I am a board certified therapist and a consultant in the field of advanced communication. I can honestly say that I have never heard anyone speak on these issues in a way that I agree with more. Throughout this entire video, I found myself agreeing with every point you made, having reached the very same conclusions, myself. Great job, laying it all out there!
@@toniarouxhe665 I made aswell. I wish I would have learned this sooner. Had to pay the price of a broken heart for this :/ But it makes sense. If your life is structured and you are structured (not easily moved), that brings a lot of safety. Woman are more emotional and their minds can change often. If you always swing along, they can't depend on you. Then you're more like a child.
No, you make God your priority. Also, God's grace of protection (Divine Economy/Provenance/Governance) flows through the man. That's why when she leaves your authority, she is no longer protected under the umbrella of grace that the man has for his family (from God).
@@Karll541Hypergamy and female emotions are mostly subconscious. Done mostly by instinct. Sometimes under bad advice or influence from social media or "friend". At times people know is wrong and proceed anyway. In the long run They can regret these decisions. Is important for both men and women to learn about themselves. See the signs. Know when you might be self sabotaging
@@truthtelleranon no you don’t get what I’m after either. Maybe my question is worded poorly but both you and the person replied to me stated the extremely obvious part that I’ve heard an obnoxious amount of times. Ffs the explanation of female nature/instinct has been repeated in bp channels over and over again ad fucking nauseam. What I mean is, if someone becomes aware of their nature does that mean it can be tempered? How might their behavior change if they’re aware of their own nature? And how much potentially? And if they’re not aware does that mean a complete separation of conscious thought at times or most of the time? Just saying women don’t know what they want to me is a cop out for deeper analysis
@@Karll541 being aware of one’s nature especially for women does change things. Most of us don’t want to be manipulative or conniving. It’s subconscious, sure, but it’s a learned social behavior to avoid being too assertive or needy. It’s a lot easier to be direct once you know what’s up.
I am fifty-four and a father of four. I have been married to my wife coming up on eighteen years. I have been through a lot with my first marriage ending due to my first wife's infidelity. I had to learn all of the things you are sharing on my own through trail and error and a lot of introspection. Your advice to men is excellent. It is refreshing to see someone put out this positive information.
Woman will only leave you if they know it will absolutely break you. 1. Make yourself a man by having a "life setup" 2. Check the boxes off that are universally attractive to all woman(finances, status, future, skill, fitness[v taper]) 3. Never make woman your number 1 priority in life 4. Never lose your vision, and your masculine creativity 5. Remove all spectator sports and leisure activities( which were created to keep you in sedation and deprive you of your masculine competence) 6. Wipe away limiting beliefs and limiting sense of identity. STAYED WITH YOU TO THE END
The key is to be indifferent with women and focus on prioritizing whats truly important, you're job your fitness and hobbies and God should be your number 1 priority over women
So sad i pissed away the greatest relationships of my life just because I didn't understand this at the time. I destroyed love by simple loving too much and now it's too late.
That depends on you actually. Take 6 months and go monk mode. Become a new you. Go absolutely no contact. She we contact you and if not you will attract another.
True love. A man can love MORE THAN ONE WOMAN just as a woman can love more than one child. You can have 2 or more wives that are devoted to you alone and harmoniously cooperate to keep you happy.
As a creative person, I agree that being in a commitment with a woman will only drain you of all your imagination and drive. Keep your creativity as your #1 priority always.
Casey, I stayed to the end... your point 6 is solid gold. Men MUST avoid attaching too strong of an "identity" to their present selves in order to allow themselves to grow into the new identity of the better man they want to become.
I can’t even tell you how broken I have been in 39 years of life.. I am finally learning how to fix myself listening to you as I’m sobbing like a goddamn baby and then shutting it off like a goddamn man…. Everyone listening to this is…. if you actually hear it like I do, you will finally be able to live your life the way God wanted you to. This is truly the only podcast that is helping me survive and I only learned about it four hours ago. When I make it, #Zander… I’m coming to give you retribution.
I know man, I'm 2 yrs out after 13 yr being a step dad etc. Recently was talking w a real pretty chick and seemed to go well for a month. She got a second job said she couldn't offer me anything maybe someone else can. That one hurt worse than the 13 yr relationship did for some reason. That was couple months ago. Definitely feel ur pain man. U have to be like iron and steel out here brotha. 💪🔥
@@daviedood2503 fuck that bitch. They never say what they mean. Basically she said "I wasn't that interested in you from the start but I was bored so I tried you out. The more I saw the more I didn't like about you. You mean nothing to me and I want to end this quick and simple because I'm not attracted to you... but I met this other guy I am going to put some time into". That is exactly what that bitch said to you without saying it honestly. That's when you say fuck her. If it bothers you think of times with her and realize that it was her lying to you and being fake. She probably was trying to figure out if you had money and would spend it on her. When answer was no not really... she cut the act real quick. By her saying she has nothing to offer you.... she was projecting. She actually was saying you had nothing to offer HER! Pay close attention to what people say. They always bring things up even in small ways that tell you how they feel about you. And often they will Revere and project onto you what is actually going on with them in regards to you. Also watch people's eyes. It all adds up and you can read them like a book. It gets uncomfortable alot because you will find that almost everyone is a piece of crap and will fuck you over in an instant. It's depression
Perfect video Zander. My GF, we about 4 months of breakup, actually this gave me the "gas" I needed, I as most man after 3yrs I started getting confortable. She left my in my worst moment, lost my job too. She knows I'm a red pill awareness, and teach guys this, so is more reason to her try to break me 😂
“The number one of fight club is you don’t talk about fight club” you shouldn’t let her know your insight she’ll think your playing a character. They want some one to just get it
You have to be in a position to leave a woman without feeling lost or broken. You leave those feelings up to her, when you leave, on your own terms. Never, ever commit to a woman so deeply, such that you can't quit the relationship without feeling vulnerable. Always have backup options. Remain stoic and in control.
Stayed with you until the end. This was the best self development video I have seen. I realized 3 years ago that it wasn't the woman's fault that I couldn't keep a relationship together. I have been watching and reading for 3 years and I have made many improvements, but this is the best I've seen.
How are you only at 1.8k likes… Casey Zander explains women better than any other man, woman human being, that I have ever heard in person on video on podcast on any social media…. The wavelengths that I have been feeling since about four hours ago, listening to him has surpassed anything I have ever lived or felt or believed in in my entire life..
Stayed till the end. Point six hits hard. You showed up in my feed a couple of days ago, ironically at the height of my pretty brutal divorce. Your insight had been extremely helpful with my current situation, and it has opened my eyes to where I went wrong in my marriage. I wish I had your insight years ago.
Your right Women will leave You if they think it will absolutely break You My Ex did that to Me and she was feeling Pretty Good about herself, that was until she saw Me the following week out and Happy with another Woman who looks 10 times better than her, I don’t know I think that might have broke her, oh the irony.
Love this video. I'd just add "get help when you need it but make sure the therapist knows you want to be stronger in masculine virtues". Its hard to find a therapist but if you dealt with tons of early abuse it might be a game changer.
It broke me because I thought I had a family not necessarily because I lost her....I told her I'm hurt more for my legacy and children not so much her. If we had no children I would have gladly allowed her to leave with no fight smh
Excellent excellent video, watched til the end. One thing I disagree. We are all going to face rare cards like setbacks from birth and life events later on throughout which greatly influence/ change how our lives turn out, so it’s not just an excuse. But let it be the fuel for your fire and discipline for starting today to make the sacrifice. Lots of things aren’t too late. You can get super fit even starting at 50. Eat clean like as if you were in nature. Lift weights, cardio, calisthenics. Start taking classes in college even though you’re older for the right profession. Going for my doctorate now after 13 years.. Got 4 years to go. No television or games. Only media for a short time that helps you grow: fitness, psychology, motivation, this video! No more negativity because we will die one day so fight til the end and finally let go of all that is killing us. I been through some of the worst life had to offer and grew up in a shit hole. I still made major sacrifices and got a lot accomplished. It’s never gonna stop, but it seemed like it wouldn’t happen. Accomplished a lot and still a lot to accomplish. Start right now 💪🏼
This spoke to me man , because it understands having to overcome that which is specific to you and your circumstances, it also recognises we are not all created equal and some of us were dealt a bad hand which needs even more skill to play
I had a girl tell me about a month ago that she was gonna leave me and she wanted me to know she will always be the best thing to ever happen in my life like I will never be happy again when she leaves. It’s been really hard but Casey hit home with this one.
Hahaha, tahts exactly what my ex told me, but backwards, she said she wouldnt me happy without me, (im the one who broke up with her, you will see why) she calls me one night, coz she wanted to go to a party with a griend of hers, she calls me and ask me if I wanna go. I say no, cant im busy. Under common condition she would have made a tantrum for such answer, but she didnt, she just said "okay". Then i knew something was off, i tracked her, she went to the party anyways, i noticed her facebook feed, a certain guy appeared in the background in almost every shot. I decide to break up with her the next day. The mentioned day comes, she makes a ugly cry, she tells what you already read. 10 days later, she started dating the same guy in the party. Long story short, dont trust women blindly, much less their tears, they will try to gaslight you to get leverage, and they rage when we do not need them.
😂 thats her dream. My ex wife thought id fade away into oblivion and ive never better within weeks of her absense. I built myself up during the months of seperation she despised me even more 😂
@@LiamRaphael Yeah that was a year ago and I’ve done a lot better since to the point I don’t even want a relationship and am completely fulfilled with myself
Adaptation is indeed just a way of life. But it is as Casey said a learned skill. One thing I have learned through the wisdom of others and experience is the importance of vision. The more powerful your vision is with regard to any one aspect of your pursuit in life, the easier it is to maintain focus and overcome the inevitable obstacles. Excellent work.
Facts bro! Avoiding feelings for a chick cuz you're afraid of what may happen is cowardice to the max. Go all in if it's worth it, just never sell yourself out. Haven't made it to the end of the vid yet but I definitely fkn will! Let's gooooo 🤙
Casey, what a powerful message! I cannot thank you enough and how spot on you are. I wish I would have known this powerful mesage before, being an MBP student has changed my whole view on life. In the end no one is coming to the rescue and us as men need to take full responsibility and empower ourselves rather than weaken ourselves with so much vice and distraction out there. We all get 24 hours and it is up to you what you do with those hours. It all starts and ends with you not your chosen companion!!!
During my separation and now divorce, I went into full on self development physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually I’ve never felt so awesome in such a long time. I’ve survived divorce real well due to the fact that my ex was NOT my priority but only GOD JESUS was and will always be my priority. This Bro is right on! By the way, I quit watching football after high school which was long time ago cause it’s just vain.
As a man who has been from juvenile hall, county jail, and twice to prison. I am happy just to be free. Its hard to meet women when you are locked up for 13 years. I struggle and am akward with women because I was locked up all through my 20's and some of my 30's. When all my friends were settling down and getting married, I was in prison. So I am way behind in the woman department. I never learned how to communicate properly with anyone let alone women. In prison it's a whole new world here in CA. It's all about survival. Now free I find myself feeling nervous around groups of other people, so I usually just remove myself. I am more comfortable being alone. Conversations with anyone are just akward. I think I stopped growing socially in country jail and prison. I definitely want to get married and fall in love , but I am also happy being alone. I'm 13 years behind socially, financially, and the only thing I've got going for me is I'm 6ft3 and 225 pounds. I had a lot of time to work out on the inside. Really don't know what the future has in store for me.Thanks, Casey. Christian
Stayed till the end... I must say.. you're definitely an old soul.. and I mean that respectfully... I'm a 48yr old man, divorced and I'm impressed with your wisdom, knowledge and guidance in your delivery for a young man in his 20's it's amazing..no fr.. you're doing God's work Casey....in one of your videos you said your name translates to "Defender of man" i believe you said...and...yes indeed you are!... keep up the great work young man... power to you 💪🏾👊🏾 from your subscriber from Trinidad 🇹🇹
Reminds me of my teen sister, she started dating and began advising me, "life is all about relaxing, letting go and going with the flow" and I could never understand that. Letting go is a feminine role along the path of least resistance that leads to entropy. Boys were probably telling her that in order to seduce her mind. Men need to persevere uphill with a sense of purpose and responsibility because anything else is not masculine. To not do so is either feminine or childish.
You nailed it! Go with the flow is feminine and was said to me to convince me to date him! Now I am dating that man who wants to go with the flow in life. 🤦♀️ Thank you for this comment.
Congratulations on checking out the real estate. I thank god for having you follow your purpose. I've seen so much value more so now recently. The content has been ideal and spot on. From being divorced and rebuilding one day at a time. It's awesome to learn from my mistakes and pick up strong tools like this channel to move forward on my God-given purpose. Thanks, Casey
You are absolutely correct. I have had 4 careers in my life and will soon be starting my fifth and final one. I'm 62 and starting another career. I have never been into sports, tv, movies or all the social crap that people just sit and "watch" get out there and "DO". Participate in life. Have a plan and execute. If your woman is worth anything she will follow your lead and take her part in your life. Don't ever think you can't do something. Its your life, take it by the horns and enjoy the ride. Some will be better than others but its only a one time deal. As you get older you'll realize that life is exactly what you make of it. You want a top tier life, make it. You want to succeed in a career, do what others won't and you'll be "the guy". Its your life make the most of it.
I agree with this for the most part for dating, it tends to get complicated when coming from a marriage and you both build a life then a divorce happens and everything changes.
I once met up for a catch up with some former workmates )male and female). One of them was someone who I was attracted to but did nothing, because at the time she was married. When we had a catch up, she had been with her boyfriend for 3.5 years (after divorce) - possibly being ploughed by the guy even BEFORE she was divorced. We hadn’t seen each other in over 3 years, and all she could do was *bitch* about her boyfriend and how she couldn’t stand him and thought of ways to k*ll him (😬). 6 months later I heard from someone else that she had been off on holiday with him - neglecting the friendship she had with this friend. Holly f***, man.
This is a situation where a nice guy would want to fly in with his red cape and tights and "save" this woman when in reality, she doesn't want to be saved. It sounds like she's with a man she couldn't break and she's complaining about it yet she's still with him. Even went on holiday with him! And that's women's nature in a nutshell. Don't pay so much attention to what they say as much as what they do! It's crazy!
Thanks bro. I took me this year to realize my self worth and started working on a better body and giving myself goals in live. I spent the most part of my thirties. Just partying and wasting my god given time. I am in a spiritual journey to better myself.
Made it to the end. Wish I would have had this when I was younger. I'm old by society's standards. However, this is MY life. I will do the best I am able from here. Thank you Casey for your wisdom and inspiring guidance sir. Time to put in some work. Let's go!
Never make her ur number one priority. Never show all ur cards early on and go all in, dont stick to the same routine with her. Keep her guessing and dont sacrifice ur wants n needs to give her ehat she wants. Dont ask her where she wants to eat or go do this weekend, you tell her you're picking her up at 7pm tomorrow that u made plans for u two. Take charge and make all the decisions for date nights she will respect you. Keep that woman curious she will chase u
Stayed till the end!!! It’s mind blowing how much bullshit we have been fed especially about women the things even my own mother would say about loving them and making them happy and all that’s got me was pain my girlfriend of 5 years the first year was amazing lots of sex and love from her the last 4 years were brutal and energy consuming, trying to please her and make her happy, gained like 70 pounds because I made her my priority I wish I knew about you back in 2014 😫😫 barely now I’m starting to get myself back together from that darkness
Learned this at 36 after divorce. 41 now and re learning while in a LTR. I slowly backslid through my current relationship. I’m not stuck though. I choose to move forward again. Stayed with you till the end.
i agree with all points buzt i think its not bad having interest in sports and following it, cause you can still hustle most of day and then enjoy 2 hours of watching football once a week instead of drinking, going party or whatever
I agree with mostly everything but I'm not quite there on giving up sports and video games. Those can be good ways to build comrarderie with friends and family if they enjoy the same. Can also be relaxing especially if you've spent the whole day grinding to build up your life. I've mostly cut TV out of my life aside from a couple hours of sports/games/movies here or there. If a woman can't handle that then oh, well.
Stayed to the end ... Im older man...& What you're saying is so true..... They want a man that knows who he is----- first& foremost. Good job young man...💪👍 N
You changed my life with this video Casey I wish I had the money to Inroll in mbt but I will eventually I'm a recovering addict living in sober living and my entire life I've felt something missing as a man this information is priceless my father was didn't teach me anything about being a man I'm 34 and for the first time I'm hopeful for my future I can't put into the comments all the things I want to say just know you changed my life I watch all your videos thank you for what you do
Glad I stayed until the end. Number 6 drove it home for me. Very helpful video when I needed it the most. I have had success in my life. And I've had failure as of recent. It's never roo late to fo after new things. And get focused the way I was supposed to. Sometimes we get sidetracked but you have to dig deep. Thank you Casey
Hi Steve, bro… Even posit when I left the room… Even switch to my cell phone so I can make the comment from my TV… Good words thanks for the bolster💪🏽😎
I pulled back from watching sports about a year and a half ago & it made me realize how much of a time & energy waste it is, watching another man making millions just to entertain is so stupid to me now 😂😂😂
I just don't give a shit any longer. And it shows and women love it! Was taking my dog for a walk in the park on Sunday. This lady came up to me (not bad looking) and tried to strike up a conversation with me. I was focused mostly on my Labrador Retriever - and NOT - on her - to her apparent shock. Finally, when I decided to, I chatted with her. My initial indifference seemed to have worked as she gave me her phone number lol.
Very good psychology video; very perceptive. Maybe we men have similar psychology though. You have to admit, when women were overly obsessed with us we found them boring and moved on for a challenge. And when we met a stranger and she immediately offered the one night stand, we already felt we conquered this one and were not excited as we would have been if they played a game.
A year ago I was leaving my successful business to get married and move to my girls home town! Big mistake. Moved to Lake Tahoe to retreat, and get over the breakup. Then came back, restarted my successful business and made 20k this month. Always a man invites a woman into his life, not the other way around. You are the holder of of marriage and relationship access. They hold access to sex. I’m black pilled now and are ok. Men must not be controlled by women. Also, she was great but, did not understand a masculine man! Be strong men and loyal to your self. Women have a hard time with loyalty to a man. They will bring you down and you will prematurely die in the process. Lots of experience from a older guy Thanks
Then I must have a special woman. We both work on ourselves and try to help each others goals. We cheer each other on. Were not living together yet, but have been talking about it for a year or so. However, I can see her reluctance to "set up shop" with me is that I'm not completely set up yet. So this is a great reminder where I need to be.
@@JuanCarlosRoberto 200 matches on tinder, around valentine's was going out with a different women every day, high desire from them... but I'm also doing copious amounts of steroids, working out hard af and living life rock and roll and on my own terms. So, do what thou wilt, but go hard or go home.
Before I told my girl that I like her, I did an exercise all by myself. I imagined the whole thing fall apart after reaching its greatest height and I asked myself, "can you survive that?" Only and only when my answer was absolutely firm, that I'd not only survive but emerge stronger (if it were to happen), that I finally decided to approach her. Also, I told her straight up about my inner dialogue. So the very beginning she knows that I will not only be alive if she leaves but alive and kicking harder. Thank you, Casey. So much valuable than the "Top G" non sense going around in the manosphere at the moment.
I stay to the very end (and beyond) 🚀 ... In the company of all cutting-edge gentlemen who are here watching, commenting and ... 📝💻 through study and mental association, improving themselves and finding solutions to yesterday's 'unsolvable' problems ... 🌎💯 Greetings from Rio de Janeiro, Brazil.
The part about wiping out one's current sense of self identity totally reminds me of this quote from a great Rabbi/teacher from 2000 years ago. He that findeth his life (living with the current self identity with no God given purpose, my interpretation) shall lose it: and he that loseth his life( loses the current self identity, my interpretation) for my sake (God given purpose, my interpretation) shall find it" What you said made me think of this religious phrase of wisdom. Anyway, this is what crossed my mind. I hope I make sense with this.
Stayed til the end. A hard ass male therapist I had put it a little differently, but it's the same thing - The seed must die of itself in order to take root and grow. Another quote comes to mind, from Bill Wilson - Pain is the price of admission into a new life.
Hey man I just lost my wife of 15 years from divorce . Suicidal right now and really don’t want to live anymore . Hoping to get some words of encouragement from you . Thanks and the Chanel is cool .
“Stay with me till the end”. Of course bro! This is top notch insider information that every man, especially young men need to know and take notes if necessary. Thank you Casey for telling it like it is.
This is a good one. Wish we had more content like this when I was younger. Best we had was dorks telling us to 'neg' women and play alpha games against other men 🤦
BTW IT IS SO GOOD TO SEE THIS UNDERSTANDING, GETTING OUT TO MEN SO THEY CAN ACTUALLY BE MEN FOR THE FIRST TIME EVER FINALLY. BLESSINGS ANGELA IN MT. EXCUSE MY CAPS DYSLEXIC WOMEN HERE
