I’m a woman and if someone took me to Red Lobster and I didn’t have to pay, I’d be psyched. These girls are way too picky and think far too much of themselves.
All these people like flame cheesecake factory and heck that was considered boujee for me as a kid. I was so bummed i couldnt go with my friends this one time because i had a doctors appointment. Like i dont know but its like my childhood pinnacle.
"Pick-Me! Pick-Me!" This is the most pathetic thing I've ever heard in my life. Do you regularly meet men that cannot even pay for a date at Red Lobster? Where are you finding men? The homeless shelter? Or cheapskates that refuse that to even pay for Red Lobster? Either way, he's either a cheapskate or can't ever properly support a family. Why would you want that man? Then it says volumes that you pathetically go on dates and expect to pay. Your standards are SO LOW that even paying for a date is not a give in. You think too LOW of yourself and men know they don't have to put in any effort. That says more about YOU not these women.
@@1libra. The only reason I'd turn down Cheesecake Factory is because every one I've been to is too loud. You have to shout to converse and a first date should include talking! Otherwise, I love the place.
I think these women should reach out to women who are actually married to get a reality check. My wedding anniversary is this Wednesday, and my husband and I may just go out with our 3 kids if we don’t find babysitting. And guess what, some of the places on the list we definitely went to when dating, while engaged, while married, with kids, or by ourselves when we get babysitting for kids. It’s okay to have preferences, but no man wants a woman who is impossible. Edit: I know this is all in reference to first dates, however, if you can’t accept some of these things for a first date, when will they actually be acceptable?
For these women no I don't know if there being serious or trying to be funny. But this is a first date not an anniversary where I would understand you would want to go to somewhere you wouldn't normally go to.
These are certified single cat ladies, they will never be taken seriously by a man. They can wish for all these fancy 5 star dates but it's not likely to happen.
There was a girl on tktok that was honestly offended that a guy would take someone that looked like her to The Cheesecake Factory. My thought was hell dump her and take me lol
@@oh-mylag8812...I know, right? And we don't even have to have dinner, just get me a piece of cheesecake and a coffee and I will be happy and tell you good pick for the date 😊
I'm from a rather rural area and I think the closest Cheesecake Factory is over an hour and a half away. I've never been and always wanted to go. I'd be pumped if someone took me there! We don't have much for fine dining in my area anyways. Olive Garden is one of the nicest places I've ever eaten 😂😂😂
My wife and I had our first date at a coffee shop. I showed up to pick her up, she said Starbucks isn't far, lets, just walk, and so we walked for miles through the freezing rain to a Starbucks that was actually just a coffee stand is a grocery store. I learned some very important things about my future wife that day. 1) She is very confident in her decisions once she has made up her mind. 2) She will go to great lengths to get coffee, but it doesn't have to be good coffee. 3) She is terrible at directions, and all the technology in the world can't change that. There was a Starbucks about two blocks from her house, just the opposite direction from where we headed.
The funny thing is that whoever made this list probably doesn’t have to worry about being taken to one of these places because nobody is asking her out anyway ☠️
Anti social people are definitely the most delusional about standards and stuff lol. Like they don’t understand if they were in a group they would IMMEDIATELY be kicked out and asked to not hang out with them anymore for their nonsense opinions.
America is the fattest nation on Earth and there's fast food everywhere from Miami to Montana These women will spend their own money on fast food but feel disrespected by a man taking them to a chain restaurant with better quality food.
Simps bro. It literally doesn't matter how shrill and annoying a woman is, there's at least *one* puberty-bearded man whose spine was slowly removed who's gonna say yes.
30+ years ago, I asked my beautiful wife on our first date. I took her to a rodeo, in which I was competing. She had no idea because I told her it would be horses and dancing. As fate would have it, I won my competition and spent the entire winnings on her that night dancing, and food, and company and I took her home the next day. We’ve been together ever since. I noticed this wasn’t on the list, so I was ahead of my time
Isn't a rodeo technically a sporting event LoL. That's pretty cool that you took her and then won your event. Imagine how it would have gone if you hadn't...
@@Joreel well, since I didn’t have enough money to buy gas to get us back home, it wouldn’t have went well. As far as a sport, humm…. I guess I will have to Concede to your insight there
Our first date was to a motorcycle race, that I was also competing in lol. You had better luck in the winning department than I did though, I sent a chain through the case about half way through the race.
@@Lithic_Goose That has to have been a fun date. I remember going to motorcycle races when I was a kid back in the late 70s and early 80s. It was a lot of fun watching them flying all around the track
I'm somewhat thankful that gal put a $200 minimum on a first date and listed the cost of her products. That's a great way for every guy to know how high maintenance and costly she will be if things went further than a first date. Good on her for letting everyone know her price up front.
Imagine, as expensive as car repairs are, if they charged by the tool they used. You'd be bankrupt the moment the charged you for the $45K diagnostic computer. She's only using $5 worth of both eye cream and moisturizer for that date anyway, but wants to be compensated like she bathed in a whole bottle. I wish I might!! 🤨
I dont think it's wrong to not pay that much in makeup. People value different things. That person is only about appearance. It's great to look your best or try to and not overdo it.
My husband and I had our first date at a comic book convention and then went for pizza in a fast-food-ish place. I had horrible allergies and my face was red from the sneezing and blowing. It was far from ideal, but we had a great time nonetheless and been married for 9 years. People with such ridiculous standards have lonely lives ahead of them.
My husband and my first date was supposed to be a nicer coffee shop, but it didn't work out so we went to Starbucks. We talked for like SIX hours and it was amazing. It's perfect because you can stay for 20 minutes if it's awkward, or several hours if it goes really well!
That is why simple coffee dates are great, or grabbing coffee and going for a walk in a public park, etc. Somewhere that you can casually talk and get to know each other, honestly the idea of "dinner and a movie" is probably the worst first date you could come up with because you can't talk in the movie and do you really want your first impression of someone being them watching you eat and trying to talk between bites?
Win. Everyone needs to learn, coffee or bakery (take and hangout parks) it is perfect to date. No wonder everyone wants a spoiler lover, never be greedy on their wallets and showered on them. Only about personality, kind and respectful.
I am SO glad I am not a young woman in today's society. My late husband took me to search a junk yard!! Wait! That isn't on the "no" list. 😂 He did good and I had a blast.
I'll take a wild guess and say you had an old car that you couldn't get parts for. So he impressed you by pulling something off a junker and making it work. (My dad was on a first-name basis with the junkyard owner, so I know a bit about that.) 😁
I got my wife an engagement ring for $2k, and after she said yes, she went with me to take it back and exchange it for one that was $500, because she said the other one was too expensive. These girls out here are a nightmare. Glad i got my wife.
My very first date with my fiancé was at a local coffee shop. Not only was it the best first date ever, but we met online, and he drove an HOUR AND A HALF to meet me for the first time. There was instant chemistry, and I sincerely think it's because we kept it so casual. We had the best time, and our second date was Deadpool 2 in theaters. We discovered how each of us treats movies, and that was important to us. Our 3rd date was bowling in a rinky-dink spot two cities away from my house!! What is wrong with having a casual fun time with someone? Is that not the absolute best way to get to know them?
Is an 1,5 hour drive very long for a date?) I didn't think so. That's why my husband made a lot of over 3 hours rides to me. Not in car, but metro+train. Yup, our country is too big to count hours of ride for a date😂 But dates are similar: restaurants, walks, bowling, cinema, escape rooms, skiing, amusement parks etc.
My fiancé and I did a lot of these. We’re in love and got engaged after 3 months. Our wedding is next year. Our first 3 dates were in the span of 2 weeks and they were as follows: 1st date: Pizza Hut and Bowling 2nd date: we took a walk around our local shopping area and got ice cream. We walked around IKEA and went to Dave and busters. We had a blast. (We became boyfriend and girlfriend on this date.) 3rd date: we took a walk in a local town near the water and went to Golden Corral. We spent over an hour and a half in the parking lot after we had dinner talking and being very cute. I told her I loved and that I felt like our relationship was very special. I think I told her I wanted to marry her. We had an amazing time and love one another.
This is creepy how similar we are. My husband and I had our first date at the movies and Pizza Hut, we were engaged after 3 months and married the following year. We’ll be celebrating 16 years in December.
Im sorry but I don’t know a single person who has ever gone to Golden Corral. Im convinced that they are a front for illegal activities. We even have a Golden Corral on our main road that I’ve never seen ANYONE at, not even employees. You can’t be real 😂😂😂😂 (of course jk but forreal 🫣)
@anna-mh5ct I would love to know where a Golden Corral is at! Before Covid I got a gift card to one and the only one near me closed down before lockdowns were lifted. Still have the gift card tho lol
Honestly, a 1st date is to GET TO KNOW someone. If someone took me to a 5star restaurant on a 1st date and paid for everything I would feel like he was either trying to impress me with money or expecting something more than just conversation. In that case I'd be trying to pay my portion of the meal. Keep 1st dates light and fun!!!
Very respectable. Frankly, a lot of the women with these standards DO want to be impressed by money because they want to be spoiled. When someone calls themselves a princess, I believe them. Avoid those who act like they deserve to be treated like royalty. Find people who are content as paupers and look for spontaneous exchses to treat them to a taste of royalty. The former has expectations. The latter has gratitude.
As someone who has been married over ten years, with small kids, it is very difficult to find time to go out at all. I would be more than happy to go any of these places if we could do it without the children.
Consider once a week buying some of his favorite foods or having him pick up yours to go (maybe the kids just have budget friendly chicken nuggets and fries) having a family meal and then putting a movie on for the kids (paying the oldest to “babysit” while your just in another room) while you guys go watch a movie or talk over candlelight in another room.
The first date with my wife was at Subway. We had a date scheduled before that, but she got a migraine and had to cancel, so this was just a quick makeup date. We just celebrated 26 years of marriage.
That would be a no for me. I hate subway. I would go to almost any other sandwich shop. But I don't think men should spend too much on a first date. Meeting for coffee and going Dutch sounds fine.
I think the veracity of the list is questionable in the very least. Honestly what I think happened was that whoever made it contacted hundreds of girls and one said: "Oh, I dont want to date on fast foods because I'm on a diet" and she automatically puts on the list. So the result is a list where probably there was 3 to 5 points made by a majority and the rest just 1 or 2 in those hundreds said so she added.
Had a first date at Applebee's in 2014. We've now been very happily married for 8 years. It's not about the place, it's about the connection. Love can blossom anywhere.
If this video continues to prove anything to me, is that if any person who is single and wants something romantic, the best thing to do is to stay OFF of social media. Stop letting your mind become affected by false notions and bad behavior from others. Embrace the idea of making a warm connection with someone you're attracted to, by simply being yourself. All it takes is having a level head with your anxiety, then walking up to someone to introduce yourself.
I've been asking people with confidence for months, I've had a 0% success rate. I'm a 6'2 17 year old muscular handsome young man, and still I'm told no every time I talk to a girl. The only successful relationships I've had have been from girls asking me out.
“If you are a girl and you do not like ice cream dates you’ve got your head screwed on wrong because they are adorable” is one of the many reasons why I love Brett.
I literally took my now wife to Applebees as our first “date”. Then we proceeded to go to almost all the other places on that list in the next 3 years of dating. We are both regular working class people and come from working class families that didn’t have much growing up. I think upbringing has a lot to do with the women that made this ridiculous list.
In all honesty, as a young lady myself, I'd absolutely be down for the Costco date! Walking around and trying all the free samples sounds like a blast 😂
@@RowingCrow maybe it's an age thing. At 45 I see Costco as an errand that I do once a month and end up exhausted at the end. Tons of work. But then again if a guy offered to take me to Costco even on a date, I would appreciate the company and the help with the bags! Gotta see those muscles in action!
My sister’s boyfriend took her to the movies on their first date because they were already really good friends, and were very passionate about this movie in particular. They loved it, and he was such a gentleman to her. I agree you shouldn’t go to the movies on a first date if you’ve never met the person, but it is such a great date idea for people who just want to spend time together.
New “is she the one” test: take someone on a first date to one of these places and if she acts like she’s too good for it then just leave the date. You’ll save yourself a lot of trouble.
@@HorologicRannygazoo yeah, going to the house was one of the few I could understand. For all the woman knows under those circumstances it could be some Ted Bundy leaving her locked up in the basement or something crazy. But, for first dates, I don't know, always thought they should be low pressure environment, try to get to know a person so you can distinguish if it is worth time and money. Not going broke on the first damn date.
I went on my first date with my husband nearly 19 years ago at an Olive Garden. I didn’t care where we ate, I just felt so lucky he wanted to spend his time and money (we were both dirt broke) on me. He even opened the car door for me and scooted out the chair for me to sit down at the table first. He was so sweet and chivalry is SEXY. I was smitten and still am. Guys, don’t settle for entitled women, you deserve better.
Rolling my eyes so hard. My husband took me first to a movie ( we were friends before we started dating) the second was to IHOP, where we had our "where is this going " talk. Over 10 years later he's taken me to much nicer place. These ladies are ridiculous.
My now husband didn't spend any money on our first few dates. Our first date was a camping trip with my family, followed by him teaching me military hand to hand combat for self defense. He didn't take me out anywhere until months into our relationship, we were usually at home playing video games together instead. And now I have half a dozen little blue boxes from Tiffany. He spends more on me than he ever has on himself. These women are stupid to scare nice guys off on the first date.
I have been with my wife just over 20 years. In that time, I realize more and more that the setting isn't all that important. It was each other's company that we enjoyed the most. I don't expect people who are just dating to feel this way but know that this is how you start to feel if you are with the right one.
The first time I had dinner with my now husband we went to IHOP and I got treated to silly jokes, random conversation, history lessons, and just a great time and it wasn’t even a first date yet. I actually paid because I made the most money at the time so I felt like it was the nice thing to do. We met as friends and were with friends on that day but it started something that is so strong, it’s stronger than even death. (I saved his life with CPR when we were dating and if I hadn’t done CPR he would have died. We were sharing an apartment and I was in the kitchen and he was in the bedroom. We were talking and he stopped responding. When I walked in and found him, his heart had stopped and he wasn’t breathing. Luckily everything turned out fine.) Years later we have a bond that most people will never understand. We’ve been through so many ups and downs, more than many people would ever have in 10 lifetimes. Technically I don’t even know what our first date was. We don’t even know what the date is that we technically even started dating. We met and things just kind of happened and then we were living together. I wouldn’t take it back for any reason. Most of our time was spent just doing what we do now, ordering food in, watching anime and movies, and talking about anything and everything. You would think after a certain time you would run out of things to say but it’s been 10 years now and that hasn’t happened yet.
My husband and I met when we were both active duty. I had to go underway for a few weeks but he wanted to take me on a date before I left so we literally ran over to Chick fil A and I left right after. We’ve been together for five years, married, multiple kids, he’s the love of my life.
My fiancé and I had our first date at Olive Garden and it was so special. 😊 He picked it after I told him that I loved Italian food, so points for him for actually listening and then do something that he knew I’d like. We talked and we got to know each other. It was the start of our love story and I will always be grateful to him for it. ❤ Some of these women are never gonna get married or even have a boyfriend. 🤦🏽♀️ And that’ll be their fault.
Went to Olive Garden for the first time about a year ago with the lady. Their food was average but their salad was phenominal. Taught me a lot about what I like and don't like in a salad. Also opened up the idea for an Italian date night where I'd make bread and do up a big bowl of salad, she'd get red wine drunk, and we'd watch HBO's Rome. Thanks Olive Garden 😎👍
And then the same feminist say where are all the good men 😂😂😂 The good men are either focusing on themselves or they picked good women who aren’t golddiggers and crazy feminists who actually enjoy their presence and have good chemistry with them.
olive garden was my ex’s and my spot for the 8 years we dated. we loved that place, no matter how much crap we got for it. it was so much better than the one time he took me out to a fancy place.. what a disaster. never did that again, lol. now with my current boyfriend, we’re all about the movies and then chinese buffet! we have so much fun together! who cares where you go, as long as you’re having fun with the person and getting to know them. rock on, fellow olive garden lover!
@@Snakebyte3301 if you're referring to modern fraud 'feminists' atleast indicate so because actual feminists are not bad people and all they want is for women to have the choice to pursue what they want in life, should that be being a workaholic or a housewife. It sounds like you hear these frauds call themselves feminists and you believe them when they couldn't be farther from the true definition of feminism.
My first date with my boyfriend was a restaurant his parents went to all the way back when my bf was still in his moms belly. I thought it was super sweet he was sharing this sentimental place with me. It is now our anniversary spot and we went back for our 1 year anniversary and even wore the same clothes we wore the year prior.
The woman in the black leather dress basically treats a date like a business transaction. She's showing up and presenting the guy with a bill for what she feels she's owed for putting on makeup and showing up. Any woman that expects a guy to drop hundreds on a first date is someone guys should run, don't walk, away from.
There should be an official name for this list. That way we know when a woman agrees with it she can refer to it by name. It will help a lot of guys to dodge bullets if the lady says she agrees with "the list". Do us a favor and name it something so we can identify the red flags easier. Thank you to all the ladies out there who self identify as walking red flags!
Whoever came up with that list, and the women who agreed on it don't deserve any type of boyfriend with that extremely entitled mentality. I agree with them on not going to nightclubs, bars, the gym, and movies for 1st dates. House and church aren't even typical dating spots so I don't know why those were up there. But those list of excluded restaurants was insane. Not everyone can afford 5-star restaurants. If these young ladies wanna go to 5-star restaurants sure they can go, but me and other decent guys don't have to pay for them. They can go alone.
Hm? I feel like bars and movies are pretty typical first dates ("Want to go grab some drinks together?" or "Hey, want to go see that new blockbuster with me?").
Me over here racking my brain trying to think of something more expensive than Olive Garden 😄 I don't like expensive 5 star restaurants because they give such tiny proportions. 😂
After a lot of wasted first dates, I believe in the 50/50 rule. No longer in the mood to over pay for a possible one time deal. Let alone, if you have to put a ton of makeup product on, that's borderline catfishing to finding out she looks way different after she takes her makeup off. ha
Spanx are even worse. If I take a woman on a $300 date and get back to her place and she takes off a shaper, I'm suing. I'm not even kidding, small claims court, bait and switch, give me $150.
Here’s an idea for a much more interesting list. Have a bunch of happily married (at least 5 years) women message you and tell you where their husbands took them on their first date. I would LOVE to see that list. I bet a lot of those places would make the top 10.
Our first date was the local pizza joint and some German beer right after work. Ten years later and he’ll still buy the same German beer for us to share.
My fiance took me out of town to a bar I never went to. Im a bartender so it's nice to get out of my local bars because, I can be anonymous and relax. I beat him to the check because I was pretending he wasn't taking me on a date and we were still "just friends". Yeah friends that take you out when you've had a bad day. He proposed at the same small bar restaurant and I think lunch was maybe 25 bucks.
Married six, together 11 years. My husband and I went for a walk at a park and had pie at village inn. We like the pie so much we bought a whole one and ate it back at my aunts place while smoking hookah and talking. We have two kids now.
Married almost 50 years first official date. Arranged by a fellow dorm member and her roommate was in the student union. We had already met twice in school functions so it was meant to be. I was student projector operator for Audio Visual Aids and was scheduled to be the projectionist for the coming Friday student Movie in the Chem Hall. I invited her to come and be with me in the projection booth. Best free date ever. Went to student union for a snack after. Both of us were very poor collage students on scholarships and school work jobs.
My husband stood me up on our first date! He totally forgot about me and played video games with his brother. I gave him a second chance and here i am over a decade later, married to the sweetest man ever. We laugh about our "first date" now.
Coffee dates and ice cream dates were normally my first go to. I did it mainly because you could to nice places with a casual vibe and actually get to know someone before going for more involved options. I didn’t realize it also screened out those I didn’t want to afford as well😂😂😂. Met my wife on a ice cream date so I recommend those highly.
Ice cream dates like at Friendly’s were always so damn cute, especially when she’d suggest it first…and we first met during the summer, too. I happened to work at Dunkin Donuts at the time so she’d come in sometimes and I’d be serving her coffee lol along with her mom and brother. Nice family, nice girl.
My first date with my fiancé was just a casual coffee date. Now we watch Brett and the DW crew every day and are getting married. Don't overlook simplicity and expect the most on a first date because you think you're hot sh*t or something (for lack of a better term). The point is to simply meet and converse. Get to know one another. Humble yourself. Have fun. Otherwise I suggest you stay single and embittered forever, constantly thinking you're of high value when you're merely a snobby...well...you know..
Ian...are you gay? If you're not and you are a straight male, I suggest you edit your comment and add an 'e' to "fiancé." Fiancé refers to a man while fiancée refers to a woman. However, if you are gay or one of the 23,000 different genders, just ignore my comment. 😉
A lot of younger women today are sadly entitled far beyond practical levels. They've been called special and princess far too much and told by social media their farts smell like roses and all men are pigs/toxic. You have a lot of Western women now that are like, "Well if I go out with you, what am I getting out of it? I better be getting a great meal and something else!" And forget the whole point of going out is whether he spends money or not, you're getting HIS COMPANY/TIME too... If you don't want to appreciate that or are just physically not attracted AT ALL, politely say no and go on with your day...
The last first date I went on was a walk in the park with our dogs. I didn’t have money at the time but still wanted to date and meet people. I never went on a date that I couldn’t afford to at least pay for myself. The dog walk went really well. It was quiet, we got to know each other and it was nice having my dog there to calm my nerves. A year and many dates later we are now engaged. ❤
More and more men: declaring the market too expensive and pulling out. Women: keep raising the prices! I'm sure that this will end well. It's not like we'd collapse our whole society just by ensuring male/female dynamics are completely broken. Right?
During Lockdowns, when everything was shut down, I took a girl on a first date to Home Depot. If a girl likes you, she will meet you anywhere within reason on a first date as long as you are confident, have it well planned out, and take the lead.
The first date my wife and I had was at an obscure pizza place in Little Rock, Arkansas. It was kind of a blind date arraigned by my boss and a friend of hers. She and I had met before and that meeting went thusly. Judy: "You got a damn bathroom in this place?" Me: No, I just piss in the alley." No more words were spoken between the two of us. Anyway, we ate a fantastic pizza and then went up onto Pinnacle Mountain just outside L.R. The scenic overlook was closed, but we parked at the gate and hiked 1/4 mile up to the overlook to watch an electrical storm come in. The "light show" was FANTASTIC! It never dawned on us that we were on the highest point anywhere near. Two little lightning rods watching the light show. We got caught by a Park Ranger and he politely gave us a ride back to our car and left us with a warning not to come back when the park was closed. We got married about 9 months later and have been together for 43+ yrs. now. And to think it all started with two rude comments.
Only in a first world country will people turn down free food when offered. Especially when the one refusing the free food is among the marginalized class. I guarantee you any woman who contributed to that list will be in a fast food drive thru when the period cravings come.
@@lethalbox909Pussy privilege, it's the truest and most powerful privilege of all. In no other scenario will a poor average looking, barely competent person seriously act as if they're equal to (if not, superior to) a high-earning, handsome and intelligent person. In which case, we'd call that poor person CRAZY.
I fully support women making lists like this, it helps highlight those worth pursuing instead. So yes, tell me where you don't want me to take you, and be explicit, if you share one, then share them all, because I don't want to waste time needlessly. Man, I'm just so glad my girl is into me, and not just what I can do for her lifestyle wise.
@@bradleyfirby648 Thankfully, it's not hard to find a girl to date (granted not as easy as some women think it is), but being a foreigner where I live means I attract a lot of women who see me as their ticket out. They tend to be quick to offer sex, try other things they think that a lot of men might appreciate, but they don't keep my attention because it's disingenuous and they never learn how to interact with me. So when I find one that doesn't give those vibes, who shows me other wife-quality things about her, I definitely want to keep this one. 😉
@@ems3991 The women that made this list are entitled narcissists. Nobody should date them. No place would satisfy them. They just want the most expensive dinner and extra money afterwards so they can move on to their next prostitute John.
@@ems3991 OK but the ones on the list are not terrible dates, they're standard dates. Had she have said it were just dates that this group of women, plus her, didn't like then that would've been fine. However, she's speaking on all women's behalf and we are not _all_ that picky.
My husband and I had our first date at Panera Bread. It was spontaneous and we were in college. Did we also do fancy dates? Sure. We had one date in NYC eating fancy food and going to museums. We also had movie dates, lots walks in the park and hiking (because we didn't have money), coffee shops, etc. But the place a man brings a woman for a first date DOESN'T have to be fancy. Bigger milestones (anniversaries, birthdays, holidays, engagements) that's when you get fancy--when you've demonstrated worth.
First date with a girl at Olive garden. When i asked her there, she was thrilled, but she said "if you asked me to Walmart I would have gone," and she offered to pay as well (I didnt let her, but it was a huge green flag). We are about to celebrate our 6 month anniversary and they've been the happiest 6 months of our lives even through some rough life events. Willing to go anywhere and offering to pay are two of the biggest green flags hands down, they say so much about someones character.
My policy is, if I have asked them out then I will always pay for the dinner or whatever the main activity is. But if we get an ice cream or something after, I am sort of looking for them to pay.
1st dates should be something that encourages conversation/interaction. Anywhere is fine as it sounds like fun or interesting to both of you. This is when you decide if you are any good hanging out together. Sooner or later that will become the most important part of a relationship.
My wife of 31 years and I never really dated in the traditional sense. We first met when a mutual friend put together a group of people to go out and see Disney's Fantasia when it was in rerelease. A few weeks later, we ran in to each other at a science fiction convention. We spent almost the entire next 48 hours together. Then, we found out that we only lived half a mile from each other. After that, we just spent time together. After work, usually I would go to her place or sometimes she would come to mine. We would have a simple meal and spend the evening reading or watching TV and *talking* to each other about things we were both interested in. I remember one time, I had her over to my place and I cooked a fancy meal. I remember the look on her face. She was absolutely marveled, not only by the fact that I could cook, but that I was doing this for her. We went on a few traditional dates but not that many. I remember Valentine's day at a romantic, but overpriced, Italian restaurant, where she was a bit shocked to discover that people actually do eat escargot and that I was one of them. To this day I can't get her to try them. I remember going out to a couple of theater productions. She had never seen live theater before but enjoyed it very much. We got engaged after about seven months, and married a further eight months after that. We've been very happy ever since, but I honestly could not tell you what our first real date was. All I can say is, I would never have dated the incredibly shallow women I see in videos like these.
As someone with some social anxiety, first dates that are an activity are infinitely better than dinner. Dinner means I have to constantly be trying to think of something to say. An activity takes that pressure off. This goes for friend dates too... a hike is way better than lunch lol
This is my recommendation for most people. Choose an activity that allows silence to be normal. Maybe the activity will create natural topics, too. Actually, when my, now, husband asked me for a dinner date, I asked if we could go biking instead. Made things more comfortable for me.
My wife and I met at a birthday party with the coffee we were drinking as the ice breaker. Our first date was at a coffee shop. Nearly all our dates were exploring coffee shops. I proposed to her at that first date coffee shop. We’ve been together for 8 years with a 3 year old daughter. Coffee dates = happy marriage
My first date with my husband was at a small pizza joint. We loved going to small, “hole in the wall” restaurants. They always had the best food. We loved being together when we had nothing, and we love being together after we’ve worked hard to build a life together. I’ll tell you, life will get hard and you won’t always have the luxury of a fancy date, but you’ll have someone who loves you to help you get through the hard stuff, and that’s a blessing. This woman’s priorities are super screwed up. That’s why she’s single.
When you're going on a lot of first dates it can get expensive and exhausting coming up with ideas. I think my brother had a great system when he was dating. He took everyone on the same first date. First dinner at Wendy's, then a drive up the canyon. It was cheap, it provided plenty of opportunity to talk and get to know someone, and you have beautiful scenery along the way. One girl he took on this date was a little put off by it because she felt she was worth more than a trip to Wendy's, but afterwards she said it was one of the best dates she'd been on despite being so low key. They started dating and now they're married and perfect for each other. It's not what you do that matters, it's who you're with.
My current boyfriend and I went on our first date to Olive Garden because he asked me what my favorite restaurant was. He was able to crack my shell, I'm very shy on first dates. We just passed our 2 year anniversary and I couldn't be happier. I'll never understand putting monetary value over effort and being genuine.
11 years ago my now husband surprised me with a first date to Olive Garden. We had been friends before then and we had spent some time talking and getting to know each other for a few weeks prior. We fell in love, got married, and now have a baby girl. This chick and her little posse have very little, if any, appreciation for what truly matters in life.
Not only is that list unreasonable, It's belligerent. It's also expected in this day. Women used to care about actual love and family when dating. Now is only about how much material gain can I get from him before moving on to the next one. No man is ever going to make them happy and most won't even try.
My first date with my husband was frisbee golf at the park. He bought me a disc of my own. Neither one of us had ever played before. We got to know each other and it immediately gave us something to talk about to break the ice. I enjoyed myself so much I asked if he wanted to get ice cream and we did. Happily married with one child and plans for more. Finding your person shouldn’t come with an admissions price. These women are out of control lol
i wouldn't refuse any dates. If someone cares abt you enough to take you somewhere, it doesn't matter where if you have a great time! if your date brings you to a Mcdonalds and they're good at chatting and joking around, it doesn't matter where it is! (unless its somewhere like the sewers or smth scary like that)
I took a girl to get light snack food from Sonic and drove to a parking lot, turned on music and we hung out in the trunk with the back open eating the chicen nuggets, jalapeño poppers and ice cream talking about life in general.... She STILL talks about that date like it was one of the most fun nights of her life
@@jeremysears4263 I remember taking someone on a "gift card" date where I had saved up gift cards to different places for years. Somehow I ended up with at least a dozen We went from free meals to drinks at sonic and then movies and she never knew what was next. For some reason Sonic is a great place to talk even as an adult. Just hanging or going to different places is fun.
My first date with my now husband was over a cup of coffee. That coffee date lasted for three hours. We went on bowling dates, walked along the beach, went out to eat,etc. We have been married almost 19 years. I still look back on the first dates with fond memories.
I think their fear of a coffee date is there is nothing to do BUT talk...and the man will discover how shallow and vapid she is. Cute little coffee shops with in-house-made pastries were my fave dates as a teen.
And I thought the dating scene 10 years ago was rough. The dating scene nowadays is just on another level of difficulty. Good luck to everybody out there still trying because it looks like you might need it.
Costco is a good idea. Low key, walking and talking, and plenty of things you can key off of to bring up in conversation. Sounds perfect. And you do such a fantastic job at transitioning to the sponsors. 👏🏼
The standard is so pathetically LOW for men that walking in Costco is an option, lol. You are supposed to be competing for a mate. I think some of you don't get that.
Honestly, I wish I could just make some hot chocolate in a mug and walk outside in the snow with my girl. No expectations. Just a warm mug of hot chocolate and the quietness of the snow with just the sound of our footsteps. I miss simple moments in life 😔
When you think Gen Zers can’t get any worse 😂 My first date with my fiancé was takeaway lunch (dumplings) + walking coffee in the cold December due to covid restrictions. We went to the zoo because it was the only place open to the public 😆 Time passed so fast that we ended up drinking mulled wine at night in the terrace of a random restaurant because the waiter was generous enough to let us sit 🤣 he almost missed the last train back home. Here we are, 3 years later, planning our wedding 🙃
Please don't include me with those girls. My ideal dates: Long drive, picnic at sunset, walk along the beach, coffee date, restaurant dates. Me, personally, would rather stay at home and watch a movie than go to a theater (cause I love to talk to myself about what I'm seeing). This list is the most bizarre thing I've ever seen.
"Pick-Me! Pick-Me!" The list was a compliation of what mutiple women said, so I don't know who exactly you think better than and the only thing you've done is expose that you have very low standards. He can put as little investment as possible and you'll spread your legs. You're not the brightest bulb in the pack so I have to say, I agree with any man who invests as little as possible for you in particular. I love how 2 of your "ideal dates" are perfect for a serial killer, LOL. Then "cause I love to talk to myself about what I'm seeing". What? You're talking to YOURSELF. Do you really have little self-awareness that you'd type this up with no shame AND THEN have the audacity to pretend like you're better than others? I can't even. So much to unpack.
@@ng38477 How miserable do you have to be to have this response? Spreading my legs because I'm not picky about a first date? You must be so insecure if you think MY ideal dates are a terrible thing and I'm not like other women who hate a cheap option for a date. I'm not gonna exploit a mans money because I'm not a gold digger and want to make him go broke. I'm also Christian so I wouldn't be spreading my legs till marriage. I'm not determining a relationship based on a dating venue. I'm determining a relationship by personality, character and same beliefs. You calling me a pick- me for not caring about a date preference is the funniest, most absurd thing I've ever been called. Where did I say in my comments "I'm better than all of you because I have a different dating preference." NO where did I say that. I really don't care where you want to be taken on a date, I couldn't care less. To be this picky about where to go, is just a ridiculous ask. If you want to do somewhere fancy and not a place that is affordable for the man, pay for yourself. You are absolutely delusional.
Look, my brother spent $2.50 on googly eyes and took his now-wife around Walmart to stick them onto random objects for their first date. She was delighted! Personally, I feel that if a man offers to take me on a first date, has a plan, and shows up on time, the dollar amount they spend doesn't matter. Sure, take me out to a chain restaurant or for ice cream! Take me on a hike or a walk or dancing or whatever, I don't care. The purpose of a date is to get to know someone, and as long as you give me some idea of what to expect, I'm probably not going to turn you down. I'd actually rather a man not spend exorbitant sums on a first date.
A hike or any activity outdoors is always a win. It's the only first date I'll do now unless the weather prevents it. I put thought into the location and have a plan for where to go afterwards if it goes well and time permits. Dinner as a first date is often not an option for me. One week early this year I had 5 first dates in a week and I didn't want a 2nd with any of them. The bills for that week if I'd have taken them all out to dinner....Nope. A good woman with similar interests as me will always be happy with a thought out plan and beautiful scenery.
If you can be bought for $200 I expect services rendered in exchange. Absurd expectations in modern dating I’m so thankful I don’t have to do that anymore.
I'm in my early twenties working while paying my tuition and loans off, I know for a fact that I'm in a point in my life where an incorrect choice in a serious relationship could screw me over for years & years to come. Yet the dating scene near me is atrocious, very few of the women my age who are active in it are the kind of person that I think would appreciate the work it took me to get where I am or the work I have yet to do to get me where I want to be in life. Tangentially I admit I'm worried because my generation has proven to be more open to 'experimentation' and 'body count', and I don't know if I could give all of myself to someone who has given themselves fully to others in the past. I don't know if it's entirely fair but I can't change that feeling regardless. I want to be selfish about my one and only, as cringe as it is to say stuff like that among my peers.
Please for the love of God, stop watching Conservative content. They would have you think 90% of women have OnlyFans and have slept with dozens of men. That is simply not the case. The Daily Wire has a misogynist agenda. Even this video is misleading. This was a list of what multiple different women didn't like. Brett and The Daily Wire goons did what they always do and made it seem like women are stupid and reject everything. Come to relationships with an open heart and mind and don't let these demonic people convince you to sabotage yourself. If you want to save yourself for some one special. That's good but don't do it because you think everyone has a triple digit body count or other people's sex lives are an issue for you. The only person's sex life you should worry about it is your own.
Personally, the top ones I have in my head are bowling, skating (can either be rollerblading or ice skates, doesn't matter in my head), 6-Flags, something where you all can just hang out like best friends to do whatever. To me a relationship is a bestfriend with extra benefits (well, at least long-term ones are. The short term ones are... you know... stimulating.) If two people can't make it work as best friends, then they can't make it work as a date. Not to mention, the people who date after barely getting to know someone are expected to put their full trust into their date (even if they just met over tinder 2 weeks ago), which is just a hell for people who are very reserved. Have fun first as friends, then build something from that afterward.
This list is hilarious. 5 years ago my husband and I went on our first date. Started at Starbucks, then went to REI, got lunch at chipotle, got ice cream and walked through the park, did VR, and saw a movie. So many things on this list we did, we are happily married and expecting our first baby. 😂
Your first date is literally my IDEAL kind of date. We get coffee, economically conscious food that's delicious, and we get to have a lot of fun where drinking is not the main attraction. Love it!
Literally the longest date ever. We spent 12 hours together. And surprisingly I wanted to see him the next day too. 😂 10/10 recommend doing things where you get to know a person.
Me and my girlfriend have been together for about 2 years now. We met in a bar and we both never go out to bars. Our first date was a walk through a wooded park in northwest TN. We spent so long that we got locked in and had to call the sheriffs office to come unlock the gates. Genuinely the best night of our lives. I’m just glad she found me when she did because I had resigned to just being single. Dating in todays age is so stressful and hard for men. It may take you 50-100 women before you find someone with decent morals and ideology, and even then nothing says it’s going to work out in the end. People don’t date to marry anymore and I’m convinced it has ruined the scene.
Her list excluded all my favorite places!!!😂😂 BOWLING, COFFEE, ICE CREAM!!! must be why I'm happily married with 5 kids and she's still making lists about what kind of first date she wants. 😂
Took a girl on a first date to cheesecake factory. She had trouble with the menu since it was a book full of ads and random menu items (too much of the same thing). She got overwhelmed and ordered spaghetti and meatballs. Then the waitress had to ask her more questions, red sauce or meat sauce, large meatballs or small meatballs, and even what kind of pasta. Even I was like wtf. I just got the usual chicken and steak diane. Had a couple more dates with the same girl but it didn't work out.
Currently my wife and I have been married for 19 years and counting. Our first date was the movies and McDonald's (because the date was on a Sunday evening and every other restaurant was closed in the town we lived in on Sunday nights). Ladies - the lesson of the day is for you to just be appreciative that the man is respectful and considerate enough to take you out in the first place no matter where it is. It may end up in marriage.
That’s awesome. I agree. It’s not about the place but the people involved. Requiring people to spend lots of money is not a good sign. I guess Happy Meal = Happy Marriage 😂
I live in a Mid-Western City of about 20,000 people. This list quite literally eliminates every single option we have for going out, along with every option the next nearest city has too. If women here acted like this, we would have to drive them 5 hours to Denver to go on a date, then 5 hours back to take them home. With the way gas prices are, I'm pretty sure that means the whole state would just go celibate instead, lol.
Well I’m pretty sure you live in Kansas lol…at least the Eastern part has KC BBQ! But yeah…that’s crazy. I grew up in a small town in Ohio about 45 mins from Cleveland…the options were limited unless you drive into the city, and nobody who lived out there knew the city unless they worked Downtown. But there were a gazillion ice cream stands everywhere.
@@LeeHawkinsPhoto Nebraska, actually. But in most ways Nebraska and Kansas might as well be the same state. Same setup, with all the interesting parts in the far East of the state, and a whole lot of nothing to the West.
@@rmartinson19 wow I totally disagree…Nebraska has the Sandhills across the center of the state-which is gorgeous along the Niobrara and Missouri Rivers-the Butte Country in the west, and the Wildcat Hills in the Panhandle. I mean yeah, Omaha and Lincoln are in the East, but I can find stuff to do anywhere in Nebraska…it’s hard to find more than cows in most of Kansas. If it weren’t for the Black Hills is say Nebraska is my favorite Plains State.
My first date with my husband was at a Steak and Shake. Then we spent the first few months of dating sitting in the Walmart garden center. It doesn't matter where you go, it just matters who you're with.
I LOVE these videos, they remind me how lucky I am. I met the girl who would become my wife deer hunting. Our relationship started with an argument over a buck (my arrow, her bullet) and to this day we still "fight" about it. That was in 1979.
I'm 26 in Texas. My girlfriend of 2 years absolutely loves cheesecake factory. It was where our first date was and it's where she always requests to go when I ask. Whoever made this list is delusional.
The first date with my wife was supposed to be a group date with a picnic and then a church function. It ended up being just the two of us on a picnic and then a church function. We were already friends, but we got to know each other better on the picnic and then we were filled with the spirit. We have been happily married for 27 years and are madly in love with each other.
My favorite first date wound up with us sitting on a curb in front of a gas station for over an hour waiting for cab. 😂 we were 18, in college and neither of us had a car. We got to know each other and laughed together at the absurdity of the situation. We’ve been together for 23 years now. ❤
On my first date with my husband-to-be, we started at a nice cafe and ended it at a local diner. It was a simple date but we both thought it was the best date each of us ever had. He even confessed to me that it was on our first date when he realized that I was The One, and I also knew then that he was the man I've been praying for. All we did was talk, laugh, and just had fun getting to know each other. Yes, it's good if you went somewhere nice but ultimately, it's the companionship and chemistry you form with your partner that truly matters.
If they ever get married and have kids they will not complain if they ever have the opportunity to get out on a date. No money was spent on my husband and I’s first date, it was in front on the lake at night. No money was spent on even our wedding, it was a backyard wedding with only the people we cared for and those who cared for us, then we spent a week in a hot tub in the mountains. Materialism doesn’t control our marriage or happiness, we do and that’s what these kids my age lack anymore.
Me and my man met at IKEA. I was so scared to meet a random guy. It ended up being awesome because we could talk about things we like/ don’t like, our goals for moving, living situation, etc. if there was ever an awkward moment you could just be like “hey I hate that side table”. We’re still together 2 years later.
I’m 23 years old and let me tell you women who don’t expect the entire Gucci store and an international flight across the world still exists. A first date is meant to be lighthearted and easy going in my opinion. Street tacos and a walk in the park are absolutely fine with me or a simple treat such as ice cream or coffee. As long as you can tell a man put effort and planned the date no matter how simple is perfectly okay. No wonder men hardly approach women anymore 🤦🏻♀️
Why would I take a potential scammer to a fancy dinner on a first date? If you think you deserve it, you are already disqualified. First date with my wife of 24 years was water skiing... with her dad. No makeup, no food, no drinks, no posturing, lots of fun. We still water ski.
