5 years ago, I got fed up with my boring life of going every day to the office. I've left everything: my apartment, my job, my stuff... I've been traveling for 5 years, living as a minimalist nomad, working remotely, and it's been one of the best decisions I've taken in my life, which I would've probably never taken if my life was slightly better then!
You literally described the situation I've been living in for the last 4 years. Your video is the push that we all need sometimes. It's good that you explained it so well, and not just pushed it is unclear where and why. Thank you!
Thank you for this video. I'm a person who abhors change. I have lived my life accepting the status quo because I wanted to avoid the pain I associate with change. Maybe if a bigger tragedy had happened in my life I'd have been motivated to make necessary changes.
I don't know anyone that can save 6 months of salary in this crazy last 2 decades of ridiculous housing and healthcare costs. Better than yesterday in an economy that's worse than yesterday?
After 19 years i did these changes, no regrets. I set up five fallback options for security and jumped. Completely different experience. Much less stress, no weekends, no evenings, no chaos
Bester's novel The Stars My Destination has a great analogy for this. In the beginning, Gully Foyle barely survives in his spaceship, but then something happens that really pisses him off, and everything changes.
Frog in the pot story is not entirely true. In the experiment the frog's brains were damaged so that (if i remember correctly) only their reflexes worked.
Thank you for this video! I absolutely agree that pain can inspire transformation, but if we are self conscious enough we can take action before the pain becomes unbearable!
Timestamps - 0:00: 🔄 Embracing challenges can lead to unexpected benefits and improvements in life. 2:39: 🌪️ Finding motivation in challenging circumstances. 4:24: 🐸 Realizing discomfort prompts action and growth, unlike familiarity. Humans thrive in adversity. 7:00: 💪 Navigating through difficult decisions by defining fears and brainstorming preventive steps. 9:02: 💪 Benefits of taking action, costs of inaction, and avoiding long-term dissatisfaction.
Recently turned 22 and never been in any romantic relationship whatsoever. I have no social life and I'm absolutely sick of being lonely. I will start cold approaching girls in my city as soon as I've returned. Thanks for the video.
This is a great video and it explains why I struggle to leave my job. And it's so hard to leave when they give me free healthcare, pretty good pay, 27 vacation days a year plus birthday and anniversary off, and 5 additional vacation days that I can purchase. My only complaints are I'm always bored there and I wanted to unlock my fullest potential there, but it's not a place for that. All I got was excuses from my past and current supervisors/bosses every time I tried to have a discussion about my career goals. I wanted to be a machinist but I'm mostly content with what I do there now. And everywhere I look it sounds like any job I take would be a downgrade in some way either in jobs perks and/or pay. And I feel like that would be super foolish. I'm better off staying put and shoveling money into my 401k.
Thank you for sharing! Your video came at the perfect moment, coz recently I've been mulling over my current situation - not so great yet not so terrible either. I feel dissatisfied the way things are yet not feeling the urgency to change things. This fear setting practice is a handy framework to rethink what I really want to do and give the necessary push for it.
Maybe not "ages", but I've heard/read as well, that the frog story isn't (totally) true. It seems that even frogs are getting wiser over time (or not those very same frogs, but their children, grandchildren or great-grandchildren. A kind of "the evolution of frogs". Maybe there will come a time, when frogs are wiser than people, because the don't have a smartphone and they don't spend hours and hours on social media.
In summary 1 what is your fear and what will go wrong when you take action 2 plan to prevent or decrease situation 3 repair damage if worst comes true 4. Benefits of partial success 5. Cost of not taking action
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2 Years ago I decided to leave my job for good and focus on my dream, so far it has been the best decision I ever took and i've been on this path ever since (I've faced hardships but i haven't been in Region B all the time as I do procrastinate and coast from time to time) - I do have the solutions but i was not really applying them 100% Today I've learnt about the Region Beta Paradox and it makes much more sense to have it in front of me all the time as a reminder. Thank you for your video, i needed to watch this. ♥ (The truth does reach those who need to see the truth)
Tim Ferris's "Pain Setting" is similar to Tony Robbins' "Personal Power" program where a similar suggestion of associating deep pain with the current state of affairs is advised to build motivation for change. Startups & companies can also languish for long in a "dead zone" like this. Business doing just good enough to Keep The Lights On, but not bad enough to face survival issues.
This analogy is demonstrated in the Star Wars show Andor, when the Empire is "choking us so slowly we're starting not to notice". As much as people dislike the Empire they don't put up a fight because things could be worse. It's not until the Empire makes things borderline unlivable for people that prisoners break out of labor camps and local citizens fight back against soldiers on the streets
You forgot to mention we become dissatisfied with or a accustomed to the things we have, believing there's something better out there, but we're just delusional at times. The secret is listening to your self, not your mind. If it feels right then go at it, if you are uncertain, just wait, time isn't right yet. Work, relationship, health..: what can you do to fix it if something's wrong? Leaving isn't always the best decision. If you're stuck because of fear: work on it! Why are you feeling that way, where it comes from, does it have any correlation to reality or is it just in your mind? Many people are pros at sabotaging themselves...
This comment is underrated! In many cases a good shrink is what you need first. Understanding what is wrong and what the best way to fix it could be the most difficult part.
Everything has positives and negative sides ... so it's like a mindtrap..., should I stay or should I go... it will be like this... if you analyse any situation in more than just 1 aspect..
The frog will loose its energy trying to adjust itself until the water becomes too hot to resist, and it will fail to jump out of the pot when the water becomes too hot as the frog had drained its energy
This thinking has a number of flaws. Mainly, the hedonic treadmill allows us to adapt to crappy and good situations, which means crappier situations than what currently is and better than what currently is. If something helps propel me to a better place, well maybe I just get complacent at that better place since I’m capable of getting complacent where I’m at. You basically have to reaffirm to yourself on a regular basis the consequences of inaction as discussed in this video but also the benefits of action. Keep in mind the way different improvements impart benefits on other areas, creating positive feedback. The same goes for inaction and accumulating negatives and decay. Also, what is measured gets managed. Take stock of the results you are driving. How well are you actually starting new habits? It’s easy to hide from the discomfort of your failure when you slouch away from the proof. On the flip side it’s easy to ignore the good you’ve accomplished when you’re only focused on the next thing.
The other day I witnessed employees act just like the Stock Markets going down the week a ago or so, Sell off. Like I told them when I met them. I took Business Leadership and a Customer Service classes. After getting no feed back, public wise, I took Intro To Stock Trading. Then my mom pointed a book to me while we where in a library called; Financial Founding Fathers by Robert Wright. In it say's 'The U.S. became financially strong in 1800 from "Cheap Labor and some Resources." Been learning about how the global economy has changed. My favorite guy is John Mauldin who writes Free 'Thought's From The Frontline' newsletters. Been reading them for 20 years.
Thanks for such wonderful videos. This is very informative. Btw what are these types of animated videos called? Does anyone know how to create such videos? Please let me know.
I don't fully agree. Suppose I wanna lose weight but I weight like 10 kgs more. I'll have less incentive to start losing my weight as it'll be a lot harder. I feel it depends on the situation.
I think it depends on the person, person A might reach the breaking point that they realise I cannot take it to see myself so fat that I need to work out. Person b may see all this fat, and just not start because what’s the point. also the moral of the story from the author is the person who is fat is more likely to workout compared to a skinny fat guy because the fat guy would see that work need to be done, otherwise things will continue to be worse
There was a book called the Change Function that described this years ago. People resist change because it is hard and will only change when it is easier to change than to stay in a bad situation.
It's the exact opposite... like he said, the worse things are, finally hitting rock bottom is when you finally snap and make the changes you need. It sounds like you might not have hit that point yet. My finances, health, and love life were in shambles. I worked in a decent paying but super high stress job with crap hours. I snapped, and made a huge change i never would have been willing to make if life wasn't such crap- I rented a room in a house with 5 other people. 1 year later, my finances were better, I bought a condo, started dating again and met a great guy, and was fit and healthy because of worrying less and being able to afford better food/ vitamins etc. When the pain of staying where you are finally becomes worse than the pain of making the changes to fix it, things finally get better. Best wishes to you.
2:42 I find this example questionable. Sure, if his situation was worse he'd probably be incentivised to improve it. But that could just as well mean he'd end up in his current situation without any improvement whatsoever. I see no reason to assume he'd improve his worse situation to something that's better than his current one, only to something that is better than the worse one.
Agreed.. another example I can think of is about health Suppose you weigh 15 kgs more than what you currently are then you might be even more discouraged to change as it'll be a lot harder. Basically, it depends on the situation as per me.
The frog will loose its energy trying to adjust itself until the water becomes too hot to resist, and it will fail to jump out of the pot when the water becomes too hot as the frog had drained its energy
...or look at it from a more elevated viewpoint: The collapsing Empire suffering End-stage capitalism will present with simultaneous convulsions of many kinds. The most contemporary is America is in a state of Mass Denialism. Two geriatric why.te Men, _Neither_ are even qualified to be the President of a 6th grade elementary school class, are presented to the so-called democracy electorate as the *ONLY* choices for "leaders of the free world". One a narcissistic convicted criminal, and the other clearly suffering from dementia. And "Americans" desperately want to beleive things are still good. This is surreal, yet embodies the theory of this video presentation.
By "YouSum Live" 00:01:30 Region beta paradox: Closer isn't always faster 00:03:11 Embrace discomfort for necessary change 00:03:28 Psychological pain triggers action for improvement 00:05:26 Stagnation leads to mental health consequences 00:05:50 Overcome comfort for personal growth 00:06:27 Fear setting exercise for decision-making 00:09:14 Reflect on inaction's potential negative consequences 00:10:22 Take charge to improve your circumstances By "YouSum Live"
