Why Women Leave Good Men ? 

“A man's loyalty is tested when he has everything. A woman's loyalty is tested when her man has nothing.”

I had a conversation with this lady once. She said she once had a nice man, he was polite, he brought them a nice house to live in together in a quiet street and he was always respectful to her and he had his 'sh1t together'. I then asked 'why you not with him anymore?' she replies 'because he was boring'. So there you go.... Shes probably now back to dancing in tacky bars with Chad, having a hot dog from a £1 stand and then spending the night with Chad, getting kicked out in the morning looking like a wreck.

When women leave a good man, it's because she never really loved you in the first place. She loved the fact that she could say she had a boyfriend/husband and maybe the fact that you provided some resources. That's it. You filled a gap in her lifestyle, but, in her mind, you were replaceable the entire time. It's important, for your own sanity, to recognize that ASAP and break yourself out of thinking about "the good times you shared". Try to revisit each of those "good times" under the red-pill lens...that is, it was just another event in which she was biding her time and making the best of a bad situation (i.e., being stuck in a relationship with YOU). It really helps you see clearly and want to focus on yourself.

There's a reason why the sanctity of marriage was held in such high esteem in the past. Our ancestors knew how women behaved and society kept that behaviour in check through marriage. Thanks to feminism that is no longer the case today..

Women are only loyal to their feelings. If she doesn’t believe deep down that you’re the best she could do at any point, best believe she will be planning her escape.

As a married man. I tell all my single friends to NEVER get married. The family law really do favor the women in the western world.

I was told that a man’s birth control was sitting in family court. Thank you, rich for all you do. I have your book and I will start reading it this weekend.

I am a 53 yrs old guy, and I have the upmost respect for all the information you put out in these clips. You are a real wealth of information!!

I’m going through a separation then onto divorce after 25 years together. I was good husband & father, did more than my fare share & now she no longer wants to be together. After a long time of soul searching I am looking at this as a positive, it’s a new chapter in my life to live on my own terms. I’m 50 years old but i do take care of myself, gym four times a week, eat healthy with a positive mindset. I will never want to marry again but i will have liaisons with the younger females who will appreciate a mature man. Once women hit their late 40’s & onwards it’s nothing but unhappiness for them as they hit the menopause!

I thought about it and I figured it out. Women confuse fear and anxiety for attraction, and lack of suffering for boredom.

49, divorced 10 years ago and finally woke up about a year ago after dating single mums in their 40's. The last couple of plates both had the same thing in common, left perfectly good marriages, the big house and kids after marrying in their early twenties. The other thing they have in common, both now regret their decision to go it alone and have realised the grass is brown now they are independent. One was pushing me to move in together despite me saying from early days that my lad who lives with me was my priority, dodged a mortar round as the debts and personality disorder managed by meds, reared its head. As an older guy I would tell all guys, get on your purpose in life and never get into a LTR with a single mother, the short term pleasures far outweigh the long term misery you will bring onto yourself, there are plenty of high quality women out there and women that decide to have their party years in their forties are to be avoided!

Rich, at 1:20 you're pretty much describing the precise elements of my own divorce. After twenty one years she had read Eat, Pray Love one too many times, several of her girlfriends got divorced and her list of resentments toward me grew longer and longer. She checked out. The reason behind our divorce was never obvious. It was subtle and eroding and she let the voice in her head win by believing that divorce was a sacrament to her own personal happiness, no matter what the cost to me, our kids and our future. My life has become better for it, but I'm still saddened at the betrayal and everything it cost.

As much as Rich and other men here comment about their past experiences with women with red flags, I think it’s important to state that there are women, although few and far between, that are worth keeping around. It is also a man’s responsibility to always keep frame in mind throughout the relationship. If you don’t know what that is or you forget to keep it in the forefront of the relationship over time, then that’s on you. Throughout the relationship there come conversations, arguments, etc. where you have to realize there’s a good example of when to keep frame when something comes up. For example, I had a conversation with my girlfriend about one of my friends that’s a female and my girlfriend stated at some point in the convo that I will not share this information with my female friend. I immediately stopped the conversation and politely, yet sternly stated, “let’s get something straight. You will never tell me what I am and am not allowed to do. Just like I would never speak to you in that way. I am a grown ass man and I won’t tolerate that type of behavior. You can rephrase how you’re speaking to me and say, I would appreciate if we kept this conversation private between us.” She had a look on her face of a little shock and understanding because the way I phrased it set the tone of how I expect to be spoken to. And similarly, because I love her, I would never speak to her that way. But setting frame as a man is important. Women want to be loved and I believe they like being directed a little. Not in a way that belittles them or makes you look like you own them. Women are naturally submissive, even the so called alpha females. I can’t tell you how many women told me they liked to be submissive and treated like shit sexually when I was spinning plates. It’s in their nature. Some stuff Rich says makes it sound like women should be lucky to be with their man. They should be submissive to basically what the man commands. I don’t know any woman personally that would respond well to some of the guidance Rich gives to his audience. I think there’s a right way to go about it, but a man should also be held responsible if his female partner is stepping out of bounds.

I was in a relationship with a woman last year, I saw the signs and knew the "I need some space" talk was coming I made a preemptive strike and broke up with her before it came

My wife of 23 years had the affair, I got the our daughter (she was old enough to choose) she made more money (75k a year) , we were average people, I got nothing she paid nothing not even school fee's nothing, the judge said it was unfair for her to pay since I made just enough for my daughter and me,(55k a year) and my wife was able to write her off her taxes even though I had her and she paid nothing, the system is more than broken, the guy from the government when I was fighting to have the ability to write my daughter off on my taxes said to me " you'll have to grow a vagina, its the only way you win"

My wife left me when I was 39. She had an affair with her boss and left me for him. Kids were 2, 6 and 8 years old. She got 70% of our assets in family court and married her boss and had 2 more kids. He left her 4 years after the marriage after she lost all her hair permanently due to the stress of the marriage not working out. He then left the country after years of fighting the court system to see his kids and they did nothing. 19 court cases he took and so 2 years ago left the country outside the EU and pays nothing because she refuses still to this day that he has any contact with them. I was 39 and my first long term girlfriend ( 3 years) was 24. Ive had 4 relationships since my marriage ended 16 years ago and all were 18 years younger at least. Im not good looking or tall but I do make women laugh... especially when I take my clothes off.... Younger women love older men that stay in shape, have a few bucks, are young at heart and are decent without been stupid. Yes of course I paid all bills and Im sure that helped but it was only a help... it was not moronic. They all wanted to get married of course and have kids and I get that but its not what I wanted so the relationships ended well and without any hurt. Im 55 now and my youngest is just about to start college so a new chapter starts and Im looking forward to that too. My ex?.... alone, angry, bitter, and spends her life trying to destroy and hurt her 2nd husband as much as she possibly can but now that he is gone dark out of the EU that has come to an end also. She will have to work until she can't and honestly... its just sad. Sad for her and sad that it ever came to this but this is what so many women do today. She loved sex and the city and loved that loreal add whose slogan was " because your worth it"... the night she ended our marriage she took out a list of the things I was doing wrong and started with 1. " You dont love me the way I deserve to be loved" 2 You dont respect me the way I deserve to be respected" 3. You dont support me the way I deserve to be supported" 4........... I asked her how many more and she counted off the list and said " 15". I said dont bother, I get it and went upstairs, packed a suit case and took my bed side light and left. I need a shrink to explain to me why I took the bed side lamp but I did and Ive no idea why. Ha ha... so ridiculous. In case your wondering... we had 3 beautiful kids, a beautiful house, a summer home, a 35 ft boat, she had a job she loved, a husband who loved her ( I did) lots of friends and an au pair to help with the kids. It STILL was not enough so she ended it. My kids are great, I got the summer house and kept it and took the boys for 2 months every summer. It hurt financially to keep it but it was the best decision I ever made for me and my boys. I know financially I was very lucky that way and Im grateful. Many men are not and I know that. Im just sharing MY story in case it helps someone else. God knows it could have been so much worse and it is for so many men. Rich, better bachelor, Coach greg Adams, sandman, optimised man... I go on and check them out every time I need a reminder never ever ever think of marrying again.

Arkansas is now the best for fathers. They recently passed a 50/50 shared parenting bill that is now the standard blueprint for other states to follow.

X-generation downward, doesn't really know what "love" is. They've bought into the Hollywood dream production and think they are missing something. I have been fortunate- 33 years married - and at least 1/2 of those years were hard. (financially, loss of jobs, health difficulties, kids getting mixed up in what they shouldn't) We made it because we agreed, nobody leaves, & we were a team. After all the shit we went through together, we aren't about to start over with someone else. One of us is going to have to die. And we won't be getting remarried.

They leave good men because they never gave a rat's ass who that individual man was. He's just a man to be used as a utility and validation, then toyed with for fun. They never care about who you are, only that you are there for the moment and what can be extracted from you.

Had a mate who was a hairdresser- said 90% of his clients - women- where on anti depressants 🤷‍♂️. The family court thing is a VERY good idea - eye opener.

1) Marriage is IPO for women 2) Divorce is cashing out. 3) Children produces passive income for women enforced by the government

Rich- thanks brother. To all you men out there who think it will never happen to you, think again. After 34 years of marriage, I'm facing divorce right now. She's told me- "honey your the love my life, you're such a great man, blah blah blah...." To now, "I want a divorce, I'm happy, and I've have found my identity." Hell, I didn't even know she was missing, I would've sent out an Amber Alert..lol...Its been challenging at the beginning brothers, but if someone doesn't want you, face the reality, You Are One Hell Of A Man and you don't need anyone to tell you that. Being a 50+ year old man, I can tell you from my marriage experience, do not put women on a pedestal, stop your beta tendencies, and commit to yourself. I don't dislike women, though I thought I had a good one, young men out there- don't make getting married a priority, chase excellence first....I credit Rich in helping me from going further into the darkness...

Just yesterday have met one chick who was 2/10 maybe 1/10 and she left her husband and complained that he was expecting that she will take care of him as his mother. Her next sentence was that she has a mortgage and does not have a lot of money (no rainy day fund) because after she left him his apartment and the larger salary was no longer available and also she complained that he had found another woman and married her 1 year later. From her eyes was seen a regret.

I had a friend who had severe addiction problems but got sober before he married. This was his 1st marriage and her 3rd with three daughters who hated him. His wife left him on the grounds that he was boring! She was 40 but wanted to party like a 20 year old. He was a wreck after the divorce and fell hard off the wagon. At least the wall hasn't been kind to her.

I was once asked what will I do if wife leaves me. I will find another one, 15 years younger. What else should I do?

Fellas if you are in the gym doing legs. And a chick comes in the gym and you switch to shoulders because she is over on that side. You just screwed your fellow male who is actually doing shoulders. Had that happen 2 hours ago. I was the only one in that corner. Then hot pants shows up and 4 dudes chasing. Stop that shit. Especially if you are not gonna even speak.

Going to family court for a quick visit is actually a great idea. Never thought of that

hahahaha that story was like twenty years ago, but was an unforgettable lesson! Never underestimate the capacity of a woman ruin your plans.

Adrian from the Rocky series is probably the last good fictitious woman character: -She was with Rocky when he was a nobody (Rocky 1 and 2). -She was there for him at his height of his career when he was scared (Rocky 3). -She was there when she doubted him but still stood by his side (Rocky 4). -She was there when he was betrayed and hit rock bottom (Rocky 5). -She was there in spirit on keeping Rocky alive and going (Rocky Balboa).

I got a divorce after 18 years of marriage. The last 10 years was miserable. She stopped taking care of herself, hated her job, terrible mother and a train wreck with finances. I managed to come out of the divorce unscathed and a whole lot happier. She, on the other hand, is still miserable af and on anti depressants.

Women leave good men because for all their talk of wanting "Nice guys," many of them are irresistibly attracted to the excitement of the "bad boys."

Haven’t watched the video yet, but before I do I wanna say: if you know you’re a good person and a high-value man, she did you a massive favor leaving you if it’s because you’re “boring” or whatever. Have the courage and faith to recognize you’ll be with someone that deserves you if you even want that. Let the girl that left you have the drug dealer down the street’s kids and continue that cycle of abject poverty for her children. She deserves nothing less

Women aren't aging with class anymore... Too many old women acting like teenagers.

Problem with the grass being greener, is that it took alot of MANURE to make it greener.

The secretary at my chiro is pretty fine for being in her mid 50’s but she’s one of the marriages that fell apart during Covid. She told me the day after he moved he moved in his another woman after 35 years of marriage. Now she’s single she’s on the prowl and has this small tad bit of crazy in her eyes now. She was the sweet mature lady that I always had pleasant conversations with prior but now she’s 100% different and on the prowl.

Hi long time listener i have bought your book I'm reading it for the third time thank you for all the knowledge wish we had type of teaching back in college

They simply have too many options. Anything that's scarce, the value goes up. Anything you have a surplus of, the value goes down. In reality, beta males are the reason for this paradox of choice problem we have. If I have 200 pairs of Gucci frames, I can break 50 of them and not even think twice about it. But if I only had one pair and I broke them...now I'm pissed.

Is Texas friendlier? My friend's ex-girlfriend is "divorcing" him right now thanks to something called common law marriage. No, you didn't read that wrong, they're not even married, but she still gets to divorce him and legally get half his shit. They never lived together, don't have kids together, but apparently if you've been together for over something like two years and there was even a hint you might get married at some point, then the law sees you as married and it's open season on your shit. Doesn't sound too "male" friendly to me.

Guys Rich has said it before and is right. Women marry a life style not the man. They date a lifestyle and guy with resources. If they think you have resources and have you stuff together that's over half the battle. Is your grass greener then your neighbors? It all boils down to that.

"Sex and the city: 4 middle aged women slamming around New York City" lol

This guy I work with told me he just proposed and she actually said yes, and he was like "idk what I would've done if she said no" I instantly said "there's always another woman don't worry about that" I can't believe in marriage like I used to but best of luck to the guy.

FYI. In Australia you literally can't attend family court unless you are an interested party. Family court proceedings are held sub rosa and all documents are sealed.

I am a lawyer. Practiced in North Carolina and New York. State laws do vary, but no state is really friendly to men. According to a study by Custody X Change: "fathers in Florida are more likely to get 50/50 custody of their children compared to other states. Among the best states for fathers are also: Alaska, Arizona, Colorado, Connecticut, Delaware, Florida, Kentucky, Maine, Massachusetts, Minnesota, Missouri, Nevada, New Hampshire, New Jersey, New Mexico, North Dakota, Vermont, Virginia, West Virginia and Wisconsin, which also tend to give fathers 50 percent custody. The worst states in the country for fathers who want equal time are Tennessee, Oklahoma, Mississippi, Illinois and Georgia. Tennessee was the worst state in the nation, where children spend less than 22 percent of their time with their fathers annually, the study stated."

I need to get covered head to toe in tattoos and become a total pos. Maybe then women will be attracted to me.

Because their bored & not lead & their hypergamous & you chose badly. Loyalty matters!

rollo discuss this at preventive medecine really a great read

Those Eat Pray Love girls don't actually pray. They're professional projectors

The level of tolerance people have for each other has drastically declined. Small arguments and down phases of life makes a lot of women leave their partners. They don't give a shit about any of the sacrifices you made for her.Good men, who have been in serious relationships suffer because their mind keeps on repeating those good times and memories. Women just don't care and they prefer to move on. Treating yourself well is important if someone else cannot treat you good.

An old classmate of mine said the very same thing: Everyman should spend a day in family court before he decides to get married. He should know - he is a family law attorney and part-time judge for 30+ years.

A gooder man shows interest is all it takes

Your dead on about women think the grass is greener on the other side my wife told me this after being married 20 plus years now I trying to save my house but it do not look good I live in California

Men. You can never negotiate attraction! Understand that and you can't go wrong.

Perhaps if men are going to continue to marry in America, they should take it up a notch and demand a clearly written and detailed 'marriage contract'. Then when she breaches her end of the contract, the legal system can really have a hissy fit and men will start winning more often when she bails 'because she can'. Legally binding contracts are based on the notion of 'performance'. That's what makes a contract a contract.

Women don’t care if you are good or bad. They only want rich, good looking, exciting, fun guys.

I recently met a woman. online dating last Tuesday. Met had coffee. Wednesday went to see a movie together. Staying at her place. Today Saturday. It’s all over. lol. Got a dear John text. Saying she didn’t feel the connection but offered the friends card. I just blocked and deleted her number.

I'm going through divorce right now and live in FL, thankfully. Hell, I did the math and I'm going to make a profit with this divorce.

Optimising a single man’s life 20-30 years old would be a good video for me and other men :)

Being well adjusted to a sick society is not my definition of success.

Rich--the problem is the chicks listen to their unhappy friends which cheated on their own man.... they encourage that type of behaviour and portray it as 'normal' and then laugh when the previous good relationship falls apart? Normally at big 40 due to insecurities of age!!!!!!! On a few occasions I have seen bad chicks go off with their best friends husband by offering solace!!!!!!!

I tried to sit in family court and they told me I couldn't sit there unless I had an appointment.

Florida is NOT friendly to fathers. I went through a nasty divorce about 13 years ago & the family court treated me like an abusive husband & father. It was a terrible experience. Child support payments stopped in 2015 but I'm still paying alimony to this day!

4:42 I was watching live when that superchat came up, truly a laugh out loud moment. Crazy world we live in.

It's the "Eat, Pray, Love" fantasy women bought. What they don't know is that it was total BS by Elizabeth Gilbert. She was a writer, got divorced, and convinced her publisher to give her $200,000 to travel the world and write a book about it. It was all contrived, but women envied her. Here's the rest of the story: that "perfect" guy she met in Bali? She divorced him! That wasn't in the movie. (BTW, the advice on going to a different state for marriage/divorce is priceless.)

Women just want to be entertained. If you bore them it doesn't matter the level of security you're providing she will cheat or leave you.

I think family court should be mandatory for male high school students. I think it would cut down on births dramatically. Because all boys hear from birth is women are sugar and spice, everything nice...like my mom. Well, no they are not!

I love that idea. If you want to get married, take an afternoon off work and go sit in family court and just observe.

If youre a self proclaimed “good guy” thats just nice way of saying “ima bitch and i dont put these chicks in their place”. Im 5’3 n i make sure to curse chicks out on the slightest bs. They never forget me. NEVER.

I heard a lawyer say that the laws are generally equal, but the rulings/judge favor usually favor the women.

Birth control has screwed a lot of women up as well as I saw how it affected my daughter. It turned her from a pleasant young woman into a raving loon I figured out what it was and she stopped and got her mind back she got a different type and she has been more or less OK not as good as she should be but almost.

I will never get married period no exceptions!

I can attest through watching a few of my friends go through it. Florida is not guy friendly. It is getting slightly better with judges. It is still hit or miss with mostly misses, but Judges are waking up to the reality that marriages rates are dropping pretty rapidly. AND with Marriages dropping rapidly so is divorce. Family court funds a significant portion of our judicial system. So they are only very very recently starting to rule in a 50/50 split. But that is only after the man has dropped 20-30 grand in lawyer fees and spent at least one year without his kids being in his life. Florida is bad. If you are a man and want to get married in Florida. It is imperative to know the laws around Family court and how the system works because if you go in blind you are in for an insanely rude wake up call.

They have nothing to lose; they will get child support and alimony. Plus they can pull one nightstands with a 7-8 when they are 5's.

Great advise. Thank you Rich

There ultimate form is when they go from cats and bottled wine to cats and cardboard box wine hahahahaha 😂🤣

The other one that's funny is the "Live, Laugh, Love" bhahaha!

A woman here... I'm a frequent watcher of red pill videos. A lot of these channels have great honest info aimed towards men. I don't see much of this kind of talk though with videos that are aimed at women though. Now that I got that aside, I find said men's experiences much more relatable. I've only ever had 2 prior partners, and both of them left me. I dont believe in leaving unless there are obvious red flags like domestic abuse or cheating. My last partner was like a marriage, but we never married, been with him for over a decade and to my understanding, he left because he felt the grass was greener on the other side. Maybe it was and I can't say I knew what he felt so just a disclaimer. Dating afterwards was hell, I felt I was ghosted 90% of the time. Fortunately, I did find a partner and we love each other immensely. He's unlike anyone I've met before. I really hope our relationship lasts, he is devoted, honest, calls me his "princesa". I love how he isnt afraid to hold my hand and kiss me in public. Now I am watching red pill channels, in hope maybe I can get some useful information, on how I can keep my current man happy. Any advice is appreciated, I'm always up for learning about how the male mind works.

Wait that's hilarious I too make fun of the signs everywhere... verbiage on Plaques !?!? Like "happy" in lowercase cursive letters on a piece of shipwreck wood hahahah.

When these women leave, it's a blessing.

Arizona is a "Community Property" state = so be careful when it comes to cohabitation there.

I learned early that a woman wants everything but appreciates nothing. Put your needs before hers and you'll never be disappointed...... Perhaps she will be disappointed, but when is she ever not disappointed? There's no point in having 2 people disappointed so put yourself before her and at least one side will be happy. 1 out of 2 is better than 0 out of 2 😎

Just recently, NO JOKE!! My girlfriend of 16 years. 32, hysterectomy, no teeth... FINALLY got a job. 2.5 weeks later. Married a 21 year old that she MET THERE while I was at work! My head is really messed up right now... Now she lives in a trailer court! I thought women don't date down

Years ago a band had a song called Never trust a woman

10 things to quit for all Strong Men: 1. Caring about what others think 2. Not believing in yourself 3. Not experimenting different ideas / solutions for problems (life&business) 4. Not prioritizing your health 5. Wasting your precious time 6. Wanting something (instead write a plan and work towards it) 7. Chasing meaningless relationships 8. Wasting or draining your energy from beating your meat 🥩 9. Wasting time by scrolling social media 10. Nailbiting/nailpicking habit for good (if you do it - consider stopping it as it makes you mentally weak + affects your confidence and all other areas of your life!) Take it easy and I hope you found one thing helpful in this list.......................

That go to family court thing is a good idea

Every single time I was good I got nothing but BAD in return,every single time! You play the bad boy first,then you "close the deal" and then (as expected) you play the nice guy and get burned! Am I supposed to change myself,who I am because of them or what? Rather just stay single and be on my way

I was the “good man” my wife left me after 20 years and just cashed in…no kids but she got 1.5 million and the house, I just said keep it, whatever. I’ve dated 75 woman in 6 months and they’re just not worth it these days…

Women leave good men because most women lack the capacity to maintain romantic feelings and respect for any man they come to know. The tingles come from feeling that they're surrendering to a more powerful person than they are. A man who occasionally might need their support or, heaven forbid, their nurturing doesn't fit that bill.

Any woman who does this disgusts me. Lack of loyalty to the father of your children disgusts me.

Marriage is such an overwhelming burden now. And then if you find yourself in a divorce....... And amazingly, so many women are clueless about this.

I tell my nephew constantly not to get married or have kids , he’s even go as far as to try to get a vasectomy but due to his age (27) no dr will do it for him

"And old men with broken teeth stranded without love Do I understand your question, then, is it hopeless and forlorn? Come in, she said I'll give ya shelter from the storm." Bob Dylan ~

To quote Rollo " worst thing u can do to a woman is bore her"..good guys need to become a bit more like the bad guys..the bad guy will sleep with her bestfriend and she will never leave him.

Great vid Rich. I am new to your channel. Have you ever discuss the doc "Divorce Corporation?" I learned a lot form it. Thanks.

Regret- remorse or whatever you get after the divorce happens. Get some marriage counceling- marriage can be many things- not just what you have Change your life- change your marriage.we change over time people grow and change- along with that your marriage has to grow and change with it. Best decision I ever made was for myself. Marriage is not always the answer nor is divorce. Its amazing as we age we have more knowledge and more ideas who we are and what we need. Men have to change too!!

Hey Rich, first time watching a video of yours. Really like the content. Just a suggestion: why don't you look at us viewers when talking? I and probably more people like when the person talking us looking at us.

You don't even have to go sit in a courthouse, just go out to an restaurant. Look at all the couples with rings.

After divorce, I followed a Richard advice and got myself a dog last year. OMG, the amount of loyalty and love this guy gives me is unrealistic, i will marry a woman only if she can beat my dog at it.

One example of the type of man to be divorced is the man who sleeps on the couch when his wife tells him to. How can any grown man do that? If she has a problem, tell her to sleep on the couch. But it should never get to that, there shouldn’t be huge fights.

I beg to differ with your definition of a good man. Those good men aren't keeping there wives in line. You know the dynamics. They refuse to be responsible for their women's actions. Women are children, pets, or live stock(whichever you prefer). "Good men" must take responsibility for their lives, their property, and all that that it entails. To clarify for the neophyte Blaming your woman for her bad actions is akin to blaming YOUR dog for crapping on YOUR carpet. That's all on you, the owner, the responsible party.

HAHAHAHA BEST IDEA I HAVE EVER HEARD! take a day off and sit in a family court.... savage genius