@@masculinitymatters9030 Because then she would have to say words that she actually believed in. Do you think it is easy to spout a word salad that is a non-apology avoidance of accountability?
Still trying to defend her entitled position. She is full of hypocrisy. Talking but she didn’t mean to shame him, meanwhile she’s recording the interaction with him. Lord of mercy her delusion is untold.
You know what's really messed up? The entire thing was faked, both her & the guy were actors hired by a red pill dating coach. Look up "cheesecake factory date fake" & you'll find a few vids that exposed it & there's actually 2 different takes that were posted by the coach.
textbook narcissist 😂😭 the reason she’s speaking so slow is because she’s actively trying to come up with words to make our portrayal of herself sound good! if she was really saying the truth, her words come out so easily!
She wanted "more" like what she's used to at an all you can eat w no time limit food trough. She knows she has no worth so she acts that way to overcompensate and act like she is a trophy. Poor Sasquatchina
She fails to realize two things: 1) She lost her privileges when she came downstairs an hour late to get into the car. Most men would have long driven away. 2) She was the one to pull out her phone and make this private situation public. In the end I believe she got what she wanted and that was her 30 seconds of fame.
She stated, “ interesting high a moment in time can shape how people view you,” does she not realize that goes both ways, she was trying to Portray that Respectful Man in a bad light ! It came out portraying exactly who She Really Is, as a grown woman myself I am embarrassed for all woman. People are becoming more deranged, narcissistic, and more and more immature every day, God help us!
Now she’s saying that it was all to open up a discussion. Nobody airs out their private life and puts someone on blast like that for the sake of a discussion that he didn’t even know was going to take place !!!
What she means folks, is that she’s sorry that it backfired on her when she pulled out the camera and broadcast herself to the world and she will try to never show her true persona like that ever again. 👍👋
As a black woman, this is not how I want to be represented. Keep in mind that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. No matter what a woman looks like, she deserves to be treated well. I'm out, going to the Cheesecake Factory.
She don’t have to go Cheesecake Factory it was her attitude when he opened the door she wa late maybe she should have asked to go to different place. The guy is kinda dorky she’s right she felt she deserve better because she make more money she’s more educated you can tell. There was misunderstanding because he felt rejected by her too
Girl, that video wasn’t about sparking a conversation. I can’t with the lies. You were an hour late after that man made reservations at the restaurant you wanted. You had the nerve to get upset about the Cheesecake Factory. You were out of order. You don’t need to empower me you might need to empower yourself and learn to be on time.
She didn't learn anything. Will never change her entitled mindset. Refusing to be accountable. She was herself, was not trying to spark a discussion. Trying to make excuses because no one took her side.
"Spark discussion." It did. Just not the way that she intended. "Foster learning and growth." We learned that you don't apologize and that you need to grow up!
You’re overthinking this thing sistah. The brother took you to dinner at a nice restaurant and you refused to get out of the car! That’s disrespectful. There’s no need for dialogue!
Actually, he dodged a bullet. Imagine if it took a half dozen dates, or a vacation, or an engagement, or a marriage, or even a divorce for him to discover her true nature! He might have lost a couple of hours and some gas, but not getting her way in the first few minutes of date taught him all he needed to know about her.
It wasn't a moment. It was your attitude. You didn't reject the cheesecake factory. You rejected HIM and made rules for him to be able to have you exist around him.
I'm sick and tired of people using the terms "growing" and "learning" as a means to justify being nasty, rude and disrespectful. As a grown Woman, it shouldn't take you having to go on a talk show to understand that your behavior was inappropriate and rude, definitely not empowering to Women. Where is Iyanla Vanzant when you need her? This Woman needs the hard truth spoken to her in a manner that only Iyanla V. can do. Kevin, I'm sorry but you missed the mark here buddy.
You embarrassed yourself. No need to jump on social media, curb your enthusiasm and impulse to stream. You're refusing to BEND and acknowledge you were wrong. You were LATE and that started this messy chain of events. Being late is disrespectful and unfortunately adds fuel to fire of negativity of what black women deal with.
Not only is she completely self centered and entitled, but also is the the type of person to never back down when she is wrong let alone exposed as a douchebag to the whole world. I've met people like this who literally can't put a hand up in any situation where they were out of pocket. She is clearly that kind of person which is just painful to be around
I took a woman to McDonalds on our first date. Little did she know that I had spoken to her sister before the date. Her sister told me that their family was poor growing up, their father was never in the picture, and their mother would take them both to McDonald's as a special treat. I would have taken her to a Michelin star restaurant or even the cheesecake factory; but she wanted to go to McDonald's because it made her happy. And that's all that mattered.
Since you put real effort into it, I'll let you know the truth. Taking a date to McDonald's will usually be seen as disrespectful. Less than 1% of women would agree to that, and I'll tell you why. McDonald's is where we go to get a cheap nasty snack. And that's the values such a date offer presents. Cheap and nasty. I assume you would like your date to show up looking like they put in good effort. If a man tried to take me to McDonald's during the stage of trying to impress I'd feel extremely disrespected. I'm a low maintenance lady and that's how I would interpret it. A good lady isn't concerned with your money, but you should at least have effort. Good luck
@@xxkissmeketutxx I think you just skipped his whole beautiful story and only focused on Mcdonald’s. He said he could’ve taken her to a Michelin but he chose HER happiness instead of trying to impress her. Not everyone is made the same way. Mcdonald’s is my guilty pleasure and I wouldn’t mind going there, so keep your judgments to yourself.
@@xxkissmeketutxxThe whole point of this story is that he did what he KNEW (beforehand) what would make his date feel happy. If she likes McDonald's, then more power to her. Leave it be.
She said out loud “you don’t take someone like this to a Cheese Cake Factory “. Don’t try to back track 😳😂 that statement alone shows your true self. Don’t try to justify your actions 🤷🏾😳🤔
You don’t empower women or yourself by disempowering others & you don’t gain respect by disrespecting others! She didn’t present herself in a respectful to others manner, she did behave in entitlement & she needs to own that & have more respect, compassion & consideration for others moving forward! End of discussion!
She only wants to empower women to have men go all out on dates and dinner, court, treat them like princess and get her whatever she wants. In her very on words. The definition of empowering is for a person to be able to do things on their own.
@@LindseyDean-hp7qg It shouldn’t matter who it is, having a stank attitude, recording her date while She began making demands of him about what she should be entitled to at his expense because of how “good” she thinks she looks is just not a way to treat or talk to anyone at all & especially on a first date! How can you come in with so many demands when she was inconsiderate to him the ENTIRE time! Instead of a question for the men as you desperately try to shift focus from HER deplorable behavior to black men & white women, neither of which were involved in this viral video! She acted that way on her own with not a black man or white woman in sight! So how about a question for you. If it was a Taylor Swift looking chick, would you then be able to see her entitlement, nastiness & deplorable behavior for what is or would you still excuse it?
Modern women want equality but also want superiority while also claiming their empowering people will also perpetuating themselves as victims it just doesn't make any sense my head hurt she's Beyond delusional
She wanted more from her date but the crazy part is that HE HAD more for her. She ended up being a whole hour late and they left at the time that the reservation was for. The mental gymnastics performed to justify her actions is truly crazy. I hope that she takes time to seriously reflect and actually grow. It’s so sad because she actually passed up on a really great guy.
Lol is she serious?..you just solidified the publics opinion about you. Men avoid these types of women when looking to wife. He'll be in divorce court 3 years later fighting for money he made and she didn't.
She couldn’t even do a simple apology for that man ! She is a Disgrace and this should be a lesson to all women !!! This type of foolishness is not Tolerated
I'm top 3ish% income earner in the US. The cheesecake factory is the absolute max money I would spend on a 1st date. I dont understand why nobody understands that a partner needs to have similar values, and that starts on the 1st date. I have to think about retirement, my children's education and inheritance, making sure my family is taken care of if I die. If i have to spend $$$$ to get someone's attention, they aren't partner material. They aren't on the same page and they will be a liability, not an asset. Looks have nothing to do with it unless you're only not looking for long term. You spend money to get laid, not to find love. The simpler and friendlier she is to date, the more likely she is to get married. This woman is OK looking, but shes expensive, aggressive and antagonistic. She is simply a liability. End of story.
I am not at your level but my mental is right where you are sitting. I want a driving business. I drive lyft but want to make it my own. Amen. Keep swimming
A true narcissist. Still has not learned anything and is looking for excuses. Admit that you have messed up and really grow instead just talking about growth.
The first rule in presentations is to know your audience. When this video went viral, the audience changed. Good luck, lady. Why would any man want to date you? That man treated you with kindness and respect. How did you treat him in return? If that is how you treat men who treat you right. Why would any man be bothered with you.
Recording him with intention to humiliate him on the internet is classless, rude foolishness….You were so hurtful to that sweet man. Just embarrassed yourself in the process
She's truly delusional. And she recorded this Man without his consent to embarrass him. Even the fact that she let him get out of the car to open her door knowing she wasn't going to allow him to open the door was downright nasty and rude. Also, Kevin was wrong for sending this Man on another date with this disrespectful Woman. I now see Kevin and his show as a joke. This is not the Kevin I remember.
Her nasty attitude had nothing to do with empowering women. As for respect, it has to be given to be received. She recorded that encounter to show her “girls” just what kind of power she thought she had based solely off her looks. The references to, “Look at me”, made her come across as shallow and conceited. She needs to learn humility. That man didn’t deserve that.
She didn’t deserve him. Dude honestly seemed like such a sweetheart and solid dude. Then these women end up as single mothers raising broken kids and blame a group of people for their oppression
She really shouldn't have put this video out. There were a lot of speculation around her original video being fake and a skit. Now she's just showing she was a legit narcissist all along.
It would've been more believable to me if the guy paid her to act like an entitled narcissistic ass to make himself look good, rather than somebody filming themselves acting how she did and expecting support.
I feel like whether or not the video is a skit is irrelevant. She actually believes this stuff and made the video to promote her misguided version of “women’s empowerment”.
I’m sorry but what is wrong with the Cheesecake Factory? The man was very respectful to you even until the end and dropped you off at home. That man is not your husband he was courting you to get to know you better and you just showed him who you were. I’m a high value woman and I happen to love the Cheesecake Factory. As women we gotta stop this entitlement if we’re trying to genuinely meet a descent man.
She is in her late 30s early 40s talking somebody as beautiful as her won't go to Cheesecake Factory.... no wonder she single. she bout to go out single.
If this went the way you thought in your head…you wouldn’t be here now. Stop the cap!!! Please ma’am, take some accountability and responsibility. Change your behavior. Stop trying to turn your 15 minutes into 16!
You haven't said anything close to an apology or taken any accountability. You are who you are, and nothing is going to change for you. Enjoy your cats as you grow even older.
As a woman, She does NOT speak for me. She’s ungrateful and selfish. I’m glad he took you home and put you out. If he had continued the date , Or relationship NOTHING he do for you would EVER satisfy you. You need to stay single and date yourself ONLY!
Whenever people talk about how good they look and they deserve great things from their partners because "I'm the prize, I look so good," I'm immediately reminded of the Mythology of Narcissus and my mind is blown how they don't see that it leads to spiritual death. This stupid thot was the embodiment of Narcissus.
In a nutshell! She has learned nothing! Not really interested in hearing anything more from her. You don't need to continue to rummage through a trash can to know there is nothing but trash inside!
I do see real remorse in her eyes love, or mud on her face😊, I just couldn't resist I do pray for the best for her I really feel in my heart she's going to learn, but most definitely if she does not accept accountability there is no accountability here so I'm like flatlining 😉
You don’t want to be misused and you’re all for empowering women but you didn’t mention misusing a man and giving him the honor of making 1 single decision without any blah blah. He asked you out, he made the decision to go there and you couldn’t find it in your heart to appease him for 1 hour. That says a lot about you immediately. Learn to be unselfish today. Peace and good luck.
What’s even crazier is he originally had reservations at the place she wanted.. but that went out the window due to her being an hour late. Cheesecake Factory was the default option.
He dodged a bullet here. If that's how entitled and conceited she acts on a casual first date then she's a toxic drama queen that worships at the alter of internet clout.
"When I accidently set his house on fire, stabbed him 23 times, made my getaway in the car I stole, and led the police on a two hour high speed chase my purpose was to start a conversation about our criminal justice system."
Courtship is more serious and traditional than dating. It involves getting to know your partner with the expectation that marriage is the end goal. Understand the difference. Or just say it for what it is, that you do. You look for guys to buy you a meal.. you don't speak for woman, specially when you act like a child.
“It’s interesting to me how angry someone can get about things that don’t directly affect them.” Let me introduce you to: empathy, justice, compassion, humanity, care, kindness, respect, basic human decency. Pick one.
“Hi everyone. I tried to make someone look stupid, but in actuality ended up looking foolish myself. I’m going to bring up women empowerment to hopefully get some humility back, even though it has nothing to do with my date.” Pretty much what I heard.
Friend, there is no harm or shame on saying I was wrong and I’m sorry. Always remember when you pull out the camera on others, you’re also pulling it out on yourself. Life is more than food, clothes, looks and all these superficial things, true life is about relationships and doing to others as you would have them do to you. It was a horrible mistake that you made, life goes on, but just don’t repeat it, and please apologize to the Gentleman, because he is all that and more. I wish you lots of luck and I pray that you don’t repeat the same mistake ever again. ❤
Very well said. Very close to the saying about when “you’re pointing the finger at someone, you’ve got fingers pointing back at yourself”. I hope the backlash that she is receiving is inadvertently teaching other young ladies to forgo such behavior.
I actually feel sorry for her, seems like she’s the type of woman that no matter what a man does for her… she will never be happy. It will never be enough
It seems to me she's trying, more than anything, to rationalize her behavior, rather than being Accountable for own actions & behavior. She seems contrite only b/c the video went viral at the expense of her reputation
No accountability! We knew this was coming. Deflect by blaming fake RU-vid talking points. What she did has nothing to do with what she is saying now. Misdirection at its finest.
So She was so focused on controlling the situation as an example of “empowerment” that She blew the opportunity to show what a “good date” looks like? Making Him wait, and Them late was empowering? What’s wrong with actually HAVING the meal at the Factory, get to KNOW the Cat via good convo, and suggest the Venue If there IS a second date based on CHARACTER and CHEMISTRY? This was just Horrible. No wonder nobody knows anybody. To busy STUNTIN’ and FRONTIN’. But….maybe it’s all an act to make this exact same point. (?) Yeah…I know…I’m trying to keep hope alive. …just can’t believe its REALLY that bad out there.
“A moment in time can shape how so many view you,” So, if folks agreed with you, that he was in the wrong…then how would he be viewed? Thankfully it backfired.
Kevin Samuels "Buy a dog and die alone" She is the definition of narcissism. She addressed the camera and not her date. Gaslights, her version is the correct one, thinks is more important than she really is, its about her and no one else. She is the main character and everyone is an NPC.
He was in the right 👍 but the only thing that she had in her favour is that he should have asked if Cheesecake Factory 🏭 is ok prior to the date 📅🌹 just in case she has had any previous bad experiences there. She should have asked him where he's taking her so she doesn't get too dressed up. That being said as a woman ♀️👠 CF is fine for her outfit as it's a nice restaurant/ bar/ dessert venue
She playing the victim role now but she was trying to record him to make him look bad wow women u old enough to know what she was doing l was done once she started recording
She says she finds it interesting how a moment in time can shape how so many people view you. Yes, because you CHOSE to hit record and CHOSE to post it online to immortalize that moment forever
There's a youtube short where someone interviews some people walking in NYC. He asks "What is the most annoying thing about people from LA?" and the guy being interview says "They talk very slow." This video is a prime example
I like how in any video we see her in, she starts with something that sounds like she'll apologize for her behavior. But then it turns into how wonderful she is for being willing and thoughtful enough to work with her demands/expectations.
Her entitlement was off the chain. She makes other black women look bad and she isn’t all that anyway. She wants to be treated like a Bentley, when she’s nothing but a Nissan Sentra.
This is EXACTLY what Kevin Samuels has been speaking about👆🏼. In KEVIN SAMUELS voice R.I.P. “ How would you rate yourself between 1 to 10?” Nvm.. don’t answer that.
Her tantrum absolutely wasn't "empowerment" of any sort - it was pure entitlement. The most offensive thing (and there were many!...) was that she didn't even have the decency to discuss her issues with her date - she tried to 'out' him on social media instead. Didn't see her look at him even once, the whole time. She seems to have no introspection whatsoever. I hope her date finds someone who will be mutually respectful and gracious. Edit: Was this whole thing really just a skit..? I'm relieved but also - Question: Why do this? 🙄
Good comment. Never take anyone for granted and always be thankfull if any invite you to a restaurant or a cup of coffee. If a woman is gratefull for the small things I do, I will go a long way for her.
