I think the main reason you should not announce you goals, is that there is a big chance others doubt your capability or pass their own personal judgements. That can make yourself doubt your own capability.
I don't think that's the main reason. I think that once you try to boost your identity and become socially affirmed you're just less likely to take action. (opinion though)
I think the more you talk about it, the less likely you are to do it. It's like when you have this brilliant idea and you talk about it because your subconscious knows you won't ever do it, so now you pass it on so you don't die with it.
SmirkyRayan, The whole point is to not tell people about your intentions, but sharing your accomplishments is ok. Once you've achieved a goal, you can tell your friends and family about it and celebrate it. I don't see it as depressing video, this is just a strategy.
that's very true. Imagine you set and announce to everyone a goal to lead a healthy lifestyle and be fit, while your friends are the opposite. What's gonna happen is that people are just going to get jealous because they can't/struggle to do this themselves and many of them will start demotivating you and creating circumstances to deter you from your goal as much as possible. This is not because they have bad purposeful intentions, but simply because there is an inner child inside everyone, which acts unconsciously
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@@jannikneuwirth2243 True... keeping things for yourself can also work with making good decisions and staying true to yourself. Because sometimes you just need to think about it and you realise you have to say no to it.. but when you already told people they are like 'Oh I thought you wanted to start with this and this' and they see it as a negative thing so it looks like you 'failed' but in fact you just said no what can also be a good thing. So it feels good to keep things for myself so I can make a good decision without people interfering.
yeah i agree with you, even your closest friends can become envious and will try to hold you back on achieving your goals.. so its good to shut up sometimes.. :)
To me, I don't tell people my goals because then, after some time, people will ask, "So you're still working on X?" or "Hey, have you actually achieve X?" Then it will demotivate me because it's like I'm wasting a lot of time but still have not achieve anything in life. I keep myself quiet and only tell people once I have achieved something. It's better to come out as a surprise to other people then to appear as a slacking failure in front of everyone.
Muhaimin Zulkarnain yeah, I feel that one. I've repeatedly told people to stop asking, because it fucks up my focus when I constantly have to 'update' people.
The only time I lost weight was when I started exercising alone without telling anyone. I used to tell people all the time and end up discouraged or unenthusiastic. You wanna do something, do it without announcing it.
The reason you should not talk about your goals is because on a subconscious level you are inviting 'validation' from others. This means you have doubt. And doubt is fear. And this invalidates your power to create what you desire.
Yes!💯 I am a big believer of not sharing your goals on social media because you make it all about validation/likes etc. For example, going to the gym without posting it and learning to motivate yourself is the only key to success in the long run. I mean people know I go the gym but I always say I want to be stronger mentally when people ask about my goals 😉 but yeah.. I have other goals as well but I keep them for myself 🤐
i was once asked what i was going to do in college in the next year by a substitute college english teacher. i said i was going to music University in bristol. He said no you wont, they wont except someone who's slow at learning like yourself. i then explained i'd already been and auditioned only to get recommened by the university and the descision was pending. He still looked sternly and said something like they'll never accept you, you'll do another year here first before they even consider someone like you. flash foward and im now already on my second year of University and they did except me that year. So dont let anyones negative or 'realistic' opinions/predictions from others make you loose balance. keep fighting for what you want. just because someone is a teacher or older doesnt mean that what they speak is right. Also great video man!
I usually don't tell everyone the full details of my goals. People ask me what I'm majoring in or post college plans, and I say stuff like "Oh, probably something in the fine arts or business or something..." because of the previous negative responses I have gotten before. So I'm keeping all my goals to myself.
I've always been told that the less you reveal about yourself to other people, then the more power you have. Mainly because you have the element of surprise, if/when someone realises that you have a skill or talent in something. Which is obviously waaay better than if they watched you do the same thing over and over again and didn't know how to do it themselves, because that's just boring for anyone. I've learned this the hard way by showing people unfinished projects and then wondering why the impact of my work isn't as effective once it is finished... because people already know what the hell it's going to be.
This video is spot-on. How many people get so much gratification from announcing their goals that they act like they already achieved them and therefore do nothing?
I've learned to keep my goals to myself after experiencing tremendous competition and envy from friends who say "that's wonderful" and then copy what I plan to create.
Makes sense. I also think that people will discourage you. Either on purpose or unintentionally by saying something like, "man! I wish I had your skills and motivation. That's great!!! I could never do something as hard as that!!" (Planting tiny seeds of doubt in your mind.)
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This is true..I've tried it.. It's like when you keep your goals unannounced..It builds a pressure which fuels.. That's what happened for me.. Cheers Tom..
Ashley, I can relate. Not saying anything is way better then having someone piss on your goals. We should both have the goal of finding more supportive people in our lives, but don't tell anyone this, just do it!
Now the real question is: Can I use this to my advantage? BRB, telling all my friends that my goal is to constantly eat pizza and procrastinate on all my work
Oops, this is kinda long, feel free to respond to just a part of it: Hey, Tom. I remember hearing this from my communication professor. He did site who he got it from, I wonder if it's the same guy you sited.. I'm too lazy to grab my notes, but he also mentioned that your friends giving you crap for not doing what you promised could discourage you. I wonder if this feature (or phenomenon) is common among all people or a certain majority. I mean, I see a good amount of people who bank their success on the image of their accomplishments or greatness. I mean, more opportunities may arise for those who can speak about their goals (possibly because by conveying goals, they'd be seen as more motivated and competent) and some may be more motivated to accomplish goals if it were to maintain their bolstered image of success. I guess I'm wondering if humility or pride leads to greatness. Change of topic: I recently took a Myers-Briggs personality test online. I'm equally intrigued and bothered by my results (INTP T). Do you happen to have a video regarding personality tests? Specifically, of it's benefits and detriments? I would think the detriments include being prone to confirmation bias (regarding traits) and creation of mental boundaries (within the "predictions"). The benefits would be understanding career goals and interpersonal roles, strength and weaknesses.
not only write down your goals, but also try to go over them twice or three times a day, and take a few minutes to think about them. Overtime, this should help to keep your brain on track, and work to achieve them. Source: personal experience.
Exactly why I just keep quiet, do my own thang, in my own little world. If people don't know, they don't care, they can't judge, they can't opinion or anything.
Andre Carter exactly, anime has taught us that you should tell the whole world your goal and scream it out at the top of your lungs whenever that chance to arises. But this is reality and most people aren't as motivated as fictional characters lol
I regret telling people my goals. They suddenly want to do the same thing I do based off of the fact that I'm doing it. And then they act entitled as if its their own thing. Then I seem petty or like the hater if I don't act happy about it. I'm not selfish but the type of people I deal with are.
You are talking pure gold. Worst people are those who sabotage you everytime because they want you to tell them you'r goals otherwise they will be mad. Damn motivation thiefs, i feel it al the time.
you wanted to make a joke, but that's actually the point of this research, imo. Our mind associates actually accomplishing the goal with the moment we tell our friends we accomplished the goal, and thus telling them earlier than we should confuses it by giving us much of the satisfaction it expects from the accomplishment. So, in a way, our mind does indeed believe that our goal is telling everyone our goal.
Everyone asks me what the fuck am I doing or what I have planned. So I tell them they say "how long you been doing it" I say about a week and then I drop it. But then they steal my idea and quietly do what I said I would do.
Growing up around people who are usually negative, or just don't have high hopes for me, I got accustomed to keeping my goals to myself. The more I tell people what I want to do, the more they try to drag me down. I guess I just got used to showing them what I achieved after I achieve it instead of telling them what I want to achieve. Works better for me personally and adds the element of surprise too :D
What sucks is everytime i get super pumped about something and have clarity, goals, ready to conquer and take all sorts of risks; i would tell close ones what i want to do and even though they show 'passive' excitement, i would go back on my computer and feel this heavy feeling as if i just deflated all my energy out, as if what got me pump like helium got leaked out and now I'm back to ground zero. This is why i decided to never tell a soul anything i do or want to do, and let achievements speak for themselves. it feels like a false feeling of achievement...
Some additional thoughts and responses to questions I've been getting! - "Does this mean you should always be secretive about your goals, and refuse to ever tell anyone even if they ask about them?" My friend Martin had a great response to this: "If people ask me, I just try to remain humble about the goal instead of painting it as this big, grand thing." I think the way you frame the goal is very important. You don't have to make a big point of being secret about your goals; just be humble about them if asked. - "Doesn't this conflict with your Impossible List?" This was an immediate thought of mine when I was reading the research. While my Impossible List is a way of announcing my goals in public, I do think it's a bit different. The biggest difference is that I'm not having an in-person interaction with someone where I tell them my goal and get a positive response. Instead, I'm taking the list of goals I've written down for myself and simply making it public. Because the entire point of the Impossible List is to constantly be crossing things off the list and iterating by adding more difficult/ambitious subgoals, I found it motivating to make the list public. I feel accountable to my audience by doing it. There are several goals on the list that are crossed off *because* I knew they were public, and I was incredibly excited to finally cross them off. To me, the Impossible List is less an announcement of the things I *will* do, and more a record of the things I *have* done and a commitment to do more. One improvement I've wanted to make to the Impossible List concept for a while would be a specific page for each goal that lists out the steps I need to take along with time frame commitments. This is something my friend Matt is doing with his project Money Lab right now; he publicly commits to a challenge, and then updates that challenge's blog post daily with his progress/victories/setbacks. I think I should probably take this approach with my next big project. That being said, perhaps a private goal list would be more effective than a public one! I'm honestly not sure; it'd be cool to see research done on it. The research in this video specifically looked at the announcement of goals in-person, to people in the same room. For now, my chosen strategy will be to keep my goals on my Impossible List, to keep quiet/humble about them in my in-person interactions, and to seek out accountability partners who I trust to hold my feet to the fire. I'd be interested to hear your thoughts :)
The idea of remaining humble instead of painting the goal as a "big, grand thing" resonnated well with me, and I'll definitely use it. Thank you for providing these extra answers, Thomas! :)
Totally agree. A friend told me this 6 years ago and nowadays I avoid it as much as I can, so much that people think that I don't have any goals and therefore, I lack interest in anything. Nowadays, people only know about my achievements when they're done, if possible. Yes, it feels good to tell people about what you want to achieve and do in life, as if you've already done it. But the shame when/if they asked about later it and being aware that it was something I failed feels so bad.... I don't want to be known as the girl who only talks and never achieves anything.
I agree with you: It can make people think that I lack interest. However, now that I look back, I think I was very extreme by hiding my goals, kinda paranoid. Now I am starting to tell my goals again but only to people that I trust and that I know that are able to help me somehow (with their intelligence or constructive critics to my project).
A few months ago I told to a lot of people that I would find a job, and felt so good pronouncing those words... It's almost 2017 and I still need a job. '-'
Everytime I try to quit smoking I announce it to everyone, then start smoking again within a week. Also I've been looking for a job for well over a year, I feel for you dude. Life is shiiiiit :)
In my experience telling people your goals hardly ever really helps. I've always been successful when I keep my goals to myself and only unleash them once the goal is already achieved.
What black magic is this?! I only just randomly came across this video, found it spookily relevant to my current situation, and then noticed it was uploaded on my birthday.
through my life I have always felt a greater fire within me if I kept my goals to myself. Its been exactly as you state...if I speak on my goals then its like I'm drowning that flame with buckets of water.
I feel constant regret of telling my goals and aspirations to people, and especially dealing with the intention behaviour gap, of actually doing things. Thanks it helped me a lot.
I definitely agree with this. A few years ago, I told my friends that I was going to do this one thing (long term goal) and on the first day, I got some encouragements and compliments. But by the end of the week, that goal had completely left my mind, and oddly enough I felt satisfied though I'd made no progress. I didn't know the psychology behind it then, but I realized after a while that I did much better when I kept my goals to myself. I also really hated it when people complimented me. I didn't know why, thinking it was a little odd, as people are usually thrilled to get compliments, but now I figure it's because people tend to compliment me on unfinished goals, like (random example) "You're so good at Spanish!" when I've only been studying for a few months and can construct no more than basic phrases. Maybe that ties into the goal thing, or maybe not. In any case, I prefer secrecy when it comes to aspirations.
Why would I announce to them my goal? Most of them don't like to see me being successful and will try anything to bring me down. Hell no, I don't want that to happen.
I've been preaching this concept for years. Don't tell people your plans for accomplishment. Like, I quit smoking easily without even having told everyone I know about it. There was no peer pressure that way and it was purely just me quitting smoking. When I was confident that I had completely quit, then I told everyone that I had quit.
For me it's because once someone else knows about my goals or ambitions, I'd feel like I'll need to meet their expectations. But when I'm the only one. I can work on my own pace. "Be like a duck. Be calm and serene on the surface but paddle like hell underwater."
robson, o negócio é simplesmente ouvir muito e tentar conversar com alguém o máximo possível :) Mas o mais importante é: não fique tentando falar com essa fluência DURANTE uma conversa. Simplesmente fale, fale fale, do jeito que conseguir, mesmo que seja cheio de sotaque e com certa dificuldade. A prática vai te fazendo perder medo até que se torna algo natural :) Espero que o meu comentário tenha servido de alguma coisa hahaha xD Grande abraço, continue na prática ;)
Ele e alguns outros youtubers disponibilizam legendas em inglês que ajudam muito a desenvolver o ouvido na minha opinião, sempre q vc perder algo lê na legenda, jaja vc ta entendendo tudo. Abraços. Edit: Não é a gerada automaticamente. É a legenda feita mesmo.
I have always believed something like this. Makes it hard when you have family members constantly asking you what your plans are, thought. -_- Though...Probably makes it worse when those people are negative individuals that always seem to be _trying_ to bring you down...
In the esoteric world keeping a goal for yourself simply means holding "that energy" in you without letting it go outside. That's why you feel you can achieve better results than if you just told everybody about it. You just have more energy inside.
Great video. I knew that fantasizing about what it would be like to achieve your goal was detrimental, but it makes sense that telling people is also detrimental. The advice about framing goals into small actionable steps is great since those are the things we least like doing, but are most important to achieve our goal.
Great concept. For me it worked big time when I realized that it's way better to tell people about what you have already done, than it is to tell them what you will do. Like any other person I have ideas/dreams/goals and I play them around in my head but I choose not to put them out there in public until I've actually gotten there. It's just like telling a joke, it's much funnier to say "there's this man who walks into a bar and orders a pizza" than it would be to say "there's this man who might sometime in the future enter a bar and then if we're lucky he might order a pizza". That's not very funny at all, and it doesn't add up much in an arguement either.
That's a solid, straight to the point piece of advice: write down your goals, resist talking about them (too much). Short, concise and effective, here's a thumb up!
Amazing video! Helpful as always! Btw, It reminded me by a quote of the prophet Mohammad "peace be upon him" when he said : استعينوا على قضاء حوائجكم بالكتمان , which means: "keeping your goals as a personal secret (not telling others) will help you in achieving them" ! It's amazing how he gave this wise advice in more than 1400 years ago!
My grandmother always said "Don't talk away your blessings" meaning stop telling "others" your goals and it's very true.We live in a very fast pace world so the first thing we do when we want to achieve something is seek approval by Announcing it on social media & watch your "followers" come and laugh, cry, & love your failed missions. 😂 😢 ❤
Also telling people your goal is likely to cause their doubt to rub off on you. I've found it's only helpful to tell the one person who both believes in you and wants to keep you accountable. And even then, you don't have to share every little detail.
I ABSOLUTELY subscribe to this train of thought. I do find that if I go on social media and just announce whatever creative thing I'm working on before it's really gone anywhere, it tends to dissolve fairly quickly. If I keep it pent up inside me, let it simmer in my mind, not letting that excited OUT, I can use that to fuel finishing said project.
What if I did that already? Actually, for about week ago I told my closest ones about my vision make business.. and they really acepted my "big" idea, I heard really great comments from them (that was surprising, because I did't expect that) and now.. this week I haven't done anything.. like NOTHING. All this week I was sitting and watching RU-vid videos and haven't done anything! Actually, I'm glad, that I found this video, because now I know the real reason of my lazyness. And, yes, needless to say, that before I told everyone about my goals, every day, from morning to evening I was doing a lot of researches about prices, documentation, etc. I'm still little bit stuck in my lazy mood, but I think that get out will be so much easier when real reason is known. So, Thomas thank you for a video! :)
Some of these comments are spot on. Telling people your goals can make people jealous and likely to hinder them. It can also make you look like a failure if you dont succeed. Besides it may sound bad, but keeping people clueless is fun. They assume they know so much when they have no idea. Another piece of advice: When you do start to achieve your goals be careful when you 'show and tell.' Your friends aren't always who they say they are and guaranteed people can be jealous. Be extra careful who you confide in, at any stage of your goals.
I totally agree with the part, where he said "Your mind mistakes talking for doing." I think we, after reaching the milestone of laying out our goals, get so tempted to tell everyone about them ,and them appreciating us even before we do it makes us feel...fulfilled.
i also noticed that. Also it seems better to withhold information about progress that you are doing. As soon as I tell about my progress on something to the person I want to impress, I lose a chunk of my motivation, since potentially impressing that X was part of what motivated me.
I can't believe I just found this channel. Very well put together, thought out and articulated. I just uploaded a video where I DO write down my goals and in a way tell someone about them (you). I would argue, however, in my case this video's message does not apply. Thomas Frank argued that when you tell people your goal you fool your brain into thinking you actually took a step closer to your goal without doing so. Correct in most cases, but in mine I want to bring daily content to the platform for an entire year. Telling you about my goal is a direct step to fulfilling that goal. You, sir, have earned my sub and bell :)
Thanks! And I agree with you - this is a nuanced issue. As some people have brought up, there are certain people out there (like Connor McGregor) who can boast about their goals and then go and achieve them without a problem. However, we don't see all the aspects of McGregor's life - I'm certain he has people around him who keep him accountable to those goals (coaches, trainers, etc). For the rest of us, accountability is key. If we tell others about a goal in a way that creates true accountability, the effect is the opposite. We're more motivated to achieve it. My aim with this video was to discourage people from simply boasting about their goals to people who will only give them positive feedback and congratulations, instead of holding their feet to the fire and checking in later on.
Yes, Thomas, it is a nuanced issue. It is very hard to treat nuance with the respect it deserves, I struggle with it myself and I am very aware of it. It seems that the more you say things like "however" and "on the other hand" the less people want to pay attention. In the extreme you will continue to talk further and further from the original point. In that way, I understand why you conveyed this message the way you did. It has a focused thesis and wraps up nicely in the end (the hallmark of an experienced story teller).
I totally agree with your point of view on this topic. I worked for a real estate office in the past that made you write down your weekly goals on a board right at the front of the office. Every day at 9 am, the manager would go over a loud speaker, yell out your name and then yell out your goal. While that may seem like a great way for you and others to hold you accountable, it also leads to extreme stress, lack of enthusiasm for those who do not meet their goals, negative comments from both the successful and the unsuccessful, and animosity within the office. It was a horrible experience, and one that only lasted THREE months for me and for most of the agents in the office. I am now with Coldwell Banker. We are encouraged to write down our goals and many of us choose an accountability partner to work with. Goals are a guideline rather than the single motivating factor. Not meeting a goal is not something that is publicly announced. Sharing when you accomplish your goal is completely up to you. What we do have are journals that are given to us at the beginning of the year for us to write down our goals, write down our experiences and write down our accomplishments. We are encouraged not to write down setbacks in that journal. Any negative comment goes into a completely separate journal (from a discount store) which we are encouraged to read at the end of the year and then discard. Interesting enough, most of the setbacks in the negative books are turned into positive experiences in the positive journal, and reading that positive journal on the first week of every new year is truly inspirational and puts you in a great mindset for the rest of the new year. It's a great business model and one that has repeatedly kept us a the top of the list of teams with the most productivity in our market. George L. Rosario, NYC's Hometown Realtor www.GeorgeRosario.com
It shouldn't be this way, there's nothing wrong in telling your goals and then not reaching them, especially if your goals don't depend solely on your ambition. For example, I once wanted to be an airline pilot, that was my dream. The national airline carrier, TAP, told me I needed to finish my secondary studies to have a chance, and that's what I did. I finished secondary school as the best student! Then I even made a 300km to deliver my CV and motivation letter personally when I could have just sent a letter or mail but in the end they told me I needed to send my application by courier! That's what I did too, but in the end they didn't even gave me an answer: no no, no yes, no maybe, nothing! Some people are just like that, they enjoy destroying or denying someone else's goals/dreams. I mean, what was I supposed to do, enter the place, break everything and force them to offer me a job as an airline pilot? Beg them?! No way!! If I'm not an airline pilot for TAP that's because they didn't want me there back then! What this taught me is that some companies just aren't a good place to work in the first place, they'll probably just use some silly test to see your true motivation when the son's of the current workers get a job in the company without any problem, no test, and no formal application whatsoever, you just need to know the right people inside. Unfortunately that's the way some companies work.
i stay low-key till they notice me. Like if I run everyday, they call me out on it when they see that I ran everyday. That now is motivation, because I am in the process doing the action of running.
I give you an example why this study isn't correct. There are people who don't behave like that like Connor McGregor. He was publicly announcing that in a couple of years he WILL be the champion. He was confident of achieving his goal. But what makes it work for Connor and why ist the execution in the study incorrect: Connor doesnt "want" to achieve his goal. He has to achieve it. Most people talk about goals, that they only "want" to achieve. Well i think the study only showed us that it doesnt matter if you talk about it or not. They wouldn't achieve their goals no matter if they were quiet about it. Because they never had that drive anyway.
Kind of like Muhammad Ali, he kept saying 'Im the greatest', that made him think he has to win. It developed a lot of pressure on him. His rep was a stake.
Respect brother. I've had some great mentors in my life and never heard this before. I know that goal writing is important, but I always thought I was missing a piece of the puzzle by not sharing them with someone. Good info. I've tried sharing them with about 8 good friends and none of them have followed through. They are usually all about it at first and excited then start coming up with excuses as to why they can't continue meeting or forget about the accountability thing. What I am trying to say is that it's very rare and hard to find like minded and goal oriented people.... I guess that's why the 1% remains ths smaller part of our society. Otherwise, everyone would be rich.
There's so much comfort in finding that all these papers I have stacked mean something. That there are other people out there striving to improve in every way. Thanks for this video. Instant sub, I will check out the rest of the videos whenever I get some time.
One of my close friends is secretive about going to medical school. I never understood why (i guess she doesn't want to risk failure) she'll be pleased with this information Thank you for another great video!
I fully agree and it's been a real eye opener. I would also like to add that the goal of running a marathon is usually to big for most people and they would give up. Breaking a goal down into smaller parts makes it much easier to achieve.
Oh man this video came at the perfect time. I have a goal regarding starting my own business in the next few years, but I keep it to myself and have only told my parents and boyfriend what it'll be. I feel like that way I'm more driven, and I'm not influenced by other opinions (or worried about someone stealing my idea) hahaha
I don't mind if people know that I want to start a business, thats pretty general and a lot of people 'want' to do that! Its the details of what it is and what I'm doing to get there that really matters. Thank you!
+DudeBronkster I definitely agree with you though! Before starting my channel I had briefly mentioned it to my immediate family and a couple of friends. I think if I had told everyone, I would have lost interest fairly quickly!
The struggle on this topic is REAL ya'll. I just did a video on the lowdown of sharing goals myself because it tends to be such a gray area. I do absolutely agree that sharing your goals recklessly can either open the door to needing validation, or allowing others to effect your process negatively, but that's why I feel it has more to do with WHEN, HOW, and with WHOM (who?) that makes the biggest difference.
Ah talking about your goals like that is only about the ego. I knew plenty of people who were HUGE talkers. And then I will do this and I am planning to get that done by August and then how amazing will it be, this and that are also in progress, in short, talking about how amazing and productive and succesful they are and begging for positive feedback and acknowledgement. You might even feel small compared to them at the moment cause you're like omg how many cool things this dude does, who am I compared to THAT? and they FEED OFF of that. Sorry. Their ego does. Cause you reassure them (you basically have to, you can't realistically react in any other way if you are "friends"). Usually with these people their achievement rate stays well beyond their big plans. Oh and you will never hear them talk about their failures or shortcomings. People, don't be fooled :D
Real talk. 100% agree. When I was younger and had a goal, I didn't really have anyone to talk about it to and didn't want to talk about it. I accomplished so much more then. After the big trend of announcing your goal publicly came around - I tried that and every time failed and it was definitely because of the motivation dropping to zero after announcing it. No matter whether you keep your goals to yourself or not - being aware of this is a huge advantage. Know that when you share it, you're going to feel less enthused. Recommit and go go go!
Why you SHOULD talk about your goals - if you tell your goals to those who you have close interpersonal relationships with, it helps hold you accountable. The study you mentioned reinforced your viewpoint because it was conducted with people who the subjects had just met. There are definitely dissenting viewpoints on this matter.
