Think about Wimen in your life, if they give other Wimen "Advice", its something they already have done or Want to do. They dont give thought through Advice to other Wimen, they check if the others agree... To find Validation from others for ther actions without telling them openly what they have done or want to do. Not everytime, but, often. They Test the waters if they done something that could get them in Trouble in their social circles. In that case, her friend knew her husband. Well, i think my husband is bad, so, i call your husband bad. If you agree that means i am right that my husband is bad... Wimen use others to their benefit, they do it with their girfriends too.
He was unattractive. It was his only but also the significant flaw. It's why she found him to be "adequate" at best in bed. A word that means as much as "acceptable" or "good enough".
It is a devestating combo of never just being content with what they have and seeing their own family as expendable. Even if everything is going great, there is that nagging feeling that it could be better, that they have to strive for more and more even if they are perfectly happy with what they have. And then they abandon husbands and children to chase after that greener pasture, not caring how their family might feel about it. And when it fails in the end and they come crawling back, these kind of women dare to be baffled as to why the people she threw into the garbage will not just let her back to where she was and pretend like nothing happened.
@@sebastiansteppuhn3418 You don't get it. She left him, because he's unattractive. She even mentioned his performance in bed was "adequate". All the constant nagging is natural behaviour, caused by the daily reminder of being married to an unattractive man. Such a man could take a deep breath and it will rub her the wrong way.
Especially when your hobbies are actually your livelihood. I about fell out of my chair 2/3 through the article when she admitted that he was a software engineer and his "man cave" was actually a work room.
@@rustyshackleford1062 Obviously she left a lot of crap out that she did to her husband that he decided too separate. And the way she treats her current boyfriend, how much you wanna bet that she compared her first husband to other guys for 15 years. He always comforted when she had a tantrum but I had a feeling he found something out about her that he didn't bother to comfort her that final time. He caught her doing something behind his back. The fact that he just walked away in silence the last time have me assuming that he's an introvert and a man of few words. I have these types of introvert guys in my family. They Simp, Simp, Simp and then one day they draw the line with ZERO chance of recovery. It's over. Hell would freeze over first before things will turn back again.
Her friends were probably envious of her marriage and started putting poisonous ideas in her head. People should be more careful when choosing their friends.
Remember this is a person who was willing to toss her 15 year husband in the trash for gossip and again willing to toss her devoted current partner on so much as a chance to get the old one back. The friends are just an added factor. This person is untrustworthy and broken in the head, that’s the main problem, not the friends, they just made it worse.
@@NerdlySquared Statement: Ding ding. SHE made the choices. We are all subject to pressures of many types in our lives for a whole lot of reasons. This is no excuse. SHE nuked the marriage, because SHE chose to listen to her "friends" instead of properly valuing the sanctity of marriage & love of her husband & security of her family & the legacy which SHE was supposed to be a part of building & maintaining. "But I was brainwashed.." is only more reason, not less, to kick weak-willed people who are susceptible to that kind of thing out of your life sooner rather than later.
She's exactly like her friend. They did nothing she wouldn't have done. They were not envious. They were bitter about their relationships and so was she. They're not to blame. She is. I didn't hear her mention that her friends destroyed their relationship.
There's a saying that's very well known in RP spaces- "single females keep other females single." & they often mess up their married friend's marriage as well- which this female in question found out a little too late. It's also why many men avoid single moms as well.
And it's not just single females, it's (un)happily married ones too, sometimes even more so. Vetting a woman's friends is just as important as reconning her family... women are sponges of their environment and acquaintances, and invariably susceptible, detrimentally so, to their influence.
She demonized and belittled him, brought up consideration of divorce, and was then shocked when he gave it to her. She admits to being horrible to him more often than not as the years went on and no amount family and security could halt her selfishness. Now she realizes she was the one at fault all along, admits it, but it's too late. She destroyed the family structure and while she was a good mother (in his words) and she never doubted he loved her she couldn't just let a good thing be enough because she let the clucking of her idiot "friends". Typical story, typical actions, typical remorse.
@@DelightfullyMADD Women and simping white knights gang up and dictate our lives. Or as we've come to it call it... Democracy happened. The Tyranny of the many over the few.
> I tried to call off the divorce but he coldly told me to leave Once a man sees you as unfit for marriage, there's no going back, he only sees you with contempt from then on. It's the male version of the friend zone, in that there is no escape.
She doesn’t care about your disability, the whole women are the more emotionally intelligent or empathetic sex thing is a myth. Men are more likely to love romantically
Throwing a temper tantrum, crying, and then expecting an adult to come along and completely capitulate to her until she feels better: this is seriously the behavior of an infant. The natural vvahmxxn operates on the mentality of a shrieking baby, and thinks it is a man's duty to allow her to return to that state. That's also why they get so unreasonably angry at the inexcusably irrational expectation for you to be able to read their mind and give them what they want without even having to give you the most subtle and esoteric of hints. Whatever did men do to be cursed to have to coexist with such parasites?
So let me get the straight ,she was awful throughout the marriage, projected her issue on the husband, pretending he was the awful one, then proceeded to scream at him that they should get divorced while insulting him in any way possible and was shocked when he said "Okay". Now, to top it all off, she becomes a LIFECOACH? Pray for the poor souls that listen to her advice.
A life couch from someone whos F up a marrige, its on a wreck and cant even take a monht off to isolate hereself and self- reflect on to get a understandment on why she so emotional driven? Naahhhh 💀, the only advice she give are break up speed run tutorials.
She isn't actually confessing her sins, taking responsibility for her evils, repenting of her wicked ways, or trying to earn forgiveness; she's just virtue signaling penance. She's throwing her story out into the aether, saying everything she thinks her ex husband wants to hear, hoping he'll read it and think she's "cHaAaAaAnGeD." This is just another of her pathetic ploys to try and get him back on the plantation.
>Toxic domineering woman throws her marriage away over a mug not getting washed, plays the victim when faced with the consequences Two things bring out the truth from your lips, alcohol and rage - everything in her tirade was what she felt inside, she was just one final explosive outburst from her blowing up everything she had.
[If a wife (one) cannot understand that her happiness is not most important in a couple, she will never stay faithful to her husband! Dee-vorce is just an eventuality to those misguided wombmen! Smh🤦🏻♂️]
Welcome to a society where men are told to “man up” and women are told they’re princesses from birth. They’re “daddy’s little princess” first, and then they transition to social media and become “queens”. They’re groomed from birth to be narcissists.
women never grow up when i was in my twenties i had to explain to a women in her 50's that holiness is more important then happiness women are dumb overgrown hedonistic less mature children and should have as much freedom as such
Either RU-vid's algrithm is WAY too sensitive, or you went to a near comical level of mispellings to avoid it beyond what was necessary. I am genuinely curious which is the case. Id like to assume you know something I dont.
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He always was if disney were smart they would remake the movie with henry cavill as lead [they have tried to redeem several irredeemable villains like malefcient cruella and ursula] and they could tell a nuaced strory about how gaston is trying to make up for causeing the death of his dads favored son in an accident when they were kids or something and in the end he would marry the 3 bimbos and get his "twelve strapping lads" from them since belle is a 304 that fell in love with an animal without knowing the curse would break
Gaston's massive flaw was wasting his time on a woman who would have been a pain in the ass for him because he had to have a "prize", every stupid villainous decision he made stemmed from that.
The irony, the reason that you as a man can't win, is that she loves him because he didn't kneeled to hug her at that last tantrum in the kitchen. If he would had kneeled to hug her, the disgust she would have felt would have been forever. But he showed respect for himself, and that's why she loves him. That's why women themselves are their worst enemies: they destroy their own lives by shit-testing to the extreme. And of course, they destroy others' lives in the process. They can't control their emotions, so one minute they are awful to you, humiliating, shaming you like demons because they did feeeeeel it at that moment, and the next minute they are begging for forgiveness, that they didn't mean it because now they don't feeeeel it. Now I want divorce, now I don't want it... like a 5 year old, just demanding what the moment dictates, no further consequences into consideration, just the moment because that's how I feeeeeel now. My english is crap, sorry about that.
Had a similar story with my group of friends. A couple had some intense argument, and you have the typical boy group/girl group meeting. Turn out us boy were all trying to convince him to mend the relationship and make up with his wife, but the girl group was trying to tell the wife this marriage isn't worth it and they should divorce. In the end they had a divorce.
If Tom was her "dream guy" she wouldn't be bitching in this article. She would be talking how the divorce was a wonderful idea. And her frenemies would try to sleep with Tom and steel him from her.
my grandma used to watch the nanny so i also watched it when she was babysitting me there was an episode were the nanny was hanging out with her nanny friends and i guess they got paid more than her or something so she gets upset and she threatens to quit and when she is complaining about her boss she finds out that the other nannies dont get room and boarding, they dont get to go on family vacations, they dont get breaks etc and she realizes that she was being selfish and not appreciating what she got so she appologizes and gets her job back. I guess it was a show inteded for a different generation but i think the message was maybe your husband doesnt earn a lot of money but he spends a lot of time with the kids, maybe he isnt the most attractive but he works on the house fixing everything, painting it, building a shed, etc, maybe he is not the smartest but he work hard and bought a home, there is always going to be a friend married to someone better but it doesnt matter. Nowadays that doesnt exist, the husband has to be rich, spend time with her, spend time with the kids, work out for 3 hours a day while also being tall and handsome and not balding and keep her entretained and be on call 24/7 and if he isnt perfect then her friends will tell her to divorce him even when it will fuck her over
I just got to 14:59 and feel totally vindicated. I knew right away her friends had gotten divorced and pushed her to do it too. One of the best pieces of relationship advice I ever got was that you have to pay attention to what's going on with your wife/girlfriend's friends. If they start cheating on their guys or break up with them, then that's a sign that your girl is about to do that to you. So you have to get ahead of the 304s scheming to drag your girl into their drama.
so her "friends" told her that she should grenade her happy marriage, and she did just that. now looking back she notices that he was one of the best things she had. what's the quote "I took a calculated risk, but boy am I bad at math." seriously a divorced life coach. whoever her clients are they are probably just as bad at 'math' as she is.
A divorced life coach who Arkansacided her marriage over petty, egomaniacal BS and the manipulation of toxic vvahmxxn *who she is still friends with* is the equivalent of a 400 lb personal trainer.
@DaMaster012 if only. Tbh it blind sided me but was also expecting at some point as she spent the past 3 years 95% of the time homeless or couch surfing. She gets to visit every other Sunday to see the kids so unfortunately I still gotta deal with her for 11 more years. I just simply said I know and left it at that. Tbh it was probably more of a manipulation tactic if anything because I got the house, kids, truck and her abusive baby daddy isn't around.
I think I've been 'Tom' in a relationship with a female, and I broke it off for that reason. Now I've never been married and don't have kids, and I'm immensely grateful now that my health has declined along with the state of the world. Do you know how bad I would feel now if I had kids and a woman and I was letting them down due to my health? Even worse when I'd probably be abandoned.
Fact of the matter is; Usually, a woman's value decreases as they grow older. Which is why you got so many older single women and divorcees complain that no man wants them.
This is all about the attitude of the woman. When we were newlyweds, I told my wife I would clean this one area of the house while she had to work late. I spent an hour or two on it, and when she came home she looked at the area and said, "You told me you would work on this. What did you do?" in an exasperated tone. I told her I did work on it for hours. She looked at it, then started laughing a big hearty laugh. She came over to me, gave me a kiss on the cheek and thanked me for what I had done, then said she would finish it up on the weekend. So it clearly wasn't to her standards, but there was an appreciation for what I had done.
😂😂😂 Yes, it's always that way. A man's clean is not the same as a woman's clean. The wife and I figured that out pretty quickly during our marriage. I was married 33 years before she passed away. Unfortunately, people these days don't consider their marriage vows seriously before getting married. Because of this, they end up getting divorced instead of actually wanting to work problems out.
Biggest scam ever? Convincing happy moms that they be happier in a corporate environment where they get to “independent and can’t be told what to do” yet get told what to do by a male boss.
Wow so much of what this lady said reminded me of my ex before our divorce. The only difference is we didn't have kids so she described us as being like roommates instead of married.
A woman on her day off: shopping, spa, self care, night out A Man on his day off: projects, take off around the house, favors for others, non career related work
"I'd dump Tom without a backward glance.." That line tells me she clearly has no understanding of what the word "Love" means. If she loved her ex, she wouldn't have divorced him. If she loved Tom, she wouldn't be so ready to ditch him next. She may like her children, her ex, and her current partner; but she loves none of them.
I was about to say why any decent human being would do that, then I remember we were talking about women... So yeah, it's pleasantly surprising, indeed.
@@christophebedouret9813 You're on the right track. Remember that women are morally inept, or evil if you want to say it like that; A researcher & psychologist, Lawrence Kohlberg, developed/published *'The stage of moral development'* . There are 6. He observed that women cap out at stage 3. Some men can reach up to the 6th but no woman can ever reach 4.
@@christophebedouret9813 Its hard to imagine "women" the brand getting any worse. Bud Light's got NOTHING on "women." Literally every story is about women being selfish, cruel, vindictive, promiscuous, self absorbed narcissists. That is all anyone thinks about anymore. Ironically, the best thing to happen to women is having T's take over their spaces and muddy up the definition of "woman." Either way, they are leading us straight into total societal collapse.
"cake blazing" = He's old. "blows out the number 50 candle." = He's older than dirt. "I chastise myself, over and over again, for ending my marriage five years ago when I was 44." I am older than dirt too, but had 'misunderstandings'.
Ever hear "I've given you the best years of my life!" (Usually followed by some BS.) That statement is actually TRUE! So picture investing " the best years of your life " in a partner that is above average or better so you got cred to keep him around for the worst years. Then out of the blue you decide to set him free for the cliff that is coming in your forties. That is a lucky husband and a delusional wife!!!
I recently had a talk with my best friend's mom. She was wondering about why marriage seems so hard for us youngsters. Her words amazed me. "Stick together for a couple of decades, when times are hard and when they are good. Then you will notice that you can't even imagine doing that without your partner." She is right, the length of her marriage and 6 children, the youngest being in his early twenties prove her point. People just don't try to stick together like this anymore.
Her: Things are pretty good Her "friends": Yeah, but you could make it better Her: yeah.. I could Alway sunny in philadelphia opening and text: she couldnt make it better
If I were to give this woman any credit, it would be that she, at the very least, acknowledged the fact that she was influenced by her toxic friends and it looks like she didn't try to make the kids hate their dad.
That's a 13' x 11' room, or not even an 11'6" square. That's probably the smallest room in the house, too. But that doesn't matter. His man cave could have been a closet and she still would have whined. VVamxxniz hate men having fun by themselves or having time to themselves because it is antithetical to their gynocentricism; they literally think men have no purpose but to be of use to vvahmxxniz. It's sexist altruism, and a grift so frail the men merely acting in self-interest is an existential threat to it.
This story reminded me of one of Flufy's shows when he was talking about women. Women can tell when someone is happy in a relationship and their first thought is "i bet i can change that".
5:54 please stop you're giving me flashbacks!! After doing all the chores both inside and out of the house and even spending an hour time watching a movie with my ex.. she would still find an excuse to interrupt me in the one room I had my video game system in. There'd be times should complain about the dog and not even have her sitting in the room with me so she'd have nothing else to complain about. she still found something.. "I'M BORED!"
THIS. This I have seen personally happening 3 times by now. My brother, my neighbour and a pal of mine. Having a girlfriend/wife, kids, house, you name it. Then one day, out of nowhere, she leaves. Because she is "not happy"TM. Only to realize that no man (she desires) actually wants to be with a single middle-age mom, while her harpy friends (all single, of course) are screeching into her ear that "she deserves better"TM. While they are now all alone, realizing that their lives without a partner is suddenly way harder and their former spouses are doing just fine. It's the same scenario EVERY DAMN TIME.
They cite the supernatural and witchcraft for their superiority, then blame feminism as a magic spell that takes all their free will away. Much like in shopping, "The Devil made me buy this dress."
Not even an hour of work. Dont make a mess in the first place, put things away when youre done with them. Easy. Any job you can do unwashed in your PJs is not worthy of praise.
@7:49 - She hasn't even "got back together" with the ex-husband... while being "so sorry", and, "my current one PALES in comparison to the old one"... AND YET, SHE ALREADY has something to complaint about! lol of the day!
The work that justified staying home to do it is now ALL performed by machines. And the person who stays home to do it is basically cleaning up after themselves and increasing the quantity as they prepare food for themselves. They are less like parents and much more like the eldest child.
3 rules for men: 1) Avoid single mothers like the plague. 2) Prenup or no marriage. 3) Paternity test, always. It’s sad that these are the measures men have to take, not even to get over on anyone, just to guard themselves from ruin. I wish it weren’t like this, but you can thank modern feminism for the state of gender relations.
My take on any many that broke up with a chick like this is never go back. Don't even go into that "friends with benefits" crap. Because you'll never get rid of her. If you're done you're done. Just concentrate on business with your children and that's it.
I can clean my apartment in 45 minutes. I leave my cup out because I use it again. I don’t want it in the machine because raw meat utensils are in there
I'm going to be blunt after listening to this. I feel bad for 'Tom'. Because that poor sucker is getting strung along by the single mother. But hey, he signed up for it, he's simping, he deserves it. As she stated herself, he ticks every box, but still doesn't give her the tingles.
@haitaelpastor976 because I want a relationship when I'm older (19m), but every time I look at an attractive girl, I think, "She's slept with the entire literacy course, hasn't she?" Which I feel is wrong, but at the same time, I know it isn't outside the realm of possibility.
@@phoenyxhydra8020 I know and understand how you feel. It's difficult to think clearly and logically at that age, when hormones boil like dragon broth. I'm almost in my 50's, and my experience with the opposite sex has been bad from start to finish, and I mean finish because I'm done with women. All I can tell you is: love is for poets. It doesn't exist in real life. I myself am a hopeless romantic, and that is the reason I cannot be in a relationship. It's fantasy, trying to do it in real life is like going against a whole gang using kung-fu like in the movies: you'll get hurt... or killed.
I have to disagree with comparing keeping a house you live in by yourself clean with a house with 3 kids in it clean That's not equivalent. Kids are walking messes
The only thing I disagree with you on is her friends radicalized and helped her ruin her marriage. She's friends with them for a reason. They simply allowed her to be who she truly is.
