can tell me why he is the way he is, his actual history, I will say on this thread that I am a POS friend that enables him to not seek healthy relationships. If you can't, then you mind your business and get off the cross because someone else needs the wood. And not an assumption on why you think he is like this I need you to tell me his actual full history. Since you seem to know it all, this should be an easy task for you.
Havent seen the video yet but I think guys buy onlyfans due to loneliness. Like twitch, when you send money to these woman they’ll sometimes acknowledge that by thanking you or giving you a shoutout and for some dudes that attention alone from a girl or someone in general is enough motivation for them to spend more for that feeling again. I don’t condone this at all but I understand these dudes.
Might be the lack of getting that “thank you” for small gestures too like holding the door for a woman or letting them skip ahead of you in a line even through we aren’t entitled to it.
as someone that thinks small gestures matters. whenever i compliment a dude they just asap see interest in you. lil while ago i complimented some dude once. started following me on social media and everytime i see him i can tell he looks different at me and acts extra nice and its lowkey cringy but i mostly just feel bad for dudes like that cause i can tell its due to loneliness
@@Sharonamy that’s kind of why I don’t pursue when a woman compliments me if I’m wearing a nice shirt or nice shoes because I’m clueless to know where a conversation could go after that. I just give a thanks and leave it at that.
@@Sharonamy Yup I believe you, I and probably many others could admit that they see a bit of themselves in the person you described. I’m not going to say most dudes but a good amount of us don’t really receive compliments or small gestures often so when it does happen some don’t take it well and perceive it as an advance instead of a simple act of kindness.
@@griffiththechad9483 yehh i know that. its why i usually stay sympathetic with such ppl tho sadly some just cant shake it off and just keep trying to go over my boundries even tho i make very clear im not interested. so it just feels bad to distance myself from them because alot of times these are very nice ppl but make it impossible to just stay friends with because alot of female interaction they see as romance instead of just friendship
People nowadays want to get intimate, but have a lot of trust issues and intimacy problems. We already live in black mirror dystopian society. Onlyfans it just like prostitution, but no physical contact. Still, internet can be a very scary place. Have you heard about 'NTH room' case in South Korea? That's the worst could happen.
@@mohamedelkayal8871 Idk how to explain NTH room in short, because that case is a rabbit hole. One thing lead to another, from bad to worse, then to scary, and to deadly. NTH room chat is what happened when people with no morals, no boundaries, and believe they're untouchable, or wouldn't get consequences of their actions, rich, met anonymously in 'safe' place in internet. Birds of a feather flock together. Satan birds. The problem is, men usually don't search help or open to seek justice when they got sexually harassed or attacked. NTH room's victims, who come out to public to be witness if the case almost all are women, but no men come out. Same thing with 'Burning Sun' rapes allegations, men got harassed too, but media focused to give spotlight only to women. Idk man, nowadays people don't even flinch an eye when they heard men got attack in broad daylight. Just like that serial rapist in Leeds. Nature develop male's body physique as protector to their female counter part and young ones. If the protector even get attack, imagine how bad it is to females and kids. That's what scared me most as women. Not to mention modern society now ripping of men's masculinity and women's feminity in daily basis. Nature balance is in chaos. Imagine having Onlyfans, and one or some of NTH room clients (who able to get away from police because money and power) found you, and stalking you. In my pov, men who made acc like Onlyfans, put them self in very vulnerable position that way worse than women. From NTH room case, I think people who prey on men, is different kinda beast. The worst one, imo. Because media don't even talk about it. They just talk who attacked women and kids.
@@aubreysong there is a lot of truth in what you said. I am in no way downplaying sexual harassment or tape against women. But when it happens to men it is heavily downplayed or ignored. Some women crack jokes at men being raped in prison imagine if we flipped the genders. The world is a fucked up place. What you told me adds to that.
@@mohamedelkayal8871 There's saying, "If you want to destroy society, destroy the women. If you want to destroy future, destroy the children. If you want to destroy humanity, destroy the men." That, and there's possibility we are going to face a really big war, and the big reset, in the near future after this pandemic. Makes me nerveous. Do you know 25% income from porn industry and drugs donated to Satanic Churches? I'm not even religious person, but the more I dig from that NTH room case, the more I think I do need God's help.
I absolutely do not stigmatise these people. I am however frustrated ... ... ... ...at these porn creators for what I see as taking advantage (knowingly or not) of this need for connection that the lonely fans are unlikely to get from people who pretend to be close to them, and who they can't ever really develop the relationship further with. It's like they become a substitute for the lonely people's happiness. It's not a dirty business. But it's a cruel and irresponsible one, when it comes the simulation of true connection, with a person that displays the signs (sexual behaviour and personal connection) of an evolving intimate relationship. It's like a trap for lonely people.
I don't stigmatise these people either but I wouldn't put the blame on the content creators as it's just another version of using an escort service which has been around for far longer. If anything, as a society we need to destigmatise vulnerability around feeling lonely and wanting connection. In the western world especially, its so easy to feel lonely when you're seemingly surrounded by so many people. It's harder making friends as you get older, especially when people settle down, move and start families. I also find it's more socially acceptable to bail on plans more these days which makes it harder to put yourself out there. Easier to self reject and turn to a service than putting yourself through it time and time again.
I liked the discussion at about 11:00 regarding intimacy with content creators. I think the same can be said with just about anything that people are missing in their lives. For me, I love a channel called Beleaf in Fatherhood, and it's a Black man, his wife and kids, and he explores the concept of fatherhood and being a husband. I LOVE the channel because it showcases Black love, a Black family, and (aside from the obvious cameras being everywhere) a normal-ish life. I crave that level of intimacy, so I subscribe and watch and thoroughly enjoy his content. I don't think it's any different for OnlyFans, except if the lines get blurred to stalking or thinking she's 'mine.' Thanks Aba & Preach - great content as always!
I know you don't have any ill intentions, but why bring race in the picture? Why not just say "a man". Is black love really different than white, Hispanic, etc. love?
Probably because she is black and can relate even more to that content. I’m a latina and love watching latin content. It’s just more relatable, though I also enjoy other content as well.
Yo, imma blame y'all too on that dog one. Y'all can't be out here piquing our curiosity like that. I mean, I didn't sub to her but still. More seriously now, second dude...that's effective? Well shit. This man finessed the system. Props man. Nobody can say sumn. Third guy, he jumped in hoping for that connection, didn't find it, but now it's a bit of the norm, so he'll pay again. Can't hate it. I'd see him just like people who sub on places like Twitch and Patreon. Not my thing but I can respect it. Fourth guy has his OF sub set up like a Twitch Prime. One person a month gets it! I don't get how you get a connection when you know you're just one of the X amount of subs the creator has, but then again I legit watch pron for the story.
Exactly. When I was dating women I met on Bumble and Tinder, a pet peeve of mine was recycled pics. Recycled pics would make me feel like I’m just another number in the spreadsheet. No surprise that they would treat you like that too. Your time is the most precious thing you own that you pretty much have 100% control of. People will treat you how you allow them to treat you.
Loneliness and the fact you can find a girl that's into whatever you like without any of the struggle or judgment of a relationship. I honestly can't blame some of them
OF is not a healthy alternative. In the same way turning to drugs/alcohol to cope with hardship isn't. OF/drugs/alcohol can be enjoyed recreationally but it must be monitored vigilantly to ensure you are not becoming addicted or using it as a crutch to avoid more serious problems.
@@comancheclub3449 Excellent response. These men are trying to fill a void with something that is not real. They are always chasing a high without ever reaching real fulfillment.
@@hsharma3933 well for some of these people that gratification is never coming or straight up doesn't exist so better to cut the bullshit and get a discount version.
This video, it's approach and analysis, and exploration of the topic, puts front and center what for me (and perhaps/hopefully many others) engages me to both subscribe and support through Patreon: Aba and Preach are ALL about the nuance. Nuance in thought, content, analysis, perspective (and perspective switching) and conversation. True nuance, with all it's risks, and the bravery needed to continue pursuing it, is why I straight respect and support these two. Stay nuanced you two. Respect 🤜
Respect for those guys telling the truth. I also appreciate the open minded and trying to to understand vibe you’re teaching people. I am very much for that, decreasing judgement, increasing understanding of each other. This is how we go forward as a world imo. Love
Yeah. I don’t think you’ll find many women who 1.) would pay for it in the first place or 2.) are interested or 3.) are willing to talk about it. Not impossible, but hard.
"You should do a part 2 about women that pay for OF!" Women after men make this same request to female content creators: "Men have enough spaces, and voices; they don't need another one." I get what you're trying to do - even if that includes seeing Aba and Preach's POV - but, as it stands, can we not have yet ANOTHER thing transformed into, "taking women into consideration?" I mean this as respectfully as possible, but even the "whistle-blower" was only concerned about the effects on _girls._ This is a request better suited for a woman-centric channel.
@@ss-wu1vp a lot of people from the channel support Aba and Preach, and pay for the patreon or whatever, to see advance videos, or whatever else they post. We get the videos or other contents later on.
Let us recite scripture *“If 't be true she’s bustin it wide open f'r ev'ryone on the meshes to seeth she belongeth to the streets. And if thou pay to get a peek thou art DOWN ABYSMALLY”* Lord HNDRXX 1:2-3🙏🏾.
Recognize the underlying theme of porn for men is the absence of failure. The guy can't fail with the woman because the plot requires her to desire him as much as he desires her. What's a standard theme? Nerdy pizza guy delivers pizza to hot single woman and she invites him in to share a slice, and things progress from there. That underlying theme that he will actually be desired in return, without having to jump through burning rings of fire and essentially "make a sale", is a major part of the hook of porn. It's a scenario only guys in the very top of the SMV market get to experience. That underlying theme is a major tenet of the Only Fans hook.
the patreon comparison was great. opened my eyes to why someone would pay for onlyfans. They are supporting that person they enjoy and are fans the same way content creators on youtube are.
It’s why I don’t understand paying for a youtuber’s patreon or content. A better way to support them than giving them $5-10 a month is to make UBI a reality. That way everyone gets money and no one feels compelled to tip. It’s like eliminating the tipped wage so people don’t feel compelled to pay so much in tips to make sure their server doesn’t starve
It’s dishonest, you can say buying a book and buying a porno is the same because you’re “supporting the content” but it serves 2 completely different purposes. Those guys are robbing themselves of real interactions with real women, no matter how much money they spend on OF it will not feel the void in them and make it even harder to approach women in real life.
The conversation with the third guy was a good one. Reminded me of a Unilad video/interview I watched a while back on IG with a pron star. The way it was explained, it made the whole thing way more professional than it looks. Informative.
I mean there's nothing wrong with only fans and that white dude hit it on the head. You literally spend your money where you want. Have fun. Sex shouldn't change the ideology of spending money. And then i hate people misusing the word simp
We should do this with basically everything. If there is something you think is terrible or don’t get, ask people who do! I love this type of video it’s promoting people to be more open minded and we need more of that!
this was an interesting conversation and some good questions because even though I have fed into the narrative of calling these ppl simps for paying for it, this vid made me remember that things are not as simple as face value. Onlyfans blowing up is prob a product of, but not limited to covid and loneliness...
These guys may be lonely but I don’t think they would necessarily avoid it if they had someone. Tons of guys in relationships still turn to porn or liking Instagram baddies. The guy who just wanted to see girls wiggle on TikTok… I don’t think is ready or capable to make a mental connection to a woman with “opinions”. It is just really base desires being satisfied. The reason everyone getting mad is that their fantasies aren’t accessible to them irl. But nothing is owed in this life. Real sex requires taking in another’s person’s comfort/boundaries/desires… paying for Onlyfans is unilateral pleasure.
This was a very good video. I must admit this changed my perception a bit on the matter. I still don't support onlyfans but I recognize that there are more guys(and even women) who pay for that content for reasons that aren't so black and white. I'm of that mindset that's like "why pay when you can find that for free". I'm also of the mindset that if you want a connection with someone, go get it in the real world. To your point, not everyone can do that/wants to do that. And that's okay. Not everyone lives life the way I do and they shouldn't because I'm not perfect. Do what works for you. At the end of the day, if you're happy and not hurting anyone, do what you do(edit: in moderation. To Aba's point, it's not healthy to be obsessed with something to the point other important things take a backseat.)
This video changed my perception too. Its kinda like a guy paying a stripper for a private dance because he likes that personal intimate moment with her. It makes more sense to me now.
The one dude makes a good point. I already subscribe to other content creators, because I want to support their work. If I can listen to an Andrew Huberman podcast, get a great tip about nutrition or how to sleep better, and say, damn, I want to make sure this dude gets rewarded for his efforts... why not prawn? I don't think there's any kind of personal connection and I actually wouldn't want to make one - I'd find that a bit creepy - but as a way of saying thanks, it does make sense, and now I feel a bit dumb for having had a closed mind.
Its just prawn's content doesn't benefit you in any way shape or form. Andrew will actually offer valuable advice. Imagining paying for something you get for free😂. Supporting content that is actually beneficial or helpful is great, like if that was your daughter selling naked pics you'd be livid😂
@Based&Redpilled Overindulgence in anything is bad, so that wouldn’t be surprising. It’s a matter of self-control while also giving back to the people who’s work you appreciate.
Lol onlyfans cant be compared to other types of content creators lmao. Youre not subscribed to an onlyfans to support someone (like how you would support a youtuber on their patreon), youre just horny and miserable and want that personalised message from them where they thank you for your money lolol
@@lilliebobson3146 Good questions, Yes but not proud of it, actually Japan is a weird country like 50% of the population is atheist & other 50% is not that religious still people are very traditional & conservative in nature & yet they have such a big porn & sex industry including love motels, Girls providing gf experience, waifu stuff & other weird shit + there porn is also very weird kind of unhealthy for a viewer 🙄 Btw we all know from where capitalism started Uk or US inshort west, don't get me wrong there are some advantage of capitalism but also have the tendency to buy anything.
@@jana731 My point was Japan is a weird country where half of people are not religious but still they are very traditional & conservative so having a big porn industry is surprising. But ok Japan apart from USA& Japan & some other European countries - no one create Porn content, & it's actually illegal to do
i don't blame de degen shit, everything is degen these days. but it's like playing gta online on ur ps4 instead of ur pc... u have to pay sony to play online why tf are u not playing it on ur perfectly fine pc.
Shout out to always making content on these aspects of our modern family lives that no one wants to have more deep convos on out here in media and the grey areas of the world than not at all. I'd rather have people appease their desires for connections and their little hanky panky in positive manners even through onlyfans despite my own views and opinions on that that not at all because I've seen what it does to people when we deny these parts of ourselves and our human experiences. People crack and fracture and become miserable and we all know where that all leads to. To each his own booboo live and let live i something people forgot about, I'm happy with myy life the less I care about needing to let everyone know my views and opinions Im holding it down over here it's all good when your counting your blessing a little bit each day,and I'm broke and lonely AF but freak it videos like this make smile and the humor that gives us levity in a ever darker world. Peace fam.
The fact that you guys aren't more popular really fucking shocks me I've never heard such open and understanding in so long thank you guys have a blessed one
I dont pay for content, but in a sort of scientific way, ive always wondered what made these people pay for these creators and now I have to thank these men for coming on and speaking. Believe it or not, this helps the social science discourse in the modern age.
You sound like the people that say because you smoke weed once you will become a methhead down the line. Yeah, it happens but its the exception not the rule...
@MannyP then you have a whole country worshiping a ruling family like they are gods, behavior that has be displayed through a lot of human history, some of it very current.
This is one thing i honestly wanted to know about cause i always had that doubt like why, what’s the point, who is onlyfans target audience, maybe that shit is just not for me i don’t get it
On the point of people who have a hard time reading the signals: Imagine being on the Autism Spectrum and being expected to do the approaching and you have to know every little thing about facial expressions (analyzing each of them, combining them and interpreting the meaning for that specific person) and then act on it the right way in a split second... I'm doing my best to work on it for myself, but it's hard sometimes (I live in Denmark, so there's some benefits to the dating market here, but also some big downsides...) I love what you guys do and I highly respect the way you engage with different topics (I've never been disappointed with you even if I had a different opinion!) I hope you will be able to do a tour in Denmark at some point :)
Funny. Cause I'm one of them. I've always been seen as a monotonous fella who's not really expressive to others. Maybe true in some occurrences, but really it's cause of me struggling to decide how to interrect with others in that split second. My previous physician suspected it, but didn't verify since he wasn't specialized.
But my nowadays physician took me for an appointment as a +20 yr old dude... turns out I'm a mix of Aspergers + ADHD... former from traumatic primary school bullying and later from genetics from both sides, tho mostly from mom's.
I’m a girl but I do approach guys sometimes. Generally I’m just upfront about the fact I can’t read people, like I throw it in the convo in a jokey way so that people know that have to spell stuff out to me :’) And I’ve been approached by a few autistic guys at pubs/bars etc. Honestly the ones who are upfront I have the best convos with because you can see the weight off their shoulders once they’ve told me, and I will use more verbal communication rather then subtle stuff. If I’m gonna flit and I know the guy is autistic I make is far more obvious, if I dislike them I again will make it a lot more obvious.
