My work life balance issues aren't with time management. At work I do...I keep super focused, I bleed. I don't take breaks. I'm hungry and tired. I don't notice. I'm super focused. Then the work is done. And the weight of being hungry, tired, bleeding even, suddenly hits me. I ticked off my non-neurodivergent co-workers because now they are expected to do what I just did.
So ive developed consistent motivation by utilitizing a principle i learned from russel barkley. So adhd people have a deficite in verbal working memory to the effect that we cant get in touch with motivation by talking to ourselves. Its like our brain cant emotionally hear our own voice. But it for some reason can by lusyening to other people. So i do two things. 1- before i start work i listen to lectures to people i relate to about the subject i want to study. 2- i try to socialize about the topic as often as i can. This works like magic every day.
I used to be very happy when that hyper-focus hit. I could accomplish, at least, something. Now, after incurring a TBI, I don't even get that. Thanks for keeping some vids short. lol
Bravo!!! For the gut, the best and cheap probiotic is yoghurt, once/twice every day. Be sure it is yoghurt, most of them are milky preparations pausterized (without the bacteria). Avoid spicy foods. Good luck to everyone in this life condition trip. Never give up!!
I'm sure you mean well and I really liked the ball metaphor and the whole idea of planning certain days for certain areas of life, but you really lost me consistency wise. How would (ab)using episodes of hyperfocus actually help getting more of the consistency you said is just not gonna happen for ADHDers? When talking about "common imbalances" affecting if a person has a good and productive day or falls into depression imo it's one of the most important things to look at learning to also control hyperfocus and especially not rely on it to get anything done to not keep up the whole cycle of not being able to get started until some motivational surge takes over until either stuffs done or the next depressive phase lurks around the corner. Can't expect to compensate/regulate neurological dysregulations by explicitly jumping on the "positive" side of them and actually modifying one's behavior to prospectively intensify the processes
They usually never understand, bro. But try your best. Don't give up. There's always a minimum number of expectations that you have to meet, otherwise you get kicked out of your partner's life. I wish love were unconditional. As for me, I'll never get married.
@@officialWWM Give it a try. Give her a few chances. If you feel that she doesn't love you unconditionally, it's really worth moving on. You don't want to waste your time and energy on something that won't help you or society in the future. Don't waste the life you've got.
