My ex caused me to fall snd fratucre my hip. He mever wanted to help me pay for the medical expenses and when i was dealing with depression and mental health issues, he decided to leave me for better
that woman in the car who got proposed to, i feel so bad for her, she was so correct the whole time, i wanna tell her she is so right and im proud of her for rejecting him on the spot, now leave his ass
On 11 min she talks a iut how dudes come out to women. In my experience if u don't meet up quickly or not doing hook ups they retort to calling us fat and ugly and
My ex husband stood up at my college graduation to open his mouth and say "without him I wouldn't be here". He didn't read no books, do no paper, pay for zero classes or books, I would still have to come home from working 10 hours per day to cook dinner for our children. Our children that he was left "babysitting". Getting a divorce was one of the best things I've ever done for myself. ❤
All great advice except the dude at 15:00. What I wouldn’t give for a man I’ve rejected to actually leave me alone 😂 he’s clearly doing it for power tripping reasons and not bc he was going after someone who straight up did not want him. No internal reflection about what that says about him whatsoever
Acquaintance and low maintenance friendships are NOT the same thing at all. A lot of the women conflate the two. Low maintenance friends speak more frequently than 1 - 2 times a year. We can listen and participate if circumstances allow. Understanding and communication is important in these dynamics. The lady in minute 36 gets it and these friendships work for some. At the end of the day, do what works for you.
This video made me incredibly sad because I've been through this with two former friends. I found out too late that they didn't like me or want the best for me. It was so heartbreaking because I truly viewed them as sisters. I've never really gotten over it. Yes, time has passed by, and I harbor no ill will. But it's caused me to have severe trust issues. I don't think I can ever get my "innocence" back and view friendship the same. If anything, I'm weary of new friendships. It sucks because I definitely want to meet new people, but what I went through holds me back.
Every single time my high school best friend had good or bad news I was there for her. I would cheer her on or be her shoulder to cry on, but never would she ever reciprocate the same to me. Especially when my parents were in the middle of their divorce, I was depressed as hell my senior year of high school and she never acknowledged my feelings. We would eat lunch with her other friends and she would just talk and eat with them as if nothing was wrong with me. Like I understand this is new territory for you too but at least acknowledging that I’m going through something would have been nice. I cut her off after high school and she had the audacity to come back after a few months of not talking to her and asking why I broke our friendship. Like girl you ignored me the last few months when I needed a true friend. Im also not saying I am the prettiest girl but there was also a time when a cute guy on a motorcycle 🏍️ sort of hit on me and she got so jealous. We were both freshman at the time and she kept telling me that if we missed the bus he could just give me a ride home, but she said it in an accusatory tone. I was looking at her as if that wasn’t a bad idea trying to make a light joke with her but she just gave me a disgusted look back . I dont know much about her but I’m just glad I’m not her friend anymore.
25:03: Literally ended a friendship a few weeks ago because this bitch told me I wasn’t a good friend because I told her I don’t wanna hear about shit when it comes to a certain dude she messes with because he don’t give a fuck about her. Then I told her the “friends” that’s feeding your delusions ARE NOT YOUR FRIEND. They’re literally basking in your stupidity 💯 long story short she got drunk and started calling me narcissists and delusional. She’s been blocked ever since and it’s crazy because I actually feel so free after ending that friendship. I went through a not drinking phase and this same “friend” tried to tell me ever since I stopped drinking I’m negative 🤦🏽♀️ she even tried to volunteer to “date my ex” to get revenge on him for me. I shoulda knew right there she was a slimy hoe 💯 oh I also tried to get on her about sleeping with EVERYBODY that shows her attention and how HIV is running rampant and her exact response was “I’m 47, I don’t care if I get it at this point” 😳 Again, I’m sooooooo happy I’m done with that “friend”. She was aggrevating af
I sorta realized that most of these people who experienced frenemies are good looking, or just had a better life than the leech that pretends to be their friends. I kid you not...people dont like when you do better than them. When you have a good career - they dont wanna believe or hear about it. But when You're having a hard time they are all "🥺🥺" for you. Then there are those who only come to be your friend just because they want something from you and discard you the minute you give them that. The truth is, there are too many unhappy, unfulfilled people in this world. When something feels off- trust your gut and move away.
I'm 34 and definitely have been through it with females. I don't do friends from either genders! I'm kind and love meeting ppl but friends? NOPE. Ppl switch up quick! Especially now that I'm a mom! Ppl will hate on your children and I'm not even playing that game.
Had a friend to invite me into her friend group only to find out she would talk ish about the other girls, then go back and tell them I was talking about them. It didn't take long to figure it out. We were all over 30 when this happened.
I went no contact with my close friend of 16 years because she she was behaving way too narcissistic towards me. I felt devalued, disrespected and not worth to have even normal conversations with aside of maybe 6 very short replies during the whole day and she was just all smiles acting like nothings wrong while normalizing this even though she knew I didn't like being neglected like this. It felt like she only shows up to check if she can get some supply from me and then goes silent again while spending time on fiction and replying to even strangers. She unusually would also brag on social media how ppl are lining up for her and it all just felt like shes doing this on purpose to get a reaction out of me so I told her I'm gonna need a time out to sort things out from my side.... This woman got offended by this and started to smear, mock me for struggling in life and tell very unnecessary personal information to other ppl. After digesting this for a month I silently removed her from all my accounts and blocked all ways for her to to talk to me ever again. Turns out that her boyfriend was more than happy in encouraging her to hate me and view me as some kind of jealous needy loser... I chose to spend my time and energy on more productive things
The lady talking about friends not complimenting you doesn’t necessarily mean they’re frenemies. If you’re dressed to the nines every day, it’s not as noticeable as a change here and there. She sounds like she dresses up for the compliments.
Yeah and the reaction to compliments matters a lot too. If she’s not responding with equal enthusiasm back, I can see how this would create a weird mean girls-esque power imbalance in the friendship dynamic
I have a general rule for "friendships" present days than I did years previous: if we arent 1)Feeding 2)F*cking 3)Financing WE are mere associates with commonalities (place,space,or event at hand). I journal, hike and vent to Christ👂🙌
Feeding? Like eating food together or? Idk kinda sounds more like if you only want friends that are benefiting you directly through finances, that’s more like a business associate. And if you’re doing the second f with them that certainly isn’t a friend 😂
I had one in high school and I did not know that until I matured and realized it. She jeopardize my relationship and convinced me that my man wanted her and settled for me. I was young and believed her and didn't realize until a few years ago (I graduated high school in 2012) that she was just hating.
I blocked a narcissistic ex friend when I got tired of the gaslighting and little jabs. When I cut her off she got vindictive and messaged another one of my friends and talked trash about me. Told her that even her husband never liked me. Her husband was always nice to me, I think she was trying to instigate. No patience for drama
I am happy that you recognized the friend that wanted you to have more kids to be miserable. Many people do not. When I was younger, all the miserable people was pushing marriage and kids on me. None of them had a good relationship with their children or successful marriages. I remember when I used to work at one of my old jobs, the older female employees would always encourage me to do overtime. They would say "oh you are young, you should do OT, I did when I was your age". In my mind, I was like "and look at you now". They all had some kind of health issues and stuff. I did not need the money. So why would I volunteer to give up my time and energy just to add stress to my life for some extra pay that adds up to peanuts? Moral of the story, you can't take advice from everyone and not everyone likes you. Be smart and use discernment when dealing with people.
if say that I am jealous of something then it is something small like you just gotten a new game, that I haven't yet. other then that ,I want my friends to be their best self and have the best that life can offer 😊 If I ask you where you got something, it's because I thinki it's awesome and 99 % of the time 1% of the it's because I really would want something a similar 😊 I really don't understand the whole jealous of your friends
What about friends who tear women's looks down or friends who ask for money, gas, food. Pop up all the time, want me to be around when she have dates, then get mad because I have sense of humor. I tell her stop inviting me for her to want me to sit quiet in the corner, while she talk crap to him or try to humiliate me and act hard in front of man. I have friend I always uplift and empower but she never pay me compliment but make fun of me and others about what we may already feel self conscious about. One found out have crush on someone, so she try to say hi to him and hug him and never did until she found out. She was with her dude and did this in front of him and he like what was that, she say or that my friend crush so saying hi, and he like does she know you doing that? So now guy thinks she likes him cause she started doing that and he not even her type but I guess she just proove she could get him if want. This is why I operate on my own fine. Cause wierdo stuff like this. So now cause she knows I feel wierd now around him, with her around cause she watching our interaction when I don't need her help, or company, when we was having organic connection previously, where we was cute and shy. There is another that I have a connection with a guy but he likes to make all the ladies smile. My other friend think she only one but for years me and him been close, but I choose to keep our relationship sacred and private, while she bash and make fun of him about things I know are not true, and I uplift him, but he flirt with her to make sure we have good day or she will start with something or someone, so she be in better mood when we give her attention. I don't know there is soo much I can say, like I will talk about something I liked or was apart of back in the day, or maybe a gift I have also, but 1st friend she will say that cannot be possible because only she has that gift or she was only one to experience. Two things can be right at the same time and we can have things in common without discrediting someone else experience cause want to be only one... Like if someone compliment us both me and second girl, you don't have to tear me down to up self. We both can be beautiful in our own way... Or you can take complement without pointing others flaws because want to feel better on everything.
I just had to cut off someone that I thought was a friend. She was acting like she was there for me in regards to my lawsuit against this powerful company that she works for that was my previous employer. Once she realized things were going to work in my favor before they pulled off something legal again, she starting acting weird/shady. Now that I appealed my case, she recently tried reaching out and I had to let her know
No one should cut off a whole circle just because of that one single person. It makes sense in romantic relationships, but I'm not giving up my social life for that one frenemie
@Listening4n0w Not everyone can cut them off. Sometimes those ppl are family. To stop going to family functions just because of an issue with one family member does not work for everyone. So distancing could mean, you don't engage with that person but you still attend events that they too may have been invited to.
