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I miss your regular videos. These call-ins give me anxiety. 😂 I am dealing with a situationship who also yells at me for asking to visit again. It’s the worse feeling. When you try to move forward they also get angry. I
9:50 is exactly how i feel. when you know ultimately it’s not gonna work and you’re doing no contact for yourself. it just sucks not being able to fix it with someone you invested time in because they pulled the plug
We cannot “fix” or help these damaged individuals. I’m a 52 y/o man who has (for various reasons stemming from my childhood), tried to help/heal every damaged & broken woman I’ve met & fell in love with. It does not work! They are broken! Do not let them break you!
Typically, and this is also statistically true, those left in the dating pool after 30, and ESPECIALLY those who commonly find themselves in LDRs are avoidant attachment types. Self awareness and knowing what you want, setting expectations with yourself first (setting & sticking to a timeline for ambiguous “situationships”) and communicating openly with your partner goes a long way in avoiding these situations. I was in a similar situation to the caller and finally closed that door, now learning and growing to become more secure and seek emotionally and physically available partners. No more LDRs with dismissive avoidants. 🚫
This is a clear situation where she hadn't worked on herself and tried to resolve her inner conflicts and fear of commitment before jumping on the dating apps. And ended up wasting this guy's time for 9 months. This is waaaay too long to "wait" and casually see someone with the expectation of a relationship
Trust but verify as they say, there is a lot on the line in these modern days so if a lady doesn’t have the patience to let the relationship grow organically I’m out, things just seem different to 10-20 years ago it used to be common to hear that a married couple started of as friends or just was dating for a while before committing, now it’s instant gratification, limerence and impossible standards. As a guy with a peaceful life if I detect neuroticism and drama then it’s extremely hard to commit but equally as hard to call it off so you get stuck in limbo.
This was hard to watch for me. I fell in love like I have never done before. It took me 50 years to find her, then she broke it off citing bs red flags. This video hurt because it was obvious she was emotionally unavailable, but I didn't realise it would end due to her fear of commitment. My heart hurts. I would have loved her forever.
Its strange because, i think what this guy is doing is just openly communicating, saying what he wants. The girl on the other hand, she seems to not be good with ppp who openly communicate what they want. I think that some ppl are just bot use to someone who can say what they want, or someone who can point out unhealthy patterns they're seeing, so in response the other person feels attacked. But one thing for sure is, its not "needy" to communicate what you want
I see resemblance to my case. I proposed my girlfriend to move in my apartment, but she stuck in memories for her Grandparents house. It sounds like it sounds. The third week of no contact and I start to be hateful a little. I know it means I cool down. At 39 years old it should have been easier.
