I have witnessed first hand that they lie when they say they were blindsided. My ex husband noticed my mental check-out when he visited me at my mum’s (I was over there for week for a family matter). Later I came back home to get some clothes; he was at work but he made sure to leave apparent all the things related to what I’ve been “nagging” him with for 7 years: the apartment was squicky clean, food on the stove, printed apartment listings, an open dictionary of my mother tongue and other little details 😂. It made me more mad than anything cause it showed this man knew what I wanted all that time and was just acting dumb.
They don't care. They only "will change" when she's done. I saw it my my marriage. The moment I said "do what you want and don't involve me, I don't care anymore". He didn't believe it at first.
The man who talked about mental exhaustion is exactly right! As women we're constantly planning, scheduling, thinking, wondering, multi-tasking, worrying, and taking care of everything and everyone. Especially if we have kids and/or are taking care of aging parents. It's exhausting. The last clip seemed like he was trying to pull a "gotcha" on her. "Most divorces are initiated by women". Honestly, I dont know if that's true or not. But it seems that the solution for *certain* men is to make divorce more difficult rather than work on themselves and become better partners.
I did check out months before I broke things off. I attempted to go to counseling, work on the relationship & wanted to spend quality time, but he ignored me. I'm going through the divorce now. The best decision I ever made.
This is so true!!! I've been there twice. My first relationship that happened with, I kept telling him what was lacking we didn't go out, he was neglectful and everything. When I stopped calling as much, stopped coming over and hanging out with my friends and left him in peace, he started stalking me!! He kept showing up to the places i frequented. It was embarrassing and annoying!! He had all the time to be with me but wasn't interested until I became disinterested. That is backwards and stupid!!
