Kelly is not a stay at home mum. She is someone who sits in a room with a child she happens to have birthed whilst doing the bare minimum so as it doesn't die.
When you let your body go to shit. Never made muscle your life. Never had excessive work in life you look like hell. I'll give ya an example for you my ex fiancée
WHY have a child if you don't want to be a parent? I grew up with this type. Smoker, drinker would literally stomp her feet if I asked for food and order my (younger) sister to make a sandwhich for me' she never showed me how to do anything. Again: if you do not want to parent, WHY have kids?
The sugar part is insanely true. I remember quitting sugar for about 6 months to get in shape to enlist. About a week away from leaving for boot camp, I got myself a slurpee from 7-eleven. A small one but just 4 sips in and it made my heart race. I was dumbfounded because before getting in shape, I could chug a large without issue. Sugar is dangerous and it’s overshadowed by the fat conversation.
Since I gave up soft drink, I literally can't drink soft drink. I take a sip and it's so sweet it makes me feel ill. Why we give this stuff to children is astounding to me. And I didn't even give up sugar - I'm sure if I can work up the willpower to stop sugar, I won't be able to go back.
Yep very true, I gave up soft drinks and caffeine back in 2020, best thing I ever did. I had more energy, better sleep and felt better overall, I have gone back to doing caffeine in the last 6 months but limit it to 1-2 caffeinated drinks every 2 weeks and the only time I do any soft drink is when I'm mixing it with alcohol, soft drinks give me a horrible headache just not with alcohol
Not disagreeing with your statement and how sugar affected you. Sugar is not bad in small quantities, it’s the overconsumption of sugar and the high amounts of it that are added in processed foods that are dangerous for health. A 7-eleven slurpee has so much sugar in it, of course your heart will race after a few sips of you didn’t consume sugar 6 months prior. Drink a very watered down apple juice instead and your heart will not be on a race track. It’s about balancing the amount of sugar you consume
Yep. Atleast peices of shit calls them ownself out. It's hard to find women that give a damn that don't think they're to good for anyone. When they all end up alone they'll know what happened
@@kritizismmusics9737 no, it makes it worse that she knows what she's doing is wrong and doesn't stop doing it. it would be better if she was delusional or stupid and had no idea what she was doing is wrong. then you could teach her and hopefully she'll change. what expectation is there that the person who always knew what they were doing is wrong to change that behavior? none-they feel like acknowledging it was enough.
When I told my dietician that I got too fat because I am lazy she was genuinely taken aback as if nobody ever says that... I lost 5 kg since last month though.
So sad why do people have kids and then not bother with them? I would love to be able to play with my kids more if I didn't work full time. These precious moments go by so quick. You'll blink and suddenly they'll be grown and you'll have missed everything. Georgina probably won't have a close relationship with her mum, considering how much she meglects her, hopefully she gets out and takes the cat with her and makes a better life for herself
@@cmcordoYTwell, where to? It isn’t as easy as just taking her away to magical unicorn land where everything is perfect… the foster system in the UK is horrible… just like everywhere else. It is overfilled as is… so unless a child is truly abused abused they don’t do anything about it. It’s sad for the children… but if we truly were to take every child away that’s in a similar situation… more than 50% of people would lose their kids in an instant… and that is not something this broken system can handle.
@lenibeni7421 I don’t know how it is in the UK but in the US a two-year-old child would have no problem getting a home, There are many parents who have fertility issues and have to wait years to even have a chance of adopting any kid below three years old. I don’t know how it is in the UK though. Also, I can’t believe how a mother could just abandon her adorable daughter like that not only neglecting her but harming her health, I’m the second oldest and a family of eight children and I remember every time my next sibling was born. I would treasure the moments I spent with them A lot And they’re not even my kids, so I can’t imagine how a mother could do such a thing to her daughter Especially with how bad the effects of child neglect are on a developing Brian
No Kelly does want more kids, BUT only so she can get MORE benefits… The kid being in the same room with her while she yells and smokes while giving her absolutely no love, affection, or any interaction for that matter, makes my skin crawl just as much as the half smoked cigarettes 🚬 just put out and tucked away on the freaking sink! How disgusting! 🤮 those people are awful and nasty. I felt so bad for the other wife having to sleep in her disgusting bed, and just being in that house at all! Sheesh! 🙄
There is almost no bounds a desperate man wont leap to have kids, he will find a 20 year old who is obese, lazy, stupid, looks like she is 50, just to have kids with her because his options are so low on the totem pole. Feel bad for the kids but this is nature in action.
Once you’re neglectful to kids or animals you’re done in my books. It made me so mad seeing how she was such a bad mother and how the animals and her daughter live in filth.
For everyone who feels ashamed or humiliated by their laziness or lack of motivation to do things, remember this. At least you feel shame and humiliation because of it, meaning that you'll make an effort to improve your situation to NOT feel that shame again. That's what puts everyone here leagues ahead of people like her.
This woman is smoking inside the house with her infant daughter. Like, I smoked for 23 years & I would never dream of doing that around a toddler. This woman needs a wake up call.
@@shahee6579even if it is I assume she still helps her step daughter with things (yes I'm aware it's likely she was in the picture when the daughter was older); but it still didn't surprise me when she did a better job
I believe cereal ( and most food) in the UK is much lower in sugar and additives than US food. Kerry could get relatively healthy cornflakes or bran flakes. I would have said Kelly is suffering from Depression but I don't think she could handle being on Wife Swap or doing benefit fraud if that was the case. Sadly people who behave like her and her fiance are the reason that those who genuinely need help can't get it.
I actually dated a woman very similar to this. It's basically a combination of narcissim and depression, though it's possible all the depression was actually for manipulation purposes.
Thank you for saying it. My mother is a grade A narc. I got a little better care than this toddler....but she preferred to feed me top ramen than to get a fuckin job. Everything was practically the same , aside from the admission of laziness!
I have severe depression. I got myself a Husky, a very demanding dog breed, and he forced me to crawl out of my depression to care and train him. There are times I can’t clean his area and his tray, but when there’s poo involved I clean it right away, and it snowballs into me cleaning everything up. Sometimes, SOMETIMES, depression is an excuse to be lazy, and even when you’re depressed you should learn how to overcome it or else you’ll just be stuck in a hole. Getting told “move on even when you’re depressed” is not an “ableist” advice, it’s for their own good.
I think depression can encourage unintentionally narcissistic behavior. You feel so broken and down that you give up on your responsibilities which can make you act in selfish ways. You're irritable which makes you meaner, and you get stop caring about your looks. You need medication and someone to give you a kick in the pants to get your brain and body back working. I've had this experience and things have gotten better. She needs to snap out of it or she'll never improve. She'll end up becoming a female Boogie.
@@hope-cat4894 People need to sgtop enabling the negative behavior that is caused by depression by using depression as an excuse. "Oh I can't shower because of depression so stop forcing me to take a shower" no, that's enabling and their guardians SHOULD force them to take a shower or stop neglecting themselves, their children, or their responsibilities. People definitely need to stop coddling mentally ill people and start treatment
@immunityvi6968 I totally agree with you. I suffered from chronical depression when I was in my 20s and it f*cked up my life until I was well in my 30s. But I had a dog, (she died unfortunately because of the illness propagated by ticks) but I adopted another dog 1 year after her death, then another few years after. I always made a point of being the best for my dogs, and yes they forced me to crawl out of my symptoms. But careful, because depression can be so severe that you could potentially neglect your dog (I'm not talking about you or me but some people won't be able to take care of the dog properly) Having a dog is a great solution to fight depression and loneliness, but it's not easy. I wish you the best.
YOU are at HOME doing absolutely NOTHING not even being a SAHM while your husband go to work and you can’t even make breakfast?????????????? this is wild
Um, yeah. That's straight up child abuse. I'll just say, don't take on responsibilities you cannot take care of especially children. Children are a serious responsibility. If you have pets, learn how to train them (ex. dogs) and what that breed's needs are. Don't be foolish and neglectful
I agree with you 100%. Unfortunately I know many 18-22 year olds that have kids simply to claim the inability to work. They all live on benefits. They cant take the kids away, cant punish the parents or stop them having more kids, so the crisis continues.
It's child neglect, not child abuse. Despite the best efforts of postmodernists, words still have meanings. Child abuse, child neglect, and child endangerment all mean different things. They're aren't _good_ But they're also not all the same. Similiar to how seeing a charred corpse, a gunshot victim, and a hanging, and saying "they've been stabbed" is wrong lol.
@@nuggynugs that's the core of my issue. "Child abuse" has been expanded beyond what it ought to be, largely on emotional grounds. In a fashion similiar to the use of bombastic words like "fascist" or "racist". Abuse is an action, it's something you do or commit. While neglect is the absence of action. Truthfully. My previous comment should have been "they're dead" rather than "they've been stabbed". Because by expanding a word bell beyond its original definition, you just make it a nebulous and general term. Which will eventually necessitate to invention of a new word, to define specific action in the future. For example, when someone says "Josh is racist" do they mean Josh hates people of other races and thinks they're lesser than him? Or do they mean Josh said the N word once? Or do they mean Josh opposed Black Lives Matter's actions in 2020? Or do they mean Josh walked in to an indoor trampoline park and said "wow there's a lot of black people here today."? Likewise, when someone says "Linda is a child abuser" do they mean Linda molested her child? Another person's child? Did she put her cigarettes out on a child? Did she hit her child? Did she lock her child in a closet for several hours in the dark? Did she scream at the child constantly? Did she verbally berate the child and psychologically abuse it? Or did she feed it McDonald's? Have her son wear a dress a couple times when he was a baby? Give her daughter boy and girls toys? Feed her child sugary foods? Didn't feed her child _any_ food that _could_ be considered unhealthy? Sat her child in front of a TV all day while she played world of warcraft? Wouldn't buy her child anything she wanted, ever? Forgot her child's birthday 4 years in a row? Gave her child an IPad to play with at 5 with a youtube app? Gave her child a cell phone at 8? What did Linda do? Can you tell by just the phrase "Linda is a child abuser"? Because you used to. Once upon a time, it was a lot easier to get an accurate idea of what Josh and Linda were with such labels
@@alexanderrahl7034thanks for going into depth with what you mean, yeah I get what you mean now. Yeah I agree with you, terminology is always changing and now you can’t say certain things and get a whole picture, there’s a whole array of meanings connected with certain terms.
Damn. I suddenly feel SO much better about my life. I sometimes feel so exhausted with being a stay at home mom. I at least get up at 5 every morning, have clean sheets on the beds, I cook, and have a clean cat box. I used to be a workaholic when I was unmarried, but now I love not having to slave away for a man that doesn't give a crap about me. I get to care for my daughter and have time with my husband.
Yes, she seemed so sweet and good-natured. Neither of those useless parents deserve her. It was interesting and actually a little disturbing that she seemed to show no signs of "making strange" with Kerry, or of missing her mother. They have no bond, which is actually a worrisome thing. It could affect her ability to bond with anyone throughout her life, and later on lead to anti-social behaviour. Toddlers and small children never crying or even fussing when separated from a parent, and being equally friendly with every adult, even total strangers, is actually a red flag for attachment disorder, which can be a precursor to serious conduct disorders in children. It may seem cute and loveable when a child to whom you're a stranger runs up and hugs you, but it's not normal. It's sign of emotional disturbance.
@@KathyPrendergast-cu5ciword. You're exactly right. Your child should miss you when you're gone, should cry or at least be apprehensive of strangers if you're around, look to you to make sure be new people and situations are ok/safe, and constantly go to you when learning a new environment. If they are eager or happy or even just regular with strangers, it could mean they have no attachment and seek that attention and a affection from literally anyone or are apprehensive of literally everyone.
To all the overweight smokers who ignore their children all day to sit on Facebook: HOW?! What keeps you on Facebook for more than 20min? I literally quit using the platform. Almost the decade ago because it was just people complaining all the time or referencing how lonely they are. That and all the political arguing. Unless you like spending your time being angry and arguing it's a pretty useless platform
I don't use Facebook, but I would assume it suffers from the same things that twitter does. I use Twitter a lot because trolling is fun and also the memes are fire. I've found a niche that fills the void in my soul caused by my zoomer attention span. I guess the boomer void is filled by petty soccer mom drama on Facebook 😂
I'm a debater. Planned to be a lawyer. So arguing is kinda my jam. That said, I don't and have never done that. I prefer playing video games to take out my frustrations.
I built as many good habits as I could before having kids and after they came, I feel like I had a magnifying glass on myself seeing behaviors/habits I didn’t want my kids to mirror. So I’m constantly pushing myself to be better so that my kids will be better than me
"being a mother is the hardest job" Your husband wakes up for work at 6am, you sleep until 12. Assuming he works 10hrs and you cut out eating time, there's basically 3hrs of "parenting", which is you, sitting on the computer telling your kid to leave you alone
He’s a bus driver, chances are he works over 10 hours a day and potentially gets one day off a fortnight depending on which company he works for and how much he lets the traffic office get away away with scheduling his duties
"Being a mother is the hardest job", yeah, a job YOU'RE NOT DOING. Goodness gracious, this woman is so entitled that she thinks that simply having given birth to her daughter is credit enough, and that she's already done "the hardest job in the world", so she's good, which, NO, there's still more to do! Honestly, she and others like her make me _sick._
While it usually is, it's not in her case. It's sweet he said that though. I really wonder given what she said and he said if he's aware she's not caring for the child when he's not there.
She doesn't deserve any praise for being 'honest' In my opinion, recognising your flaws, doing absolutely nothing to try and fix and even being proud of it is WAY worse than not recognising them at all.
You can at least give people the benefit of ignorance but, as you said, to know and STILL do nothing, that makes you worse than trash. ESPECIALLY when there's a child involved.
I agree, the person that lies about it at least feels some shame from living like that. Her "honesty" comes from indifference, which is also why she does not change. Someone that lies about it, is probably still capable of changing since that person still "cares" enough to lie about it. People need emotion to take action or change, but indifference just leads to stagnation.
It's worse that she's honest. It's another sign of how little she cares or respects others that she knows what she's doing is wrong and does it anyway. It's easier to forgive someone too stupid or deluded to understand what they're doing than someone like her who is fully aware and does it anyway. You wouldn't excuse a serial killer for being honest about it after the fact, so why give credit to anyone else doing horrible stuff?
There are people that live life to the fullest, then there are people who lay in bed all day, smoke cigs and remain terminally online or looking at screens, what a life!
As someone who is childless, and always wanted to have a couple of kids. It makes me sick to my stomach seeing a lazy as mother like this 22 year old. It's not fair. 😢💔 Poor child.
I don't want children myself, but I instantly felt the urge to take that baby and give her some love, attention and HEALTHY foods. I hope she grew up ok, she'll be 16-17 now.
How is this not child abuse? How can they film this awful person and not step in. Shame on her and double shame on the man for letting that happen every single day. That kid doesn't stand a chance. How can you as a grown man allow this to happen? Someone please slap some sense into that man
It was revealed most of these shows make it look worse than it is and make up conflict. Like there was one father who was addicted to video games and made him look like he ignored his kid when he was actually dedicated to his kid. He just video games too much.
@@LaloSalamancaGaming69 it can still be clever editing. Notice the cigarette was used but not lit? Like the other guy said it could've been filmed separately.
@@HaggisMuncher-69-420Careful about that. I know mostly couples but also a handful of single moms all of which are diligent homemakers who take care of everything. One got split from her husband over outside interference during the time they had a baby, another's husband reverted into a caveman all of a sudden and trampled all over her until it became unbearable and the next one had his wife help with building a house only to later drop her like a hot potato for a younger woman. And yes, all of those ladies are pleasant and make reasonable demands who have no trouble letting their man be a man or leader. Sometimes men just are assholes. And yes, they tried to work but Kindergarten/School is a mess these days and family is far away oftentimes so they would either be barred entry into both learned and unlearned professions (because they have children) OR they would be kicked out fast because they had to take care of their sick children. And yes, all of them have very well developed, healthy and well behaved children.
@@Jaco059 Jesus. You're so low IQ. She told the state she lived on her own to GET MORE MONEY FROM THE STATE. That's why she committed benefit fraud BECAUSE SINGLE MOTHERS GET MORE MONEY FROM THE STATE
@@Mupyeong I don't care. It's not my job to pay for your child just because you picked a terrible partner. Would you expect a stranger to come up to you in the street and demand you buy their child a McDonald's? Exactly.
Why is it always a mattress with no fitted sheet? Someone help me understand why, anytime I see something like this, it's always a naked mattress? I am a mediocre homemaker at best, and beds are rarely made, but our mattresses always have some kind of cover or padding and then a fitted sheet. I am also very concerned about her child's development. A healthy toddler is exploring their environment and getting into trouble. They climb, get into things, put things in their mouths, etc. If her toddler is just sitting there on the floor all day, something is definitely wrong.
Idk sometimes a child is what saves an addict. A child and a good, strict, nonenabling man can do wonders for an addict. I was an addict. I was doing my best to change cuz I wanted to feel like I deserved my bf. Then I found out I was pregnant and decided I would not give an innocent child an addict for a mother. I am the child of an addicted single mother. So I've cleaned up my act... but I never would've found the strength to do that if not for the fact that I believe (know) my kids deserve the best mother possible and that my bf deserves a woman that will raise his children well and keep things clean and running smoothly while he's working to support us. I would never tell my children they are what saved me, since that's an unfair burden to place on them, but they absolutely did and along with their father they save me every day of my life from my weaknesses because my love for them (for my family unit as a while, honestly, there's no way I'd be a good mother without their father beside me, being strong and reliable and supporting us, so that my only 'stressors" are housewife and mother duties) is 1000% stronger than my biggest weaknesses. My first baby even had autism and I've had 3 baby boys, about to be 4, since Feb 2020. 4th due in Feb 2024. They keep my mind occupied and give me purpose and pulled me out of a pit I was unable to get myself out of. I know what it's like to be the neglected child of an addicted mother and I'll never ever put my children through the life I went through. I will never let them feel like I don't love them enough to stay home and stay sober and play/interact with them. I'll put everything I've got into making my relationship with their father work despite there being many many things to work through with him, and I'll stay sober because that's what they need from me, it's the least I could do for them, and I'm going to give them everything I possibly can cuz that's what they all deserve. I'm sure I'm a rare case, but I hate to think how my life would've ended up if I hadn't been able to start a family, it gave me direction and purpose and keeps my mind too be occupied to even consider drügs. Ive with a ring I bought from the hospital where I gave birth to my first son, every single day, as a reminder of the promise to him and my other children to never touch hard drugs again.
I am an addict. I have been completely clean for almost four years…. After how much times goes by should I be allowed to have a child? What people who have never been through this don’t know, is that an addict who is in solid recovery is way better of a bet than a person who never had this problem to begin with
This was an eye opener for me. I've been struggling with depression on top of ADHD which makes cleaning up difficult and my house is a complete pig pen. Now that I see the direction I'm going I think I'll start getting my shit together
Try to do a little bit at a time. Throw some music on and focus on one area or task and set reminders every 10 or so minutes in order to keep you on task, and really bask in how good it feels to have finished that bit and commit that feeling to memory. Good luck ❤
I love an interval timer. I do 7 min on 3 min off. You can get plenty of work done in 7 minutes then have 3 minutes to go full adhd, them dong ding ding back to work. Even 3 cycles and I'm surprised at how much work I got done
I’ve got a toddler about the same age as this baby and this makes me so sad. I cannot imagine ignoring my baby and yelling at her for crying, or sleeping in past 7. I get up when she gets up.
who would have thought weakening the strength of what used to be the biggest provider and support for nuclear families would degrade family structure and standards /s not to sound like a conspiracy theorist but honestly its like neo liberals want society to collaspe. the best saying i've heard was 'progressives take off the chains of the devil and call it liberation'
"Being a mum is the hardest job in the world" That crap annoys the crap out of me whenever I hear it as some sort of flex from terrible moms. _Being a mom is as hard as you make it_ . Most moms work hard, but this lady is not working at all, so how exactly is it hard? You know the old saying, "if you're good at something, you don't have to tell people you're good at it"? I propose that if you work hard at something, you don't have to tell people you work hard
I was just about the write a similar comment. This shit infuriates me as well. There are so many deadbeat moms out there and you can often tell by just looking at how their kids turn out. And they know they can get away with this shit. We need an asteroid..........I'm not even joking at this stage anymore.
Yeah I am a mostly stay at home mom who works just 6-8 hours a week as a nurse. Nursing is harder! Hands down. I can see how if you had a child with significant special needs being the mom would be harder for sure. But for just regular old kiddos? Working is way worse. Yesterday I was home and I walked the older one to school, went to the gym, then the little one and I went to the nature center and then took a walk in the snowy woods. Then we came home and had hot chocolate and played legos. Lastly I made homemade pizza while the two kids played together. It was freaking delightful. Working is SO much more stressful. The two aren’t even comparable.
That's how Kelly could afford to go out 4 nights per week, british taxpayers were footing the bill. I know its a few years ago but even if it's 10 years ago i was wondering how she could afford that as a single wage earning household
"A welfare flunky who babysitters her kid when it's convenient" Shockingly describes most mothers i've seen. I don't understand people who have a kid and then ignore them most of the time. Shoving an ipad into a child's face and feeding them chicken nuggets is not parenting
Child abuse is one of the things that boils my blood. That cow of a woman doesn't deserve children, her husband is no better because of allowing his daughter to live that life.
Kelly is the type of person to demand universal basic income, universal healthcare, welfare and any other handouts that she believes she’s entitled to.
True. What would someone do in that situation though? I think whatever Kelly's husband does, he’ll be the bad guy. He allows her to be that way, which makes him a simp, and if he says anything, he's a control freak.
@@MiltonWatson tbh, being called a control freak by a mentally ill, obese woman who has no self- control would be better for me than dooming a child to a life of neglect and pain. Just saying.
I have three kids three years and under and I was feeling so exhausted after working my job and cleaning and caring for them but knew I had to muster the energy to make a healthy meal for them for dinner, and figured I would put on some youtube in the background at least... and this video popped up on my feed. I'm nothing special but I am definitely feeling like a mom-of-the-year rockstar right now just for dragging myself to the kitchen to make my kids food after watching this 😂 So thanks for that!
I wouldn't call that honesty, but self-awareness. And even if she was self-aware, she still refused to change. Also, I can't believe they made a whole show out of this situation instead of immediately calling child protective services and take away that kid from those people. It's disgusting.
I’m from the UK. The welfare system is broken is very broken, people like Kelly are rewarded for doing nothing. Yes some people get caught for fraud but it’s very rare. She would have likely kept the house or had been sized down because she has children. Growing up in a council estate I know people who get paid out £1500 a month from the government claiming they’re badly disabled when there’s nothing wrong with them at all. I feel really sorry for genuine disabled people who often don’t get much because they don’t often get much support and they struggle to go to a benefits office and/or others don’t have a good mental capacity to fill out a letter. The benefits system in the UK is really crap. You have thousands of immigrants welcomed in to the country, put in council housing and get more pay than some people who work. Plus the British citizens aren’t much better, a lot of them lie to get more money and checks are very few.
@@ANPC-pi9vu I don’t agree with that. I don’t think anyone Should be dictating whether you can have kids or not and whether you can vote. Some people are genuinely in need of the benefit/welfare system and those out of work being made redundant need it temporarily. No attack but I think that view is an extremely authoritarian view to have
Even when someone is dobbed in, it takes 6-12 weeks for an investigation, which they announce. Meaning they can ham up whatever disability they have, or, in an instance I know, claiming child support for children they've surrendered, can have them back for the day (as they have the right), for the appointment. Broken is an understatement.
My heart goes out to that sweet baby. She has 2 "parents" with all the free time in the world and they neglect her on every level. How can people do that to their kids? I can't imagine doing something as useless as scrolling Facebook and scolding my child for wanting my attention.
We have an 11 month old boy and we cook breakfast, lunch and dinner for him every single day, even if we don't bother with breakfast for ourselves. It's exhausting as we cook fresh meals and never use jars unless out of convenience like being away from home etc. We chose to have our boy, he didn't choose to be with us so we're trying out best to make him feel like he belongs with us and that we care about him Watching that poor girl crying and that "mother" shushing her because, how dare she interrupt her brainless FB scrolling disgusted me.
We have a 10 month old :) I enjoy that baby boy SO much, I wouldn't do anything else but play with him and feed him good food all day everyday, if I could heh I do my best to buy healthy food from farmers and stuff like that, although in my country the food is exceptionally good comparing to the US already. But yes, there isn't anything else I'd rather do but spend time with my boy and raise him to be healthy and happy. Other traits too, of course, but he's a baby right now (how I wish he'd stay such a good and satisfied baby for longer)
@@golden_fork2775 Yeah, it's crazy how much joy mine brings to me. He just tried to put his dummy in my mouth while giggling. I'm blessed to work from home so I can jump out and have little moments like that with him whenever I want. Thankfully, my wife's parents own a dairy farm and quite a lot of agricultural land so we get free fruit and vegetables whenever we want. The wife even makes my son "baby cheese" from scratch - don't know what it is but he loves it. Either way, seeing that little girl neglected like that really hit me hard.
My youngest HATED meat. He hated eating to be honest. So I'd chop up chicken really fine and sneak it into a bit of mashed potatoes or other smushed up veggies. Until he discovered it that is. His favorite lunch he'd take to school when he was older was a salad with croutons and a piece of bacon. He'd order salad and milk at restaurants and shock the waitress.
@@HaggisMuncher-69-420 That's amazing, to have someone who owns land so close to you. We are looking to move to our property on the edge of town, so to speak, but we have some land there, not much, but it's beautiful, more peaceful and closer to nature. But yes, having fresh food for free is great for your little one, most importantly that it's nicely grown. I've read for example how much the soil itself and what it is composed of impacts how food grows and how it turns out. I suspect the woman in the videos has an undiagnosed condition, perhaps, some depression maybe, maybe untreated pp depression, it definitely isn't normal.
@@ChristinaFromRU-vid It is a good incentive if you completely neglect your children and barely care for them. She also did commit welfare fraud by saying she didn't live with Steve and was convicted for it.
Watched this episode when it was new. It is over 10 years ago. It was heartbreaking , i was only 10 yers old. The wife swapped absolutely adored her and i felt so bad she had to go back. Ive had a child since, unfortunately I was similar in terms of sleeping, maybe part of depression and a lot of stress, but i have my son the best life I could, took him to the park, parties, cinema and trips abroad and domestic even if i wasn't mentally well and no energy. I love him so much even if i wasn't perfect. This woman didn't care at all and it shows. I hope the little girl grew up to be happy and the mum pulled her boots up. I'd love to see an update.
Omg. I have stayed home for 17 years now, and I ran my home as a JOB. A full time no days off job. I paid the bills, kept a chore rotation and daily cleaning, cooked 2 meals a day from scratch, and volunteered at School or the District, managed activities, homework, and a Marriage of 26 years. No Mam. No way
Honestly, I have to thank you so much, not just for this video but in general, for how straightforward and honest you are in the way you talk about things. It's made it much easier for me to break down aspects of my life and understand why I'm not getting the things I want in life. Keep up the great work!
I used to drink coca cola and Pepsi every single day..I stopped one day as an experiment and then 1 month went by and I tried a sip and I almost vomited. It really tastes so disgusting once you train your body and mind off those addictive chemicals. It tastes like water with caramel. Now it has been 12 years without any soda. It made me go down pounds too!
Damn, I have almost the same experience. As a teen, I used to drink a bunch of sodas. One day, my brother tokd me: "I'm sure you can't stop drinking soda for a fill month". I proved him wrong and, then, I went to celebrate my victory by drinking a soda. The bubbles hurt my mouth and my throat, and I didn't like the taste AT ALL. It's been almost 20 years ago, and, since then, I almost never drank soda again.
I could believe that she’s 22, one of my aunts was the youngest sibling out of 7. She smoked like a chimney and did other substances for years which in turn made her look older than her own sisters.
My mom was older than my aunt. My mom smoked and drank. My aunt didn't. When my aunt would introduce my mom to new people they would ask how much younger my mom was.
It’s interesting how this works, I was a massive drug user and partier from the ages of 18-25, I’m 31 and clean now and I look maybe the age of 29/30 at the oldest. I don’t think using substances is the issue here
this reminds me of an ex. She use to retweet things like "I want a man who will let me sleep while he goes to work and cleans the house" and "men who want sleeping beautys as wifes deserve the world" I have no idea where this laziness or entitlement comes from but i remember her saying "well white girls get to lay around and do nothing so I deserve the same" and I said "bitch show me where that happens other than toilet girls in dubai and sugar babies" and she got upset for "ruining her life goals of doing nothing but sleeping" But I will say I notice women are the only ones who will call sleeping a hobby.
That sounds more than just laziness. Sounds like a serious depression case to me. I figure the mom in the video also has an undiagnosed depression as well. Just my observation, maybe I'm wrong though.
@@golden_fork2775 It's a rare depressed person who aspires to be lazy. Stop getting your understanding of mental health from idiots on social media. Not every bad behavior is a sign of an undiagnosed disorder.
This is crazy I’m 22 . I don’t have kids but I’m already practicing how to master styling 👗 💄 and make up in the morning for under 10 mins . For when I have kids I can still look put together but quickly and efficient . I’m also already cleaning 🧹 a lot. and eating healthy 🥕 for energy to breastfeed and be their for my future kids . Motherhood is truly such a Gift and I won’t get like this woman I refuse !
Be it women or men having no aspirations is always a tragic tale. I used to be in a long term relationship with a guy who was crippled by his gaming addiction and I paid for everything, our apartment, all the food we ate. The dinners was made by me and I did most of the cleaning ontop of working fulltime and occationally working the weekends. I really do not understand how Steve can put up with it.
Steve was of my generation, if I'm not mistaken. Elder Millennial. We expect women to be useless for just about everything except living fleshlights, because they are. You spend a couple of decades listening to girls brag about how they don't cook or clean, you just stop expecting anything of them except to put out every now and again. There's a reason my generation of men doesn't have much time for women, you know.
Abusive men usually go jail, even when falsely accused, abusive women are protected or ignored and allowed to continue their abuse and rarely ever punished or jailed. The amazing Erin Pizzey fought for abuse centres for women in the UK in the 70s and created her own centre becoming a hero, she then tried to help abused men and found they were half of victims and women half of abusers so women killed her dog in an attempt to kill Erin and drove her from her home and country, to this day no abuse centres for men in the UK, while constantly hearing how women aren't equal
According to Harvard and the CDC, women in non reciprocally violent relationships are actually about 70% of abusers. They're worse than men, and it's not close. Probably due in part to the fact that they're barely, if at all, held accountable for it, and often celebrated for this.
@@lordhelwintr283 Makes you think when Old Greece only had the most intelectual people making the decisions, and that was thousand years ago. I mean, it's not like nowadays most of men who vote aren't easy manipulable but giving women rights for free without any consequence/condition to earn it/restriction or requirement was a mistake politicians did decades ago and we are paying for their greed.
Stopping consumption of soda is one of the best moves to help your health and it absolutely does indeed taste disgusting if you try to drink some again after you have quit, especially crap like mountain dew.
If you can't take care of yourself, you should NEVER have a child. And don't scream at the baby when she's crying. That kid is gonna grow up without her mom in a few years, and I think it's better for the kid. "The only memories I have of my mom was that she was a large puddle of flesh that would just scream at me." That's gonna be what the kid says about her mom.
Sometimes when I feel depressed and lazy, I just look at people more pathetic and more lazy than me for motivation. This video makes me want to give people free cleaning services
These poor people love to pile it on. Can't afford one child? Let's buy a cat/dog or 2! Let's have a second child! No logic. No discipline. You get a lot of this type of people in the US too, and usually one of them has problems with drugs, or a personality disorder where they can't keep a job.
That child will not want to be close to her "mother" in any way once she's up in her teens, begins to see how normal mothers behave and realizes how neglected she's been. What a waste of air.
@@JordanLee-24 because I looked it up and couldn't find anything. But I thought it could be a possibility because of the cats as many people are allergic to them. And cat urine is extremely toxic. But thanks for answering.
Sometimes I get that feeling that I'm missing out on having a family, despite me only being 21, but seeing these people around my age raising children in deplorable conditions reassures me that sometimes patience and growth in maturity and ambition is better and can be worth it in the long run.
Yeah, you're still young. To me, the best time to have children is between +/- 25yo and 39yo, as a child requires maturity and an ordered life (work, good home, establish the lige style you want). I'm 33yo and childfree. The (readonably) older I get, the more I realize how I'd have given a very different education to a child, if I had had one at 20, 25 or now...
There is a big difference between being 21 and 25-27 even tho it doesn’t seem much of big difference. Don’t lose sight pic your aspiration just continue to grow and mature as person and get your house in order and it’ll come. Childbirth itself and motherhood is a big task mentally. Get any diagnoses and therapy out the way. Best thing you can do for your future children is invest in yourself.
I can’t tell you how many times I have had someone think they are a victim of sorts and tell me they want what I have but when I say, “well, I didn’t get what I have by doing what you are doing”, refuse to believe their behaviors/actions have anything to do w it 🤦🏼♀️
13:25, "Carrie cleans Kelly's disgusting home. Here are some screenshots of that...". Ah, I like it. It's something I can actually bear to look at. By the way, I absolutely love the ancient Roman colosseum you've installed in the backyard, nice touch.
wow, this video is almost the story of my life. my mum was basically the same as kelly, minus the smoking and age difference, my parents stayed together, but my mum is delusional about how good a parent she was. in the end, I just moved for university and I ideally never want to interact with either of my parents ever again if I can avoid it. I am the youngest of 3 and my oldest sister is the same as me, moved out for uni and has avoided them as much as possible since (that was 8 years ago). all 3 of us have always had social difficulties, and we barely even survived childhood. I vent about how awful my life was through music nowadays. raise your kids properly or don't have them, otherwise they will become resentful of you like us. you have no excuse.
It sucks not having a supportive family, but at least you recognise it and hold them accountable instead of inventing excuses for them. That's called justice.
@@PopeCromwellMy sister and I both grew up in a house with two severely mentally ill parents. My older sister left at 18 and never came back for more than a week. I had to step up and do things like call doctors to arrange appointments because mom was afraid of the phone and wouldn't even go in the same room as the phone. My dads work life was chaotic due to his improperly medicated bipolar. Our mom was to ill with schizoaffective disorder to work. My sister went on to get her PhD at university at 25 she now has an upper class life bringing in over 250k. I'm still working to get away from my parents but it is hard to turn your back on family. Today I got a job with a base salary of 70000 a year with uncapped commission. I have pediatric schizophrenia and have been in full remission for 6 years. I am also now at 35 a college graduate. The following emoji is me as I reread this😢.
You are so right. Don’t have kids if you won’t raise them properly. People get really mad at me for not having them or saying that not everyone should have them, but too bad.
My mom was super neglectful as well. We lived in absolute squalor. And I mean, it was BAD. Animal feces and urine on the floors, the bathtub. If you walked in the house with no shoes, you had to wash your feet before putting on shoes. I hated all of it, and even at 9 years old, I would stay up late and try and clean after everyone went to bed. She never provided towels or sheets for us. I had to air dry after showers. At 45 years old, I have OCD and still stay up very late every night to fastidiously clean my home. My linen closets are neatly packed with fresh towels, sheets, blankets. Raising children like this does indeed cause lifelong trauma.
