As a successful BW , i don’t see why women should entertain struggle love with Broke BM who brings nothing to the Table .! Ladies know your worth then add TAX .!!!
So he is going to ignore all the BW who "built a brotha" only for that same brotha to leave her for a woman who refuses to or doesn't understand struggle? How fitting!!!
@@nothereyetlostnot all men but the vast majority will because they don’t have the same morals to women as they do to men. The few good ones will stay by your side but the many bad ones will throw your clothing , handbags, jewellery , and shoes into a dirty puddle off the balcony while your in the shower because you weren’t moving out of the apartment your name is on the lease of fast enough. It’s not worth it even if it’s only a 10% chance.
@@MojoeHart yes it does, FREQUENTLY far more than whatever nonsense y’all are pushing. There have been ENDLESS stories, ENDLESS from women, unlike you men, everything you complain about you do in general tones, with very very very sparse individual stories. Unlike you, women’s comments sections are filled with personal experienced showcasing this. If you don’t know this is frequent, this just shows how YOU are a rotten excuse for a male.
He was not talking to men in the first place. They ALL know the truth and they would NEVER allow a woman they care to about do it. Unfortunately, a lot of males generally do not care about the women in their lives (including daughters, sisters and mothers). They make these videos pretending to speak to men, but they are pleading with women to make decisions against their best interests.
Why do SOOOO MANY of them need a WOMAN'S help, while women have to fend for themselves??? Why is the Struggle & Build stage nearly always pre-requisite???
@@ladybug3380 shut your mouth . bible says , God created the woman so she can be a help for her man !! a revelation that is over your head and intelligence . but in contrary , your likes ask for a financially man over her to provide . who is lacking of motivation now ???!!! that's your feminist mindset that make men run away from you and go oversea to find better women than you , sorry .
i’m not sure how accurate this is is, but i’m pretty most hospitals warn wives to mentally prepare about their husbands leaving them when they’re diagnosed with cancer, either way, there’s statistics that they’re likely to. they want women to stick around for them even when they’re sick or broke & still running around taking care of the house
I find it hilarious that bm are all over social media giving relationship advice, when they are known all over the world for not being good at relationshiping.
-Steve Harvey -Kevin Hart -Kanye West -Mike Epps -Neyo And plenty more women was in struggle Love. And What happened??? And Men always go level for their preference. The ladies who WOULD’t date they ass w/o 💰😳
When you claim the only thing men should bring to the table is money guess what you have simultaneously put a price on? And you want to be treated like WHAT ?//
Nope, home girl had it right! Refuse to do "struggle love" and refuse to be a shock absorber for men's poor life choices. They wouldn't do it for you. Let those dudes struggle😅
"Shock Absorber"...Imma use that analogy ❤...but yeah...these 🥷🏾 are anti-social, narcissist sociopaths...they run amuck throughout their youth and reach 40s and 50s looking for a savior 🤬
Gotta love the mansplaining to women how men will hypothetically act in relationships. But women who are speaking from their actual lived experiences dating those types of men have no credibility in their eyes. Male audacity will never cease to amaze me. 😂
The gaslighting these men do! They not only dismiss women real experiences, but ignore that the community literally indoctrinates black women so much "to stick beside him", "build a man up", because "he is a good men Savannah" that these are very popular well known phrases.
Let's be honest, they only market this to black women. These are the same males who will get rich and/or famous and leave the black woman they were with when they were struggling, for another one. Specifically a non black woman. Black women, please use critical thinking skills and pay attention to these dudes actions. Actions speak louder.
I agree… there are plenty of white women and non black women who get used, cheated on or kicked to the curb after building up their boyfriends or husbands (ironic how they call women hypergamous btw) but I never see it marketed to them in the same way they market this struggle love propaganda towards black women :/
men leave women to focus on their own jobs/careers actually. they do NOT stay by their woman "while they're building" cos they only care about themselves, not the relationship
They want you to stick with them while they’re in the trenches, but will be quick to leave if you simply got sick or were unable to perform sexual acts
Oh god. Forgive me. Sonogram boy abort. It’s too much. And I refuse to have a son that treats women like crap. Because you could be the greatest parent and still raise a shitty person.
I just don't understand why black males are the only ones on social media talking about a woman building with them or she has to build him up? Why can't these dudes do it themselves? Why can't they get together and build as men?
The only person that should be with my son at his lowest is me, his mom. He can stay home and build himself, work, stack and invest, learn and grow. Get his shit together before he out here trying to be a king with no damn kingdom. No women should son somebody else’s son.
Here's the gag: it isn't just money! I've worked with addicts and alcoholics. The perfect angel that saves him and heals him (aka the codependent enabler that holds him down, foots the bill and babysits him while be sober up) gets kicked to the curb once he's on his feet. Why? Because this shiny brand new woman has NO IDEA what he was like at his rock bottom. The healer, the ride-or-die, his savior, though? She knows, and he cannot stand that. That's why they can't stand "gold diggers" because they have BOUNDARIES and will leave once you overstep. They fantasize about getting these types of women especially to suffer indignity and poverty for them.
Oh I totally agree they enable crack heads too if you spend some time on the city bus you'll run in to all kinds of women like this who enable bad guys to sober up and some of them don't realize that there not picky with women for a reason because they're trying to get there fix drugs shouldn't be the very first thing you talk about when you encounter a crack head in fact sometimes the women that actually sober them up are women that ignore them or don't cator to them just be really irresponsible yourself and keep smoking weed and drinking then one day when you have the money saved up and he least expects it bail on him and don't look back. This actually trips them out and pisses them off more then a girl just bragging about how it's not a big deal to smoke crack.
This guy. This guy. There is an entire industry created on how to use Black women for your come-up. An entire industry that began with Kevin Samuels. This one guy said, get with her, and then when you are on your feet leave. That's it. don't even afford her the courtesy of having a conversation. Just ghost her. You got what you needed. He was that cold and that callous. I almost cried from the inhumanity of using a woman, wasting her time, and possibly having a child with her. Then walk away like her time wasn't valuable and she was nothing. I want to cry right now. There was this other guy that said, giving tips on how to be a hobosexual. They've created an industry on how to use Black women.
The dude with the doo rag on his head said," she making sure he has clothes, eat. Have shoes and MONEY in his pockets!! Thats exactly what these guys mean. They want women to take care of them!!
The first commenter is 100% right, that’s why if he wants to build with you, he has to marry you first, that way when he is successful and is ready to move on with the woman that only knows him successful, the wife can get her share in the divorce. Living with men and being a part of their lives gives women nothing, if she is married to him she has rights to what she’s helped him build with her support. When God says no relations outside of marriage, he is protecting women from manipulative, predatory chameleons.
They love the woman at the “finish line.” That’s the goal woman. She’s cute because she hasn’t been crawling out of the trenches with him. She’s been working out, eating well, getting her hair and nails done, and she looks good beside him. She’s been reading and traveling so she also has good conversation and can talk about other things besides struggle, bills, and dreams. That’s the woman he’s going to leave his struggle love for. That’s the woman he’s going to show on his arm. We see it happen everyday.
I dont like struggling, why would I struggle with a dang XY. Im annoyed when its my own brothers. They are insufferable to be around, just moping around.
I wish this was talked about more. Brothers, as in male siblings in your family, can sometimes be the worst males to be around. We talk about men in terms of partners, but omg living with my brothers is a nightmare for the same reasons living with a male partner can be a nightmare, but there is a sneaky gaslighting and expectation that goes on that is harder to identity because "family".
@@tigerprincess816 I have 7 of those. 😮💨 I saw my mother struggle to get one of them off the couch and be a productive member of the society. It finally worked when it was time for marriage. In my culture, we have hierarchy in the tribe and I witnessed the double standard and dysfunction they've allowed and expect respect. They know not to try this culture from 💀 people with me. You know what??!! Even the father can be insufferable too. If his wife is not around or 💀, they push their daughter into that wife position.
That last man that spoke that said he would leave you after he gets back up because where is your respect at is all facts. No matter how these other men want to word it, they will judge you poorly because YOU decided to deal with a broke guy. You don't have respect for yourself and neither will they.
The audacity of males because they judge women for not going into relationships that doesn't require them to build with their man cuz they're already established. But it's ok for them to want to come into relationships with women to be took care of while they struggle and creating a financial burden on women, only to leave when they get straight.
The thing is, if a woman leaves a guy at his lowest when he's broke, that only means that he used money to get her in the first place. So it makes sense that she leaves when his money is gone. These guys are illogical and comical. 😆
LOL Exactly!!! They lead with their $ but then claim those same women they got with their $ are gold diggers and the worst women to date LOL! A lot of them lead with how much they have, so don't get all emotional when women leave when you're no longer able to lead with $
@@HappyBeeTV-BeeHappy 🤣😂 Yeah another case of them exposing themselves. They blame women for everything they do, or don't do. Women just can't win either way with them lol, it ends here tho 👍 👏
Listen they can talk all that rah rah about "holding them down", I DON'T GAF. 😂 You will not tell a woman to support you then when she's aggravated and drained blame her for sticking around. Leave, girl, RUN AWAAAAY!
The first woman told no lies. Young ladies, don’t get bamboozled with struggle love by young men who haven’t established themselves yet & can’t stand on their feet. Ladies, you’re not obligated to hold no man down that’s not your husband.
Last time I was in the trenches is when I was at the academy training how to prepare for war!!!! I obtained military training, was gainfully employed and was well compensated. I’ll be dammed if I drop my high standards for a low hanging struggle dusty roach and be Barbara the Builder. Single for $100 Alex!
I understand the desire for a partner who is by your side thick and thin. I get it. But that should be seen as an HONOR and a BLESSING and not an expectation. No one is required to sacrifice their needs to stand by your side when you are going through it and it's kind of selfish/inconsiderate to expect that. It's like if you're sick and you just expect that someone will risk getting sick to take care of you and make you more comfortable. It's nice and beautiful and special if it happens but not something to be bitter and bothered about if it doesn't. It's especially irksome as a woman when you see the "stick beside him" ladies getting heartbroken by men who they sacrificed for.
Some women, like myself don't spin the block and don't let males circle back either. If I wasn't interested in the past or it didn't work out, were done forever. It's been my experience that males try to spin the block for numerous reasons including trying to punish someone for not giving them their way in the past. I know males do that, their extremely vengeful by nature. So if you decide to let one in your life always expect the worse and that way you won't be disappointed. I already know that someone's going to call me negative and so be it. I can't help what you think but, I'm not going to be a chump so I don't appear to be negative.
So... was the situation with Kanye's first girlfriend just a fluke? Son... have a seat. These sassy males will say ANYTHING and mean absolutely nothing. Ditch them.
The dude in the durag was the only one who was honest about the male psychology of how they truly feel about women who tolerance "struggle love" or "ride or die"
A ride or die woman is a temporary woman. She nailed it 💯. So basilica he is struggling and misery loves company. He just needs you to use to climb on top. Once he is on top he no longer needs you. Never be a ride or die chick because you will end up being used.
le sigh... I talked to several ride or die women in 2023, who are doing more dying than anything else. 50/50 is a cover for "I can't do it on my own". ONLY BM think their pynis and personality is supposed to float the entire relationship. The truth is, many just can not shoulder the responsibility of manhood. I *just* talked to someone who spend years building this GED bum up: 2 kids, helped him secure an amazing salary, help him go back to school, encourage him, pray over him, he excelled and buy a brand new luxury vehicle and he left her when he got to the top. WHEN THEY GET TO THE TOP, ARE THEY L O Y A L??? Same story different day. DIVEST.
Prophet Kanye West already told us the game that when brokies get on they'll leave your butt for a yt girl aka the woman who would NEVER EVER entertain him at his lowest and struggle alongside him. They want me to go against Yeezus??? 😂
But if we stay at their lowest and help them build back up, they resent us along the way and leave us once they are up. So just do what’s best for you. Coming from Sudan my parents didn’t sacrifice a place they’ve known 20+ years, family friends for me to struggle with another capable Person!
I won’t be an a** about it, I’ll peep the red flags give them 1 chance to figure it out and leave peacefully if nothing changes. That’s how i think it should be.
I've never gotten the concept of struggle love... My dad didn't ask my mom to marry him until he graduated college and had a good paying job lined up. They were on a budget never had to be on food stamps or government assistance. Like if you don't have ur collective shit together I'm not marrying you!
A lot of these males know they will never do "better" or the things your father did. They need a woman, typically a Black woman, that they will either climb up on or beat up on while they're down.
I didn't date until I was 30. I knew I needed therapy first, so I did that for a year. Now I'm a great partner to my bf because I did the work. Don't inflict yourself on someone else if you still have work to do
I have a question, as a man. Wouldn’t you feel more validated saying you’ve gone out in to the world and got your life together yourself, instead of saying you had your girlfriend help you?
Yes they would but most of them are cowards and don't have the discipline or self motivation to build themselves up. But let's be real, when have black men ever done anything by themselves?
The first clip…. Whew. She dragged the woman I used to be. At 40, in my post decade worth of therapy cleaning up my mindset. I’m so glad social media is encouraging younger women to avoid being who I once was
That would cute and all if (a) you men were not the cause of all the hard times, (b) u offered the same support and love that u feel entitled to, (c) u didnt leave these women as soon as u get up.
AND AFTER YOU STRUGGLE WITH THEM, THEY GET ON AND LEAVE YOUR ASS FOR A YT GIRL! CHILEEEE - GET SOMEBODY ELSE TO DO IT! And lmao at dude with the blue shirt - straight GASLIGHTING!
Again!! Men should not be dating if they going through. Now what is different if he hit hard times!! And he’s your husband or long term partner…/Exe job loss or something dramatic. Funny is most men want you to stick with them and can’t even be loyal or offer simple commitment!! 😅
Don't help men up they will never appriate or see your sacrifices at all. All they do is leave the women who built him up for a new women all the time.
Struggle love is the modern equivalent of taking women into a war zone. Mature, masculine men don’t want women in the trenches with them as they fight a war. Any dude (not man, dude) who thinks it’s normal to have a woman struggle (aka fight a war) next to them is in his boyhood and needs a father, grandfather, uncle, or some other male elder, not a wife.
What he didn't say is that once the ride or die gets him across the finish line, he's "finished" with her and will go after the non-struggle love woman who's waiting at the finish line. We've all seen the movie 🎥 before!
They want women to be with them while they're down to build them up, then leave that woman when they come up for the one at the finish line. And ladies, be careful of those men who lead with their money.
If ur at ur lowest why are you dating and trying to bring anyone in ur bs smdh ppl with nothing to lose will have u lost and losing everything u worked hard for and is functioning on survival so they will take u out when you get tired of they bs
I bet this same man would be the one who would dump his partner if she had cancer, I bet this same man would be the one who would leave the woman who was at the start of the line for the white woman at the end with the trophy.
It's the gaslighting for me. If you are above the age of 30 and you're "in a bad place" it's definitely due to your bad decisions. Smart people dont go that bad because they always set up a backup. Wheres your savings? And if men are so great at building a "ride or die" woman into their lives once successful, then why do we have this looooong ass paper trail of men leaving their wives or long-term relationships for someone who "better fits" their new lifestyle? AKA their actual dream woman. These men just love to gaslight you into being their mamma and sacrificing yourself for their benefit. These men are wild.
You can be with them when they have nothing. You help them and when they are doing better they drop you for someone else. I know this to be True cos that was my experience. AM NOT DOING THAT AGAIN EVER!!!!
Im sorry. Are these the leaders? The ones who NEED a woman to big them up and support them in order to do something. Why not just be on your grind and be single until you can support yourself?
As a guy I have really moved out of that constant echo chamber of struggle, love myself, I have been with boyfriends who expected me to do struggle love i said absolutely not, absolutely not because the more you. Stay with them, the more they get too comfortable, and while these types of men are itching you to stay while they're trying to trick you and say that, oh, yeah, I'm gonna get us out of this struggle, they're not they're gonna get you comfortable in the struggle actually, and then take you down with them. When they finally get success they will leave you I'm way to smart for that🤣 Like, I don't care if I am a gold digger in the eyes of most because like some of these people are saying in the comments, you never had any gold to dig to be get with, like, I refuse to do struggle love, I refuse to be with a partner who won't put in the work like I do I refuse I'm not the one most of the women who choose to do that literally are miserable and at their lowest, and I've never flexed on people who fell for these types of guys, because these types of guys will do anything to manipulate the vulnerable, like, they also go after vulnerable people who are at their lowest. These are types of guys who will literally use other people for their money, no matter who you are i i gave a man a chance biggest mistake of my life just know it's not happening again I'm in a successful relationship with a person now who will actually not put me on like this we are basically marriage💍 material now for how long we lasted
I feel like a complete idiot idiot, I give money to a dude. An estimate to a new vehicle. He always tells me he will pay back. Dumb as me (he is pretty good in bed) is still with him. I drop out of college because I wouldn't afford it. It been 4 years.
The second guy didn't understand her video, that's exactly what she meant. A man who complains about being broke instead trying to come up with a solution on his on, most of the time them complaining equals their dependency on younas the woman to provide the support.
