It broke my heart when Ashley said she felt like she could’ve been more hardworking in her 20s and wish she did more. To bust your butt for 7 YEARS without getting paid a dime, go through what Ladies Code went through, and still find the drive to continue? Then goes on to slowly build her own brand and business? THAT is the epitome of hard work and resilience. I’m so happy Joan recognizes this and doesn’t let you undermine your accomplishments even for a second. I love this friendship 🥺
For real. Especially knowing that Joan doesn't show her sassy side on camera but always fights tooth and nail to ensure that Ash never undermines her own efforts is so heartwarming. The way she exposed the entertainment company without a second thought. 😂 Same goes for the other LC members too. The bond that the girls continue to maintain is amazing.
Joan is right... Ashley and her members worked so hard that it's so unfair that they were treated like that by their company. I Googled their former entertainment company and I pity those who are still there. Glad Ashley is now independent and gets to enjoy life and work as an artist.
We all need a Joan in our lives to help us keep going because she's that friend who reminds you that you are doing enough and that life is all about learning and going with the flow
@@ashleybchoi you may not know it but it takes great strength to do what you are doing. Some people are afraid to go solo and be as driven as you are. You radiate sunshine and good energy and don't be so hard on yourself. Your adulting series has honestly been such a ray of sunshine during the pandemic. You're doing great!
That’s true friendship. Joan is so mad because of how Ashley’s work wasn’t paid or appreciated. I can relate so much, every time some of my friends aren’t being treated fairly I FREAKING EXPLOOODEEE
I love Joan's rant about how hard you've worked and you and other idols deserve so much better 💛 you really did sacrifice so much and I'm glad that you have more freedom now. For what it's worth, I think you must have handled the pressures well to be the person you are now, and I hope you're letting yourself be completely happy and indulge in everything you want now. Always proud of you Ashley 🥰
Adulting is like what Joan said, its an ongoing process, at nearly 37 I am still finding my way in life, learning and growing. Your 30s are nothing to be scared of, they should be enjoyed, you're both still young, super attractive, have great careers and now have more money than in your 20s to enjoy life even more so! Enjoy it girls 💜🥂💜
"It‘s never too late." - Thank you for these words, I really needed to hear them. As someone who doesn’t have the success other persons have my age and being raised in a community where this was all you were compared for, it‘s so comforting to hear and takes a lot of pressure away that I was currently feeling. Thank you Ashley and Joan for this lovely video and I hope, you both have or had great birthdays. 💕
“20 is all about failures” thank you for saying that. I actually have the exact same feeling now cuz I am searching for work as a new grad. And the process is going not that easy and I feel depressed a lot. Trying to tell myself that it’s the process that everyone would go through. Your words helps a lot. And…Happy birthday to us!! 😉🥳
Since there is no timestamp, I'll do it. 1:19 Has adulting ended for you? 3:49 You both seen very driven. Did you feel lost in your 20's and how did you deal with it? 7:29 What are some things you regret not doing in your 20's? 16:14 What can you say to your 20's self? 19:27 Not a question but please take a sip of your wine for viewers 19:34 What are you looking forward to in your 30's? 24:15 How does it feel turning 30 together? Did I miss any?
Seeing you both made me realise i hv never had a friend who's there emotionally and supported me! It must be a blessing to have a friend as such. The ones i hv always criticise my way of living, thinking, my likes, basically just everything.
It’s weird watching this in my mid 20s. The things you said about "regrets" and "things you’d say to your 20s self" are literally what’s happening in my life and where my mindset is at at the moment. It’s a quite complicated feeling but thanks for sharing your thoughts and making me think about mine. Happy 30 to you two!
I love that they never let each other down. Like they will always boost each other like “i really am not hardworking…” and then the other will response “what you talking about!!!”
For someone who just entered her mid 20s and often finds herself lost, it is comforting to know we are never truly alone in this journey. So, thank you for this series! ☺️ Also, idk if this helps but when I catch myself comparing to others around my age, I remind myself that what I see (what they show) is not everything that I get (understand)! So don’t beat yourself up and just be a little kinder to yourself!
Im 31 this year, when covid hits I want to spend more time with my parents. Make them happy, eat together. I notice they work so hard and rarely spend their money for themselves. And always prioritize me and my siblings. LETS DO THIS
Omg, I feel the whole "you're in your mid 20's and still living off your parents" cuz I'm finishing dentistry school and sadly, I still need them. Hopefully I'll earn enough to be able to pay them back and let them have a comfortable life. I feel so sorry for them for still helping me but also so grateful that my family has a stable and good social status for it.
honestly, love that saying "we're still figuring it out," because it is so reassuring. I feel like there is an unspoken expectation to achieve in your 20s that are almost impossible. Super encouraged by this Q&A and you guys LOOK AMAZINGGGGG ⭐
depression made me look and feel like I'm in my 40's at my late teens and now at 23 yo. watching you girls gives me hope that I can enjoy my late twenties and thirties and there's still hope for me to do what I missed doing all these years if I keep working on my mental health. you have no idea how much I appreciate y'all 💙💙
I guess it's a 1 hour binge + Joan's video tonight as a reward after completing my essay #motivation CATCH THIS EPISODE TONIGHT YAY happy birthday again! ❤
I'm 23 bt literally your every content,videos are so amusing i feel like I'm growing with you guys❤❤ wanna hear in your 40's, that phase of life...keep up doing all your work girl cz i can't describe how much u mean a inspiration to me🥺 me being anti social, introverted self my breather is your every contents... U are so relatable so real authentic ❤❤ lots of looove
It is such a beautiful things to have a friend to rely on especially in 20s. I am 26 and still struggle to secure my permanent job, every night before sleep I will always close my eyes while tears rolling down and praying that I can provide to my father, mother and sister the best that I can and repay all their investment on me. Watching this video and on Joan video make me can relate that, 20s is the age we struggle to figure out ourselves to go to which way. Try and error. Happiest birthday Joan and Ash! I adore your friendship.
OMG this is such a strong video to hear such deep feelings from both of these amazing people i'm so happy! i really hope your 30s bring full happiness! LOVE YOU ASHLEY AND WE LOVE YOUR HARD WORK DURING LADIES CODE AND WE LOVE YOU TOO JOAN!
This video got me so emotional, I’m turning 21 soon and I’m so stressed about adulting so when I look at people like you and Joan and other korean people on social media I feel like you guys have the perfect life that I want. Now seeing more of your struggles I hope you guys the best 30s and for me to figure out my 20s !! Much love 💕🏹
I'm also turning 21 soon & I've been constantly stressed bc I feel like I'm not moving fast enough. But this video made me realize that I'm literally JUST 20. If we live until we're 80, we still have 60, SIXTY, years to find ourselves & reach our goals! Society constantly pressures us into the mindset of: "If you're this age, you have to be 'here'." But like... why? We can literally go at our own pace. We just have to stop comparing ourselves to others & stop trying to rush things. I think it was Ashely that said in the video, but we should appreciate moments more. Sure, my mom's toxic and I'm struggling to pay my bills LOL, but hey, I have an easygoing job, I have a beautiful dog who is aging, I've been wearing this amazing winter coat all winter, etc. We have to appreciate the small stuff & realize that this exact moment isn't actually that bad 🥺💗
I feel like crying with your stories and life lessons 🥺 I'm turning 24 in 3 days and I look forward to gain wisdom like yours as i grow older too ♥️ HAPPY BIRTHDAY to both of you! You guys are great!
this was very eye opening for me and hearing your stories/advice was what i needed. i’m 23y/o and have so many regrets and made mistakes. knowing that everyone is still figuring out themselves or their life makes me not feel alone. every day i’m bettering myself and the situation i’m currently in. but anyways, i hope you both the best and have fun in your 30s 💖
I love this video so much. Few minutes in, I am already touched by your words. Ashley tells us how hard it is to survive in the real world, feeling down and all. Then, Joan is telling us to never downgrade our effort and that we should value ourselves more. Looking forward for more wine spill in the future. Love from Malaysia for both of you
I’m an 91 er too and all my close friends are younger than me . When I watch you guys’ individual vlogs and joint vlogs I find comfort and can relate to it very closely than my friends irl. It’s not to say I’m not greatful for mr friends . You guys’s content about your lives are close to hearts for many viewers like me. I feel like I’m hanging out with you guys, especially been watching you both since beginning. Cheers to 30s! 💕
Hi. I'm Maya. This segment really hits me. Like I just turned 23 this march 13 and here I am feeling too old and tired already. Like I feel like I am the last in the race already just because I can't graduate on time. I got extended for like a year in college and here I am stressing out everyday and pushing myself so hard that sometimes leads me to not doing anything which also makes me feel tired. And watching this made me realize I am so freaking young to be stressing out myself like this. I thought that maybe if my 30years old self would see me now, she would say what you girls said. So thank you so much. This a great reflection to people like me who are in their 20s. Fighting!
arrived so late to this video but i just want to say thank you for this content. watching joan defend you from your own thoughts made me cry - i can really feel her anger from your mistreatment. it's nice to know you have such a great person by your side. thanks for coming through all of the past hardships of your life ashley, you are an amazing human being on top of a great artist. your voice, be it when singing, podcasting, vlogging or radio is so soothing and has become one of my safe places to go when feeling tired. and let's not forget the consistency and top-notch artistry you showed through your youtube content. i really admire your tenacity and resilience. hugs from sweden
As someone who needed to focus primarily on school and professional training until I was 30+, congrats! The independence is great. 0:09 for anyone who would criticize wine in a can, hey it looks like pouring from a can aerates it really well! 1:20 LOL at anyone who thinks that adulting could end at 30. IMO it's close to finishing once you have your own home and know how to take care of everything in and around it, financially stable, have a stable career or are retired, and the kids are out of the house. Basically when you have fewer responsibilities and less risk. The difference in amount of wine consumed was striking :)
I'm almost turning 27, and your videos always help me calm down my inner ansiety of doing well... Thank you guys, I feel like I'm not the only one feeling this type of things. I wish I had a friendship with someone like you guys.
Petition for Joan and Ashley to start their podcast together talking about life in general! Always love videos like this. Watched Joan’s video first before I came here actually 😆 Happy Birthday to both of you ❤️❤️❤️
Loved this chat my stunning beauties I’m also in my 30s and laughed at the young person calling that old 30s I swear is such a great time theirs no expectations you can pretty much live your life up to the fullest it’s society and culture that make it sound so ancient but I feel like you’re coming into your own and really owning who you are plus you get to be unapologetically authentically you . theirs more pressures and uncertainty in your 20s your still figuring things out as you did in your teens but honestly enjoy yourselves your 30s will definitely be your best years yet :) ps. I could see Joan’s tipsy near the end when ash mentioned getting out in nature 😂 always enjoy these wine talks with you beauties 😍😍😍😍❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🥂
As someone who struggles with self-doubt a lot, everyone needs a friend like Joan! A friend that constantly brings you up when you try to put yourself down, encourages you & compliments you! That’s what a real friend does
13:56 I really resonated with Joan here about freelancing. While we all know shes thriving and killing it freelance, I was surprisingly successfully doing freelance but it REALLY drained me having to do everything myself and worrying about getting support (like hiring an assistant of sorts). I've since went back to a comfortable 9-5 job that allows me to just clock in and clock out and really cherish time off and the company of my friends. I hope everyone finds happiness!
Mucho congrats to Ashley and Joan on turning 30! 🥂🎂🎊 You are both remarkable women who have already accomplished so much! I hope that the next decade will be a wonderful time in your lives for you both. And BTW, the majority of people out there WISH they were in their 30s again....
I'm turning 21 next year and following Ashley and Joan has been such a great decision, they inspire me in so many ways and because I tend to overthink a lot, they help me a lot with that too. To everyone reading this, You SOOOO got this🖤
i am so glad i decided to watch this video bc i just recently turned 20 and i can't believe how quickly my teen years passed. ashley and joan y'all made me realise that even though the world seems to be moving so fast and even though there are so many kids my age who are doing incredible things, i can have my own pace and learn and grow and get rid of this toxic "get successful at a young age" mindset that so many youngsters are tied to. this really calmed me down and i will make sure i spend my 20s without letting unrealistic external pressures and ideologies get to me. love y'all, happy birthday to you bothhh 💖
i rosonate so much with Ashley's views on her accomplishments. It's hard to give yourself the credit you deserve when you're so self critical and hold super high expectations for yourself. I love that Joan is there to open her eyes to her efforts and making sure that she doesn't discredit all of her hard work. I have few friends like this and they've honestly gotten me through the deepest of depressive moments. I love your friendship
I'm turning 26 on February, and I'm planning to study again. It's never too late to start a new hobby, a new job, a new career. Seeing some of your friends being successful isn't your story, focus on you. Problem recently is we are so used to comparing, and that makes our lives miserable. So focus on you. ✨ and yes Joan is right, slow down. Focus on your own race. This video makes me excited of the future, and thank you Joan and Ashley for inspiring us. ✨ More blessings for you both!!!! God bless!!! ❤️❤️
girls Im 91 too, and turn 30 on september so I get it all about you talking, is soo good to have people that understand me, im glad that I descover you two,
I love these girls! I love how they share their thoughts. But what i appreciate more is how they boost and compliment each other up. True friendship is gold! I turned 34 this year and life is good so far so you go girls! Happy 30th! 🥰
I just wanna say thank you to Ashley and Joan for making our 20s better with their fun and valuable content in the past years (especially in the pandemic). Y'all have worked hard and I hope you guys will live a happy and full of blessing 30s ❤ looking forward to watch wine spill for the next 50 years 😉💗
Firstly, congrats on turning 30 to you both!! These videos are always so comforting (and honestly just what I needed today). Once I got on the high speed train that is adulting I felt so lost all the time and at a constant state of flux, but you guys’ advice made me realise that it’s ok to mess up, pause and just live in the moment. Also Ashley - you are definitely doing so good!! From the first adulting series vlog to now, I’ve always been so impressed by how determined, hardworking and optimistic you are, and as Joan said, how you 180-Ed and only began to look forward. That is truly amazing and so inspiring, so cheers to you Ashley, and a very happy birthday!! 🖤
This is so comforting ❤ Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings and your friendship is precious ❤ I'm already looking forward to your Wine Spill about turning 40 😄
it feels like a GIANT reassurance for me hearing all those comforting words from you guys. im 22 and always feel too scared to do things also whenever i slowed down and take time for my self i feel like its a waste of time when actually IT IS OKAY to take a little break. anw happy birthday to both of you, hope years ahead treat us good🖤
Thank god for Joan!! She really puts a lot into perspective for Ashley especially coming from the kpop world… totally agree they should pay the idols! And yes use the money in the right places… like paying the artists! Anyways, Ashley its a blessing in disguise i think and you are truly doing so well and we all see it! You deserve all the happiness seriously!! ☺️☺️
Saved this on my watch-later list and just got the chance to watch it now and im glad i did. im also in my 30s and i feel the pressure of not being who i want to be and want to do,im also afraid of failure,i feel like im not working hard enough,i dont know. But i feel better now after watching u ladies, you made me realized so much stuff. thank u
I am 32, my 20s were so different from my 30s. My 20s feel like it was training for my 30s, because now I am starting to become more settle down. After 8 years of working towards changing my career field, I finally landed a job in my dream organization. I working in the performing arts industry, I’m learning how to heal from past hurt. My 30s feel so much more productive and wholesome. I remember feeling so sad I’m saying goodbye to my 20s because they were fun, but now it’s better. For anyone about to turn 30, get ready for things coming together slowly. As Joan said, go with the flow.
as someone in their early twenties it's comforting to know that there is still so much more to look forward too! Thank you girls for being like older sisters and sharing your thoughts 💗💗💗
OMG Your words about Idol’s work is soooo true! Time. Time is the most valuable resource. And you give it to the company, refusing to go to university, risking your future, working with no payment for many years and might not succeed. Only for the risk of wasting your precious years of life and not succeeding needs to be payed. Even a little amount, like Ashley said. Like an insurance fee. Honestly!
Ashley you may be the most humble person without trying to be. But let me persuade you of how amazing you actually are 🤧. 1. It's not always about the amount you do. You can still be super accomplished and hardworking without exploring so many different avenues. And sometimes it's hard to see that when others around us seem to do it all and experience tremendous success with it. With that being said, I genuinely do think you do a TON. You've been an amazing kpop artist in a famous girl group, you run a personal RU-vid business/brand, and you kick ass as a radio host and personality. You know you impact so many people with your kindness, right? That brings me to 2. You're genuinely great at what you do! I think I speak for everyone when I say this. Your voice, dancing, and professionalism was on poiinntttt when you were in kpop. And it's always a treat when you upload the occasional song cover 😊. You're such a great host! And I mean it. Not only are you very socially aware and emotionally intelligent, you bring a badass female energy of confidence while also making everyone else in the room feel safe and comfortable to be vulnerable. So never downplay what you bring to the table! 3. You are unique in your strengths. Along with what I said in point 2, you do so well in exemplifying aspects you shine in. You're always honest in the kindest way. You're so personable and many feel lucky to have a great friend like you. Your energy is contagious. I feel like I could watch you do the most mundane thing and still smile like an idiot haha. So in conclusion, you're amazing, wonderful, and all the other positive adjectives out there. Please never downplay your own success and all you've done. Aside from your impressive resume, your attitude and character shines so brightly. In the future, I would love to hear you say more that you appreciate and acknowledge all you've accomplished (even though I know you're probably going to try to aim even higher, which is great!). Sorry for the long comment, but I hope you know how cool you are, Ashley. 😄
I'm so emotional... i just turned 20 this year and it already feels too much coz i live alone now. Thank you for this ++thank you for giving me q new year plan for 2022 = to LIVE life and appreciate the NOW moment. I hope you guys the best, will forever be grateful to have met y'all and been part of your jouney even if im just a 0.00001% of it Keep smiling scopio babies ~
I felt so calm watching this. you girls just reminded me that life is not as complicated as we think. and it's gonna be alright in the end. also, it was so cute how Joan was telling Ashley about her hard work. which is true, Ashley has gone through a lot. we are all proud of u, Ash
It’s so cool to be able to be turning 30 around the same time as my favorite influencers! I turned 30 in September, and it was honestly a bit scary, because I don’t feel like I’ve got my life together at all, but I’m looking forward to what this decade brings
I'm only 23 but I feel like I'm always running out of time, people and my family tell me otherwise but I just can't help it... :') that's why thank you very much Ashley and Joan for this video it really comforted me especially when Joan said to take it easy because we have so many years ahead of us. Thank you!! 💓
These wine spill episodes are saving my life no kidding I feel like I relate to a little bit of both of them granted the fact that they had different experiences throughout their growth I find myself relating more to Ashley because I’m 22 haven’t worked yet and I’m just in community college and occasionally my parents give me an allowance I don’t really ask them for anything because due to the pandemic I have nowhere to go nobody to hang out with and I just have to focus on my classes on zoom in my room. And I feel so behind on everything because the way Joan feels like She’s older than everyone around her I don’t have a friend that’s born in my year Everyone’s a little younger or a little older by a year or two and I keep wondering where do I fit in because when I look at their lives the younger ones are already having babies and the older ones already achieved so much but they’re barely just a year or two older than me but I feel like I’m behind even the younger ones and even the older friends Because I don’t feel that sense of achievement or if I worked hard enough like how it actually feels with her trainee and years she spent as an artist. But in the end after all of that over thinking I know that everybody’s pace is different and I’ll get there soon enough if I know I’m working on it and when I get there I feel like I’ll have to see where I go from there also so adulting never stops indeed.
actually i just turned 20 last month, and i feel like im too afraid to be 20. but watching this really motivate me to work moree and just explore everythinggg, like hey Ashley you did a really good job, being idol is not a simple work to do, you REALLY DID A GOOD JOB.
cant believe u guys are already 30! i discovered ur friendship with the others (dasha, gem, etc.) im 21 and im learning a lot fr u guys!!! i love you all thank u for the inspiration and lessons
Since I started following and watching both of your vlogs, I am slowly learning about adulthood and somehow got some lessons and inspiration as well as motivation on how to deal with life. Life is a continuous learning process.. 🤙❤️
I just turned 20. Its really comforting to hear your stories, bc I’m lost at the moment and need motivation and inspiration, your advice is amazing! 😊💖
really needed this one , was a lot streesed about somethind and this made me clear my mind. this video and you are comfort . thankyou for wine spill series and really see myself watching your videos evem after 20 years
I have this really close girl friend of mine and our birthdays are just two days apart. We both just turned 20 a few weeks ago so I really loved the timing of this video. We were (are) both really scared of what's to come in our 20s but your answers have given me some sort of reassurance that it won't be as bad as we make it up to be in our heads. I really admire yours and Joan's friendship, I hope my friend and I get to do our own wine spills and be strong + hardworking ladies like you two when we reach your age 🤍
