Stepping on others make some people feel powerful. When they have a bad day they crap on their “partner” for a boost or take it out on some other person they deem lesser. They avoid people who fight back.
@@Love-pd1cioh trust me, every single one of these ladies aren't making the same mistakes ever again. Sometimes we are too nice, too caring, too forgiving because that's how we were brought up and we didn't know any better. But we know better now. Because we dealt with exes like these. I'm always going to be grateful for my demonic ex. 5 months with him and I learned 5 hundred lessons that I will ALWAYS take with me. Before him I didn't know about child free women. I thought I was crazy to not want kids because that's what EVERYONE around me told me. Before him I didn't know about decentering men. Before him I didn't know about Dusties. or DINKS, or the red pillers. And SO MUCH MORE. I was SO NAIVE. I am not anymore. And when I allowed him to get away with all the things these women did, it's because I was raised in the church , to always forgive because no one is without sin. It wasn't because I had no self respect. It's because I was taught that's what Jesus would do. Let's just say I'm not religious anymore. These women are not the same people they were with those exes. Trust me.
I appreciate being single. It's too much of a gamble/risk to be in a romantic relationship. It's not worth the physical, spiritual, mental and emotional damage that comes along with romantic relationships.
You're so lucky to not have fallen for the okey doke. I get so tired of being this man's emotional service pet that I look forward to being divorced 🤦🏽♀️
My black ex-husband told me he no longer likes black women while I was 8 months pregnant with his black daughter. Continued with how white women are better partners and more sexualy satisfying. Obviously, I went off on him for saying such a thing, and he tried to convince me that I was just being dramatic/emotional. I found out a few hours later that his side piece was a white woman. He then tried to Gaslight me again by saying his comments about the differences between black and white women and the fact that he is with a white woman,were all just a coincidence!!.😂🤔 Of course I left his ass
A lot of black men like to say white women are more feminine, but they so conveniently forget the majority of Karen videos of women screaming like demons are white women.
Wow, as a white woman, if I see a black man talking that fetish shit about me it’s unattractive, like at that point he doesn’t love YOU, you are the fetish. Hope you told the other woman what he was doing, cuz diseases ain’t cute.
Ugh!! omg he's DISGUSTING. ALOT of black males behave that exact way. I truly think something is spiritually disturbed about them. His Karma will come. I'm glad you got away ❤
Many friends have called me heartless cuz I dump dudes so fast. I’m not sticking around for more red flags and I don’t give the benefit of the doubt. Also, I get the ick once I’m disrespected, it doesn’t matter how much I liked you initially. Hoping these women are doing better now.
My mom used to tell me I had no patience whatsoever, cos if a man breathes wrong…I’m out ✌🏽. They are already irritating after three months. Told guys on dating apps who don’t respond responsive, delete, block, won’t think twice of it. That s the energy most men should get
And this should be how most women treat the men who are no good. Problem is, there's always going to be one, who is desperate enough to overlook any shitty behaviour just so they can put on social media that they are 'in a relationship'. Then the very same women will complain that they are being mistreated...If there's no respect at the beginning, there'll never be any!
Girl u literally are my twin.. I’ve been called selfish, being a player and cold hearted cuz I won’t tolerate the foolishness. I won’t stick around to find out.. my ex who we dated for 2 months got nothing out of me and he’s mad cuz I won’t tolerate his bs. Most of these stories I can’t relate cuz I smell their bs from a mile away and move accordingly. These girls need to use their brains not their hearts with these men other than that they’ll be run over 😭
Youthful indiscretion, maybe. I know a group of guys who all got felonies in high school for counterfeiting money. It was dumb all around. Half of them grew up to be piles of 💩, the other half are stand up guys as far as I can tell. But, you are probably right that it isn’t worth the risk and even if you did end up with one of the decent ones, it’s still a lifetime of hassle. (Like never being allowed into Canada which sounds like it wouldn’t be much of an issue, except we live in Alaska and flying isn’t always an option when traveling.)
They always say "single women keep other women single" but it's the HORROR stories of women in relationships/marriages that kept women single and childless
I'll be like "Oh, you don't have to worry about that either way, that's too high for you, brokie." Or "I won't be going there If I can't even afford my cup of coffee."
My friend was being sexually harassed on a subway while on the phone with her boyfriend. It started to get scary and he said "Well, what are you wearing?". She was wearing jeans and big shirt and a sweater. It was cold out. Not thatbit matters but her ex thought he should ask that While she was being accosted. I had to stop talking to her for awhile because she stayed with him. Complained all the time about him but never ever left him. For the pretty girl with a black top that stayed with the guy for 4 years... I hope she goes to therapy because that is not just young and dumb, thats a mental health issue
My soon to be ex husband, on finding out that i was being followed across town to different stores by a strange man who tried to touch me and talk to me with our then 2 year old daughter, asked what i did to lead the man on into all that. Did absolutely nothing. And was stalked by him for the next year and a half. And still stayed in the marriage for another 7 years. 😂
He told me a lot of shit, but only two things stuck out to me: 1. "I'll get you pregnant so we'll stay together forever and you won't leave me" 2. "I'll cut them off (my boobs) if you break up with me. If I can't have them, no one else can" We were both teenagers when he said these things. I was terrified to end the relationship.
Right. I don't feel sorry for women who stay in relationships with disrespectful men. As soon as a man disrespects me, that's it. I cursed out the last man who disrespected me. I think too highly of myself to allow someone to disrespect me even once. I can't imagine staying and allowing myself to be disrespected over and over again. That would eat me alive.
@shayemoore Congratulations, want a cookie? All the women in these videos were young or vulnerable in some sense. Some of them are clearly still in school. They didn't know any better at the time. Everyone makes a bad decision when they are young due to lack of experience whether it's romantic, professional, social or otherwise. Let's not be so quick to judge others when we haven't shared their experience.
I have my own stories but I'm too embarrassed. Just take my word for it...there is no such thing as "nice guy"...they are all "bad" in their heart. 😢 So glad I'm free and back in love with myself.
Note to women and girls: An insecure man and a man that doesn’t like you, he will break your appearance and personality apart to break your spirit until you do not know yourself anymore. It’s a control thing, when you are internally lost. They became your world, you live for their approval. Know yourself and love yourself enough to know when someone comes to you in the wrong spirit. Regardless of your status in this world, you deserve kindness.
After saying 'I Do' , found out when I went to tag him in 'our' new relationship status, found out he blocked me on all his social media. Kept it that way for the first 2 yrs of marriage. The worst, I was unable to tag him in any FB pics of our daughter. I should have left then. It wasn't until I filed for divorce that he created all new FB & IG accounts and sent friend requests. I let them sit for 3 years before declining. He wanted to cheat in peace.
My ex never fed me. Ever. He never asked me if i wanted anything to eat when we spent time together. He would make himself food and eat it in front of me. For the record, he was not tight on money by any means. We were in college but his parents were pretty well off and he got a generous monthly allowance and did not have to pay any tuition or get a job. He just didn't care about me. Thats why I left after 6 months.
I've always thought people who do this are weird! Why would you have someone over to your house, have food for yourself, and offer them nothing? They are a guest in your home... watching you eat. I would be too uncomfortable.
Wow smfh! I would've left right away and blocked him on everything🚫🚫‼️‼️. Don't give jerks like him second chances, EVER!!!! These men today are just selfish and toxic asf. That's not a boyfriend or husband and he was never your man to begin with, smh. Selfish jerk he is, he can get himself something to eat but wouldn't bother to offer you something to eat and drink, mannn that's corny and very extremely rude. Sis I am so sorry you went through this madness. I hope you find a better looking man that will feed you and give you some good food and a nice drink, you deserve better. Wishing you better love Queen🙏🫶🏽🌱💕
My ex had a wandering eye, so much so every time we went anywhere, I would constantly catch him looking at another woman, it was a constant thing, and he would do it right in front of me as if I was not standing in front of him. I also caught him looking at other women on his phone, so if he wasn't checking out another woman in my face, he was doing it online. On top of doing something this disrespectful regularly, this clown would demand sex from me. How do you treat someone poorly and then demand sex from that same person? On top of that, as if this wasn't bad enough, he is a middle-aged man 53 yrs. of age, who was always broke and brought absolutely nothing to the table. I wish I never dated that man, when the relationship was finally over, I almost threw a party because I was happy to get rid of this human being. If a man does not show you respect leave immediately, don't give people chances because it's usually not worth it. If a man shows you, he's a jerk, he's showing you who he is so don't think he is going to operate differently as time goes on. What's also crazy is this man pursued me for a long time, I wasn't the one who came looking for him. Why pursue a woman only to get her and then treat her like trash? I never understood that.
'Why pursue a woman only to get her and then treat her like trash? I never understood that.' Because some men enjoy destroying a woman and taking everything she's got. Especially ones that have their shit together. There is a word for them, starts with N...
This is literally my ex except that he’s 27.. I dropped him like a bad habit after 2 months of dating and never got sex out of me. These men are insufferable tbh
They are hunters and like the thrill of the chase. Once they catch you, they get quickly bored and move on to the next chase. It's a game to them. Most have low emotional intelligence and don't see women as human, so they can't empathize with or deeply bond with a woman. So can use and discard without care.
I think that they pursue certain women for a long time because they believe the woman is out of their league. When she finally gives in, they lose respect for her because they now see her as common. Her being unattainable made her a prize, but now that she has lowered herself to his level to date him, he decides that she is regular or just as low as he is, so he will treat her accordingly. There is a reason you put off dating him for so long; listen to your intuition and never give him a chance.
They annoyed my spirit with all that darn giggling but you know what? I'll give them grace bc they are so young and probably have no idea or examples of what healthy relationships feel like. I pray they learn from their experiences and the experiences of so many other women who have been sharing all up down SM.
@@IntellectuallyKurious Laughing is a trauma response, a coping mechanism. It's not even intentional and its what they needed to do to get the story out at all. Not every victim needs to cry their eyea out every time they tell their story, stop acting like they're lacking mentally just because this turned out to be their trauma reaponse at the moment.
OK, so he yelled at me for feeling sad at my grandma's grave. Cheated on christmas, where he never got me gifts but I got him gifts..... 3 years and he NEVER took me on a date. Don't stay.
my grandfather was having two surgeries for his cancer…very traumatic & gruesome surgeries… i cried to my man, i was devastated to see my granddad that way going through that. you know what he had to say? “well at least he’s not dead, you’re being so negative about the situation” his response genuinely made me spiral into depression…. this is after 8 years of being with him. nothing ever changes y’all, like she said…plz leave
My ex husband was screaming at me when we were in Bali, because I got upset and had a couple of tears in my eyes at how poor the people were and their living conditions were so sad. A guy had come up to us wanting to sell a hand carved chess set and board for $1. It really hurt my heart to see the poverty and the struggles of these people who were actually so nice to us during our visit. He got angry at me because I wasn’t being “appreciative” of being on vacation and “could never be pleased.” They’re just cruel monsters.
women need to become more selfish and start to understand their worth. I stayed with a man who didn't respect my boundaries for too long too. We always want to give them "one more chance" because "they'll become better people". THEY WON'T! NEVER HAVE, NEVER WILL! My ex basically called me a silly little girl who doesn't understand the world, called me cold and unfeeling and called me a "weak woman". He was 39, I was 37......
Self empowerment and be your own best friend. It's more of a society problem than a individual one. Men are not treated like this by most women yet women can go into one abusive relationship to the next. Many reasons financial they have a baby and can't afford to leave, religion, lots of reasons that are patriarchal dramatic like blaming rape victims for the clothes they wore.
@@Emilyb21-dm3bf maybe if men WERE treated like that they'd get a thicker skin and didn't start hating women after just ONE rejection during their teenage years ....
I appreciate these women warning other women that relationships aren’t these amazing things. It can be great but majority of the time it’s literally abuse on all levels. I pray these women find healing and to leave at the first and last red flag.
I had to pause when she said 'he chocked me on the concrete and we werent even together'. The last 2 girls... I 100% get it their generation is staying single & childfree. I'm so appalled by their experiences.
I remember seeing somewhere that when a person is talking about something traumatic they've been through and smiling all the while....they are hiding an IMMENSE amount of pain..
Seeing all of this, I enjoy my solitude of being single and having my peace of mind. Please choose yourself ladies. These type of men are NOT worth it.
It would have been much more helpful for these women to share why they stayed, particularly the women who were relatively mature, had their own money and didn’t have children with the men. I really want to know how anyone could tolerate this level of disrespect and mistreatment from another person, more so a romantic partner
A lot of times it's because women think their love is enough so he'll want to change and therefore she can save him, but 9 times out of 10 that's a fool's game. Men only change if They want to change for themselves.
I grew up being disrespected by my parents and reminded of my lack of looks. I used to have guys try to befriend me to get to my much prettier sister. My self worth was beaten to the ground and it felt nice feeling like finally somebody wants me. I've learned my lesson.
I'm pretty sure many people don't know why they stayed (unless they've seen a therapist). Otherwise, sometimes it's because they had kids together or caught an incurable STD from the joker, and thought no one else would want them, etc. People put up with disrespect for many different reasons.
Told me so much disrespectful, crazy things but he often said " I know you aint going nowhwere". Yet he cheated multiple times, lied about his sexuality, groomed and manipulated me. I stayed because I was disassociated, confused and depressed until it fizzled out. On and off, break up and getting back together. It was a hot mess and I will never trust an older man again nor a ran through man.
It’s clear to me after my own experiences and hearing these women…some men just use women as physical and emotional punching bags. They won’t change…they know what they’re doing.
When I was 17 yrs old. We had just left the hospital from visiting our newborn son in NICU. My now 23 yr old son's father stole my 24k name plate anklet my father brought me for my birthday, then blamed me for losing it. This fat psycho didn't want me, didnt want anyone else to be with me and didn't want me to have nice things, and actually told me these things. I still believe that he had it melted down to put those raggedy golds in his mouth.
🙃 It might be better for the kids to get away from a man like that. You're modeling to their kids how they should be treated and how they should treat others. The longer he hangs around the more of his "personality" the kids are going to pick up. edit: didn't you say in a comment thread you're waiting for your youngest to be 13 to leave in 5 yrs? Divorce is hard on teenagers... maybe it's best to dump the extra weight now. Just food for thought.
yo…..the list i can make is ridiculous. i won’t embarrass myself like this in the comment section. but recently my grandmother hexed our relationship. my entire family & friends despise him, it’s been 8 years, not even a promise ring yet. i have to “earn” it…i need to leave this man. this video really brought up a lot of things in me that need to be brought up.
You're scrabbling over crumbs for a promise ring..? Not even an engagement ring? Girrrlllll...... I think you know what you need to do and you need to find the bravery to WALK AWAY from someone who's trying to make you earn a promise ring. Please believe me: He either loves you and wants to spend his life with you OR he does not. He obviously doesn't want to commit to you. Find someone WONDERFUL who will go the extra mile just so you know that they love you and will stand by you. You're worthy of being loved completely from the bottom of your feet to the top of your head. Don't let a dusty have you running around in circles for crumbs.
Earning something is a man's job, not a woman's in a relationship. A man will do the stupidest things and go out of his way to bend over backwards to have the woman he actually wants. You're not that, you're viewed as a girlfriend appliance at best. Run.
Honestly these women sharing their stories were crucified sometimes called du…mb etc, but honestly it’s sad because these poor women have good intentions because they thought that’s love! Bless these women! May we never forget the history’ so we’re not doomed to repeat it again! Women are amazing the most women love unconditionally! Even a mother can literally out food in her kids mouth even though she is hungry! May all the women in the world know they are enough and they are worth loving worth every penny ! God bless you all sisters
I gotta give them kudos for coming out with their experiences so women can learn about men's nature. I can't imagine the strength they had to overcome the shame these relationships bring.
Some of them laughing is so sad to see because they were moments away from being unalived by those horrible males and they don't even know it. God please heal them and show them to leave on the very first sign of disrespect.
They're laughing as a trauma response. When I think of some nonsense I've been through with men too I start laughing so hard and can't stop😅 and it's not because I've gotten over it. I hope they'll be fine
17:53 I hope they're giggling as like a pressure-release thing or just at the idea that they stayed, because these stories are straight up just abuse, physical and emotional and verbal. I am worried about girls who are so young going out into life with these things as their formative experiences in romantic relationships
This is why when women end a relationship you know they didn't just end it lightly. Women will put up with a lot if she loves you. So when she reaches the point where she lets go, you know she couldn't go anymore. V
This stitch, combined with the viral Twitter thread on guys hating their girlfriend should be required viewing for all women, young and old. There should never be any confusion, it’s him blatantly showing he doesn’t like you.
🙋♂️ guy here! I mean, like, 😮 WOOOOOW 🤯🤯😤. I know ppl kill each other, but I didn't know ppl could be so cruel, AND ppl would tolerate it too. As a man, I'm really sorry to hear these stories. But please believe it all goes both ways! There are men too putting up with similar nonsense because they don't know any better or they don't believe in themselves enough. But this vid reminds me of a woman I met in NYC. She told me she put up with all kinds of foolishness because the sex was good. Her telling me was her being honest with herself for the 1st time in 10yrs. She even said out loud, 🤷♂️ why am I telling you all this. She looked lost in her eyes! We were strangers & still are, as I've forgotten her name. This was in NYC! So I smiled & said, hey its ok. She vented for about 10min & we parted ways. Never saw her again! Before we met, she had just mustered the courage to finally kick him out. I guess she needed a shoulder ... or an ear. Hope she's ok!
You make zero sense 😂😂 so you're saying that men that cheat, are misogynistic and don't even respect their partners aren't trash it's the girl's tastes?
I honestly would be very confused. Why are you with me if you think I'm not truly valuable to your life? If I'm so cheap, why are you with me? All you would be doing is lowering your own value. Leave. Find your $1 million dollar girl. Find your priceless princess. There is no need to waste your time on the poor pauper.
The last two girls were laughing because reading out loud what you've allowed thise dudes to do to them sounded even more crazy sometimes you literally have to laugh sometimes when you see what you've put up with and how it wasnt even worth it
For me i didn't go back but he sent me a picture of ny brother shoes and said i was cheating on him, i laughed at his face so loud he got mad, then one month later find out it was him who was cheating on me with his ex girlfriend.
The part where he does something that upsets me, but gets upset at me for making him feel guilty. I upset him by being upset at him for doing upsetting things. I'm upsetting... and so on and on in a circle. Divorce saves lives.
Fact that she brought up his race, shows she accepted it because he was white. See this alot, on guard for the person you are the same race as, but drop all standards and boundaries for the other race
@@Enriquez2222 from observation, alot of people will date trash in their race, then date trash in the next race and call it a diamond. People typically date the same type of person across races
Well I think that they may have bonded on both being half Hispanic. I think that when you fail to do self reflection and work after getting out of relationships, regardless of race, you will meet the same result in subsequent relationships. I think unfortunately divestment has become about dating other people outside of their race bc people think that they will be treated better, but that’s not how the world works. I don’t think necessarily that the standards are dropped, more their guard is dropped. The standards remained consistent from previous relationships that they were in just with a different race. Hence why they meet the same results and sometimes worse results bc their guard is down.
Males are males no matter what race, creed, or culture they come from. Some are more open about their fuckery, but they are all essentially the same. Some will act up sooner and in more obvious ways, and those are actually the easier ones to spot. It’s the higher level narc males that pretend to be good in public and will have the world on their side when they’re abusing them at home.
Right after sleeping with me. After trying to get me for so long. Said I can’t have a girl that’s hairier than me. Then we sat there awkwardly. He wanted to see me again. Told him to meet me at xyz. I never showed up 😂 🤭his loss. I can always shave but his personality will always be the same.
First ex: I was a victim of a crime in which i could've been wiped out from the earth. He didn’t support me through any of it. Didn’t go to the police station or the courthouse because I testified against the guy who tried to rob me. Made a cake for his birthday. He took one slice and left out for the rest of the night to cheat. I was never allowed in his bedroom. Lied about wanting to take me to this museum i wanted to visit. Texted my friends about wanting to hook up with them as a social experiment. Told me my Mother was prettier and that I should be like her. Didn’t prep me for s*x one time and got mad that I had an accident. Stole my baby picture
This is a positive about the internet and social media, Women sharing and helping other women wake up and see its not ok to be treated bad or to stay in a toxic relationship. Wish i had this when i was younger, I'd of ditched my ex husband 7 years earlier and not wasted years dating some genuine narcissist.
Stuff like this is why I will teach my daughter about men. I have stories similar to theirs. No woman in my family told me about men period. Men do this when us woman are young!!! We have to love our younger generation & tell them! Even if they don’t listen we still gotta let them know. I feel like sometimes older woman want us to struggle & suffer bc why wouldn’t you tell us about these men?
To the pretty girl with the red nails, omg you are so beautiful and have a lovely voice. You deserve to be happy, and trust me single is the way to go ❤
Those stories kept getting worse. All that was stated was bad but please don’t stay with anyone that is physically abusive. And the high/low emotional rollercoaster crap is a manipulation tactic. It’s effective because your brain craves the high when you’re in the low. The more intermittent the behavior the worse the craving. Also they try to keep you around because they don’t want you to have time to sit and analyze their behavior so they keep popping up. It’s also why they try to isolate you from your friends so no one can contradict or analyze what they do.
my exes parents wouldn't even cook me anything if i was round and stayed for the evening ... they all just eating around the table whilst i had nothing , even had the audacity to ask if i wanted his leftovers
I stayed in my marriage despite verbal, emotional, and financial abuse for 10 years cause he was really good at apologizing and showing that he was able to recognize and choose healthier communication and dynamics. Before ultimately going back into his toxic abusive ways. The hope slowly died in me that he would actually choose to be the healthier happier man i fell for. Even though i know now that was the lie of him.
