All right but it's actually not our responsibility and we should ignore their cries for attention until one of them succeeds where they didn't mean to, if you catch my drift.
But it’s not your job?, like I don’t agree with her, I think typically we should focus on people’s happiness as a whole, but it’s not on one specific group to help uplift others, there’s no obligation there, morally it’s a nice thing to do but you don’t have to do it .
If it was possible to separate the things that men do from the things that women do (like buildings built, food grown ect..) and have only men benefit from things men do and women only benefit from things that women do; this would find resolution within a day.
A woman complaining about being lonely to a man is “shooting her shot”. A man complaining about being lonely to a woman needs to talk to his bros about how their heart is doing instead because she’s not concerned about him at all. And women are supposed to be the most empathetic and emotionally intelligent than us men, huh? 🤔 🤷🏾♂️🙃
Jup.. but i feel like that changed 180° now.. we are the ones that want to have kids and marry and all that while women are almost all... Well... Cheap at this point. And i dont want a woman that needs far more then her two hands to count how many guys she was with 🤢
We do that's the difference, more men off themselves than women, yet women are on anti depressants. Do you clearly understand that's because women will go seek help from therapy to doctors. Turn to family and friends if they are lonely. I love being single, and it's my own space, peace, and yes, I have had family that are adults now. Yet even the word lonely annoys me as it is a state of mind. If you are working, looking after the ones you love in your family, friends. Going out and doing hobbies and activities, loneliness shouldn't even be a word that exists in your life.
@@Bruhkake Women tend to create these technicalities wherein two similar concepts are different. While the logical of us can see that those are the same, the XXs thing "Well, one is my explaining things and the other is bad".
I've never been told I'm not allowed to have feelings. I don't talk about them all the time, but sometimes I do with friends. We are allowed to have feelings, all of us.
There is a big epidemic of men hating women, some even make it their entire personality. I know it's not all of you but you can't be hating women calling us 304's and obsessing over our "body count" and then expect us to give a damn about you. If all I am is a useless slut in your eyes, why would I want to be with you?
@@cliffterrell4876 this type of way someone talks shouldn’t be considered normal regardless of the gender or the person’s nationality. The way this person talks is incredibly disrespectful.
My husband came home one day after work and said "I think Josh is lonely." I said "ok, why do you think that?" His response was reasonable. I then told him to invite Josh over for dinner. We sat and talked for hours. I kicked him and my hubby out to the garage so I could clean up. The next day I got a text saying how much he needed the family environment and how he appreciated us letting him join in. He said he didn't know he was lonely since his divorce. He missed the sound of kids in the house. This is a society issue, not a gender issue. We need to look out for one another.
Thank you for saying this. As i got older more and more of my friends got married and had kids and it was like I didn’t exist anymore. The loneliness is unreal sometimes. The only ones i’ve heard from are the ones that got divorced and were between wives. Soon as they got married again - we don’t exist. There is a lot or activity for children, mothers, families but what do single people get? Exile, loud bars, societal disassociation.
Her lack of compassion and understanding will eventually result in her own loneliness. It’s a delayed loneliness that will hit her in her 30’s and men won’t want her because of her attitude and feelings of superiority. Keep on chasing Chad little girl, your clock is ticking.
You're probably right, but it's more like in her 50s when it'll hit. Women in their 30s and 40s are no different in attitude and entitlement than women in their 20s.
@@subwayfacemelt4325Why is not having a man a bad thing? Look at the way you clowns behave. Try being appealing instead of threatening us with a good time.
My grandma found love and got remarried in her 70s. She met my step grandpa at church. I was 34 when I got married to the love of my life. Also I used to work in a retirement home and many of those people were dating! There’s no age limit for finding love.
Yep. I believe people should take personal accountability but when outside sources are the cause of your pain or struggles then there's not much you can do. And if it's hard for you to fix your struggles that you're causing then other people should be kind enough to help you
NO! It’s not a choice and you know it! MOST of y’all can’t GET a relationship because you REFUSE to have emotional intelligence and be emotionally available. The reason there IS a male loneliness epidemic is because women are refusing to deal with y’all! Accountability is the first step to healing. When you are healed, you attract what you desire!! ❤️
People may be up my ass about this, but the dark haired girl is right. While she could have conveyed her point less harsher, it still stands. I see so many men online solely blaming women for them being lonely. These are also the same men that throw pity parties for themselves, don’t check up on their friends, and do nothing to solve the problem. You cannot help someone that doesn’t want to help themselves. As someone below me expressed, I believe this is a societal issue, in which society has gotten more and more isolated over the years.
A guy opens up to me about his deepest trauma because I complimented his shirt one time and then goes around talking about how his “homies” are like his brothers and are always there for him. Yall love the boys locker room so much why don’t you talk to each other? If your bros are anywhere near as great as yall always make them out to be why you talking to some woman acquaintance about your feelings? 🤷♀️
@@Scrittlescrattle They weren't an acquaintance at the time. It's called a relationship, if you want to remove yourself because of your partners problems, we're not the same type of person. So with you leaving we both benefit. Men and Woman do not function the same way, guys don't want to emotion dump each other. Its a mutual thing amongst guys where we don't want to drag down the mood during the hang out. (If we don't know all the tough shit the other guy is going through, why bitch and moan about it when we're having fun or chilling.) There is a place and time for that, its rare and does happen... but sometimes we don't want to bring others down. Also, anecdotal evidence is not proving anything. One interaction you've had does not mean its the answer for everyone.
Women: "Men should be open about their feelings and problems. You don't have to deal with everything alone" Man: Does exactly that. Women: "Eeew. Why are you talking to us about your feelings and problems? Deap with that alone!" Called it. 👍
In my experience, if you let a woman know what is dear to you or what can hurt you emotionally, it will be used against you so that she can win an argument. Nothing is off limits when she needs to win.
"You need to ask your bro how his heart is doing" Men create a healing group and a men's getaway Women: Oh my god, Sexist! Judge we're suing the Men's Healing Retreat because they won't invite women to it. Oh and do hurry with the judgement, I need to get to my Women's only Yoga class and then to the Ladies' talk group about why men won't heal that we don't want to muddy the waters with what is really bothering men... we only want to blame them for us menstrating. Judge: Fine, summery judgment of two dollars.
Whats happening is no one knows how to talk to each other anymore and we keep reacting to each other like we are bad for each other. This can't be fixed.
We know how to talk to each other. The problem is one side is forced to listen to the other side with not only zero reciprocation, but active disdain and mockery. Men in relationships are terrified of sharing how they feel because we have been taught through experience that at a minimum you'll get told no one cares or to man up. Or far worse what you share will be used against you in ither discussions later. Women know how to listen. They listen to each other all the time and validate each other's feelings. But when it comes to listening to a man? Even the man they are in a relationship with?
@@mycroft16 I think you're giving too much credit to women who are clearly narcissistic, or at the very least incredibly self-centered. Far more so, I think, are there women out there who think they can listen but obviously cannot. "Listening" for them is entirely one-way and you do not matter (and are not part of the equation at all). As the femoid in the video showed, these kinds of women are the first to discard your feelings and the last to validate them. They'll never listen and communicate with you, but always you to with them.
I finally understand why so many guys (and gals), but mostly guys, pick me to open up to. I actually listen, and neither offer to fix them, nor tell them to fix themselves. They are trusting me with their vulnerability! Their stories are not mine to tell. I’ll take a lot of other people’s secrets to my grave.
Guys are pretty good at fixing ourselves. We just want to feel like someone listened and understood because we get that so very rarely. Mostly it's man up. Be a real man. Stop being a sissy. So for someone to listen, not try to fix it, and just give us emotional validation is life altering for most of us. We can figure the solution out if we haven't already. Society tells is from single digit age to suppress and hide how we feel because no one cares. It's why we're always fine. We are rarely fine. So thank you for just listening and allowing them to feel heard.
Totally missing the point. You become lonely when you don't have an emotional support system, which can be your partner sure, but you also need to have friends that are there for you. And men are usually friends with... drum roll... other men.
@@cheche373that's a form of support females tend to prefer. Males often do want help with figuring out a solution - although someone listening and showing empathy is still nice.
Exactly. But what she could do for her part considering she's a 3.5 or 4 in the dating pool, she can get together with another 3.5 or 4 male and not chase Chad until she's a barren wasteland of eternal sorrow.
The only three people to EVER ask me how I'm doing mentally and emotionally in 27 years are all men. My father, my manager, and one of my friends. I haven't been treated with any concern by women, even the two that raised me. The only one to "care" about me was my most recent ex, and she left me because her self esteem was "declining" after calling her out on her 50/50 relationship hypocrisy.
I see this struggle and there is a struggle today concerning the way men and women relate to one another is that women are very picky in wanting men who are tall, make a lot of money, and are seen as desirable by other women. Men on the other hand are not acting like real men. They are tall boys who want to spend their time playing video games. So they are not seen as desirable to women. The truth is both need to stop watching social media and want Hollywood says and just talk with each other. Get off the computers and their phones.
@@vanmoodywhat happened to this world where women want a perfect man. But the man wants to be a man child all his life instead. Humanity will be extinct if this keeps going
@@vanmoodyLmao no. I am more willing to give up on relationships and women than give up my video games. However, your point about Social Media is correct.
The reality is obvious. American women are looking for a tall rich man they can divorce and get money they didn't earn. The selfish gold-diggers can go work in an office and collect cats and die alone.
Our culture has given our women a lot of undesirable qualities. They value possessions, that is it. Go international and it is easy to find women that value the family unit. I had to do that 14 years ago. Best thing that ever happened to me.
@@johnl9977men are largely to blame, to be honest. If "we" would've had higher standards and not tolerated so much bs, I don't think there would be so many narcissistic women. That's not to discount other factors - because they definitely exist(ed) - but too many kiss-asses helped fuel this fire.
I can be vulnerable with my wife. Even after she told me to "figure it out". She almost unmarried us. I asked my dad for help, that was tough. He's the only one who offered helpful advice. Her friends and family would rather watch me waste away in desperate, lonely depression before saying a word. The world does not care about "how men are doing". You can find that person that'll help you when nobody else will. Psalm 91.
No one should be getting defensive over the need for personal responsibility, nor should any adult should expect random strangers to fix their problems.
This is where you're wrong. Imagine everyone throwing stones at Jesus and you do too just because "it's not up to me to fix it". By what could loneliness be fixed??
The loneliest I ever have been is when I was married. I didn't tell her anything because it was used against me, it was a inconvenience, or used for gossip. I stopped telling her, she got upset because I wouldn't...Her attitude was clear... don't tell her anything bad...
Dont forget that the option to get a female partner still is: "We need a real mean to step in as a father (personal ATM) of my 2 children of different parent..." That is kinda the average "best deal" on the table in "take it or leave it" tone.
@@GamingProspector84 That's basically the response when MRA's discuss fathers rights in family courts where mothers have overwhelming supremacy. Or in criminal court where women get off most crimes with a slap relative to men getting time for the same crime.
@@mnomadvfxI read that if one equalised all the discounts women get in the crimini justice system (arrested less often for the same crimes, charged less often, charged with lesser crimes for the same actions, given better plea deals, given lighter sentences, etc.) then you'd have roughly 90% as many women in prison as men, possibly 95%. That's not even counting shit like false accusations and women using the justice system, especially family courts, as a proxy for punishing men for whatever.
This is priceless. You know how many people say "Society teaches men to hide their feelings"? This is it, this is society doing it in real-time. Right here.
How is it getting men to hide their emotions by asking what you expect women to do to fix the lonliness of men ? It's a valid point. If your lonely it's your own responsibility to correct that for yourself. Not to have people do it for you. If it's that bad see a therapist who get paid and educated to be able to help you personally.
I'll put it another way. Women: "Society teaches men to hide their feelings, men need to be open" Men: "A lot of us are dealing with loneliness and feel depressed" Women: "That sounds like your problem."
@@thosewhocare2427 When you tell someone, “we don’t want to hear it, go fix it yourself” that’s exactly what you’re saying. You literally just did it too. Congrats, you’re part of the problem.
I feel for this woman. She's being judged for telling the truth. One woman on a date can't solve an epidemic of loneliness ...because she's a woman on a date, not a therapist meeting a client. And women help each other handle loneliness all the time. She's just coming up with the only solution she knows, i.e., talk to any friends you have. It's good advice.
Not only to men. Men constantly make fun of single women saying they’ll be alone with cats and shit like that. Naw but honestly, how is it womens issue? Women are less lonely only because they build strong friendships with other women, why can’t men do the same with other men?
@@pawelhyzopski6456 guh damn my guy all it takes is research, a few Google searches will do. Women are on average better at building communities and friendships.
@@pawelhyzopski6456 women are more comfortable expressing emotions to each other too, than men are. Because men often keep them hidden from other men (or other people in general but rn I'm referring to male friendships) in fear of judgement
Narcissistic rather. She doesn't view the issue as a problem for her, and so proceeds to push it away from being any type of priority for her to 'deal with'. A sociopath (if they recognize it...) would use and manipulate this situation to their advantage. A sociopath is more likely to use some faux-charm and even appear empathetic to manipulate the situation; while a narcissist is generally going to go 'victim card' to steer the debate to their own worth by devaluing the other person and/or their argument
That bothered me as well when she said it that way. "Wait accusatory...so a man answering the question as to Male Lonliness is having an accusatory tone...?" Most likely she uses Mansplaining a lot...
To be fair, emotionally and spiritually..we must individually learn to face our troubles and make our way through. In other words, no one can fix us. We must do it ourselves.
I learned this lesson in my twenties - 40 years ago. No woman wants to know my personal inner struggles. But she does demand I listen to hers with utmost earnestness. Nope.
I just ended a 6-month relationship. (I never been better.) My ex thought I was of talking to another woman on messenger because I was on there for 2 hours, and I'm usually never on Facebook or messenger. (My cousin in Greece just got married... and THAT'S who I was talking too!) But I say, "Babe. What's the problem? You're always on messenger. Do we need to talk about that instead?" "THAT'S DIFFERENT!" she screams. (oh, that's different) "Well," I go on to say calmly, "you can continue talking on messenger to whoever you want, for as long as you want, and so can I...or I'll be done with you right now." She freaks out and then she's all like, "WHY! CUZ YOU MET SOMEONE ELSE!?" I tell her, "Nobody, and I mean nobody, is going to have one set of rules for me and a different set of rules for themselves. You're out of your Goddamned mind if you think that. I do what I want. You will not police my conversations. Fuck that shit." She yells, "OH I KNOW HOW YOU ARE! IT'S MY WAY OR THE HIGHWAY! THAT'S WHAT YOU ALWAYS SAY!! AND I DON'T LIKE YOUR WAY!!!" "Well," I explain to her, "now it's just the highway. So enjoy it, Little Miss Big-Mouth." *Imagine a desert Highway with all of my ex-girlfriends standing around, and tumbleweeds are rolling by, and some are holding up one thumb hitchhiking.* 👍 *Imagine coyotes.* *Picture a cactus or two.* Now imagine my first girlfriend ever, walking up to my last girlfriend ever, and I mean my ex, Little Miss Big-Mouth, and she's saying to her, "You dumb bitch. His way was a luxury car with heated seats. Who chooses the highway???" *OW, OW, OW-WOOOOOOOOO!!!!!* "WAS THAT A COYOTE!?" asks my ex? And one of the other women says, "Hell yeah, that was a coyote. It sucks out here." "WELL, WHEN IS HE COMING BACK!?" asks Little Miss Big-Mouth. The other women snicker and laugh at her. My first girlfriendㅡprobably a skeleton with a wig by nowㅡsays to Little Miss Big-Mouth, "DON'T YOU GET IT!!??? HE'S NOT COMING BACK!!! EVER!" She grabs my last ex by the shoulders and shakes her until two of my other exes pull her off! "OKAY," says my most recent ex, "MAYBE SOMEONE BETTER WILL COME ALONG. GEEZ..." "Sure. That's why we're still here," says a girl way in the back. The sun begins to set and one of the other womenㅡa boss babeㅡsays to the group, "Ok, girls. Gather up some sticks. Time to build a fire. It's about to get really cold out here." They huddle together for warmth. They throw their makeup in the fire pit. They hold their hands over the flames, shivering, while I drive around in my warm car listening to the radio: "I CAN'T BELIEVE IT'S SO COLD!" "Will you shut up?" "Put your purse in the fire." "FUCK THAT. PUT YOUR PURSE IN THE FIRE!" "I already did! My first night here..." (Oh yeah.) That's music to my ears.
The other 5% are the ones who are truthful in admitting there's a problem. There is nothing OK with men pretending to not be in pain, to not be suffering, to say everything is fine when it isn't.
Yeah because obviously she should take any stray man and coddle him to not-lonely, no matter if she's interested in him as a person or not. Because we as women shouldn't have a say who we spend time with, we are nurturers and caretakers and nothing more. I get this all the time. "You're single, right? Why don't you date him, he's lonely and feeling low, that would cheer him up." Yeah that dude is an alcoholic and at super fucking rude, I'm not going to try and "fix" him. Why don't you befriend him if you worry about him? Oh because you don't feel like it? Ok.
@Carrot880 No, not at all. It's because sane men would rather be lonely than listen to her narcissistic voice. There are way to many women like her...and THAT is why some men are lonely.
@@ch3rrybl0ss0m3evwomen are the ones who are picky about the guys they want they find 80 percent of men unattractive it’s not guys who find 80 percent of women ugly that’s why women complain about getting pumped n dumped
After hearing so many women on the internet say exactly that, that was what I was expecting her to say, but she changed it to "supposed to do something about it."
Men are opting out of relationships at such an alarming rate that bridal shops are going out of business. Male loneliness is literally affecting the economy.
Correlation does not mean causation. Bridal companies are going out of business because of many factors, with the biggest one being Online Shopping and the runner-up being Covid.
@@kelanderson401 bridal shops can't compete with online markets, especially when you can find the same dress online for cheaper, and with more customization. All that and you don't even need to leave your house, bridal shops could never compete. The dating scene is barely a factor in bridal shops going bankrupt.
@@awesome-dp1oo, and every married man knows how much crap our wives have ordered online that didn’t fit. And you think online Bridal dresses 👗 beats trying it on in person? And that is somehow the reason why bridal shops are closing?? Sole reason?? 🤦♂️ couldn’t be MGTOW or Boss Babe mentality or statistical data.
she's right though, it's not womens fault that men are lonely, women don't owe men companionship, intimacy and a family, just as much as men don't owe women marrige, a house, bills paid etc. the comment section in emily's videos are very much men pointing their fingers back at women and showing hughe signs of cope, instead of looking within yourself and finding a solution, as real men would do. yes women will caste blame on men for the worlds problems, but that don't mean you need to point back...seek to be better, if you're lonley, find productive hobbies that bring fulfillment.
Exactly, people love to act like their loneliness is caused by everyone else, and love to blame women as a group. If you don’t want to be lonely you have to make a conscious effort to make friends, meet people, and live a healthy lifestyle. The world isn’t conspiring against you.
How many women think it is IMPOSSIBLE for a man to give an opinion on abortion? Something that involves both parties, and in the same vein deny the validity of male loneliness (which is a male problem only!)? These double standards are getting so tiring.
She is posting this because she brings chaos stress and drama to every man she comes across but in every possible way she is blame shifting. True narcissistic sociopath.
@@ryanshorter6422 Yes, she's the crazy one, not the guy making up a whole ass backstory and diagnosing a random stranger with mental health problems based on a few seconds of video.
@@Teddy-fm9nt Considering black women are usually treated better than white men in terms of legal disputes (be it criminal or civil) ya may wanna do a double-take there. Womanhood > white skin (or olive in countries where it ain't crackas who "held da brotha down" ;) )
Don’t think it is a matter of privilege being invisible to those that have. More like a lack of empathy cause she spent her life having her pick of men but now that she got older, nobody chases her anymore. Her vibe screams “i am now lonely myself, stop taking of other people with the same problem i have and start giving me the attention i want.”
In Mr. Rogers' words, find the helpers. No person can solve the epidemic solo, but you can find a way to help. And if you don't know what to do yet, find someone who is helping and learn from them.
I wouldn't ask a man how his heart is doing because it would be idiotic and accomplish nothing, and I don't care what he thinks. It's not repressed emotion, it's avoided stupidity.
correct, because men are replaceable. if you allow women to be whores they will end up in chads harem and then 40% of men will be dejected and overturn the entire society. this is why in this very important case, christianity is correct. unless of course you dont want a stable society.
It is a bit more nuanced than that, but she does actually have a good point. Men should not put their burden of loneliness on individuals because that isn't very fair to them. To her point, what is she supposed to do about it? marry the lonely guy on the spot? No shes already helping their loneliness by even being present with them in the first place. She is lamenting the burden being placed on her rather than the sharing of the mens struggles in the first place.
What people misunderstand about male lonliness is that men aren't lonley in friendship or family sense Men are lonley in romantic sense that's the issue you can open and support your friends and be supported by your friends and family but that won't solve the lonliness of not having a romantic love What men need is a womans touch
What?? Fixing your issues doesn't mean shut everyone out and emotionally block yourself. It means identifying the problem and finding solution to fix it. If a solution is talking about it then bam, problem solved. If the solution is stop talking to someone then bam, problem solved. Emotionally blocking your partner because you have issues simply means the relationship wasn't ment to last anyway.
I spend almost every night at home on PS4 with the boys, so I'm never really alone unless I choose to be, but it does help cope with the longing for a loving, affectionate, & appreciative feminine partner. At least one major upside to this is that you don't have to worry about any unnecessary drama that women often bring to a relationship, so there's that.
My male friends are the only ones I would feel comfortable coming to with issues like that. I dont think I’ll ever feel safe coming to a woman who isn’t my mother
I broke my leg once the day before a first date. The girl decided to come to me and that was the best first date I ever had. Unfortunately (or fortunately), I made all the mistakes in the world and we separated. She got jabbed later on so it relieving to know she wasn't for me.
Dude.... that's literally my life. I'm disabled. I ask a dude friend for help, they help. I ask a female friend for help and she wants to know why she needs to help me.
No, because a male loneliness epidemic is just an excess of side chicks. The girls are choosing to be a girl named Tuesday rather than be an average dudes rest of their life.
As a lonely woman, I expect no one to fix my problems. Also, didn't know there was a male loneliness epidemic because no one tells me anything. Guys don't come to me about those things, maybe they only approach attractive women. Hard to say.
Most men don’t approach any women about it because we are punished for talking about our feelings, despite women telling us they want guys who talk about their feelings.
Nah she’s got a point, you can’t just have a problem like loneliness and say well I’m lonely so you have to date me. If that worked, I’d have gotten every boy I’ve ever liked, but it’s not that easy, you can’t just tell people do date you. My boyfriend didn’t get me by telling me to date him, I’m not obligated to date any man just because he’s lonely, he got me by treating me amazingly and solving both him and i’s loneliness. Don’t blame men but also don’t blame women.
Yup, women tell us to open up and share our feelings more and this is what we get.. this is why men dont talk about our feelings because as soon as we do, we're seen as weak and we're no longer respected.. and this is especially true with the women we love the most..
Unfortunately there are plenty of people who will look down on a man being vulnerable. However if your close women are the ones doing it then there’s a balance issue in that relationship. One of my exes was so caught up in ‘being the man’ (His words) to be strong and supportive & not vulnerable that he ended up disappearing for weeks at a time without telling me what was going on or that he was struggling. Then pretending everything was ok or trying to blame me when he was around. I told him he could talk to me, I showed him I was there no matter what & if space was what was needed that I would not question that, just asked that he at least tell me he was going off grid for a bit so i didn’t worry. He did…. One time… after 6 months of it I couldn’t do it anymore and broke it off. He chose to blame me for that too and then got mean about it. Anyway the point is don’t allow yourself to be so closed off that you can’t let those who truely love you in. Because someone that truely loves you will support you through a rough patch and listen when you need to talk or hold you if you need to be held. We are not all walking contradictions. If one says “open up” and someone else says “be a man” those two people aren’t contradicting one another. They just have different opinions
Opening up to women is like your Maranda rights, you have the right to remain silent and better. If you give up your right to remain silence, everything you say and do WILL be used against you. You have the right to an attorney when she files for a divorce to take everything you own. You won't be able to afford the attorney but you will pay for her attorney. If you don't understand these rights to be a single man, it's your fault.
@@moonorchid9242I was married for 19 years to a slut who claimed she loved me but didn't give a damn about me or our marriage. I was there as a ATM only. I opened up once with her and regretted it later. 99.9% of females are walking contradictions. That's why a smart man would never open up to a female and prefer to stay single.
I love how women are upset when men tell them our problems, but they are constantly telling us all the things they go through in an accusing tone. Women want us to fix THEIR problems but they refuse to even listen to ours. Thank you for what you said at the end, Emily. It is true. Men have to deal with our problems alone.
Most women seem to think that men have no feelings, are unable to be hurt emotionally and have to be strong enough to deal with anything that happens in life. Women need a wake up call to this kind of conditioning
I really fear for my son. He’s currently a teenager. There’s so much toxicity directed towards boys and men now. it’s amazing to me how women can be so sensitive to the toxicity that they are exposed to and yet turn around and flood the environment with the same toxic trash.
1 in 3 females are sexually molested on average in the states. Rape on college campus are an all time high. Porn and drug abuse use are on the rise along with the mental health crisis and yes there is a direct link between all these issues. Combine this with all the toxicity in music, movies and social media, the boys and girls have grown up with a completely fucked up sense of entitlement far removed from reality. The upcoming generations are in for a huge wake up call before society eats itself from within
Here's why it's not that shocking: the outer world is a projection of your inner world. To girls, they've been abused, used, and objectified for so long that they are full of hate and anger and loneliness. So they project that out onto the world around them affecting it in a negative way. The only real way to make change is for people to learn to heal. Turning around the same ugliness into the world that you've dealt with doesn't help anyone or anything. And it's not just women vs. men, it's black vs. White, rich vs. poor, repubs vs. Dems. No one treats each other with respect with anymore, we're all so divided and we just keep swinging the pendulum back n forth instead of trying to stop the stupid swing. People need to learn to love and respect others even when it's hard, even when you don't agree with them, even when you perceive that they've wronged you. This world is becoming such an ugly and hateful place.
I've a couple of jobs where the majority of coworkers were women. It was like highschool, they were constantly talking about each other behind their back. Even the store manager did it. In my personal experience, guys can be physically abusive but women are soul crushing.
I've had women accuse me of being selfish for choosing to be single and celibate and thus reducing middle-aged women's romantic prospects. This is a human thing, not a man thing.
As a man in my early 30's, to all those women friend zoning me as a "good" guy for the past years: stop sharing your feelings with me, fix it yourself. I couldn't* care less, I'm now fixing myself, working on myself and providing for myself.
Pay cash for your house if you can and a plot of land to grow your own food. Then you can set high standards on your girlfriend and if she acts up. Well see ya.
36 yo man here. No wife, no gf, no kids, no pet. I am employed in a good job, got a decent education and I have friends but I kind of feels alone sometimes at home by myself. Most people around me are in couple or having a family with kids, it feels weird sometimes for me. I don't want to be seen as victim here but just to tell anyone that they might not be alone in similar scenario. I have differents passions and stuff to have fun but tend to put more time in my machines, tools, creations than to socialize. I don't see myself as an introvert but at least I see the non-human objects can't betray me nor have to endure consequences or bs.
Reminds me of what Berne Brown said during one of her Ted talks. "For men, shame is not a bunch of competing, conflicting expectations. Shame is one, do not be perceived as what? Weak. I did not interview men for the first four years of my study. It wasn't until a man looked at me after a book signing, and said, "I love what say about shame, I'm curious why you didn't mention men." And I said, "I don't study men." And he said, "That's convenient." And I said, "Why?" And he said, "Because you say to reach out, tell our story, be vulnerable. But you see those books you just signed for my wife and my three daughters?" I said, "Yeah." "They'd rather me die on top of my white horse than watch me fall down. When we reach out and be vulnerable, we get the shit beat out of us. And don't tell me it's from the guys and the coaches and the dads. Because the women in my life are harder on me than anyone else.""
Saw a clip from that last week on this same channel, but had no clue who the lady was or where to find the full thing (and forgot to go into detective mode)
For me, when I lost my job at 21 many years ago my sister kicked me out on the street. Many years after that after my partner cheated and left I went to live with my mother and sister. Some time later they threw me on the street again. Had to rebuild my life again all alone. I'm ok now but my point is for a lot of women they treat men like garbage when a man goes through hard times.
After my ex left me bc asking for help driving me to surgery (hospital requirment) was "pathetic" there is ZERO question in my mind that you can EITHER live an authentic life as a full human being OR you can have sex. I told her "Patriarchy does not just walk around in men" and walked out. I've decided on an authentic life and possibly an occasional cuddle with strangers cos the real actual human man is not lovable. And we don't have to blame feminism bc nature saw fit to rig our genome to birth 105 boy infants per 100 girl infants. There's just too many of us. They have these statistical advantage for selection so. Therefore, our culture at least for dating reflects that advantage. We are in fact disposable.
@@fm2dmaxman, I’m just coming to terms woman as creatures are awful They don’t love do they, more like a trophy you have to fight for every day, and they sound less and less appealing Subscriptions suck, I’m a buy for life kinda guy
As a woman, I'm so sorry that's happened to you. My two closest friends are men. We share our deepest emotions with one another. Sadly, not everyone understands love and respect.
Well I'm an autistic woman and I was lonely with no friends. You know what I did, I left the house and joined some community groups and met peopke and made friends. Of you have a problem, be a responsible adult and do something about it.
I run a bar and some older gentleman who is a regular got a break up phone call while he was there. He fell on the floor sobbing, I picked him up and gave him a big hug. I don't know him that well but he is a good guy and he definitely needed it....we all need it sometimes
The loneliness that we're experiencing isn't for friendship and platonic love, it's for romantic love and to build a life with a partner. Many guys can hang with their boys all day and night but they're still lonely.
I kinda don't believe you, Women aren't lonely when they are single. So what dose that say about men? Men need to be better friends to eachother so the loneliness isn't so crippling while they develop the social skills to persue a romantic relationship. Edit: because people don't even know what subject I'm discussing... You need friendships in order to develop the emotional and social skills that make it possible to develop a romantic relationship. The loneliness epidemic is a societal problem baised on society untraining men from having any kind of relationships and experienced by men who have difficulty even forming friendships because of how deep the destruction of manhood is and how it's imprisoned by threats of "being gay" or "being a girl"
@@Glacierlune Right because you understand exactly how male relationships work and what they need to succeed. How about you spend some time in a man's shoes before assuming you know how fix their problems.
@@Glacierlune Among almost all women, this is a HARD case of "you can't see your own privilege". Women do not realize they live without an anxiety that men live with constantly and that's the anxiety of knowing you can easily die alone. We are HYPER aware that if we do not perform and put in almost all the effort to meet and court a women, that we will very likely never meet anyone. On the flip side, every average or above average women is subconsciously aware that if they want male companionship, even if it's with a slightly less desirable mate, they just need present themselves for conversation and laugh at a few jokes and there's a decent chance they'll get it. You know that really big female friend you have that has a hard time finding a partner and is really dejected about it all the time? Yeah, she's dejected because she doesn't live with that same privilege as other women because men judge her on her weight. She's dejected because she's living with the possibility that she may die alone. She's dejected because she's living life like a man does, only difference is society prepares us for it a bit, women have ZERO clue how to court a man if they're not conventionally attractive/average usually.
@@markgaumee okay, I'll go put on my shoes. And yes, this is exsactly how I fixed my problems with male relationships. Honestly the hardest thing about having male relationships as a male myself is that some men are so terrified of being labeled feminine or gay for interacting with other men in an emotionally supportive role. And not abandoning eachother when things are rough because "tough man can handle by self" I really look up to my brother who also doesn't let toxic masculinity disrupt him from expressing natural masculinity. It's something we learned from our father, who didn't grow up in American culture so he was free of toxic masculinity. Ironically my father is very masculine but would be considered feminine by the toxic masculinity standards. Thank God that is finally dying out so men can actually grow up to be real men secure in their healthy masculinity.
Perturabo and the 4th legion turned their backs on the Imperium and the Emperor because they never recognized the 4ths deeds. Never once looked upon them as people just war machines. During the heresy when Horus did the same to Perturabo as the Emperor, he left the siege of terra. To latter build the iron cage. Moral of the story, is that yes men will crawl through broken glass for a purpose. Don’t make that purpose watching society burn.
@@laurarsheppard What in the world? Your comment is so out of left field, it's like it must be coming from a bot. It has nothing to do with what I said OR the video.
@SG-js2qn I'm not a bot. Your comment implies that the woman in the video (not Emily) acts entitled to receive help from men, but not obligated to help men. I'm saying, no, she's not claiming any right to receive help EITHER.
@laurarsheppard She is not offering to help either. As she stated, lonely men act "like I should do something about it". I guarantee if she is dating a man, she would want that man's shoulder to cry on when her life takes a downward spiral. The same type of man she would tell, "Suck it up, buddy", if things got hard for him.
@@jericobaThat only proves research has increased. Just because they were married, didn't mean they weren't lonely. No one was asking them, because no one cared how men felt about anything. And really, they still don't. Society only ever cares about how men feel, when it impacts negatively on women and children.
@@fredmercury1314some day it will impact them if it rises high enough. But it is eviden(tical?) (I don't know how to english xd) that technology plays a big role in the rising loneliness
Had never considered talking to a woman about the loneliness epidemic, but watching this it seems like a good way to weed out people that lack empathy or just despise men.
She literally made a video to listen to her own voice. I dont believe for a second that the scenario she described happened to her. Even if it did, sloughing it off to essentially "Fix it urself, lol." Is in fact dismissive behavior to the thousands of men shuffling off this mortal coil by their own hands daily.
When the vast majority of men wouldn’t ever do anything to hurt a woman, and the younger men of my generation were literally raised to be terrified of ever harassing a woman.
"There is a male loneliness epidemic, and that sounds rough. I don't want to diminish that, but why are you telling me this, like I'm supposed to do something about it?" Me - That's actually true. You have no obligation, as a woman, to care about men's issues. Thanks to you, I've now realized that women's issues are just that... *_WOMEN'S ISSUES._* Therefor, today marks the first day where I actively seek to ignore *_WOMEN'S ISSUES,_* as I am not a woman. Thank you for the advice.
