Why Women Date Losers 

I love how Todd has to emphasize at the end to not go and become losers just to get better with women. That's the type of content us autists need 🤣

These videos are exactly what everyone needs, 1, short and no 40 min waffle like owen does, 2, Gets exactly to the point quickly, 3, Breaks down female psychology, 4, Talks pros and cons of the new effective tactics 5, Todd sees exactly what most intermediate to advance men are struggling with and brings solutions.

Great video. Some things I’d add from my experience: Losers also “don’t count.” Women view it as a little harmless fun, maybe she wants the thrill of trying to “fix” the bad boy. But dating a loser might feel like a nice break from life’s responsibilities in that losers often have this youthful, carefree aspect to their reckless actions that are often taken with no second thought of their consequences that women find exciting, especially when contrasted with the responsibilities of everyday adult life. Also, you nailed it with “she might be a loser, too.” Water seeks its own level. She didn’t have to do anything to be born hot, but could be a loser on the inside for countless different reasons.

'Whatever，fuck you back' 🤣the essential key of the game

So basically find more than one girl so that you never ever become needy reactive and argumentative...

Women not looking to settle down look for the bad boy/loser types, they’re looking for a thrill, they only want the steady “boring” guy when they’re looking to settle down. MOST modern women in their 20s are looking for a thrill with some drama, they want the guy every girl wants and like feeling like they can get cheated on or lose you…

NOT the camera flicks again, Todd… you did so good for one video! What a shame

Really helpful and insightful video dude. I've got mad many many times when a chick chose a "loser" over me and it took a long time to realise, fair enough, maybe they have something I don't. Attitude check

One of the hottest girls I know married this broke skateboarder from Paris. she’s a rich lawyer. She married him for every reason in this video. Well done.

Been a loser as long as I can think back. But not in the good way, 'cause I experienced several traumas in my childhood which destroyed my self-esteem. I've been building it up again over the past few years. Once I was extremely shy. Wouldn't ask where a certain location is if I didn't know, wouldn't hold eye-contact, ... One day I decided to greet random strangers while taking a walk. That was my first step. Turned out okay. Kept improving over time. Now I can literally talk to like anybody. I even start conversations at parties. But the experience I have with women is still low. Never even had a kiss. Got some rejections from women. Last year I cared, this year I don't anymore. Started working out again. Playing in a band with a really good friend and want to make a living from it. Have that dream for some years now. My dad thinks it's a bad idea. I'm ignoring his opinion. It's my life, leave me alone. I don't know if it will work out, but that's what I want. And I want to try. Even if I fail I can say that I tried. Nonetheless I still have some bad habits that I need to work on. It will take more time, but I believe that I can get rid of them. Usually not commenting on videos. But this time I wanted to share my story. Maybe because I'm in a really good mood. :)

Excellent analysis. RU-vid put you at the top of my feed and this is my very first encounter with seeing your content. Subscribed.

Great video. Great advice. I've dated both extremely successful winners and a few major losers in my younger years. And it's true what you said about losers usually being great in bed and they are usually very bold which shows confidence. Another great quality is the attention they give you. But it's only because they have nothing else going on in their life so they have alot more time on their hands. You become their whole world. The downside of that is how clingy/needy they can be and insecure. Winners aren't needy and clingy HOWEVER they tend to be very controlling because they are used to getting what they want. If you meet a very attractive and independent female, being too controlling will only scare her away. And yes, it's sad but true but if she's very attractive she has alot of options so she wants a "challenge". Don't act too eager. Don't over text. Don't overuse emojis. Don't send selfies unless she asks for them. #dontbethegirl😉

From what I'm getting out of this is to not be perfect, because reality is no one is. It's ok for having some flaws and bad habits, embrace it and be confident about your own skin

I had a roommate of the "irreverent loser" type. He wasn't even that popular per se, but he quickly developed a spiral of sorts, after he stopped attending college, bridge burning with both his bio and adoptive families, and throughout every phase of this, he was able to date women while my "covid lucky streak" had all dried up by 2022. I ended up getting rid of him because his spiral got really bad and he developed alcoholism and sold a bunch of his stuff, and, a couple of weeks ago I actually found him in public, seemingly tweakin'. His girlfriend wasn't with him, and the fact that he was on the train again makes me think he might've lost his vehicle too. So in the end, he lost in the long-game because of his poor choices. MOTS? You see the short-term stuff on the surface, but where it ends is a different story entirely.

Water seeks it's own level.

Moral of the story is, losers are winners 🎉

Jesus, Todd. Your perspectives are $OO f@cking briiiliant. This is, hands-down, THE best take on this subject out of dozens I have seen. No matter how many times I see a topic covered, no one even CLOSELY matches your level of detail, logic, scientific analysis, or psychological depth. I always know I'm in for a treat & an education, as your teaching style is precisely the way I inquire into subjects & understand them. Not sure why I've never spoken up before, as I've been following your work for several years. But thank you for staying around & continuing to enlighten us, brother.

You are still one of the best coaches on this topic, if not the best. Authentic, to the point, insightful. Appreciate it man!

GREAT BLOG! WISH THIS WAS MADE WHEN I WAS IN HIGH SCHOOL!

Was that Julien Blanc in the thumbnail ???? LOL

my problem is I am always looking for a job and being financially unstable; so don't feel enough

If you are attractive, you can afford to be indifferent and non-needy towards women. If you have what other people want, you don't have to seek their approval. The causation works the exact opposite way of what self-improvement gurus want you to believe. If you are not good-looking, you are better off actually pursuing socioeconomic status and becoming a provider, rather than trying to fake gimmicks to pretend you do. If you fake the traits of attractive people, people will simply put you in your place and get enjoyment out of it, because the behavior is the EFFECT of being desirable, not the CAUSE.

Even though i became most successful guy, i will consider myself as looser, You don't need anybody's approval is always a great thing.

The last idea presented was my first. When I was I high school, the saying was that you can tell, a lot about a woman by the man she dates.

There's a guy in my building with face tattoos, always looks angry, has an ankle monitor and lives with his mom. I see him with different chicks all the time.

DUDE! Stop the fcken camera flashes!! That made it so annoying to watch

Excellent vid mate

I have watched a number of attractive, sweet, intelligent women go through the relationship grinder (spoiler alert, I'm related to them) and this is something I've noticed. When they were dating the high achieving, hunky, athletic, and or rich (silver spoon kids), they were not happy. The relationships were just too high maintenance and they didn't have enough energy left for their other pursuits. They now all have long term relationships that make them happy. While many onlookers would say "Wow, she sure settled." They are with men who love and respect them and are not constantly having to competing with or compete for.

These kind of people are very rare i thing the succesful guys are the ones getting laid like crazy especially those who are very social and also rich,so social + rich = getting laid.

This man is genius, there are many other date coaches and the most famous one in my country Iran is Milad Aalami, but they are incomparable 😂

Some of my experiences: 1. Guy she is with isn't a loser, you are just a hater and jealous. Many guys call some guy dating a hottie he likes a loser, and when you look at the facts, um, he is on her level or maybe even better looking than her, objectively. She is a seven and guess what, he is kind of a seven. You have her on a pedestal and think she is a 10. But she really isn't. 2. He might not be super hot, but has a lot going on. Rich and successful makes up for a lot. 3. He is in the same social circle as her, which is a big deal when younger. He is pre-selected and her GF's like him and they all go out together, etc.. 4. He was "first". High school BF or college and she fell for him young. 5. He let himself go. They were on the same level when she fell for him, but he gained weight, lost job, got addicted to bad things but she has not dumped him yet. If she is invested, especially with kids, she usually needs a year or two to dump him and is still hoping he changes back or gets his act together. 6. When younger-she is rebelling and is trying to piss off mom and dad or is trying on a "lifestyle" and he is kind of part of the package of that. She wants to be in the frat life, sport life, goth life, tattoo biker thing, etc..

Jeremy Meeks said never get up. you can be a loser and still get girls.

Maybe I have a chance after all

"How to handle disrespect guised as humour without coming off as butthurt" This is a problem I have been dealing quite a lot recently. I am an Indian and often in sets girls will make a dig at Indian accent. I would point out it's not funny. This makes the tone serious and the girls try to frame it as me not being able to take a joke. At that point I feel like walking away is the only correct option. What is the correct way to handle such situations where I don't come off as butthurt and the set can be brought back to fun

Like attracts like, the girl is a mid-six, and dresses like a feminist, him, we need say no more, but to look upon his countenance, and feel the underlying energetic signature within. Todd placing himself above them both as the High Judge only adds to the ambiance, and positions him as the High Authority in this realm of mating, and the battle between the sexes, and those who call the tune to said battle. I wonder when things will change, but it is wandering, not wondering, that will accomplish That Great Work.... And it shall be accomplished, through life, and death, and the constant re-birth and balance between those two mysteries. Cheers ☝️❤️‍🔥🙏

physical attractiveness

Which one of your programs would you recommend for a beginner Todd? Would only learn from you, as you said it yourself: your old, pasty, slightly chubby & still pull all the women in the world 😂🔥🔥🔥

They enjoy a good fixer-upper... 😮😅

It's mainly young women who go for losers, and it's a meme/stereotype that they themselves admit about finding a loser to "ruin their life" or give me a lot of complications and exasperation, but they crave this (particularly in their chaotic young years).

Educational system associated Submittion and adhering rules with success ..

It's my time to shine 😂🤓

Great video Todd

Great video. ❤

This guy is good….I went from being a 19 virgin(by choice), to sleeping with slightly over 500 women by 48 years old….I hear all these dating coaches saying,women practice hypergamy,no they don’t…If they are looking to get established or they get pregnant by a loser,and need support,yes(but even this is long term/temporary)….Ive watched how bold and carefree the bums in front of the liquor store were,with flirting with the most sophisticated looking women, and I’ve talked to thousands of women to tap into their subconscious mind… When a woman partners with a quality guy,if feels like a chore for her to level up…When she entertains a loser, it gives her instant gratification…However, she doesn’t think about the cumulative effects of entertaining him(STD,pregnancy,ruin my credit,whip my ass)…Big picture ,a woman doesn’t think,she “Feels”…Every woman is less classy than we think they are…The best way to understand women, is to base it off of how you perceive things, and think the opposite…Don’t get them pregnant,don’t married them, and don’t make them”Feel” like their being judged…

Very insightful video

As a loser, can confirm this is 100% accurate. 👍

When i was just out of jail, sleeping outside on a bench is when i was dating the most women. However when i jad my shit together i did still attract women however now many of them were intimidated and told me so...

Super video dude

Good analysis

Most of the great Soccer Coaches are those who have never been great players. On a lighter note Is it the same with Dating Coaches ? Those didn't get many dates become Dating Coaches. Just a thought.😢😢😮😮

Its about 80% looks and 20% personality, and even the guy getting them with personality has to be at least somewhat inshape, and at the very least not over weight. And these days more than ever money matters too

Hey man, I like your videos! :)

Hey Todd is it normal for most of my sets to not stay in the conversation & exit it by saying things like "am in hurry", "I gotta go" etc.? If not then what is my problem & how do I solve it? Also consider that I only do daygame that too only in metro stations because of my strict schedule.

please make a video on social proof, preselection, and pivots

Any recommendations on approaching Women at the Gym who give off shy/reserved vibes? I have two I am interested at my Gym and they both give off that vibe. I have interacted with both briefly and even complimented one of them on their attire and I do catch some side eye and glances from time to time from them both but due to the awkwardness of approaching at the Gym and the social “taboo” of it, I find it difficult to go up and be so straight forward with my intentions especially in somewhere I frequently go. Plus one of these Girls I know had a Boyfriend and doesn’t any longer as she hasn’t been coming with him for a while and she seems to have changed her look up to be more Gym appropriate (she used to just wear T-Shirts and shorts).

Instead of women date losers would it be correct to say losers date losers?

It's mental thing. What defines loser in first place. You could have depression and you don't give af

He has nothing to lose and too stupid to calculate risks.

Thank you 🙏🙂

Littlery me I have Kawaski he has just regular normie bike

I mean, if you're sleeping with women, you're a winner. I get the point Todd is making though, but I think Todd is putting his shoes on some men who are introverted and have high egos to think they're better than these men. Kill your ego, stop making excuses you don't want to socialize because you're a holier than thou introvert. We're not even asking you to go out every night, but just get your ass moving instead of watching theory some hours in a day. Hope this message stung some of you, I'm speaking as someone who is a lesser egoistic introvert right now. I'm still trying to learn but man I have lost a lot of time and opportunity thinking I'm better than everybody.

Why not just getting married?🤔

Come one man. Why do you call me out like that?

1. Because the criteria of what women find valuable in men does not always match what men think women SHOULD find valuable in men. 2. Women want ADVANTAGE. Women do not 'pay in advance', if you think women are doing something to their disadvantage that's from your pov (which may be right) but from a women's perception she thinks it to her Advantage. 3. We live in a world where women dictate the terms of access to sex and relationship. And when she doesn't get what she wants she labels the guy as a "loser". And everyman has an innate female protector dynamic, meaning men will side with a women on average /in general and such messages get passed on. 4. What's good for the genetical success is not necessarily good for the organism (women/man). a woman having 3 kids from 3 different baby daddies is a colossal genetical Win, and that disposition is going to be past in to her children. Meanwhile the women herself is probably having a less than epic life. 5. From the man's pov, men can believe they are "entitled" to a certain level of female interest, because 'he's believes he's done the right things' e.g. studying hard , being generous kind,, nice, looking after his looks, working on his charisma, making money etc. And he build this covert contract which he does not tell womenkind about, but is something like "I do all these good things, and in return I expect a certain level of female sexual attention". and of course when women do not fulfil this covert contract, that they know nothing about the man gets resentful and angry at the women for giving the sexual attention he believes he is owed to other guys who are 'less than him losers'.

i don't like that most of us get label is a loser because that's very rule judgemental disrespectful bully i don't like it when people are judgemental i think nobody is a loser i just think it's all about opinion preference that's not a fact i think also calling someone a losers is also being judgemental too i just don't like the comparsion and competition at all to label us winners or loser because i think we all should be love treat it equally get along i just want peace i don't like toxic negative drama in my honest unpopular opinion

There just aren't as many quality losers these days.

Fantastic

I don't get how the fact that a looser isn't approved by his parents or authorities is exciting for women, since it shows poor social proof

Sounds like you were rejected a lot, these are in fact the winners! So much anger and judgement because of jealousy. It depends what makes you happy in life, so you shouldn’t judge.

Hi when i approch girl the always say i have to go i don't know why

wtf is the terrible camera clicks

Does that mean that me caring to dress up and look good is actually working against me?

Please stop the camera flash transitions. It gives me a headache.

some of the losers are here because we don't know how to flirt

I’m an attractive loser loser and still can’t get women to six it

2:14 N°1

Stay in the middle.

An attractive woman who is single at 30 is a red flag. Men aren't so quick to toss a good-looking woman to the side; her personality and/or character is liking why she can't keep a man. This was common knowledge decades ago and such single women would be shamed, not by men but by her female peers who were not single.

If you watching this video you've been actually the loser without even knowing it.

Todd you go to far with the needy thing. You yourself are very needy with women it’s obvious. Being needy is the one thing that gets women. Everybody try’s the cool shit and women realize it so it’s played out.

Game is like a cheat code if you know how to play the game. Because so many guys play the same money and status game. Combined with the fact that most human beings are easily manipulated by stimuli and emotions You can get laid pretty regularly if you handle all those areas in 70% format