worth fighting for 

i hope things come to a peaceful resolution and if not we doobies support you, thanks for keeping it real !!!

This piece of content delivers like a film. Subtle, honest, beautiful, and even poignant at times. Have been enjoying watching your approach to food as that’s a topic of interest for me as well, but this tells me a lot more about you because you seem to be certain as to how you want your story to end. Wish you best of luck with everyone you love.

Being a father I understand wanting the best for your daughter. When my girl grows up I need to understand that I raised her to look for certain traits in a husband/boyfriend. I dont have to like her choices but I always have to be there for her no matter what happens. If you have good parents then trust, that although they will not be happy or 100% on board, they love you and they will be there for you Dooby.

As a fellow Asian who was dropped off at the airport for studies when I was 9, having parents who didn't have high education but wanted the best for me. I know things can get really tough when values don't align and you do not want to disappoint. Hang in there Dooby, time will sort itself out!

Sucks that this family situation is bringing you down. Life is so short (and can be cut even shorter) and I'm glad you're prioritizing your happiness. And this is coming from a single dad who raised a 24-year-old daughter. We have our differences but never, NEVER to the point where I'd stop seeing her. At the end of the day, it's her life and her choices. All I can do is be there for her when she needs me. Hang in there. They'll come around soon.

"There is a fine line between control and guidance." I am Asian too and I feel you 🥺 I am 26 and I know that I am a responsible person and at the right age already but sometimes it's so hard whenever I try to explain my point of view to mom (especially about religious beliefs, my personal relationships, stereotypes, values, etc.) without having her guilt trip me with why I think that way and play the "back in my time" card 😭 It just sucks. Expected to take on adult responsibilities, yet still treated like a kid.

Classic -- The folly and romanticism of youth -vs- The experience and cynicism of age. True wisdom comes when you realize that what is right for you now, will likely not be right for you in the future... and you are okay with that and will cross that bridge when you learn the lessons you need to learn. You cannot be told a lesson.

This hit home way too hard. I'm crying. There are millions of us all over the world going through almost exactly the same as you so thank you so much for telling your story on your platform. Maybe one Asian parent will see this and it might spark change in them that will help out a fellow dooby. Thanks again Tina, this took balls ✊

Tina I saw your story and ran here to verbally 밟아줘 some haters but instead was met with an endless scroll of your community sending you support and love. your creative work has a wonderful effect on this world and creates community. May the hate comments be zapped like mosquitos in one of those electrifiers 😌

Absolutely loved this vlog. Your openness and vulnerability is so refreshing, and it’s such an important conversation as well. So proud of you that you put your foot down and are making choices and living the life that is most fulfilling and suitable for YOU. You were dead on when you said ‘there is a fine line between guidance and control’. Your parents’ idea of ‘what is best for you’ does not necessarily equal your idea of what is best for you. Hopefully they will realize this soon and come around ❤️

having seen a glimpse of the love you have for your mom and vice-versa, this breaks my heart for you

As an Asian guy who literally went through the same thing with the person I loved(me in the place of your boyfriend in my scenario), this hits hard. I still wish to this day that my former partner fought for me even when her family was all discouraging her. They never really got the chance to know me well enough to make an educated decision. It's just one of those things that are incredibly difficult to let go.

" there's a fine line between controll and guidence" - spoke to me in so many ways. Thankyou as always Tina, and I'm so happy your happy, you deserve to do the best for you.

"there's a fine line between control and guidance" - felt this on so many levels btw, we're happy that you're happy :)

Just want to send you a word of encouragement. I was once in a similar situation. My parents completely disapproved of my boyfriend, who was working construction & retail and didn't have a college degree. They couldn't see that he *did* have enormous respect for and belief in me. We were long distance, too, for the first 3.5 years of our relationship. It got so bad that I wasn't sure if my parents were going to come to the wedding. That was 20 years ago last month. We have an amazing marriage & life together and my parents eventually came around! It took many years of them observing my happiness and the way he treats me. Some people really are worth the fight. Much love and luck to you.

I am loving the heartfelt stories in your comment section! We have very similar situations, which is why I'm afraid to even mention my partner's background to my parents. In time, things will fall into place for everyone. I feel that your parents will see it too (speaking from someone who has had very difficult, hurtful convos with my mom). Stick with your happiness! Lots of love and support to you and ☂ man.

While all our experiences are unique, this video resonates. It was a similar experience when I started dating with my own Korean parents who took some time and their own process to get onboard. Years later I’m married to a man that took the journey to get to and one might even say my parents like him more than me! It’ll work out- your parents’ love will prove truer than their initial disagreement. Stay true to who you are!

These last two vlogs have been like episodes of a well directed miniseries. Beautifully done!

I resonate so well with the last few lines 🥹 thank you for sending warmth thru my way!! Very happy for you finding love ❤️

This vlog made me cry. It's awful that you're going through all this hardship with your family. But you look so happy and I'm glad that you choose your happiness about someones elses. We doobies wil support you no matter what!

As a person with Asian background, I know exactly what you’re talking about. Going through the same exact thing. I understand the toll, the blame you feel for yourself, the guilt. You keep doing what makes you happy. You keep living for what you believe in. Become the best part of yourself you can. Your heart is true and only time will tell when things will align again.

Being able to find your happiness after you've been in a dark place is really inspiring. I can feel your bliss dooby. Thanks for this one 💓

I applaud you for being so transparent especially in front of a camera among thousands of people online. All the doobies support u and we have nothing but love for u :))

Tina I’m beyond words to admire your courage to be so vulnerable to share this hard situation of your life to way. This video definitely hit home for you. I was literally in your situation 3 three years ago. Like you said “ time is only the remedy” it’s so true! Hang in there - this all shall pass. Love will be the ultimate answer!!! Sending so much love and support your way!!!❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

Me: the momento has come. Tina: shows everyone the scenes, like a movie. I'm gonna support Tina how matter what, I'm into food and she has inspire me since I've found her (almost 2yrs ago already hehe). I'm rooting for you Tina, Hfighting! AND YEES DOOBY DOO!

Its funny the way you have portrayed is so soothing but being an Asian, and also faced the brutality of having controlling parents as never been this resonating. I wish more strength to you because at the end whoever has to make a choice of family vs love there's always this invisible guilt or a feeling that is unspoken off. All the best 👍

I feel for you. - I really do. My mother has been very controlling all my life. I am 38 now and I've followed mostly "what is good for me". This has left me unable to make important decisions in life. Our families may be right in many things they tell us, but we have to remind ourselves that this is OUR life and if we don't follow what we decide to do we loose control or may start blaming others for the things that do not go right in life. In life we're bound to disappoint our parents in many ways, mainly because they have expectations based on their (unsatisfying) life experience. In their life they have developed their own core values (i.e. security, stability) based on what they went through in life. We have had different life experiences and also thanks to the stable life our own parents have provided us with we have a different set of core values. If we do not satisfy our own values and needs our life will be deeply dissatisfying.

You look so happy it’s so nice to see. It’s super tough making those decisions especially when it involves your own family, it’s not easy to navigate in or out of, you’re handling it with such grace and maturity I truly respect your courage and heart. Your family will always be there, maybe not now but it’s okay, this time you’ve given yourself a chance for your choices and you are thriving. Love your content, can’t wait to see more in the doobydoobop future. ❤️

Aww this is so cute! As an Asian kid with similar family background, I always say that nothing could ever come between me and my parents. I have lived my entire life to please to them. So I understand the pain and difficulty you are going through right now. But you are right, some things are worth fighting for. We’re young and we deserve to be happy (and have our freedom too). Hopefully, they will come around 🥺💖 wishing you all the best!!!

This vlog is so sweet!! It warms my heart to see you so happy! I'm glad you found someone you love and loves you.

i resonate as a fellow asian who's feisty as hell with borderline controlling parents (whom im very close with too!) you deserve great happiness dooby! thanks for being vulnerable and sharing your story

As fellow belonging to a desi Asian household I can relate to the things you have to go thru with your parents it’s just hard but I hope things work out for you. You taking a step for yourself has inspired me a lot. Thank you for sharing your personal experience with us. Wish the best

If you haven’t noticed from the comments but we’re all proud of you. My spouse’s father had the same problem with me but here we are 27 years later and still going strong.

when your gut is telling you it's worth fighting for, things will work out eventually. sending my love and positivity (that we all know you already have lol) to both of you!

You look so at peace rn! And I love how you guys make the long distance work. Not many couples do and not many are willing to make it work. You give me hope that there are people in this world that worth fighting for. I hope someone can do this for me one day

Tina, this is why I love your videos so much - not only the funny moments, the beautiful montages, but also your real and raw thoughts... your honesty makes your content one of the most relatable I've ever seen on the internet. I'm so happy to hear your good news and sending you tons of love and support 🤍

I can only imagine the emotional turmoil that must have been through before taking this decision. But you know what, it will all work out at the end, like it has always been. Real doobies are proud of you for staying real and vulnerable here and being a fucking strong one. You go gurl!! ❤️

I’ve been on both sides. My ex’s family didn’t like me because I wasn’t Chinese and therefore assumed I wouldn’t be able to understand their culture. On another occasion, my parents were dismayed that I didn’t bring home a Korean gf thinking she wouldn’t understand our culture, language, mannerisms, etc. In any case, after years they’ve come around. Right now I’m engaged to a woman that isn’t Korean and they couldn’t be more happier and supportive. I think you brought up some great points. Parents simply want their children to have a good, secure, safe life - and much of that, to them, relies on finding a partner of similar background, culture, upbringing. In their minds, there is a higher risk of disappointment if one was to be partnered w/ someone from a different culture. While that isn’t exactly 100% wrong, our parents’ opinions in the end, are their’s alone. I think as long as we show our parents that we are confident in our life’s decisions and can forge ahead despite what life throws at the us, it’ll make them rest a bit easier. So even if let’s say things don’t work out between you two, show that it was a valuable experience to you, and that you took something away from it. Lastly, parents are also just humans.. with all the flaws that come along with it. I think you showed maturity by understanding where they are coming from. Also.. I’m sure you don’t need encouragement in this arena… but don’t listen to the haters on IG or RU-vid. There are way too many young folks on social media being harmed by bullies, it’s just not worth getting worked up about. In the end, this life is your’s and your’s alone.. be selfish about it. We’re simply along for the ride on this platform you graciously opened yourself up on. Cheers, and thanks for all the great videos.

You deserve nothing but happiness. It’s hard to have relationships where your family isn’t quite on the same track as you are. But your judgement and capability of love should be bigger than any other bitter times. We doobies support you ♥️

This is my favorite video of yours yet. Thank you for being so open. I have no doubt that things will work out for you and your partner. I can feel the love and sincerity that you put into each one of your vids--you are inspiring and I'm rooting for you. You got this!

Tina, absolutely love how relatable you are 🥹💕 fell in love with your story telling and personality!! ❤️

Me and my partner are also from 2 different worlds. And she being the only child it was hard at first but thankfully both mine and her parents understood and support us. I really hope your family comes to reality and see that you're genuinely happy, fingers crossed for you my dude :)

It is so beautiful that you found each other as was watching you journey to this point. I have so much respect for your strength and trust in yourself und your partner, it's inspiring. Thank you so much for sharing all this private insight I think it helps many people on many different levels and situations.

I love this side of you being with someone and making you happy! Can’t wait for more vlogs!

there's something so surreal about Dooby's vlog that calms anyone ❤️

I haven’t finished the video yet, just wanted to say that I was in your exact situation. I followed my gut and my husband and I have been together for 21 years. My parents learned to love him and understand why I loved him. It was very tough at the beginning for the same reasons you listed. Follow your gut, your instinct and things will be fine 🧡🧡

Love how you’re more playful and cheeky when you’re with him! Last long and stay strong

Thanks for putting this out there Tina. I went through something similar with my parents a few months ago for what sounds like similar reasons. My parents are also very traditional/somewhat controlling and it was tough, but we are on good terms again. I hope your parents come around soon and happy that you are also choosing to be happy

Not gonna lie I’m really thankful for this vlog, thank you for letting us be part of such as personal and vulnerable moment for you. I’m sorry for the mean people commenting. However, I understand the situation you’re going through is difficult to meet others expectations while trying looking for the best for you. Hope your family understands and things get better!

I can relate as an only child, who now is adapting to living independently for about 3 years, but people who truly loves us will be the one who shall understand that we, only childs, are the only person who they can trust to make our own lives good and happy as they hope it to be. Happy of your brave heart. Love and light, dooby 💗

I truly understand how you feel so connected with him. Before I met my current boyfriend, I didn’t expect to find someone who loves food more than me. My boyfriend and I compromised so well with each other because we both love a certain things in the meal. For example, I love dessert so I know all about good desserts spots, he loves appetizers and drinks so he knows all about those spots. So it turned out to be a whole 3 course meal whenever we went on a date night. I can see how happy you were w ☂ man and I hope your family will be able to put their pride aside and see how happy you are right now :)

I’m so happy for you. Your family will come around once they understand this is what you want. Love always wins ❤️

thank you so much for sharing this. I also feel that my parents can be over controlling and it's true there is a fine line between guidance and control and when it gets over controlling it gets really hard for us. i've experienced the exact same thing as you except i'm a lot younger and live under their roof. my parents haven't talk to me for over a month because of this and i'm so devastated. i too love my parents a lot and they too have sacrificed a lot for me..but at the same time it's hard to give up on the person you love 😞😞...it's nice to see another person experience the same difficulties as you. love you dooby♥️♥️♥️ it'll all be okay with time :)

I really know what you're going through, because I went through the same thing hahaha 😔. I come from a Filipino immigrant family who moved to Brazil and when they found out I was dating a guy who wasn't rich they freaked out. It was difficult at first, but over time they accepted him, especially after meeting him in person. Know that you are not alone and that everything will get better eventually! I wish you all the luck in the world and much happiness in your new relationship, you deserve it so much!

I just discovered you and your vlog style is gorgeous. The way you tell this story not only really conveys your emotions but you do it so beautifully in so many ways. Stay strong and be patient. Even though I'm new here, you have my support

I'm tearing up watching this 🥺 growing up with the same situations listening to this break my heart. Big hugs Tina and keep your Heart up HIGH doobies are here for you! 💙

for so long i’ve struggled with this and you have expressed how i’ve felt so well ! truly a cinematic masterpiece

두비! 사랑에 빠진 거 축하해요! 아직 한글 자막이 없어서 모든 말들을 100% 이해하지는 못했지만 소중한 사람을 만나게 된 거 넘넘 축하해요! 시간이 약이라고 말한 거처럼 언젠가 엄마아빠도 두비 행복한 모습에 분명히 행복해지실 거에요! 응원해요 ♥

I’m so happy for you Tina!!!☺️🤍 Your family will come around eventually, and thank you for being vulnerable with us!! Much love to you and yours!!!🫰🏽✨

When it comes to love is a learning process and YOU should always stay true to you ! Thank you for being so transparent with your followers definitely A FAN!

thank you for sharing this with us ;-; been struggling if i should commit to a ldr knowing my family would disapprove since they are more conservative. growing up in a Filipino household, family to me is always #1 but it's a hard decision between meeting their expectations or being with someone who makes me happy. your vlogs are always so relaxing and inspiring

I totally agreed with the parents are sometimes controlling bc thats literally my parents rn. Now that im adult i realized how sheltered and gatekeeped i am from the real world. :( Anw im genuinely happy for you and for fighting your happiness/love. ♡ thank you for sharing this to us...

I am proud of you for going after what you want and following your heart. If you are happy with this man then that is all that matters. Its tough when family doesn't support your decisions but one day they will come around. I hope that whatever the rest of this year brings you and further on in the future that its nothing but joys and laughter. And that you create wonderful memories with the one you love

Just catching up in your vlog life here, and crazy how I just saw this in [almost] an exact one year period of time. And it makes me so happy that you’ve been following your heart (🧀 I know) and accomplishing the dreams you and Kevin saw that no one else did. Keep killing it xx

My therapist is back. I love a Doobydobap vlog. It’s relaxing and refreshing for the soul and mind

Always look forward to your videos! Love the way you edit and how you are super real!!

I only discovered your channel yesterday and I just want to say that your videos bring me so much comfort

Thank you for sharing such a vulnerable part of your life. It is tempting to show only the "highs" on social media. Love your work on RU-vid; you have a real gift of storytelling! Thanks for bringing us along on your life journey. Lots of love - a recently converted Doobie :)

I feel like everything is coming full circle, thanks for the advice and honesty 😊

We love a Dooby vlog Whose with me 🙋‍♀️ edit: you got us Dooby dont be scared to come out to us about your problems we love you and care about you and your mental health.

Usually hate vlogs but decided to watch yours and I loved every second of it. Glad you are choosing your happiness and standing your ground. Hope I run into you while I’m in still here

IM SO HAPPY FOR YOU

"There is a fine line between control and guidance" - so true...Love you Dooby.

That takes a lot of strength, good for you!! Hopefully time heals but keep unapologetically chasing your happiness.

Virtual hugs girl 🤗 Hope you’ll find peace with your family and everything 💜

Thank you for sharing this. Message at the end was so beautiful ❤

I am honestly happy for you that you find someone you really like :) hope things will work out for you!

Finally a RU-vidr I can relate to. I see all these RU-vidrs that have wonderful relationships with their families which I could never relate to, but I’ve never had that. My parents were never there for me and I never received any love or support from them, just criticism and reasons why I’m not enough. Thank you for being honest about your family and I hope you know you’re not the only one💜

I started watching you quite a while ago, and have seen you go through a lot, but I’m really glad to see how happy you are!

I’m invested!!!!! Wishing you two and your family all the best

I really admire that you can respect yourself and your own boundaries, while also holding a nuanced view of the people involved. There is a lot of love and grace there. I hope things smooth out and ease up in time. ❤

He’s so different but we complement each other in so many ways- 🙂☺️ that’s how I describe me and my boyfriend. I’m from India and he’s from Ukraine. So different from cultures and backgrounds.In the end, we make each other so happy where we even enjoy learning about each other’s cultures. Love Is always worth fighting for- isn’t that what life is all about. 🙂 you’ll get through this alright. I send you strength. The different backgrounds and experiences make us a stronger team as we face this world together and I’m sure you both feel the same. I’m so excited for you ♥️

this is one of your best videos to date, and not because of the situation but because of the food, the editing!, the locations, etc. really enjoyed this one

Wow thank you for sharing this so much. I can relate in so many ways and going through something very similar! This definitely helped me look on the bright side of things.

Really wishing for you that everything can be smoothed over in the short future, Tina. There are unforgiving notions around at times, but there are also those who fight for freedom through which we choose our destiny. Keep on fighting for what you stand for and who you are! Doobie army stands with you T!❤

What I admire most about you in this situation: you completely understand where your parents are coming from. It’s okay to disagree with them, we live in a different time and space. I hope they see how he’s been good to you. xx dooby

I hope for the best for you guys. I’m in a somewhat similar situation, long distance and huge differences between my partner and I. Also parents are not so happy about us but we just put it under the rug and haven’t found solutions after all these years. I do also hope that miraculously they will understand that I’m happy with him. Honestly idk how things will turn out but I’m hoping for the best, also for you guys. Thanks for posting this video, it made me feel like I’m not alone 💕

Im so happy you met someone you love!!! The best people always come around when you least expect it ❤️ ive been following you for a while now, youre a pretty amazing person and it seems like youve found someone who compliments the real you!!! Best of luck in your love endeavors!

Tina I can explain just how proud i am of you!!! You have overcome so many obstacles in the last couple of months and got to your happy place. No matter how comfortable you have gotten being alone nothing feels more amazing then sharing life with someone you care about.

If it feels like its worth fighting for, it definitely is, trust yourself! So proud of you and wishing you all the very very best!! Thank you for sharing your story, you didn't have to, but we're grateful you did

im so happy for you! I love your videos I found you when I was at a very depressed point in my life and binge watched all your videos for serotonin. You help so many people without even realizing! I love that you are real and share your experiences I am excited to see you open up more and more! I also wanted to say that you usually find your soulmate when you least expect it! I met my husband when I told myself I wasn’t gonna date anyone ever again. We’ve been together for nine years and married three! Sending you love and light! Your family will come around, but always stand your ground for what you believe in! this is your life, the people that truly love you will always love you! i come from a very toxic family & I promise you are on the right track to finding truth and strong relationships with family and your ☂ man! Some people are definitely worth fighting for!

I know it's not easy but standing on your ground, fighting for what you believe in is the most important thing. Making it work through tough times takes a lot of courage and energy. I have been watching your vlogs for a long time now and to see you happy makes me happy as well. Time heals all wounds and I know you and your family will get through this. Keep safe and stay inlove! Much love from Philippines. 💗

Tina, sending you so much healing and love. I’ve gone through the same thing when I was 21 (28 now). I’m now married with a kid to the man my family were against. But, my parents love him now. My parents felt hurt initially, but they had to work through it. They had to open their minds a bit, be more progressive. Xoxo wishing you the best

The word is changing ever so quickly and sometimes trying to find a constant or control is what parents cling to. One whole side of my family did. And so does my mom. It's been difficult but lessons learned and now I can keep doing better. Many well wishes for you and your family. P.s. chefs are wonderful I got one too. 😘😄

Your honesty is what makes your channel so special ❤️

I applaud you for making that boundary with your family. That's super difficult. Hopeful this gives everyone time away to think and y'all can come back with clearer hearts

I can totally relate what you’re going through. We went through the same thing (we also did long distance as well) and my parents love him now as they’ve seen me happy. It just needs a bit of time. Loved your vlog and thanks for sharing your life. 😊 Sending the positive energy to you both.

Thank you for sharing this little snippet of your life! I can totally understand where you’re coming from. My parents were very against me dating out of my culture, but with time, they have grown to love my partner (sometimes I feel like more than they love me!). As long as your parents see how happy you are, they will accept it and your partner. Just continue to do what makes you happy because it is YOUR life. And f the haters. They’re just jealous.

It’s a wonderful feeling to be able to find something that you feel so strongly about and want to protect. I think it’s about understanding that this is your life and no matter what are the consequences (good or bad), you are prepared to go thru with it (adulting! 😩)

I’ve never seen story telling the way you do it before! It’s absolutely BEAUTIFUL! Let me just say this love is 💯 worth fighting for! Everyone told me my man wasn’t stable/couldn’t provide and he literally didn’t have a penny to his name when we first got together… but he’s the BEST decision I ever made and everyone was dead wrong🫶🏼I’m glad I followed my heart and not the opinions of other ppl😅