being best version of yourself doesn't mean suppressing the anger, dissapointment, sadness, etc, and all the hardships that can come in life. Rather it's about how you HANDLE them. You can lash out because emotionally it's what you want, or be vengeful, or react in another negative way, or you can be the better version and learn from the experience, just as an example.
To me the phase “being the best version of myself “ means that I’m not good enough now ! and however I live my life I will never be perfect . My negatives and positives are going to always be there so as a 58 yr old I have finally become comfortable with who I am .
Hi Niomi. I’m 74yo and have been following your journey for the last 3 or 4 years. My thoughts on your subject today are that I’m still on my life journey and still changing/adjusting/amending myself according to what various things I experience daily and what conversations/chats I have with others. I think I’m constantly evolving and I can’t envisage a time this doesn’t occur until my demise, even if I end up in a nursing home with dementia I think I’ll still be on a learning curve with being demented. I wouldn’t be so presumptuous as to think I’m the best version of myself, as I don’t believe I am, but each day I try to do my best. Good luck with your journey x
Hi Dee. I’ve made so many mistakes and made countless judgements that turned out to be wrong over my lifetime that the only thing I can say with certainty is that we each have to tread our own paths. We are all the result of our specific and individual upbringing/childhood plus experiences we’ve had along the way, thus making each of us different and unique.
@@RitaHobartRitas, wise words. It's good to remind ourselves of that, and when we interact with others. Life is a learning process, and is a journey, for all of us. I guess we can only focus on the current moment, we cant conttol the future or past but we made it to now. All the best 💕
However now in the middle of inflation,war etc people are really struggling at the moment,doubt many have time to think about themselfs and all,I believe being a good person is good enough in these times❤️ (if that makes any sense?)
I think this conversation is so important and 1000% valid. In many ways it reminds me of conversations I would have with my councellor. Reaching/upholding some tight rules that make you the 'best' and 'worthy' is not only deeply exhausting but also does not make you happy. In a way it makes you dismiss any 'bad' feelings you have ignoring the information they can provide and it also produces guilt and dissapointment about the situtaion in which you 'fail' to be the best!
Interestingly, this is the 3rd time this week I've either read or now watched something related to "let's be ourselves or our ordinary selves". I'm paraphrasing but I feel that we're now entering the next phase of this "wellness journey" salespitch and will soon see products to help guide us to our "ordinary selves". Just wait for it ladies "be happy just being you when you pay €5000000" 😁
What if „being the best you“ can be defined by the person itself? Like Not „being the best version of you in terms of how society sees you“ but more like „being the best you that feels right for YOU“? And that could mean focusing on the journey or being real, als you said. „best“ is often leading to perfectionism, that‘s true and I am learning that myself. But I really like focusing on what helps me and brings me forward in different parts of life. That doesn‘t mean, that I dont see myself as „good enough“. But the journey of improving something can be quite fun, too. 🤔😄 if YOU really want to do so for yourself. 🤔😄 I think, this is a very personal topic. :)
Everyday is a new day. I believe every night when we go to sleep we re set. Each day is brand new. We can't keep chasing and racing to "the end" It's exhausting. We need to give ourselves a break.
I don’t think some people understand what you are trying to get across. I feel what you say is very true, and especially being in the public eye - you feel the need to be the best version of yourself and maintain it. When actually it’s very tiring. It’s like as kids we experience all sorts of emotions. We shout when we are angry, sometimes are horrible and mean- sometimes are very sweet. And that gets suppressed massively when we are older and we stick to the side of ourselves which is seen better. When actually, we are all of our different sides. And that is okay. I think you’re saying your allowing yourself to be as you truly are, whatever that is. And you’re seeing it. And you have a partner that makes you feel safe to experiences these different phases. I think that is very beautiful. And you’re right, it gets to a point that it’s very toxic this needing to better yourself - to the point where it’s never ending and you can never truly accept what you are.
Loved this. We live in a world that constantly tells us we're not good enough as we are and should always be reaching for more. We need to learn to embrace our perfectly imperfect selves
This good girl attitude just effected on my life a lot. For many years i am the one who always working on the weekends because if someone ask my i found hard to say no and people thinking this is what i want...? I keep doing this for 30 years and finally i end up with one then another found me and ask the same question and this is just on and on and on. Never end....and if finally i say no the people round me just so surprise, and don`t understand what is happened, why now... just the force coming from everywhere.
Well...yeah, toxic wellness has been a thing for a while. Having to be "good" is an age-old patriarchial norm. I'm...glad you've finally got here? Maybe look up cognitive dissonance next?!
For me the beauty of having a "best version" of myself is that it's something that should and will change. Right now, I cannot bring myself to eat healthy and exercise, my best version is someone who exercises and eats mostly healthy. Once I get there, I will have another definition on my best version, maybe someone who has x% of muscle and y% of fat... Maybe a quote from a remarkable author will help more than my words: “Utopia is on the horizon. I move two steps closer; it moves two steps further away. I walk another ten steps and the horizon runs ten steps further away. As much as I may walk, I'll never reach it. So what's the point of utopia? The point is this: to keep walking.” So yeah, a "best version" of yourself evolves and therefore it keeps you walking
Sometimes you have to go down the wrong path to find the correct path, however painful that may be. You look incredibly serene and happy which is lovely to see. xx
My opinion and experience is that life's journey never ends..... until it does, if you know what I mean..... We are always learning and changing thru life and that's what makes it so wonderful. It's short.... just be yourself and enjoy the ride....... we will never be perfect and actually there is no need to be xoxo
I feel like what you just very eloquently described occurs to so many of us as we approach our mid thirties. We have lived long enough to start to have real confidence that our opinions and experiences don’t have to fit the societal ideal. Many of my friends in their 40s and 50s say this feeling becomes more intense over time. It is fascinating. Maybe this is how life wisdom really begins.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts Niomi! It certainly made me think a bit differently about my personal journey. PS The ending of the video was quite adorable! 🥰
I really needed to hear this!!! I have been speaking recently with friends about how I often let myself suppress my feelings of anger or resentment even though people are deserving of those feelings and they are completely valid. It feels like we have to constantly be the kindest, most submissive versions of ourselves (especially as women!!) and this actually is dehumanising and harmful. To not allow ourselves to feel anger or hurt or resentment is actually us not being real and full human beings. I think it is so important to remind ourselves that it is okay to be human, and whilst we want to do the best we can in this world to love others and be kind etc, we also need to be kind to ourselves when we feel emotions that don't always feel 'right'. Thanks for sharing this Niomi as I know it feels like going against the grain to share these thoughts, but they are so important. Sending love always xx
Niomi, Im usually a silent watcher, rarely ever leaving comments but always soaking up your insight and inspiration. I am 32 years old and I live in America as a social worker. I have struggled my entire life with being over weight, binge eating, at some points loathing the idea of exercise and fitness. In my 30's I have found a love for movement, spiritual connections, meditation and food that promote wellness. This process has been very slow and progressive, but YOU have been such an influence for me. I admire your lifestyle and the choices you make for your health and wellness. You are a beautiful soul and I thank you so much for sharing these parts of your life for the world to see. You are an inspiration and Im just so grateful for you and the contribution you have had to my journey! Be well and never give up because youre doing so much more than you even know!
I absolutely loved this video! I needed to hear this. Everyone is going to hear this video differently but it depends on what stage of life they are in, and for me; I am in this same stage of thinking “when does this ‘journey’ end?!” And “why do I need to be the best version? Can’t I just be happy with who I am now?!” Thanks so posting this :)
And remember: you are not your thoughts or your feelings, look beyond them and banish the negative thoughts that limit you and make you feel bad. Embrace the feelings but then let them go if they don’t serve you. ❤
I love this video and I totally agree. Love your growth and appreciate you still making videos and sharing with us such intimate relfections ❤ love from Poland!
I did notice this in UK, moving here from another country. No one wants to moan, to offend, to say anything controversial.. which is good, but it creates this atmosphere where no one says anything and everyone talks behind peoples’ backs, and I think it makes us worse people. People drink a lot to just be able to relax and feel and be themselves as well. People are a bit too sensitive too. I just vote for a society where we can express how we feel, ask questions and have opinions in a civilised and polite way without automatically assuming someone is being rasist/sexist/misogynistic/insensitive/etc. Instead of teaching our children what not to say/do I say we teach them HOW to say things/do things in a considerate way. Sometimes you have to shut up, but not as often as it’s instilled here I think.
A very thoughtful and thought-provoking video. This really resonated with me - on a similar journey to not suppress feelings and just feel them and be okay taking up that space. It also takes a lot of courage to share your ever growing and changing perspective on wellness that may not be what you believed when you first started out. Thank you Niomi!
Dear Everyone: Naomi owes you nothing… she’s protecting her space, and you can’t dictate her values even if you’re a lifelong fan. What she says in this and other videos isn’t controversial, people are searching for things to hate on.
What a cool way of looking at things! I really enjoyed listening/watching you in this video. I will definitely remember that - "Be the whole, real version of you" :)
I love what you shared, I agree it’s about being real. I’ve been thinking about for a while as well, I don’t know if there is such a thing as the realest version of oneself as we’re always evolving but I think the main thread that will show that we are real is living and sharing from our hearts, being love. It’s just fascinating to think about. Thank you for helping see this subject through a new lens 🥰
oh god, yes,yes! loved the video. we do need to not just take things as they are and really separate ourselves and listen to our souls. cannot wait for the conversation about what that healer did for you. sounds amazing.
This is so true! We are being programmed from day 1 to think a certain way, be a certain way based on what other people have told us, what we’ve read or seen somewhere. I think to find your own truth you need to completely rely on your own personal life experience, what you know to be true based on experience, and not what other people are telling you the truth is or what sounds right. Because when it comes down to it, we are all consciousness having a temporary human experience and there is no rule book ❤ love your thoughts in this video
Thank you so much for this beautiful, conscious, open and heartfelt video. I truly resonate with everything you shared and it brought tears of love ❤️ I constantly feel like I can never attain the best version of myself and it's so good to hear messages around accepting that there are so many aspects of ourselves and that that's okay and there's nothing wrong with having a whole range of emotions, feelings and thoughts. Thank you for speaking your truth 🙏 ❤️
Wow! Niomi! What a message❣️ What a courageous video to put out there. Thank you SO much. Think we all needed to hear this and be reminded of what actually matters in life. This was incredibly inspiring 🥰✨ Lots of love 💗
Niomi!! 😭 Here you go again making me cry! I've been following you for 7 years and you always know exactly what to say. Love you and love your heart - thanks for making this video💗
I can see how your consciousness is expanding and it’s beautiful! Curious if you’ve tried any psychedelics? Also I *highly* recommend the book “Inner Bonding” by Margaret Paul, I think you’ll absolutely love it. :)
Niomi, I hope you block all those making passive aggressive, or just plain aggressive comments in response to this video. If they really don't enjoy your channel, maybe they need to be helped to unsubscribe x
As a psychologist there is absolutely nothing wrong with who she is. Life does change you, especially heartbreak. It opens awareness and you grow. Beautiful woman with a warming soul. A very good influence for young girls today! This is rare to find in todays society. ❤
How cute was that ending though? 🤩🥰 Sooooo good seeing you shine your light out into this world Niomi. ✨ It‘s much needed and appreciated. Thank you for sharing your energy! 🧡
Thank you Niomi. I’m going to be working in London and I have this feeling that I need to be skinnier and the best me to get a partner. Thank you for this reminder 🫶🏼
