Wife Leaves Letter Implicating Husband in Her Murder | Sandra Duyst Case Analysis 

So if you find yourself thinking "I should leave a note in case my spouse kills me" .. it's probably time to end that relationship, fast. Murder also taints that perfect family image.

Sandra literally solved her own murder posthumously for the police.

I watched enough true crime to know by now that a mix of love affairs, insurance policies and ultimatums never end well.

I can imagine that being attacked by her husband in the barn would lead to symptoms of depression and a personality change.

Bless her heart. Not only did she die at her husbands hands but she also lived in fear of him. I’m glad that justice was served. Hopefully she is at peace now

Dexter the horse might not have tried to kill her, but her husband sure does sound like a thoroughbred nightmare 🤔

Don't know if it's an analysis of murder and mahem, but I do know I will sleep peacefully after listening to Dr. Grande's soothing voice.🍀🍀🍀🍀

Well, of course, there's always a secretary in the midst of a murder case. And there's that insurance payout that comes in so handy!

It is so sad that money means more to some people than the life of another. And that these spousal killers never think of the great harm they do to their children by killing a loving parent.

Nothing says marriage material like cheating on your wife. Couldn't have said it better myself. This was a fascinating story. Thank you for sharing this story and your thoughts.

This whole video you put together was so incredibly fascinating, and very sad! It always makes me laugh when you go on a little rant about the ridiculousness of the Lie Detector test! 😅 Also had to laugh when you said ""I guess she was excited at the prospect of being with a man who cheats on his wife. Nothing says marriage material more than that." Thank you again for your exceptional work, Dr. Grande!! ♡♡

“Not being killed in the first place is always the better strategy.” Amen, Dr. Grande. Amen.

Hi, everyone! I'm watching Dr. Todd Grande from Brazil. I love his videos. It's 02:03 am in my country.

Remember, Grean River Killer passed the lie detector test & knew where the bodies were, so what lie detector measured was his 100% lack of emotions about his murders.

If ever you feel the need to write a letter like that, maybe it's time leave with no forwarding address.

"not getting killed in the first place is a better strategy" - Dr. Grande, 2022

An equestrian that has her own horse has enough experience to know how to be around them without getting kicked in the head. Also, rarely do you survive this kind of accident. I’ve only met one person in my entire riding career who got kicked in the head by her horse, let alone surviving it. My heart goes out to Sandra’s loved ones..this crime is so tragic..

"I guess she was excited at the prospect of being with a man who cheats on his wife". 🤣

Being beaten in the barn was obviously traumatizing for Sandra, but also for her horse Dexter. It seems like someone could have determined if the injury was really from her horse.

Chilling case very sad. It's amazing how many husbands kill their wives instead of choose to divorce even though most get caught. I would choose to loose everything in a divorce and have to start over again than risk my life to die locked up in prison.

No mention of the affair in the letter. I am guessing the wife found out about the 10 year affair and confronted the husband in 1998, tried to kill her. Sorry for the children lost both parents.🙏

This man is intelligent and charismatic, I just can't stop watching his channel. God bless you Dr.

“Nothing says marriage material better than a man who cheats on his wife.” Gotta laugh out loud at this and your follow-up Dr. Grande! Thanks a bunch.

Dr. Grande is now part of my night routine, I often fall asleep listening to his voice. 🥰

There aren’t many people who can say “blood splatter” and still keep me relaxed like you do, Dr. Soothing and funny, too!

Every time you say someone was "active in their church" I brace for impact. Do these people not understand what divorce is? Thanks for sharing. P.S. She was probably afraid of the crazy psycho, good thing she wrote the note.

Always enjoy your videos. In this case, it might be or feel very hard to leave a marriage, with children involved. Not only appearances, but feeling helpless and dependent, and even fearful of leaving an abuser. As a lifelong equestrian, it is highly unlikely, virtually impossible, that her horse kicked her, especially that it would land a blow on her head inside the confined space of a stall or even barn. I believe her letter completely. So very sad.

1.) The Dr. who treated her after the barn incident stated the wounds were NOT consistent with a horse kick. The wounds were smaller and there were several of them. 2.) Wish you had explored further the interesting aspect of why someone would stay in this situation. Most women in a relationship with a man who has attacked them strongly feel leaving them would trigger an escalation - as it so often does esp. with psychopaths. Also leaving takes strength and how strong are you feeling after an axe attack? Not to mention the cognitive dissonance that might occur after such an attack.

Still shocks me how much police use and rely on those "lie detector" machines, its appalling.

I think she kept it secret because how do her children process that their father tried to kill their mother *so* brutally? The thought had to be overwhelming to her. Also, she may have been trying to wait until the kids finished school (worried about lifestyle/financial implications of divorce). 😢

Would you please consider doing a video on the Mandela Effect and what in the world is going on when a lot of people remember things a different way and others say that never happened. Thank you

I like your simple intro & straight to the point style! Non of the hoopla of other channels 👍

I finally found the common denominator. "Perfect Family". That seems to be a common thread in a lot of your videos. We all know there are no perfect families. Always interesting. Thank you. Peace 💕🇺🇲

Hey Doc, you're like a modern day psychological Sherlock Holmes! Great insights and detective work. Your videos are amazing. Good job🙂

That "...write the word 'lying' on a piece of paper, fold it, and unfold it at the right time" line had me LOL!

That was an awesome analysis as always. Thank you so much Dr Grande

Watching from the Philippines! Love Dr. Todd Grande videos...always. Thank you.

I loved the last line, yes "getting justice is important, but not being killed in the first place" is indeed a good idea. Another great and insightful video! You continue to give keen and amusing commentary of otherwise tragic events and people, which creates great content. I always try and tune in when you put out a video. Thanks!

It was clearly suicide. She stabbed herself in the back...... 19 times. (A different case.)

His humour in this one was on a new level. Had me laughing out loud several times. Dr. Grande is a staple to be included in my every day!

You are hitting all of the good cases from Forensic Files. And you give more insight into the cases as well. Well done, Dr. Grande!

The analysis is more intriguing as always, Thank you, Dr. Grande.

The guy must be kind of a psycho, he must have been so relaxed after the murder that convinced the police and could pass a lie detector because of the false belief that a relaxed person is not guilty, when it's just a rarer personality trait.

1:20AM in Ontario, Canada. Thanks for another great video Dr. G❤️🫂

It's terrible Sandra was going through Abuse!! But it was Brilliant to write, and hide that letter! Rest In Peace Sandra 💔💔🙏🙏🕊️🕊️

Brilliant analysis Dr Grande, I believe he killed her, for his mistress and money. Sandra was a smart woman too leave a note to implicate , her husband, for her homicide. Thank you Dr Grande. Awesome analysis and sad topic.

The hilarious verbal bludgeoning given to the efficacy of lie detector tests was the best yet. Just as I'm chuckling at the red light analogy you drop in the folded paper line, I can't breathe for laughing. Just what I needed on an otherwise dreary morning.

“Not being killed in the first place is always a better strategy.” 😂😂😂

It's creepy not knowing the truth even after her death.

Good evening everyone.

Why would he give them the clothes he was wearing? He certainly had other clothes he could have handed over that didn't have blood on them. It's so easy to catch the stupid ones.

Can you do the show sister wives please

Don’t you just love it when Dr Grande says “please like it”.. 🙈😂😍

a get out of jail cupon would have been more appropriate! you nailed the humour once again! you never disappoint!!

How people viewed her ? Well now they will view her as dead

This is so sad. She was probably worried about the consequences of reporting him or leaving. As someone who knows how it is first hand it’s overwhelming and scary. You worry about every little prospect of leaving and most of all how the person will react once you make a move. You don’t want it to get worse and you’re happy for any momentary peace.

The stories people make up to cover their tracks never cease to amaze me. Lovely shirt. Thanks Dr G😊💖💖

I have so many videos to catch up on of yours, Dr. Grande, and I couldn't be happier about that! I hate that I've missed your videos for almost two weeks, but wow, you've been a busy man pumping out such great topics! Thank you for all of your hard work. We appreciate you! ♥️

Nice to see you still going strong Dr., congratulations on 1M! I believe I saw this story on Dateline, 48 hours or one of those classic vintage shows back in the 90s..ty!👍💛

Thank you for speaking about the reality of lie detector tests, and the manipulative, even dishonest manner in which they are used. That poor woman. The fear and anxiety she spent her last days in must have been it's own level of hell. But, the strength and courage it took to write that letter is astounding. May her soul be free and at peace.

I am really enjoying this channel!! Deadpan jokes are my favorite so far, I laugh so hard! Bravo Doctor!

That was most intriguing. I hope you& your family have a lovely evening. PS : it’s raining here in California! Finally!

Dr Grande your voice and choice of roast lines are all therapeutic 💆🏻‍♂️

I love Dr. Grande and I gotta say when he said, “so called ‘hot sex’” I nearly spit out my drink.

I wouldn't say impossible with many things people haven't seen before. I was at a range qualifying on the 240B. We pair up with a battle buddy so they could help us walk in the rounds because the weapons were not zeroed. After my section sergeant called for a cease fire I sat up away from the machine gun and my battle buddy found a round that had not been spent an the ground and dropped it into weapon. It instantly fired. My section sergeant ran up screaming (this was in 2007 just prior to deployment) and I explained want happened. I was told it's impossible to fire a round without the weapons firing pin striking the round. Luckily my spotter confirmed my story. I guess the weapon must have been extremely hot for that to happen. I'm not sure.

Your dry humor is hilarious 😆😆

quality content, thank you for your awesome work

Just an FYI, older S&W automatics had a flat steel sear spring that when/if it lost tension results in "double taps".

Dr Grande knows a lot about guns.

Really interesting episode! Thanks!

Good episode Doctor. Keep up the great work.

Love your work, and your sense of humour. Very clever and informative. I enjoy everything you do. Thank you for your hard work and constantly new posts

So enjoyable, thank you Dr. Grande!

You're brilliant and hilarious, Dr Grande. Thank you for sharing your fascinating and entertaining analyses. I can only imagine how much work goes into producing them, too. So thanks, thanks, and ever thanks!

This is one of the best RU-vid channels. Thanks for all the amazing content

Wow man congrats on 1 million subscribers! That’s incredible. I just love your videos and you always make me giggle at least once during the video ;)

Love your videos. Smart, to the point, educational and great humour!

As we all know, relationships are so complex in every aspect. You could be sleeping with enemies. I thought I met a man of integrity; a most caring, honest, and responsible man with strong work ethics and married him 22 years ago. It turned out extremely disastrous, and I couldn’t trust myself of making a right judgment anymore. So I decided to remain single. One thing I trust myself is the decision I made 18 years ago.

I made it early! Thank you, as always, Dr. Grande!

That is an excellent idea about the letters! Fantastic analysis, Dr. Grande! ❤️

Many depressed people don’t care if they live or die and the thought of her having to leave her husband and start over may have been too overwhelming for her to deal with so it was just easier to just keep on the way things were.

I remember this story!! Love hearing your insight!

SOOOOO good! Thanks!

The guy is great. Even though this is a serious/tragic crime he manages to make us laugh a little. I enjoy listening to his professional take on various people and crimes.

Sometimes I don't know whether to be impressed by Dr Grande's knowledge in guns or scared. Also David was guilty as hell.

Dr Grande just an FYI in this video the audio seems to have an issue where every time you talk there is a bit of a buzz in the background. Something seems wrong with the mic. Love the videos!

Best voice,best stories and that is a perfect color of shirt for your completion!

I love how Michigan prison jumpsuits are in Detroit Tigers colors 🤣

Another great concise view

That was excellent, doc. 👍

I like this vid. Good insight, great analysis.

I loved your comments about people wanting a 'perfect family' 👍

Dr. Grande on his [ lie-detector ] vendetta...💯

I remember this case. Thanks for this.

In the future if you have a "special" episode, I request a compilation of funny endings or funny out takes (we know you have some 😁)

HI DR.GRANDE!!! 🥰

Your idea at the end reminds me of the tv show "YOU", where the therapist told 2 married serial killers (ofc she did not know at the time) that their relationship is fixable, it was not like they were murderers :).

I like the inculpatory letter writing counseling idea.

I am from GR and never knew this happened! I was a kid though, so I’m sure that was by design. I like your idea about the notes, Dr. G. I can see your next book-Harm Prevention: A wife. A husband. A mistress. The note…that binds them! 😁 📖

I love your sense of humour and calm voice