Why you should ask out your crush | Alex Le | TEDxYouth@Dayton 

i feel like this guy actually asked his crush out and when it worked he was so hyped he gave a ted talk about it

Me: You Tube: you look like you are single, here are some tips.

It's called a "crush" because they crush your hopes and dreams

OH MY GOD i've listened to this about a 100 times throughout the last week and was determined and even excited to get rejected and GUESS WHAT HE SAID YES and I was SO confused. So now onto searching for ted talks about first dates😂

Me: I'm going to ask her out. *Crush enters the room* Me: Ight imma head out.

The most awkward part was getting weird looks as I got escorted out of my family reunion

i actually asked him out and he said no. i’m mad at myself now. thank you for coming to *my* ted talk

Me: I’m gonna do it today Later: Her: How’s your day? Me: you too After: Me: It’s ok you weren’t ready for the trick questions

“Why don’t you just ask her out” *You wouldn’t get it*

Instructions unclear, accidentally asked out her dad.

When he said ''your scared it will ruin your friendship'' i really felt that

“You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.” -Some basketball player

I like how everyone out here is getting rejected because of this one video, respect ✊ 💯

"One second we're the smartest, funniest, best looking person in the room. Then we leave our bedrooms and go into rooms with other people." This line almost makes me want to do it.

I tell myself all the time when I get in a situation: "The worst thing that can happen is you'll die "😂

Finalllllyyy gonna Propose my crush tomorrow.. Update: just got friend zoned 🥺🥺🥺 *She said she sees me as her favorite friend*

i just did it guys, the most awkward part of it was leaving the preschool class in handcuffs

I refuse to go out with any girl whose standards are so low she would go out with a guy like me

Can’t relate, I just admire from a distance

I love how he actually is scared of giving this TED talk but he still did it. Proud of you man

"To get something you've never had, you have to do something you've never done."

i did and it’s exhilarating but she doesn’t like me back

Me: asks crush out when I know I'll get rejected *Gets rejected* Me: surprised Pikachu face It happens but honestly it was not that bad

After reading all the comments of people getting rejected, I am starting to wonder whether or not this is really good advice...jk jk. Thank you to anyone that watched this video. I appreciate it more than you know : )

nobody: Me on the inside at school: Whoever here has a crush on me, ask me out. You have no competition. Im rooting for you even.

Bruh why does RU-vid recommend me this now

I asked out my crush and she said she’s going to tell her boyfriend, weird

"What's the worst that could happen? " *He could hear me*

Who else randomly got this in their recommended

"You should ask out your crush" *No, I don't think I will*

“What if climate change is real and all the Polar Bears die?”

Me: God please send me a sign if I should ask her out God: *Literally comes down from heaven and tells me to do it* Me: No

im watching this knowing that i will never ask out my crush

god, is this a sign?

Thank you so much. This really gave me the confidence to ask my crush out and she said yes. Everyone listen to this guy, even if your crush says no I promise you will be proud of yourself afterwards.

The hurt from rejection does not linger like the pain of regret...

You know, I believe that this talk applies to way more than just asking out your crush.

Its not about rejection, its the guts

I had 47 rejections my whole life but I'm still on it.

Three experiences to share: 1. The Monday after homecoming my freshman year of high school I asked the guy I went with about the possibility of us dating and he said he didn't think it was a good idea. (Knowing him better now than I did then, I know he sometimes freaks out and says the opposite of how he feels which is what happened that day.) About a month and a half later he asked me out and we dated for about 8 months. 2. I had a crush on my best friend during my sophomore/junior year of college. I was 99.999 etc. percent sure he didn't feel the same way, but I needed to hear him say it. I didn't ask him out, but I did talk to him about it. I was right, he didn't like me that way. But it was the first of many difficult and awkward conversations we've had that have made our friendship stronger. 3. My college boyfriend and I started dating because I asked him out. I remember debating with my self about whether or not to ask him. Ultimately, I realized there was absolutely nothing he could say that would be worse than the amount of anxiety I was feeling. I have to say I don't regret anything about those experiences or anything that happened because of them. My regrets come from the times I didn't ask someone out or tell them I had feelings for them. "What if..." can be one of the most painful questions to ask yourself.

so im guessing everyone’s youtube started recommending this?

This is where boys get seperated from the men

Still can't get over how good this TEDx Talk is. I didn't have a crush or anything to act on, but this inspired me to take risks in all aspects of my life and has had such a major impact on my life.

Regret hurts more than rejection! So confess your feelings for your crush.

Me: God give me a sign if I should tell him I like him God: Recommends RU-vid video as a sign Me: I don’t believe you, give me another sign

I could give a Ted talk on why this is a terrible idea

I recently asked out my best friend and crush. I was convinced she was not interested AT ALL. But my friends kept telling me to do it. I waited 4 years and finally told her I liked her through Instagram DMs. The next day at school I found out that she likes me too. So that evening I asked her out using DMs again. It was awkward at first and we couldn't talk to each other about this in person for a week, but now, after 2 weeks, I'm happier than I've ever been. For the first time in my life, I was truly happy. No matter what u believe, just do it. We only have one life, and we should try to be as happy as possible in it. Take risks. Bonus points if you make others happy too. Hope I reached you. Have a nice day.🙂

I confessed, and let me tell you, if you wanna tell someone about something, BE STRAIGHT FORWARD. you don't want the person to think what you actually want to say. That's all, it'll relieve much stress at the end of the day

Probably the first guy who wore a 🧢 in his ted talk.

F's in chat boys to everyone who just got rejected cus of this vid...

Me: RU-vid recommendations: “So you tryna ask your crush out?”

For all the people who got this recommended, this is a sign! Go for it, G.

This guy is so convincing, that such a stubborn person like me is actually considering it

*asks the universe for a sign* The universe: Me: no

why need crushes and girlfriends when i have my own monologue and anime waifus.

Took his advice, and it worked!!! After idolizing this girl for about a year this video gave me the push I needed to overcome my fear of rejection To all the boys out there afraid of just shooting your shot, take it from me, it’s so much better on the other side. No anxiety. No what-ifs. Just do it and you’ll thank me later. That being said, I don’t know if my heart has ever beat that fast before LOL

"They might not like you back" Knowing me, they DEFINITELY don't.

Me: tries to talk to my crush My brain: ight, imma head out

Asked my friend (who I've known since we were kids) last weekend and found out that she was already seeing someone else. My advice to everyone: DON'T WAIT. Don't wait for the perfect conditions; assume they won't come. Being honest with someone won't mess up a friendship. The feeling of wondering "what if" later on will hurt more than anything else

Me: Wanna go out sometime? Her: Yeah, when and where? Me: ... (I never thought it through this far)

Me : "breathes in indian accent" Crush : I have a boyfriend

What if ur crush is a 40 yr old woman with husband and kids Asking 4 a friend

"your worried it might ruin your friendship" Me: friendship ha

BROOO I REALLY WANT TO HUG THIS DUDE BECAUSE I DID IT! I FCKING ASKED MY CRUSH IF HE WANTED TO START DATING WITH ME THANKS TO THIS MAN THAT GAVE ME THE CONFIDENCE THAT I CAN DO IT! *Advice* Go talk to them without making excuses or finding a topic to say because we're not in a movie. I asked him in a really cringy way and I could tell he was embarassed but the thing is that it's better telling the truth than thinking of plans and stuff. Update: he said no but that's ok because I honestly don't feel bad because I did something I wanted so bad for so many months. If he feels cringy after that every time he sees me I don't care and that's not my business because I feel confident and since i did something I was scared of, I'm gonna feel proud of me.

Instructions weren’t clear enough, now I’m dating her brother

IT WORKS!!! I just asked my crush out and she said "yea why not" Wish me luck boys

i will always be thankful for this video. Yes, i just got rejected but i’m proud to say, i’ve faced my fears and i told my crush i liked him. Obviously he said no, but i’m so proud of myself bc i did something i was terrified of and now i’m ready to focus on myself and my life again. Thank you very much 🙏🏻

I have been successfully rejected by the girl that have everyone crush on in school. And yea, my confident increased

him: what if climate change is real and all the polar bears die? crowd: *LAUGHS*

"When you fall off that horse, you get right back up and you eat that horse"

If I do ask out my crush and she says yes tf am I supposed to do?

I want to ask him out but I’m so scared ☹️ 😞 Edit: I asked him out.. he said yes!😁 I recommend it😁

I don't currently have a crush, but I'll be taking notes...

Ha I talked to my crush without any likes!

Dude Alex has such an amazing outlook and attitude on life and rejection/failure, and it's gonna take him far. I couldn't help but clap and do the occasional WHOO every few min while watching this because I just resonated so much with what he had to say. Viewing fear as an opportunity to grow is such an awesome way to succeed, and I hope everyone can start doing it, even if it's just a bit more every day :)

I asked my boyfriend out a few weeks ago and I felt the same way. I couldn't believe that I asked him out. I was so proud of myself for doing something so brave.

Me : **watches too much RU-vid** RU-vid : _bro be single af_ **Sends me this**

I'm just going through the comments laughing not paying attention sorry lol

I’ve always thought about this line of logic but having someone solidify it and make it sound legitimate really helped. This was really nice to watch and really helpful.

Ok, the way he opened up the talk gave me chills. Props to him. I'm surprised at myself for actually doing this two months ago, now she and I are dancing around each other (she said she's not ready). Watching this makes me so proud of myself. I felt the exact fear is described so accurately. I'm so glad my crush was lovely and respectful about it. 'It's okay,' she was saying, 'calm down', because I was shaking and laughing unattractively nervously. Thanks for putting that out there, my man, and everyone reading this comment, go on then. Be courageous. It'll be worth it: you'll either learn or get where you want to be.

I asked and she said yes, never thought I would go this far

You know, there's some truth to this. I had a bad experience in high school where I had a crush on a guy for a while and he found out himself. After that, I resolved to never again let another crush find out from others and to just tell then myself. I muddled through college with this ideology, taking it to a whole other extent, telling every single guy I thought was attractive so on their faces, making countless problems for myself what not. 😂 But you wanna know how it ended? It ended with me exiting college victorious with my degree, plus with my batch mates holding a viewpoint that I was fearless and go-getter, never afraid to speak up when I had to. Cause this whole asking ppl out out loud? It ended up translating to all the different aspects of my life too. I became louder and bolder in the classroom, in public space, never reluctant to call out bs when I saw it. And that equipped me better for adulthood than I think anything else possibly could've. Honestly, I only realised this as I wrote it. 😂 So go ahead lads and lasses. Ask out your crushes and stare your fears down. I'm living proof that it's worth it.

RU-vid video : “Do what you’re scared of” Me: “where do I even find crack🤔😭😰”

No. I don’t think I will.

Can we also get a Ted talk on how to become friends with a girl in the first place?

i don’t even have a crush why am i here

I’m gonna sit here and watch this video until I build up the courage to do it. Wish me luck lads

Inspiring speech man, I didn't realize that there was more to asking someone out than just rejection or a relationship, this changes the way I view all of my previous rejections and any that may happen in the future. This speech truly changed my life, and for that I am grateful.

Ayo, why does that guy look so cute though, what's that about?

This is a dangerous game, but can lead to so many possibilities. The pros outweigh the cons, but its just so nerve wracking. GL yall 👌

This video talked about something beyond asking your crush out. It's really helpful

This video has changed my life forever. Thank you so much, Alex!

I love how he expanded the simplicity of asking someone out to the broad concept of conquering fear altogether, excellent talk.

This is an important lesson that I learned earlier this year at 26. Anytime you get that uncomfortable, nervous feeling...Act upon that. When all the cells in your body are shaking and giving you a million reasons to NOT do that thing but you know you want to. If you do that enough times, your life will change in ways you never expect. It's strange, anytime I've ever done something uncomfortable, the universe has a way of rewarding you in unexpected ways. If you act upon that feeling, you elevate yourself from the crowd because you are willing to do things most people are afraid of doing. Taking risks, taking that chance. Literally the best decisions in my life have been the ones that I was most scared of doing. It only takes a few seconds of awkwardness but I'll take that over regret. Expand your comfort zone. Confront your fears directly. Scared of the dark? Scared of asking out that cute boy or girl? Afraid of walking into a gym? Learning how to drive? Whatever kind of fear you have. Start small and scale it up.

That was actually really good. He makes a great speaker, it sounds like he took his own advice and did this speech.

So happy to watch this. He brings the point I have been working on for two years and he did it brilliantly

“Do things you’re scared of” Welp I AM scared of my crush but I’m working on it

I’m starting to watch the episodes that even my psychology teacher didn’t assign

"who here has a crush on someone?" you raise your hand and you see that your husband/wife doesnt

A while back I had to give a speech during my English class and I decided to do my speech on confidence just like what Alex did here. I decided to end my speech with "We only have one shot at life, so why not make the most of it?" and I asked my crush out right then and there. She said yes :)