Ladies let me tell you from experience. Zulu is right. The moment you start to give him money and help pay his bills,the day he gets the money you will not see it and he will still depend on you.
Pre 25 marriage has its up and down.l am in that boat but my only consolation is that my hubby allows me to do the things l was not able to do because of marrying early. I was also bold enough to speak out in areas l was passionate about and right now l am educating women on how to develop themselves before getting married. Find yourself before getting married and also understand that you have a purpose to fulfill. Benjamin Zulu makes sense always.
I did this mistake and have regretted big time.He borrows money and when he gets his he feels like paying the debt is a waste so he won’t talk to you until he is broke then he comes back apologizing.
I totally agree.Though it’s so certain that someone else will be married and not the one that rejected him when broke .. Benjamin I love solutions..so when he is sorting himself out, what should the women be doing ? Same to men , don’t marry broke women!Mic drop 🙂
Hehee true if a man borrows from the woman he a-wooing it gives the impression he is not reliable n not a provider. The more you give him the more dependant and mischievous he becomes. From one financial crisis to the next.
I was made to pay all expenses after marriage fr 19long years, including husband and children's too.. Ultimately had to take a call and leave that abusive, parasitic relationship
Truth hurts,I have a boyfriend ,who used to work and lost his job due to Foreign attacks ,however he stayed by my place where I paid the rent buy food and everything for the house for 4yrs ,now am tired I told him I wanna stay alone ,he got angry said all along I used in everything that he was doing for me ,why didn't I tell that I can't carry him anymore ,how do I teach a man ,Manly duties ,? Am I wrong wanting to move out so he can figure himself out
I love your talk .. But I think addressing issue on the top is not the best way .. Sometimes try to understand where these issues come from in a man ...
Just imagine how many ladies Will be single if we decided not to date broke ladies😂😂. Listen to people like Zulu at your own risk .The boychild should wake up from this dream of always giving your girlfriend/woman everything even if they working .If both of you are working and she can't support you in paying the bills then quit my brother. Why would someone enslave you in the name of love. Every young man should read a book called the manipulated man or predatory Gender. The world has conditioned the boychild to believe that, they were born to please their women in their entire life.Your man isn't your ATM or Bank account. You be financially independent and support each other not that every time you go out somewhere then he is the one to pay bills just because he is a man. Men aren't banks or ATM Machines.Support each other .And men if you borrow Money from her then give it back when you get it and this should apply to the other side as well.And why would a grown up person (woman) behave as if its her right that, the man should always provide for her .If the two of you can't support each other then you better stop being together
You haven't listened to other of his topics. He actually says that do not strain yourself financially to support a woman but you should also consider the type of a woman you keep. It all comes down to your personal choice of the woman you want. Some men want a sit at home wife and they get shit done responsibly without complaining. And then there is you,who wants an independent working woman. It is all okay,he as a a relationship coach advices according to the choices you made.
there is a difference with a broke man and stuck one, one works hard and will get there but the stuck one you have to come to their rescue forever, listen to his other topics more you will understand.
@@megkiruri1646 how do you tell the difference between stuck and broke at the start? If I tell you my business went down with covid and I'm finding my way back up, am I stuck or broke? What's the guarantee that I will recover or never recover regardless of my efforts? What if I suffer bad lack again like getting conned or sick or another global event like covid?
This Benjamin Zulu is a weired fellow. I used to be his fan and I enjoyed listening to him until one day I asked him a question on FACEBOOK but he blocked me instead of anwering me. I believe that this was an act of cowardice.
It depends on the nature of the question you asked him. Why didn't you provide us with the full details of the question you asked him,etc? Anyway, I also block people who are rude and who ask stupid questions.
@@diplomatdiplomat2800 LOL, it definitely depends on the type of questions. Some people just want to waste Benjamin's time then they come here with their ridiculous comments! The best thing is to listen and learn, take whatever benefits you and leave what you feel is useless to you!
