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My mom says that people have too many options these days. Patience and working through problems is not prioritized enough, everyone just walks away the minute they find someone "better" (even if the other person was great and met their standards).

I found that many men would think texting and emailing counted as dates. They expected to sleep with you as soon as they met in person and would be surprised if you said no. Creepy.

I am 28 years old and I gave up on dating a long time ago and I’m so happy with my choice. I couldn’t find any decent man around me. They all cheated, were rude, lazy, no jobs, no future prospects. I got tired of teaching men how to treat me. I have a degree, a job, financial stability, friends, family, a dog, and travel a lot. I’m genuinely happier now than in any of the relationships I’ve ever been in .

People lost morals and values; loyalty and decency are gone; our society is incredibly childish

I met my boyfriend on Bumble. My friend met hers on Tinder. Finding love online is possible. Make sure to follow these safety tips until you feel like you can trust the man. 1. Always meet in public. 2. Do not meet at his house nor allow him to pick you up from your house. 3. Do not sit in the car with him alone. 4. High value men are respectful and virtuous. If he starts talking about sex early on, then he's disqualified. These men are creepy.

I feel like this also applies to friendships. Nowadays very few people want to invest time and effort to build up and nurture friendships and real connections. Somehow friendships became too "available", meeting new people all the time, meeting a lot of people but with the goal of having another connection on social media rather than a lifelong relationship.😢

Dating apps and social media in general present the illusion of endless options but once you actually explore, you realise the dating pool is empty and quite time consuming. Unless you just want to sleep around, then dating apps are for you. But for those who want a life partner, it’s a lot harder

Being Swedish, the trend here is cohabiting and never marrying. A sad state of things. Having found faith eased my desperate energy and newfound strength to stand by my ideals. Still, looking for people with similar worldview is tough. 🇸🇪🤔

The problem I have been encountering is that men want all the rewards with zero effort. I meet a guy and immediately he’s talking about sex and asking for photos 🤮 I’m completely burnt out by dating

I met my husband on a dating app at a time that I wasn’t looking for a relationship. I was so sick of toxic dating apps that I have up. I basically went to get a free meal (he is aware of this) and was like “this is how I am and this is what I want and if you don’t like it then I’m not for you”. Apparently he liked that as he was tired of games and not knowing what he was getting. 10 years later here we are still.

Excellent video! Yes, I do see problems in modern dating because both men and women have unrealistic expectations for a partner AND have an overinflated opinion of themselves, and they confuse “settling” and “compromise”. “Compromise” means that you have a list of requirements for an ideal partner, but you pick some things that are negotiable while some things are dealbreakers. “Settling” means that you’ll just take any partner so you’re not alone, regardless of how toxic that partner is or how much you dislike that partner. A very small percentage of people on this earth are at the elite level (men with the 3-6s or women with the 3-Bs) - 90% of people on this earth have to compromise to not end up alone.

The customer service analogy is 100% accurate 😂 well said Anna! I’m 25 and have given up on dating apps, I’m doing my best to try new things and try to meet someone naturally 🤞🏼

Online dating feels like objectification of human beings, to me this is the worst thing to meet and treat humans

Im exactly what Anna said. I’d rather stay single FOREVER than settle with a man who isn’t on my level, or doesnt match my basic requirements both physical and emotional.

We've become desensitized as a people due to technology. I people watch all the time. I see couples, families and friends at dinner and no one is talking. Everyone is scrolling on their phones. No intimacy. No bonding. Nothing. It's really sad. This generation is very cold. Ladies, please don't settle. Real connections are out there. ❤️

I would say dating is also harder because of the breakdown of extended friendship, family and community networks. In the past, even people that married for love, usually met their partner through their friends, family or other social activities (e.g. church, local dances etc). Until about 60 years ago, randomly coming up to a stranger at a coffee shop or a grocery store was not the standard way to meet your significant other. Today, we spend much more time online than we do within our wider community. So for better or worse, it's completely normal for dating to have turned digital.

I’m 22 and I feel like dating just gets harder the older I get,I deleted the dating apps and when I go out in public I don’t be on my phone,and a lot of men are in their feminine energy and want women to approach them. Also I’ve been leveling up and working on myself.

As a single gal, I'd love it if guys approached, all they do is stare and it's so frustrating as I want to be with a guy who has cultivated the art of courage- feeling the fear and saying hello anyway. Ditto on leaving the house to actually meet real people, it's something I have to work on.

We met on Tinder in 2022, got engaged two weeks ago 💍 Everything is possible, you just HAVE to know what you are looking for!! It's the KEY! ☺️ I wrote a list of things I look for in a partner and he ticks all the boxes. 😊

This video was literally what I needed it just came out after I closed my online dating app and was wondering if what I'm doing is even worth it

I stopped online dating a few years ago, I'm open to natural dating. Living my best life as an emotionally healthy, grounded, stable person and professional is how I believe it will happen for me. I've also done personal work and without that I woud be miles behind. I'm also happy, I dont have negativity around men and relationships,or much else in life, I have positive expectations, I'm not desperate ,worried or stressed about the timing. I think perspective and outlook is a large part of the outcome.

My best friend has two daughters in their early twenties. Beautiful and accomplished, they have never had a steady boyfriend. I find it ironic that as a 61 year old woman, I have a long-term boyfriend. He is 56. Men my age grew up without the Internet and, in my experience, know how to court women. They value, understand, and appreciate relationships, and, have the patience to cultivate them. My boyfriend is my passionate best friend. I truly feel for the younger generation.

I feel ao discouraged to even try to find someone outside dating apps bcs you never get approached by guys naturally anymore and they are all so feminine now, but im more scared of always being alone and never finding someone while everyone else around me is magically finding their one

The best advice I can offer is to make sure of these 3 things: 1.) Equal Attraction 2.) Shared values (not beliefs but values) 3.) You actually LIKE each other. It may seem basic, but trust me when these 3 things are in order, you're more likely to be willing to work on everything else. You'll also be more willing to let the petty things go. You're more prone to building a friendship and all the factors a quality friendship/bond entails.

I am 62, and I HATE dating apps. Never again. 100% scammers .

From time to time, I have been required to advise female friends in getting a man. Given that I am a self-confessed list woman, I would first get out pen and paper. I would then ask the woman to tell me what they are looking for in a man. Reams of paper and an hour or so later, we had an exhaustive list. I would then ask the friend to tell me what sort of woman _that_ man would be looking for... Crickets. It had never even occurred to the woman to consider this. A simplistic example. If a man has political aspirations, he needs an intelligent woman who shares his political values. He also needs her to dress and present well in addition to immaculate good manners. A woman who curses, gets drunk, wears promiscuous style clothing, and who thinks gerrymandering is a football player need not apply. If you are currently yelling that what you want is the only relevant matter, yell on.... It is what it is.

You have to narrow it down to someone who has the same values as you and are on the same level. You have to play it fair and be yourself. The issue is online dating apps offer never ending choices and everyone thinks the next date will be better or they‘ll find someone better. And you’ll never get to know someone properly with that mindset. You need to actually bother getting to know them, make time for them and let it naturally go from there. But people want it all too fast and easy these days…

Because people are far too shallow and self-absorbed. Grass is always greener, it's never too late to change your life etc. People have lost a set of values we once had more of.

My biggest problem is actually meeting men in person. I had only three dates in 2023. So hard to leave dating app to sit on a table. Troublesome.

I met a guy online and went on a date with him. Before meeting, I had no expectations (he didn’t seem my type) but still wanted to give him a try. I ended up liking him a lot, although he was 15 years older while I'm 24 and inexperienced, but one day out of nowhere he told me he still talked to his toxic ex often (and the girl looked eerily similar to me, just older) and I realised he was emotionally unavailable. He tried gaslighting me into staying in this situationship but I still respectfully walked away, although it hurt. I know I deserve better than being played, but still... Not even having no expectations is enough these days.

Add the will of a personal career for women as we don't want to be let down with NOTHING at 50 for a 20 years-old chick or after cancer. History. Add easy. access to prnography destroying relationships. Add mental diseases (crazy violent partners, sociopaths rising).

Because no one wants an actual person. Everyone wants a fantasy.

I met a man online and after 2-3 weeks chat we decided to meet. We had 2 live meeting and they were just amazing. He looks as enjoining my company and talked and walk long. After the secound date he stopped the communication with me. With no explanation and no obvious reason. I was shoked. Very demotivating

What our society needs is God and faith. Also, people need to stop being self centred and start to be more of service to others so that they can have a change in perspective in life, which will cause them to find reasons to be grateful and to abandone the victimhood mentality.

Fabulous! Over the years, I have loved seeing your channel evolve to include social commentary. In my opinion, what you say in videos along these lines is far more worthwhile than anything you might say about leveling up with fashion. I hope you continue in this direction. Let your intellect shine!

I love this kind of video where you dive into social problems and share your opinion on them.

I just moved to a city with 150k citizens and it feels so refreshing and relaxing. Not only is this city known for its beauty! Can't wait to meet new people and look around and be open to possible new beginnings ☺

I’m recently single at 31 after a 6.5 year relationship. No kids, no ring. I had to end it due to these issues. Why I allowed him to lead me on for so long? I loved him. Now that I’m out dating again, I’ve realized that dating has changed almost entirely. Dating apps were a thing back when I was single in 2016, but I feel as though it’s entirely taken over the whole dating process. It’s not fun and I’m just debating on being single for forever.

From my past experiences, men just want instant gratification they don’t even want to commit. They want the relationship “things” without actually calling it a relationship 🙄 the issue lies in people are egotistical and selfish.

I met my husband through a dating app. Your tips are so good. But I’d add just one thing and to me it’s the MOST important thing. Coming from a nonbeliever in the past. The moment I became aware and allowed God into my life (even being curious & simply tapping into my curiosity) many doors opened for me. Once I realized that LIFE is so much more than myself, I met my soulmate, my soldier, my hero. He believes in God and we are learning more and more together. Life, today, is HARD. Look for the one thing that’s been around and created it all to find your answers. It won’t be right away but starting your path is the only way.

I have always favored the idea of meeting people in person. There are a number of times that I have met someone who initially would not be the type I’d be drawn to, only to find that they were funny or very fun to be with and then the ice is broken and a relationship has time to bud. It is so hard to judge a book by it’s cover. Dark hair, dark eyes and a touch of color to the skin is my type but, some fair skinned, blonde, blue eyed women have won me over with their charm. ❤

My biggest boundary that I am not willing to compromise is p*rnography turns out A LOT of men watch it. I’ve been dumped because of it. I am honest with all the men I’ve dated about it all of them left me. I would rather stay single tbh I’m mentally better 😅

As an introvert, I'm totally fine with everyone walking around with earbuds & their eyes glued to the screen. It means they won't attempt to interact with me. Pure bliss!

I was on some online dating apps for two years 5 years ago. My experience was somehow good, as I learned to know more the character of these men who actually want nothing but sex and money..... There were several that I personally met and not one of them were exactly what they mentioned in their profiles. I decided to cancel all the apps and would never do it again. I'd rather be *single* *forever* and I'm happy this way. However good luck ladies, but be extra careful.

This was a very interesting topic to discuss. And it's very important to discuss it. Too often, both men and women are spoiled for choice. And when things don't seem to be working out, instead of trying to find a solution, they just start looking for a way out and find someone better. Far easier than just working on the relationship, but they don't realize that the grass isn't always greener on the other side and you'll never really understand how great you have it until what you have is gone. The online dating doesn't really help matters.

I'm 45 and gave up. Couldn't meet anyone online and despite being quite an active and outgoing person, I still don't meet any men in the real world, and my friends have no men to introduce me to either because they are all single. I've accepted now that's life!

Correction: dating apps benefit the top 10% of men, not all men.

Anna, I really wish that yiu've added the huge impact of a hookup culture that has on men, makeing "open relationships" possible, which means that -again, MEN are able to get sexual benefits without commiting, and also the low effort and non pursuing the woman that they are seeing, because men have become so feminine - more than women actually.

I absolutely agree that you can meet men anywhere! Go out and just live your life, participate in things that are of interest to you. Do NOT have an ‘agenda’ (men smell desperation a mile away). Be open and upbeat and let your personality shine. I have met men waiting in a queue, at lectures and Art classes, the grocery store, post office, etc. When I was in my 30’s I met my husband in an elevator - both on our way to work downtown. We were married 18 months later. You don’t need a dating site!!😖

I give a man maximum 8 months to propose me (I also do not cohabit) If a guy is in love, he does it pretty quickly If he carries on dating and not marrying, to me it means only one- his feelings are not strong enough And I prefer breaking up after a certain period rather than cohabiting and dating with a man for years and one day watching him proposing another girl in a week

I just can’t believe dating has come to this

I would use the term "childfree" over childless since most women are choosing not to have kids versus not being able to

Don't expect perfection if you are not perfect yourself.

Totally agree with you, Anna! Dating is awful. The last time I online dated was 2020, just before the pandemic. I'm 47 and have lived a full life thus far, but even I was shocked and disgusted by how forward most men my age are. It's like back off, buddy. I'm not here to casually sleep around. To answer your question about why it feels hard to find love these days, I think living in the age of instant gratification has a lot to do with it. True love takes time to develop while getting to know a person. That's also hard to do because everyone plays the field while online dating and we do ditch people easily because the dating field is so vast. Although I'm not currently looking for a partner, I will say (that as a lawyer) it has also felt hard to find someone as smart and educated as I am. Because of that, it almost always felt like I was dating down, which posed an interesting paradox since I was never interested in dating a workaholic either. Not looking to date feels fortunate.

Most of men want free cook. They don’t want to afford outside meal because it is too expensive these days. Somehow I understand it, but even though outside meals are expensive, modern men are too stingy, and also act too childish.. they want women to be mommy. They want 50/50 roommates(as same as bro) They don’t want to make plans for nice dates. Dating is horrible these days. I think single is way better seriously.

Moving out of the big cities is such good advice and this key is what worked for me. The city men usually avoid commitment at all costs, and who can blame them? They are facing the same paradox of choice we are.

I really enjoy the direction you are taking with your content. Thank you for talking about the deeper topics! 💞

Everyone get real. Women want a men with the three "6s". At least 6 feet in height. 6 pack abs. 6 figure salary. Ladies, that's less than 1% of available men. Good Luck! 👍

Thank You so much for your definition of "settling". I came to a similar definition as I got older and came to realize my needs getting met was more important than "packaging".

Very good advice on moving out of the city. I live in the country, not too far out from the city but it's quiet and calm. It is so much easier to meet people out here and form friendships than it was in the cities. Now I've met their families and friends, and been to parties with their extended friends. If you're single, it's a great way to meet other singles, many of whom have shared interests.

I am 32, just got dumped over text by someone whom i dated for about 2 months. Met via an app. Why did i get dumped? Oh well, because I kind of outlined my boundaries to him. And boom, after two days he said I am amazing and blah blah but not what he is looking for. I am happy that I didnt waste a lot of time on him. It felt like till the time I am laughing, all is good but the moment I called out his BS. He backed off.

Step one… Stop watching so-called reality shows. Step two …delete your Facebook and Twitter accounts…. Step three. Go out into the real world and remember you’re not perfect. Life is about compromises.

It was strangely soothing listening to you talking about a topic I'm almost not interested in at all. But now I think about the guy I met last year that looks like I will never see again and my heart cries

I met my husband on tinder, because I was studying too much back then, and he was working too much. My groupmates were only girls, his colleagues were mostly men. And we are absolutely happy now. But talking about dating apps in general - I had only good experience. All the dates I had from there were really great and interesting people.

I know women who met their soulmates online . It has nothing to do with age , preferences , choices, … there is no formula! Yes women should invest in themselves and be classy but unfortunately it doesn’t give you guarantee that you will be with a high value man and be his wife one day. You can’t control certain things .

Dating for me has been so hard from the beginning, no one was ever interested in me growing up...in my late 20s i was told i should settle down instead of focusing on work, so i signed up to a dating site 😔 the worse thing i ever did, i thought i did my due diligence...met a well spoken, kind man that was going through a divorce with his so called wicked ex wife...not long after I found out i was pregnant, got told its not his and he wants nothing to do with us...now I'm 36 with a 9 year old, only dated once in the 9 years but now being told thats my life over, ill never be a wife or have any more children. Now i feel i let my daughter down by keeping her due to not feeling comfortable being a murderer and she'll probably have the same problem as me because shes come from a broken household. I hope its not the case for her...I wanted to set a good example for my daughter but clearly my stupidity and naiveness has set her up to fail too. I wish there was more talks like this growing up because I could have been a better example. Thank you for sharing this content, i hope that it helps more young women 💯💖✨🙏✨

My dear Anna. I think it is generally hard to find love, not just 2024. I appreciate everything, you have taught me so far🙂

People are more interested in hookups than meaningful relationships.

Tried Tinder a couple of years ago and honestly got bored, prefer to interact with people in real life thank you

I think the no 1 reason is lack of connection because of our very agitated lifestyle nowadays, you’re no 1 point as well on this list; and no 2 for me is clearly the unrealistic expectations we ALL or most of us seem to have these days. I’m glad you said that and I love how you sustained your argument because yes, I see that a lot of times, women in the dating/ femininity community basically say ‘all women, regardless of how they look, CAN find a millionnaire or whatever, which is very UNTRUE. No, you cannot look however or do in life whatever etc and have that ‘ideal’ man or woman. Just like Anna said: you need to be on his/her level. In the femininity/dating community women seem to have forgotten that they themselves too HAVE TO BE ON HIS LEVEL, not just the other way around.

Agree on all of this. I have found liars, fantasist, scammers, married men, men with bad mental health, men who looks years older, men looking for a woman to keep her. I advise women in 30 not to tarry as only gets harder over 40 50 etc....😮

I said exactly the same thing in my video (The dark truth about Tinder) about women being less focussed on a man’s looks… and then another RU-vidr called Lorry Hill flamed me in the comments claiming that women are apparently MORE focussed on how men look than vice versa. Needless to say, I’m glad we’re on the same page. Love your videos Anna 🙏🏾

In my 70s, I always dated more than one guy at a time from teen into young adult when I met my husband. I feel certain that it was easier to tell that we were compatible because of my experiences. However, he only dated one woman before me so……..we are to be fifty years married in a few months.

I think the fundamental reason is that because there seems to be unlimited choice (there isn't), people expect others to come into their life as already perfect with no need to work on anything. This creates inability to choose "good enough for me and make it better together" and instead puts everyone into a chase of an imaginary "perfect partner". Essentially we are living in a culture today that promotes the motto "get everything today and not pay any price for it". The problem is the best things in life (be it relationships, work, self-actualisation, parenting) ALWAYS come through commitment, dedication and hard work. That's just the law of life, which we decided we can change. I personally just came out of a situationship several days ago, in which I never intended to find myself in the first place. But this story taught me that it actually doesn't even matter that I know what I want (I did know what I wanted from that relationship and said it very soon) - if the other person fails to give you proper honest feedback and communicate, nothing will work. Another hindrance is the current obsession with polyamory, casual hookups, FWB and all these kinds of things. I mean if two people are on the same page about the things they want, fundamentally I don't care. But from the literature I've read my understanding is that only maybe 1% of population is truly psychologically wired to live that lifestyle. For the rest of us mortals it brings nothing but commitment issues, inability to build meaningful emotional connections and this illusion of always having the next best choice

100% paradox of choice! And decision fatigue! And yes we're just expected to have relationship skills etc without ever learning or being taught, and as a society we just lack mental health knowledge and education so much. And yes I recommend the book Date-onomics where it talks about there's a shortage of college-educated men but college educated women really want a partner with the same level of education, and yes NYC is notorious for having way more single women than men! Great video and you continue to produce such great content Anna! xoxo

I've totally given up at my age. Online dating is like creepy shopping to me and so superficial. I need a soul connection...a soul recognition. Yes, that can happen. Having a couple of things in common is not remotely enough. And, there are WAY more women then men where I live. Thankfully, I'm fine on my own. But it REALLY bugs me when someone says, "I don't understand why you're single." There's no one to date who is interesting and I don't meet anyone! Okay, done venting.

I love this so much. I tried online dating very briefly. Too many weirdos, too little time. I'd rather live alone. I have a good life. I met my partner after a book signing of a friend

Anna, wow. Thank you, that was both uplifting and incredibly informative. I was trying to wash the dishes while listening and had to take a seat cause this was exactly what I needed to hear. My boyfriend of 3 years broke up with me this weekend and it's been a tough weekend because I was completely blind-sided and was in love. Yes I feel sad, yes I'm upset - but I'm not gonna give up. When I'm ready, I will go back to online dating (even though I REALLY dislike the idea of having to get back into it), but I appreciate your perspective on making it efficient and making it a numbers game. I'm an entrepreneur so I know it's a numbers game; I know that one more no is just another step to finding a yes. Even though in this moment, I feel defeated, I know I deserve to be with someone who loves me. So thank you Anna.

I completely agree with what you say. Although also the more you grow as a person and your self-esteem grows, the less need you feel to have a partner. I've been single for two years and I haven't been with any man (not even intimately) and I don't miss it. In fact I have never felt so full and happy 🥂

I tried to do the dating app thing, but realised it is not for me. Even conventionally attractive looking guys do nothing for me. I felt like I am too picky and have too high standards. But I have realised I need to meet someone in real life and feel the chemistry, before I can feel attracted to someone.

I asked my wife if she considered me a high value man. After a few hours thinking, she settled on Yes.

This is the video I needed today 🙏 Thank you, Anna ❤ I’ve been watching your videos for years and you’ve inspired me so much!

I am having a tough time in the dating realm myself. There just doesn't seem to be many good quality men out there anymore. I have been taking a lot of your advice over the years and I have developed into a very refined lady now I just need to find a gentleman on the same level.

You should not forget one thing. Mainly attractive women get the choice via dating apps. Men (unless they are in the Top 5%) do not get a choice via dating apps.

As an indie musician i used to feel like this was only a problem for everyone else because in my scene people still dated in person and met in person more than online but honestly ive met plenty of indie boys that are spoiled for choice also on these apps back when i was still dating. Two of them that i met in person didnt like how i looked in person. They didnt say it out loud but i could tell. Even these guys that were supposed to be more authentic and artistic got sucked into meeting girls online and feeling superior to regular women because theyre spoiled for choice with women with fake nails and 50 layers of foundation and not artsy girls anymore, or just trying to find the most perfect looking version of their dream girl to complete the package so they can make the purchase and not return the inventory.

I don't disagree with your main points. Your advice to women, on expectations and boundaries, is particularly on point. However, I think it's fair to say that the factors/benefits, which you apply to "men", actually only apply to the top 10% of men... or even fewer. Men swipe (whichever way is positive... sorry, I've never used an app 🤷🏼‍♂️) on more than 50% of women, whilst women swipe on less than 5% of men. 'Average' men have little or no chance. As a result, a small subset of men are swamped with choice, and (contrary to popular belief) not all women are '10s'! Sure, an attractive man will have sex with a '5' (or even a '3', if there's nothing better available at the time! 😔), but that only serves to give the woman a deluded self-perception. As a side-note - also contrary to popular opinion - such men are not 'high quality', in my opinion. I've actually refused women, because I knew there was no chance of a relationship and a brief hookup would be harmful to them, in all sorts of ways (not that they seemed to care!). Of course, there are exceptions, to every word above, but they're rare. As such, it's not worth gambling on finding the exceptions, in my opinion. By the way, all those 'options', that you say women have, come with consequences. Also, one point, on which I'd disagree, is that there are lots of "high value women". Having a successful career and money does not make a woman high value. Most high-quality men do not value those things; and men decide which women are high value (just as women decide who is a high value man). One final note, if I discovered a woman, that I was dating, was dating other men, she'd never see or hear from me again. No high value/quality man (that I've ever met) would tolerate that. Just some thoughts, which I hope are useful.

You said a lot of truth, Anna. I’m personally in the camp of sick and tired of it. The last man I was romantically involved with I met organically. And he wasn’t it. I’m fed up. I’ve tried online dating too and that was a roller coaster I’ll never go on again. I’m fairing better right now being single, living my life to the fullest with my friends and family.

"Dating apps are designed to benefit men" I should have exited this video well before, but I knew it was over for sure when you said this. I'm sure your solutions are just as great

I find the points made in this video so interesting because my own personal philosophy with dating and romance is "I will strive to emulate all of the characteristics I look for in a partner". So if I want someone who is good mannered, kind, attentive, loyal, hard working, etc. then I will work to be more like that myself, because I don't think it is fair to expect things of a partner that you aren't able or willing to do yourself (generally speaking).

Thank you Anna! This is all so true. Being realistic has meant so many more still high quality men are available to us! A relationship is a partnership. So go for the ‘stayer’ not the showman.

Dear Anna, you are shining! I must say that your outside is reflecting your inside. 🥰

At 19:32. Women may he overvaluing themselves to think they are worthy of high value men. If HVM make up 5% of the single male population, women need to ask questions. One of these is "If a high value man of your standards existed, what makes you think he will choose you?"

My last relationship was from 2016 to 2019, so yeah, a total of 3 years. He would make me cry all the time and he didn't care. Afterwards, I have never been interested in pursuing another romantic relationship. I decided that love does exist, but it just does not exist for me.

First your hair looks amazing. Second. You did a great job of explaining the importance of therapy and working towards secure relationships!

I know for a fact that I have dating app PTSD, and I've been off of dating apps for years. It takes a lot of work and time and constant efforts to heal from that experience, and I don't think I ever will. I went onto dating app thinking I was a clean slate. But soon I developed so much toxic behavior myself. I treated others the way others treated me. Because we are all connected. Our energy gets affected by others, then we turn around affecting others with the tainted energy So it's just a very toxic circle, and I was very much a part of that, I was no victim. Realizing the kind of person I was becoming, I just made the decision to quit all together. Unfortunately, not the majority of people realize how dating apps are affecting their mental health. How dating apps are shaping, altering our world views, values, our behavior, our energy, etc. So dating is almost impossible on or off of dating apps. I have more deep rooted triggers that I didn't have before dating apps. And I know there are many more like me...

Wow…that was filled with so much information and insight. I’m in the leveling phase and haven’t thought about dating in a long time. I have been really discouraged by the thought of having to use dating apps, but that seems to be the predominant method now. The “old days” were so much easier…

Lot of women commenting here. The young men I know, mostly from work and my hobbies, just don't care for all the pit falls of dating American women. Not.much is in it for them: in America the laws are completely against them. Also, there is no community advantage for them. They have plenty of entertainment outside of dating. The attitudes of 20-30 year old women I personally find offensive, in America.

It’s so sad how most people want instant self gratification from this one person whom they’ll never commit to but still keep them around until the next meal looks more appealing…