I’m feeling real dumb can someone break this down for me pls, like does it mean he never put as much effort into love as he did to being a destructive force?
@@ktsargent9231I think it means that she’s reflecting on what’s happening to her in the abuse. She knows that no one who hits that hard could be in love.
Men. Keep dating them. Keep looking for love in a species that wants you dead. Where I live a convicted murder (killed his ex with 23 stab wounds) went out of jail after 10 years on probation. Got into a relationship and threatened this woman pretending to cut her throat, the officials said that was only 'a joke in a toxic relationship context' and that his psychiatrist said he was fine, living with his parents, working and studying. That woman ran. Moving forward he dated another woman for only 3 months. She walked away and 2 years later, when he knew she was going to marry another man, he drove to the city and ran her over 3 times, making sure the car wheel would smash her head...people witnessed in horror and as the cops stopped him he just casually entered the car and said 'I already been to jail 10 years for killing my ex...i dont care'.
Sometimes even literally, My ex fiance punched holes in the walls, broke doors, broke appliances. I'm glad I got out, I knew one day that fist would come at my face, I never gave him the chance.
@@Suedepants100 Where did she get that information from? She also said they changed it to make it more empowering (even though it's sad and heartbreaking).. I just want her to say where she got this information. MoZella sings the same lyrics Miley sings in her demo. Maybe there's an interview she can link or something.
It honestly makes more since to have that emotion song with the thought of them coming in like a wrecking ball … someone coming and disrupting everything and then just dipping
@@ggggjoe but it also sounds very defenceless. Some situations feel like that, but the hope to heal and find something better keeps you going... I only experienced it second hand, but I wanted to give that person a save place again...
As an abuse survivor, this hits hard. I'm so glad I've mostly healed. These relationships can change you forever. Finding yourself again after is a stressful and confusing experience. But you get back to being you, more and more every day. It may take years, healing from something so traumatic takes a lot of time, depending on you, the severity, etc. Sending love to survivors and people still in these situations ❤❤❤ Your voice is incredible btw! ❤❤❤
Left a 6 year toxic, emotionally abusive and manipulative relationship back in 2020 at the beginning of covid. The last 4 years have been like whiplash compared to 2014-2020 right out the gate at 18. I'm still learning how to be myself and even just figure out what that means. He fucked me up mentally in so many ways, but I'm slowly healing, moment by moment. I'm glad you were able to get out, it's the scariest thing you can do, but it's so fucking healing and relieving to finally be away from it.
Im so sorry you went through this its so hard to leave. I was also in an abusive relationship physically and emotionally. It really does change you forever and i still struggle with it now i miss the person i was before him! Finding yourself again is one of the hardest things ❤
I'm still begging him to come back , i just found out he cheated it hit me so hard , i really dint know what to do or say cause he's all I had , this song just brought me to tears❤
@@harshiniramanan0205dont beg him. He’s wrong for you. I’m sorry, I know it must hurt terribly. But there ARE other people out there for you, & you can make friends or chosen family who will help you to find yourself and to find them ❤
Omg. When I realize as a survivor of extreme abuse that this is the way I always heard it. I had to listen a few times to realize the song actually said something different than I was hearing and translating it because of my situation. 😓
@@LanaKennedy121 color of your attackers aside, I'm relieved you are safe. You're brave and you protected your son. Praying adults can start teaching their kids to respect others. I'd assume they didn't have both parents to teach them right from wrong.
@@BrettSauveno it’s an important part in social aspect, why is it that we always hear of black jumpings massively disproportionately to the amount of black people in this country? By sheer numbers there are more black violent crimes in the US than white violent crimes, which is concerning considering whites are the majority.
Not really.. plus on the original writer's demo she (MoZella) sang the same lyrics as Miley. Miley's lyrics (if they were even changed at all) are more complex and accurate imo for describing a toxic relationship if you really listen.
Wow, that really does hit so much differently because when someone who is abused finally gets up the strength to leave, the abuse often tries to portray themselves as the victim like there's no reason for the person to leave. You can love the person, but if they are putting your physical well-being in jeopardy then you have to leave. 😢
Unfortunately Riell is just lying to get her music more attention. The person who wrote the song has talked about the original demo that was pitched to Miley's team and they specifically talk about some of the lyrics including "I came in like a wrecking ball".
This makes so much sense. This was the song playing on the radio when my husband took his life. He was supposed to take mine and then his, but I survived. I don’t know how I survived all of the abuse, but I did. Thank you, I so needed this!
As soon as you hit the chorus, my body went into full Frisson (asmr reaction in my body) Your voice really conveyed the pain in the words, truly came in like a wrecking ball.
Heard “wrecking ball is so tragic” and genuinely thought she was talking about the hamster from overwatch but the best part was I totally agreed, he IS tragic. He almost got stranded on the moon and he can’t trust anyone. He doesn’t even let the junkers know he’s a hamster, he can’t be himself. He doesn’t have anyone else to rely on. He’s the only anthropomorphic hamster on earth so he can never find love. Poor lil guy
Where did you get this info from? I found an article of an interview with the songwriters and they specifically said they come up with the lyrics "I came in like a wrecking ball". From Stefan Moccio [one of the Song writers): "I don’t write lyrics, but I remember we all wanted a strong metaphor as a title and we were just throwing out words. And I remember kind of shyly putting up my hand and saying, “What about ‘Wrecking Ball’?” And Sacha went, “Yeah, ‘Wrecking Ball,’ that sounds good.” And MoZella kind of ran with that. It’s when she got the line, “I came in like a wrecking ball.” It was real collaborative."
It's certainly not something a writer would admit during an interview especially when it wasn't his place to say anyway. Plus he also said that Mozella had decided during the session that she was going to pitch it to Miley. So he may have just been omitting details of the session. Perhaps this fact is one of those little known facts kept quiet so as not to not detract from the song when it was released. It's also possible that it's just a rumor. Either way, this version is beautiful
Actually you can find some interviews that confirm songwriter MoZella (she is actually listed as one of writers of this song) wrote it after her breakup from toxic relationship but I don't know where she got the "original" lyrics from because that I don't see anywhere. 🤔
GIRLLL literal chills you are both so talented and so wonderful at creating engaging content! the grit in your voice makes this even better! we’d love a full cover ❤
Yes! I expected to see this comment first. I was fascinated with the history well summarized, the lyric changed it phenomenally and hit home hard, but her talent at singing! Wow! ❤❤❤
@@wendyhazelwonder592 Riell made it up to get more focus for her own music. Miley didn't change anything, she sang the lyrics the original writer wrote.
@@katrinawendel2647 wrong. Not nepotism. She has a career because of Hannah Montana. And she wasn't chosen for it because of her dad's fame. They actually filmed a pilot with someone else and the focus group didn't relate with that girl. Miley was chosen for the role because she was the perfect fit for it, not because of Billy.
It’s a really impactful song when you relate to it. The way abusive people tear you down and try and belittle you every single chance they can get. I really do like Miley’s version as well. It is empowering and I definitely sang it after i broke up with my abusive ex. I think if the women who wanted to they should release her version as well❤️
I can't stop shaking. Your voice is so incredibly beautiful, smoky, and haunting. You just officially became one of my favorite singers and this is literally the first time I have ever laid eyes (or ears) on you. So powerful. Love 👏👏👏👏
Aimlessly scrolling and stumbled on this...... Your voice gave me goosebumps all over my body!!!! It sent a shiver down my spine in the best way possible!! Absolutely stunning voice 🫶🏼
When she says the background story of this song i really much more appreciate the song and how hard hit my heart and soul 😢 And then plus your angelic voice God i cried 😭😭
Really beautifully done. This song has always made me feel chills and hearing this I understand why I never understood why it was so powerful. Thank you for sharing. Also beautiful voice
Miley's version made sense for her situation with Liam tho. The original version is about someone suffering from an abusive partner, him trying to break her walls with love bombing but eventually just breaking her down as person. Miley's version is about her wrecking the relationship bc she can't live this lie anymore just bc she loves Liam. She felt suffocated in the relationship but also feels guilt for ending it.
Omg as a dv survivor, I love this. U sound so much better also. I always thought her version was a joke. U sound like u can relate. U make me feel sadness
The writer is Mozella and she talks about writing this song on her episode of the “And The Writer Is…” podcast. I can’t remember if any of these details are true because I listened years ago, but I def remember her saying it was originally about her own breakup.
yeaaah, gonna need some sources cited for this story that makes zero sense. It sounds a lot more like you just hand an idea about how if it said YOU it would sound vaguely like an abusive relationship.
it was about a woman leaving a toxic relationship. she broke off her marriage. but Miley's version literally means that. it's just more meaningful and complex than this. i think we need sources that the lyrics were changed. and that they changed them to be "empowering". anyone who listens to the actual lyrics Miley sings can tell they're just as sad as this. they just don't have some chick lying with a piano.
I'm not sure about the you and I switch. But it is easy to find that the week this was written was the same week that Mozella was supposed to get married, but she had called it off, and that it was a toxic relationship. It was written during a session with 2 cowriters and during the session is when Mozella decided that she wanted to pitch it to Miley
Sometimes that feeling ties to inner child and if/how you were abandoned and abused as a kid. Nothing means more to a child than their caregivers - that person is their entire world and their only means of survival. An abusive partner can recreate that same feeling. The feeling that they are your whole world and all you have to survive. People can tend to try to use others to heal their inner child trauma which is why they get stuck in an abusive relationship to try to find healing and fulfillment in someone else. Often this adds to the feeling that the abusive significant other is a part of you and a reflection of yourself which only adds to the strength of the connection to them. The only healing and fulfillment you can find is within yourself - a message that our society often fails to teach us.
I was in abusive relationship 10 years ago. This single in your voice is everything. Makes me feel feels but no longer pain or anger. I’ve been married almost 5 years to the best man who can handle me. Cuz it ain’t easy. I’m soo lucky to have him
..why? it still makes sense the way Miley sings it. in fact, i don't even know that it was changed. MoZella (the writer the video is referring to) sings it with the exact lyrics Miley does in her demo. if it's "i", she just means she came into the relationship hard and fast. fell in love fast. the lyrics literally say that. all she wanted was to break down his walls. and know the real him. but instead he broke her. (Miley still says "all you ever did was break me"). what doesn't make sense about that?
These were not the original lyrics!! Miley never changed the ‘I’ from ‘You’! Stop lying! Co-writer Moccio gave an interview in 2017 in which he talks about MoZilla (another co-writer and who did experience domestic violence) ending her marriage the week before they wrote Wrecking Ball and in the same interview said why the lyrics “I came in like a wrecking ball” were so powerful! Just because she experienced domestic violence you’ve gone and made this whole thing up in your head! Way to discredit someone’s actual experience!
