He’s pocketing his money so he can make his exit from this relationship with all his coins and leave her in poverty. A man who actually likes you would not watch while you struggle
She made a follow up video basically saying that she was going to stick beside him and was defending him. So again, here are my thoughts lol. Stop telling the internet about your terrible relationships. Tell a relationship therapist and if they don’t change, leave. Other than that, leave us alone 😂 because you know how ridiculous it sounds before you even come to the internet.
Girl living in lala land!! Once he save enough money he’s going to drop her like big fat cantaloupe!!! He probably has another woman on the side wining and dining!!!
They AlWAYS do that! They will come online in literal tears complaining and then tell people to mind their business. These women have self-esteem lower than hell and are desperate to simply have a man.
Lol, my father wanted my mother to stay at home and take care of us, but when it came time to ask for grocery money for the family, he would blow up and make a big deal, so she got a job and he was unhappy with that too. Men are wild.
I WAS friends with a woman whose husband quit working a decade plus ago because he was "too depressed". She has been supporting him and 3 children since then. Meanwhile she was always giving relationship advice about how I could "do better". Well, I have done better because I am single and don't have a lazy, shiftless grown adult living off of me.
This is the reason i never listened to my aunt who also is doing the same thing. He stopped working shortly after they got married, not even years later and she’s making excuses talking about how marriage isnt 50/50 and one person always does more smh
Before my wife, at the time she was my girlfriend, came to live with me I had to go sit down and have a serious conversation with her parents. Do you know what they asked about? My finances, because there was no way they were going to let their daughter leave their home to go live with a man who cannot provide for himself, much less their daughter. Before you move in with a man, or allow a man to move in with you, it would be wise to make him sit down with someone you respect so they can figure a few things out for you. When you in love and all that you will make mistakes and get yourself into bad situations.
Are yall Nigerian? Something about this comment gave them impression that she never had an outside of the house job where she could provide for herself or that this is like some dowry/bride price type of situation. That's just my thoughts.🤷♀️
OMG, she really said she had to Quit a 3rd job bc she didn't have a sitter.... why do you need a sitter when yall live together and on top of that she's working 3 jobs, Gurl, you know better!
Girl that man saving his money for when he’s ready to leave you! He ain’t going to marry you hon! When I meant my husband and dating I remember we were at the store buying school supplies for my daughter not his child, and I went for my wallet that man stepped in front of me give cashier his card when we got to the car he told me when I’m with him never never pull my wallet out, just let him be the man I was shocked because i was use carrying my own . Girl this man is using you to save his money SMH
Girl I hate myself in my twenties for paying for shit for the men I dated. They was all bums.either unemployed or had jobs but wouldn't treat me.never again.
Girl.... that happened to me, too! It was my sister's man who did it. He told me that he takes care of her, and because I am her family, he takes care of me. Whenever I am with him, I'm under his protection and provision. He asked me if I ever had a man take care of me? Clearly, the answer was no. I never took care of a man, but I never had one take care of me. I was Ms. Independent. Anyway, I just sat back and let him provide. I just watched how my sister moved and how he moved. I told myself that I needed to get me man like him. I didn't know what it was, but I knew I wanted it. My sister was always an ass, but she just expected proper treatment. She wasn't appreciative, though. I really studied their relationship dynamic. The next man I dated was just like him. We've been rocking ever since. I'm spoiled damn princess but I am appreciative.
He's never gonna leave her unless he finds his dream woman if hes not already with her tbh. He's been with this woman 7 years and hasn't married her, nor will he pay bills or give her $10, like women really do the most just to say they have a man and it's embarrassing.
I rebuke this foolishness in Jesus name bc what do I look like working myself into the ground with a man under the same roof. I’d rather die alone. God forbid that ever being my portion 🤣🤣🤣🤣😭😩
I am way too lazy to be working 3 jobs and plus being a mom. I am child free and happily married. I am now doing my master’s specializing in corporate/ EU & international business law. I work only a couple of months a year. Last year hubby and I traveled for 2 months, then worked July until November. Currently we are traveling in Indonesia and the Qatar. Hubby pays for my hobbies and my beauty treatments and all my insurance.
As he should that is your hubby. I just mentioned to my hubby that I need to go get my feet and nails done- and he had the money waiting for me. I work full time from home and make a good income but we save my money, and use his for everything else. I don’t ask him for money- he just gives it to me. When a man wants to, he will. 😊💕
Excuse me? She is working 3 jobs and her man is only working one, plus she has a child. That's a problem. They both live under the same roof and he can't contribute? He would have to exit stage left. She can do bad all by herself. She doesn't need him to drag her down more. He is not into her that's why he is not putting forth any effort. 1-11-2024(Thurs)
Dude, my husband got hurt at work and is recuperating at home and still feels so awful that I have to be the only one working while pregnant on top of that. He puts all his workers comp towards rent and does whatever he can around the house (which is hard because his knee is hurt) and always has dinner when I come home (I come home at 10 pm). I would be working anyways until baby came, but the fact we’re both willing to work and help each other is what matters. Never date the bums! I don’t need rich but I will always require work ethic and teamwork. I covered his rent once when we were dating and he bought groceries for me the rest of the semester, he wouldn’t let me pay for food at all. That’s what loving people do!
Exactly we dont have to be rich and im fine with 50/50 because again, we arent rich but you have to do something! Too many bums think they can do nothing and still receive the same respect.
This always triggered me because of my father. I realized i was conditioned to be okay with his half assed effort while he also always gave me excuses. It taught me to give men excuses especially with money. Dont make kids and then complain about how expensive they are! I cant stand how they want to lay down and act like they are the only ones who feeling matter when its time to be responsible.
💀 “do you females” …there are so many issues with this situation. The longer I watched her video the worse it got. I was flabbergasted by “3 jobs”. I want better for women! Having a man isn’t worth such a headache!
This is a form of financial abuse. I was dealing with that. It made me second guess myself even though I worked full time 9-5 salaried. He was able to get tons of overtime. Then got financial help with his parents but I am being the adult with no help from my parents. I take fault in that for not leaving sooner. Took years.
I wish I would be in a relationship with a man and struggle lol shit I rather struggle by my damn self. I can’t even imagine living in the same household as a man and struggle too lol when I was in a relationship my man made sure I had the small things like gas etc. I never went without while I was dealing with him. Sis where are your father, uncle, brothers male friends cause ain’t any way in hell my father and brother will allow me to be this dumb 😂. When my father was with my mom for 10 years, he would give his whole paycheck to my mother. Then told my mom “take whatever you need and give me what you want.” My mother told me this. If he wants to sis he would. Sis man do not like her
This is a perfect example of a man settling with a place holder girl to save his money and get 😼 when he wants , until he get his money up to the level he needs it to be to get his dream girl. She let this resource vampire uses her for 7 years
Here we are AGAIN!… 😒 Same story… different woman… Hear me… LOUD AND CLEAR! 😠 He’s NOT the issue!… YOU ARE!!!!… LEAVE!!!… And STOP trying to act like he’s your issue! YOU ARE YOUR ISSUE SIS!!!😡
He saw a sucker and exploited her, while being in a relationship. However she reminds me of the type of woman that thinks you want her man 😂😂😂. These type of women will have the worst partner and swear up and down YOU want him 😂.
Three jobs means shes never home, tired to cook maybe clean at times, might want to sleep in, may not be in the mood for intimacy.... that man does not deserve the comfort. When the woman has to care for the house kids food etc and bills on her own. He def cheating too.
Decentering men would really benefit her...but she can't break her programming Has to have a man for the validation but she's putting herself in an early grave. I hate that she had kids with him and looks to be married. I feel sorry for her but she refuses to wake up
I just don't understand how she is not repulsed by this BOY! I would rather die ALONE. Because at that point why is he in the picture? What is he providing? By the time you get home from working 3 jobs and having to take care of a baby after, is it really worth having a dusty stingy body next to you at night?
Men only treat you the way you allow them to. We've been together for 6years married for 3.5 o we both discuss finances regularly. We split bills ( we make the same) because I want to and we have investments together. I've never had to ask for money especially not for the home as he checks in regularly and treats me regularly. A relationship is a partnership. You grow WITH someone not raise the person. Sweetie needs counseling...that man is not her partner but her liability
I really want women, especially black women, to be more serious when dating. Please stop dating bums. I’m with the lady who said only go after a certain type of man.
I thought I was the only one who caught that when she said "females". She sounded like she was describing some kind of dog.🙄 I am a woman, and both men and women will address me as such.💅
that woman is BRAINWASHED!!! give her some grace! this shit is insidious because they trick you into thinking it's a money issue and not a deep relationship issue!!!! this shit made me realize my ex didn't EVER love me. I've been with my ex for 4+ years and he helps as much as a teenager would, we are over 30. like he never really talked about money with me and he would go to the store and use his own money, but I didn't realize until recently he doesn't buy that much and only enough for a day or two. I got him to pay a few bills too but never would talk to me about it, told me not to worry about it. I was so caught up with my own shit that I didn't realize until it was too late that he was completely irresponsible. stop shaming women. like can we stop being so aggressive towards each other? let's be mad at the men LMAO and respectfully tell our girls to WAKE UP 😂❤
Desperation and feeling like you have to have a male around... Nope. She was likely doing great all by herself, and now she's doing bad with a dude. She ain't tired...
This is financial abuse and I'm kinda disgusted at all the victim blaming going on here. She's a powerhouse woman, doing more than most humans, who thinks so poorly of herself. You think shitting on her more than him will help her self esteem? She spoiled him? Fuck that, he's a grown man not a child. He decides his own morales. He's a pig and she's a victim. Women need to uplift each other out of these situations and if she's not mentally ready then she's not. Telling her she's dumb and causing this situation is only going to make her feel like she's right to think so poorly of herself. Smh
She is cursing women out who try to advise her and is reading her kids to think this is NORMAL! This had to be shamed otherwise generational curses continue.
@femmefatale71 I'm not convinced. Generational trauma will continue as long as we keep breaking women down, along with our male counterparts. We've been taught we're weak. We believe it, and tell other women they're weak. I hope this woman has women around her who show her how crazy strong and capable she actually is. That's way more likely to give her the understanding that she is way better and way stronger than her man and will flourish without him.
He got to get you to breed and not even have to provide for you or your offspring. Side note, a boyfriend of mine (nice but broke) donated plasma to give me a birthday gift....he actually liked me though.
It must be the D. And he must've been her first, and she just doesn't know any better. Poor baby? What else is she there for? Why did she tell everybody? Poor baby.
That man has an entire family. Okay He has an entire family He has to pay for his family's bills. He can't spare you in if it's change ma'am 🙄. Ladies, please never be so best before a man or companionship that you accept this.
I haven’t even gotten past the original woman talking and I’m triggered 😅 that’s not her man, that’s her roommate who she gives some poonpoon to on occasion lol My man would literally NEVER make me ask for something. We both work, we both take care of our baby, our money is in one pot and we have literally 0 problems. If a man acts stingy with one dime LEAVE HIM!! Don’t move in, don’t wait for a change- leave, better yet RUN away!!
I’m with the first respondent. At this point stop complaining about a problem that is within your power to fix and blasting it across social media. Leave is all out of it.
Lol I’m trying to figure out what kind of bills do you have that you still don’t have money left over after working three jobs. You need to sell one of those cars.
He’s watching her crash and burn& she allowed it. She’s the enabler & she has all the blame; men like would pick up their bag & leave once she’s drained & crashed & move on to the next victim (other baby mama).😢😢😢
I don’t think it was the intent, but this channel has done nothing but make me unsympathetic towards (heterosexual) women and their struggles -particularly as it pertains to relationships and general life trajectory. All the strife that these women talk about is the direct consequence of their desperation for male companionship/attention. Quality means nothing to them as long as they have the aesthetics. I can’t respect people who don’t have respect for themselves and why these folks are so compelled to shamelessly put the business that makes them look so bad on a public platform is beyond me. Smh
Exactly 💯. Desperation, male worship, low self worth, delusion and constantly lying to themselves and others out of avoidance due to shame and lack of accountability. I can't be bothered to sympathize and empathize with these type of women.
It’s definitely for validation “at least she has a man”. The aesthetics are Ashy when she aired out her business on social media 😂😂😂😂 she can do bad by herself, to top it off she has children smh.
She knew who he was a couple months into the relationship. Naw I’m not giving her advice. Tbh, I can’t even hate on the man. Women have been telling each other for years, "Never let him know you have side money." And "never tell people how much you're making" this that and the third. So these men are catching on and giving yall the same treatment. Don’t get mad sis, take it on the chin and go about your business.🤷♀️🤷♀️
My sister owns the house he lives in 20 years two kids. He finally started paying for one bill. Hes the nicest guy but financially sbusive he hardly cleans either. People can be lovely and still be abusive financially. He keeps his money never taken her on holiday forgets valentine's but she chose this. I never would ,but mine dont last. Its like im not aloud standard s
In general people will do what they got to do to meet your standards if they want you. He is meeting your standards because you have none. Please go get some self-love and self-respect so your child has the same when they grow up.
It isn’t that he doesn’t like her, he can’t stand her. They are not married, he hasn’t asked her. I had a friend like this. He kept telling her what she needed to do to get him to marry her as he lived in her house and paid nothing she did all the cooking and cleaning. Then one day in church an engagement was announced, his to another woman while he still lived in her house. He told the woman that he was living with his sister.
I’m sorry but where are her parents? Her elders? Her uncles, brothers, homeboys?? Cause baaaabyyy the men in my life would legit snatch me up!! My mother would beat my tail since I wanted to “embarrass” her. I pray wisdom comes her way.
He don’t want her soon as he get enough money he leaving her to be with the woman he really want what man who really loves a woman is ok with her working 3 jobs that’s crazy if she like it I love it that’s ridiculous that she ok with this
Three jobs?! A man who likes you is going to provide for you. He won’t watch you struggle. You should be able to count on your significant other. She needs to leave that relationship.
Im real tired of women coming to the internet to complain about their man knowing good and well they are going to stay with him. Chile please leave us alone. Enjoy the relationship. Talking about I make good money, lol. 3 jobs, is not good money love! Focus on yourself than trying to make that man happy.
I don't think it's necessary to "eat her up" or be insulting to her. U can be tough love without calling her stupid etc. We've all made dumb decisions, let's not act. That being said, that situation is ridiculous. 3 jobs and a child.....
