I've never understood why people do not know you NEVER hit on someone at WORK. Where they literally cannot be rude to you and have ZERO means of escape. Fucking shameful behaviour.
@@Lex-my5ch Exactly. Most of these creatures only approach a woman when she is completely trapped and obliged to work with them. No one at work wants to deal with a woman asking for help and being threatened in this way so they don't. And these creatures know that. They even delight in getting you fired and dominating you in every way they can. They delight in making you more vulnerable as well.
They know what they’re doing. They put women in situations where they know she won’t say no out of her not wanting to be rude, they bet on it they learn this early. Many girls and women have slept with a male out of feeling they can’t say no and males learn that young and when women say no, they get angry or violent because they don’t accept us being ok with saying no or being rude
I had literally a guy hit on me at work knowing full well I was in a relationship back then. Another one was stalking me to my apartment. It's sad that women need to go thru such things just by living in this world. I am fully 4B now.
a man followed me in his car and tried to grab me a few months ago, i was able to see his face, then last week a human trafficker was caught by police and it was the same guy, i could have been trafficked or killed, keep your eyes open ladies
Dayum, I would have been creeped out for life! I hope you reported the incident to police at least after he was arrested for trafficking. Thank heavens he didn’t get ahold of you.
6:36 These men who don't believe that women get harrassed... I can't with them. Part of me thinks they're jealous they aren't getting harrassed because nobody would touch them with a 10 foot pole.
Most men simply can't think beyond their own POV. They think if the roles were reversed HE'd be getting hit on by good-looking young women. Tell him to walk through a gay neighborhood and have a big muscly guy compliment his looks - not even in a threatening way. They'll pee their pants for terror.
That happened to my wonderful female mail carrier. A man on her route was acting really creepy with her to the point where she became scared, and the only solution was to have her route be changed. She loved her route (and we loved her), but it was the only way that she could feel safe. It p*sses me off so much that one single man affected her life so much. It probably happened because she was friendly with him. (This is why women can't even make eye contact with men today without some men feeling as though we're leading them on.) I'm so sorry that this happened to the woman in the video.
If you're nice to them you're a beetch who's leading them on and if you're rude or just curt, you're a beetch who's rude and curt. they can't make up their mind.
When I worked at a printing shop this guy came in to print out his literal divorce court papers and as soon as I was the only one in the room he hit on me. I told him I was married, and he said “that doesn’t matter” with the creepiest look on his face… and then proceeded to not take no as answer a couple more times. These men are diabolical.
Ugh, yeah, a few told me, "I don't mind" Back in the mid 1960's, one loser said to my mother in law, "Oh, that doesn't bother me". We, WE mind and our husbands mind. 🙄🙄🙄
I have had many similar issues. I am 59 yo, and as a young woman I had no hope that anything would change. But what has changed has really thrilled me--because we all have the ability now to record our interactions, we can share this dumpster fire of a culture with other women and the "good men" who think we're exaggerating get to see the receipts. It's so refreshing to be believed by people now that we're all sharing these stories. Now if only men would freaking change and not be such pricks
Call his place of employment and complain about him. I had the same problem when I worked retail. Laughed at the guy and told him I was married and pregnant and they still didn’t care and even said they were into swinging…wtf
Let me tell you something, If I am married and I tell my husband this delivery driver makes me nervous and he keep hitting on me even after I told him I was married, and my husband don't come up there and check him......I WOULD BE SINGLE! Like dude, why are you here??? Why are you in my bed, eating my food and living with me?? Nope, he would be gone, don't need dead weight.
Same 💯 sadly, it sounds like she married to a coward guy who was just looking for bangmaid and doesn't care about her. She might be in a 50/50 useless male relationship as well 🤦🏻♀️
I doubt she's told her husband. She doesn't want it to get ugly. I probably wouldn't involve my husband either. If it comes to violence, it might be a very bad outcome.
Men are supposed to be biologically designed to be providers and defenders. Well they don't provide or defend anymore (on the contrary, all they do is take and hurt women), they became worthless, dead weight as you said.
I used to have to hide from the UPS driver who delivered regularly at my old job. He was so creepy. Once i saw him out at a club and he aggressively approached me and said "what, you can't dance with me?" It always felt like he could see through my clothes with how hard he stared at me.
Years ago (10 at least) my dad took me out for lunch in our neighborhood. We went there very often since the food was good and it was close.That day I asked the waiter to pack some of my food and when I came home I saw a friend request on FB😢 I was scared sheetless! I asked him how did he find me, he didn't want to tell me, maybe it was my dad's credit card info, I was terrified. Never went to that place again.
Glad she called the rep. 👍🏾 My boss's boss (men) called on my behalf one time, another time some other male coworkers stepped up for me, which was cool at first, until one of them became a pest himself, wanting extra attention from me "in return". Usually nothing is done and those things get "handled" the street way *sometimes.* The problem with delivery/semi-truck drivers *for me* was 30/70, but when it got worse, more like 50/50, I stopped dealing with them and my job was ok with it at the time. After that, I had the freedom to not choose jobs dealing with them, thank goodness. I know thats not the case for all women right now. I STILL witness it done to other women and most of them are too nice about it, IMO. Probably too scared or hopeless. 😞 I miss the days when male family members handled these things because they cared about the females in their families.
When I worked rhe front desk at a library, my parents INSANELY creepy, elderly neighbor would come in to leer at me/try and flirt with me. The guy has literally known me since I was a toddler, I'm 40+ yrs his junior & he knew I had a longtime boyfriend, yet he still was trying to smash. I'd have to flee into the back & hide whenever he came in, but even then he'd stand around waiting for me for a good 20mins. A nightmare.
It would be nice for all the men who want their wives to go 50/50 take to the stage and defend them here but, unlikely. I get hit on by married men and clients!. Offensive not flattering!
I don’t understand why women don’t complain. I’m in my 40s now but in my youth, I complained all of the time. I’m said that I’m not interested once, maybe twice but after that, I’m complaining. Ladies, learn how to complain and get these guys fired. It beats being scared for your life
I HAVE complained many times only to be retaliated against, fired, punished in some way, or my concerns are flat out dismissed & invalidated. I am told to simply "get over it" by people in positions of power to help me & they don't. So, I have learned there is no point in complaining because no one cares. The perpetrator is not punished/held accountable & I get invalidated & left to deal with the issue on my own.
Yeah is it hard to get him changed so he never delivers to you ever again. Here we can change the driver even cause we don't like his smell. If he harassed he will never be allowed to deliver to a female or even fired! This ends up badly really quickly.
Women should not have to be subjected to this harassment! I’m glad they handled that situation immediately, as they should have! But this creep is gonna do this to someone else!!!! It’s unfortunate, this man needs a lesson taught to him because it’s inappropriate and scary!
I'va had similar issues in my workplace, to the point that one day I was followed on my way home (but I was able to lose him before I arrived home). When I told what happened to my female coworkers, they where horrified and they were ''ready for war'' on my behalf; on the other hand, my closest male coworker said ''oh, poor guy, he didn't mean any harm''. I didn't report that the guy stalked me and made me feel deeply uncomfortable on a daily basis at my workplace because I was advised that it would create a ''bad environment'', so I just avoided and ignored him as much as possible until the end of my contract, but it was hell to be hypervigilant and on my toes every single day. I'm truly glad this lady's situation was resolved quickly and cleanly, with no repercussions, I wish her the best!
I'm pansexual, but I'll regularly tell guys I'm gay when they ignore my first 3-4 "sorry I'm not interested" replies...AND THEY'LL KEEP GOING ANYWAY. Honestly it's kind of scary when you realize a guy is so determined to disregard boundaries, he'll even shrug off a woman not being attracted to ANY guys on ANY level. Like what is that type of guy capable of??
If it's a manager or a person in a position of influence over you & within your industry, who won't take no for an answer & continues to harass you, seek legal advice. Keep a record of everything & get a lawyer. HR do what benefits the company & may not always have your best interests in mind. It's also common that these guys have reputations & there is a pattern of behaviour. Chances are there are other victims. There is no permanent record for serial offenders of sexual harassment in the workplace. If they have power or know the right people, they are protected & enabled to carry on uneffected with their predatory behaviour. This is based on what I learned from my personal experience. In my case, my silence was causing harm to myself & to other women. I do not blame women for not speaking up, based on what I experienced. Protect yourself as best you can.
In my case it was my university professor, I had to drop out in the end. Even his own colleagues admitted to me personally that they were aware perfectly of what was going on (he basically married his student 10 yrs before that, I was like her doppelganger) but they were too afraid to speak up
The guy that did these things to me is my neighbour. Like we share a wall and since I rejected him he makes it his business to make my life uncomfortable. He stomps around all night when he until the early am before I left for work he stops. I mean like he wears shoes stomping on the floor and smashing stuff.
Creepy xy neighbors are the worst. Haven't seen mine around in a few days. I really hope he's been evicted. I'm sure I'm not the only woman creeped out by him - strong serial killer vibes.
Yes! I had just started at a previous place of employment, a customer came in and started making unwanted advances and comments. I told him I was married, showed him my ring, told him I didn't appreciate his words or his actions toward me. My husband had already schooled me how to handle that because he worked for the same business. I sent an email to my direct manager and copied his manager, this creates a paper trail. It was handled immediately.
The number of times a customer held me hostage at a cash register just to hit on me is too many times to count. I worked in a service station since I was 16 to 21. It was a small service station with small convenience store and I did everything, I stocked the shelves, ran the cash register, clean the floors, did inventory, etc. I had a list of tasks to complete and stuff to prep for the next employee's shift. And there were always customers who refused to leave after buying their beer or whatever. They would hang around the counter and talk to me, hit on me, flirt, try to get me to go out with them. And I sadly had no way to really send them off. Even if I told them I had stuff to do, they would just assume my job is only cash register and since there were no other customers...Anyways, there were cameras but I was still alone. It was scary at times. They would eventually leave, but it would take a while. I worked there cause it was close from home, was very flexible with shifts, since I was still in highschool and then college. The job wasn't all bad either, it was just those occasional days where some men would just decide they wanted to talk to me. Often the same ones who can't read social cues to save their life. They made me uncomfortable.
Im a baker/cake decorator . I don't understand why shes using a blow torch to heat up the knife? we use hot water . Anyway poor thing. she shouldn't have to deal with that guy . Its disturbing.
This old client at work was being extremely rude to me and when I tried to calm him down he started insisting on going to some hotel with him 🤷🏻♀️ he was very persistent so I told him he must pay me and I'll pick hotel and time, he agreed and left, later that day he sent money into my account and I blocked him. After trying to contact me for a few days he showed up at my work and started yelling but my boss wasn't having any of it so he called security on him and stopped doing business with him 😌 it was satisfying
@@kgs2280 I think the moment we stop victimising ourself less and criminalise them more we'll see through it better 🤷🏻♀️ they deserve to be punished more than we get justice because they are capable of hurting more people even after hurting us and they do
Boy do I have a story about this predator maintenance man at my factory job I gave him the silent treatment over a year so he started coming up behind me whistling purposely to make noise so that I’d hear n then stand by me waiting for me to share pleasantries with him that I never shared so then it was awkward silence besides the whistling omg ew I could go on n on “hello Tina how are you today whistle😮”
@@ImaniForester omg totally uncomfortable I’d hear the whistling in the distance coming closer n closer n my anxiety would shoot through the roof, n so if I’d see him coming I’d go pretend to have to grab something n when he figured out that I’d leave when I knew he was coming he’d come from another way behind me n not whistle n startle me from behind “HEY! What’s up Tina!!”
Until women start reporting these people to their employers, recording this stuff, etc, they'll continue to feel fearless. It is not our fault but it is our responsibility. We have to protect ourselves
I used to get an Uber to work every day and had similar problems. The male driver would always make comments on my office attire and perfume. He even said something weird like “you look like a girl who should be a teacher” and “I bet you’re good with kids”. I was 18. He’d scream at me if I didn’t answer the call right away when he got there. Very scary man.
Keep avoiding the stalkers. Why? Once they can offer anything and you refuse or reject them. By drawing the line of rejection then they have a reason to hurt you back. Give No voice. No time. No eye contact. Stay safe at all times. ❤
I can't go in my corner shop because of this. He asked me out 7 times and I said no thank you not interested. Then he started getting nasty. I have a neighbour who's done this. I've switched gyms twice because of this behaviour (and currently have another). Does it ever end?
The only thing I can focus on is that she doesn’t have a hairnet on. I can envision biting into a piece of cheesecake and finding a long hair on my fork. When I bake for just my family I wear my hair in a clip and I still find hairs every now and then. Her hair is falling out of her clip. 🤢
I’ve worked in food service so I absolutely get your point, but it’s funny because later I became a hairdresser for like 30 years, plus owned pets, so I got used to finding plenty of hair…everywhere. Clean clothes out of the dryer…yup. In food, yup. I just didn’t care anymore, but I do understand that from working in restaurants.
Sorry but she should just be up front and tell him he should be professional. Guys get a rise out of fear. Most of them just want to see how far they can go. Don’t give them your power.
since that guy seems like a common delivery driver to her she can report him and say he is banned from delivering to her business and if he shows up you drop the company he works for they'll fire him or not send him.
One time a homeless guy followed me home on a walk and then for a week straight.He kept knocking on all my doors and windows.Every night until i covered them with sheets
had a teen male delivery driver try to break into my house to "give me my order" he was fiddling with the smart lock then I opened the door with a face covering mask and starred at him said nothing freaked him out so he put down the items and left.
At this point in my life I am too fed up to care about what others think; if a guy pulls this I get really loud so everyone nearby can hear me say very clearly, “I am not interested! I am at work! Stop hitting on me, I AM NOT INTERESTED! Do your damn job and let me do mine!” Because unlike when you’re alone out in public, at work I have cameras and worker’s comp, I have my boss and my coworkers and my regular customers who all care about me there. He’s not going to do shit with all those people watching. Men like this know better, and embarrassment is the only thing that will make them hesitate the next time he gets the urge to act like a creep.
Let’s not be racist, shall we? I’ve been pestered by white men my entire life (I’m white) but I’ve never had a black guy harass me. A couple of them complimented me, but never pushed it when I said no.
I have a toddler grandson. My daughter is really trying hard to raise him well. I just saw the intro/title to the book "30 reasons why men deserve nothing" and you are partially correct... no one is ENTITLED to anything from anyone. But as my grandson grows up, how sad to raise a whole generation to hate/judge the other HALF of the population. Men are training men to hate women, women are training women to hate men. Do we need to do better overall? Definitely. We can each take self-responsibility to do our part. Your book is probably awesome but the title comes off as so anti-all men. Even if you have zero reason to like the men of older generations...why isn't the title directing women to focus in a positive direction for themselves? Man-judging won't accomplish anything positive any more than man-centering would. Focus in the direction you want to go. And then men or women inspired by your focus will join you. Just letting you know I feel repelled by the title, even IF I would agree with the basic contents of the book. We can't just kill off and eradicate HALF the population and treat them worse than we were treated to get revenge. Basic decency is how I would like to treat everyone and get criminals behind bars.
I was raised in a gender equal household and therefore clueless about how navigating the world as an adult woman is like. From my perspective, this isn’t about hating men it’s about teaching women to protect themselves and to deconstruct the way we have been groomed to people please.
I just wanna say that if a man ask you out and you say you have a husband then to him apparently you’re still interested because you didn’t say no, you just can’t go cause you’re married but if you weren’t married, then you are interested in going out with him. Perhaps it’s better to just say no, no thank you and go about your business. We can try that. You can also say to the guy that’s asking you out to ask your husband and if your husband says yes, then you’ll go out with him 😂
@@EvaeAwake men seem to think marriage is a contract only binding for their wife, but wants other men's wives to break contract. Don't ask how they process that cognitive dissonance, it's bafflingly beyond me.
