I've always been a huge fan of your work and the concepts you promote. When a parent comes in hurting & angry and wanting us (the school) to take every step to ensure their children feel safe at school, it's a tremendous challenge to work with their perspectives about what needs to happen. Mama bears don't want to hear "We're going to help your child build the skills to deal with difficult people." Instead they want to hear, "We're going to expel the evil bully from this campus and community." Of course that can't happen because the "evil bully" is also one of our valued students that we owe the duty of providing an education for. Just like in politics, both sides have their perspectives. I'm not sure why it seems to be so difficult to meet in the middle.
Usually the victim is moved to another class - a child with destroyed self confidence is taken from the class where he/she already knows some kids and is good with, put in a new class - already well established system - it is not easy to fit in, especially when you have low self esteem/confidence. Victim is a victim because he/she is weaker or outnumbered, or just diffeesnt. Bully is a bully because he/she has personality disorder - enyojin hurting other peoble!?! Bully should be transfered on another class, especially if bullies are grouped (separate the gang), and also he/she is the one that needs medical help. Narcis doesn't think it needs the help, but in case it generates other people demage for life, it should be forced. By changing attitude of a victim, he/she wont get 20 kg of muscule mass over the night, not every victim has capacity to be turned into Mike Tyson. Focus should be on the sick person (medical, transfer), and victim should gey terapy to recover.
@@izzykalman4165All Bullies are lazy coward bums who should fired but all managers and HR are scared of the bullies. All you can do is don't react and defend yourself. Over 12 years being bullied nothing but jealousy for being the top worker thinking i win quit. Never been there 38 years. Very poor management.
@@izzykalman4165 I'm from Canada. What is your advice? Same here being bullied, mobbed, gaslighting, harassed at the hospital for over 12 years. I've happened to be the top worker for 38 years and have never been suspended. These bullies are jealous and miserable people. Union, manager, HR and the police are all totally useless. Bullies are lazy bums and stupid managers are scared of the bullies. They say about me I'm crazy, I drink, I'm a stalker all bs defamation of character. The biggest mistake since they removed disciplinary measures. They should arrest the bullies and fire the manager. Action speaks louder than nasty words. It destroyed my reputation. I will never quit to make these lazy bums ever win. If I decide to transfer to another hospital and may start gaslighting, smearing and bullying me once again, I don't know all the new managers etc. like in every department like now. So best to not change hospitals. I will never let bullies try to control me from quitting. Just don't react and not try to defend yourself which will only go back and forth making me look even more guilty. Action always speaks louder than words. Just best ignore them and find another easier target. Never let these low life lazy coward bums ever win.
it’s obvious that victims are the key to end bullying the more a bully bullies people the more people that hate the bully then when all the victims stand up the bully will be doomed.
01:58 "The worst acts of violence are committed by people who feel like victims." Very interesting that you didn't say " . . . by people who are victims."
I suggest you read The "School Did Nothing to Stop the Bullying" Lie: www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/resilience-bullying/201608/the-school-did-nothing-stop-the-bullying-lie
