I never noticed how much I was swimming in negative thinking until I paid attention to what I was thinking. My therapist told me to literally do anything else but entertain those thoughts. The first weeks were rough and it was actually scary to realize how much I'd do this. I sometimes relapse but it's manageable now. The best part in going through this however? I don't ruminate anymore. Or if I do, it's consciously and for a brief period then I move on to other activities
My therapist friend once told me, when you hear someone talk negatively, imagine how negative they talk to themselves? It helped me to be much much kinder to myself.
It´s a hard thing for me. Suffered bullying as a child, and now I bully myself, now and then. I learned to control it, but sometimes it´s hard. Specially now that i feel desoriented with my profession and choices in life. I´m starting therapy again. I guess, sometimes you need help. I love your videos, amazing channel.
The last part was perfect. The adrenaline story about how when we think about the negative, we hyper focus on it and create a physiological response from it. I used to be deathly afraid of public speaking and it would cause me to become jittery and I could feel the heat in my face and the blood gushing through me, but I've become more confident because of how much I have to do it, and it's made me feel much more calm, even if put on the spot. I'm not perfect, but I am comfortable with my mistakes now and am overall a better speaker, even with my occasional stutter (the stutter is an impediment, so it always comes out, even in normal conversation). Also, everything from the first part of your video, I felt like I pre-watched it lol. There were a couple points I picked up on that both of my therapists have instilled in me about recognizing and acknowledging negative self talk.
I'm absolutely loving your videos so far. I've been looking for psychology/therapy channels to eat up, and after youtube-searching those keywords, I didn't get very far from 'Psych-to-Go', something I'd consider an inefficient way to spend time since the information in there is either inaccurate, or something I've already learnt before from other sources like the psychology books I've read. I'm so happy your videos showed up in my 'home' feed, as a result of the algorithm suggesting your Wednesday stuff since I've been rewatching the Wednesday Dance Scene.
Thank you for your videos. Your videos touch me to deeply. They bring tears because I can’t describe my feeling in the right way. You’re able to make me and probably a lot others face our feelings. You are truly an inspiration, and you only encourage me, add fuel to the flame, to my dream of becoming a therapist and a counselor. So thank you truly. I can’t describe with words, of how much you’ve helped me out, how much you’ve inspired me, and pushed me, to one day hopeful to help someone out of that dark place that unfortunately a lot of us go to.
Every time i have négative talk, i like to approach them in a very neutral and scientist way. Listen to them, and ask it to go as 120% as negative talk can. And i like it because theses thought can't handdle be taking seriously and brought to the light so they just neutralize and disappear.
Thank you so much for your videos, Georgia. They've really been helping me - and I really needed this one in particular right now. Keep up the amazing work. :)
would I say the things I say to myself, to others? ABSOLUTELY NOT!!!! but to me? Absolutely YES!!! because unlike them, I believe that I deserve those comments cuz I am the actual deserver of those comments, not them. I think that they're great; but I'm not so great. How do I learn to stop BELIEVING that I deserve all the mean things I say? cuz I'm at the point now that I can barely even hear the good things others say cuz I'm just....overwhelmed all the time. It is so scary and tormenting.
When you said, "You choose the one that you like" my brain immediately screamed, "WANDA. WANDA. I WANT TO BE THE SCARLET WITCH" and that made me really happy for some reason? Lol
Awesome content relevant to today! Audio is awesome! The pink light is significantly better, but blue light flickers like crazy. Maybe turn up brightness on blue light and move it further away so dimming by distance instead of by power cycling
Damn i didn't know i was going to open this up to my morning motivations...also I'm always very uplifting to those around me or try to be but I'm not supposed to make mistakes because how can i help others if I am weak or insufficient
I am literally the poster child for this. I don't know if i despise myself but man i see the negative so easily. I feel like i have nothing but i have so much. One of the few things that makes me feel better is helping someone else to feel better but i can't seem to use my own advice. I think this is why i identify with Jinx in Arcane. In my head everything is so bad and i've been abandoned. It would be very tempting to go on the offense against anything i could find. But that wouldn't solve anything. If i give myself a break and focus on anything good about me i can turn it around.
But Georgia, "Fear is the Mind-Killer!" Although I fear you are right, mine is negative thinking. Great perspective and support, thank you. This video will need to be in the replay folder. Can I have Rene pick my superhero? His knowledge of them is far more vast than my own. ps. beautiful scarves!
Negativity and depression.... I'm starting to think that these 2 things go hand in hand in some cases. I was diagnosed with situational depression in my early 20's, but the cause of it has been an ongoing learning process for me. If the way I react to a situation is out of dread, fear, anxiety or anger, then of course it's okay for me to feel that way.... being self conscious or becoming self-judgmental however, at my current age of 29, seems to happen as a response whenever people express their own negative or fear-based feelings and emotions, whether they're directed towards me or not. It's really hard for me sometimes to separate how other people feel from how I personally feel in a situation
it's interesting, I brought this exact problem up with my therapist and asked how I could try to not beat myself up 24/7 and deal with those thoughts in a way that's productive. I really felt that my therapist let me down on this matter because she made me write down some common bad thoughts and then hold the paper in front of my face to show me how I was blinded because of them and I should just put the paper down. But it doesn't work like that, and your explanation of how these thoughts existed to help us survive once makes so much more sense. I think that makes it easier to see why I have them, and be able to say "thanks brain, but I don't need that to live anymore" rather than trying to just not have them 😅
My negative thinking is so bad that I literally can't even imagine myself as anyone else because how could I be a superhero. I really don't want to bring myself down I'm just so unsure of how to stop these thoughts when it's almost an immediate response and there's no time to stop the thought
What about using negative talk on yourself in a more joking manner? Does it still have the same or similar consequences tied to it? Like I very often use the negativity in a way more similar to friendly banter with myself. I feel like this is different and won't have the same effect, but I am curious to know if this is still capable of causing related issues with myself.
Long as you are aware if it’s true to you or not and feels as a positive it a negative. Just be careful even jokes told enough can make us start to believe them as truth.
A therapist once told me If you entertain a negative thought for 7 seconds it causes a chemical reaction. In your professional opinion, Georgia is that accurate?
i get what your saying but there is nothing with wrong some negtives. i feel one needs have both to balance the whole. it is not enought to just be postive or the for sake of being so. not saying being negative all time is good ether. some times you just have to let things flow in order to get to where your going. not saying your wrong in your ways.. i am just adding my own insight here. good video
Do you happen to have a video based on someone who self sabotage and criticizes themselves? Someone I care about is doing this and I really wish I could help them see how much I really do care and love them. They think they aren't worthy of anything nor anyone and it hurts me a lot that they're thinking this way of themselves.
@@GeorgiaDow I could really use some advice for someone who does this type of thing. The person is an ex partner of mine and they broke the relationship off because they are self sabotaging. They've blocked me almost everywhere, except email. The best I was able to do was let them know my feelings haven't changed for them and I see past their flaws. Also that I'll be here for them if they need someone to talk with.
I'd say very,and no I wouldn't say to anyone else but it's not like they deserve,I dont quite know why I'm so hard on mysrlf,but I am a perfectionist so I feel it's not enough
Can i ask you a question my dear. I read a lot about psychology and psychiatry after i went through depression for one year and that made me wanna help people... probably next year i will be studying it. I am a person who went through depression, healed so i have 2 questions 1)will that choice help me mentally? 2) i have chronological insomnia since i was 16 (exams anxiety) and i still take medication for it, can you advise me how to reduce my thoughts when i am in bed. I send any thought away but in the end i am getting tired of it and eventually i am in bed thinking I would very much appreciate it from you❤️
I have a video on sleep and on depression I would look at those two videos and let me know if the work there helps you. Also yes the study of psychology is really useful and helpful. My best in yours studies and health
"We have brains that haven't evolved in 150 thousand years" is not true. Please stop saying this. Our brains haven't had enough selective pressures against certain behaviors and are inadequately calibrated for our modern environments, but that doesn't mean it hasn't evolved at all since 150 thousand years ago and it's really weird that you hold on to this idea. Please please stop saying this! It's not like this an oversimplification to reduce the word count. You can describe the accurate accounting in just as few words.
