Great video about understand yourself and journaling. Excellent suggestions. One point of question/consideration/constructive criticism ... Forgiveness is a great tool, but it cannot be given lightly to people. Learning to accept a situation is one thing, but forgiving people that repeatedly wrong us is a sign of a bad boundary. Giving forgiveness to people that treat us poorly gives them the impression that they can continue to treat us poorly. ... just my opinion.
My favorite book to read about forgiveness is the Bible. Jesus is our best example of forgiving others and he was the strongest Heyoka empath to ever live because He was connected directly to the source, The One True God and Creator of the universe that created our very being and knows everything about us even numbers the hairs on our head and gives us a purpose! The more I learn about Jesus’ heart, the more powerful my gifts are. Thanks for the reminder and the encouragement! From your fellow empath that was abused by my narcissistic ex husband. We will rise out of the ashes for “He comforts us so that we can comfort others”. We are all in this together!☺️💖☀️
This is perfect, I find myself being triggered by things. Im aware now that it stems from childhood. I've kept a journal sporadically over the years but I need to do it every night. Im now dealing with a narcissist at work who is trying to trigger me every day... I'm learning to not let it affect me by the day. It's a learning experience
I pray for my bullies. Edit: and she finally became nicer. But I also stopped being such a pushover and trying to make her like me as I found out that just pushes people away. It is a major turnoff! I noticed that when somebody started doing it to me! So when you become autonomous, they come towards you!
Five family suicides (Grandfather, Mother, Uncle, and two Cousin's) traumatic childhood plus Narsistic parents, Ugh. It's exhausting to think about. Journaling and I are not good friends. I end up being self critical and embarrassed over things I've wrote or did. I don't understand why I do this or think this way when I try to journal, but I do. I don't blow up at others. I either hold it in or push it away. I have no problem being assertive, but I've gotten in a habit of thinking it's not worth saying anything or addressing how I feel when no one is going to listen or understand anyways. Those close to me seek guidence with something they're about to do. I give detailed information to them on what will happen if they choose a certian path when I'm asked, but they never follow the advice given. That doesn't bother me. It's their life, not mine. It's when they keep asking and I share what I feel and see again, and the advice is ignored. I'm to busy consciously and subconsciously being pulled in the direction of helping others than helping myself. I've isolated myself in my home for the past seven months now. I actually can't remember the last time I was in public now that I'm writing this. I actually can't remember. I lay on my bed listening to music more than eight hours a day. I know I'm an empath, and I'm now trying to find away to be a healthy functioning empath. I felt so lost and found your channel. I feel validated, but have no idea how to take the next step. It's frustrating and confusing. I feel it's a blessing and a curse. If you have any idea's on how I can journal and not repeat my self criticism I'm all for it. I don't mind a different point of view especially if it can help me understand why I do this. If not, Thank you for helping me to understand that I'm not crazy and that being an empath is real. I can't tell you how many times another individual has called me evil because of my abilities.
I've almost always blamed myself! Learning to understand how "my curse" works is helping immensely! So glad I ran across your video yesterday! THANK YOU!
Our pleasure. Thank you for watching. Here's another video specifically about journalling I posted ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-7swfLLtjtiY.html for you.
Whats important to distinguish is the fact that some folks trigger intentionally especially those who know your weaknesses. Distance yourself from them
Wow! Have you ever had anyone validate an internal thought that is so powerful to you but to anyone else is so unimportant and irrelivant? Like explaining its value to others is practicly impossible but you FEEL the impact of this simple little nothing experience? Over the years I have learned not to ignore something that impactful regardless of its outward apperance. But until this moment i hadnt fully connected the dots. I am probably not making sense to whomever reads this, I seldom do to others. Lol. I just wanted to share my excitment... I FINALLY see the "WHY"! I am so happy I stumbled across your video. Thank you!
I've decided to add a section call empath: I journal and I do that at the end so I can hopefully decipher if it's me or someone or something else? A trigger from past hurt that I haven't healed. I'm taking this really seriously because I've noticed that my daughter is showing signs of an empath and I want to lead the way for me and the generations that come after me to live their best life. Thank you..your video's not only help but saves lives!
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This is so helpful! I've been journaling for decades, and it's true that your mind will reveal to you the answers to your questions BUT you have to be willing - and courageous - to face the "dark stuff" in your own mind. It is only by bringing it into your present conscious awareness that you can be healed. You may have to re-live some awful moments, but if it is done with the present adult identity (see his other videos to know your identity), then you can look at it clinically and finally resolve it, so that you're no longer triggered. Your conscious mind can say, "Aha! I recognize that this situation COULD trigger me, but I CHOOSE to not let it, since the hurt is from the past." It does take a lot of work! But, if you do it right, you only have to re-live the hurt once. And, yes - forgiveness! SO important! Another person on RU-vid once commented, "You're not truly an adult until you've forgiven your parents." Forgiveness doesn't mean you're saying it's "okay". Forgiveness means (for me) you hand the @$%* back to the person and say (in essence): "THIS is YOURS!" It also means you view the person as another human being, and that perhaps someone else wounded them, and they passed it on to you. It is useful to say to oneself, "The buck stops here! I will not continue acting out this violence/hurt against others." It is also useful to remember that we're all mortal. How much of your life to you want to waste on garbage from the past?
I really wish I would've found this sooner. My girlfriend and I have been fighting lately, and all I've been doing is blaming her. After last night I blew up on her multiple times I knew it was time to do something about it. I had her express her emotions and that's when I knew I was the problem without her saying it. I'm so grateful I found this. I really know this is something that's going to help me in my relationship and further on. Thank you
So happy I found this channel. I was stuck watching Narcissist abuse victim videos for 2 years now I am working on me , enough about the Narcissist Ive encountered! Great channel. Thank goodness its an actual person and not a robot voice, lots of channels on youtube that regard empaths have robot voices ♥️
I actually had the opposite effect with this. For years I blamed myself for how I was treated by certain people and it wasn’t me. Was my healing my responsibility? Yes but what they did was their trauma.
THNX Sir! "See the music I consume to escape the doom and gloom All the beats and melodies keep realities at bay But what happens when the records done and starts to fade away ... Alone within myself again I try to veil away my pain The dirty grey surrounding me 'round And now I hear no sound ... I see only what I wanna see I be only who I wanna be My blanket covers me" -Imogen Heap. BLANKET.
I run into this almost daily. Being an INFJ, I love to ponder things. My past and the all encompassing question "why" is my favorite topic. This video came at the perfect time. I've been journaling since I was 12. I reap those benefits. You are the man, keep it up!
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He says it so well! Another thing I learned is be careful about misclassifying your response as a reaction. And don't pay attention to people who misclassify your actions, too. For example, someone was being taken advantage of, and you defended the victim calmly. There is no remorse. Later, you appear out of control, but actually you were intentional. You can sense and understand why they wanted to do the things they do, yet you are sensitive about the conversations not spoken. They knew better than that! Hahaha. You all know there was nothing to forgive, because everyone was right in their own eyes, and you're sensitive to human behavior. It is what it is. Point taken. You've written everything you did right in your journal. When you stick up for someone, or you're a leader passionate about a cause in your speech, or someone is about to get hit by a car, the astute know there's no malice, and you don't need to explain yourself. It's a teaching moment for all listeners, and you sleep well at night. #noShame
I've been doing the journaling, .... a family full of narcissists will make it impossible, you can't heal as you're under constant assault from them and their flying monkeys I may need to go to a shelter or become homeless to escape it's really bad
@@3KeyElements No, really - what she said! Many of us who react would be hugely helped by having it explicitly laid out for us: what react vs respond looks like; the superior effectiveness of responding over reacting; and details on how learn and implement response strategies. I've been fortunate to have spent several productive years on the recognizing-the-past work, have been dealing with the forgiveness part, now need a plan for replacing this old (ineffective and painful!) way of life. Ready to do this!
Fortunately you have NO idea what I am going through and Trust me when I say you are very Lucky ❤️. I'm not married and I'm not mad but Bravo Gentlemen kudos to you.
Dude. I read Tik Nat Han's book " Anger " 3 times and it really helped. Now I only throw rocks into the lake where as I would throw them through school windows. I no longer cut the neighbors telephone and cable lines because of wireless. It's a good read. Please recommend more. I could use all the help I can get. 👍👌👍👌
Thanks! I’m working on this now. When my reaction to something is too strong for this situation, I think about what it is really about, meditate and release. In the meditation I ask if I am addressing the right trigger - really interesting process.
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It's Like U Gave Ur All & Ur The Scapegoat Wth B4 I Got Married Work 8 Years Without Missing 1 Day Was The Provider Yet False Accusations Etc I Am Listening Thank U
I have a question: I know there are some situations where we ourselves are the problem, but what about situations where someone close to you is acting in a inappropriate/ hurtful way and you have a bad reaction to it because it was really hurtful. Is the person acting hurtful the problem, are you the problem or are both parties the problem? If it’s the latter two choices, doesn’t it make sense that the person being mistreated is upset and has a reaction to it? (I’m not talking about anything super drastic on the part of the person who feels hurt: Just things like raised voice, upset body language, leaving conversation in a somewhat rushed manner, ect)
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Kirk, grateful for your work. After watching this presentation and found your analysis of Re[Live], I became curious on the Respond side along with others in this thread. The only thing I found was it maybe addressed in another video. This awakened my RAS and it responded with Re[Learn]. Respond should tell your mind to open an expanded experience. Time to update your memory experience at this time with more knowledge.
Brilliant inform mation , so keeping a journal is equivalent to using our brain frontal lobes to work out the fears, that response is taking responsibility for the acts that are keeping me/us stuck. living in the amigdla as empaths do reliving the emotional brain the celerbelm .. I'm being brave commenting .. thanks to you .. I did something positive,instead of thinking bad thoughts that I'm no good . What I'm trying to say is by doing a journal your shifting the energy from the amigdla to the frontal lobes and keeping it there
Great insight. Thank you! Here's another video specifically about journalling I posted ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-7swfLLtjtiY.html Thank you for watching!
The mind wants to live? Is that why the rate of suicide is at what it is? Is that why it always comes to suicidal thoughts? I know exactly what is in my past that hurts me
Nic Mackowey I've wanted to ask this question for so long but felt it was too much and didn't want to trigger anyone. But I would love to know because I went through it too
Great content, thank you!!! Quick question - Could we feel the same emotions (feelings of the person) even the person is in the other side of the world?
You need to change your outlet switches and covers on your stone backsplash to either a dark brown or brass color in aged brass or oil rubbed bronze. Sorry, I'm an Art Director. I can't help it. It would look so much better.
Can I type? Like make in journal? Just coz I think fast but writing is slow. Please reply. I will make a word document. I always wanted to write n put my thoughts emotions into a book.
In my view ' forgiveness' is a obsolete infected word. It activates shame and blame in you, in which you have no part of, as a young open-minded child. We are all fooled and bothered with our "forgiveness" .. and even to turn our other cheek if you're allready abused!? The fear of not receiving love anymore, when you don't tolerate suffering is really absurd! We've learned that we all are sinners as young childeren, but why?? This doesn't worked all with me! I accept my fate, but I'm under no obligation to forgive anyone who ever contributed to only my decline!! Learning to accept people to do this to you, is already quite a task to accept...pf.. Forgiveness is in most cases pure biblical nonsense! When someone slaps me I won't give my other cheek, knowing that my whole body will be devoured. No more playing with me at my expense as empath..
Wrong! We receive what we believe ALWAYS! We attract to us anything and everything that we believe to be true. We attract, no one is doing anything to you, we are simply drawn towards people and situations that reflect back to us what we FEEL is true for us. Being honest with yourself, being honest with what and how you TRULY FEEL INSIDE about yourself and your life will help you to understand why you keep feeling bad, sad, angry, empty, unlovable or unloved etc. We own everything that happens “to” us, because we are attracting it. Everything and everyone else is simply a reflection of what we believe about ourselves. And, it’s not coming from our minds, it’s coming from our heart and our soul. Feel positive and positive things will begin to come to you.
