Create an if then system. Ex: If I want to scroll on tiktok, I need to meditate for 3 minutes before starting. Create an hourly log of each day, write down, just write down with no judgement and be honest with yourself. Nothing to be guilty about. It's gonna be useful, you can use it to create a structured habits, to check where all the time go, to be more conscious of the habits that you despise as it may not seem obvious until you write it down, and so much more. This is so revolutionary.
Writing down where time goes, after it is wasted, seems like such a good idea. And reviewing it at the end of the day and week would also be good. I have never allowed myself to wait for a reward and I end up just going for the reward without working towards it, so that would be a big challenge for me to overcome, which I do want to :(
There's another part of the marshmallow test that rarely gets mentioned: before that test, the kids were divided into 2 groups and were given the instructions to do an art project and the instructor asked the kids to wait for him/her to come back with the material then in one group the instructor came back with the materials but for the other group the instructor came back with apologies. After this, the marshmallow test happened and the kids who got apologies were not to keen on trusting the instructor who agreed to give them more marshmallows if they waited patiently so most of them(let down by adult group) pretty much immediately ate the marshmallow as soon as the adult left
The important thing to remember is that your brain builds up a tolerance for anything that’s included in its reward center, so it’s important to utilize this in moderation, otherwise it can lead to depression if the same level of activity isn’t generally maintained.
An Invisible Army Then Elisha prayed, ‘O LORD, open his eyes and let him see!’ The LORD opened the young man’s eyes, and when he looked up, he saw that the hillside around Elisha was filled with horses and chariots of fire. -2 Kings 6:17 When we read about angels in the Bible, they were, on many occasions, the executors of God’s judgment. For example, on one occasion, angels brought God’s judgment, killing 185,000 people. Billy Graham described angels as God’s secret agents. That’s a good description of them, because they generally operate undercover, doing the bidding and work of God. One reason we’re not personally aware of angels in our lives is because they’re doing their job properly. They remain invisible most of the time, except on occasions when God sends them on a special mission and they clothe themselves in human form. But when they appear in all their splendor, they are no doubt very beautiful to behold. The Bible’s description of angels is certainly awe-inspiring, especially in the visions of both the apostle John (in Revelation) and Ezekiel. If we were able to roll away the veil that separates the physical world from the spiritual one, if we could get a behind-the-scenes look into the invisible world of angels and demons, it would overwhelm us. On one hand it would be frightening to see the demonic powers that are clearly at work. But on the other hand, it would be exciting to see the angels that are working in the lives of believers. This very thing happened to the servant of Elisha, who was terrified by the armies that were closing in on him and the prophet. But Elisha prayed, “O Lord, open his eyes and let him see!” (2 Kings 6:17) And in a moment, this young man had the privilege of peeking behind the supernatural veil and getting a rare glimpse into the invisible world. The Bible says that when the Lord opened the servant’s eyes, “he saw that the hillside around Elisha was filled with horses and chariots of fire” (2 Kings 6:17) What he saw was the equivalent of an army. An angelic military force had surrounded Elisha and his servant. We see throughout the pages of Scripture that angels are alive, well, and working. And the Bible says they also will be working mightily in the last days. Angelic activity will reach a fever pitch in both the holy and the unholy realms. The angels of God will be active, and demons will be active as well. Then, one day, the archangel will call all true believers to Heaven. The Bible says, “For the Lord himself will come down from heaven with a commanding shout, with the voice of the archangel, and with the trumpet call of God. First, the believers who have died will rise from their graves. Then, together with them, we who are still alive and remain on the earth will be caught up in the clouds to meet the Lord in the air” (1 Thessalonians 4:16-17) Yes, there is coming a day when those who have put their faith in Jesus Christ will literally leave this earth in what we call the Rapture. Where will you be on that day?
hi! I'm not a doctor, just a person, but I want to share my experience. I also used to want to sleep all the time, despite the fact that I slept for 8-10 hours at night. I did the following things that helped me just all together . 1. Sleep when it is completely dark around. In my case, I changed my sleep pattern. I started going to bed at 11 pm and getting up at 7 am. Sometimes I use a sleep mask, but I dream of special curtains that completely darken the room. 2. Eliminate sugar. I know that many people find this a bad action, because I think that you can lose your temper. But it’s easier for me not to eat sugar at all than to eat a little of it. This is the only way to get rid of sugar addiction, if you have one. I especially wanted to sleep earlier after dessert. If you have a sugar addiction, you will suffer for a while without it, then you will feel better and have more energy. 3. Physical activity. I wasn't a fan of the movement at all, haha. Then I decided that I would only do it for pleasure and would not exert myself more than 20 percent. We don't want to torture ourselves. 20 minutes of cardio every day and you will be much more energetic. I started with 5 minutes until I wanted to increase the time. 4. And my favorite discovery. Contrast shower immediately after training. Gives energy for the whole day, lifts your mood, and increases productivity. And many other bonuses. There is no need to torture yourself right away. Start with warm and cool water. Warm the body with hot water, turn on the cold water and pour first on the ankles or wrists or neck. This will allow your body to get used to the temperature faster. And then the whole body. Repeat the cycle 2-3 times. And remember that everything should be done only for pleasure. I was terribly sleepy and tired quickly. Now I don't sleep at all. Although I used to do this almost every day. I hope my advice will help someone. And remember that there are always contraindications; it is better to learn more about these practices from professionals! And it’s best to consult a doctor, most likely he will help significantly
@@grimreaper1084 this book about habits basically said change your system plus made it rewarding, meaning - make your envioment have no distractions, put your phone out of your study room, don't bring dishes of food into it either - add a reward for doing your studying, if you like a certain food, or like a certain video game, only play it after you studied as a reward
An Invisible Army Then Elisha prayed, ‘O LORD, open his eyes and let him see!’ The LORD opened the young man’s eyes, and when he looked up, he saw that the hillside around Elisha was filled with horses and chariots of fire. -2 Kings 6:17 When we read about angels in the Bible, they were, on many occasions, the executors of God’s judgment. For example, on one occasion, angels brought God’s judgment, killing 185,000 people. Billy Graham described angels as God’s secret agents. That’s a good description of them, because they generally operate undercover, doing the bidding and work of God. One reason we’re not personally aware of angels in our lives is because they’re doing their job properly. They remain invisible most of the time, except on occasions when God sends them on a special mission and they clothe themselves in human form. But when they appear in all their splendor, they are no doubt very beautiful to behold. The Bible’s description of angels is certainly awe-inspiring, especially in the visions of both the apostle John (in Revelation) and Ezekiel. If we were able to roll away the veil that separates the physical world from the spiritual one, if we could get a behind-the-scenes look into the invisible world of angels and demons, it would overwhelm us. On one hand it would be frightening to see the demonic powers that are clearly at work. But on the other hand, it would be exciting to see the angels that are working in the lives of believers. This very thing happened to the servant of Elisha, who was terrified by the armies that were closing in on him and the prophet. But Elisha prayed, “O Lord, open his eyes and let him see!” (2 Kings 6:17) And in a moment, this young man had the privilege of peeking behind the supernatural veil and getting a rare glimpse into the invisible world. The Bible says that when the Lord opened the servant’s eyes, “he saw that the hillside around Elisha was filled with horses and chariots of fire” (2 Kings 6:17) What he saw was the equivalent of an army. An angelic military force had surrounded Elisha and his servant. We see throughout the pages of Scripture that angels are alive, well, and working. And the Bible says they also will be working mightily in the last days. Angelic activity will reach a fever pitch in both the holy and the unholy realms. The angels of God will be active, and demons will be active as well. Then, one day, the archangel will call all true believers to Heaven. The Bible says, “For the Lord himself will come down from heaven with a commanding shout, with the voice of the archangel, and with the trumpet call of God. First, the believers who have died will rise from their graves. Then, together with them, we who are still alive and remain on the earth will be caught up in the clouds to meet the Lord in the air” (1 Thessalonians 4:16-17) Yes, there is coming a day when those who have put their faith in Jesus Christ will literally leave this earth in what we call the Rapture. Where will you be on that day?
The timing of this video coming out is a sign! I've recently realized how bad I really was.. Not, brushing my teeth, drinking 3+ sodas a day, not showering often... In this past month I have changed and still working on it! This keeps me wanting to fight for my health!!
An Invisible Army Then Elisha prayed, ‘O LORD, open his eyes and let him see!’ The LORD opened the young man’s eyes, and when he looked up, he saw that the hillside around Elisha was filled with horses and chariots of fire. -2 Kings 6:17 When we read about angels in the Bible, they were, on many occasions, the executors of God’s judgment. For example, on one occasion, angels brought God’s judgment, killing 185,000 people. Billy Graham described angels as God’s secret agents. That’s a good description of them, because they generally operate undercover, doing the bidding and work of God. One reason we’re not personally aware of angels in our lives is because they’re doing their job properly. They remain invisible most of the time, except on occasions when God sends them on a special mission and they clothe themselves in human form. But when they appear in all their splendor, they are no doubt very beautiful to behold. The Bible’s description of angels is certainly awe-inspiring, especially in the visions of both the apostle John (in Revelation) and Ezekiel. If we were able to roll away the veil that separates the physical world from the spiritual one, if we could get a behind-the-scenes look into the invisible world of angels and demons, it would overwhelm us. On one hand it would be frightening to see the demonic powers that are clearly at work. But on the other hand, it would be exciting to see the angels that are working in the lives of believers. This very thing happened to the servant of Elisha, who was terrified by the armies that were closing in on him and the prophet. But Elisha prayed, “O Lord, open his eyes and let him see!” (2 Kings 6:17) And in a moment, this young man had the privilege of peeking behind the supernatural veil and getting a rare glimpse into the invisible world. The Bible says that when the Lord opened the servant’s eyes, “he saw that the hillside around Elisha was filled with horses and chariots of fire” (2 Kings 6:17) What he saw was the equivalent of an army. An angelic military force had surrounded Elisha and his servant. We see throughout the pages of Scripture that angels are alive, well, and working. And the Bible says they also will be working mightily in the last days. Angelic activity will reach a fever pitch in both the holy and the unholy realms. The angels of God will be active, and demons will be active as well. Then, one day, the archangel will call all true believers to Heaven. The Bible says, “For the Lord himself will come down from heaven with a commanding shout, with the voice of the archangel, and with the trumpet call of God. First, the believers who have died will rise from their graves. Then, together with them, we who are still alive and remain on the earth will be caught up in the clouds to meet the Lord in the air” (1 Thessalonians 4:16-17) Yes, there is coming a day when those who have put their faith in Jesus Christ will literally leave this earth in what we call the Rapture. Where will you be on that day?
I Struggle big time with productivity, procrastination, and basically delaying gratification (which I didn't have a way to name and put a finger on before this video). This feels like it gave me a perspective on myself and one more reason to practice doing the harder things first rather than pushing them to later.
Ruri, you've inspired me and I've been working on myself a lot lately, working out, learning a new language, working on a degree, my relationships, etc. I hope others will find your channel and be inspired too. Thank you so much, and God bless
Change is difficult and painful! Fail and simply observe yourself mindfully. This last point you shared really really hit home with me as I strive to improve myself and accomplish my goals. Thank you so much!!
I struggle with delayed gratification sometimes. I will think carefully and be more aware of what I'm doing. Your advice is so helpful. Thank you Ruri!😊💕
there is no control in it, you are a biological machine and your ability to delay gratification is a result of your epigenetics of which there is no control.
Fantastic advice. I can be my own worst enemy when it comes to having self discipline and overcoming distractions. Your advice will help me a lot as I'm sure will help others. Great vid!
An Invisible Army Then Elisha prayed, ‘O LORD, open his eyes and let him see!’ The LORD opened the young man’s eyes, and when he looked up, he saw that the hillside around Elisha was filled with horses and chariots of fire. -2 Kings 6:17 When we read about angels in the Bible, they were, on many occasions, the executors of God’s judgment. For example, on one occasion, angels brought God’s judgment, killing 185,000 people. Billy Graham described angels as God’s secret agents. That’s a good description of them, because they generally operate undercover, doing the bidding and work of God. One reason we’re not personally aware of angels in our lives is because they’re doing their job properly. They remain invisible most of the time, except on occasions when God sends them on a special mission and they clothe themselves in human form. But when they appear in all their splendor, they are no doubt very beautiful to behold. The Bible’s description of angels is certainly awe-inspiring, especially in the visions of both the apostle John (in Revelation) and Ezekiel. If we were able to roll away the veil that separates the physical world from the spiritual one, if we could get a behind-the-scenes look into the invisible world of angels and demons, it would overwhelm us. On one hand it would be frightening to see the demonic powers that are clearly at work. But on the other hand, it would be exciting to see the angels that are working in the lives of believers. This very thing happened to the servant of Elisha, who was terrified by the armies that were closing in on him and the prophet. But Elisha prayed, “O Lord, open his eyes and let him see!” (2 Kings 6:17) And in a moment, this young man had the privilege of peeking behind the supernatural veil and getting a rare glimpse into the invisible world. The Bible says that when the Lord opened the servant’s eyes, “he saw that the hillside around Elisha was filled with horses and chariots of fire” (2 Kings 6:17) What he saw was the equivalent of an army. An angelic military force had surrounded Elisha and his servant. We see throughout the pages of Scripture that angels are alive, well, and working. And the Bible says they also will be working mightily in the last days. Angelic activity will reach a fever pitch in both the holy and the unholy realms. The angels of God will be active, and demons will be active as well. Then, one day, the archangel will call all true believers to Heaven. The Bible says, “For the Lord himself will come down from heaven with a commanding shout, with the voice of the archangel, and with the trumpet call of God. First, the believers who have died will rise from their graves. Then, together with them, we who are still alive and remain on the earth will be caught up in the clouds to meet the Lord in the air” (1 Thessalonians 4:16-17) Yes, there is coming a day when those who have put their faith in Jesus Christ will literally leave this earth in what we call the Rapture. Where will you be on that day?
I have the same problem and ive noticed changes in my behavior and life just by discipling, watching my behavior patterns, and deleting social media! im trying hard to get rid of my addictions cus I have glowed down cus of mental health issues and im trynna get back healthy mentally and physically 🥰🥰
Hi ruri! Been watching ur videos since 2019! I was just a high school student back then dreaming of becoming a successful dentist ! I studied so hard during high school ( preparing for my exams , studying at least 10 hours a day) and got into university, became a dental student , lost all the weight that i wanted to lose, was super happy but then i gained back the weight and started to get really anxious also couldn’t focus and study , right now I’m trying to go back to my healthy habits and just stumbled upon your videos unlocked all the memories from the past , thank you for being such a hard working person and still uploading to this day ❤️
Great video overall :) and truly helpful for everyone! Just wanted to add that Marshmallow test has been debunked at this point. They failed to replicate it. The updated research says it’s the socioeconomic status that greatly determines people’s ability to do “delayed gratification” and have greater success in life. I suppose that makes sense since with a great support system, and a trust in the stability of your life and future outcomes probably plays a big role in allowing you to exercise patience and self control.
I'm seeing these changes in your videos that make it better. From the little skits, to personal opinions, and those funny little segway one-liners I like it! Keep it up, Ruri!
An Invisible Army Then Elisha prayed, ‘O LORD, open his eyes and let him see!’ The LORD opened the young man’s eyes, and when he looked up, he saw that the hillside around Elisha was filled with horses and chariots of fire. -2 Kings 6:17 When we read about angels in the Bible, they were, on many occasions, the executors of God’s judgment. For example, on one occasion, angels brought God’s judgment, killing 185,000 people. Billy Graham described angels as God’s secret agents. That’s a good description of them, because they generally operate undercover, doing the bidding and work of God. One reason we’re not personally aware of angels in our lives is because they’re doing their job properly. They remain invisible most of the time, except on occasions when God sends them on a special mission and they clothe themselves in human form. But when they appear in all their splendor, they are no doubt very beautiful to behold. The Bible’s description of angels is certainly awe-inspiring, especially in the visions of both the apostle John (in Revelation) and Ezekiel. If we were able to roll away the veil that separates the physical world from the spiritual one, if we could get a behind-the-scenes look into the invisible world of angels and demons, it would overwhelm us. On one hand it would be frightening to see the demonic powers that are clearly at work. But on the other hand, it would be exciting to see the angels that are working in the lives of believers. This very thing happened to the servant of Elisha, who was terrified by the armies that were closing in on him and the prophet. But Elisha prayed, “O Lord, open his eyes and let him see!” (2 Kings 6:17) And in a moment, this young man had the privilege of peeking behind the supernatural veil and getting a rare glimpse into the invisible world. The Bible says that when the Lord opened the servant’s eyes, “he saw that the hillside around Elisha was filled with horses and chariots of fire” (2 Kings 6:17) What he saw was the equivalent of an army. An angelic military force had surrounded Elisha and his servant. We see throughout the pages of Scripture that angels are alive, well, and working. And the Bible says they also will be working mightily in the last days. Angelic activity will reach a fever pitch in both the holy and the unholy realms. The angels of God will be active, and demons will be active as well. Then, one day, the archangel will call all true believers to Heaven. The Bible says, “For the Lord himself will come down from heaven with a commanding shout, with the voice of the archangel, and with the trumpet call of God. First, the believers who have died will rise from their graves. Then, together with them, we who are still alive and remain on the earth will be caught up in the clouds to meet the Lord in the air” (1 Thessalonians 4:16-17) Yes, there is coming a day when those who have put their faith in Jesus Christ will literally leave this earth in what we call the Rapture. Where will you be on that day?
@@ecuadoramun8646 sadly you litterally have to brute force it... discipline is doing what you don't like but know that you should do. i'm struggling hard with that shit as i lacked discipline my whole life, but yeah... sadly there is no trick to discipline. at least not that i know of
I have none of these problems (thankfully) but these videos help me understand how I can support my wife and child who both struggle tremendously with adhd. Thanks a lot for your content! It's really hard for me to understand how certain things can be so difficult for them but I want to help them with it as best as I can. My problem is, that I always want to solve everything and its difficult for me to accept, that these things take time and aren't as easy for others as they are for me. But the way you explain your process (and progress) has helped me a bit.
I'm really thankful for people like her becouse even I'm young(14 ) I'm scared I will be a failure so I try everything I can to change that. Thank you❤
Thank you for sharing the video and introducing the concept of the "if-else" habit. It's quite motivating. I wanted to discuss a discovery I made regarding the survey you mentioned at the beginning. It appears there was a significant bias introduced by the researchers. They concluded that children who could delay gratification were more likely to succeed in adult life. However, it turns out that the children who chose to eat immediately often came from poorer families. In such environments, the choice is between eating now or possibly going hungry later. Consequently, the children who were able to wait were typically those from more secure and wealthy families. This observation isn't mine but comes from another individual who is a psychological scientist. It might be worth checking out.
As a programmer, the "if ... then ..." approach sounds like just what I needed. I will give it a try and see if it actually works out for me. Maybe I even write more complex algorithmical statements for my life, but keeping it simple is probably better.
We don't need to force, just follow our own energy/flow ^^. You doing great. Meditation help a lot, especially for us Ni dom, INTJ & neurodivergent. I think it's help a lot too to let go the bad traits of our enneagram. It solve many things with ourselves, we reconnect to our essence.
This video is such a great inspiration! It's as if I need to remind myself every day of these principles. I realize I have a long journey ahead of me. Building 'if-then' systems seems very efficient, and I'm excited to try these next. Another thing that helps me is following simple rules, like 'don't go shopping when you're hungry' and 'buy only the items on your list', or 'don't eat anything 4 hours before going to sleep.' Has anyone else found success with simple rules or 'if-then' systems in their daily routines? I'd love to hear what strategies work for others! Also Ruri, where did you get that cute icebear plush in 7:13?
Ruri, thanks for this. It's really hard for me to do stuff with focus recently, and I did similar things to what you shared here. Glad to know other people are on the same journey.
Basically instead of "consuming" / "input" when you're bored or unfulfilled, switch to "creating" or "output", you realize consuming is a waste of time bcs you will be bored again soon after. You u should start "creating" and after you do so you take breaks or rest and THATS the time to consume.
This is a huge coincidence, I just started doing what you mentioned of writing every action I take today, then I watched this video and you mentioned that too lol Definitely on the same wave length.
I'm going to level with y'all I am prone to laziness and procrastination as well as daydreaming and overthinking. Nonetheless though I have found your content helpful and insightful. And I want to say thank you and keep at it, you're doing good!
Activation in Prefrontal Cortex How to control ourselves? Self control depends on: • Hot System (Limbic System): *instantly reacts to environment* ; emotions and basic biological needs; *react to anything arousing stimuli* (functional from birth) • Cold System: Responsible for *self control* ; essential for making decisions and planning. (develops as one grows up) **Delayed Gratification** - a step back: a response that builds than breaks; decrease chance of losing to anger. A *learned behavior* → create _if-then systems_ (rules): if a certain thing happens, then you do a specific action! 1. *_Identify hot spots that trigger impulsive reactions, which you want to control._* ✓ Jotting down your actions that you shouldnt be doing. 2. *_Good habits become automatic_* (you don't need these rules anymore) 3. *_Identify when do you need to exercise more self-control_* (analyze that pattern and find a solution) Headspace (Meditation) - activates prefrontal cortex; recommended for people with ADHD; to understand impulses and become more aware of actions. Allow yourself to fail to learn from your mistakes and observe events happening around you. Be kind to yourself. ❤
I love meditation. I have told to others to meditate but I realize that there are some persons who don't like meditation or it doesn't work for them. What other strategies can be used to help others to be more aware about their feelings and their inner needs? I think that's what meditation is about when emotions are putting barriers inside of us, among other things.
I could not control my feelings like anxiety, nervousness, stress etc even for 3 days. But I gave it a try yesterday evening and today in the morning and it worked. Thanks 👍
I'm really grateful for your video and i saw that you're making a lot of improvement . I did found this video funnier than the other ones and i noticed that you're putting your lovely personnality forward more ! keep it up !
Been watching Ruri for a while and I felt very inspired to adjust some loose habits in my life. Thank you for all the efforts you put into your contents and video, it has helped me grow so much girl! 🥰
My dream is to meet Ruri and have at least 3 hours conversation. I feel like I would gladly listen to every theory she expresses endlessly. As an ENFP, there’s nothing more as intriguing as listening to INTJ’s thoughts that they reformed in their mind. ✨🖤
I love your videos and really appreciate that you share and explain this subbjects from your experience, thank you in advance Ruri, I am currently dealing with general anxiety and depresion, plus ADHD it suck s a lot but I find motivation in your story and also I want my life back, so I am trying again to stand up and put a fight, also I wanna look for mental help. I hope your success will continue and again thank you or your content
Today, august 7, 2024 is the first day I found your channel. Excellent info and wonderful that you chose to share your stories. I am very impressed. Happy very belated birthday
Happy birthday Ruri, I love you so much, wishing you a day filled with love, laughter, and all the happiness in the world. Your videos bring so much joy to our lives, and today, we celebrate you, keep shining bright...🥰🥳💘🎂
My self control is as perfect as it can be but this ruins my life, because it makes me waste all my opportunities. I'm not spontaneous at all, I don't take any risk which means I can't win or earn anything unless I'm the only person involved. Self control or playing it safe ruins your whole life. For example, I've never approached a woman in my life, I never dated, I never even had a conversation with a woman longer than a few seconds, I never had friends and I suck at job interviews so much that noone ever hired me no matter how qualified I was. People with ADHD are social butterflies. How hard could it be to be a social butterfly as opposed to an introvert with no social skills who is often mistaken for a mute/deaf person?
You're excited to tell this fact about ADHD because the more you know about how this brain of ours works, the more you understand yourself. Metacognition is very necessary (for all people but specially) for people whose brain is not connected on a regular basis, it could lead us towards being able to do things our way... I love your content!!
ruri, im inspired after watching ur videoes. ive followed u for a long time and i do know the benefits of working out. but i can not stick with woking out, or i should say, stick with one thing that im interested for a long time. i want to change, i wanna keep working out like u told me, but i cant. idk how to and why😭
I have problem with impulsivity especially impulsive buying when I get money. Well this video hopefully can help me with that. Thank you for making this beneficial video. Keep up the good work as always
Ruri ❤ please be kind to yourself. If I could, I would treat you like the princess you really are. Unfortunately, I can't. The most I can do is pray for you from afar. You're so helpful! Thank you so much for your informative, intellectual, and interesting video. I learned a lot from you and I'm grateful for that. Anyway, as I partake in my journey to better my life and work on myself. I will think of you as an inspiration to not be afraid to do hard things even if there isn't any gratification. The lesson learned is to be kind to yourself❤ Thank you again Ruri. Much love.
I'm the opposite. As a kid, I was good at delayed gratification. As an adult, I've had a medical condition that is difficult to control and for many years was extremely painful and disabling. So I sought out anything that could swiftly and briefly give me something pleasant. Now I have to relearn moderation.
Legit did this by accident as a child and have repeatedly forced myself back into this mindset without really thinking about the fact that I'm forcing it to crave difficult things. I lose control sometimes but most the time - I feel like a worthless piece of ____ if I don't create tangible things that are cool or increase my skills. That feeling is very motivating. I run away from negative feelings so hard
@ruriohama I hope you guys one day will reach my level of control. Probably I should write a book how to achieve full control over the mind/brain, but I'm not sure how I achieved it, not even certain people would believe me. I could be stressed, depressed, sad, angry, what ever, I can in one instant completely remove them from my mind by going in a different mind set. When I have a headache (it's harder), I'm starving, I really want something, I have to pee, I feel physical pain (it's harder), I have an itch, I can suppress them. I did meditation in my 13-14, I stopped because it was way too boring, now I'm 30.
I used to be much worse with procrastinating so I'm content to prioritize my family, health and work. That Lego set that's been in my closet for 7 months can wait.
I LOVE your content. I also wanted to add that things like addiction change the structure of the brain... the port of the brain responsible for impulse control and self actuation SHRINKS and the part of the brain responsible for habit learning and impulses GETS LARGER, which means it will be harder and harder to change or self motivate correcting negative behaviors. This can lead to depression, shame and learned helplessness, further changing the brain by triggering "fight or flight" which TURNS OFF the prefrontal cortex, and turning on the Amygdala... so the ability to think or be creative in your approach to fixing things gets harder, because the Amygdala is tasked with just REACTING. I can't understate this tho: your brain is amazing plasticity and will HEAL over time if you can figure a way to shift your paradigm and have a "moment of clarify". Changing things up and seeung new areas, spending time in nature and even just a bit of mild exercise and mediation can REALLY help but also eating foods like legumes or leafy greens can help repair the brain. ❤
I really love your channel Ruri. Maybe I’m biased bc I’m an introvert as well 😅 but your manner of explaining things is simple and refreshing … and (if you know, what I mean) *never feels You Tubey* lol Thank you so much, looking forward to continue learning and building a solid foundation for myself.
I think of challenges as "fun" things to do. I been throught tough times in my life and doing hard things is a "fun" way to challenge the mind and body.
My advice would be to limit the most your gratification time so that it feels more rewarding, I feel like i take thing less for granted and enjoy them more later on
This was a really insightful video. I just loved the way, Ruri told us that we all don't lack motivation, but we follow our hot systems frequently! Some notes from this video- 1. There are two parts of our mind called hot and cool systems. People like us have more influence of hot systems on us i.e those who need instant gratification. 2. So in order to activate our cool system or prefortal cortex, we need to practice the if-then system i.e if I have to drink coffee then I have to walk a mile. Another way that i found this system to work as is If I do this thing then I will get this OR if I dont do these then I wont get this. Simple! And replace your coping mechanism with something good. This is the whole theory that we need to understand and dont be harsh on yourself and you have much WILL and MOTIVATION but this is what the issue was! and I hope we all solve it sooooonn THANKS RU
Thank you . Your advice will help me a lot and I'm sure it will help others. great video. I also want you to know that I am 10 years old and I hope to become an amazing content creator like you in the future🥰😍
