EDIT: Verbal abuse may not hurt *physically* but it takes a toll on your *mental* health. I don’t understand why people think verbal abuse doesn’t count, it hurts just as much as physical abuse.
Why? Because its way easier to do, isn't considered a crime and most people think it is necessary to live through this stuff to "mature", which just means to join them in the bullying or look the other way. And yes it sucks obviously.
It wouldn't have changed anything. I was raised by a mother who said all these things and more to me. Once, I made the mistake of asking another adult to intervene. She just played it cool and told the person that I was making it up. They bought it and I went back home for more severe abuse. According to her, she doesn't have a problem.
For the people who don’t think some of these words hurt, I just wanna say that it does hurt for the child. Kids are more sensitive and it’s also the way parents say it. That’s why they hurt for them. Edit: for the ones saying that it isn’t offensive to them, it doesn’t have to be for every child, I’m just saying that words can hurt. Also congrats to the random gay dude for coming out Edit 2: People please stop fucking replying to this💀
@@v1swaIt hurts the worst when it is said by the ones you hold close. Not jokingly, not sarcastically, but seriously. If you have parents who call you stupid for you doing the slightest bit wrong, you'll start to believe it because they're your family, right? They couldn't lie. Maybe you should try harder, but you were never really told how to try. All you know is that you have to try harder.
Yes, even something small can be hurtful. My grandma once gave me a dough mixer (whisk) to play with and I broke it. She said “I’m never going to give you anything ever again”. And I cried because I felt like a burden.
I never quite got over being called a "slob" I never quite got over being called chubby or ugly, either. the people who called me those things were apparently trying to "motivate me to be better" or were just "pushing my buttons" and didn't intend harm. It hurt the most when those words came from someone older than me, and they often did. I made peace with what happened, and forgave, but I will always view myself as an unkempt, homely imperfect person. I feel like I need to work extra hard to feel accomplished. I struggled with eating disorders throughout my my entire teenage years. it feels odd having something from the 1980's validate my stance on negative language in regards to children, because I was always told I was far too sensitive and that I'd get over it.
I'm sorry those kinds of stuff happened to you... I do hope that you stop seeing yourself as what those people have told you...... Please, know that you are enough. You are perfect just the way you are. Please don't carry all those hurtful words all your life... Please. You deserve better. :) I hope you have a nice day... 💛 Take care!
@CrazyPinataYT that's terrible. Our society sees children as "not fully human yet" and treats them with no respect at all. I hope your situation gets better ❤
"You're" Is A Shortening Of "You Are". Example: "You're Kind" "Your" Is Referring To A Belonging Of A Certain Individual. Example: You Dropped Your Keys" "You're" & "Your" Have Different Meanings You Dumbfounded Radish.
@@Eosinophyllis ... The former refers to the first statement. The latter refers to the second statement. My comment was, when people are told "what you did is stupid", they take it as "you're stupid", whether the wording of the former was intentional so they could say "no I didn't say you were stupid"
Do you happen to have the PSA of the abusive parent giving themselves a lecture while looking into a mirror? There were two versions created-one with an abusive father, another with an abusive mother. These were from the early '90s. A voiceover concluded them by saying, "Take time out. Don't take it out on your children".
Very interesting to hear they made more in the "Take time out. Don't take it out on your kid." series. The only PSA I remember from with that tagline is the Prevent Child Abuse one from the 80s with the different adult mouths saying things like "You can't be my kid", "You're pathetic", etc and then the little girl looking down sadly at the end, along with its print ad counterpart. I always loved the tagline that followed it so I hope these PSAs show up one day!
Someone once told me a qoute "the axe forgets, the tree remembers" i think it was made to get this very message across and I keep it in the back of my head when I talk to people about verbal abuse in trauma
displaced anger is one hell of a drug. a drug that most parents are chronically addicted to but wont admit it. no child deserves to hear words like this on a consistent basis by their parents or family.
It's true, until the child grows up as a teenager (i.e matured by itself) and has the mental capacity to take it instead of being told "mature up" at such a young age. Like at one point terms like dummy, clumsy, loser, you're disgusting dont impact as hard when you get past the usual child age like jokes. I wish you were never born, I hate you however. Yeah that's a huge fuck-no to say regardless on how old your child is, that goes past the line of insults to straight up gasligthung your child.
While the parents break their backs everyday providing for your every need? I find it amusing how words hurt apparently so much and yet there is the iraq refugee with no arms and shrapnel wounds for life still cracking a smile after all hes gone through.
@@pipsapossu1699 If you got a nail through the hand, would it hurt? If you say yes, then you must be lying, because someone out there has nails all through their body. That's what you're saying, right? Parents choose to be parents and they can't even do it right. By becoming a parent you literally sign up to caretake for a defenceless human being who needs your help with basics such as food or water. If every parent wanted an easy parenthood, every child would die abandoned. Just because these people have it "easier" doesn't mean it affects them any less. Has someone told you you can't be upset about things like emotional abuse? If that's the case then I'm sorry for the life you've had so far. It sounds horrible.
This does not matter much, but the voice that says dummy at the start actually sounds like a older kid, perhaps an older sibling. What the announcer in this commercial misses is that it is not just the parents who berate children, but older siblings, grandparents (the one that says clumsy sounds like one), teachers, classmates, etc., they all can have a great impact, on the self esteem of children. It is true some parents do say these things to their children and may not actually be that abusive, perhaps they may even regret their actions later on, and these people are not saying these words that powerfully, but words still have a life lasting effect. Remember what you say and how you say it. Children are our future, so let us give them a hopeful one.
I’m pretty sure these were drawings made by real children Whatever it was, I hope the kiddos who drew those managed to make it out in life, escape from those terrible family dynamics, and grow up into better adults, or even, better parents.
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My parents/caregivers have always been indirect with destroying my ego along the rest of my mental health, they are extremely subtle, they mean no harm, they're just extremely ignorant & seemingly completely oblivious to the harm that they cause. They make me say these things about myself & then ask "why do you put yourself down? We don't do that to you?" As if they're completely innocent & I'm the cruel one. They're narcissists, they're completely unaware unwilling with empathy Its a constant competition & I'm the looser by default
Oh my science youre right. This PSA was redpilled for its time, and the people who made it are such chads! Only in Ohio can you find a person who doesn't agree with this PSA, you've got some serious rizz if you think verbally abusing children is bad.
Also, you or your parents' culture or race doesn't matter. If they put you through verbal or physical abuse, it's still horrible. Just because they or other people treat it as joke doesn't mean it's not important. Make sure you can tell the difference, between tough love and abuse.
I dealt with verbal abuse on top of an emotionally sterile upbringing. Completely screwed my head up, it’s crazy how trauma from your childhood never fully leaves you, no matter how much meds or therapy.
What really sucks is that there are people who genuinely care for their kids, but still do this. There are times where my parents have called me hurtful things, but I know they love me more than anything. It's not always a matter of cruelty, sometimes it's a matter of handling your emotions. That needs to be raised of awareness. Like, it's not an excuse, but it's not always hateful. But those people need to get help, because it'll help their kids too.
Or I imagine sometimes it’s trying to motivate them to change, like the idea that punishing behavior will motivate change (which is often not true because what’s the reason for the behavior? Address that first and think), like someone else mentioned above
I wish my mom and other emotionally aversive parents see this. My mom thinks using this will make me ‘stronger’ and more ‘prideful’. Ever since she started saying these and being tough on me ever since the age of 12, a few days after my birthday, she started using words that crushed me. They broke me. I felt useless, like my soul has never deserved to land onto this planet. ‘Disgrace, weak, crybaby, lazy, spoiled piece of crap. Potato sack, etc.’, she even kept on saying this until half way through the age of 12, i got ptsd, i felt hanging on the edge. I one day snapped. When my parents were arguing, i shouted STOP! For the first and only time, they became quiet, while i was poring my heart out, my mom tried comforting me, helping me, but I felt like the world was against me. When i stopped, my dad said he has done nothing wrong, and that its my fault my mother birthed me, but i felt like my fate is choking me. I went into my room, and proceeded suicide. I was choking, i felt my throat lump, as i was choking myself on the ground, my mom was the first one to walk in. I wasn’t controlling my tears. She kept saying ‘are you stupid? What’s wrong with you?’, but when i started explaining, instead of understanding and treating me better, she used my suicidal attempt just to get money in her pockets. Up to this day, they never understood me. Never listened. My mom was the only person who is showing a change. Mother, i love you❤
@@VoidsGames thanks, but things are going for the better, i kept fighting the urge for another suicidal attempt, but my mom started caring alot more than usual, and i started getting friends, but im kinda shocked you readed all this😨
I’m 16 and ever since I turned 12 my mom has also started insulting me a lot more. I’m constantly being told I’m like my dad who’s is a terrible person, and I’m not like him at all. Even so, sometimes I feel like she’s right and that I am like him. And my mom gets angry whenever I tell her I want to move out in my 20’s. I’ve tried committing suicide 4 times but the last time I tried has been over a year ago I think. But sometimes when I’m outside or walking I wish I could get hit by a car or something.
@@Konata_TheRappa07 SAMEEEE!!! MY MOM TELLS ME THAT TOO!!! but just know, (from what i learnt) if you have issues with anyone's opinion; ignore it. its your life, not theirs, so just treat yourself with respect and patiently wait for life to easen. (Im 13 btw)
My parents used these words with me when I was young, now I say much worse things to them, especially since they fall short of what they pretended to be.
Or rather we should, I wish there were more people like you in the world. The saying "there is a bit of good in everybody" is bull squirt, never listen to it and never believe it, Hitler was evil, Peter Sutcliffe, Ivan the terrible, Jeffrey Dahmer, Harold Shipman, Fred West, I could go on listing many more evil people but if I did that, you all would be here till next Christmas reading through the list, there are GOOD people in the world granted but sadly there are also the evil ones, there is evil in this world sadly. ☹
Given how different each person is I’m sure it could be hurtful to someone because it’s a negative thing someone is being called! Also if a minor thing is done to you over and over its death by a thousand cuts
@@Sweatyfriends oh ok, I thought when people used that phrasing they were implying that the thing does not happen and the other person is making it up that it does! Never mind then, sorry about that!
I used to be abused by my mother and it took finding out about my suicide plans and ending up in a psych ward for her to change. I'm defenitely glad she changed and understood what she was doing was messed up but stuff like this just stucks with you man
I wish my parents saw PSAs like these and I wish I saw these too. To make a long story short my parents have a verbal abuse problem (especially my father) and both of my parents were kinda absent in my childhood, with my dad just being not able to come bc custody shit and my mom being neglectful, I was bullied to no end as well which made me develop massive anger issues and take it out on everyone around me including my sisters. Yeah on the surface I was just the mean older sister type but turns out I wasn't any better than my parents. I feel so fucking awful about being such a negative role model around them that they're starting to pick up from me just like how I picked up from my mom and dad. I wish I wasn't such a bitter and angry child back then. I want to comfort them about all of this and make them know that they're loved but I don't get to do that a lot since I live in a completely different state than they do. I know I have nothing to blame but myself for how I acted like a imature little brat but at the same time there's so many factors that could have prevented this I just wish I knew the impact of what I was saying/doing.
I say this because I noticed one of the voices were that of a teenager, I'm 16 at the time of writing this. It just reminded me of too much. I thought this would be important to get out there plus I'm sick of keeping it all bottled up inside of me
@@Shawna-lx6nnDang. I feel bad for you, bro. Same fate as you, I abused by my parents since I was little until now, I was abusing myself because of my ADHD and I started hitting my head so hard on the wall, that made my parents so worried and scared and felt guilty of how I've become. I haven't gotten therapy yet. I kind of blame my parents because of my mental illness.
@@akumakibutsuji7999 yeah, for me I had a lot of crazy shit happen in my childhood that made me the way I am today. I haven't gotten therapy either but I'm definitely wanting to when I turn 18 (since my dad doesn't like therapy)
@@n.e.r.d.2213 can you fuck off mate? This is literally a psa about child abuse I don't know why there's so many imature kids in this comment section but let me fucking vent oh my God no one is forcing you to read it
my own mother constantly verbally abused me as well as physically abused me on the rare occasion, however it was moreso verbal. i had to deal with this throughout my entire childhood, and whenever i actually had the courage to speak up, to tell her what she was saying was rude, abusive, hurtful, etc. she would turn around and downplay the entire situation and claim i was overreacting or that it wasn't a big deal, or even straight up lie and tell me she never said certain words and i was delusional. she told me her constant abuse and harassment was normal because it's normal for families to fight then make up, it was the worst when she was drunk (which was quite often) where she would literally start attacking me and throwing insults at me out of nowhere, calling me all sorts of swear words, telling me how much she hates me and sometimes she'd straight up just start screaming at me and get in my face. my entire childhood was a constant cycle of this, of her abusing me, then telling me she was sorry and that she didn't mean it, she always used the excuse that she was either drunk or she was just angry in that moment, and then her forcing me to accept her apology and make up with her. when i was around ten years old she married a new man as my parents had been divorced since i was about five years old. my step dad was physically violent and aggressive, he would sometimes take his anger out on me by yelling but never hit me, however he did often threaten my mum he was going to hit me or my sister, and did often beat up my mum or hit her, me and my sister both witnessing it several times. my father was also abusive but in a slightly different way, his behavior was much more aggressive however while he never hit me he would get incredibly aggressive and shout right in my face, slam things and throw things around. he was an extreme control freak and clean freak, he couldn't stand mess no matter how small. if i accidentally spilled a few drops of water or milk on the kitchen counter he would blow up and go crazy, or if i tried cooking something then set the dishes in the sink to wash up after i ate he'd overreact and get angry and make passive aggressive comments like how disgusting the house looks or angrily asking why there's dishes in the sink, mind you while i was still busy eating and would have cleaned up afterwards. he expected me to make my food and immediately clean the dishes before even eating, which obviously i didn't want to do because then my food would get cold. he would go out his way while i was eating to clean up my own dishes, then turn around and passive aggressively complain how he has to do everything around the house, that no one helps him with chores, etc. he did this almost constantly to the point where i was too afraid of cooking anymore and when older i mostly just ordered takeouts or ubereats because i didn't want to make any mess in the kitchen with pots/pans/bowls/etc. because i didn't want him to get angry. i'm 25 now and i'm just rotting. i have severe anxiety, depression, ptsd and agoraphobia, i can rarely ever go outside because i'm scared of people and people hurting me. i am paranoid, i find it very hard to trust people, especially strangers because i always feel like they're going to hurt me or have ulterior motivations. i don't go outside, i've never had a job, i don't have any real life friends and i've never been in a serious relationship before. i rely on government benefits which barely gets me by, i have enough to pay for rent and food but that's about it. both my parents are poor, they both rely on government benefits as well so i don't have any financial support from family. i was born by failures and i will die a failure. i have zero motivation for anything, i am so lonely and while i do have some online friends it's not the same as a real life friend who you can hug and hold hands with, i guess i just really crave affection and touch because i've never really felt genuine love or care before. i even struggle with thoughts about my online friends on whether or not they actually really do like talking to me or not, even though i've known some of them for years now, i really can't comprehend how someone could genuinely like me or enjoy my company because i don't view myself as a good person. i have thought about ending it all so many times throughout the years and a few times have committed to harming myself, but never enough to permanently end myself. i am barely holding on and as each year passes by i feel like time is ticking away and it's only a matter of time before i disappear
@@hecutsdown91Being pressured into childhood isn’t an excuse to abuse your child. Your child is not at fault for others pressuring you, it doesn’t mean that the parent has not gone through anything negative, but it still doesn’t excuse you to take out your problems on your child.
People when they find out that belittling and demeaning someone just leads them to internalize the comments instead of forming a fortitude against them: 😮
My mother was very verbally abusive to me as a child up until 2 months after I turned 18, then I woke up after spending the night at a friends houe and found all my clothes on their front porch when I went to head home 😢 I'm 61 yrs old and it still hurts more than anything that I've been through.
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Does your mom ever just...you know...abuse you to the point that you're too scared to speak up for yourself, but when you do, she just calls you a "smartass"? Imagine abusing your child in any shape or form 🙄
my dad was always very emotionally abusive towards me. he still is to a lesser degree (im 21 and moving out soon 😊) ppl dont realize how much being treated badly emotionally by someone whos supposed to love and protect you feels. i know every person has their off days -- my mom and i fight sometimes and hurl insults. but abuse is so much worse. i have constant nightmares about my father and i doubt ill ever truly forget the negative emotional impact
Ive been dealing with this type of thing recently, bc my dad just said im not his kid anymore and that my mom doesnt love me and is fine with me dying My own mother even prevented me from talking to anyone because "their side doesnt get explained" So i just try to please them, i cant really do anything without them
Do they ever bother trying to explain your side when they, doubtlessly, complain about you? They don't want you talking to anyone about it because they know they're in the wrong and don't want to face it. You deserve support and unconditional love as much as anyone else - stay safe but get far away from them as soon as you can. I promise things really do get better and one day you will find the comfort and healing you never got from them. Life is worth living and you are worthy of being part of it!!!
Here is the most saddest part, kids will usually blame it on themselves and not their parents because they think that they’re the problem and they’re the reason why their parents are yelling at them.
I wonder if the people I grew up around knew that what they said would go straight to my head if they would say it again. Took a lot of therapy to learn that the evil inner voice wasn’t mine but of everyone who ever abused me because I was an easy target
Its sad, my parents constantly call me these and expect me not to cry and/or tell someone I really trust. If I sob really hard, the only answers I get are " WHY ARE YOU CRYING, B!TCH? I SHOULD BE THE ONE CRYING" or "IF YOUR GONNA CRY, DONT DO IT IN FRONT OF ME USELESS IDIOT". But I feel luckier than other kids who face it worse than me... Love from me if your a child abhcse victem ❤❤
My parents are good(?) They give me many things I want…toys, food, shelter, tv, heck, even a dog..! But, they get angry really easily, most of the time at stupid reasons, usually at me and my sister. Me and her try to figure out ways to realize and defuse situations if we know they’re going to get upset, because when they’re mad they will stay mad. They can threaten us about taking away privileges (which is fair), but also using things like food and house, their affection, things like that against us. If they don’t get their own way, they’ll guilt trip, especially when I’m having an argument with them about something they did or something they won’t listen to me about. They call me names they know I don’t like that make me uncomfortable and my dad likes to get really close and in my face when we’re fighting, despite me telling him to back up to keep me comfortable in my personal space. But when they’re not mad, or upset, or any of that, they’re loving, so it confuses me on if they love me or not. Does anyone know here, as maybe an adult or an older teenager? :(
If a parent threatens to take away essentials like food, shelter and love; then that is absolutely abusive! They may not realize what they are doing would have an impact and might just genuinely have trouble controlling their anger, but that is still no excuse to do so. Just know that I believe in you and I know you can work things out! I know I was lucky to have amazing parents, but I hope your parents can realize their faults and apologize to you, it might take a while seeing how stubborn people can be when talking with kids, but I believe in you!
@@maowohammer2577 Thank you, I’m really hoping one day they’ll apologize, even if it’s when I’m grown up. I appreciate you read all that, and took the time to reply when it’s just a random comment on this video from so long ago. Thank you.
I can really relate to this. I'm having the same problems as well. However, my dad says that Gen z people can't handle anything when it comes to the most minor things. My dad wants me to not act negatively because I'm processing adulthood, so if I was an adult and I would react that way, people are going to call me out for being sensitive. I'm Gen z, and my dad is Gen x, so, I basically break down when it comes to very minor things, well at least my dad calls it minor. My life sucked every single day, and my dad just says 'everyone went through the same thing, so get over it'. I hate being born in gen z, I hate being sensitive, I just wish I could be as apathetic as my dad so he doesn't have to hurt my feelings about it. I hate it.
I didn’t get child abuse but I can prove that the words that come out of adults hurt way much as a kid and can change their perception about themselves for a long time. When I was around 5-10 years old maybe, my family always said that I had a really flat and big nose, they said it was funny and ugly all the time, I became really anxious about that since then, and even until now I still hated my nose so much. And the thing is I’m not a person who’s very easily feels insecure about what other people say as a young adult. One day I asked my mom “Do you still think that I have a flat nose?” I thought for sure she would say yes cause that’s what I always see in the mirror, but surprisingly she said “No it’s not? It’s only like that when you were a child” She also said she can’t believe I still remember that cause it was so long ago, but all these years I remember all the words so clearly and it bothers my life. I felt really strange, cause I always saw a flat nose on my face and I started to wonder if it was only in my brain, and no one else saw that. So I can’t even imagine what’s gonna happened to a kid when their parents constantly call them “useless” or a “moron”, I just hope they can move on from those words
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it doesnt even have to come from parents to hurt. it can come from siblings or your parent’s s/o or your aunts or uncles or cousins. it hurts coming from anyone.
I think it depends on the context. The clumsy thing makes me think it'd most likely be little, unnecessary digs to belittle a child that cause a great deal of harm to their sense of self over time. I wish your were never born is awful but also sounds like something easily said in anger, in a way that even a child would recognize to be dramatic.
I’ve never been abused in my life, but I do find this ad incredibly frightening. To everyone out there who is experiencing abuse, verbal, emotional, or physical, I’m really sorry that you’re going through that and I hope you will recover from it.
I was verbally abused for 7 years by my own. I was dismissed for years until it got so bad i started fearing physical abuse. I ended up having emergency lines on a watch at 7 years old and I was always ready to run to the neighbours. But once I got away the damage had already been done and I now have nightmares most nights that revolve around my trauma. So to all those in the next generation of parents and up coming parents words last longer than bruises
My mom saying that she felt like taking her own life because she was exhausted of taking care of me and my siblings will never leave me. We had a very hard childhood and I understand how much it must’ve affected her but hearing something like that when I was just a child really changed how I saw her
We live in the same world where spanking and using someone as punch bag of anger are considered 'Discipline*. I've lived with emotionally unavailable and absent parents throughout my life. Humans can't be changed. Just be grateful that you are able to live in this moment.
This is why we must become -adopted- childs of God. The adoption part insinuates our biological parents are no longer in the picture. Most ppl will cling to abusive parents because they've been manipulated into doing so. Sad.
At this point I honestly wished my parents didn't give birth to me. All I've been my entire childhood was their verbal punching bag, and now I have to find a way to live with the trauma.
@@nacloot8700 I've wished for the same. But since that's not possible, now I wish to become asexual and stop being so manipulated by this human need for sex. I don't even want kids or relationships anyway.
"I don't care about you anymore, I don't want to parent you anymore." "JUST EAT!! EAT WHATEVER YOU WANT!! WHAT DO YOU WANT TO EAT?? STOP SAYING "I don't know"!" "How come you don't know what you want to eat?!" "You sound dumb asking me that over and over again!" "STOP COMPLAINING! OR I'LL LOSE MY TEMPER AND SLAP YOU" ..
My dad: I wish I could sleep forever. Me: Why? My dad: No one helps me, you also never helped me. I was scared to talk back to my dad, he himself never even helped me through the hard things I face,heck, he even tells me to do things, and if I do it wrong, he gets mad and threatens me.
words like these doesnt hurt because it is hurtful. it hurts because it came from a person who is suppose to love you unconditionally. in child's mind. "if my parents dont love me, no one can" well at least that's what i thought when i was a kid.
Once, a wise old man said " think of mean words like rocks and pebblea, you throw a pebble at the water, it toes really far. That is when u say a mean word to others, it hurts really bad." Also fteev once said " think of a person as a paper, just say the bullie crunbles you up, when he says sorry, and tries to fix you, see the paper doesnt get back to what it was before, it stays crunpled up. See this is you, you change when u get bullied. " Abuse needs to stop. The fact that the PARENTS that take care of KIDS don't even DO anything about it.
Until I was a later teenager, my father was extremely verbally and emotionally aggressive with me and my mother. I already am autistic, and I realize more and more how many times I was terrified crying permanently, literally scarred my brain. Anxiety, possible BPD, you name it. ;_;. I've only had healing of any significance by being an Orthodox Christian and receiving sacraments like the Eucharist. I pray for all who suffer mentally and the calloused hearts out there. As Christ said, one day we'll account for "every idle word"!
I hope to God that my father gets to witness every horrific thing he's said to me over the years that he claims never happened, and that I'm lying and ruining his life just for fun... This man has told me as an 11 year old that I was incapable of love and a sociopath. He claimed if I ever got vaccinated he would shoot and kill my mother, brother, me, and then himself in the head. He doesnt speak to me, or acknowledge conversation from me. He Just grabs my shoulders and shakes me, a 21 year old, 5'1 woman, as hard as he can and walks away because he thinks its funny. He's thrown plates at my mother. Etc etc. I hope in my heart of hearts he'll understand one day that it was not okay. Your comment comforted me in a weird way. Thank you.
I don’t know if this is normal or not but my parents would call my sibling and I super smart and they “couldn’t live without us” but when we weren’t agreeing with them or did something wrong they would always have this tone where they call us stupid and annoying saying especially to my sister they would not feed her so we basically need to agree with them all the time or else they would lash out on us.
