if a woman is truly over her ex, u won’t know about him. simple. if the convo was related & she happens to bring him up fine but if she randomly trauma dumps about her ex, she’s clearly not ready for a relationship
My ex wife of 8 years with whom I share children with monkey branched to a guy from her past. She never ever brought up anything about this guy. So it’s not always true that women talking about somebody means they aren’t over them yet. Not true at all. I let her go immediately, gone no contact and let her be. Fast forward 9 months later, I’ve mostly healed, moved on, and got my divorce completely in my favour. She’s a complete stranger to me. She on the other hand, still hangs around my friends and family. They constantly tell me that she made a mistake. But I won’t allow her back. She monkey branched and found out.
also do those guys actually truly want obsessed women? they think they want one until they deal with one. obsessed women are basically the crazy ex. they will not leave u alone even if ur not interested. i wouldn’t recommend dating someone who’s uncontrollably obsessive it’s a headache for men tbh
as a woman i agree. however, i think that the longevity of a relationship doesn’t always matter. some women get stuck on men that they’ve only dating for a month. especially if they dated at a young age (under 18). a woman’s attachment and love when it comes to a man at a young age is much stronger leaving her to be traumatized as an adult and like u said, settling
