There are two type of friends for a girl. The " you are a nice friend " type and the " he just a friend" type . You would prefer to be in the second category .
I’m not so sure, I know what it means but I don’t think I’d like to be that “friend” that sleeps with a girl behind her boyfriends back. It’s just wrong and is an invitation for trouble that isn’t worth it at all.
I remember one guy at work a long time ago telling me that he would buy this girl he knew flowers and chocolates and that she ended up with some Chad type who had a motorcycle. He didn't understand what went wrong. He thought he was doing everything that was expected of him. Thinking back now, the stuff that was put into our heads by our parents, teachers, media and society at large doesn't amount to much.
My assumption is the first guy was average looking and/or the classic "too nice". and the 2nd guy was the classic "bad boy" or at least has the bad boy vibes. Some women go for bad boys and in this case it definitely seems the case.
@@asdf-fl1ibhate to say it but a lot of women now a days are for a lack of a better term "wiggers* and they start idolizing bad behavior. Truth is you never want to be a woman's first decent man because she won't be able to handle things being nice because all she knows is unhealthy relationships.
The difference between a friend and boyfriend is just that. Sexual/physical attraction. The friendzone is one of the worst feelings to have. Mission failed. Move on.
I definitely agree with you that looks are a huge factor that's overlooked. Also a big one for me - pussy-footing around and not being direct & assertive put me in the friend zone. Similar to the conversation in the intro lol. the friend zone is an extremely toxic place to be and I recommend everyone avoid it at all costs.
@ascended266 if she is actually your friend she will try to hook you up with or help you get girls, if shes toxic she will only use you for utilities.
To save yourself time and stress, ya just gotta go all or nothing I feel. Like somebody else mentioned here, pussy footing around waiting to get out of the friend zone or being wishy washy talking to women without clearly asserting whether you have intentions to go further or not… it just wastes everybody’s time. Even though I’m glad to have had friendships with a few girls who had friendzoned me, in retrospect if I could go back in time I would just not bother and pursue other girls with intent (and also better my looks faster lol).
I had luck and never experienced a friendzone because everytime I got rejected in a warm approach through social circle or in school etc I suffer right after the rejection from oneitis and it made me over time extreme resentful. One guy from the dark capsule sphere said " the more you are friends with girls the more the other girls from these linked social circles see you as worthless crap because you have zero genetic qualities to show and you are content with this useless consolation prize. And for those who think they can befriend a girl and trying to get social brownie points to increase a chance that her friend will be interested in you - it will not happen in 99% of the cases especially with the reasons I mentioned above.
Well put. I have always perceived couple of positive things about being friends with women one is that it gives you immediate social proof anywhere you go. When you walk into a place with women around you, it is way better than going there with your guy friends ( looks try hard, creeps..etc) and enhance the ability for strangers to accept you and clear the “creep” thoughts right away and it’s always a bonus to make other guys visibly jealous and wanted attention from women, but It’s not just with dating just generally since women are universal currency either in business settings or anything else. The other reason also just as valid, which is that conversing with women enhances you social skills drastically since women aee more socially adept than most men since they more socially validated constantly since their teens. One thing I always recommend guys, if you’re unable to use them to benefit you (as friends with benefits, social proof and showing them off, being invited to more social gatherings of all kind, and socializing with their circles) immediately end that relationship. You have to constantly try to get something out of them in return, never make a move unless clear IOIs otherwise stick with the other benefits.
@@duckbacon3117 Yes, this is very true. You're in a niche market where a small percentage of women will really like it but most will prefer blonde or dark hair.
@@ascended266Sometimes or more than half the time soild Normie woman will friend zone there looks match guy when they are both 5 out of 10s even if he's 5 foot 11
First impressions are super important. If you start your interaction with a woman in a strong man to woman frame, where it’s clear that you are communicating with her as a potential sexual partner, then she can’t friendzone you. The only option is for her to get attracted or to reject you. The reality is, women can get attracted to a guy within 5 minutes if he adopts a man to woman frame. Getting “friendzoned” is the guys fault 99% of the time. You didn’t make your intentions clear right from the start. How can you expect the woman to view you in a sexual way when you didn’t make it at least a little obvious that those were your intentions?
@@SuhrvivorTrue, the only way things can go from friend to lover is if you up your looks substantially. It's only about "frame" in that you can ruin long term prospects not short term ones if you meet the looks threshold.
@@1810jeff That's why I resented her and the relationship died. She slipped up about it one day and I had ambivalence from that moment on. I felt she'd been conquered by other men, she never recovered her image no matter how she tried.
I used to have a female “friend” who, despite my bad treatment over her, she didn't deny me s3x and was always stalking on my post and even knew very well my schedule and my taste in music ect. she was 13 years older than me, though. Sometimes it's difficult to know what women find really attractive. maybe most women will end up with a guy who we might never ever think of in a million years. I see a lot of very aesthetically unpleasing men with babes. I look like her same hair color, same positive eyes tilts, dame square jawline. maybe she used to see me as the son she never had?
This was an awesome video! Yeah, This is just an example of #3. Say like the guy is kind of a TradCon, or would at least like to find a "real" LTR. The girl friend-zones the guy and 6-9 months later it is really apparent to everyone that the girl is a Hot Mess. Anyways, effed up people prefer to have effed up relationships.
yep one of my first unfullfiled love in highschool was classical i think im in love with you with a response ohh ur my best friend, ure like a brother to me. My short height and baby face wouldnt help either. I kinda lack in height beign 5,7 and also and my face bone structure doesnt give me that sharp face.
On a side note, I would NOT recommend having "female friends" unless they are girlfriends of you male friends. It just seems inevitable that one will gain feelings for each other to some extent.
BRO THANK YOU SO MUCH! for doing my topic I remember requesting this on one of your videos a couple months ago and you said you would get to it, appreciate you a lot for following through🎉 The reason I asked for this topic is because I have one of the greatest and funniest friendzoned stories, if you’re willing to do subscriber submitted story times I think that would be amazing. Anyways keep up the great work!
Oh boy, don't do that. If you are friend of a girl who is in a relationship she will never ever date you after breakup, you will be like a brother for her, never like a potential boyfriend. You are going to hurt yourself.
I meant it more generally in that sometimes there will be a girl where you both have mutual physical attraction but their personality is very dull and there isn't much compatibility. Think of girls who just like shopping and partying and don't have anything meaningful to say.
lol Sub 5 like me are begging to even have one female friend and guys be complaining they have to much female friends smh.as of the knowing to much about ppl yes i live in a small town once everyone gets out of if high school there going to gotham city faster than staying in that hell hole villiage.but yeah ppl think small villiages are nice places.its only nice if you came out popular in there in high school.trust me you will see the social caste here.that the ppl high up like to keep it that way.and everyone is highley introverted.
