Will A Dismissive Avoidant Return After NO CONTACT 

After taking 4 attachment style tests (including yours) I tested secure on 3 out of 4 of them (one if them was yours). The other one I tested DA and from watching your videos I see myself in things like autonomy and slowly warming up. That said, when people go no contact with me, I just assume they want nothing to do with me and move on. I actually cut off several people I really liked as friends who stopped taking my phone calls and unfriended me on social media. In essence, I view the no contact as a subtle hint that the person no longer wants me around and I simply oblige.

@@sifublack192 no contact refers to the period after a romantic relationship has broken up and the person who got broken up with does not contact their ex, usually for a minimum of 30 to 60 days, so they can concentrate on healing as well as give the person who did the breaking up space. it refers to not reaching out to the person who did the breaking up unless the other person reaches out first, out of respect for oneself and for the persons decision who did the breaking up. that is a different situation to so-called friends walking away without warning/prior discussion.

@@sifublack192 thank you for sharing

I have to admit something I think I should feel guilty over. Today I (AP) decided to leave my DA of 9 months. She cheated in a context that was forgivable. But having the conversation of "here's what I need" was like pulling teeth. And even after, that conversation just rooted her in her fears. I should've given her space to process and overcome those fears, but I was losing my mind. Today I decided to break things off because she couldn't meet my expectations (after only a few days of actually talking about things). For today, I failed no contact, but moving forward, I'm literally an atheist praying that she realizes what we meant to each other and comes back. I know no contact shouldn't be a manipulation tactic, but it's the only thing I think is going save an unhealthy relationship I have to probably the most special and beautiful person, inside and out, that I have ever met. I've been through hell in relationships, but nothing has ever hit me this hard. I'll be signing up for the program tomorrow.

One i dated 2 years ago recently contacted me and apologized for the way she acted and took accountability for everything she said. She gave me a full explanation and told me she has started going to therapy. Then she kissed me.

Amen! Go no contact and don’t ever contact them again.

DITTO!!

Good for you, the right woman wont keep pulling away… waste of energy

at least your ex could see that there was work to be done. mine refused to acknowledge any wrongdoing, so I left too

Needed to hear this…. I miss & love my DA but it *does always seem to feel so one-sided. Like my DA could live with me or without me, doesn’t matter either way to them. That’s not love.

Do you think Avoidants are more likely to send hints/signals to get your attention rather than directly reaching out? If so, why?

you should feel like she's just a cat coming and going, nor bad nor hateful. It's her nature, like a robot.

Same...it's a really brutal experience, straight up murder on your soul, it's the worst. It's disgusting. A complete violation of trust and lack of humanity delivered to you unfairly, and without explanation or closure. And they just want more. Ridiculously difficult to heal and integrate into your life, with or without them. Good luck, friend.

​@archonofvoid That was incredibly insensitive to advise that she "should " or "should not" feel a certain way. Her friend's (pattern of) DA behavior has been hurtful to the person and has damaged the relationship. The DA will continue to behave in this way if it is simply excused and tolerated as you suggest.

@@archonofvoid Like they said, it was easier to brush their behavior off when it was a friendship, not a partnership, and I have to agree with them there.

@@shannonlogue-chrysalisfitn8572 it was just realistic. Couldn't care less of the nonconstructive compassion you value and provide. Besides feel was a synonym of think, no emotions have been discussed but a framework of mind. Go ahead encouraging hate in others as if it's going to lead to any good and enjoy being forgot the day after due to your useless contribution. I'll rather try to provide some stimulating intellectual point that could stick or lead to realizations. Begone snowflake

The DA will suppress their feelings and act cold. After some months it hits them.

What do you need most from a partner?

desperately dont want to heal??

@@sf808opalaman Other people are dangerous to a DA. Our behaviour patterns keep us safe.

the hedgehog's dilemma

Just be celebate and leave us normal people TF alone!!!

Same for me Next week marks one year since blocking and not saying a word after

That s exactly what I said : cowards! That s what they should be ashamed off firstly! Not the other non reasonable stuff... they weak and backwards

My brother, she will always pull away and come back and pull away… and believe me, it will get to the point where you realize you lost focus on your goals and other important things because she will make you anxious. Cut your loss… a woman who appreciates you won’t pull away. Especially for weeks…

@joev7014 I definitely agree with you. But I'm willing to (down the road) give this one more try. First will mean fully moving on but the highs of this relationship were so high that under different circumstances I'd want to try again. She is also going through a complicated breakup and probably rushed too quickly into this. So it really might also just be a timing thing.

@@sagarwadgaonkar7580 I’ll tell you the truth. Your situation sounds exactly like mine. My ex came out of a toxic relationship and I tried to be the guy that can help her because I’m a “good guy”, I’m a “patient guy”. In the end she went back with him slept with him and played pure mind games. She broke my heart and I let her do it again before I finally seen through the manipulation… when a woman pulls away, believe me. She is putting her attention into someone else… that’s it. Especially if it’s been weeks… DAs can come back but it’s only to keep you around their orbit. They can only appreciate you when you’re not around. As soon as they sense your close, boom ghosted… experience is the best teacher tho. Good luck brother

i'm fine is not passive aggressive, but if you want to give him at least a chance you should have added how about you? Too late and unnecessary.

He’ll probably see other girls. But he’ll never forget you. It hurts now but you’ll heal in time. I promise you that.

Its what they do,its not personal even tho it feels personal.I have met many of them,they all come back but really we need somebody who can reciprocate and they can not and will not.They need to leave ppl alone and go seek help.

See your worth.

some can have really good heart, they really suffer, even from hurting you.. but yes hard to see the resistance of even admitting being a DA.. but thats what they are..

You're not alone. My ex DA adores me. ❤ It took a long time and a ton of healing to believe him, but he does. I don't think we are on the same page with things, so we opted to be friends, but he's a sweetheart and we'll always love each other. ❤

​@SunshineAndSnowflakes this is me and my DA. Almost three years and recently, I finally gave in to his request for 'just friends'. I had to call off all things physical, which hurts because the physical was my way of feeling that love and acceptance from him that he wasn't willing to commit to long term. He is a wonderful man who cares for me deeply. But is honest about being unable to give me what I've hoped we could work towards. I hope we can stay friends. He has been my best friend for three years and we rely on each other. So difficult a place to be ❤❤❤

@@mlong506 I understand and I feel your pain. I've been close friends with my ex for many years before we dated. We've done the situationship and the relationship. With the relationship, I think he thought the label was enough, but didn't want to progress or make plans to progress. Our relationship was fun, but felt like we were in high-school or two best friends hanging out who slept together. We could never make it past the power struggle phase though. Every 4 to 6 months I found myself leaving after we either couldn't get on the same page or couldn't communicate through an argument. If my feelings for him weren't so strong, I'd keep it more casual so he could be at peace with us. I had to cut off all intimacy last year too. We still talk fairly regularly and it's clear feelings are there, but I'm staying career focused and trying not to think into stuff he says. It's too bad. We're great together for the most part.

It's nice to read a positive update from your story. I'd recommend you stop checking in on your ex's IG, so you can be free to fully experience this new person

I know this will be my ex's fate as well. He was single before me for a reason.. he'll probably end up single and divorced at his "age to marry" of 45.

@@HustleHabitthanks, i actually wasnt checking. You know how you have a friend suggestions on facebook? This is where he showed up. He never had social media when we were together, so i was actually surprised to see him on fb. I see the new girlfriend there as he has a very unique name, not any other person who has his name because its a very uncommon name. Facebook will friend suggest you someone who’s number you have stored on your phone if that number is connected to their social media. I have since removed him from the friend suggestions tab, and ive moved on. Weirdly enough on March 3, it has since been one year since i last saw him. I suppose thats the biggest factor ive also moved on- out of sight, out of mind. Update on new person, we both realized we are not taking the next step towards a relationship. We just talk on social media, and thats it. Both of us realized we’re just not in the headspace for a relationship. Its all good! 😊

@@lmart16yeah, unless he decides to do some work, then itll be the same story rehashed multiple times. I wish all of us the best in this journey. Im loving the single life. I have so much work to do on me. I realize where i went wrong, and how toxic i am, and it adds to my anxious attachment. I realized one big thing, i am no longer attracted to avoidant behavior. I also realized that judging avoidant people is now a fhing of the past for me. They are flawed, i am flawed, and im only in a position to state my needs to ask for what i deserve. Im not here any longer to urge change towards other people since it may not be in their timeline to be ready. If i notice that im not getting what i want, then i will simply believe that perhaps a mismatch is present, and i will most certainly move ahead, and not push for anyone else’# behavior to change. Its an exercise in futility and it wastes both my time, and the others, by insisting they be who i want. I think the moment anxious people realize that its really not your place to wait for anyone to grow or change, and just consider it a mismatch is perhaps the day you are set free from the outcome of expectations.

Agreed. When it's over, we know it's over. Plus many of us do respect boundaries. If someone doesn't want contact with us, so be it. Their choice. We aren't coming back

I m an FA we don't do that either... more than you... you breaking up with us is breaking our trust.. first thing after a break up we feel a lot of relief.. and if you weren t submissive to us, ur outta here

I’m looking forward to this video as well. I’m an avoidant and my gf left me about 2 months ago. I instantly went to the lab. I wanted to know where and why I failed from a religious, psychological, and dating coach viewpoint. I’ve realized so much and am still learning. I’m doing therapy weekly, renewed my relationship w/ God, I’m journaling, reading and just being more intentional. While I feel more confident, I want to ensure that I learn the right way so that I never experience this again whether or not my ex chooses to reconcile when I reach out. At the end of the day I’m doing it for me and know I will be much better equipped whether it be w/ my ex or someone else. I hope it works out for you.

Yes yes yes! Although Thais has done videos on the subject here and there, but more on how to communicate with DAs without triggering them would be soooo useful.

She's done these videos if you look on her channel.

Yes, I want to see what you have to say about this Thais.

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@nomkhosibuthelezi1208, What's so funny jerk?!!!

Her time frame doesn't apply in every situation. Unfortunately when some people end it, they end it for good. Honestly, if it wasn't for exes reaching out to me I would never try and rekindle it. No contact should be used as a form of bettering ourselves and moving on from the past relationship, but there's so much stuff out there saying it will eventually bring your ex back which is not always the case. I wish you well on your healing. ❤

I find through personal experience and hearing others' stories that female DAs tend to leave and stay gone. Good riddance, honestly.

In my view we had a period of no contact but I don’t feel we we disconnected . So therefore no need to reconnect necessarily. But generally , people really need to stop pressuring the person to relate but also don’t take it personally if they take space . If it’s meant to be it will be with anyone . If you have to force it , they aren’t the one for you .

You're welcome ❤

Forgive yourself and understand, even if you were perfect, it probably wouldn't have been enough. Just learn from it and grow to be a better you

Self forgiveness is the first year of therapy I always say -(are you anxious attachment). We work so hard to make relationships work. Show up for yourself at the beginning of the next thing and ask for what you want and need. Know that it’s mostly our ego wanting to not be bruised and to win them back. In reality we want someone emotionally available for us too. All we can do be that. (Aka not neglectful ) towards ourselves finding out our needs. We are other motivated that’s not wrong. To be that way. They have a shot glass to give we need a pint to fill up. If you’re going to thrive with an avoidant you Need a full life to fill the rest of your glass. It’s all working out for us. In your visioning and dreaming and fantasizing say this person or someone even better for me. (For you. Kk). The best is yet to come kk. You got this. The healed you. Will be able to navigate this better with that person or date someone less triggering I promise kk. Hugs and love. Been there❤

Were you the DA or them?

@@audtasticgirl she was the DA

@@Adam-hx1gwtrust me, remember this message… you lost nothing. If she’s a DA. She will keep pulling away and make you anxious no matter if you give her space or not… I tried for 2 years. It’ll affect your health and your goals. There’s a woman out there, that will appreciate you during the relationship, not when you’re in no contact

Probably best not to continue this type of dynamic if you're not happy. He'll keep doing it as long as you let him.

Try your best to move on. I had the same situation with my ex girlfriend. They’ll pull away forever and see other people while they’re doing it. Just walk away. Show your strength

Is he a DA?

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That sounds very FA.

My DA ex contacted me after 2 years and continued to pursue me. It’s been 6 years now and he’s still pursuing me and recently suggesting to try again and telling me he wants to marry me. I still don’t know how I feel.

I'm in PDS and have listened to so many people with their opinions on this. In the end, I did what felt right to me. My DA ex came back a few times and I always wanted to bring up serious topics, but I wouldn't. So this last time, I laid it all on the table ahead of time because at this point I'd rather lose him indefinitely than stay in a situation that wasn't working for me. So when he brought up us seeing each other, I straight out asked what he's looking for. He wanted only me, but not a serious relationship. I declined. That was that. I don't like wishy washy behavior nor do I want to get close again and worry about this conversation a few months down the line. He's still a good friend and we keep in contact, but he knows where I stand. The funny thing is, I don't even care to be in relationships. I don't have time to invest really, but that's what was perfect about our dynamic. We both had our own lives going on and respected each other's boundaries. But at times he would bring up moving in together or having dinner with my family and I was like what? I don't do that with people I'm casually dating. It seems he kinda wanted both worlds. Anyway, I personally think it's best to get it over or you risk getting caught up in confusion.

@@LeeChrissy, thanks for this, I like the idea of just simply coming out and asking what my DA is looking for from me at this point. It’s a way to gauge where their head is at without putting pressure. now to find the right moment to gently bring that up… That’s the challenge I’ve been having, but that’s the simplest script I’ve come across yet. I don’t want to get into the more complex stuff until I know what direction they even want to take, and like you, I may end up having to take a step back, but it’s better to know than not and waste a bunch of time hoping if it turns out we’re not on the same page. I had actually set a deadline to start taking a step back, but then they started taking steps to move closer, so now i’m trying to find the right moment to bring this up before giving up all together.

@@gogohappygirl I totally understand. Honestly, I think if I didn't make such a big deal about the label and "where is this going" thing, we would still be together and it would have naturally evolved. The thing is, I'm uncomfortable in the unknown. I just can't do it and he is uncomfortable with committing because he feels like he'll be trapped and they'llbe too many expectations. I don't EVER want someone to feel that way with me. I want him to be happy too. So I had to let him go. 😔 In your situation, I think it's good you're being so thoughtful about this conversation. It's such a hard thing to bring up because it's a delicate situation. I think what helped me was figuring out and standing firm with my own goals and non-negotiables. After that, his answer didn't matter because I kept emotions out of it and funny enough, he didn't take it well. He was pretty measured, but still reaches out trying to rekindle us. I'm good. I love him but I need direct communication and he can't do that and I understand. It's just not for me. DA's can be great partners, it's just a tough task if only one person is doing the work.

@@LeeChrissy, when you finally did bring up the tough conversation as to what your DA ex wanted from you, did you do it by text, phone/video call or in person?

@@gogohappygirl we were on and off since summer of 2021...always ending by me walking away. So that first year we were in a monogamous situationship for about 5 months. In 2022, we started a situationship again, but I kind of eluded that if this is what he wanted, we weren't going to have any rules. That's when he started bringing up traveling together and having dinner with my family and it started confusing me again and just as I was about to walk away, he asked to make us official. So that year we were together total for about 6 months. Then in 2023 we started a situationship again and he was all over the place talking about possibly moving out of state, but brought up us getting a place together. Again, me being confused, I ended it 5 months later. That's when I joined PDS. Sorry for the long answer. It's the FA in me. 😂🤣 So that was May and in August he was asking to take me to dinner. I asked why and what was he looking for because I'm looking for something real, not sit in a gray area. That's when he said let's be friends then. I assured him that being just friends with me mean platonic friendship and nothing else. He didn't love that. Lol So now...again...he's been reaching out a lot. He wants to take me to dinner as friends, but he's talking to me the same way he used to when we dated. Very flirty. I love and miss him, but my emotions kinda left the game last year so I'm not thinking into any of this like I would in the past. Our communication is mainly through text.

Can you please do a video on how to move forward with DA once they return?

@@RT-fs3ttreally sit with your emotions and assess the thoughts and stories you told in the relationship. Be vulnerable and admit you didn’t feel worthy etc and when you reconnect with the DA, tell them all from a non-emotionally burdening way. Then you’ll know in what direction to move forward, either stay together or leave

Wrong move

It's really good to start healing your anxious attachment style too. Both are unhealed styles.

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Or they discarded the other person .They are disgusting !

absolutely not, the world is full of avoidants who are completely aware of how they are wired and still can't help it.

Because I think I did that with my request to talk on the phone once a week. He said he didn’t want to feel guilty if he didn’t show up but he was like we can be friends and if it turns into a relationship then ok but he doesn’t want to start out working towards a relationship

They want your attention without any of the commitment. Just ignore them and move on. DA people that aren’t actually working on themselves are toxic and not worth the time. - btw I’m a former DA

don't. Walking on eggshells is unhealthy

@amanda215 can you tell us about the helpful changes you’ve made please, and teaching him?

@@user-tz1hl3pf2w absolutely. Well first I did some self evaluation and learned about what triggers me in terms of making me anxious or insecure and overall looked at ways to slowly build into becoming the secure attachment style in myself after identifying my own attachment style(FA) like more independence, self regulation, self soothing, self policing ,and understanding my feelings then unpack it when I'm ready before talking etc or I go workout beforehand so that I feel better or like I'm no longer emotional before I have a conversation even small ones while also feeling better about myself without needing so much validation from him/others or needing to vent so often while not putting the burden on him as much to make me feel better while lessening my resentments. One of the big things I also learned is how much I took things personally when in all reality it was just unspoken needs he has but wouldn't articulate like coming home and sitting by himself in front of the TV until bedtime and wouldn't want to spend alone time together and I was taking that as I was unimportant etc sometimes they don't even realize or see it as their needs or that they even have needs . I was also not articulating my own needs as clearly as I thought I was so you gotta be very detailed and specific about what you want/need like hey I'd like to spend time together when you're comfortable after some alone time. Set a time about when you would wanna start and for about how long otherwise they see it as they have to drop everything and spend all their free time with you and it will make them uncomfortable about losing their independence and their alone time to themselves(be careful with your tone of voice and facial expressions). Also when you speak, it's very important to not be "emotionally charged" so that the bombardment of emotions doesn't immediately make a negative feeling come up with them and they would feel unsettled about what you're asking or talking about especially talking about problems or needs of my own so he wouldn't listen as well or as much. I also word things very gently when I talk to him about my needs or something that he did that I didn't like etc like I avoid saying you didn't do this or that or you did this ( it's like pointing a finger at them and wagging it). I simply say is there a way we can do this or that differently so that both of our wants/needs are met without using the word compromise because they see it as sacrificing, not that it's coming to an even balance. I also tell him if I'm happy then I can in return make you a happier partner if we both feel heard. I ask if he needs alone time to slowly teach him to voice his needs and to stay on the same page together or instead of asking how he is feeling, I ask what is he thinking (currently in a long distance situation so we mostly talk on the phone) so that if I don't get a text for awhile I don't take it personally or what did I do wrong and I tell him I respect it, support it, and will be here when he's ready. I randomly tell him that I'm proud of him and to point out stuff he does that I like and that he's doing a great job as he makes little changes that he probably doesn't realize he's even doing because they slowly mirror the changes you make and slowly improve without feeling pressure to change. I will also tell him I'm here for him even if he doesn't take it or need it, it still reminds him that he doesn't have to do everything alone so that we can grow interdependence but also have our independence while telling him that he can still be independent while have interdependence with me. I do everything kinda like talking to my autistic child but not in a degrading manner for an adult. I also tell him I wanna be as fair as possible as a team and that we aren't against each other. Also they really need to feel supported,accepted, heard, they're in a safe space, and to feel understood as much as we do but they are hypersensitive to needing those without actually admitting it because they might see it as they seem weak or vulnerable. It is also very important to not put on the person the things and love you give should be exactly as you get back in return like doing things you would want to receive for yourself but still have give/take. sorry again for another novel lol. However I do hope it helps. I watched a lot of attachment style videos so that's how I learned these things especially from this particular creator. I learned all of this in the last 3 weeks in my spare time so I had no idea until now because I was dedicated to improving things and didn't want to lose the person I feel is the one for me. Our biggest issue was communication and that's why we argued so much like daily. We dated for 4 yrs and it's just now taking me until now to truly understand him because he never really opened up and always kept me at a small distance. With enough love, time, dedication and truly understanding their attachment style I truly believe you can have an amazing relationship with a DA despite hearing/seeing others say run away etc. Sometimes love has hard moments but ultimately understanding eachothers AS and together becoming secure attachments( as a team and individual process) helps incorporate new, healthier habits and goals. I hope that answered any questions. However, if they choose to never change that's also important to note while also giving a chance to make changes.

@@user-tz1hl3pf2w I did but Im not sure if it posted and stuck. I no longer see it on my end so I'm not sure if it was taken down or if it's just on my end

@@user-tz1hl3pf2w I did but I don't see it

@@user-tz1hl3pf2w I did

Probably but they’ll keep rebounding and ghosting you… it’ll drive you crazy

I think my case is the same as yours. I kept breaking no contact as an AP.

Me too. FA here and he was FA leaning DA. He kept trying to pull back. So I went from all in to asking to end it the next day (FA and safety need). Needles to say, this upset him. But I didn’t do no contact after. I failed that part.

Please teach your daughter that she needs to be secure in herself and not to let anybody take here self worth away. Please take it from me, ive just broken off a 6 year relationship and now realize how tumultuous it has been. Ive fallen for this and it has taken alot away from me..

What was your thought process? What made you want to come back?

Why did you go back and was it triggered by the no contact?

@@komatsu8169 Well I thought that I will regulate myself much better since Ive learned some stuff about regulation but I gave her seen on 3 messages after 7 days so it didnt end up well I just lost will to do it more. But she came back on Ester and used it as a execuse, wich is fine, to message me but and she said will see each other in May but next night she said I am good friend wich is also fine cause it just her pull away.

@@julesD0222 I ve said wee are done and she comfirmed I was OK with it but then I thought she was maybe sarcastic. She only mirored my energy and I gues I didnt like that.

@@komatsu8169 I ve learned some stuff about regulation so I thought I will do it better but after 7 days I gave her seen on 3 mesagges. She came back on Easter and after some time she said ww will see each other in May and next night she said I am a good friend. I gues she was triger when Ive said in dont mind to not see you anymore I dont even need to write to you. I ve said that right after she said we will see each other in May and I ve meant it wich is crazy from me. We match each others energies in couple more mesagess and she left me on seen when I ve match her break up in a nice wayn energie in her last message. Shes now look at my ing stories.

@brandon how long did she take to come back pls? U say she was afraid of abandonment. Is she a DA or FA ?

@@user-tz1hl3pf2w has been some weeks and has been some months. But this time it’s been 4 months and I’ve completely seperated myself from her. Dont contact her or reach out. I high is the first time in 5 years she hasn’t had me around. I’m sure it’s a shock to her in some way

lol yes and they’ll keep cheating too…

Check no contact videos with a coworker

I did when I was with an FA. She messed me up and I realized I had issues as well (I felt anxiety from her hot and cold behavior and her very very close relationships with other guys who gave her attention, which she hid from me). I never felt anxious in a relationship before and didn’t know how to handle it. It’s how I stumbled on this channel and decided I needed therapy.

@@MrRob2084 Yeah, maybe you do need a therapy or maybe you need a girlfriend who does not need a bunch of other guys to entertain her and serve her as ego boosts/validation supply. Maybe she could benefit from therapy too, since you don't feel that you just cannot live without a bunch of very close women-friends. But she needs her "brothers".

I can't speak for everyone, but healing is hard! When I started PDS last year I felt like I was emotionally spiraling because "the work" requires you to go back and figure out where those triggers originated from. Bad memories and traumas that you compartmentalize in the back of your brain and never wanted to bring out start appearing. Then once you open that floodgate, more memories start coming through and you are stuck dealing with ALL of it. Doing this work was literally the hardest thing I've ever done in my life. I think maybe some people don't think they are mentally capable of doing this and I get it. 😢

Know someone who moved to the other side of the world, learned a new language, works and goes to school full time, but emotions are "too hard"

@AmericanDreamer 🙏🙏 I've been in therapy all along due to this painful dynamic, he is an amazing man but sadly doesnt seem to face accountability or his demons ....he thinks/believes travelling from place to place, person to person is the answer....leaving a trail of pain behind....😢

Is it worth begging someone to come back when they are in the wrong, or at least for them to come back until it happens again? Seems pretty one-sided

Welcome to RU-vid. This is how they keep their channel relevant

@buellerferris thais used to make new content but I think it's pretty bad they advertise this as a new video when it's literally an old one

@@mariana4095 Oh yeah and sorry if I came across as sarcastic or mean. I didn't mean it like that. But one thing I despise about youtubr is content creators recycle the same things and slap a different date on it. I didn't mean to troll you and my sincerest apologies if I came across that way.