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I just want to drop in and say that I appreciate your content SO MUCH. It's so diverse and entertaining as well as informative! Keep doing what you're doing folks.
Can you do this for men too, I think there’s a lot of stigma around opening up as a teenage male and I think it’s a very good concept to encourage openness and allowing teens to find a safer outlet then parents or friends, for both young woman and men. Really great video though
This really hits hard. My grandma said I looked ugly in my favorite shirt and needed to put on some weight. Then my mom said I can’t wear tank tops to school, but I love wearing tank tops because they make me feel good about myself.
@@floridaman7243 I don't think it goes with the Jubilee narrative. They're always demonizing men. For example the feminist vs male activist debate. They chose an incel to represent men.
@@sasha_bean I don't know if that's a good idea, on the internet not only you're exposing yourself to people that share the same opinions and points of view, but rather you are opening yourself to pretty much the whole world so I'm not sure about that one (btw my English is not the best, so sorry if I misspelled something)
@@samv4692 ik but imagine watching the video and seeing someone say something bad about you're secret the fact that they trusted them enough to not judge them
@@samv4692 the pressure in academics is now harsher than ever, every parent wants there could to have 95% and anything below that and you are a failure and people like u never let us talk about our problems now every College or high school needs a student who is an all rounder, even tho we don't want to do those activities we have to do them not only that but nobody listens to point issues
More technology and science more studies and long courses Caz baby don't get birth with all knowledge they starts learning form 123 to xyz and of course humans them self wanna grow wanna reserch and wanna know everything on this world so future generations are the only one who can do it so .. understandable !
“You are so used to seeing your own features that you have no idea how beautiful you look to a stranger” and “be who you needed when you were growing up” are two quotes that have stayed in my mind since I first saw them as a tween 4/5 years ago. If I could give every single teenage girl a big cuddle and tell them to be strong and that the horrors of being a teen don’t last forever, I absolutely would. If you’re reading this and you’re struggling: I love you, please be kind to yourself and understand that it WILL get better :)
Also be aware that for some women, life after the Teen years is when the expert level of the game begin’s so don’t let your guard down. Women mature early so they don’t change as drastically as men do when growing up.
I’m not even a girl and honestly this vid helped me a lot. I struggle with many of the issues talked abt and the women in there bought me comfort. It’s nice to see I’m not alone 😭☺️
I know exactly how you feel! Just remember her words are not who you are :) I know it's hard, especially coming from your own mom, but believe me people often project their own insecurities onto other people, so try to ignore her as much as you can
i wish i could give you a hug. it is absolutely okay to have insecurities at any age. i learnt that a while ago as a teenager myself. never let anybody invalidate your feelings even if they are a loved one of yours. thank you for being here! you’re so beautiful inside and out and i hope that one day, you’re able to see your insecurities as something positive about you instead of something negative. you’re so strong for even existing rn and i’m sending you and everyb reading this sm love❤️
I’m 12 and relate to almost all of these secrets. And the shittiest thing is that if your young and a kid or teen, so many people dismiss mental health things and it sucks, its been 2 years of me being depressed and hating myself alone with no one to talk to
@@K-TheLetter do you actually know what she goes through maybe been on here gives her someone to talk to why don't you just look at her comment this she's feeling fool
I stopped caring about not having a thigh gap months ago when I realized that beauty standards are at times absurd and unachievable for a lot of people. I love myself and that's all that matters
And on top of that they’re ALWAYS changing. Yesterday it’s this today it’s that. No one can keep up, realistically. The only beauty standard we should care about is staying healthy. End of story
@@mkg2124 Depends on the thigh gap, like there's a v thigh gap I think is really attractive. Thighs still touch but there's this small v gap between your upper thigh area. But i dislike the thigh gap where you'd have to starve yourself to get it
Hey, So I get what you mean. However this video specifically is about teenage women. When you bring up something other than that it kinda takes away from the conversation at hand. You mean well, my suggestion is to try to sympathize and fully listen to the ladies testimonials. THEN, if you would like that to be discussed then bring it up outside of the video talking about teenage girls so it doesn't seem like you are trying to point the attention in your direction. That was a lot. Um... This video isn't about teenage guys and that ok. 😌 Just listen.
That would be nice. I despise it when people undermine other's issues because they think their own is worse or more important. Not everything has to be a competition. Everyone should be given a chance to speak and get the help they need. After all, everyone deserves happiness. At least, that's what I think.
I broke my feet today because I kicked my computer because someone commented that my videos are bad! I hate unjustified criticism. Please wish me a speedy recovery, dear whr
Gosh being a woman who has been through it all, pregnancy at a young age, bullies, sexual abuse, weight issues, confidence issues... This hit me extra hard. I just want to hug all of them. And, tell them.. That as long as you remain strong you can overcome ANYTHING. I haven't dominated everything yet but at 30, I can say for me.. It got better! It got better because I didn't let it hold me back anymore!!!!
@@ianhale8754 I just replied to you in another comment; but I’ll state it AGAIN! not true. 😒✋🏾 NO ONE wants drama. Only those who are people-pleasers want drama, or CAUSE it. stop being ignorant please. It doesn’t benefit anyone.
I think as girls, there are a lot of unrealistic beauty standards that people try to conform to and if you don't, then you're considered ugly. We live in a super judgmental society that dismisses people because of the way they were born. It's really sad.
@@samv4692 That's not even the beauty standard nowadays. Women's beauty standards are always changing. The ideal body type changes every 10 years or so. For a long time, it was "being thin". Now, to be considered desirable by a lot of people, it's either be healthily thin or thick. And that's not the only beauty standard. It takes into account body type, facial features, skin, hair, height, and so many other things. Also, being thin is unrealistic for some people, as some weight gain is genetic, some is from medical conditions and diseases that can't be changed, treated, or cured.
@@samv4692 Society cares more about womens' looks than anyone else. You said women mask their natural beauty. That is simply because they're deemed "not naturally beautiful" by beauty standards.
@@samv4692 another male talking about how women should or should not feel... Can you just read the room and not comment if you don't have anything nice to say, because these are some pretty serious and heartfelt topics.
I just turned 18 a month ago, at the age of sixteen I was dating a guy (2 years elder to me), for almost a year. he was toxic, verbally abusive. used to abuse me for my every choice, from a simple song i loved to movie choices, even hated my friends and used to trouble me a lot if I would go out with my friends for longer time and not text him in between. for months he made me cry every night and never really cared. was always selfish and self centered. his problems, his life, his dreams. nothing was mine in it. after I broke up, he blackmailed me and used to stalk me and drunk called me very often for a year. my point being, if any teenager is reading this, do not date someone who does not value you and your choices, even if you have very strong feelings towards them.
I don't know if it's gonna get better, probably not but remember that you should know that you deserve someone who respects you, just be lucky you got away from that prick
Oh god! This happened to me too. Also the same details i almost thought someone was stealing “my story” 😂. I understand how u feel . Its been 2/3 years and he is still stalking me to this day. I hope it got better for u.
Girls, whatever you’re going through, there are people who care, not those rubbish people who only care about looks, appearance, things they only care for themselves, you can make a change, for yourself and be in a group of good people. Enlighten & love yourselves 💞❤️💗
I’m a male, and I feel for these women. I am scared that people will believe all men are like this, and any partner of mine will always assume the worst of the stereotypes put on men and I’ll never get the love I am looking for.
I think if you’re a beautiful person people will be able to see that. Some people have issues trusting people and need more Time with that and that’s ok. If you don’t wanna be seen as one of those men it should be good if you know which signs in behaviour will make your ( female ) Partner feel uncomfortable. Communication is probably the best way to trust each other. ( ok i am not really experienced but that’s what I would want in a relationship) :)
@@maartenvandijk3629 I think it’s also important to communicate to someone in that case. Talk to anyone you trust. You can also try asking your partner what makes THEM comfortable; how THEY want to be treated. Always be unselfish and empathetic. Have a wonderful day and Stay safe! 🙏🏾✨
There is a huge pressure on girls to look, act and be a certain way and it's absolutely ridiculous. It messes everything up and causes so many problems. I've noticed that every time i meet friends and relatives after a long time of not seeing them, the first thing they'll comment on is my appearance. Oh, you've gained weight, I preferred your old hair, this outfit doesn't look good on you and so on. I can't blame them because i don't think they realise how much damage this can cause to a person but it's important for everyone to know that you should never judge others and as the good old saying goes, if you have nothing good to say, don't say anything at all. It's simple. Yet, we fail to apply it.
As a teen dude who's struggled with mental health issues, I can't imagine the immense social pressure on teen girls whether it be the not only attractive but also be a "good girl". I'm so sorry for these struggles yall. I wish I knew what I could do to help without being looked at as weird or creepy but idk. We really need to focus on teen health. Anyway all love to you all!
If you are 13-14 or younger I highly recommend removing yourself from the toxicity of the internet or other social media sites. You are so young and have so much growth to do.❤❤❤ You are loved.
i’m not that young, i’m 16 and how can i remove toxicity around me when my own family is toxic asf?? the internet and social media have helped me realize all the things wrong. i feel like social media is a huge influence in how i am as a person
@@kay-wj3jx Dude, you are 16. This comment doesn't even apply to you. Keep doing what your doing, but social media is more detrimental than you think. What works for you, works for you. I myself have a rough family background with domestic violence and abuse. Your not alone. Good luck with your family and talk to someone about this. There are hotlines! I recommend doing something about it if you feel unsafe instead of living though it. Get out of there if you are not comfortable.
I'd actually love to see a follow up on this video relating to males because I think there's a lot of guys out there to who go through so much and struggle weather it be self confidence or many issues be nice to see from a male prospective to
Yea, I have great grades and I'm a nice kid with hobbies but I feel weird and pressured into doing it sometimes, I'm 167cm and I'm 14 so I'm below average in height which makes me feel shitty. I hate studying and I like shooting my airgun and bow and arrow but I don't have much time for it. Life is hard for you girls
Whoever said their not happy for gaining a 4 year scholarship, your not alone. I’m also in the same situation. My parents expect me to go to college as well, especially if I don’t, I’ll seem like a burden to my family. It’s a struggle to meet your parents expectations.
"i wish i could look at myself in the mirror without being disgusted at what i see, i can tell my friends to be strong and to love themselves, and i cant myself, i feel worthless like i dont deseve to be loved"
Being my father's daughter is no easy, I love my dad very much but i will never marry a man like him. All he do is raise his voice at me but now he's so gentle with his girlfriend's daughter, I just hope he would treat me the same way he treats a child whose not even his own blood and flesh, I am forever jealous💔💔💔
8:41 I want to give her a hug. She seems to be struggling a lot and hasn't exactly healed i hope she finds some peace within herself. She really needs a hug and i wish I could be there to give her a hug.
I’m a guy and I just wanna say right now that every girl and every woman out there is strong and powerful. Never let anyone especially a guy let you down like that. You are beautiful, you are amazing just the way you are. But never let anyone tell you the opposite. Be happy and take over the world just how you are. There’s nothing wrong with making a few changes to make yourself happy. Be happy in every way possible and really embrace yourself. Love yourself and stand out! All of you are powerful. Much love 🙏
To whoever is reading this: your skin is not paper so don't cut it your body isn't a book so don't judge it your heart isn't a door so don't lock it your life isn't a film so don't end it your beautiful and don't let anyone else change it !!!! have a good day / night :)
I wanna hug these girls... Don't give anyone the power to diminish you, ever. You're worth it, you're beautiful, you deserved to be loved. Sending all of them tons of good vibes... ;)
A person's perception of you does not define you. Don't know if anyone has told you this, but you are 10/10❤🦋 and don't let anyone tell you anything different. These women are so strong and so are you❤🦋👑
I'm 16 and being teen girl is hard, struggling with body image, mental health, all the comments from people and the ridiculous expectations and standards. To all the teen girls reading this I know it's easier said but let's fight through this yea? You're strong, beautiful and I'm so proud of you sweetie, I believe in you. Love you
I think my biggest secret is that I don't have any friends. I mean I have people to talk at school but there is no one who I could tell my secrets and trust. And I hate the feeling when my family asks me when I'll do something when I don't have anyone to meet.
5:47 is 100% exactly me. Good grades, good family. How could I be depressed?.. And like she said.. I want someone to be there.. but I’m too scared to reach out..
9:10 I wish I could tell this woman that she made me smile for once, her words were so genuine and well said. We, teens dont hear this often, but we seriously dont need to have our entire lives figured out and thats okay..
i'm super tiny, skinny, short, sensitive, mentally unstable. the only thing that i think keeps me safe is acting and dressing as a stereotyped man. i wear joggers and chains, my hair is short, i workout my arms so i don't look like an easy target
my story, if anyone wants to hear it: almost exactly like 6:12. i’m the good girl, yet i suffer from anxiety because of the complications of my parents divorce. i’ve recently overcome the fact that my mother cheated on my dad with my music teacher, something i would’ve never thought my mom, nor my favorite teacher, was capable of. i always seem second best to my best friends or like i never fit in anywhere. i asked the people in my friend group why they never choose me, and turns out i’m “too pretty” or “too good” at whatever it is. i deal with all of this because my school is so small there is barely anyone else. they also don’t tell me things because i’m “too innocent” and i wouldn’t understand. and so i feel like i can’t tell them anything because no matter how much i ask them to confide in me, it’s always in someone else. i’m 14
5:48 is literally me. i started crying because i can relate so much but i've never had my feelings put into words until i saw that so yh. 5:48 thats all i have to say
My mom used to comment on my weight/what I was eating. It used to bother me a lot. As soon as I became more vocal, she stopped. It took a lot of yelling lol but it did work!
@@K-TheLetter I sucked it up enough to tell her to stop 😜 I was literally raised on the principal of "suck it up" 😅 my parents made me walk 3 miles with a broken ankle. I have a PHD in "sucking it up" 🤣
@@emmarose6590 You clearly don’t know what “incel” means. Want a definition? Well, here you go. A member of an online community of young men who consider themselves unable to attract women sexually, typically associated with views that are hostile towards women and men who are sexually active. And that most certainly isn’t me.
@@peaceandlovebo9431 THINK before you comment -is it Truthful? maybe not we dont know -is it Helpful? definitely not -is it Inspiring? ... -is it Necessary? no.. ur just a prick -is it Kind? ... no thats like calling someone gay for being emotional??
"pain is not a competition. just because someone has it worse than you does not mean your problems are invalid" -just a quote i wanted to share for the people who needed to hear it
Thanks a lot for this, i surely needed it because I always felt that others are suffering more than me and my problems are invalid and small, and i wont get any help, this quote helped me a lot🥺❤
They did one about female secrets and male secrets before so they'll probably do a male version fo this one eventually. Probably not the easiest thing in the world to get secrets of teenagers.
nah keeping a diary is great because it can help you process your emotions and understand yourself better, and it's always, always better to let out your thoughts and feelings rather than keeping them bottled up. I think journaling is becoming more popular as well as people recommend it as a form of self care/for mental health. who cares if people laugh tbh, as long as it's helping you that's what matters most :)
@@acelya414 Thank you so much sis💕, I seriously appreciate you for the time you took to reply. And as diary writing's concerned, I guess it's sorta turning into my eternal bff lately...no complains, no judgements! 😅😄 Btw, just wanted to ask do you often write them too?
Sometimes I feel like I, as a teenager need to mature myself in order to understand what my parents want but they never mature themselves to listen what I want
Teens! Please do what makes you happy, I'm 23 now and I regret not doing things I should have. At 23 you will feel really old and its like you missed so many things and you feel like your life is not going anywhere, You will really miss your youth. You know when you reach your 20's, it's like welcome to the world. If only I enjoyed my teenage life, I probably will not feel like this. It's a terrible feeling having regrets. Time is really precious so make the most of it.
Wow, it really shows the difference in how what people say can effect two different people. My mom points out when I gain weight and when I lose it. I don’t really like it, but it never gave me mental health issues because I know it comes from a good place. My family has a history of diabetes, so I understand why my mom harps on my body. This is why you need to know your kids and talk to them about how they feel when you say certain things. Some kids don’t mind that much, and for other kids, it could ruin them. I hope that girl can stand up to her parents and let them know how they’re affecting her.
"I think everybody at one point in their life think that they look ugly and unworthy." I used to think too. But now I don't think like that anymore. Your personality is dominating your looks.
I was always the “supportive” or “smart” person in my friend group. I would always keep everyone from fighting and make sure everyone was happy. I can’t really say the same about myself though. I was taking all my focus on other people’s problems and just putting on the side. But I was so insecure about my body, or the way that I talk.
what about teen boys? i understand the teen girl issues, along with women's, but so many teen boys and men have been suffering and no one seems to care, simply pushing them aside and treating girls as a more important person when it comes to male feelings. girls are amazing and deserve support, but i just hope that boys receive the same, because right now they aren't.
Thank you guys for sharing. I’m sorry to those who went through that and go through things similar. Remember you ARE ENOUGH. you are so worthy and valuable and loved man. Also, I think it’d be great if you guys make a Men version. A lot of guys suffer from things silently and avoid things like that bc they feel alone
