A man that’s not your husband isn’t obligated to provide and protect you. Just like a woman that’s not your wife isn’t obligated to have sex with and submit to you. I’m on the side of reserving hubby benefits for a wife and wifey benefits for a husband.
Most men aren’t going for that, let’s be honest. And most men aren’t looking for marriage and commitment, more especially if he’s a BM (the group of men with the lowest marriage rate, regardless of the race if the woman).
@@Jenjenn1111 • Some women believe it would be better to keep your body to yourself than to be used as a trash can for a nasty man to deposit his DNA. Sorry you are not one of them. 🙏
Back in the 90s men gladly paid bills and bought jewelry for women and everyone was happy. If the man truly cares about you then he will do whatever he can to make your life more enjoyable. Alot of the men who get used for money are the ones who choose the women out of their league. I've seen men pay bills and give money to women who had husband's and boyfriend's and they didn't care. At the end of the day its the man's choice if he wants to pay bills.
Men were goofy mogs back in the 90s then 😂😂😂. That’s NOT having discernment from the Lord 🤝. Only the enemy will tell you to pay bills for a woman that’s not your wife 😂😂
That was in the 90s tho. No ONLYFANS, no Insta, no Tinder, bumble etc etc. Today's women aren't worth that at all. Only a foolish man would pay bills for a woman he's not married to in 2024
Yes I'm out here being intentional and guys just want to have a dirty conversation and jump in the bed and when i tell them that's not what I'm looking for they try to pretend , but their colors show and get mad when i don't sleep with them.
Figure out what you’ve been missing in the first 1-2 conversations. Are you telling them everything you want so they can pretend instead of you letting them talk and asking questions.
You're being intentional eh? How old are these men? What is your criteria for these men? How old are you? A lot of women are out here dating obvious players and fboys and then come online and complain about "all men"...
If they want it bad enough they will try everything in their arsenal on you regardless. Sad but true. I find at times it's best to just clarify upfront it saves times. Just make sure you recognize the games early
The dating pool is horrible trying to find somebody decent is almost impossible and the ones that are decent they probably married and taken it's almost like the options is almost gone and there are none left
All the screaming and hollering…girl bye…I could only imagine an argument with her. Men if you sign up for this nonsense that’s on you, be wise and not taken by appearances
I had no idea this asking men for money before going out on a date was a thing. It happened to me twice and I just flat told them I don’t know them like that. Never heard back from them. After hearing this video I’m glad to see I didn’t miss out on anything
The fact that some women in these comments are agreeing with her behavior proves how much wisdom these ladies lack!!! A person whose invitation you say “yes” to is in your control, if you don’t want to go on a date then don’t go. If you go, don’t go there with the intention to get your “bills” paid….that’s not what dates are for, and your financial responsibilities are NOT his burden to bare. Boundaries is NEEDED on both sides, as a woman you wouldn’t want a man to place a demand on your body in exchange for his time that he spent on the date, and also for spending his money. Switch up the role and you’ll find how ridiculous and petty this is actually. Imagine a man saying this, he doesn’t want to take you on a date, and get to know you, he just wants his sexual needs met just because he showed up for the date,…..it would be immature, promiscuous and selfish for him to want sexual compensation in return!!! And that also makes him a “user!!”
Do these women understand when they do and say this cray cray, they are literally saying I am an escort? I'm a box for hire but will get mad when that man treats her as such. As they say - you can't make this ish up.
Well, a job is looking to PAY you to do a certain job. The only job most of these men are looking to interview a woman for is sex. So if he ain’t trying to marry…then he needs to be paying…just like those jobs.
Yes. 💯💯💯 & There's the same situation taking place when it comes to guys wanting a female to have a certain amount of money, certain types of car, or flat out she just HAS to have sex with him in order for him to consider worthy of her attention and time. Smh.. Most High calling Judgment on all this worldliness. APTTMH. 🙏🏽
No, a man is not obligated to pay your bills if he is not your husband. However, if he is expecting sex from a woman that is not his wife then I don’t see anything wrong with a woman expecting money before marriage! That’s the problem…men don’t want us asking for money prematurely but they have no problem asking for sex prematurely!
@@marcoar4042 You know nothing about me. Don’t be mad cause we don’t want uncommitted broke males. Why should we provide undeserving males with free sex? What do we get?
@marcoar4042 People can change their minds and standards. Just because a man payed a woman he was talking to's bills before doesn't mean he now has to pay Every woman he dates' bills. He can say Nah, not again, that didn't work out well before. If a woman decides she no longer wants to have sex for nothing, those are now her standards. You can't expect a person to revert their standards because you didn't meet them back then.
@@digthewarmth I totally agree with you ma! I just wanted to give you a man's perspective on how we view women's raised standards. A man of means simply ain't goin for it. Women are within their right to demand more from men after going thru experiences. As long as they understand that the men they want, the men with options, status, and wealth, will just kick them to the curb and replace them with the quickness.
I’m so glad women are giving men a dose of their own medicine, keep your legs closed until he takes out his wallet ladies! Let’s learn from our grandmothers mistakes.
Lol. Women have sex with no preconditions for men they like. The only thing you are saying is you don't like the man like that. So that man should move on.
Maybe this type of women always existed even in the old days but they just didn't broadcast it on social media before. I think social media really brought out the ugly side of humans a lot.
@@viciousreasoning504 Wowwww!! I did not know that ALL men did not care about character and that we all only go for only light skins being a man! 😂😆 Learn something new everyday.
@@joshuacooperseo • Too many women have only been exposed to broken toxic men so they think all men are alike. If a man doesn't care about your character, but he cares about your looks, and he wants to spend time and money on you. It is like Prince sang, "l just need your body baby, from dusk till dawn." In this song he was telling the woman she didn't have to be beautiful to turn him on. This is something else women need to understand. These types of women will learn when they are older and all used up. This is dangerous behavior and thinking because this is not self preservation thinking. Women need to earn their own money, and not expect nothing from a man who does not marry them.
💯💯💯 I understand her frustration. My time is valuable. Beside, who has more audacity - her asking for money or him asking for sex? If the guy has the nerve to ask for her body then she can have the audacity to ask for whatever she wants! or she can be a pick me and be taken advantage of. Her choice. A real man would NOT even be thinking about taking a woman to bed until they are married IF he really loves and respects her!! We have to know our worth and have self respect!
@@calliem2024 The issue isn't the money, it's the attitude. At the end of the day, all relationships are technically transactional. Both parties have something that the other wants, there's nothing wrong with that. However, respect is key for a relationship to last. Someone who views a person as the thing that they are providing and not as a person, has no inherent respect for that person. There are many men who wouldn't have a problem paying for everything, but besides sex and a bad attitude, is she providing her partner with anything else. Equally is she going to feel happy and fulfilled if the only thing he brings is money & sex. Humans have emotional, mental, & physical needs. Trying to distill the relationships down to "is he giving me what I want" without being open to communicate the real needs of each other is why it's difficult for many women to get quality relationships.
She doesn’t have the “right” to place a “demand” on anyone’s money!!! Going on a date is normal, during that introductory stage it’s not about having the man to financially compensate for your life. You go on dates to “vet” the person’s character, core values, goals and their purpose in life. She sounds frustrated over her own life choices, no one else has to make up for it. She lacks virtue in her attitude and wisdom in her words!!! You can’t bill a man because he invited you out! That’s lawless behavior. And if you have a son, you’d want him to be with someone that thinks soberly and has a gracious attitudes towards him, you wouldn’t want any woman billing him over their own personal life responsibilities that has nothing to do with him.
Scary. These types of people are just looking for convenience, the benefits of a relationship without being in one.. and trust there are plenty fools out there that live by that.. it’s definitely not hard to come by…. There’s no true substance in that kind of mess.. I hope they all just get together and do whatever that plan to do.. leave the normal people not hiding behind a mask and buzz words alone..
Folks, I don't mean to sound classist and egregious, but there is such a thing as class stratification (aka class categories). Why are we using these calibre of women as reference point for ALL women? Since when did every Woman on planet earth think and act like that lady? Are ppl losing grasp of reality or simply projecting their own little social circle onto the entire world of 8 billion people? Pls don't confuse reality with online content - it's an illusion. Ppl tend to date and marry within their class categories - that lady was speaking to a VERY specific calibre of men. Those men know who they are.
@@cynthiadickerson5403 Yes Indeed!! My Daddy & A Ole School Man told me that if a man's about anything all the bills should be paid & u shouldn't want for nothing. However, This lame ass generation today it's not gone happened especially the way these ppl raise kids now.
How about he be husband material first? How about getting to know each other together? What about building a foundation together? Life is more than getting bills paid Sis.
These women come from a place of hurt. I used to be like this too after dealing with bums 🤦♀️ But now I see it from men's point of view. There really is wicked women out there so you need to be prudent. This entitled pricess attitude is unattractive and yes I will admit I used to be like this too and I passed up some guys because the first date was coffee 😔 I was just hurting myself w/ this mindset tbh
@@leslianncarney2650 I’m not in a relationship right now because I still got issues and trauma I’m dealing with and if I were to get in a relationship I’d just hurt others. Working on my femininity and I got some avoidant issues as well. But I know that I can’t blame a whole gender because what you attract is only a reflection of yourself. Just letting go of the bitterness and forgiving exes already gives me peace though, I suggest everyone do it. I know what issues I need to fix now and next go around I want to try and be a supportive and submissive helpmeet for the man that God sends me.
I’m not saying she is right at all but guys nowadays only waste your time. They just try to get around you to see if you’ll sleep with him . At this point I feel that women are owed something for the time wasted on showing them they won’t get none.
Sigh. Women have no idea how to pick men. Guaranteed you are dating players and bad boys. Are you a chaste person? Are you covered in piercings and tattoos from a hoe phase? How old are these men? Women love to say all men are like x but they never say any details about themselves or the men. Yes a 25 year old man and a 38 year old man are very different. A woman covered in tattoos and with a couple of kids will have a worse dating experience than a woman without kids and seems like a safer marriage prospect. A lot of women are not marriage material. Instead of just blaming men start by looking at yourself realistically. There are plenty of marriage minded men out there. So if they are passing on you, find our why.
No man owes her dates, if she is going to have this kind of attitude. If some guy is fine with her, then he's so transactional, he is just going to negotiate her price for a roll immediately. He is clearly not going to make her a wife. He's definitely not going to see if they are compatible as a pairing. Dates are for finding out if you are compatible with him. A serious man who wants a wife will prioritize her behavior and personality, not be willing to pay for sleeping around like a prostitute's customer just because of her looks. Husband material men don't bother with women who behave like ladies of the night. They go out of their way to seek out a proper lady who fits his standards for a life partner, because they know the other woman is a waste of time.
A man paying Bills for a woman not named his wife is an abusive arrangement Its not a Boyfriends job to pay your bills...that is your fathers job....if you choose to be a modern woman moving out of your fathers house before marriage..... well then your bills are YOUR responsibility... A boyfriends job is to demonstrate competence...not pay your bills and get nothing in return.....
I can’t even judge her for her mindset bc a lot of men aren’t dating for marriage. They honestly pursue these women for strictly sex so they need to pay. The way all the dating sites are so corrupted with free casual sex and no genuine connections dating today is manipulation smh
Its her standard and she is entitled to how she feels. What one man won't do another will. Like some men's standard for a woman is to cook, clean, raise children and go 50/50.
@eyanasglow8163 Everyone has an issue when a Black woman states what she wants because they don't believe we should get what we want. Instead of ignoring her because they don't want to reach that standard, they try to humble her.
@@charmaineespeut4627 exactly, I've seen so many non black women say the same thing & I rarely see anyone telling them what their worth, but God forbid a black woman especially an African American woman has a standard
Men are paying her bills and now she has no desire for anything else but that. It's her prerogative how she moves but she definitely comes across entitled cold and spoiled.
I don’t agree with it but I definitely understand it. Men, especially BM, are notorious for wasting women’s time so BW are asking for the bag up front.
For eons women have been devalued and now women. Paying attention and moving according and now everyone mad Why? People are people You good or bad it's your choice. It doesn't matter if it's a man or women No one is stupid to the fact of what they desire or what they are getting
Just because a man wants to “Get to know you” what entitled him to that? Do I want to get to know him? Most of the time I don’t! That’s why he needs to pay for my time! Men are not that interesting to be around. Idk y men think just because he wants to “KNOW” you he’s entitled to your time..
I'm going to keep it 100....I used to think women were doing to much when they said this until about 2 years ago when I started dating as a single woman out of a 4 year relationship that's when my eyes were open. Men are actually out here offering gifts and being "generous" for one thing only...it was really disappointing to see this. Men I've been getting to know have randomly offered me money and to be honest it's so random it'll make anyone feel like they are putting down some kind of down payment on a prostitute. I always that taking gifts from them would come with unsaid s3xual obligations so I refuse it all. Interestingly, it makes them more intrigued and I'm so confused. Anyway, I don't blame this lady because that's what men out here are actually doing. And if they want things to change so they are not attracting potential gold diggers, they should just stop giving gifts and money as a potential exchange for s3x.
@@user-vg8ox3he1i you seem to be missing the point. Women who have experienced what I have are not selling anything as much as men are seeing an opportunity to put down a payment towards something. I think this is a direct reflection of a society where it's socially acceptable for men to buy s3x services. You don't just turn that mindset off when you're trying to date a normal woman who isn't selling anything.... Just goes to show that just because something is common practice doesn't men it's good. The constant access and proliferation to s3x whether it's in person or on Only Fans, is ruining men's ability to date normally.
If a man asks you on a date, he should pay. If a woman asks you on a date, she should pay. If they want to share the bill, it's for them to discuss it prior to the date.
