Yasmin Mogahed - What is Love, 15th MAS ICNA Convention 

i'm 9 yrs old and yasmin mogahed is my insparation i will be an aleema (telling people about islam) when i'm older inshallah

I am from a different religion, but this opened my brain, I wish I had listened to this way earlier. So great 🌼

Transcript of speech: How to bring back love of Allah? Answer by Yasmin Mogohed: 1. Perform salah regularly on proper time 2. Develop Khushu in Salah - Learn the translation of the things that you recite in Salah 3. Recite Quran regularly with translation and understanding and implementing 4. Do your daily Azkar - Dhikr - Remembrance of Allah 5. Clean your heart with Istighfaar - Seek forgiveness from Allah very often

"You feel me?" Yes dear sister, I feel you:) And yes! No chit chatting ain't nobody got time for that! You want my attention and feminine charm? Nikah!!

Transcript of main speech, part 2 of 2 Bismillah ~ 10:13 This is a lesson you'll always have to remember. Whatever you love most in life, is your master. Simple as that. Whatever you love most in your life is your master. 10:25 If that is money, then you are a slave to money. 10:29 If that is your spouse, then you are a slave to your spouse. 10:32 If it is your children, and now i am talking about something that, its just like, blows your mind. As a woman, especially as a mother. And as a father, we definitely aint taught this. That there is a wrong way to love your children. Why do you think we have so many problems with the mother in law issue? 11:08 They dybamic was unhealthy from day 1. Because that boy, that son of yours was never supposed to be in that part. That part is saved for Allah. You life was never supposed to revolve around your children. 11:29 It's unhealthy. And actually, your life is supposed to revolve around Allah. 11:41 And yes that is why we have an issue then when the son grows up, now he's getting married and all of a sudden there is a competition. There's not supposed to be a competition between a wife and a mom. That doesn't even make any sense. 11:53 But the fact that there is is only because the dynamic from day 1 was unhealthy and it was wrong. They taught you that you're supposed to revolve your life around your son, mainly your son. They taught you, that that's actually how to be a good mum. It's not how to be a good mum. It's unhealthy. 12:13 Your life continues to revolve around Allah whether you're married or unmarried. Whether you're a mother or you're not a mother. And only when your central point in your life is Allah, your greatest and deepest devotion and love is for Allah, only then, and mark my words, only then, will you have healthy relationship with the creation. 12:33 Only then can you have a healthy relationship in a marriage, and with your children, and with your friends, and with your colleagues. Only, only if you're putting everything in the right compartment. 13:03 Allah warns us in the Quran 9:24 قُلْ إِنْ كَانَ آبَاؤُكُمْ وَأَبْنَاؤُكُمْ وَإِخْوَانُكُمْ وَأَزْوَاجُكُمْ وَعَشِيرَتُكُمْ وَأَمْوَالٌ اقْتَرَفْتُمُوهَا وَتِجَارَةٌ تَخْشَوْنَ كَسَادَهَا وَمَسَاكِنُ تَرْضَوْنَهَا أَحَبَّ إِلَيْكُمْ مِنَ اللَّهِ وَرَسُولِهِ وَجِهَادٍ فِي سَبِيلِهِ فَتَرَبَّصُوا حَتَّىٰ يَأْتِيَ اللَّهُ بِأَمْرِهِ ۗ وَاللَّهُ لَا يَهْدِي الْقَوْمَ الْفَاسِقِينَ Say, "If your parents, your children, your siblings, your spouses, your close relatives, the wealth which you have acquired, a business you fear may decline and the homes you cherish are dearer to you than God and His messenger, and striving in His cause, then just wait until God brings about His command." God does not guide the wicked people. 13:46 Allah warns us if any one of these things is more beloved to you than Allah and His Messenger, that's when you face a problem. Because even the halal, if it's loved in the wrong way, will cause much damage. And this damage will be to yourself and others. 14:05 So the first thing i want to say is this, we have to put things in their proper place. When we say Laa ilaaha ilalallah, when we say there is no ilaah except for Allah, what we are saying is that nothing else goes in the core of our hearts and in the core of our lives. Nothing else do we revolve our existence around except for our Creator. 14:27 And that can't be our money, it can't be our business, it can't even be our children or our spouse. It can't be status, it can't be power, it can't be career. It cant be these things. 14:50 How do you that you're loving something in the wrong way? I'm going to give you a very easy way to know. It's going to hurt like heck. It's not going to feel good. 15:12 So the way that you and I will know that we have things in the wrong compartment is that we become tormented by that which we put at the center, where only Allah should be. 15:25 If that is your business, you will not sleep because of your worry about your business. 15:31 If it's your career, you won't be sleeping. You'll need to start taking pills to just calm yourself down. 15:43 If it's your children, same thing is going to happen, they're going to torture you. And i'm not talking about the normal torture. I'm talking a different kind of level of torture, of torment. 15:54 If it's your spouse, even your spouse, you'll know because you'll feel it. You'll feel that pain. And that's Allah swt showing us we need to move things around, we need to put Allah back at the center. 16:36 This concept that your life begins and ends at your son was never healthy. No that's not what it means to be a good mom. What it means to be a good mother is that you have Allah at the center, and then you love your children, and then you love your spouse, and then you love everyone else. But Allah is at the center. You don't put Allah aside, you don't put salah aside cos you got soccer practice. 17:11 Or i got to cook this so i'm missing salah. That means my priorities are off. 17:17 If someone that you love, doesnt like you hijab. Doesnt like it, doesnt look nice. Someone you want to marry, or someone you're already married to doesn't like you hijab. Well, now its a question what's at the center. Because you're being actually told to choose. 17:38 We have to make sure that we have the right thing at the center. If it is not Allah and His messenger, we suffer and then we make others suffer. 18:09 Some other pitfalls that we fall into when it comes to romantic love. One of the big ones is that we focus on the surface and we miss what's inside. 18:30 A lot of times we mistaken, as the sister said, what i call surface romance, we mistaken surface romance for deep connection. And the two are very very different. 18:43 You might have a man, or a woman, who does these things for you. These things, these gestures that the sister was mentioning, the roses and the surprises and all of that. And you may believe that that means that you have a connection. But there is a very very big difference between surface romance and deep connection. 19:06 Deep connection is about compatibility, deep connection is about vulnerability, deep connection cannot only just be in these gestures. So i advise you and all those who are looking, for example for marriage, to look deeper. 19:26 And one last thing i want to say, I will tell you and everyone who advises you will tell you, look for deen, look for character. Absolutely those are a must. 19:37 But i will also tell you that it is not enough. 19:52 There are many examples, namely in our tradition we know for example, great people Zaid and Zainab, they were both amazing characters, they both had amazing morals and deen. But they were not compatible, they were not compatible and so they got divorced. 20:12 So what i want to say to you is that yes you look for deen, yes you look for character, it is necessary but not sufficient. 20:21 It is not sufficient, you have to, have to, and i cannot emphasize this enough, you have to look for compatibility. You have to look for compatibility. And i'm not just talking about surface compatibility. 20:32 I'm not just talking about "i'm from egypt, he's from egypt and so we're compatible". That's not what I'm talking about. 20:39 I'm talking about a deeper level of compatibility, and that's again a whole other discussion.

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Faith is the heartbeat, then prayer is the oxygen because prayer without faith is useless.

Transcript of main speech, part 1 of 2 Bismillah ~ 0:50 I truly believe that there isn't a more important conversation. And that's a big statement. I do not believe there is a more important conversation than this conversation, which is What is Love? 1:02 And I'm going to tell you why I believe this is such an important conversation, in fact the most important conversation we can have as human beings. 1:10 And that is because the way that our Creator designed us, is that our greatest and most powerful motivator is love. This is our fitrah, this is our design. 1:26 It is love, ironically, for the wrong things that make nations go and bomb other nations. It is love of power. It is love of wealth. It is love of domination. 1:58 If we love the wrong things in the wrong way, we can actually destroy the world. 2:13 We have entire governments, entire nations, that have no problem killing women and children because they love to stay in power. 2:32 This is a very deeply important topic. We need to understand what love actually is and how loving in the wrong way can in fact not only destroy you, but can destroy the world. 2:57 Now in the topic of romantic love, i'm going to say a few things. I'm going to list a few mistakes that we make. Or a few pitfalls that we fall into, under this topic of romantic love. 3:27 Allah swt created love, and i'm going to put it this way, Allah created different kinds of love. 3:39 Allah created different compartments within our heart to contain love, and different kinds of love. 4:00 There are different compartments within the heart, and each compartment is created for a specific kind of love. And as long as you keep everything in its proper compartment you'll be ok. But the moment that you put things in the wrong compartment within your heart, that is when the real damage happens. 5:26 A gas tank is only created to only be able to handle gas filling it up. But if you put orange juice in that gas tank, you destroy the gas tank and destroy the entire car. Now what does that have to do with the human heart? 5:38 See there is this part in the heart, and i will call it the lobe of the heart. It is the verymost central, most inner part of the heart. This isn't normal love. No, this is the center of our existence. This is what i live for and what i will die for. This isn't just love, it's worship. It's the kind of love that becomes worship. But it's not worship in the sense that you're praying to this thing. People don't pray to money, but they worship money. And the reason why they do that is because their love of money is in the central part of their heart that was only created for the love of God. 6:19 Within the human heart, there is a innermost part that is like a gas tank. It's only created for gas. In the case of the heart, its only created for the love of God, Allah. In other words, i'm going to call this an ilaah. 7:00 There is nothing that goes in the core of the heart except for Allah, except for God. Whatever language you want to say it. 7:09 The Creator, The Ultimate Almighty is the only one who goes in that central part of my heart and of my life. That is what Laa ilaah ilallah is at a core level. 7:19 And that is why a person will become destroyed, destroyed, if they put anything else in that core level. 7:32 Just like the car becomes destroyed because you put orange juice in the gas tank, a human being, a society, a family, the entire world becomes destroyed if you put anything else in that core level other than God. What does that mean? 7:52 It means if i put money there, it means if i put status there, it means if i put power there, it means even if i put another person there. 8:14 I was taught, you just love, love is always just it. I wasn't taught that there's a wrong and a right way to love. In my islamic upbringing, this was not taught to me, and i had to learn it the hard way. 8:46 I'm telling you, don't do it. Because what happens is even another human being, and i'm talking now your spouse.. you're supposed to love your spouse. But if you put your spouse in that central most part the heart that is saved for Allah, and i'll give you examples, you will actually be destroyed. And when i say you will be destroyed, i mean that you will endure a lot of pain. Let's just put it that way. You will endure a lot of pain and you actually cause a lot of pain. 9:19 Because Allah did not create the human heart to have the capacity to even contain anything else in that central part of your heart. It's like taking something other than Allah and making it an ilaah. 9:42 An ilaah is essentially, it its root, if you study the term, you study the root of the word ilaah, you see that it is anything that you put at the center of your existence. 9:53 It becomes that which dictates every single thing that you do or don't do. It dictates why you live, why you die. It dictates how you act and how you don't act. An ilaah is a master.

I hope someone will read my message. We need help for open heart surgery of my son. I hope someone have a big heart to help us. May allah bring back all your good deeds

She's so beautiful masha'Allah

The whole video just covered a lot of topics that I needed the most. I love this woman.

One of the best women scholar i have ever met... Masha Allah blessed to be part of Islam and thank you Yasmin mam you are really doing a very good job👍..many are getting benefited put of your message.. everything is crystal clear what you are explaining and what message you wanna convey... Alhamdulillah... jazallah khair...may Allah forgive our sins, accept our repentance and reward us for our good deeds..Aameen🤲

Now i know why my previous relationship didnt work. Thank you for the beautiful speech

its not just about are you at a age but are you mentally ready for marriage, you have to work hard on being the best version of yourself and know you are mentally strong for something real. marriage aint a game, and it gets upsetting when people just throw around "go get married" thats how despression happens and divorce

I like the way this woman speaks. I have a music addiction. I have trouble listening to Islamic lectures but I can listen to this. It's wonderful.

"Even the halal loved in the wrong way will cause much damage!!" There are many more standalone one-liners that alone can teach you a lot in the lessons Yasmin Maam gave us. God bless her!! Thanks for sharing this video.

Your speech really inspired me.. I'm not muslim but i believe in Allah.. and l love Allah more than everything..

Her level of understanding how psychology works impressed meh......manshallah she got emaan ....💯💯💯💯 Best female scholar to ever be

Allah bless you and your family and all brothers and sisters Muslims in the world.

MashAllah...I am so admired by this woman...she opened my eyes...

Alhamdulillah watched this whole video. Maa sha Allah so informative. May Allah bless our scholar sisters. May we all learn to love Allah & put Allah in the core of our hearts. Extremely impressed.

Mashallah ,like she always gives me the kyes of the door that I was ancapable to open it . God grant her heaven

Listening this at the right time....it was much needed

I dont understand english much but when i m listening you evrything is much more clear for me ..

A much needed topic for the generation and beautiful explanation. Mashallah

I love this woman, in my deepest and darkest moments her words have revived my heart. Asshadu huban lilaah - Your greatest love should be for Allah - Yasmin Mogahed. May Allah allow our ustaada to be able to revive hearts for many years to come ❤

Just lost in the simplest philosophy her words regarding love... How beautiful her thoughts are! In love with the way she preaches... 💫

LOVE & RESPECT FOR SISTER YASMIN. ALLAH BLESS YOU

المحاضرة رائعة تستحق الاستماع 👏 بارك الله فيكِ 🌹

I wish i listened to it 4 years ago, but what if i loved the wrong person and i hurt and now I’m listening to this.... I wish i listened to it 4 years ago

It's been years that I'm searching for your page on social media and I found it Alhamdulillah

Masha Allah may Allah SWT forgive our sins and may Allah reward you Jannatul Firdowsal Acla my dear sisters we love you for the sake of Allah.

In a perfect world everyone Muslim will be perfect !!

Mashallah! Very impressive your video program. I have been listening many more times. May almighty Allah grant to you in jannatul firdous! Jazakallah khair!

Life changing message ❤️am transformed in just minutes. Love in the right place

I really glad there was American people have the modlems religions.thanks and congratulstions.good luck.

Our lives matter. No tolerance for hate. No tolerance for disrespect no tolerance for INJUSTICE

Masha Allah, very nice speech.

Masha Allah inspiring one sister.. May Almighty Allah bless you in His mercy.

Masha Allah I wish you the best and you voice is soo sweet that I enjoyed

Lovely speech given by Yasmin Mogahed. Thank you. May Almighty Allah bless you.

Masha'allah Alhamdu leAllah Very nice talk Thank you Jazaki Allah khier My God protect you

جزكم الله خيرا...

Really I need this

Best statement, Allah didn’t make mistake while designing us. No one is perfect.

Love you from Afghanistan 🇦🇫

Thank you sister i rlly needed to hear this

جزاك الله خيرا يا أختاه و أطال في عمرك .

Omg... How beautifully explained...!! MashAllah.. 6:07 I felt that with goosbumps..

There is nothing that goes into the center of my heart, but God! Yes! Love it...

Subhanallah💚 A well explained.🙂

Thank's so much dear

I needed this. JazakAllah

I wish I've seen this video years ago, but Al hamdoulilah I am still alive to learn what is real love.

I love Allah I love Quran I love Mohammad I love mom & ba ba I love Islam I love Muslim 2020

Thank you for this.💜

What ever you love most is your Master!

One of the best I have ever come across

Wow I needed this

WOW. I really needed this

Mashaallah👌🏻Its a beautiful mesage!

Listening to her itself is soothing one..its helping me to relieve my pain... Alhamdulillah...Allahu Akbar

May Allah continue to inspire you with lots of knowledge to enlighten the Muslim ummah about how they are supposed live this modern world as Muslim individually and collectively. And for our information, this is the real concept of Sufism and nothing else.

Was really helpful and got to learn a lot. Thanks a bunch!

Alhumdulillah, I needed to hear this...Shukran JazakAllah sister Yasmeen!

Love of our PROPHET(SAWS): 37:13

Been looking for this kinda topic! Thank you for this whole perspectives ♥️

By far one of the best videos I’ve watched on RU-vid alhumdulilah

Powerfully words indeed u are in point , shukraan ameen for sharing 💕😇👌

Ordered your book and can't wait to read it.

Mashaa Allah this was really beneficial

Love your book. Truly was an eye opener. Thank you.

Thank you 🙏

Yes!!!!!!! Makes me cry deep within my soul hearing this topic.

ALLah blessed u my sister...thank u sooooo much

Amazing thank you so much may Allah guide us all !

Thank you Sister...Almighty Allah bless you..

SubhanAllah, JazakumAllahu Khayran sister, very well explained how to get close to Allah SWT.

I 😍 it May Allah bless us

Yasmin you are amazing in all the sense of the word. Keep up the good work.

Thank you very much ustaza..❤

Thank you very much for sharing this opened my eyes in so many ways!

JazakAllah khair for the most Mubarak Seminar...Most appreciated.

Thanks ukhty yasmin mei Allah bless you.. you talk something so good

tysm cleared few misconceptions,,, May Allah swt grant us deeper understanding

I really like your lectures. Allah bless the situation, Allah, bless all the worlds.

Mashaa Allah!!!

I needed this today. JazakAllahu khair

What a powerful speaker Mashallahh, May Allah Bless you ❤ fid dunya wal aakhirat 🤲🏻

Thank you soo much for this! ❤️

May God bless you and give you long life

This is such a beautiful and meaningful speech💓💓

Subhanallah,tqsm dear sis for your amazing talk.i appreciate them very much.keep up the good work.May Allah bless you always.

On point sister u open our eyes and minds , God /Allah bless u abundantly.

Thx a lot, this is one of the most important things I even heard about, I wish I knew and learned about this ... really a very good listening... I wanna read your book.

I LOVE THIS SISTER 💜💜

She is super smart! Thanks Allah for sending her to us! 😍🥰

Beautiful, heard first time Alhumdullilah will continue

So love much this speech.. jazakumullah khairan

Oooh ma sha Allah beautiful speech just loved it ,❤️❤️❤️🌹😁😁